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Let’s Get Real
Jan 17 • 36 min
How do you wind down a friendship? If your friends get divorced, must you choose between them? As a new mom, how can I tell my friends who don’t have kids that I can’t relate to them now? This week, we heard from a few folks who are interested in breaking…
The Soft Block
Jan 10 • 28 min
Should I de-friend my ex on Facebook? How do I handle an intense Twitter crush? We attempt to answer these questions before debuting our new podcast, The Jeff Probst Fan Show! Content warnings for lots of sex talk. Important links mentioned in this…
God Bless Nancy
Jan 3 • 36 min
What are you supposed to do when someone you barely know surprises you with a gift? What if the gift is a terrible painting? No, wait: what if it’s a terrible painting that they made themselves? This one’s about what to do when you don’t know what to do.…
That’s Gonna Be No From Us
Dec 27, 2018 • 32 min
So, how was your holiday? Awesome? Terrible? Let’s listen to someone else’s problems for awhile. Our first question reads, “I came between a friend’s marriage. Therapy was had, I sincerely apologized, we moved on. It’s been two years. Can I reach out and…
Yikes-A-Roni
Dec 20, 2018 • 29 min
Befriending your colleagues can be tricky. Especially if your colleagues happen to find your Twitter account. This episode is about Personal Twitter, Work Twitter, and when maybe you should just lock your account and throw your computer into the eye of a…
A Hot Meal and A Warm Bath
Dec 13, 2018 • 33 min
Jenn has a cold, Trin wants a haircut, and we both have advice for a new listener who is lonely and has frankly been through some tough shit. This episode is about making new friends after a bad break up, filling your empty hours, making your apartment…
Where’s My Pwesent?
Dec 6, 2018 • 40 min
We’re back! We’re back! Did you miss us? Did you miss the crap out of us? Here’s an episode about exchanging gifts with friends and co-workers. One listener wants to know what the frick to do now that her close friend gave her a bottle of wine for her…
AMA - Ask Muss Anything
Nov 15, 2018 • 32 min
All about us! Us! You asked and we answered. Who’s more inspiring, Odo or Nog? What’s the worst advice we’ve ever given? And what about gymnastics?
We’ll Complain For You
Nov 8, 2018 • 35 min
“My boyfriend is close friends with a sexist ass. I’m trying to be civil. How do I proceed here?” Well we have some ideas! We would not call our ideas particularly civil. In this week’s episode, allow us to get mad on your behalf.
Let’s Get Mystical About This Shiz
Oct 25, 2018 • 34 min
Our first question asks, “I made a close friend online months ago. But my partner has no idea. It’s been going on for months. How can I clue my partner in without feeling guilty for hiding it from him?” This episode is a bumpy thrill ride and we’ve almost…
Gender is Weird in Los Angeles
Oct 18, 2018 • 47 min
In this very special episode, we consider how you can best support your non-binary friends. Discussion of pronouns, gender spectrums, and why we let boys run into the street but not girls for some reason. A million thanks to Ian and Maya for guesting!
Drop a Smoke Bomb and Run
Oct 11, 2018 • 31 min
This week’s theme is all about confrontation! Bringing up the thing that’s bothering you! Our starting question: “My best friend has been in a long-distance relationship and it’s making him SO UNHAPPY. I think they need to break up. Should I say as much?”…
You have Great Hair, Your Personality Sucks, I Love Your Shoes
Oct 4, 2018 • 43 min
It’s time for a group activity. The first asker is going on a road trip with old friends and we’re fully clenched on her behalf. The second asker’s roommate is now dating the annoying dude in her jam band, and it’s just the worst. CLARINET!
Friends Push Each Other on Swing Sets
Sep 28, 2018 • 28 min
A concerned listener asks, “My partner is smoking a lot. More than she has before. How do I approach this with her?” In response, Jenn and Trin put their heads together and deduce that weed is funny. Surprise appearance by Dave Matthews! Please note…
Satan is Coming to Get Ya
Sep 20, 2018 • 44 min
This episode is all about BOUNDARIES! How do you quietly back out of a friendship with someone who is asking time you don’t have? How do I manage friendship with a somewhat famous person I admire? As a woman, how do you handle having a best friend who’s a…
XOXO 2018
Sep 13, 2018 • 42 min
Live from XOXO Portland! Failed jokes, crowd work, pesky microphone habits—this episode has everything you never asked for. We also managed to give some advice on awkward small talk, making friends at conferences, and finding collaborators on your…
Meatballs All The Way Down
Aug 30, 2018 • 25 min
Did you know that your friend recites sonnets in their sleep? Or that they take 28 minutes to make a bowel movement? Or that they get hangry when you failed to give them the bananas they require? This is the kind of stuff you’ll learn when you take a trip…
The Return of Toby Diaperman
Aug 23, 2018 • 34 min
How do I get my friend to stop selling me stuff? What are the best ways to support my pal’s comic book shop? Can I spar with my co-worker over Girl Scout cookies? Please note that in spite complaining in this episode, Jenn loves her old Girl Scout Troop…
Come Collect Your Sad Friend
Aug 16, 2018 • 38 min
What’s the etiquette for a locked Twitter account? What do I do if my co-worker won’t stop requesting to follow me on my private Instagram? Should I do something to intervene when my friend Tweets really sad stuff? In this episode, we dive into the murky…
Show Me The Beast
Aug 9, 2018 • 31 min
When is it time to cut the cord and move on from old friends? And when is time to tie the knot and hang on? These are huge questions that we don’t know the answer to! But we do know that your friends need you, and you need your friends. Content warning…
Oof My Knees
Jul 26, 2018 • 37 min
Am I overstepping my bounds if I comment about my friend’s health? This episode is all about listening to your doctor, gym etiquette, and sexy hot personal trainers. Content warning for discussions of exercise, obesity, and body image.
Hail Corporate
Jul 19, 2018 • 44 min
We are Friendshipping and we’re here to say Jeff Bezos sucks in a major way. That being said, let’s discuss how to be cool to your friends when they aren’t participating in the same protest or boycotts as you are. This episode is about the balance of…
Live and Nervous at the Moxy Hotel
Jul 12, 2018 • 42 min
It’s Trin’s birthday and it’s Friendshipping Live! Raw! Uncut! Sweaty! Listen as we down cocktails and discuss gift-giving etiquette, group plans, and how to change up your social life when you feel like you’re a boring person. Hint: you are not boring.…
Concert Etiquette
Jul 5, 2018 • 39 min
Our askers have questions about going to concerts! One wants to ignore their friends at concerts, and one has a Cool and Famous Friend and doesn’t know how to be chill about it. We’re deeply sorry to Beatles fans for the entire first two minutes of this…
Being an Open Window
Jun 28, 2018 • 47 min
In this episode, we do our best to answer: Uh, is this [interaction/feeling/action] weird? As two weirdos ourselves, allow us to tell you: YOU BET YOUR ASS IT IS! Also keep listening for the third question, which is one of the most challenging inquiries…
Punch You in the Mouth with Facts
Jun 22, 2018 • 49 min
Sometimes we receive questions that are just beyond our ability to answer. That’s why this week, our esteemed friends Billie and Kat of the UnLearned Podcast are here to assist with questions about friendship and race. How do I support my PoC friends?…
Vegan Dreams
Jun 14, 2018 • 37 min
An asker wants to know how to better support their spouse who has decided to be become … oh my good gracious … a vegan. Here’s some tough love from Jenn and Trin, with a side of PLANTS! Yum.
Be Your Own Daddy
Jun 7, 2018 • 39 min
What’s a good way to show your friends you’re proud of them? Well that’s a real sweet question and we’ve got some ideas! We’ve also got a wild story about a fake girlfriend that is so good it needs its own Netflix special.
Please Respect My Bedtime
May 31, 2018 • 39 min
Maintaining friendships once you reach your mid-30s has a few special challenges. Starting with: “My friend doesn’t. leave. She insists on extending our hangouts for hours and hours. She’s even just spent the night.” HAHA WHOA. Let’s do this. Content…
Tales of Coniferous Vegetables
May 24, 2018 • 52 min
Your friend has taken a new lover, and now you’re certain you are being replaced. Youch, that hurts. Have a listen to this episode as we apply some soothing aloe to that sting!
Skiing and Surfing
May 17, 2018 • 32 min
We’re All Dumb Here
May 3, 2018 • 33 min
This week we tackle one of the best questions we’ve ever received: How can I get my friend to stop being so physical and touchy with me? Come for the advice, stay for the surprise fruit delivered to your office! This episode is not sponsored by Edible…
Could You Show Up And Not Yell?
Apr 26, 2018 • 49 min
When is it appropriate to dance my face off? Can I sneak alcohol into a dry reception? It’s a wedding episode! Listen as we make a wild attempt to discuss wedding etiquette as a guest, a plus-one, member of the wedding party, AND even part of the couple!…
I Will Piss On Your Sidewalk
Apr 19, 2018 • 44 min
“I want to reconnect with a friend. She’s blocked me on Facebook and we haven’t talked in years. Where do I begin?” Stop right now, thank you very much. You don’t need someone with a human touch. You need Trin and Jenn to come in and yell at the lizard in…
Jogging While Wearing Jeans
Apr 12, 2018 • 37 min
“I want to be friends with more men, how can I make that happen?” is our first question. And our second: “My friend is trying to hook me up with a bit of a dud. Do I suck it up and go out?” You can prrrrrobably guess our answer to this but you should…
It Doesn’t Matter What Word It Is
Apr 5, 2018 • 39 min
Your buds don’t get a pass to call you whatever words they want. A friend called our first asker a B Word (not Butthole), and then alleged that she is “sensitive” for being hurt by it. As you might have guessed, we take issue with this behavior. Then, we…
When In Doubt, Shut Up
Mar 22, 2018 • 40 min
This week it’s all about physical appearances and how that can impact a friendship! Topics include: My friend won’t do anything (camping, go to outdoor concerts) where she can’t be in full make-up My friend Photoshops images of herself online and it…
Damnit Meryl Streep
Mar 15, 2018 • 38 min
Listeners sent in some great questions this week that really moved us. “I fucked up ten years ago. I was a teenager. Can I make amends?” and “My friend said something crappy to me a few months ago. It’s still bothering me. Should I bring it up now?” In…
Putting the “Significant” in “Significant Other”
Mar 8, 2018 • 35 min
This week’s theme is: badness. Bad feelings, bad behavior, the whole deal. Our first question is “I’ve been unfriended by two people in my life. I’ve never done them wrong. What’s the deal here?” followed by “My boyfriend is dismissive when I tell him my…
In It For The Women
Mar 1, 2018 • 42 min
If you’ve ever felt jealous of someone else’s creative success, this episode will give you an entire THIRTY SECONDS of relief and happiness before you just feel jealous again. Also we start a bloody rivalry with Do By Friday.
Just Full of Whimsy
Feb 22, 2018 • 32 min
Hey, Jenn here. I just got off the horn with legal and they advised us against posting this one, but guess what? We’re bad to the bone. So enjoy this episode where we answer the most important question of all time: “Should I tell my therapist I smoke…
Feats of Strength
Feb 15, 2018 • 32 min
To celebrate three years of making this show, your humble narrators discuss their favorite topic: themselves. Trin shares what made her laugh today. Jenn reflects on the glory days. And if you glean any wisdom from this episode, it’s purely by accident.
Don’t You Wish You Were A Whale?
Feb 8, 2018 • 39 min
A listener asks, “My friend REALLY unloads on me. The heavy stuff. I’m worried about her! How can I help?” We’ve got a few ideas! Are they good ideas? Who’s to say. At least this episode is funny. Also, Trin’s got a new therapist. Content warning for…
Speaking up or Shutting up When Shit’s Awkward
Feb 1, 2018 • 39 min
Holy HECK, we cover miles of territory in this episode. It’s all about speaking up — or deciding not to. Listeners ask: My boss wants to be my friend. How do I put distance here? My future mother-in-law insists that I call her “mom” and I am not cool with…
You Don’t Have To Be Nice
Jan 25, 2018 • 38 min
In this episode, we discuss how it’s possible for you to be both 1) kind and 2) impolite! BELIEVE IT. We also offer some suggestions for dealing with a co-worker who is disruptive in your work space. Oh, and… we formally break up with Trin’s therapist.…
Give Me More Than Emojis
Jan 19, 2018 • 45 min
“I’m a touchy kind of person but my friends aren’t. How do I approach this without making anyone uncomfortable?” and “I’m in a group text with 14 people I barely know. It’s all baby pictures. How do I get out of this politely?” Thank god for Jenn’s…
Golden Retrievers and How Many Snakes is Too Many Snakes
Jan 11, 2018 • 46 min
It’s 2018 and we’re backstreets back, ALRIGHT! Miss us? In this episode we tackle “My co-worker is just too OUTRAGEOUSLY FRIENDLY for me” and “When I vent to my friend, she gives me advice and tries to fix everything, even when I specifically ask her not…
Maybe You’re in The Wrong Greenhouse
Dec 21, 2017 • 32 min
A “cactus friend” is a pal who doesn’t need a lot of watering or sunlight to feel loved. Did you know that term? Now you do. We think our friend Kate made it up. In this episode, we kinda-sorta lovingly lecture one of our listeners for maaaybe being too…
It’s Getting Crowded in Here
Dec 14, 2017 • 45 min
Is it possible to have TOO many friends? WE KNOW this sounds like a humblebrag. We swear it is not. Here’s an episode about feeling socially overwhelmed, spreading yourself too thin, and caring for your inner introvert when you would rather throw your…
A Mistake Did Become Made By You
Dec 8, 2017 • 34 min
“I texted about my friend … TO THAT FRIEND!” and “My two friend groups are fighting. I’m stuck in the middle. Now what?” This episode is all about handling conflict and then moving past it. Also, if you thought the last episode was wackadoodle, hang on…
It’s Time We Discuss Marriage
Nov 30, 2017 • 41 min
Is it okay to not allow booze at my wedding? How do I navigate my sister-in-law’s nasty divorce? Check out this episode about weddings, marriage, divorce, and toxic family members! This is absolutely the weirdest we have ever been. You know when you’re…
Merry Chrimbus
Nov 23, 2017 • 34 min
The holiday season is upon us and we’ve all got a bad case of the Travel Butt. This week, we’re giving advice about all of our favorite holiday traditions, like decking halls, giving gifts, and running into people who hated you in high school. Trin…
Bitch I Own Two Swords
Nov 16, 2017 • 31 min
How do I learn to friend again after being betrayed? How can I help my distressed friend who lives far away? Today’s episode is about bad feelings, and naming the mean voice in your head after your least favorite character on the 1990s hit television…
Touched By An Angel
Nov 9, 2017 • 34 min
This week, we’ve got two questions about feeling SHUT OUT. If a friend (or a group of friends!) is making you feel like you don’t belong, this is the episode for you. Relax your rectums and enjoy this feel-good episode where we discuss Die Hard and share…
A Little Bit Country, A Little Bit Rock and Roll
Nov 2, 2017 • 38 min
“Should I tell my friend to quit smoking?” and “My friend plays video games all. damn. day.” This episode is all about that E word: ENABLING—what to do think you may be enabling your friend’s habits, for better or for worse! Oh, also, be sure to commit…
Stop Right Now Thank You Very Much
Oct 27, 2017 • 31 min
Our first asker wonders how to get closer to a friend who doesn’t want to be alone with them. Another asker seeks advice on confronting a friend repeatedly for a mistake. And finally, in our grand finale, a listener wants to know how to handle group…
Are You Kitchen Pals or Are You Kitchen Friends?
Oct 19, 2017 • 38 min
If you see something, say something! Maybe! In this episode we discuss if and when you should tell a friend who is feeling low that you think they oughta go back to therapy. And what about crushes? Do you have to tell a friend if you are having feelings,…
Don’t Forget Your Bravery Juice
Oct 12, 2017 • 30 min
Partying, partying, YEAH! This week, we got a question from a listener who says they’re just bad at attending parties. Luckily we’ve got a whole slew of tips for surviving a crowded social gathering where you don’t know anyone. Discussion includes how to…
IRONFORGE, Long Has it Been
Oct 5, 2017 • 32 min
We’re Jenn and Trin and we’re here to say: you do not have to be nice and giving tuh-day. You don’t have to do crappy favors for friends all the time. And you don’t have to forgive people who wrong ya. In this episode, we answer: “I don’t want to write a…
Romantically Interested In Your Gums
Sep 28, 2017 • 30 min
Friends, we’ve uncovered something very interesting: dentists love Trin. DENTISTS LOVE TRIN. If you don’t want to hear about teeth and how much fun Trin has at her dental cleaning appointments, skip ahead to 7:15 because our two actual topics this week…
You Don’t Have to Hang Out With Tom Felton
Sep 21, 2017 • 30 min
Hey everyone, Jenn and Trin here, just a coupla podcast bad boys giving advice that’s so dangerous and naughty you can’t bring it home to mommy. We start off by offering survival tips for attending a bachelor party when you are broke. It involves our…
This is Your Brain on Drugs, This is Your Brain on Horny
Sep 14, 2017 • 33 min
You’ll need SPF 150 for this red-hot episode. Our first asker wants to know what to do when you’ve got a “good friend” who is sexist. As you can imagine, we did not hold back! We got mad! We’re still mad! Then we uncovered some new sexy territory with how…
You Can’t Get Into This Bathtub With Me
Sep 7, 2017 • 43 min
You’ve got 99 problems and your friend asking to come over to your house everyday is all of them. In this episode, we discuss the polite-but-firm way to say “no thanks, I don’t want company tonight.” To practice, Jenn attempts to turn down Trin’s…
The Roommate Drama Special: Do You Know Where Your Mops Are?
Aug 31, 2017 • 31 min
Lil pop quiz for all you roommates out there. When was the last time you swept the kitchen floor? How about cleaned the toilet? Do you even know HOW to clean the toilet? BAM, you’re on notice. In this episode we discuss living dynamics, roommate drama,…
So You Didn’t Get Your Plant
Aug 25, 2017 • 41 min
“I helped my friend get a great job. Now, they’re not doing well at this job and I am pissed about it.” Whoa! Okay. This episode is about helping your friends, but also butting out. Helping them…to a certain extent. You know there’s only so much you can…
Sucky Eel Friends and Midwestern Dads
Aug 18, 2017 • 42 min
“I feel like I’m a doormat. How can I stick up for myself to my friends?” Take it from Book 1 Neville Longbottom, this isn’t easy to do. This week, we discuss voicing your needs and boundaries. And if your friends continually ignore those boundaries, it…
Use Your Freaking Words
Aug 10, 2017 • 26 min
“How do I make my friends feel heard? What are some empathic words I can use?” Hey, talking clearly and directly about your feelings is difficult. Asking your friends about THEIR feelings is difficult, too! In this episode we discuss how language, while…
If I Delete That, Will They Notice?
Aug 3, 2017 • 31 min
“I was shamed on Facebook for de-friending someone!” and “My friend leaves WAY too many comments on my posts.” This week, we tackle these excellent questions about doing friendship on the world wide web, the final frontier. And uh, not to sound too…
Save the Day, Save the World (the Wonder Woman episode)
Jul 27, 2017 • 43 min
Our gushing review of the new Wonder Woman movie and the friendships it celebrates. Steve Trevor and consent, Etta Candy and female friendship, Ben Affleck barely appearing — this movie rocked our ass. Diana will fight for those who cannot fight for…
Doing the Most Good and the Least Bad
Jul 20, 2017 • 32 min
We here at Friendshipping, LLC accept all political views, unless your political view is shitty. This episode is about choosing to accept your friends in an imperfect capitalist society. Starting with: “So my friend eats at Chick-Fil-A…” CW: discussion of…
Know Your Angles
Jul 6, 2017 • 27 min
Find out how Trin supports the long distance friends she never sees and when Jenn realized she was becoming a capital-a Adult. In this light-hearted ding dong of an episode, we interview each other about our personalities, relationships, the smell of…
Highway to the Friend Zone
Jun 29, 2017 • 26 min
We got a great question from a student at university (that means college) about taking your friendships to the NEXT LEVEL. Maybe you’ve got a dozen acquaintances (all over campus, at your work place, whatever) but you’re looking for something more more…
Get Some Plants and Play The Sims
Jun 22, 2017 • 35 min
Are you constantly worrying about your friend’s bad life decisions? Always helping your pals move apartments? Giving rides to the airport? Organizing their schedule? Providing wisdom and advice? If you said YES to one or more of these questions, UH OH!…
I’m Problematic and So Are You
Jun 15, 2017 • 31 min
So I made a sexist crack, and I feel bad about it. Now what? Can I apologize? Even though it happened months ago? How do I move forward? Am I bad? Am I okay? Am I doomed? Can I see Wonder Woman again? Is Chris Pine moving up on the top Hot Chris list?…
Why Are You Crying In This Restaurant?
Jun 8, 2017 • 30 min
One time Connor Oberst emailed Trin at 2:00 AM and you have to listen to find out why. Or you can listen for the actual advice, which is about handling awkward, I-don’t-want-to-talk-about-this conversations with friends. Like when your pal wants to…
When You Have Irreconcilable Differences and Five Extra Bones
Jun 1, 2017 • 38 min
How to handle a messy friend break-up and keep your cool when you suspect someone is talkin’ shit. This episode is all about zooming down the high road and being the bigger person. Even bigger than James Comey! Content warning for banter involving babies,…
So Many Apples Tall
May 25, 2017 • 34 min
Listeners ask,”How do I introduce the person I’m dating to my friend group?” and “Is it going to be weird to bring my friend to a family wedding?” This episode is all about dating, friends, feeling weird, and wedding etiquette! We also try to wrap our…
The Friendship Awakens
May 18, 2017 • 32 min
Friendship is the foundation of Star Wars, so we allowed ourselves an episode to get into the significance of Rey’s first desert scene, Finn and his handholding, Han Solo being A Good Older Dude, why BB8 is definitely a Slytherin, and finally… the…
Take Your Friends to a Loud Eater’s Club
May 11, 2017 • 33 min
How much advice can we pack into one episode? LET’S FIND OUT! We tackle a whole slew of questions that are big and small, important and silly. “How do I take a compliment?” and “My friend is lying about having PTSD!” and “Can I get my friend to stop…
Ask Me About My Pocket Nuts
May 4, 2017 • 41 min
Listeners ask: “I want to have a birthday party with booze. Can I invite my friend who doesn’t drink?” and “I’m a new baby vegan. What’s the protocol with friend groups? Do I bring my own food to potlucks?” Jenn sort of daydreams about vegetables for…
Meet our twins, Dave and Gary
Apr 27, 2017 • 38 min
This week we got an awesome and tough question that really tested us: “My friend’s kid is turning into a jerk. Do I speak up?” We have some thoughts on how to handle little Dave and little Gary, but if you decided to rocket to the moon instead of…
All About That Dip, Baby
Apr 20, 2017 • 30 min
This week we tackle the worldwide phenomena known as “sports” and discover that sports are basically D&D in disguise. Our first question is: “I don’t care about sports but my friends really do. Do I need to make myself care to hang out with them?” And…
Bean Mush
Apr 13, 2017 • 36 min
You’ve probably got a friend in need. A friend who is struggling. You do! In this episode we offer some small, everyday things you can do to help — things that don’t cost a ton of time, energy, or money. So have a listen, help your sad pal, and STAY AWAY…
Joe Biden’s Face (and a special live episode!)
Apr 6, 2017 • 40 min
Jenn’s had the flu all week, so while she’s been chugging Pedialyte and disinfecting her doorknobs, Trin was kind enough to edit our live episode from Very Very Fun Day. For this one we held a workshop: How Not To Be A Jerk About Politics. This is…
You Might Be An Asshole (but you’re not doomed)
Mar 30, 2017 • 50 min
Pobody’s nerfect! We share some of our significant fuck ups, the moments when we were the assholes in a friendship. Let’s improve together! We have faith that even the most egregious assholes, like the anonymous Twitter eggs with naked anime avatars, can…
Dust That Can Know Itself
Mar 23, 2017 • 51 min
Hey! This is the most intense, honest episode we’ve ever done! We interviewed each other and got into our struggles with self-worth, insecurities, some memories from childhood, and going to therapy. There’s laughter, there’s darkness, there’s a bit of…
Manic Pixie Dream Cheetos
Mar 16, 2017 • 29 min
“My friend is a serial dater and he thinks he is in love with every woman he goes on a date with.” How do you tell him he’s probably not? DO YOU EVEN? We’re back after a brief hiatus to bring you some sexy advice. Also, Jenn missed Trin so much that she…
Work Work Work Work Work Work
Feb 23, 2017 • 24 min
Business business BUSINESS! Step right up for business! This episode is about working and hiring your friends. We start with the question, “I asked a friend to design a logo for me. It’s terrible. What do I do now?” We’ll help you out with this, but only…
You’re Doing The Right Thing With Your Face
Feb 16, 2017 • 36 min
Do you have a friend who makes you feel forgotten? On the regular? Whaaaat if you have a friend who nitpicks things about you, like your appearance? Well we sure hope that’s not the case! But if it IS! Listen to this! We clawed our way through many…
Butthole Tendencies
Feb 9, 2017 • 41 min
If you thought LAST week was a rollercoaster, well, get ready for this one. We answer the question: “I’m part of a marginalized community. I’ve had people attempt to compliment me in a manner that is either inappropriate or downright offensive to my…
Baby’s First Outrage
Feb 2, 2017 • 31 min
An episode about being new to the fight! We answer, “How can I stay woke enough for my friends?” and “My friend can’t turn off the politics and it’s bringing me down, what now?” How to turn your discomfort into action, handle enragement fatigue, manage…
Not to Pry, But
Jan 26, 2017 • 27 min
You want to know what the hell is going on in your friend’s life, BUT you definitely don’t want to pry or make them uncomfortable. What do? Also, Jenn still has a head cold and Trin still has a screaming robot.
Silly Garbage People
Jan 19, 2017 • 38 min
Give us your hand, and let us go on a journey…a long journey….into YOURSELF! Sorry, that was weird. Basically this episode is all about introspection and meta-thinking and examining your own behavior. We answer three (three!) questions this time, starting…
The Width, Depth, Length, and the Girth of a Friendship
Jan 12, 2017 • 26 min
ALRIGHT, we went for it. This episode is about coping with the end of a friendship. You may not want to close the door, but it could just be friggin’ time. This is all about what to do, what the heck not to do, how to write therapeutic letters, how to…
Silver Medals and Hulk Hogan
Jan 5, 2017 • 29 min
Have you ever felt like a runner-up in a friendship? Second best? Not good enough for your own pal? We discuss “ranking systems” in relationships. Trin invents a name and rich backstory for one of our askers. Hang in there, Clarisse.
Howdy, Partners
Dec 30, 2016 • 27 min
It’s the taint of the year and we’re back with advice! This one’s all about friendship as it relates to romantic partners. “My girlfriend is better to her friends than they are to her!” and “I’ve been seeing this guy for a few months. We’re in dating…
Engage Hobbit Mode
Dec 22, 2016 • 23 min
This week we get into doing friendship while you’re depressed. Should you muscle through and hang out with friends, or go into Hobbit Mode? We suggest BOTH! Also, Jenn has a head cold that is just bad. So bad! It’s okay to laugh at her pain.
Trolls and Email Etiquette
Dec 15, 2016 • 27 min
Not to be all braggy, but this might be our best episode. Ever? Yep. It’s full of sound advice for handling friends who show thoughtless Internet behavior on Twitter and email. And a surprise twist: Trin can do a celebrity impression that she’s just been…
Ghost Stories and a Communication Breakdown
Dec 8, 2016 • 25 min
Ghosting is when a friend just, POOF, disappears! And neglects your friendship. Without explanation! It’s EXTREMELY COMMON and it extremely sucks. So what do you do then? Call? Write another email? Send a muffin basket and demand an explanation? Here’s an…
One Out of Ten Weird
Dec 1, 2016 • 25 min
How do I connect with my older sister? Should I try to hang out with my cool cousin even though our families aren’t close? A timely episode for the holidays—this one’s all about doing friendship (or not) with family members. Also, Trin drops some…
At Least Oprah’s Getting Married! Also, pal-atics
Nov 17, 2016 • 19 min
The election’s done and we’re all coping with bad, dark feelings. Here’s our attempt to provide you with some coping mechanisms so you get help yourself first and then get your ass out of bed to get to work to help your community. If nothing else, this…
You Huge Nerd
Nov 10, 2016 • 29 min
You’re a nerd. Your friends are nerds. But are you good at being a nerd, or do you need a brush up? This week, we discuss making your friends watch Stranger Things, and being nice to jocks. We also get slowly drunk throughout the episode because the Cubs…
Different Stokes for Different Frolks
Nov 4, 2016 • 23 min
The blinding relief of finishing our Kickstarter campaign must’ve been hitting us hard, because this episode is JAM PACKED with goofs, chortles, and belittling Ringo Starr. We did manage to give out some practical advice, including “how to befriend…
Red Flags, Negging, and James Eat World
Oct 25, 2016 • 26 min
This week a listener asks, “I’m distancing myself from a toxic friend. What are some red flags I should look out for in the future?” We list some common iffy behaviors and define negging, which was oddly cathartic. Sillies abound.
My Taco Juice is In Your Hand
Oct 20, 2016 • 50 min
This episode was recorded live with an adorable audience at NerdCon! Jenn may have been hungover but that didn’t stop us from dropping knowledge all over Minneapolis. Questions included, “How do I talk to my friends about my illness?” and, “I have a…
Cut My Life into Pieces, This is My Book Report
Oct 12, 2016 • 22 min
Look, we talk about emotions and empathy and social cues a lot on this here podcast. It’s kind of our thing! But we’re overdue in addressing that some people? Some people are emotionless Vulcans and that’s just fine, too. We also address the question, “my…
A Personal Bubble of Your Very Own
Oct 6, 2016 • 25 min
A listener sent in a really important personal question this week: How do I deal with a friend who is too physically touchy-feely for me?
Kickstarter Joy and Winter Squash
Sep 29, 2016 • 13 min
A very loopy episode as we celebrate our Kickstarter project, and then dive into this strange concept known as: feeling joy. Discussion topics include: the time Trin met Will Ferrell while he was wearing sweatpants; what Jenn says to her dog every…
But My Stories Are On
Sep 22, 2016 • 24 min
Uncle Joseph Biden sent us a fax in the middle of the night begging us to do an episode about the election. We never turn down urgent requests from Washington so here we go: “How do you debate politics with friends?” and, gulp, “My friend supports Trump.…
Life Rafts and Water Noodles
Sep 14, 2016 • 21 min
A discussion of when your support network of friends kind of, um, won’t stop trying to support you even if you don’t really want their support. We start with the question, “I’m a very private person. How can I tell my friends that I don’t want to talk…
Making Friends (or not) in Geek Spaces
Sep 8, 2016 • 56 min
A very special episode that isn’t an episode at all, actually. Got ya. This is our live audio recording from our Making Friends in Geek Spaces panel. We also gave an exciting announcement…and that announcement is a Kickstarter project. We’re doing a…
Broshipping
Sep 1, 2016 • 33 min
Bill and Steven guest host while Jenn and Trin are out on assignment. They’re men! What? Crazy. It turns out being men in friendships isn’t all that different than being any other gender!
Don’t Tweet the Thing
Aug 25, 2016 • 22 min
Say you’re throwing a party but you maaaaybe don’t want to invite every single person you know. Hey, that’s fair. Just don’t brag about it all over Facebook. This week we discuss party invitation etiquette, especially as it relates to social media.
The Ding-Ding Broke
Aug 18, 2016 • 30 min
“My friend got an awful, obscene tattoo” and other bad decisions your friends make. Also, Jenn finds a slide whistle. (Content warning: lots of swearing, brief mention of rape and homophobia.)
I WANT ATTENTION
Aug 11, 2016 • 20 min
ATTENTION: lots of people want it, and not everyone can give it to you. What should you do when your friend ignores you for their boo? How do you keep from feeling discarded? Ughhh this sucks, man.
Gams Up To There
Jul 14, 2016 • 20 min
“How do I compliment my friends when they post sexy selfies?” and “Can I tell my friend her sibling is hot?” We cover lots of new territory in this episode and yell NO way more than usual. Enjoy. Oh, have a content warning: mention of masturbation and sex…
Let’s Get Involved
Jul 7, 2016 • 24 min
How do I make new friends? Why am I so bad at small talk? Can I learn to carry a conversation as well as NPR’s Terry Gross? And other concerns.
Happy Birthday Jenn!
Jun 22, 2016 • 3 min
Today is Jenn’s birthday and I, Trin, recorded an episode about it. Posting episodes and writing summaries is Jenn’s job and honestly it’s really hard
Give Hermione A Heads Up
Jun 15, 2016 • 21 min
New this week: we rapid-answer a range of questions, including, “Does my husband need friends?” and “Is it okay to buy the same clothing item as a friend?” and most importantly of all, “Should Trin buy us matching pajamas?”
Friendship with Exes
Jun 8, 2016 • 31 min
Some tips for gently rebuilding a friendship with your ex or exes. Or maybe deciding not to do that after all because they left with your suitcase full of cash. Don’t you hate it when that happens!
Make Harvey A Real Boy
Jun 2, 2016 • 23 min
“I do freelance favors for friends and colleagues. Am I being used?” and “Am I obligated to promote all of my friends’ Kickstarter projects?” If you’ve ever asked anyone to Tweet about your Kickstarter project, have a listen to this.
Community & Event Management From Two Introverts
May 25, 2016 • 29 min
When your friends RSVP to your thing but then don’t show up. Youch! Links mentioned in this episode: Uplift Together
Your Crush Probably Isn’t That Big of a Deal
May 11, 2016 • 23 min
It’s 2016 and people still wonder, “Can Dudes and Ladies ever just be friends without crushing?” Holy dang, let’s get into it!
There Has Been No Giggling
May 5, 2016 • 22 min
“My long distance friend has stopped answering my texts” and “I’m sick of driving my friend everywhere.” An episode about resentment and the hard truth of long distance friendships. Things do get a little heavy, so we pause between questions for a Star…
You’re Not His Jedi Master
Apr 28, 2016 • 23 min
“My friend is stagnating professionally - how can I push him with love?” and “My friend cheated. Do I tell her boyfriend?” In this episode we discuss when intervene with your friends and when to back the heck off.
PAX Pep!
Apr 21, 2016 • 12 min
A short, special episode about PAX! Where we’ll be, what we’re doing, and how we’ll cope with stress!
Silent but Deadly
Mar 30, 2016 • 19 min
All about handling friends who are ignoring you. Giving you the silent treatment. The COLD SHOULDER. Brrr.
I’ve Been Getting More Fiber
Mar 23, 2016 • 22 min
A discussion about peer pressure based around two questions: “My friend is badgering me about getting a boyfriend” and “My friend is continually telling me to go to therapy. I don’t know that it’s for me.” Content warning: depression, therapy, brief…
Steal the Declaration of Independence
Mar 16, 2016 • 21 min
This week, we discuss dealing with friends who are problematic and say shitty things!
I Can Buy My Own Dang Shirts
Mar 10, 2016 • 24 min
Pet sitting. Giving rides to the airport. Moving furniture. Friends help one another! But let’s examine that doing favors can get complex. There’s a fine line between doing something nice and obligating someone to thank you. Dun dun dun.
One Big Ridiculous Demand
Mar 3, 2016 • 20 min
How do you turn a frenemy into a real friend? When is a frenemy relationship too toxic? Wait, WHAT EVEN IS A FRENEMY? Let’s get into it.
The Unfairness of Life
Feb 25, 2016 • 19 min
I messed up, but it wasn’t my fault! What to do when you didn’t do anything wrong but it’s up to you to fix it anyway. TW: casual discussion of death, sex mentions.
It’s Not Dumb to Feel Sad
Feb 11, 2016 • 13 min
Here are some thoughts about being good to yourself and your friends while Valentine’s Day celebrations are shoved down your gullet. [Please note that this episode is quite vulgar.]
Happy Friendship Day!
Feb 4, 2016 • 6 min
We just found out that today is Friendship Day, so here’s a list of activities that are better with friends.
Emotional Dumping Ground (and Sexual Pooping?)
Feb 4, 2016 • 23 min
Being roped into a “third date” conversation when you’re really on a first date is awkward as heck. Here’s how to adjust, and measure how close you are with your friends & acquaintances.
Dealing with Petty Feelings and 69 Dresses
Jan 28, 2016 • 22 min
Our topic this week: jealousy! If you’ve ever harbored envious feelings toward a friend’s successes (and you definitely have), this is the episode for you.
Fuck it, Someone Else Do This
Jan 18, 2016 • 21 min
Being the “planner” or the “parent” of the friend group can get exhausting. Even worse: if your friends bail on your plans constantly! BUT WAIT: we’ve still got sympathy for those who bail.
Trinstagram and Jennternet
Jan 7, 2016 • 27 min
The Internet can be a roaring dumpster fire of negativity. It’s also where we personally meet new people and make our friends feel loved. In this episode, we tackle moments of friendship that are made possible through Instagram, Twitter, and Tumblr. We…
One Sink Fire is Funny
Dec 24, 2015 • 20 min
This week, we discuss tactics for doing a very awkward, difficult thing: confronting your friends when they embarrass you. “My friend gets way too drunk at parties” & “A friend keeps bringing up a private fact about me in groups” are the jump-off points.
When Your Friend is Hagrid
Dec 17, 2015 • 25 min
We’ve gotten this question a few different times: what do I do if my friend has a blindspot when it comes to how badly behaved her dog is?!
The Art of Apologizing
Dec 10, 2015 • 18 min
You done fucked up. We all have! Here’s how to make the necessary apology, without asking for a reward in return.
The Holiday Episode: Be the Molly Weasley You Want to See in the World
Nov 25, 2015 • 23 min
The holidays can be fun and relaxing! And maybe also: not relaxing, expensive, cold, tedious, stressful, and full of family complications. Here’s how to not be an asshole this time of year.
Thanks For Being Wrong
Nov 13, 2015 • 8 min
Improvising what to do when your friends are just being incorrect dinguses.
Nicki Minaj’s Instagram
Nov 5, 2015 • 18 min
My friend downplays her accomplishments constantly. She lacks confidence, and she has no idea how cool and smart she is. Aarghh!!
Put This In Your Moleskine Journal
Oct 29, 2015 • 20 min
The mean girls episode. Some friends will be bad influences on you — they’ll turn you into a version of yourself you don’t really like. And then it’s time for some tough love. (Side note: the end of this episode includes lots non-spoilerly Star Wars…
My Feet Hurt and I Don’t Want To Go To the Zoo
Oct 22, 2015 • 21 min
It IS possible to travel in a group without wanting to kill everyone! Jenn & Trin improvise a few scenes: Jenn is an inflexible traveler tired enough to sleep on a bench, and Trin is her friend-dad.
Resting Sadness Face
Oct 15, 2015 • 16 min
“When I plan an activity and don’t invite the entire group, inevitably someone always feels left out or upset. How can I avoid hurting people’s feelings?‎” And “One friend in my social circle is very quiet and sulky. Should I discourage her from coming…
Friendship with Boundaries
Oct 8, 2015 • 20 min
What to do when someone considers you a friend and the feeling is juuust not mutual. All about tricky relationships, especially in a work or convention setting.
Apology Not Accepted
Oct 2, 2015 • 8 min
A list of things you don’t have to apologize for. A short episode because Trin has the sniffles.
Singin’ The I-Feel-Left-Out Blues
Sep 24, 2015 • 17 min
Some advice in advocating for yourself when you feel left out in your own group of friends!
Fellowshipping of the Ring
Sep 17, 2015 • 35 min
This week, Jenn and Trin analyze the friendships in Fellowship of the Ring and learn some lessons from Leggles and the gang.
Being the Best Wingman
Sep 10, 2015 • 20 min
Jenn Gets A Tattoo
Aug 20, 2015 • 14 min
This week, Trin is invited along to witness Jenn’s first tattoo! Listen as we grasp for metaphors to link friendship and getting a tattoo.
PREVIEW: Jenn’s Tattoo
Aug 14, 2015 • 0 min
Trin tries to distract Jenn from the tattoo needle by asking her questions from friends on Twitter. Full episode posted next Thursday!
Jealousy, Perception, & a Friendship Workshop
Aug 13, 2015 • 19 min
We address the question, “How do I handle feeling jealous of other friendships?” Includes the first-ever Friendship Workshop to sharpen your skills! Sit your ass down, class is now in session.
Bearing the Burdens: A Bummer of an Episode
Aug 6, 2015 • 20 min
If you’ve got a negative friend who dumps on you all the time, this is the episode for you. We also tackle a difficult topic: “I’m friends with a woman who says she hates women!” Mentioned in this episode: - “I Was a Teenage Sexist” by Jenn Frank
Identifying Your Friends
Jul 30, 2015 • 17 min
Two tricky questions this week about finding your friends: - Is becoming a successful creator myself the only way to befriend like-minded individuals? - How can I navigate friendships with people I have crushes on?
The Peptalk
Jul 24, 2015 • 3 min
A short impassioned rally to get you through your day.
Random Rapid-Fire Questions
Jul 16, 2015 • 18 min
We took the week off to answer questions about the podcast itself, Bioware videogames, Harry Potter, and Chris Pratt’s jeans. Mentioned in this episode: Jenn’s angry blog post about Jurassic World
Mo’ Money Mo’ Problems
Jul 9, 2015 • 20 min
Money in friendships can be hella awkward. I’ve got a friend who owes me money! How do I get it back? And my friends eat at expensive restaurants all the damn time.
Broworkers
Jul 2, 2015 • 20 min
How to navigate friendships in the workplace, meet new friends, and then keep them after you’ve left your job.
Friends with Babies
Jun 25, 2015 • 21 min
How do I tell my friend who’s a new mom that she’s working too hard at it? What if I don’t want to babysit? How to be good to your friends who have kids.
Thanks, but no thanks
Jun 18, 2015 • 14 min
How to properly thank your friends for the nice things they do. Jenn & Trin share their controversial view on receiving thank you notes.
The Outsiders
Jun 11, 2015 • 22 min
What to do if you feel like you’re on the outside of your friend group, like Neville, and how to want to make friends with “better” people. Includes a lengthy Harry Potter discussion!
Advice on Giving Advice
Jun 4, 2015 • 15 min
How and when to give advice to your friends without being an asshole. For the first time in human history, Jenn & Trin disagree on how to handle this.
Unfollowing Friends
May 29, 2015 • 15 min
What can I do when my friend butts into my Twitter conversations? Should I ask why my friend unfollowed me on Twitter?
Rude
May 22, 2015 • 18 min
My friend always flakes on me, my friend can’t put her phone down when we’re together, and other concerns. Common courtesy can sometimes get lost in friendships.
Sexiled - Part II
May 14, 2015 • 12 min
Every time my friend dates someone new, I’m pushed aside and ignored. What now?
Sexiled - Part I
May 13, 2015 • 13 min
My friend is dating someone who is racist/sexist/terrible/annoying. When is it time to intervene? Part I of II.
Friendshipping with Benefits
May 8, 2015 • 13 min
What if I have crushes on all my friends? Do I have to be friends with my ex? And other sexy questions.
Ghosts of Friendships Past
Apr 24, 2015 • 13 min
Seeing old friends will make you feel weird and that’s okay.
Friendshipping: Clicking with Family
Apr 17, 2015 • 16 min
Aubrey & Angela of the Doubleclicks guest-host to answer sibling-related questions.
BFFs
Apr 10, 2015 • 12 min
The best friend episode! How can I be a best friend when I live far away? How can I advance a friendship to BFF-status? Wait, what the hell IS a best friend, anyway?
Am I a bad friend?
Apr 3, 2015 • 14 min
I mean, maybe. You might be a bad friend. That’s certainly a possibility.
Jenn & Trin: Origins
Mar 13, 2015 • 15 min
We rapid-fire-answer a bunch of questions, including, “is it okay to listen to this podcast if I’m a dude?” and “how did you two meet, anyway?”
Meeting Internet Friends
Mar 4, 2015 • 15 min
Meeting an Internet friend for the first time will probably be awkward. Here are some tips for taking your friendship into offline mode.
I’m an Abbi and I need an Ilana.
Feb 25, 2015 • 11 min
What if you feel like you’ve already met all of the women you could ever be friends with?
Dare to Self-Care
Feb 20, 2015 • 17 min
How do you balance being a good friend and being good to yourself?
Competition
Feb 13, 2015 • 11 min
Her success is not your failure, and there’s room at the top for all of us. So move over, fuckers.