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Episodes We Love: Dark Fantasies, Part 1
Jul 12 • 32 min
Orgies. Sex in public. Incest. These are the things that some of us think about in the dark. Taboo fantasies can be exciting, but they can also be the source of our deepest shame. In the first chapter of this two-part series on sexual fantasies, the…
Episodes We Love: The Empty Chair, Part 2
Jul 7 • 33 min
The Sugars conclude a two-part series on early childhood death. In Part 2, they read letters from parents who worry that their grief may overshadow their surviving children. They are joined by the writer Emily Rapp Black, who decided to have another child…
Episodes We Love: The Empty Chair, Part 1
Jun 29 • 33 min
In the Empty Chair series, the Sugars discuss early childhood death, an absence that can be ever-present. In Part 1, they read letters from siblings who live in the the shadow of their parents’ grief. This episode was originally released on November 4th,…
Episodes We Love: The Other Half Of Sexless Relationships
Jun 21 • 24 min
Sex-starved, meet sex-hounded. In today’s episode, we hear from a letter writer who feels pressured by her partner to have sex. This episode was originally released on October 28th, 2017.
Episodes We Love: You Must Change Your Life
Jun 13 • 38 min
“I remember them finding the drugs and holding them up in the sky. And I was like, ‘Oh man, I’m going to prison.’” This week’s guest, the writer Mitchell S. Jackson, started selling drugs when he was 14 years old, then went to prison for drug possession…
Episodes We Love: Sexless Relationships, Part 2
Jun 7 • 26 min
The Sugars are joined by the therapist Esther Perel to discuss a letter from a husband who is in a sexless marriage and is looking for a way to help his wife heal from trauma. This episode was originally released on September 16th, 2017.
Episodes We Love: Sexless Relationships, Part 1
May 31 • 32 min
A sexless relationship is often a symptom of deeper dysfunction. The Sugars, along with couples therapist Esther Perel, advise a letter writer whose loving partner is erotically absent. This episode was originally released on September 9th, 2017.
Episodes We Love: In The Shadow Of Damaged Parents
May 26 • 33 min
A damaged parent can cast a dark shadow over our lives, especially when we inherit some of that damage. Steve’s father, the psychoanalyst Dr. Richard Almond, joins the Sugars to answer letters and offer a way out. This episode was originally released on…
Episodes We Love: Dear Dad, It’s Over
May 17 • 40 min
We can’t choose our parents, but we can choose whether or not to have a relationship with them. This week, the Sugars discuss parental estrangement with the help of Stephen Elliott — founding editor of The Rumpus and author of the books “The Adderall…
Episodes We Love: Career Vs. Love
May 10 • 33 min
You love your partner, you love your career… but they’re pulling you in different directions. What do you do? The Sugars have help from psychotherapist and sociologist Leslie Bell, author of Hard to Get: 20-Something Women and the Paradox of Sexual…
Episodes We Love: Inbox Outliers
May 3 • 39 min
Infidelity. In-Laws. Friendship. These are just a few of the categories that help keep the Dear Sugar inbox organized. But every once in a while, we get a letter that doesn’t fit neatly into any category. This week, the Sugars discuss a handful of those…
Episodes We Love: Baby Or Bust
Apr 26 • 35 min
You wants kids; your partner doesn’t. Or your partner wants kids, and you don’t. Whatever the scenario, few subjects are as emotionally charged and potentially deal-breaking in a relationship as a disagreement over the decision to become parents. The…
Dear Sugars Presents: Kind World
Apr 22 • 11 min
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Episodes We Love: Pet Dilemmas
Apr 19 • 46 min
This week, adventures in animal ownership! The Sugars, along with Julie Barton — author of the memoir “Dog Medicine: How My Dog Saved Me From Myself” — answer letters about pet dilemmas and the ways these creatures affect human relationships. This episode…
Episodes We Love: Body Weight And Romance
Apr 12 • 34 min
It’s never easy to talk to our romantic partners about their bodies, especially when it’s about weight. The Sugars, along with the writer Ashley C. Ford, answer letters from people questioning their relationships because of major changes in their…
Episodes We Love: Should I Intervene?
Apr 5 • 41 min
When we decide to meddle, it can often backfire. The Sugars, along with the writer Meghan Daum, answer letters from people who see loved ones heading down the wrong path, but worry intervention might be the wrong move. This episode was originally…
Episodes We Love: Haunted By Ghosting
Mar 29 • 37 min
The term “ghosting” may be relatively new, but the concept — someone suddenly and inexplicably disappearing from your life — is not. In the past, a total halt to communication with a friend might leave you feeling concerned that something bad happened to…
Episodes We Love: Location, Location, Location
Mar 22 • 36 min
Location, location, location. It makes all the difference in real estate, and it can make all the difference to one’s happiness. But finding a place that really feels like home can be tricky. This episode was originally published on March 9th, 2017.
Episodes We Love: Sexual Fluidity
Mar 18 • 42 min
“Whatever” — that’s how the actress Maria Bello describes her sexual orientation. Her ”love who you love” attitude toward sexuality, regardless of gender, is often referred to as fluidity. Maria joins the Sugars this week to discuss a couple of letters…
Episodes We Love: Happy Two Years Of Sugar, Part 2
Mar 8 • 37 min
It’s part 2 of “the year in Sugar,” where Steve and Cheryl reflect on some of the most memorable letters and episodes of 2016. This episode was originally published on February 9th, 2017.
Episodes We Love: Happy Two Years Of Sugar, Part 1
Mar 1 • 46 min
The Sugars look back on some of the most memorable letters and episodes of 2016. There are so many that they’ll be doing this in two parts. This episode was originally released on January 27th, 2017.
Episodes We Love: The Writers Resist, Part 2
Feb 22 • 29 min
Part two of Dear Sugar Radio: The Writers Resist at The Aladdin Theater in Portland, Oregon. This episode was originally released on January 27th, 2017.
Dear Sugars Presents: Dear Hank and John
Feb 19 • 45 min
Dear Sugars wants to tell you about another great advice show: Dear Hank & John.
Episodes We Love: The Writers Resist, Part 1
Feb 15 • 37 min
On November 9th, 2016 — the day after Donald Trump became America’s President-elect — the Dear Sugar inbox was flooded with emails asking some version of the question, “How do we move forward as a nation from here?” The Sugars bring that question before…
Episodes We Love: Love In Doubt
Feb 8 • 41 min
How many times have you heard this: “I love him, we’re great together, but…”? There’s always room for doubt, even in the happiest of relationships. So this week, the Sugars take on some of those doubts in rapid-fire fashion. This episode was originally…
Episodes We Love: The Dark Side Of Porn
Feb 1 • 39 min
The Sugars continue their series on porn with a letter from a woman whose fiancé is “addicted” to porn. This episode was originally released on December 16th, 2016.
Dear Sugars Presents: Endless Thread
Jan 28 • 31 min
From our partners at WBUR, Endless Thread is a podcast featuring amazing stories found on Reddit. In this story, they talk to a happily married couple who has recently decided to experiment with consensual non-monogamy.
Episodes We Love: Is Porn Wrong?
Jan 25 • 35 min
Pornography is more abundant and accessible than ever before. So it probably isn’t surprising that it appears to be having a greater impact on romantic relationships. Part one of a two-part series focuses on some basic questions about porn — is it wrong…
Episodes We Love: What About The Stepchildren?
Jan 18 • 40 min
When the Sugars answered a letter from a woman who felt trapped in the role of “wicked stepmother,” dozens of listeners wrote in asking the same question: what about the stepchildren, who have no control over the restructuring of their family? This week,…
Episodes We Love: When Your Loved Ones Just Don’t ‘Get It’
Jan 11 • 31 min
Our loved ones are the people who are supposed to understand us. But what if they just…can’t? Where do we turn then, and how do we fight the feelings of resentment that this lack of understanding can stir up? This episode was originally released November…
Episodes We Love: Friendships, Part 2
Jan 7 • 31 min
The Sugars have another conversation on friendship, this time with a handful of letters concerning male-female friendships. Is there such a thing as a platonic relationship between a heterosexual man and woman? Can male-female friendships be as…
Introducing Safe for Work
Dec 19, 2018 • 3 min
Safe For Work is an advice show that reminds you that while your office may be crazy, you don’t have to be. Office MVPs and corporate veterans Liz Dolan (ex-CMO, Nike, NatGeo, Oprah Winfrey Network) and Rico Gagliano (audio host, producer, print reporter…
Episodes We Love: The Price Of Our Dreams
Dec 8, 2018 • 34 min
The Sugars, along with fiction writer George Saunders, field letters from people who are chasing their creative dreams but frightened by the practical and financial risks that come with that pursuit. This episode was originally released on August 5th,…
Episodes We Love: Rapid Fire Letters
Dec 1, 2018 • 32 min
In a heated moment, a mother reveals a dark chapter from her childhood to her daughter, then immediately regrets it. What now? In this week’s episode, the Sugars tackle this and several other questions, including how to handle a brother-in-law who treats…
Episodes We Love: The Power Of No, Part 2
Nov 17, 2018 • 25 min
“What do I want?” This is the question Oprah Winfrey finally asked herself, after years of struggling to say “no” to people in her life. In the second of this two-part series, the Sugars continue their conversation with Oprah Winfrey on when, why and how…
Episodes We Love: The Power Of No, Part 1
Nov 10, 2018 • 35 min
There’s incredible power in saying “yes.” It opens up avenues and allows us to be brave. In Cheryl’s case, it’s what led to her becoming Sugar. But saying yes to life’s opportunities can also have its risks. The Sugars are joined by Oprah Winfrey to…
Episodes We Love: Friendship, Part 1
Nov 3, 2018 • 41 min
Everyone has had a friendship quandary of some sort in the past, right? This week, the Sugars take on frequently asked questions in “rapid fire” fashion – from hating your best friend’s significant other, to hating her politics. This episode was…
Episodes We Love: May-December Romances
Oct 27, 2018 • 30 min
Age is just a number in many contexts, but when it comes to finding long-lasting love, an age gap between partners can greatly impact the course of the relationship — both in positive and challenging ways. The Sugars discuss those so-called “May-December”…
Episodes We Love: I Divorced My Spouse, And My Child Divorced Me
Oct 20, 2018 • 30 min
Divorce is always a painful process, but it’s especially so when there are children in the middle. This week, the Sugars discuss situations of parental alienation caused by divorce. They answer letters from a mother and a father whose daughters have cut…
Episodes We Love: Make The Call
Oct 13, 2018 • 39 min
The Sugars bring you another “rapid fire” episode, where they give brief answers to a handful of letters. This time, they challenge each other to make the call — one way or the other — on the questions they’re discussing, rather than offer open-ended…
Episodes We Love: How Do I Find The Courage To Be My Own Guide?
Sep 29, 2018 • 26 min
The Sugars often discuss letters dealing with very specific problems or struggles. This week, they take on a broader, more existential question — how to follow your heart. The Sugars discuss with the GRAMMY-winning singer/songwriter India Arie, who shares…
Episodes We Love: I’m A Transgender Man, Seeking Acceptance
Sep 22, 2018 • 38 min
The Sugars read the letters of two transgender men who are struggling to find love and acceptance. They discuss with Cooper Lee Bombardier, a visual artist, writer and transgender man.
Dear Sugars Presents: Last Seen
Sep 18, 2018 • 36 min
From our partners at WBUR, a new podcast that looks into the greatest unsolved art heist in history: the theft of half a billion dollars worth of art from the Isabella Stewart Gardner museum in Boston.
Episodes We Love: Can A Sexual Assault Survivor Love A Rapist?
Sep 15, 2018 • 29 min
The Sugars discuss a letter from a survivor of sexual assault who has just been told by her long-time partner that he raped someone when he was in high school. The writer wonders how she, as a survivor and self-proclaimed feminist, can justify loving a…
The Long Goodbye
Sep 1, 2018 • 73 min
After four years of ministering to the lost, lonely and heartsick, the Sugars say farewell on this final episode of the podcast. We take a look back at some of our most powerful advice, hear from former guests, and talk to listeners about how the show has…
Moving On, Part 2 — With Dr. Harriet Lerner
Aug 25, 2018 • 43 min
In this second part of our series on moving on, the Sugars discuss how we can release ourselves from our past mistakes. Dr. Harriet Lerner drops in to answer a letter from a woman who calls herself a “serial codependent,” as well as a woman who is haunted…
Talking About Privilege — With Catrice M. Jackson
Aug 11, 2018 • 51 min
Privilege comes in many forms: socio-economic privilege, gender privilege, heterosexual privilege, to name a few. In this episode, the Sugars reply to two letter writers who are facing different forms of privilege. They discuss with Catrice M. Jackson, a…
Moving On, Part 1 — With Claire Bidwell Smith
Aug 8, 2018 • 46 min
As our final season draws to a close, the Sugars have been thinking about what it means to say goodbye and let go. In this first episode of our two-part series on moving on, the Sugars and Claire Bidwell Smith answer two letters from people struggling to…
Emotional Abuse — With Reema Zaman
Aug 4, 2018 • 47 min
He removed her makeup when he thought she was wearing too much. He refused to put her name on the leases for their car and their house. He told her that she had a green card only because he chose to marry her. Reema Zaman, our guest in this week’s…
Dear Sugars Live: The Great Reckoning
Jul 28, 2018 • 51 min
Dear Sugars returns to Portland, Oregon, for another epic live show. Special guests Mitchell S. Jackson and Rebecca Skloot share the stage with the Sugars to tell stories of personal reckoning, and to answer letters dealing with transgressions of love,…
Rapid Fire: Love & Money
Jul 21, 2018 • 44 min
When it comes to love, money is supposed to be no object. But there’s no disentangling love from anything in our lives, and income is no exception. So how do you assess the role money should play in a relationship, and what happens when your desires and…
Young & Isolated — With Shirley Manson
Jul 14, 2018 • 44 min
Feeling like an outsider is one of the hallmarks of adolescence. But in today’s episode, we hear from two 16-year-olds who have cause to feel especially isolated. One girl is home-schooled and suffers from social anxiety. Another feels disconnected from…
Who’s Your Daddy? — With Steve Lickteig
Jun 16, 2018 • 40 min
When Steve Lickteig turned 18, he learned that his mother and father, who he thought were his adoptive parents, are in fact his biological grandparents. With the advent of affordable DNA testing and companies like 23andMe, more and more people are having…
Trust Your Body — With Hilary Kinavey & Dana Sturtevant
Jun 9, 2018 • 41 min
“It’s only when my pants are nearly impossible to button that I force myself to lose weight,” writes the letter-writer who calls herself Body Negative. “And then the pattern starts all over again.” Hilary Kinavey, M.S., L.P.C., and Dana Sturtevant, M.S.,…
Rapid Fire: There’s Just One Thing
May 26, 2018 • 40 min
In this “rapid fire” episode, the Sugars read letters from four women who each have one not-so-tiny reservation about the men they’re dating. A black woman is dating a white man who is unwilling to talk about race issues, claiming that she’s “too…
Sex & Aging — With Dr. Pepper Schwartz
May 19, 2018 • 36 min
The erotic lives of senior citizens are typically made invisible by our culture, which can lead to confusion and misinformation. Dr. Pepper Schwartz, the love and relationship columnist for AARP, joins the Sugars to dispel certain myths about sex and…
Rage Is A Red Lesson
May 12, 2018 • 40 min
Shortly after the birth of her first child, a letter-writer who calls herself “Tantrum Daughter” lost her mother to suicide. Now, with a second child on the way, Tantrum Daughter is overcome with pain and anger. After reading Morgan Jerkins’s essay “How I…
Emotional Labor: The Invisible Work (Most) Women Do
May 5, 2018 • 44 min
Remembering the grocery list, coordinating with the babysitter, making food for the potluck, scheduling a get-together with the in-laws: These are some of the invisible tasks that (most) women exclusively do in their romantic relationships — and the list…
The Stepchild’s Dilemma — With Theo Pauline Nestor
Apr 28, 2018 • 45 min
Whether you’re 5, 15, or 50 years old, it can be difficult to usher a stepparent in and out of the family unit. In today’s episode, the Sugars answer letters from stepchildren who have fraught relationships with their stepparents. What is a stepparent’s…
I’m In Love With My Abuser — With Esta Soler
Apr 21, 2018 • 26 min
For the first time on the podcast, the Sugars answer a voice mail message from the Dear Sugars hotline. The message comes from a woman who reunited with her ex-boyfriend, who once assaulted her. Wracked with shame, she wonders if reconciling with him is…
Buyer’s Remorse — With Buzz Bissinger
Apr 14, 2018 • 23 min
Buzz Bissinger owns more than 100 pairs of leather pants and over 200 pairs of leather gloves, having spent more than $600,000 on leather goods in the span of three years. Mr. Bissinger has a spending addiction, but when he published his confessional in…
Dear Sugars Live: A Night Of Bad Stories
Apr 7, 2018 • 41 min
Dear Sugars returns to Portland, Oregon, for another raucous and uplifting live show. The Sugars get a surprising update from a letter writer from their past; discuss a new letter with a special guest, Omar El Akkad; and ask the audience, “What’s the ‘bad…
Rapid Fire: Lovers & Friends
Mar 31, 2018 • 42 min
In this rapid-fire episode, the Sugars weigh in on jealousy — when is it justified, and how can it be confronted or neutralized?
Consent, Part 3: Working In The Gray
Mar 24, 2018 • 40 min
In the final episode in our series on sexual consent, the Sugars discuss what happens when non-consensual sexual attention moves from the private to the public realm.
Consent, Part 2: Stuck In The Gray
Mar 17, 2018 • 32 min
In the second episode in our series on sexual consent, the Sugars dive deeper into encounters that are neither clearly consensual nor non-consensual.
Consent Part 1: Into The Gray — With Jaclyn Friedman
Mar 10, 2018 • 39 min
In the midst of the #MeToo Movement, women and men all over the country are re-examining sexual encounters from their past. Over the course of a three-part series on consent, the Sugars answer letters from some of these women and explore the complexity…
Family By Proxy — With Jessie Glenn
Feb 10, 2018 • 33 min
When a family experiences loss, familial roles are often redefined. In this episode, the Sugars answer letters from people who are unexpectedly charged with caring for new family members.
Updates Part 2: Step Into Your Spotlight
Feb 4, 2018 • 36 min
In part two of our updates series, we find out what happened to two letter writers who let self-image sabotage their love lives. The Sugars find out if “Scared to Choose Wrong” married her fiancé, and they give “Aspiring Warrior for Love” a call to see…
Updates Part 1: Change Is A Work In Progress
Jan 27, 2018 • 35 min
In today’s update episode, we check in with some of our most memorable letter writers from previous episodes. The Sugars find out if “Struggling” was kicked out of his mother’s house, and they give “Bad Mom” a call to see if and how her views of…
Dark Fantasies Part 2 — With Dr. Ian Kerner
Jan 20, 2018 • 28 min
In part two of our Dark Fantasies series, Dr. Ian Kerner returns to help the Sugars answer questions about where our central ideas about sex and eroticism come from, and delve deeper into the world of sexual fantasy.
Dark Fantasies, Part 1 — With Dr. Ian Kerner
Jan 13, 2018 • 32 min
Orgies. Sex in public. Incest. These are the things that some of us think about in the dark. Taboo fantasies can be exciting, but they can also be the source of our deepest shame. In this two-part series on sexual fantasies, the Sugars read letters from…
Cutting The Financial Cord — With Dr. Kate Gale
Dec 23, 2017 • 30 min
At age 18, we are granted the rights and responsibilities of adulthood in the eyes of the law. But for parents of young adults, it’s not so clear cut. When is the right time to wean your children off the family payroll? The Sugars tackle this question…
The Ugly Truth
Dec 16, 2017 • 34 min
Most of us have days when we don’t feel attractive. But in this episode, the Sugars read letters from people whose faces are at odds with conventional ideas of beauty. The writer Ariel Henley joins the Sugars to talk about her own facial differences.…
Just Say It
Dec 9, 2017 • 28 min
Words can be wielded like weapons. On today’s episode, the Sugars hear from people who have something to confess but are afraid to hurt others with the power of their words.
A Spy In The House Of Love — With Ariel Levy
Dec 2, 2017 • 33 min
Snooping on your spouse is generally ill-advised, but what if he or she has an addiction and is constantly lying about it? The Sugars and writer Ariel Levy answer this question on today’s episode.
The Double Bind of Female Ambition — With Hillary Clinton
Nov 18, 2017 • 23 min
The Sugars are joined by Hillary Clinton to answer a letter about female ambition.
The Empty Chair: Part 2 — With Emily Rapp Black
Nov 11, 2017 • 33 min
The Sugars conclude a two-part series on early childhood death. In Part 2, they read letters from parents who worry that their grief may overshadow their surviving children. They are joined by the writer Emily Rapp Black, who decided to have another child…
The Empty Chair: Part 1 — With Jessica Handler
Nov 4, 2017 • 33 min
The Sugars begin a two-part series on early childhood death. In Part 1, they read letters from siblings who live in the the shadow of their parents’ grief. They’re joined by the writer Jessica Handler, whose two sisters died from different blood…
The Other Half Of Sexless Relationships
Oct 28, 2017 • 24 min
In this episode, the Sugars answer letters from letter writers who want to have sex less frequently than their partners do.
You Must Change Your Life — With Mitchell S. Jackson
Oct 21, 2017 • 38 min
In this episode, the Sugars talk to writer Mitchell S. Jackson, who started selling drugs when he was 14 years old and went to prison for drug possession years later. “There was no way for me to escape what I was doing,” he tells the Sugars. Jackson helps…
When Friendship Ends
Sep 30, 2017 • 33 min
Friendships are different from any other type of relationship in our lives. They are purely voluntary, which can make them feel more tenuous. In this episode, the Sugars take questions from two letter-writers who both feel exhausted by a friendship and…
Rapid Fire: Should I Stay Or Go?
Sep 25, 2017 • 34 min
The Sugars bring you another “Rapid Fire” episode, where they give brief answers to a handful of letters that are all centered around a theme. The theme for this episode is “stay or go” — people who have a voice in their head telling them to leave their…
Sexless Relationships, Part 2: Esther Perel
Sep 16, 2017 • 26 min
The Sugars are joined by the therapist Esther Perel to discuss a letter from a husband who is in a sexless marriage and is looking for a way to help his wife heal from trauma.
Sexless Relationships, Part 1: Esther Perel
Sep 9, 2017 • 33 min
A sexless relationship is often a symptom of deeper dysfunction. The Sugars, along with couples therapist Esther Perel, advise a letter writer whose loving partner is erotically absent.
In The Shadow Of Damaged Parents — With Dr. Richard Almond
Sep 2, 2017 • 34 min
A damaged parent can cast a dark shadow over our lives, especially when we inherit some of that damage. Steve’s father, the psychoanalyst Dr. Richard Almond, joins the Sugars to answer letters and offer a way out.
Pet Dilemmas — With Julie Barton
Aug 26, 2017 • 47 min
This week, adventures in animal ownership! The Sugars, along with Julie Barton — author of the memoir “Dog Medicine: How My Dog Saved Me From Myself” — answer letters about pet dilemmas and the ways these creatures affect human relationships.
Body Weight And Romance — With Ashley C. Ford
Aug 19, 2017 • 34 min
It’s never easy to talk to our romantic partners about their bodies, especially when it’s about weight. The Sugars, along with the writer Ashley C. Ford, answer letters from people questioning their relationships because of major changes in their…
Should I Intervene? — With Meghan Daum
Aug 12, 2017 • 40 min
When we decide to meddle, it can often backfire. The Sugars, along with the writer Meghan Daum, answer letters from people who see loved ones heading down the wrong path, but worry intervention might be the wrong move.
The Price Of Our Dreams — With George Saunders
Aug 5, 2017 • 34 min
The Sugars, along with the fiction writer George Saunders, field letters from people who are chasing their creative dreams but frightened by the practical and financial risks that come with that pursuit.
Rapid Fire: Summer 2017 Edition
Jul 29, 2017 • 32 min
In a heated moment, a mother reveals a dark chapter from her childhood to her daughter, then immediately regrets it. What now? In this week’s episode, the Sugars tackle this and several other questions, including how to handle a brother-in-law who treats…
The Power Of No, Part 2: Oprah Winfrey
Jul 22, 2017 • 25 min
“What do I want?” This is the question Oprah Winfrey finally asked herself, after years of struggling to say “no” to people in her life. In the second of this two-part series, the Sugars continue their conversation with Oprah Winfrey on when, why and how…
The Power Of No, Part 1: Oprah Winfrey
Jul 15, 2017 • 35 min
There’s incredible power in saying “yes.” It opens up avenues and allows us to be brave. In Cheryl’s case, it’s what led to her becoming Sugar. But saying yes to life’s opportunities can also have its risks. This week, the Sugars are joined by Oprah…
Rapid Fire: A Wealthy Sister, An Impatient Girlfriend, An Unshakable Love
Jul 8, 2017 • 39 min
The Sugars are back for another batch of rapid-fire questions and answers. In this round, the Sugars take on six questions, ranging from a letter writer who is jealous of her sister’s wealth, to a young woman who is growing impatient for a proposal from…
When Bad Things Happen
Jul 3, 2017 • 33 min
In this episode, the Sugars grapple with a difficult question — how do we make sense of the fact that very bad things can happen to people who have done nothing wrong? They discuss a letter from a visual artist who has just learned he is losing his sight,…
Dear Sugar: Do I Wait For My Ex?
Jun 24, 2017 • 26 min
In this episode, the Sugars take a question from a young woman whose boyfriend recently broke up with her because of uncertainty about his sexuality. The letter writer is heartbroken, confused, and wondering if she should wait for him while he figures it…
More Money, More Problems
Jun 18, 2017 • 39 min
Money makes us crazy. In this episode, the Sugars take questions from two letter writers struggling with their relationships to money. The first, an aspiring playwright, feels guilty about all the advantages that her parents’ wealth has provided to her.…
Am I Too Young To Get Married?
Jun 10, 2017 • 14 min
In this short episode, the Sugars take a question from a 23 year-old woman who is engaged to the man she’s been dating since she was 19. As a child of divorced parents who married young, the letter writer knows there are risks. As she prepares to tie the…
Former Hellraisers
Jun 6, 2017 • 31 min
Every child has wondered of their parent: What were you like when you were my age? Who were you before I was here? And every parent has to decide how honestly to answer those questions. The Sugars discuss with poet and author Mary Karr, who has written…
The Infidelity Episodes, Part 4: The Other Woman
May 23, 2017 • 47 min
In our Infidelity series thus far, we’ve heard from the cheaters, from those who have been cheated on, and from a psychotherapist and expert on the topic. In this final installment, the Sugars focus on the often-overlooked experience of “the other woman”…
The Infidelity Episodes, Part 3: Esther Perel
May 16, 2017 • 51 min
The Sugars’ exploration of infidelity continues with a conversation with Esther Perel, a relationship therapist with extensive insight and expertise on the subject. What qualifies as infidelity? Why do we go through with it? And, perhaps most importantly,…