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233: I’m Codependent. Now What?
Oct 22 • 36 min
“Codependency.” You finally have a word to describe why you’ve been feeling so overwhelmed and drained your whole life. And while I’m not the biggest fan of labels, sometimes having a term to describe your experience can be the thing that makes all the…
232: Overcoming Relationship PTSD
Oct 15 • 44 min
We all know a bad relationship can wreak havoc on our lives, from our self-esteem to our goals and dreams. But most of us don’t know that the effects of a bad relationship can linger long after the breakup. Yes, relationship PTSD is a real thing!
231: Practical Ways to Slay Anxiety with Shann Vander Leek
Oct 8 • 39 min
It’s hard to find words for the times we are living in today. Interesting, scary, stressful, angry, strange…it feels like one minute we can have it together and the next be hijacked by anxiety. There is so much coming at us, so much to navigate and so…
230: Cutting Through Depression
Oct 1 • 46 min
From the outside — and to herself — Tonya looked like she had it all together…until one day, all the “spinning plates” fell and she collapsed. That moment led Tonya to a therapist’s office where she was diagnosed with depression and anxiety that had been…
229: End Self Sabatoge
Sep 24 • 32 min
Do you ever catch yourself setting a goal…and then doing the exact opposite? Maybe it’s deciding to get in shape…and then reaching for the chocolate cake. Maybe it’s getting into a healthy relationship…and then cheating on your partner. We can be our own…
228: Breakthrough Treatments for Anxiety, Depression and Stress with Dr. David Rabin
Sep 17 • 68 min
Buckle your seat belts, because our guest today is today is about to take you on a trip deep into the human mind — and help you understand how to naturally treat everything from depression to ADHD. I first heard about Dr. David Rabin when my husband gave…
227: The Benefits of a Meditation Practice with Sharon Salzberg
Sep 10 • 60 min
In 1974 when Sharon Salzberg discovered meditation, there were no meditation apps, mainstream teachers, corporate retreats or scientific studies backing the practice like we have today. Largely considered a Buddhist practice, meditation was relegated to…
226: Healing and Repairing Relationships
Sep 3 • 33 min
We’re all human and we all make mistakes. Unfortunately, sometimes those mistakes hurt people we love and can even create distance or damage in our most important relationships. When a relationship is suffering, there’s nothing we want more than to heal…
225: Raising Kids from The Adult Chair
Aug 27 • 46 min
“Help! I think I’ve ruined my kids’ lives!” I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard this from clients, listeners and even my own inner critic. No one gets a trial run at parenting, which leads to a lot of self-doubt among parents. We’re all learning as…
224: The Law of Attraction with Christy Whitman
Aug 20 • 36 min
Before studying the Law of Attraction, Christy “had it all” but still felt really unhappy and unfulfilled. As she began seeking, she discovered meditation and eventually the Law of Attraction, both of which led her to recognize how her inner dialog was…
223: Tragedy and Marriage Transformed - April’s Story
Aug 13 • 51 min
The Adult Chair is a powerful model for healing our wounds and becoming more empowered in our lives…but it has the power to change more than just ourselves. When we have the tools to navigate life’s challenges and respond differently to life, it can…
222: Summer Series: Ending Procrastination, Perfectionism and People Pleasing
Aug 6 • 43 min
Are you ready to shift out of procrastination, perfectionism and people pleasing? I can’t imagine anyone that doesn’t have their hand up! In today’s show, we are diving into The Adult Chair model and looking deeper at our “parts.” Though this episode…
221: Summer Series: Setting Healthy Boundaries
Jul 30 • 31 min
Why do people cringe at the suggestion of setting a boundary? So many people respond with, “I don’t like confrontation” when I suggest a boundary. Setting boundaries is tough to do if we were not modeled healthy boundaries growing up. Even if we came from…
220: Summer Series: Childhood Wounding in the Enneagram with Ramona Reid
Jul 23 • 47 min
By nature, all of us have the Child, Adolescent and Adult parts of ourselves…but these parts can look very different depending on our personality and life experience. Through the lens of the Enneagram, we can understand more about our personality and the…
219: Summer Series: Building Self-Esteem
Jul 16 • 27 min
We can never have enough self-esteem. So many of us didn’t have healthy self-esteem role models growing up, so we are embarking on this journey now. The good news is that it’s never too late to learn to love yourself…and it’s a life-long journey, so you…
218: Summer Series: I’m in a Relationship with a Narcissist
Jul 9 • 45 min
Relationships with narcissists are insidious. They begin one way, and over time, very slowly and covertly, they change and become poisonous. We wake up one day and wonder what we did wrong and how we got here. We blame ourselves and can even feel…
217: Summer Series: Attachment and Relationships with Silvy Khoucasian
Jul 2 • 43 min
We all have different ways that we connect and bond with others, and in psychology, we call this “attachment style.” For example, some of us are anxious in our bonds, always making sure the relationship is ok. Others of us pull away when we feel we are…
216: Navigating 2020 from your Adult
Jun 25 • 38 min
As we reach the last week of June and find ourselves halfway through 2020, I’m having a hard time finding words for this year. It has felt like a year of nonstop chaos, with so many challenges at the global and personal level. We are all feeling triggered…
215: From Hopelessness to Healing with Ruthie Lindsey
Jun 18 • 55 min
As humans, we all want to avoid pain and suffering…but what if pain can be a gateway to our healing? What if experiencing sadness actually increases our ability to feel joy? In this episode, I’m chatting with the incredible Ruthie Lindsey as she shares…
214: Change Your Mind with Marisa Peer
Jun 11 • 64 min
Why do you do what you do? That question is probably more difficult to answer than most of us think…not only because we often don’t know ourselves well, but also because the majority of our behaviors and actions come from programming in the unconscious…
213: Walking Through Fear with Michelle Poler
Jun 4 • 46 min
With everything going on the world the last few months, fear has been on all of our minds recently. Though this fear is very real, it’s also related to events happening outside of ourselves…events we can’t fully control. But we also all have deeper…
212: Boundaries Crash Course
May 28 • 25 min
Boundaries are one of those things that I think we can never talk too much about! Though this is a simple topic, boundaries are difficult for most of us — but they’re completely life-changing when we learn to practice them well. In this episode, I’m…
211: Empaths and Highly Sensitive Persons with Dr. Judith Orloff
May 21 • 33 min
“Empath” is one of those words that has become a buzzword over the last few years, and it has us empaths who have felt different our whole lives yelling, “Finally!” At last, the world is beginning to understand that certain people are wired in a way that…
210: Improving and Deepening the Connection with Your Partner
May 14 • 28 min
Most of us long for deeply connected relationships — it’s a core part of our wiring as humans! But even when we’re in a relationship, many of us don’t know how to create the connection we crave. We might spend time with those we love, talk frequently and…
209: Domestic Abuse - A Child’s Experience
May 7 • 58 min
As we discuss the rise of domestic abuse during the COVID-19 crisis and the pervasiveness of this issue around the world, I wanted to shed some light on another group of survivors: the children of domestic abuse. Whether a child is directly abused or…
208: Triumph Over Abuse - An Interview With Survivors
Apr 30 • 79 min
Studies show that since the start of the COVID-19 quarantine, domestic abuse is up by 30 to 40 percent worldwide. Abusers are using the global crisis to increase their sense of power and control, and women are trapped at home with abusive partners, making…
207: The Narcissism and Codependency Connection with Ross Rosenberg
Apr 23 • 64 min
Today, we’re talking about two of our listeners’ favorite topics — narcissism and codependency. I’ve discussed these topics individually on the show before, but in reality, they are deeply connected with each other. And I’m honored to welcome back to the…
206: 5 Steps to Peace
Apr 16 • 21 min
For the first time in history, the entire world is sharing the same fears and the same hopes. With so much chaos all around us and with everyone’s life impacted by this virus and the quarantine, is it really possible to find peace? I believe you can find…
205: Stress and your Enneagram Type with Ramona Reid
Apr 9 • 42 min
The world is experiencing a time of high stress and universal confusion like most of us have never experienced in our lifetimes. We are all walking through a collective trauma together. But just because an experience is common, it does not mean we all…
204: Natural Remedies for Anxiety and Overwhelm with Annie Boerner
Apr 2 • 32 min
In today’s episode, I’m chatting with my friend Annie Boerner, an integrative health practitioner who specializes in calming and balancing the whole person through the nervous system. With a background in neurological therapy, bodywork and other powerful…
203: Resilience in Turbulent Times with Linda Graham
Mar 26 • 56 min
As much as we hate to admit it, difficult times are part of life. Sometimes, they come in the form of trying seasons in our personal lives; other times, the whole world goes through challenges together, facing disasters like famine, tornadoes and disease.…
202: Turning Tragedy into Triumph with Amberly Lago
Mar 19 • 52 min
I am so excited about today’s episode — both because I’m interviewing someone I deeply admire, the inspiring Amberly Lago, and because this show couldn’t have come at a more divine time with all that’s going on in the world today. Amberly is someone I…
BONUS: Finding Peace and Love Amidst the Chaos
Mar 18 • 9 min
As we are in the middle of a global pandemic that is causing so much fear and confusion, I wanted to offer you a bonus episode with a free meditation to help you promote relaxation and peace. It’s such a confusing time right now, and the events of the…
201: Using the Polyvagal Theory to Balance Your Nervous System with Deb Dana
Mar 12 • 60 min
In today’s show, I’m interviewing the incredible Deb Dana, one of the leading experts on the nervous system and the Polyvagal Theory. The Polyvagal Theory offers us cutting-edge insight into the third nervous system response that Porges calls the social…
200: Celebrating 200 Episodes!
Mar 5 • 37 min
I truly can’t believe we’re here ⁠— the 200th episode of The Adult Chair podcast and over 2 million downloads! This started out as an experiment to help my clients, and I’m BLOWN AWAY by what it has become. I couldn’t be more thankful to you for listening…
199: Dating from the Adult Chair
Feb 27 • 31 min
Everybody wants to be happy, and most of us want a partner to share our happiness and lives with. But finding that partner? Easier said than done. Dating can be exhilarating, confusing, fun, exhausting and all the things. Experiencing connection with…
198: Transforming Fear
Feb 20 • 20 min
Fear creeps in and out of our lives all the time. It’s just a human emotion, but it’s a sneaky one. It starts small, then all of the sudden, we’re overtaken by it until it becomes paralyzing. A little bit of fear can quickly turn into a lot of fear. A few…
197: Know and Grow Self Love
Feb 13 • 33 min
The other day I heard from someone who was having a bad day. She asked if this meant she had lost her self-love and how she could know she had enough self-love. That conversation made me realize how little we know about self-love, and it inspired me to do…
196: Spotting Covert Narcissism
Feb 6 • 41 min
We all know the word “narcissism.” We can usually spot a narcissist a mile away. They are loud, want all the attention and can be obnoxious. This is known as overt narcissism. But can you spot a covert narcissist? They can be tricky, with a more “subtle”…
195: From Anxiety & Panic to Peace
Jan 30 • 29 min
What do you do when anxiety creeps up out of nowhere and sends you into a state of panic? Maybe it’s a stressful call or email, an overflowing to-do list or all of your worries being flung in your face at once, until it feels like fear is taking over your…
194: Purge, Connect & Reach: 3 Simple Steps to Change Your Mood
Jan 23 • 25 min
There is nothing worse than when we find ourselves caught in a bad mood. Whether we wake up on the wrong side of the bed or something triggers us and sends us into a funk, we all experience moments or even days where we feel a bit “down.” Often, it can be…
193: Boundaries in Relationships with Nedra Glover Tawwab
Jan 16 • 43 min
We can never talk enough about boundaries! They are so important for loving ourselves, living empowered and creating healthy relationships, but most of us never saw healthy boundaries modeled and struggle with setting them. That’s why I’m SO excited to…
192: Sex Addiction with Abbe Barclay
Jan 9 • 44 min
I have heard from so many of you that wanted more information on Sex Addiction so I decided to have my friend and sex addiction specialist Abbe Barclay on. Abbe is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and certified Sex Addiction Therapist. We…
191: Finding True Freedom
Jan 2 • 24 min
Happy New Year! I thought long and hard about this kick off show and know how so many of us strive for big change in the New Year but in my experience, small changes lead to big impact. In December I fell upon a book (it actually felt like it jumped off…
190: Cleansing Relationships and Cutting Cords
Dec 26, 2019 • 17 min
We made it through the holidays! How are you feeling…Drained, relieved, elated? Now is the best time to “clean yourself off” and today and get yourself ready for the New Year. In today’s show I explain a bit about how we can be dysfunctionally connected…
189: Breaking Free from Victim
Dec 19, 2019 • 35 min
In a word, victim energy is just plain yucky. We fall into victim when we least expect it and “think” it feels good. We feel like we deserve to feel this way, we have been wronged for goodness sake…and then we wake up.
188: The Wisdom of the Body in Healing with Patti Elledge
Dec 12, 2019 • 55 min
Today on the show we have Patti Elledge back again to talk about how we can heal our early developmental wounds, attachment wounds, trauma, abuse and more by working with the wisdom of the body. This is not a show about “body work,” but instead a show…
187: Codependency at the Holidays
Dec 5, 2019 • 33 min
Ah the holidays, what a wonderful time of year. The rushing around the shopping the preparing of food the obligations to attend all the parties. It’s a codependents nightmare! By the time the first week of January hits we are wiped out and in bed with…
186: Staying Present During the Holidays
Nov 28, 2019 • 12 min
Happy Thanksgiving all! Today is the day that marks the official ”mad dashing” around to get to the parties on time, buying the perfect gifts, lots of rushing here and there with lots of traffic and the common denominator…stress (and of course it’s not…
185: Overcoming Childhood Sexual Abuse with Dr. Gregory Williams
Nov 21, 2019 • 71 min
Childhood sexual abuse creeps into the lives of innocent children on a daily basis. As children, we are defenseless to our abusers. Dr. Gregory Williams was one of those children. On today’s show, we have Dr. Gregory Williams on sharing his story of…
184: Boundaries, Empowerment and Finding Truth - Client Session
Nov 14, 2019 • 55 min
I am so excited about this show. On today’s show I interviewed a client and she was able to find her truth, step into her power and learn how to set boundaries-all in one show! This is a client from our membership group that wes interested in learning how…
183: Understanding and Healing our Defenses with Karen Gelstein
Nov 7, 2019 • 51 min
On today’s show we have one of my favorite people and therapists, on the show-Karen Gelstein. Karen helped us to understand our defenses and how to heal them and change how we react with others. She shares with us how humor, ruminating thoughts, missing…
182: Where is My Adult Chair?
Oct 31, 2019 • 30 min
Happy Halloween! After so many questions coming in about The Adult Chair, I felt like it was time to do a show on this. In today’s episode I answer where the Adult Chair is and how to get it back if you’ve lost access to it. How to find your Adult if you…
181: Attachment and Relationships with Silvy Khoucasian
Oct 24, 2019 • 42 min
Today on the show, relationship and attachment expert, Silvy Khoucasian and I have a conversation about attachment in relationships. We talk through all of the attachment styles and how to heal and find secure attachment regardless of your style. We also…
180: Reprogram your Subconscious Mind with Jim Fortin
Oct 17, 2019 • 56 min
Wow and what a show this was - Jim Fortin is a genius! On today’s show, Jim Fortin, Master Hypnotist and Master Practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) was on with me and we discussed how to reprogram the subconscious mind. He teaches us how to…
179: I’m in a relationship with a Narcissist
Oct 10, 2019 • 47 min
Relationships with narcissist are insidious. They begin one way and over time, very slowly and covertly, change and become poison. We wake up one day and wonder what we did wrong and how we got here. We blame ourselves and can even feel embarrassed to…
178: Ending Procrastination, Perfectionism and People Pleasing
Oct 3, 2019 • 44 min
Are you ready to shift out of procrastination, perfectionism and people pleasing? (I can’t imagine anyone that doesn’t have their hand up). Well today’s show we are diving into The Adult Chair model and looking deeper at our “parts”. Our…
177: Empowered Parenting with Meghan Crough
Sep 26, 2019 • 57 min
What a show! Today’s show with special guest - Marriage and Family therapist, Meghan Crough was as empowering as it was inspirational. Meg answered so many important questions about raising kids. We talked about so many things including temper tantrums or…
176: Childhood Wounding in the Enneagram with Ramona Reid
Sep 19, 2019 • 47 min
This show was incredible! Ramona Reid, Enneagram coach and I had a fascinating conversation about how our childhood wounding affects us later on in life and creates the masks that we wear to cover up our wounding. Ramona does a beautiful job of blending…
175: Setting Boundaries
Sep 12, 2019 • 30 min
Why do people cringe at the suggestion of setting a boundary? So many people respond with, “I don’t like confrontation”, when I suggest a boundary. Setting boundaries is tough to do if we were not modeled healthy boundaries growing up. Even if we came…
174: Building Self Esteem
Sep 5, 2019 • 25 min
We can never have enough self esteem! So many of us didn’t have healthy self esteem role models growing up so we are embarking on this journey now. Here’s the good news, it’s never too late! With the help of The Adult Chair model we can live our lives to…
173: Am I in a Toxic Relationship?
Aug 29, 2019 • 36 min
Am I in a toxic relationship? I unfortunately get asked this question all too often. I find that what feels “normal” is actually toxic but due to low self esteem or loss of self, we find ourselves living in not so healthy or even unhealthy, toxic…
172: The Joy of Codependency
Aug 22, 2019 • 33 min
What would you think if I told you that joy could be part of codependency? Well it can! Codependency and I have been friends for too many years to count (most of my life). However, in my discovery of this, I have found joy in learning who I am as an Adult…
171: Myofascial Release with Diana Schneider
Aug 15, 2019 • 56 min
I’m back from my summer break! Welcome to the first show of our new podcast year. I am so excited about our guest today. I have spoken for months about Myofascial Release Technique and am finally having our in house expert on the show! Diana Schneider,…
170: Breaking negative patterns and programs
Aug 8, 2019 • 36 min
The only way you’re going to heal is to own your life. That’s the overriding message of the show today and it comes thanks to the story of a fabulous client we’ll call “Carolyn.” She’s graciously offered her story for this week’s show as a demonstration…
169: Top 5 - #1 Healing Shame
Aug 1, 2019 • 32 min
Yuck…Shame! Who wants to look at or feel their shame? I realize that so many of us avoid our shame because we don’t know what to do with it! What if I told you, I could give you tools to help heal and transform your shame? Well today is your lucky day as…
168: Top 5 - #2 Transform your parts and find self love
Jul 25, 2019 • 29 min
We are made up of many parts that create our whole. We can’t help but have parts like the doubter, blamer, the “I am a fraud” part etc. We all have parts that we don’t like (or even hate) but we don’t know what to do with them….until today. Today, I share…
167: Top 5 - #3 Healthy Relationships Part 2
Jul 18, 2019 • 61 min
Today’s show is a follow up to Healthy Relationships Part 1. This show has even more examples on how to create healthy relationships as well as how we can transform our current relationship, especially if the other person is being difficult. In today’s…
166: Top 5 - #4 Healthy Relationships
Jul 11, 2019 • 67 min
In today’s show I offer tools and tips on how we can create and/or improve our relationships. A big part of healthy relationships is being able to communicate effectively, which again so many of us are unsure how to do. Today’s tools can be applied to any…
165: Top 5 - The Enlightened Empath with Sarah Weiss
Jul 4, 2019 • 72 min
Feeling drained or fatigued? Maybe you pick up on other people’s emotions and can feel what they are feeling? This “phenomena” is not random, these are qualities of an empath. Many of us are walking around with anxiety, depression, aches and pains and are…
164: Taming your Control Freak
Jun 27, 2019 • 37 min
Ouch! Did someone call you a control freak?! I get it…been there with that label. We think that we are getting so much done, life feels like it’s in order and things are just, “better” because of how we see and operate in the world. It’s just “who we…
163: Feel your anger and find your truth
Jun 20, 2019 • 49 min
How do you feel about anger? What do you do with your anger? Do you shove it down and override it with being “nice” so you “don’t rock the boat”? Many of us grew up with unhealthy anger modeling. Maybe you had a narcissistic and angry parent in the home.…
162: A Conversation with Suzy
Jun 13, 2019 • 48 min
Today I had the pleasure of having a conversation with Suzy, someone that has had a life of enmeshment, codependency, abusive, attempted murder by her husband and more. She now lives with greater peace and balance than ever before and she says a large…
161: Jealousy
Jun 6, 2019 • 43 min
After so many requests to talk about jealousy, here it is! A podcast that covers all things jealousy. What it is, what it isn’t and 8 ideas to help you to find balance around jealousy. In today’s show I cover how important it is to raise our awareness…
160: Boundaries and Defenses
May 30, 2019 • 54 min
When setting a boundary, often times the person we are talking to gets triggered and falls into a defense then everything goes south. What do we do when this happens? In today’s show, I talk with you about how we can “dismantle others defenses” and…
159: How to Recognize and Heal Abuse with Christine Gutierrez
May 23, 2019 • 39 min
Abuse can be tricky, it can be subtle and ease into our lives. We can be living with it and might not even be aware of it. Abuse comes in many forms and not just the obvious physical abuse. Codependency, narcissism, control, trauma, enmeshment, addictions…
158: Ideas for PTSD from The Adult Chair
May 16, 2019 • 42 min
When most of us here the word PTSD (post traumatic stress disorder), we think of someone that has come out of the military. While this can be very true for our military personnel, PTSD affects many others and they may not even know. So many suffer from…
157: Better Breakups with Natalia Juarez
May 9, 2019 • 41 min
On today’s show I have Natalia Juarez discussing how to have better breakups. Listen to this episode to learn the role attachment issues, love addiction and love avoidance play into our breakups. Learn when it is time to end a relationship AND MOVE ON.…
156: What do I work on next?
May 2, 2019 • 28 min
I get asked this question all the time, “What do I work on next?” “I realize I have so many things to work on and don’t know where to begin!” In today’s show I offer ideas on what to work on next, what direction to take while on your path of healing, and…
155: The Magic of Being
Apr 25, 2019 • 22 min
So many of us live life from The Adolescent Chair. We rush and busy ourselves to the point of exhaustion. We stress ourselves out and wind up living with anxiety, depression and other ailments. We lack presence and feel like if we keep doing we will find…
154: Shatter Limiting Beliefs and Filters and Change your Life.
Apr 18, 2019 • 29 min
Do you ever feel stuck in life? Like you can’t catch a break with some people and you keep getting the short end of the stick? Have you ever thought that you are missing something and that you actually have limiting beliefs or filters that are causing you…
153: Binge Eating with Jessi Jean
Apr 11, 2019 • 41 min
On today’s show I spoke with Certified Eating Psychology Coach, Jessi Jean all about binge eating, emotional eating and more. Jessi shared with us her own journey and offered some tips on what you can do right now if you feel out of control with food. So…
152: Getting the love you want with Imago Therapy creators, Harville Hendrix and Helen Hunt
Apr 4, 2019 • 59 min
152: I am thrilled to have on the show today, relationship experts and the creators of Imago Relationship Theory and Therapy, Harville Hendrix, Ph.D and Helen Hunt Ph.D! We covered a range of topics from why we fall in love, to how childhood wounding…
151: Quick Trigger Relief
Mar 28, 2019 • 20 min
151: When we are triggered, we lose ourselves so quickly and fall into a defense. Oftentimes we regret our reaction later on. In today’s show, Michelle gives some tips to help us stay in our Adult Chair when we are triggered and remain present with…
150: Transform your parts and find Self Love
Mar 21, 2019 • 28 min
150: It can be hard to live with self-love when we have loud inner negative parts. In today’s show, Michelle discusses steps to transform these inner parts from the Adolescent Chair. Once these parts are transformed, we are able to live with greater…
149: Transforming the Inner Critic
Mar 15, 2019 • 29 min
149: We all have many inner voices but there is one in particular, that can be overly critical and hard on us, it’s called the “inner critic.” In today’s show, I share with you what the inner critic is and how to transform that voice using some simple and…
148: Healthy Relationships Part 2
Mar 7, 2019 • 61 min
148: After getting so many comments from the Healthy Relationships podcast #146 a couple weeks ago, I felt like I needed to do a follow up show and answer some of the questions and comments that came in. So today’s show is a continuation of ideas and…
147: Hardwiring Happiness with Dr. Rick Hanson
Feb 28, 2019 • 63 min
147: What if I told you that you can change your brain and become happier? How about going from a pessimist to an optimist? Well you can and it doesn’t take long! On today’s show, Dr. Rick Hanson shares with us how to “Hardwire Happiness” into our brains…
146: Healthy Relationships from The Adult Chair
Feb 21, 2019 • 67 min
146: Today I share some ideas from The Adult Chair on Healthy Relationships. Unfortunately, so many of us aren’t taught how to have healthy relationships. In fact, we enter into relationships with a lot of baggage and we get triggered and don’t know where…
145: Calling In The One with Katherine Woodward Thomas
Feb 14, 2019 • 46 min
145: Happy Valentines Day! Today’s show is all about love and finding “the one” and/or improving your current relationship. So whether you are in a relationship or not, you will benefit from this show! Katherine Woodward Thomas, author of Calling in the…
144: Transforming Betrayal with Debi Silber
Feb 7, 2019 • 50 min
144: Dr. Debi Silber from the PBT institute (Post Betrayal Institute) and I had a great conversation on the transformation of betrayal. She has done studies on betrayal and has a proven method for transformation. We discussed how betrayal can affect us…
TAC Child Chair Podcast
Feb 1, 2019 • 40 min
143: Reversing autoimmune and other diseases with Dr. Keesha
Jan 31, 2019 • 65 min
143: We talked about the microbiome and how it relates to health, the root of autoimmune and other diseases and how to get your body healthy again naturally by examining Dr. Keesha’s “4 corners of the puzzle” to health. She is a wealth of information and…
142: All Things Anxiety with Shann Vander Leek
Jan 24, 2019 • 43 min
142: Shann Vander Leek from the Anxiety Slayer podcast joins me today for a wonderful conversation about anxiety. Shann offers us some fabulous tools and ideas on how to “slay” anxiety and live with greater peace and tranquility in your life. It was a…
141: Changing your life with ONE thing. An interview with Jay Papasan
Jan 17, 2019 • 56 min
141: What if you could change your life doing just one thing? On today’s show, Jay Papasan teaches us how to do just that. It sounds crazy but picking one thing and doing just that one thing until it becomes a habit is how we create change. This is a…
140: Love and Boundaries with Terri Cole
Jan 10, 2019 • 54 min
140: In our 2019 kick off show I have special guest Terri Cole on and we explore the topic of love and boundaries. It was an awesome show and she gave us some incredible ideas about love, self love and setting boundaries. Definitely a show you won’t want…
139: Cultivating Self Worth
Jan 3, 2019 • 11 min
As we think about how we can show up differently and make positive changes in our lives for 2019, we must also think about self worth. In today’s show, I offer you a meditation to do just that, cultivate self worth. Without a feeling of worthiness it’s…
138: Pathway to Self Love
Dec 27, 2018 • 17 min
We look and look for ways to love ourselves but nothing seems to create lasting change. In today’s show we look a little deeper at The Adult Chair model, and how it helps us to love ourselves. I also share a few other tools that we can use to take us on…
137: End the Drama
Dec 20, 2018 • 32 min
Ahh the holidays. Such a busy time of year and boy can they throw us in our Adolescent Chair. In today’s show, I chat with you a bit about how the holidays can throw us into “story and assumption” which creates drama in our lives. How do we end drama? You…
136: The Adult Chair Changed my Life. A conversation with Giovanna.
Dec 13, 2018 • 51 min
Giovanna was struggling with anxiety and depression and stumbled upon The Adult Chair podcast. Giovanna shares with us how her life changed in 6 short weeks by listening to the show and applying a few simple tools that she gained. She has reduced her…
135: The Enlightened Empath with Sarah Weiss
Dec 6, 2018 • 68 min
Feeling drained or fatigued? Maybe you pick up on other people’s emotions and can feel what they are feeling? This “phenomena” is not random, these are qualities of an empath. When we understand the qualities of being an empath, we can get healthy and…
134: Repairing Relationships with our Kids (or Anyone)
Nov 29, 2018 • 40 min
In life, we sometimes hurt or damage relationships. The one’s that we often regret the most are the one’s that are with our kids or other loved ones. The question is, is it possible to repair these relationships and if so how? In today’s show, I discuss…
133: Ending Triggers
Nov 22, 2018 • 56 min
I have great news for you. Yes we can end our triggers! In this show I share with you what a trigger is and what to do with them to end being triggered. Hallelujah! I even go into one of my triggers and how I walked my way out of it and transformed it. I…
132: Healing Trauma with Courtney Armstrong
Nov 15, 2018 • 82 min
Trauma is such a heavy word and when we think about overcoming it, many of us feel defeated or that it could take a lifetime. In today’s show we learn otherwise. Courtney Armstrong joins me in a discussion of trauma and offers tools that we can begin…
131: The Power of Acceptance
Nov 8, 2018 • 51 min
Many people think acceptance is weak or it’s something we do when we are defeated. It’s actually the opposite. There is great power in acceptance. It’s a choice we make from a clear intentional place within. When we do this our drama or anger can be done…
130: A Deeper Understanding of The Adult Chair
Nov 1, 2018 • 45 min
After four years of this podcast, I felt like it was time for a refresher of the three chairs. In this show, I discuss where the Adult Chair model came from and a review of the three chairs. For long time listeners, this will reinforce your knowledge of…
129: Healing Abandonment
Oct 25, 2018 • 25 min
Abandonment can leave an incredible wound inside of us. We do our best to bury it and not feel that pain but it leaves its mark on us. We move through life unconsciously guarded and ready for abandonment to happen again. We want to be free of this wound…
128: Own Your Reality
Oct 18, 2018 • 34 min
There is huge power in owning our reality, yet most of us don’t know how. We hide behind masks to cover our true selves up and show up in the world how we think others want us to be. This can be exhausting and so wearing on us. In this show, you will…
127: Codependency: Ending the Addiction to “Help” Others.
Oct 11, 2018 • 47 min
We feel responsible for fixing and taking care of others. When we aren’t “helping”, we may feel anxious or useless. These could be symptoms of codependency. In today’s show, I review what happens in childhood that sets us up for codependency, what it…
126: Integrating the Self
Oct 4, 2018 • 55 min
When we experience a trauma, there is a part of us that can get stuck in time, yet we continue to physically grow. Part of the work of the Adult Chair is finding these parts and integrating them into the self in order to help us to feel whole and healthy.…
125: Healing from Betrayal
Sep 27, 2018 • 28 min
Betrayal is the worst kind of pain. It blindsides us, it can shock us and leave us in total disbelief. We wonder how we can move through such pain and feel ok again. In this show, Michelle shares her own experiences with betrayal and offers an 8 step…
124: Conscious Uncoupling - How to end relationships well. with Katherine Woodward Thomas
Sep 20, 2018 • 36 min
We don’t end relationships well, unfortunately no one teaches us how to do this. We get stuck in our victim or get caught in the blame game which only keeps us stuck! Katherine Woodward Thomas offers us a fresh perspective on breaking up and ending well.…
A Guided Meditation for Finding Inner Strength, Your Voice and Empowerment
Sep 19, 2018 • 15 min
Life can be overwhelming at times and it can cause us to lose ourselves. This may look like difficulty in making decisions, setting boundaries and or standing in your truth. This meditation will help change that, as it helps you to tap into your inner…
123: Helping your Kids Cope with Anxiety with Sharon Selby
Sep 13, 2018 • 43 min
It seems like a growing number of kids today are suffering from anxiety. As parents and caregivers of these kids, witnessing their anxiety can leave us feeling helpless and not sure what to do. Often times, what we do doesn’t help and even makes things…
122: How to Stop Imploding, Stress, Anxiety and Ruminating Thoughts.
Sep 6, 2018 • 29 min
Anxiety, ruminating thoughts, stress and negative impulses can make us feel like we are imploding! When we implode, it feels like our world is collapsing and we have no way out. In today’s show, I help you find your way out of imploding and even stop…
Meditation 28: Connect to your Higher Self
Sep 6, 2018 • 11 min
We are born with a divine connection and guidance system. This part of us is the spiritual aspect of who we are, the part of us that is wise, all-knowing and always connected with us, that is always guiding us and illuminating our life path. We have…
121: When Relationships End
Aug 30, 2018 • 27 min
In the episode today, I talk with you about how we can go through the ending of relationships in a new way, a conscious way, from our Adult Chair. Sitting here can change how you navigate the end. In today’s show, I offer 6 “Truths” for relationships and…
120: Harness Your Powerful Flow State
Aug 23, 2018 • 28 min
I believe we can access the state of flow and ride it like a wave! In today’s show I explain how we do this, with a 4 step process to access and harness your own flow state.
119: The Way Out Is In
Aug 16, 2018 • 35 min
I’ve had so many people come to me stuck in struggle and pain lately so on today’s show I have four tools to offer that will help you on the road back to peace and into your Adult Chair!
118: Becoming “Aware” with Dr. Dan Siegel
Aug 9, 2018 • 48 min
Dr. Dan Siegel joins me to talk about his new book Aware, and the work he’s been doing that can radically accelerate our journey toward learning to live in the present moment.
117: The Power of Letting Go with Karen Campion
Aug 2, 2018 • 32 min
I share that experience with my friend Karen Campion on the show this week as we talk about the true power of letting go to move forward.
Meditation 27: A guided-meditation and exercise for releasing shame
Jul 5, 2018 • 19 min
Unfortunately, we all experience shame at some point in our lives, some of us more than others. In this guided meditation exercise, you will be guided through a process from the Adult Chair model that releases and transforms shame.
116: Learn to Live Authentically with guest Sandra Rojo
Jun 28, 2018 • 59 min
How do I live authentically? If you find yourself asking that question, you’re not alone. I hear this from clients practically daily, each feeling a connection with the concept, knowing they’re disconnected from their true, authentic selves, but at the…
115: Finding Peace within Pain with Rea Wright
Jun 14, 2018 • 46 min
Pain can feel heavy, like a dark cloud that won’t go away. We often times don’t realize that we are carrying our pain with us from the past, in hopes that something or someone will make it magically go away. Today, Rea Wright and I offer 5 ideas for…
114: Deepening the Adult Chair using the wisdom of the Enneagram with Ramona Reid
Jun 7, 2018 • 36 min
Today on the show Ramona Reid blends the wisdom of the Enneagram into the Adult Chair. Ramona shared with us how she experiences the Child, Adolescent and Adult through the lens of the Enneagram and the commonalities of the two models and how they enrich…
113: Understanding Borderline Personality Disorder
May 31, 2018 • 54 min
This week on the show I have a guest to talk to us about one of the most misunderstood and over-used labels I’ve run across: borderline personality disorder. Dr. Robin Arthur is a fantastic and knowledgeable expert who has been working with BPD…
112: Healing Shame
May 24, 2018 • 26 min
Get ready everybody… we’re going to move through some shame today!
111: Patti Elledge teaches us how to heal our attachment wounds
May 10, 2018 • 60 min
I adore our guest today! Patti Elledge joins us to talk about adult attachment wounds.
110: Stopping Stress, Anxiety & Overwhelm from The Adult Chair
May 3, 2018 • 26 min
What do we do when we feel like we just can’t put one more thing on our plates? When the people we love and care about are expecting so much from us, it feels like we’re suffocating? When our career obligations increasing anxiety beyond our ability to…
Meditation 26: A guided meditation to relieve anxiety and overwhelm
May 1, 2018 • 13 min
The rush of anxiety and overwhelm can quickly take over our experience of the world. Being equipped with the tools to ease that experience is central to living in the Adult Chair. Let us journey.
109: Breaking Negative Patterns & Programs
Apr 26, 2018 • 35 min
The only way you’re going to heal is to own your life. That’s the overriding message of the show today and it comes thanks to the story of a fabulous client we’ll call “Carolyn.”
108: Stories & Assumptions
Apr 19, 2018 • 27 min
We do everything we can to keep ourselves safe and loved in the world. To do this, we look to the past and gather up stories and then based on those stories we project into the future based on assumptions. Living like this creates stress and keeps us out…
Meditation to remove inherited dysfunctional or unhealthy beliefs
Apr 17, 2018 • 18 min
As children, we unknowingly inherit dysfunctional or unhealthy beliefs. This meditation takes you on a journey to find your true self and along the way, remove the inherited unhealthy and dysfunctional beliefs. Find yourself at the end feeling more…
107: Men & Emotions with Ted Klontz
Apr 12, 2018 • 50 min
Ted is back! This time we’re kicking it off with a big question about men and emotions, but I guarantee you there are some surprises in store from there! Join us!
106: How to help others to move into their Adult Chair
Apr 5, 2018 • 34 min
I get this question all the time: “how to do I get (fill in the blank loved-one here) to get into their Adult Chair?!” Great question. And I’m going to take on exactly that this week on the show!
105: Essential Oils with Annie Waugh
Mar 29, 2018 • 49 min
Annie Waugh is an integrative therapist and dear friend and she’s joining me on the show today to talk about an area of particular expertise: Essential Oils! I love oils and cherish everything Annie has taught me — and I can’t wait for her to share some…
104: Shannon Thomas talks Narcissism, Gaslighting, and Healing from Hidden Abuse
Mar 22, 2018 • 44 min
Shannon Thomas sits down in the adult chair with me today to talk about narcissism, gaslighting, and other forms of abuse and emotional trauma that can plague our relationships.
103: It’s All About YOU!
Mar 15, 2018 • 29 min
Go ahead and say it out loud right now: “It’s all about me!” My clients have a lot of trouble saying it, as if it gets stuck in their throats. But being able to say that it’s all about you isn’t selfish, it’s ownership!
102: Love Addiction-Love Avoidant with Karen Gelstein
Mar 8, 2018 • 47 min
Karen Gelstein is another of my favorite people. She’s a therapist based out of New York City and when you hear what she has to say on love addiction, love avoidance, narcissism in the show this week you’re definitely going to want to learn more about her…
101: Soothing Cannot be Outsourced
Mar 1, 2018 • 46 min
This week on the show I’m thrilled to welcome one of my precious clients and author of one of my very favorite quotes on healing, “soothing cannot be outsourced.”
100: Self-Love!
Feb 22, 2018 • 31 min
What an amazing milestone! Never in a million years would I have imagined the love and grace I’ve discovered in the audience of this podcast. Thank you so much for everything you’ve done to make the journey to episode 100 so special. And now, let’s get…
Meditation 23: You Are Worthy
Feb 15, 2018 • 9 min
One of the most cherished, empowering, and attractive experiences in a relationship comes when both partners are strong in the belief of their own worthiness in the world. This meditation serves as a reminder of that strength and beauty: You Are Worthy.…
Meditation 22: Forgiveness
Feb 15, 2018 • 13 min
Carrying around feelings of blame, shame, anger, sadness, or apathy from un-forgiveness can be incredibly heavy on us. This forgiveness meditation will help you to gain a new perspective with the person or event that has made you feel stuck and unable to…
Meditation 21: Setting Boundaries
Feb 15, 2018 • 17 min
Many of us grow up learning to please others, to give up our personal space to ensure others are ok before ourselves. We violate our personal space and drop our boundaries in order to not offend others, maybe we walk on eggshells, attempting to keep the…
Meditation 20: Cleansing Relationships and Cutting Cords
Feb 15, 2018 • 8 min
Throughout our lives we experience relationship challenges, changes or even relationships that end. This is life. Often times we have a difficult time moving on or letting go when a relationship is in flux or ending.
Meditation 19: Setting Goals and Achieving Success
Feb 15, 2018 • 22 min
Reset your mind and body to the new frequency of you: a person of vision, accomplishment, success, and light. Let us journey.
Meditation 18: Reprogramming Limiting Beliefs
Feb 15, 2018 • 9 min
This meditation will reprogram the thoughts and beliefs we hold of ourselves that constrain us, those that prevent us from being who we are truly meant to be in the world. Let us journey.
Meditation 17: A guided meditation for clearing anxiety, stress and worry — for adults and teens
Feb 15, 2018 • 18 min
This is a meditation to release anxiety, stress and worry. Find a comfortable position, close your eyes, and allow yourself to relax and become fully present. Let us begin.
Meditation 16: Healing Codependency: A Guided Meditation
Feb 15, 2018 • 20 min
A healing inner child meditation for codependency, negative programming, and lack of self-love. Let us journey.
Meditation 14: A Guided Meditation for Finding Your True Self
Feb 15, 2018 • 18 min
We spend a lot of time searching for who we are on the outside of us when the direction we need to go instead is on the inside. Let us travel.
Meditation 13: Cleansing the Overwhelm
Feb 15, 2018 • 14 min
This meditation is excellent for anyone feeling overwhelmed, anxious, or stressed. In this meditation, we ground and cleanse to regain peace back in the present moment.
Meditation 12: A Cleansing Meditation for the Empath
Feb 15, 2018 • 11 min
To live as an empath means taking on the emotional and energetic burdens of the world around us. In this month’s mediation, I offer you a cleansing and grounding journey, a meditation to center you and help you find peace in noise. It is also a meditation…
Meditation 11: A 5-Minute Self-Love Meditation with Michelle
Feb 15, 2018 • 6 min
This 5-minute meditation promotes relaxation, healing, and self- love. It’s a wonderful meditation for emotional healing and/or physical healing or for anyone seeking greater peace in their lives.
Meditation 10: A 1-Minute Relaxation Meditation with Michelle
Feb 15, 2018 • 1 min
No time for meditation? No more excuses! In one minute this meditation promotes relaxation, brings you back to balance and create a sense of peace. It’s a wonderful way to start your day and do during the day whenever you need to re-center and de-stress.
Meditation 9: A 10-Minute Meditation for Creating Your Heart’s Desire
Feb 15, 2018 • 10 min
This 10-minute guided meditation will take you through a seven-step process to increase your manifestation success. It is an easy to follow creation process that includes the key steps in creation, using energy centers of the body to bring the creation…
Meditation 8: A 10-Minute Meditation to relieve Stress, Overwhelm, and Anxiety
Feb 15, 2018 • 10 min
This 10-minute meditation will help you relieve stress and anxiety all year round. With a daily practice, you’ll begin to find great inner strength from meditation — I hope you’ll use this to begin to discover the emotional freedom that is possible!
Meditation 7: Summer of Love
Feb 15, 2018 • 10 min
Meditation 6: Severing Old Patterns
Feb 15, 2018 • 8 min
Do you feel stuck? Do you continue to fall into the same dysfunctional patterns? This guided meditation helps to clear those patterns and make way for new empowering experiences.
Meditation 5: Accessing our Inner Child
Feb 15, 2018 • 19 min
We use this meditation to find and access our Inner Child. This is the part of us that is the container for our true feelings, true needs and innocence.
Meditation 4: Opening to Love
Feb 15, 2018 • 8 min
This is a guided heart opening meditation. It helps with opening our hearts to love from others and in loving ourselves.
Meditation 3: Inviting In Truth
Feb 15, 2018 • 9 min
Clears away old stories and limiting beliefs that are keeping us stuck and are in the way of living our most authentic lives.
Meditation 2: Purification Meditation
Feb 15, 2018 • 13 min
A guided meditation for purifying our selves and releasing old, disempowered thoughts, wounds and emotions (both unconscious and conscious) and uncovering our true selves.
Meditation 1: Grounding Meditation
Feb 15, 2018 • 11 min
A guided meditation for when we feel scattered, spacey, “not all here.” Grounding helps with focus, feeling present and awareness. It is beneficial to do this meditation daily. When we ground we are anchoring ourselves into the earth, which can be a very…
099: Vulnerability
Feb 13, 2018 • 15 min
Most of us grew up thinking that vulnerability equals weakness. Let’s get this straight right off the top: that is absolutely not true.
098: Transforming Triggers!
Feb 8, 2018 • 29 min
Trouble staying in your Adult Chair when you’re triggered? Me too! This week, I have a story all about my own triggering experience and I want to use it to demonstrate how to move through the chairs and release the power and energy that binds you in the…
097: DriveTime Download: Healing Trauma
Feb 1, 2018 • 34 min
Trauma comes in many shapes and sizes. From single events to long-running experiences that take away our sense of safety and security. Even if it doesn’t involve physical harm, it can lead toward isolation, depression, severe anxiety, and overwhelm.
096: DriveTime Download: Clearing Anxiety
Jan 25, 2018 • 23 min
Leaving work and feeling inspired — I have a new Drivetime Download for you! This week, I want to talk all about clearing anxiety.
095: Creating Personal Change from The Adult Chair
Jan 18, 2018 • 22 min
We’re in the middle of January right now and if you’re like most of us, you’re probably already giving up on some of your well-intentioned resolutions that you set on New Year’s Eve. That’s completely normal, even though it’s likely disappointing. This…
094: An Astrologer’s View of New Year Transitions with Rachel Lang
Jan 11, 2018 • 34 min
Were you feeling unnaturally thankful that 2017 ended, that you were embarking on a new journey for 2018? You’re not alone, and today’s guest is going to tell us all why!
093: Drivetime Download: Grief
Dec 21, 2017 • 15 min
Michelle is in the car again, this time answering some community questions on how to handle grief, particularly during the holidays!
092: Managing Holiday Gatherings from The Adult Chair
Dec 14, 2017 • 36 min
The holidays are upon is, and as a result more and more people are writing us to ask how you handle difficult family gatherings from the Adult Chair. So, we’re on it!
091: What do I do with my anger?
Dec 7, 2017 • 40 min
Anger is an emotion of change. If we learn to sit with our anger just as we sit with our other emotions, we can come to understand it, to learn from it, and maybe even to love it in time. This week on the show, we’re talking all about the anger that lives…
090: Stay Connected to Yourself and End Overwhelm at the Holidays
Nov 30, 2017 • 25 min
This week on the show, I want to share with you some of the tools and techniques that can help you stay strong and present during the turbulent holiday weeks. You deserve a restful and energizing break full of love and warmth — with the right tools, you…
089: Feeling Our Feelings with Ramona Reid
Nov 23, 2017 • 54 min
I’m back with my dear friend Ramona Reid on her radio show, Holistic Revolution Radio this week! Actually, this show was recorded last month, but we talked about all the things that are incredibly important for us to keep in mind over the Thanksgiving…
088: How to End Suffering
Nov 15, 2017 • 29 min
This week, we’re talking all about how to get off the boat to Suffering Island, and take control of our own stories by living in our Adult Chair’s fact and truth!
087: Take Responsibility and End the Victim Mentality
Nov 9, 2017 • 26 min
This week on the show we talk about what you might be doing if you’re in the role of the victim and I’ve got some great strategies to help you lift yourself RIGHT OUT of it!
086: The Power of Gratitude
Nov 2, 2017 • 19 min
Today on the show, we’re talking about the power of gratitude in your life and how you can build a daily practice of grace yourself!
085: The Power and the Promise of Journaling
Oct 26, 2017 • 33 min
Never thought much of journaling? Now’s your chance! We’ve got some tips and prompts to get you started writing with the intention to better understand yourself, and we’re thrilled to introduce the 30-Day Journaling Challenge for November 2017!
084: Raising Self-Esteem
Oct 19, 2017 • 33 min
Many of us have a fragile relationship with our self-esteem. Even those who wear a brave face may be struggling inside, fighting negative self-talk and our history of lack of validation. Today, we’re talking about reprogramming, new language that can help…
083: Building True Connections from The Adult Chair
Oct 12, 2017 • 23 min
Ready for better relationships in your life? Perhaps you crave deeper connections, healthier relationships with better communication? In today’s show, I talk about how to do just that.
082: DriveTime Download: Turbulent Times Equals Change is Coming
Oct 5, 2017 • 14 min
Does your life ever feel just plain turbulent? Your relationships are off center, you’re questioning your most important decisions, you’re full of anxiety and stress … I know I do!
081: Katie Hendricks Brings Plain Talk on Relationships and Intimacy in The Adult Chair
Sep 28, 2017 • 38 min
We’re nearing the end of our series on relationships and for our next-to-last episode, we have one of our favorite people on the hook to answer some of your best and most personal questions about your long-term relationships, marriages, and the intimacy…
080: DriveTime Download: How do I Feel My Emotions? A special for Facebook Members!
Sep 21, 2017 • 14 min
There is great power in feeling our emotions and in this special DriveTime Download, I give you three easy tips on how to begin to feel your emotions and open up to a whole new world.
079: Raising Teens from Your Adult Chair with James Wellborn
Sep 14, 2017 • 37 min
In this conversation with Dr. James Wellborn, we gain some new and valuable tools on how to parent from a healthy place while our teens test, push boundaries, and experiment, from high school and into a healthy adulthood.
078: Meditation, Mindfulness, and Peace with Buddhist Noah Levine
Sep 7, 2017 • 32 min
What does it mean to find happiness? Noah Levine tried to find it and on the way, he’s become one of the foremost instructors of mindfulness and meditation from the Buddhist perspective thanks to his own journey of peace, and he’s with us today to share…
077: DriveTime Download: What do you do with pain?
Aug 31, 2017 • 25 min
Once again, the car has shown itself to be a terrific vessel for inspiration! So many clients have been facing this central question that I found it a great time step back and share some guiding thoughts.
077: Mindful Eating from The Adult Chair
Aug 24, 2017 • 30 min
What does it mean to eat mindfully? Which chair are we usually in when we eat? What happens to your body when you approach food from a place of mindfulness and gratitude? We’ve got some answers for you, and five key messages you can tell yourself to…
075: Is Fasting in Your Future? IDM’s Megan Ramos Answers your Ketosis and Fasting Questions!
Aug 17, 2017 • 55 min
When we live in our Adult Chair, we live in the healthiest version of ourselves. This is not just about living an emotionally healthy lifestyle, but also living in a strong physical body, too. In fact, our emotional health is directly affected by our…
074: Start your Feng Shui Journey with Tisha Morris
Aug 10, 2017 • 36 min
Our guest today is Tisha Morris, founder of Earth Home and bestselling author on Feng Shui and the energy of our spaces.
073: The Healing Power of Breath with Michelle D’Avella
Aug 3, 2017 • 28 min
Today, we’re talking about your breath. Yes, we all breathe, but how often do you think about the way your breathing impacts your emotional well being or your physical health or your ability to respond to stress and anxiety? Our guest today tells us: not…
REBROADCAST — 26: Boundaries vs Confrontation
Jul 27, 2017 • 29 min
“If I don’t learn to take care of myself, who will?” Boundaries and confrontations are two very different things. One teaches others how we want to be treated and the other is getting in someone’s face to illicit change. Which one sounds better to you?…
REBROADCAST — 25: Relationship Rescue!
Jul 20, 2017 • 34 min
We’re still on vacation! But this week we bring you an old favorite from October 2015. This week: Relationships! Need help with a relationship? Whether it be your partner, family member, or friend, this information will shift how you interact in…
REBROADCAST — 7: Fighting Fables: Facing our Stories and Assumptions
Jul 13, 2017 • 19 min
We’re taking the month off so this week, a classic from deep in the archives! This week on the show, we’re talking about stories. An example: You’re on the highway. Someone races up next to you and cuts into your lane. You’re surprised and scared for an…
072: The New Year, Energy & Inclusion with Ramona Reid
Jul 6, 2017 • 41 min
Happy July everybody! We’re taking the month off with new shows but we have some good stuff to share on the podcast even while we’re on vacation! First up this week, let’s take a trip back to the new year.
071: The Challenge to Change Black & White Thinking!
Jun 29, 2017 • 28 min
What is black and white thinking? It’s thinking in extremes and absolutes.
070: I am not your lifejacket! — Ending Codependency in Relationships
Jun 22, 2017 • 30 min
It’s not your job to fix those most important to you.
069: Gaining Confidence in Relationships with Intimidating People
Jun 15, 2017 • 24 min
Clint from Cape Town, South Africa writes in with a comment and question we wanted to face head on this week.
068: Ending Relationships From our Adult Chair
Jun 8, 2017 • 22 min
The ending of relationships can be hard, especially when we don’t understand why they are ending or feel hurt over how they ended.
067: “I don’t do emotions”
Jun 1, 2017 • 22 min
We all experience emotional pain off and on throughout our lives. Relationships end, people and pets die, jobs end. Pain could be just around the next corner! The problem is that as humans we think that facing pain means putting it away, hiding from it,…
066: The Secret to Helping Others Through Pain
May 18, 2017 • 20 min
When we are met with a friend or family member in pain — or grief, sadness, really any emotion — our instinct is to console them, to somehow help relieve their discomfort or even fix their pain.
065: How to Connect With Your Inner Child
May 11, 2017 • 22 min
Have you ever found yourself listening to us talking about connecting to our inner child, and wondered, “right, I get it, but how?” We’re going to help you today!
064: Parenting Teens with the Adult Chair
May 4, 2017 • 20 min
As our kids move into their teenage years, they begin to distance themselves from us as parents. It’s perfectly normal! But that doesn’t make it any easier on us, and it forces us to change our approach to communicating with them.
063: Arielle Ford is here to help you manifest your soulmate!
Apr 27, 2017 • 31 min
According to Arielle Ford, one in three relationships that end in marriage start online today.
062: Facing Our Relationship with Food, Sugar, and Addiction with Karly Randolph Pitman
Apr 20, 2017 • 41 min
Our relationship with food is supposed to be one of healthful nurturing, building a strong family and community connection, growth and bounty.
061: Building Your Meditation Practice
Apr 13, 2017 • 25 min
While most of us don’t actually have a regular meditation practice, that doesn’t mean a regular practice isn’t something to aspire to.
060: Breaking Patterns
Apr 4, 2017 • 21 min
Your life is a revolving door. You date the same people. You report to the same bosses. Over and over again, in spite of the effort you’re making to change your life, you find that you’re stuck in the patterns that have defined you and now you want to get…
059: Surviving Middle School — Sage Advice from Parenting Expert Michelle Icard
Mar 30, 2017 • 30 min
Navigating the murky waters of middle school can be tough on a kid. But navigating the murky waters of parenting a middle schooler can be even tougher!
058: Sad, Lonely and Empty
Mar 23, 2017 • 20 min
We cover our feelings with numbing agents. Food. Alcohol. Work. The drive of our adolescent chair tells us that if we only had something to fill these holes in our lives, we’d be better, so we eat more, drink more, work more.
057: Cataloging the results of our Childhood Programming with Lisa Romano
Mar 16, 2017 • 30 min
The baggage we bring with us to adulthood can be stunningly resilient. Relationships with our family, friends, and mentors have a staying power far beyond our conscious memories.
056: What do I do with my Feelings and Emotions?
Mar 9, 2017 • 16 min
As humans, we feel things deeply. But what do we do with those feelings and emotions get stuck?
055: What’s Life Like in the Adult Chair?
Mar 2, 2017 • 23 min
The journey of The Adult Chair is not one of a destination, but rather an understanding.
054: Narcissism, Codependence, and the Self-Love Deficit with Ross Rosenberg
Feb 23, 2017 • 29 min
Today on the show, Ross Rosenberg joins us to talk about narcissism and codependence.
What is Life Like in the Adult Chair?
Feb 14, 2017 • 10 min
What’s life like in the Adult Chair? Hi everyone! I felt really inspired today when I was in the shower and I decided to record my inspiration while I got ready this morning. Please excuse the banging around I was doing as I didn’t know at the…
Meditation 15: I Am Love
Feb 14, 2017 • 8 min
We’re nothing but love, and we don’t have to do anything to get it, for it is within.
053: Let’s Talk about Sex.
Feb 9, 2017 • 37 min
Yes, it’s true: intimacy is about more than just sex. But the physiological and psychological benefits of investing time and attention on your sex life can do wonders when it comes to rekindling intimacy in your relationship.
052: Keys to a Successful Relationship
Feb 2, 2017 • 28 min
It’s February! That means we’re entering the season of love around these parts, and what better time is there to talk about the keys to a successful, strong, long-lasting and loving relationship.
051: Find your Authentic Self at the Heart of Your Enneagram
Jan 26, 2017 • 29 min
The Enneagram provides us a method for understanding our own personality in terms of our relationship with the world and our true selves.
050: The Art of Surrender
Jan 19, 2017 • 37 min
When we surrender, we’re choosing to let go of control of a situation. It’s consciously letting go of the ego and drive to dominate a situation with trust that the future will unfold as it is meant to. This is a position of peace, not trauma, relief, not…
049: Am I a Fraud? Imposter Syndrome and You!
Jan 5, 2017 • 23 min
The voice of the imposter is a voice that lives in all of us. It comes from an instinct that is thousands of years old, one designed to protect us and keep us safe in our communities.
Michelle joins Ramona Reid on Holistic Revolution Radio
Dec 22, 2016 • 53 min
Want to learn how to love yourself, take off your masks, and live more authentically? Here’s the place to do it! Listen to this replay of Michelle’s interview on Nashville’s “Holistic Revolution” radio show with host Ramona Reid. They discussed the power…
048: Are You an Empath?
Dec 8, 2016 • 26 min
Do you feel emotions deeply? Do you know how others are feeling, sometimes before they do? Do you struggle with fatigue or overwhelm? You may be an empath.
047: The Many Faces of Depression
Nov 10, 2016 • 21 min
For so many, the experience of “depression” is actually the experience of getting “stuck.” When we get stuck and feel like we have no options, we can fall into hopelessness and helplessness. Emotions like these are ones we want to run from and numb out.
046: How do you teach your child to sit in the adult chair?
Oct 27, 2016 • 16 min
If you’re a human parent, you’ve probably faced some version of this question. How do you teach your kids how to be emotionally present in the world?
045: How do you set the tone of your day?
Oct 13, 2016 • 13 min
So many clients have been coming to me dealing with daily stress. You know the feeling — you might not be able to put your finger on it, but the accumulation of stressors in your life feel like 10,000 pounds on your back.
044: Introverts & Extroverts — Which one are you?
Sep 29, 2016 • 30 min
Understanding who we are at our core can help us better relate to the world around us and feel more comfortable in our skins at the same time!
043: Living through Cancer in The Adult Chair
Sep 15, 2016 • 56 min
Connie is a client and dear friend and has joined me today for a conversation around her experience from the beginning of her diagnosis with aggressive breast cancer, through resolution.
042: Inviting your Relationship into the Adult Chair with Michelle and Graham Chalfant
Jul 28, 2016 • 45 min
Worlds collide! This week on the show, for the very first time in over three years, Pete and I got to meet face-to-face!
041: Breaking Down Barriers with “Liz”
Jul 14, 2016 • 35 min
Today I’m celebrating my friends! A few weeks back I shared an incredible meal with some of my closest friends and, if you’re a listener of this show you can imagine what came up: The Adult Chair.
040: Finding the Motivation to Change with Dr. Ted Klontz
Jun 30, 2016 • 34 min
I’m so excited to introduce you all to Dr. Ted Klontz. Ted is a psychologist based in Nashville and he’s here today because he’s a pioneer in the development and application of tools and techniques that help people to change their troublesome behaviors.
039: Addiction & Forgiveness in the Home
Jun 16, 2016 • 38 min
This week’s show comes courtesy of a listener with some incredibly important questions around addiction, living with family suffering with addictive behaviors, and forgiving an emotionally distant parent.
038: Who’s sitting in my Adolescent Chair?
Jun 2, 2016 • 25 min
Just because we might be considered adults chronologically doesn’t mean we’re always acting our age! That’s the psychological trick of the Chairs, and this week I hope to give you all some clarification.
037: Dr. Dodge Rea — Introducing the GRACE Sequence
May 19, 2016 • 45 min
It is with great pleasure that I introduce to you Dr. Dodge Rea, the originator of The GRACE Sequence.
036: Mindfulness and Sitting with our Negative Emotions
May 5, 2016 • 29 min
You can’t heal negative emotions. They exist, and we all move in and out of them throughout our days, weeks … our whole lives.
035: Parenting in the 21st Century — Growing Healthy Teens with guest Dr. James Wellborn
Apr 21, 2016 • 48 min
Dr. James Wellborn is a clinical psychologist who specializes in individual, family, and group psychotherapy with children and adolescents addressing the range of challenges faced by families and teens during this period of development.
034: How do we become Conscious Parents?
Apr 7, 2016 • 27 min
Becoming a conscious parent means getting to know yourself well enough that you don’t let your own emotions get in the way of understanding who your kids are growing up to be.
033: Mastering Forgiveness
Mar 10, 2016 • 23 min
Forgiveness is a deeply personal thing. But whether you label yourself as a “forgiving person” because you’re afraid of conflict in the adolescent chair, or living in an authentically forgiving place in the adult chair is determined first and foremost by…
032: Returning to your Seat of Power
Feb 25, 2016 • 50 min
Some days, it just feels like the world is conspiring against you. These are the days that shake our confidence, our sense of peace, our ability to relate to others — they’re the worst! The trick to living in The Adult Chair is not developing some magical…
031: Learning to Date Yourself
Feb 12, 2016 • 16 min
It’s February! With all the talk of love in the air leading into this Valentine’s Day weekend, we thought it just the right time to share our own spin on romance: learning to date yourself!
030: The Code author Tony Borroughs on Intention and The Highest Good
Jan 28, 2016 • 35 min
Envision Only Positive Outcomes So says Tony Burroughs this week as we continue our conversation on intentionality.
029: The Power of Intention
Jan 14, 2016 • 19 min
It’s January! With the turn of the New Year come all sorts of promises we make to ourselves as we look to make change in our lives. From losing weight to desires of greater mindfulness, these resolutions are signposts that we’ve crossed another year off…
028: Getting Started with Meditation
Dec 14, 2015 • 17 min
Want to learn how to de-stress and find balance in the holiday season or anytime throughout the year? Meditation is a wonderful practice that can do this for you.
027: Who are you? Self-validation & Projection
Nov 25, 2015 • 16 min
When we look outside of ourselves for validation for who we are, we become dependent on others for our sense of self and happiness. When we learn to self-validate, we become internally strong in knowing who we are.
026: Boundaries vs Confrontation
Nov 5, 2015 • 29 min
Boundaries and confrontations are two very different things. One teaches others how we want to be treated and the other is getting in someone’s face to elicit change. Which one sounds better to you?
025: Relationship Rescue
Oct 22, 2015 • 34 min
Need help with a relationship? Whether it be your partner, family member, or friend, this information will shift how you interact in relationships.
024: Communicating with our Inner Child — A Session with Sarah
Oct 8, 2015 • 25 min
We get triggered, feel painful emotions and go into “fix it mode.” The answer to our triggers and pain is to find the core emotion and go into it. This is where true healing occurs. Bonding with our Inner Child is the only way to do this.
023: How do I find my Adult Chair in the middle of an emotional storm?
Sep 24, 2015 • 29 min
The concept of the Adult Chair is simple. We live in the moment, in fact and truth, set healthy boundaries, feel empowered and we become an observer of our lives (and not stuck in the drama) and make decisions for our lives. Sounds like a wonderful idea,…
022: Walking the Spiritual Path: Finding Peace in a Pile of Crap
Jul 22, 2015 • 21 min
Walking the spiritual path is not easy. It’s not instant. It takes practice and dedication. These are the truths of awakening that sometimes plague those on the hunt for instant gratification. More often than not, it’s less a field of wildflowers than a…
021: Grounding and the Energy of the Earth with Sarah Weiss
Jun 17, 2015 • 47 min
I’m so excited to have Sarah Weiss of the SpiritHeal Institute on the show with us today. With Sarah, I’d like to introduce the concept of grounding on the show, an incredibly important energy practice that can help you find your true self.
020: Open Up to Voice Dialogue with J. Tamar Stone
Jun 4, 2015 • 28 min
Our guest today is J. Tamar Stone. I’m so excited to introduce Tamar’s work to you today as she is not only capable of amazing things, her concept of Voice Dialogue and Body Dialogue fit absolutely perfectly into the work we’re doing in The Adult Ch
019: The Law of Attraction
May 21, 2015 • 27 min
This week, we’re talking all about the Law of Attraction and I share a great big lesson that can help you develop focus while not allowing yourself to be undermined by your own subconscious!
018: Healing the Mother Wound with Bethany Webster
May 7, 2015 • 33 min
Timing is everything, right? And just in time for Mother’s Day, we have an amazing conversation with an amazing woman and healer. Bethany Webster joins us on The Adult Chair to introduce us to the Mother Wound.
017: Finding Hope in the Face of Life’s Greatest Challenges
Apr 23, 2015 • 23 min
Karen Campion is one of my very favorite people. She’s a holistic therapist and her inner child and alternative therapies have helped so many people find peace and freedom from pain in their lives.
016: Cultivating Our Deepest Connections
Apr 16, 2015 • 21 min
I had a conversation with my husband this week that got me thinking about connections. Human connections. So this week on the show I want to talk about how we support one another when we need it most.
015: Tapping Your Way to Pain-Free with EFT
Apr 9, 2015 • 21 min
This week, we’re talking about EFT, or “Emotional Freedom Technique.” You may have heard of it referred to as tapping for short, and it’s one of my favorite tools for helping my clients break free from anxiety, depression, generalized stress, and pain!
014: The Shadow
Apr 2, 2015 • 27 min
This week on the show, Pete and I talk about the shadow, how to move into a mode of discovery, to unlock and embrace the secrets of our shadow, and work to become whole.
013: Accessing our Inner Child — A Meditation with Michelle
Mar 26, 2015 • 24 min
But accessing our inner child is not always easy, nor is it always comfortable without some help. That’s why this week on the show, Michelle offers a meditation, a guide on your journey to reach your inner child. Sit back, close your eyes, and reach out…
012: Love Addiction & Love Avoidance with Special Guest Sarah Bridge
Mar 18, 2015 • 30 min
This week on the show, Sarah Bridge joins us today to help frame love addiction and love avoidance and her approach to helping others learn to love more authentically in her own practice.
011: Codependency: I’m OK if You’re OK
Mar 3, 2015 • 35 min
This week, we take on codependence from the perspective of the chairs, and talk about how stunted emotional growth can keep us living in our adolescent when it comes to some of the most important relationships of our lives.
010: Anxiety & Fear — In Practice with “Lola”
Feb 24, 2015 • 23 min
This week on The Adult Chair, Michelle Chalfant and Pete Wright discuss anxiety and fear, demonstrated through the courage of “Lola” — a woman learning to combat the anxiety in her own life, willing to work with Michelle while being recorded to share here.
009: Addressing Addictions
Feb 17, 2015 • 29 min
This week on the show, Michelle leads us through the high level story of addiction and shares techniques for spotting addictive behavior, and uncovering the pain that sits beneath the surface. It’s a terrific conversation that sets the stage for more…
008: Want a successful relationship? Have a seat in the Adult Chair
Feb 10, 2015 • 24 min
The strongest relationships in our lives come when we are able to communicate with our partner from our adult chair, and they are communicating with us from their own.
007: Fighting Fables: Facing our Stories & Assumptions
Feb 4, 2015 • 19 min
This week on the show, we’re talking about stories. These are the stories we tell ourselves to help us rationalize our reality. This week on the show, Michelle Chalfant shares where these stories come from, why it’s so important to understand how they…
006: Creating the Best Relationships with Our Selves
Jan 13, 2015 • 31 min
Today on the show, Michelle Chalfant shares her process for helping others to determine the source of inner struggle through a challenging and practical experience leading Pete through some of his fears as a father.
005: Addressing Our Triggers
Dec 23, 2014 • 18 min
This week on the show, we’re talking about triggers, how they hit us, how we can better understand them, and most importantly how we can create a new habit of curiosity in our triggers as we learn to understand ourselves in the process!
004: The Adult Chair
Dec 16, 2014 • 20 min
Over the past two weeks, our conversation has centered on the child and adolescent chairs, moving from the creativity and trust of the child to the judgment and doubt of the adolescent. Today, we take on our namesake, the adult chair.
003: The Adolescent Chair
Dec 12, 2014 • 13 min
The adolescent represents the formative emotional years erupting from the child.
002: The Child Chair
Dec 2, 2014 • 23 min
This week on The Adult Chair, Michelle introduces us to the child chair and brings into focus the path we can take to discover our relationship with our own inner child as we continue our series on the three chairs.
001: Introducing The Adult Chair — Meeting Michelle
Nov 21, 2014 • 18 min
This week on The Adult Chair, Michelle Chalfant shares a bit of her own story with Pete Wright, the story that lead to this podcast. She provides an overview to her guided approach to living authentically that she uses with clients each day.