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Grandma’s Baggage Edition
Nov 15 • 57 min
Rebecca Lavoie, Carvell Wallace, and Gabriel Roth discuss an academic turnaround in the Lavoie household, Californian air quality, a kid’s dislike his grandma, and a tough question about the life of an unsupported military mom.This episode is brought to…
Weed Stash Edition
Nov 8 • 47 min
Carvell Wallace, Rebecca Lavoie, and Gabriel Roth discuss what to do when your teenager discovers your weed stash, some major parenting fails, recommendations, and more.This episode is brought to you by the following advertisers: Gobble, for $50 off your…
Patronising Mirth Edition
Nov 1 • 44 min
Gabriel Roth and Rebecca Lavoie discuss a recent Slate article attacking THIS VERY PODCAST with the writer, Rebecca Onion. Also, empty thermoses, parent teacher conferences, and a question about sleepovers and night terrorsThis episode is brought to you…
Don’t Go to France Edition
Oct 25 • 46 min
Gabriel Roth, Rebecca Lavoie, and Carvell Wallace answer a listener question about a 6-year-old who’s getting a little too close to her boyfriend. Then they decide whether it makes sense to bring a newborn baby along for an overseas vacation. Zulily, for…
Don’t Look Free Childcare in the Mouth Edition
Oct 18 • 49 min
This week: Gabriel Roth, Rebecca Lavoie, and Carvell Wallace discuss homework triumphs, a followup on yelling, questions about watching your insecurities play out in your children, and whether to get on grandma’s case for letting the kids watch screens.…
Cold Turkey Edition
Oct 11 • 58 min
Carvell Wallace, Rebecca Lavoie, and Gabriel Roth discuss YELLING! and other subjects including kids mocking the weight of their teachers, the privilege conversation, stolen cell phones, and making sick days fun. This episode is brought to you by Mac and…
Frivolous With Money Edition
Oct 4 • 56 min
Carvell Wallace, Rebecca Lavoie, and Gabriel Roth discuss questions about kids and divorce, plus “Triumphs and Fails” and recommendations.
Get It Together Edition
Sep 27 • 48 min
Gabriel Roth, Carvell Wallace and Rebecca Lavoie discuss surprising teen triumphs, depressing school lunches, the boredom of tears, and more. This episode is brought to you by Mac and Mia, an online clothing subscription service your kid will love. Take…
SPECIAL: Surviving a School Shooting, From a Teacher’s Point of View
Sep 23 • 30 min
In an intimate conversation, three educators who survived school shootings talk to Slate’s Dahlia Lithwick about the trauma of going back to the classroom. For a transcript, visit Slate.com/TeacherPodcast
Toxic Preschool Edition
Sep 20 • 48 min
Rebecca Lavoie, Gabriel Roth, and Steve Lickteig discuss (relatively) late-in-life bicycle lessons, correcting your kid’s college essays, toxic masculinity, a potentially toxic preschool teacher, and more.This episode is brought to you by the following…
Recovering Fruitbat Edtion
Sep 13 • 54 min
Carvell Wallace, Isaac Butler, and Ruth Graham discuss how to get your kid to go to sleep already, angry-driving with fussing toddlers, letting go of expectations around your kids, and the ethics of breaking into your teenager’s phone. This episode is…
Kidnappers Not Going to Let Me Use My Phone! Edition
Sep 6 • 51 min
Carvell Wallace, Rebecca Lavoie, and Gabriel Roth discuss the tyranny of demanding teens charge their phones, beginning of school-blues, balancing time between kids, and an interview with Slate’s Rebecca Onion about how parenting groups are making it…
Age of Fear Edition
Aug 30 • 66 min
Gabriel Roth, Rebecca Lavoie, and Carvell Wallace talk to Kim Brooks, author of Small Animals: Parenthood in the Age of Fear, as well as a listener question about a neighbor on the sex-offender registry, plus triumphs and fails and recommendations.
Bad Grandpa Edition
Aug 23 • 56 min
Carvell Wallace, Dan Kois, and Katherine Goldstein discuss calendar fails, the mundane unfairness of paying for daycare with a health care savings account, when to teach kids to clean up after themselves, and listener questions about dealing with a…
Call Me By Your Screen Name Edition
Aug 16 • 50 min
Gabriel Roth, Rebecca Lavoie, and Carvell Wallace discuss a fun game about getting kicked in the face, what it means when children lie for attention, and whether a 17 year old boy should be dating a 25 year old man via Tinder. Plus, Triumphs and Fails and…
Eighth Grade Edition
Aug 13 • 47 min
Allison Benedikt, Carvell Wallace, and Rebecca Lavoie discuss taxidermied animals, being without your kids, summer camp compromises, a listener question about whether to take a young child on a trip to Africa, and an interview with Bo Burnham, writer and…
Sponsored: Coffee & Crayons Episode 1: Teaching Inclusivity & Kindness with Amy Webb
Aug 6 • 27 min
Usually in this feed, you get Mom and Dad Are Fighting, a show about parenting triumphs and troubles. This week, we’re bringing you something a little different. A co-production between Target and Slate Studios, this is Coffee & Crayons, a podcast about…
Sand Couch Edition
Aug 2 • 60 min
Gabriel Roth, Rebecca Lavoie, and Carvell Wallace continue the conversation about King Kong and the gorilla suit, discuss sand couches, teen films, feminist slogans on two year old boy’s t-shirts, and the grooming habits of teenage boys. Subscribe to…
Guy in a Gorilla Suit Edition
Jul 26 • 58 min
Gabriel Roth, Carvell Wallace and guest host Dana Stevens discuss the difficulty of homespun ABBA cover sessions, trusting teens, perfectionist tennis lessons, bad dads, and more.
Blockchain Baby Names Edition
Jul 19 • 58 min
Rebecca Lavoie, Carvell Wallace, and Gabriel Roth discuss how to pick a baby’s last name, the allure of Avenger’s pajamas, salvaging a love of baseball out of a personal hatred, driving in cars with teens, and how to deal when your boy keeps getting…
Accidental Drunkenness Edition
Jul 12 • 54 min
Gabriel Roth, Carvell Wallace, and Rebecca Lavoie discuss mysterious sibling bonding, weird eye infections, relatives who bully kids, and younger sibling-induced touchiness.
Co-Parenting Conundrum Edition
Jul 5 • 47 min
Rebecca Lavoie and Carvell Wallace discuss haunted AirBnBs, California kids, overbearing mom-reminders, low-key deadbeat dads, co-parenting responsibilities, screen time habits to model for your kids, and more.
Summer Break Edition
Jun 28 • 41 min
Rebecca Lavoie, Carvell Wallace, and Gabriel Roth discuss summer break! Is it better to structure your kid’s summers or let them veg out? Carvell’s kids, Ezra and Georgia drop by the studio to offer their opinion on the subject. Plus, picking playdates…
How to Take Summers Off and Still Get Promoted
Jun 25 • 30 min
Michelle Hickox has found a way to build a powerful career as a CFO, and take summers off and still get promoted. How? First, she had to believe that she could, then she had to prove to others it was possible. Now she wants everyone to know how she did…
Do More Edition
Jun 21 • 54 min
Gabriel Roth, Rebecca Lavoie, and Carvell Wallace discuss the situation at the border, anti-mom bias in the workplace with Katherine Goldstein, how not to model vices for your kids, and more.
Easy Baby Envy Edition
Jun 14 • 49 min
Rebecca Lavoie, Carvell Wallace, and Gabriel Roth discuss feeling envious of parents who’s parenting comes easily, how to rearrange a physical household post-divorce, new college scholarships, the diversity of the senate page program, and kids birthday…
Make Daycare Great Again Edition
Jun 7 • 46 min
Gabriel Roth, Rebecca Lavoie, and Sam Adams discuss whether one should employ the services of a Trump supporting day-care, what to do about bath-supply snatching kids, high school graduations, guitar lessons, and much more
Circumcision Conundrum Edition
May 31 • 57 min
This week we’re joined by Wendy Zukerman of the podcast Science Vs. to discuss the science and ethics behind circumcision, plus failed video shoots, painting bedrooms on vacation, too-voracious readers, where babies come from, and much more.
Existential Tantrum Edition
May 24 • 56 min
Rebecca Lavoie and Carvell Wallace discuss Carvell’s kids anti-authoritarian tendencies, what it means to be “Henry’s mom”, a tough question about a manipulative ex husband, and how to deal with tantrums when you’re depressed, anxious, and pregnant.
Great Grandma Name Debate Edition
May 17 • 54 min
Carvell Wallace, Rebecca Lavoie, and Isaac Butler discuss the question tearing the Slate Parenting Facebook group apart: do you let a grandparent name herself “Nama”? Plus, finding parental commiseration, one-weekend-potty training, and more.
Make Your Own Dang Breakfast Edition
May 10 • 54 min
Rebecca Lavoie, Carvell Wallace, and Dan Kois discuss sibling solidarity in the face of morning lateness, new solutions to those morning routines, difficult parents and destination events, the effect of a parent’s mental illness on their children, plus…
Four Wheelers and a Hot Tub Edition
May 3 • 48 min
Gabriel Roth, Carvell Wallace, and Rebecca Lavoie discuss the danger inherent in eating watermelon rinds, kid’s bad taste in music, if and how to forbid teens from having sex, the rudeness of texting, and more.
Joyless Slog Edition
Apr 26 • 51 min
Gabriel Roth, Rebecca Lavoie, and Allison Benedikt discuss kid anger fails, reading getting in the way of basic life functions, the joy of barely passing German class, the joyless slog of the early parenting years, and what to do about teens and drinking…
Falling Piano Edition
Apr 19 • 58 min
Gabriel Roth and Carvell Wallace are joined by Marlo Mack of the How to be a Girl podcast to discuss executive functions, when to badger your kids about hand-washing, disclosing sensitive information to soon-to-be-relatives, whether a mom should push her…
Reservoir Puppies Edition
Apr 12 • 57 min
Gabriel Roth, Rebecca Lavoie, and Carvell Wallace discuss reluctant playdates, college manipulation, digital loss in the iCloud, how to have a familial relationship with your step-son, kids noticing violence on TV, and much more.
Fascist Haircut Edition
Apr 5 • 57 min
Gabriel Roth, Rebecca Lavoie, and Carvell Wallace discuss raising children of a different skin color from your own, whether we should allow kids to have fascist haircuts, spring break schedules, Dungeons & Dragons, bro dates, and more.
Anonymous Sex Question Box Edition
Mar 29 • 42 min
Gabriel Roth, Rebecca Lavoie, and Carvell Wallace discuss the terror of not teaching a child to ride a bike, Rebecca’s “beautiful” daughter, fluids, and a difficult question about a child with a potential and non-specific disability.
Technological Dystopia Edition
Mar 22 • 52 min
Carvell Wallace, Gabriel Roth, and Rebecca Lavoie discuss an educational math game called Prodigy, and how to deal with a kid’s potential over-interest in a video game, then a follow-up to the controversial chicken pox discussion from a few weeks back,…
Simpering Airhead Mermaid Edition
Mar 15 • 47 min
Gabriel Roth, Rebecca Lavoie, and Katherine Goldstein discuss failed voice lessons, resigning yourself to chicken nuggets, dude time, what to do about sexist cartoons, how to cope with friends with bad parenting technique, plus recommendations and more.
Minimalist Hellscape Edition
Mar 8 • 65 min
Carvell Wallace, Rebecca Lavoie, and Gabriel Roth discuss the cause and treatment of childhood anxiety with Lynn Lyons, LICSW. Also an overwound Leo, a follow-up about summer camp for kids-of-color, managing kids acquisition of knick knacks, and more.
Chickenpox for the Soul Edition
Mar 1 • 47 min
Carvell Wallace, Allison Benedikt, and Gabriel Roth debate the ethics of exposing anti-vaxxer’s kids to the chicken pox, when to step in on undeserved discipline, suspicious Harriet Tubman essays, and much more. Please fill out the Slate podcast survey at…
Professionalized Childhood Edition
Feb 22 • 55 min
Gabriel Roth, Rebecca Lavoie, and Carvell Wallace discuss a followup from last week’s toxic mother-in-law situation, mean kids, forced activities, the power of Black Panther, Mickey Mouse t-shirt privilege, and much more.
Vintage Suitcase Edition
Feb 15 • 60 min
Gabriel Roth, Rebecca Lavoie, and Carvell Wallace discuss a parable of vintage suitcases, valentines in the yellow room, false accusations of serious crimes, lazy dads, and much more.
Secret Twins Edition
Feb 8 • 48 min
Rebecca Lavoie, Carvell Wallace, and Gabriel Roth discuss how and whether to reveal a stuffed animal related conspiracy, whether sexual abuse at camp should worry parents, teaching boys to wash their clothes, the sexism of dress codes and more.
Binky Barter Edition
Feb 1 • 53 min
Rebecca Lavoie, Carvell Wallace and Katherine Goldstein discuss a mostly successful binky-for-trains program, answer questions about a difficult divorce, and reading, plus more “Triumphs and Fails” and recommendations.
The Fifteen Candles Edition
Jan 25 • 46 min
Gabriel Roth, Rebecca Lavoie, and Carvell Wallace discuss a question from a listener about racism in the classroom, and another question about children counting calories. Plus “Triumphs and Fails” and recommendations.
Too Cool For School Edition
Jan 18 • 47 min
Carvell Wallace, Rebecca Lavoie, and Gabriel Roth interview Ann Hulbert, author of Off the Charts: The Hidden Lives and Lessons of American Child Prodigies, and take a question from a listener with daddy problems.
Look Who’s Back Edition
Jan 11 • 55 min
Carvell Wallace and Gabriel Roth are joined by Allison Benedikt to discuss Ruth Graham’s article “My Life Is a Waking Nightmare” about the world of online parenting advice, answer a question about a grandparent who doesn’t visit often enough, plus…
Becoming Aunt Gertie Edition
Jan 4 • 45 min
Gabriel Roth, Rebecca Lavoie, and Carvell Wallace discuss a question from a listener about whether to let an abusive step parent into the life of her children, and another question about when and how often to let children win at games. Plus “Triumphs and…
Potty Camp Edition
Dec 28, 2017 • 48 min
Gabriel Roth, Rebecca Lavoie, and Carvell Wallace discuss how many performances of Bye Bye Birdie is too many, what’s normal around divorced families holidays, and how to potty train without ruining your child.
Spurious Holiday Grinch Edition
Dec 21, 2017 • 46 min
Gabriel Roth, Rebecca Lavoie, and Carvell Wallace gather round the podcasting hearth for a holiday edition of Mom and Dad Are Fighting, with holiday-related listener questions and recommendations, plus “Triumphs and Fails” and more.
Your Child is Made of Meat Edition
Dec 14, 2017 • 55 min
Gabriel Roth, Rebecca Lavoie, and Carvell Wallace discuss Periscope’s problem with online predators with Slate’s April Glaser, Rebecca’s big news, Carvell’s creeping fail, and Gabe’s three kiss accident in “Triumphs and Fails” and “Recommendations”.
“What’s Elf on the Shelf?” Edition
Dec 7, 2017 • 54 min
Rebecca Lavoie and Katherine Goldstein explain Elf on the Shelf to Carvell Wallace, dealing with estranged parents and how to introduce them to your kids, whether following the rules too much is bad for kids, and the joy and sorrow of holiday traditions.…
Grandpa Rules Edition
Nov 30, 2017 • 54 min
Rebecca Lavoie, Carvell Wallace, and Gabriel Roth discuss their annoyingly triumphant week, how to raise your kids outside of the influence of toxic masculinity, and what to do about a doting grandpa. Plus more in Triumphs and Fails and Recommendations.
Who’s Your Mommy Edition
Nov 23, 2017 • 52 min
Rebecca Lavoie, Carvell Wallace, and Gabriel Roth discuss the effect of leather jackets on teen boys, why Sartre is so annoying for parents, questions about when it’s OK for a kid to call a step-parent “mom” and if giving kids freedom also enables their…
Sadistic Track Coach Edition
Nov 16, 2017 • 49 min
Gabriel Roth, Rebecca Lavoie, and Carvell Wallace discuss how to deal with verbally abusive dad-coaches, Gabe’s not-messed-up weekend with Leo, a question about in-laws whose culture you disagree with, and more in Triumphs and Fails and recommendations.
If You Give a Mouse a Handout Edition
Nov 9, 2017 • 54 min
Gabriel Roth, Carvell Wallace, and Katherine Goldstein discuss the welfare state critique of To Give a Mouse a Cookie, children’s negotiating skills, potty training, Shrinky Dinks, and more. Plus an interview with Lauren Brody, author of The Fifth…
What’s Under the Bed Edition
Nov 2, 2017 • 51 min
Carvell Wallace, Rebecca Lavoie, and Gabriel Roth discuss phone etiquette, what to do about a teenage boy’s under-bed ephemera, trick or treating, a tough question about a father who doesn’t get along with his son, and more.
Your Life Is Terrible Edition
Oct 26, 2017 • 47 min
Gabriel Roth, Rebecca Lavoie, and Carvell Wallace discuss carpool politics, daddy’s girls, and how late capitalism makes fools of us all in listener questions, “Triumphs and Fails”, and recommendations.
Poison Resentment Edition
Oct 19, 2017 • 58 min
Rebecca Lavoie, Carvell Wallace, and Gabriel Roth sit down with John Culhane, author of Slate’s Hey, Daddy! column about being a gay dad of twins, plus step-parenting resentments, the sad end of bedtime reading time, and Rebecca’s new family project in…
Some Kids Are Jerks Edition
Oct 12, 2017 • 44 min
Rebecca Lavoie and Gabriel Roth talk to Elissa Strauss about her article in Elle, “The Leftover Embryo Crisis”, answer a question about dealing with friends whose kids don’t get along with their kids, plus “Triumphs and Fails” and recommendations.
Full Brony Edition
Oct 5, 2017 • 47 min
Gabriel Roth and Carvell Wallace discuss broken phones, how to gift an inheritance, My Little Pony: the Movie, and are joined by Slate’s Aisha Harris to tackle a tough question about American Girl dolls.
Parental Obsolescence Edition
Sep 28, 2017 • 59 min
Rebecca Lavoie, Carvell Wallace and Gabriel Roth sit down with Suzanne Bouffard, author of THE MOST IMPORTANT YEAR: Pre-Kindergarten and the Future of Our Children to discuss the state of pre-K education. Plus, “triumphs and fails”, and recommendations.…
Emotional Bloodshed Edition
Sep 21, 2017 • 62 min
Gabriel Roth, Carvell Wallace, and Rebecca Lavoie discuss how to deal with a longterm toddler beef, how to feel about well subsidised adult stepchildren, teen street harassment, and more. Plus “Triumphs and Fails” and recommendations. It’s pledge week on…
The Competitive Step-Parenting Edition
Sep 14, 2017 • 50 min
Rebecca Lavoie, Gabriel Roth, and Carvell Wallace answer a call about managing the adult relationships in a step-child’s life, and Carvell shares news about his son’s computer. As always, we’ve got triumphs and fails, and recommendations.
Dude Where’s My Carvell Edition
Sep 7, 2017 • 45 min
Rebecca Lavoie and Gabriel Roth answer listener questions about how to help other kids understand her son with Down’s Syndrome, and sharing household responsibilities. Plus a tooth-fairy revelation and more in “Triumphs and Fails” and two unorthodox…
Abstraction of Hooptyism Edition
Aug 31, 2017 • 52 min
Carvell Wallace, Rebecca Lavoie and Gabriel Roth discuss the politics of choosing a guardian for your kids and what to do about a daycare center that’s been a little lax on vaccines. Plus Carvell’s hit-and-run and Rebecca’s new car-related freedom in…
Three Fails Edition
Aug 24, 2017 • 44 min
Carvell Wallace and Allison Benedikt are joined by Ami Cooper to talk about her experience raising a trans sixth grader. Plus triumphs and fails (spoiler alert: all fails), and recommendations. Mom and Dad Are Fighting is brought to you by Spotify. Stream…
Happiest Podcast on Earth Edition
Aug 17, 2017 • 52 min
Gabriel Roth, Rebecca Lavoie, and Carvell Wallace discuss how to talk to your kids about recent events in Charlottesville Virginia, and whether smartphones are “destroying a generation,” with Lisa Guernsey and Janelle Krupicka. Plus triumphs, fails, and…
Teenage Fashion Plate Edition
Aug 10, 2017 • 44 min
Rebecca Lavoie and Carvell Wallace discuss choosing a school district in a segregated city, and how to encourage a teen’s individual style while keeping their values intact. Plus triumphs and fails and recommendations.
Eating Your Feelings Edition
Aug 3, 2017 • 46 min
Rebecca Lavoie and Gabriel Roth discuss whether to worry about a 9-year-old’s weight gain, and how to inject some passion into passionless pre-teen. Plus triumphs and fails and recommendations.Mom and Dad are Fighting is brought to you by RXBAR Kids.…
The Return of the Dan Edition
Jul 27, 2017 • 48 min
Carvell Wallace, Nina Aron, and Dan Kois sit down with clinical psychologist Dr. Ava Siegler to talk about her new book, What Do I Tell My Kids?: Parenting in the Age of Trump, which includes an essay by guest host Dan Kois. They discuss the origins of…
Adventures in Babysitting Edition
Jul 20, 2017 • 51 min
Gabriel Roth, Carvell Wallace and Rebecca Lavoie discuss a very unusual quandary involving the inappropriate email address of their babysitter, plus babysitting in general, triumphs and fails, and recommendations.
Do What You Can Edition
Jul 13, 2017 • 59 min
Gabriel Roth, Rebecca Lavoie, and Carvell Wallace discuss raising Muslim kids in America with Rabia Chaudry of the podcast Undisclosed. Plus, what to do about bad kid friends, Triumphs and Fails and recommendations.
Happy Independence Day Edition
Jul 6, 2017 • 55 min
Carvel Wallace, Rebecca Lavoie, and Gabriel Roth take questions about reconciling disparate parenting styles and how to make space for an introverted kid, plus Triumphs and Fails and recommendations. Mom and Dad are Fighting is brought to you by Casper,…
Aggressive Little Hugger Edition
Jun 29, 2017 • 47 min
Gabriel Roth, Rebecca Lavoie, and Carvell Wallace discuss feedback from last week’s question on having a second child, talking to kids about a dying caregiver, and what to do with an aggressive hugger, plus Triumphs and Fails and their recommendations.…
Welcome to the Gun Show Edition
Jun 22, 2017 • 47 min
Rebecca Lavoie, Carvell Wallace, and Gabriel Roth discuss what to do about a child’s growing interest in guns, having two children versus one, plus their Triumphs and Fails, and recommendations. Mom and Dad Are Fighting is brought to you by Bombas. For…
Teenage Invasion Edition
Jun 15, 2017 • 40 min
Rebecca Lavoie and Carvell Wallace are joined by actual teenager and Carvell’s son, Ezra Wallace. They discuss what life is like for a biracial teen, plus triumphs and fails, recommendations and an Ezra lightning round.
Empathy Redux Edition
Jun 8, 2017 • 43 min
Rebecca Lavoie, Gabriel Roth, and Carvell Wallace return to a poorly-answered listener question about empathy with UCLA post-doctoral researcher Nicole McDonald. Plus recommendations, divorcing uncles, and Triumphs and Fails. Today’s episode is brought to…
Bureaucratic Nightmare Edition
Jun 1, 2017 • 48 min
Rebecca Lavoie, Carvell Wallace, and Gabriel Roth are joined by Andee Brown to talk about her son’s struggle with mental health. Plus, Triumphs and Fails, recommendations, and a listener question about whether to have another child under difficult…
Here’s Steve Instead of Carvell Edition
May 25, 2017 • 44 min
Carvell is sick, so Steve Lickteig joins Gabriel Roth, and Rebecca Lavoie to discuss how to teach empathy in young kids and sibling dynamics, plus triumphs and fails and recommendations. Today’s episode is brought to you by Little Passports. Check out…
Porn, Actually Edition
May 18, 2017 • 46 min
Rebecca Lavoie, Carvell Wallace, and Gabriel Roth discuss dealing with media you find problematic and whether it’s worth trying to filter it for your kids, the n-word, broken nanny dates, and more, in Triumphs and Fails and Recommendations. Mom and Dad…
Dude Where’s My Car Edition
May 11, 2017 • 44 min
Rebecca Lavoie, Gabriel Roth, and Carvell Wallace discuss the youtube abuse controversy surrounding DaddyOFive, together time after a divorce, lost cars in triumphs and fails, and recommendations. Today’s episode is brought to you by Little Passports.…
Touchhole Edition
May 4, 2017 • 43 min
In our first weekly episode Rebecca Lavoie, Carvell Wallace, and Gabriel Roth discuss getting back to work after a long absence, post-vacation troubles, and disappearing nannies. Plus, hamster trouble in Triumphs and Fails, and recommendations.
Bible Movies Edition
Apr 27, 2017 • 44 min
Gabriel Roth and Carvell Wallace answer listener calls concerning unwanted bible movies and when parents should explain sibling-relationship boundaries to their kids. Also, a difficult fail regarding rising housing prices in the Bay Area and a trip update…
Deathbed Sandwich Generation Edition
Apr 13, 2017 • 51 min
Gabriel Roth, Rebecca Lavoie, and Carvell Wallace discuss coping with a dying parent as a parent, plus charades, laid-back husbands, and listening to your kids in our weekly triumphs and fails and recommendations. Mom and Dad Are Fighting is brought to…
Sperm In Top Hats Edition
Mar 30, 2017 • 61 min
Gabriel Roth is joined this week by writer Carvell Wallace and Rebecca Lavoie, host of Crime Writers On…, to discuss those parenting hacks you just can’t live without. They also answer a call from a listener struggling to decide if medication is right for…
Designer Genes Edition
Mar 16, 2017 • 62 min
Gabriel Roth is joined this week by writer Carvell Wallace to discuss tips on how to parent tweens into thoughtful adolescents. Then they chat with Bonnie Rochman, author of The Gene Machine, to discuss the emerging science of birth-related gene…
Allison’s Viking Funeral Edition
Mar 2, 2017 • 63 min
Mom and Dad Are Fighting say goodbye to Allison Benedikt with help from a secret special guest. (Spoiler: It’s Dan Kois!) Gabe and Allison also talk with author and teacher Matt Dicks about ways to get the most out of your parent-teacher conferences.…
Teenage Life Coach Edition
Feb 16, 2017 • 60 min
Gabriel Roth, Slate senior editor, and Rebecca Lavoie, host of Crime Writers On…, talk about how children have replaced dads as the economic drivers in the household. Then, they offer tricks for parents struggling to find time for homework. Also, an…
Child Care War Machine Edition
Feb 2, 2017 • 52 min
On today’s show, hosts Allison Benedikt and Gabriel Roth chat with journalist Bryce Covert about the surprising history of child care in America. Then, they talk with professor Diane Levin about how children often segregate friendships along gender lines…
The Sad Laura Ashley Bat Mitzvah Dress Edition
Jan 19, 2017 • 52 min
On today’s show, hosts Gabriel Roth, editor at Slate, and Lizzie Skurnick, author of That Should Be A Word, talk about Lizzie’s experience as a single mother raising a son whose father is an anonymous sperm donor. Then, they chat with Dr. Devorah Heitner,…
The Hardest Age Edition
Jan 5, 2017 • 57 min
On today’s show, hosts Allison Benedikt and Gabriel Roth chat with Suniya Luthar, Foundation Professor of Psychology at Arizona State. They discuss her recent study, which shows that the middle-school years are often the most stressful for families.…
See Ya Dan Kois Edition
Dec 22, 2016 • 57 min
This is the last one with Dan Kois, guys! On today’s show, Allison and Dan talk with Matthew Herrity - a high school junior in Arlington, VA - who’s protesting a rezoning plan that would lead to significant racial and economic changes at his school. Then,…
Unexpected Loss Edition
Dec 8, 2016 • 61 min
On today’s show Allison and guest host Gabriel Roth talk with Debbie Haine Vijayvergiya, an advocate for stillborn awareness, about her heartbreaking experience delivering a stillborn child. Then, they discuss children’s birthday parties, why they’re so…
Trump, Turkey, and Teens Edition
Nov 24, 2016 • 57 min
Dan and Allison invite Emily Bazelon, host of Slate’s Political Gabfest, and author Dwayne Betts, onto the show to discuss this month’s surprise election outcome and how they’re talking about Trump’s presidency with their kids. Dan also chats with…
Why Isn’t My Kid’s Teacher Returning My Texts Edition
Nov 10, 2016 • 50 min
Dan and guest host Amy Scott discuss a new OshKosh B’Gosh ad campaign that will feature Asher Nash, a child with Down syndrome. They offer advice to a mother dealing with a racist neighbor. Amy explains how to have a non-terrible relationship with your…
Mom’s With Her Edition
Oct 27, 2016 • 47 min
Allison and Dan ask moms of girls how they’re talking to their daughters about the coming Hillary presidency. Lisa Guernsey, author of “Screen Time,” gives an update to the American Academy of Pediatrics guidelines for kids’ device usage. In the Plus…
The National Clown Threat Edition
Oct 13, 2016 • 54 min
Allison and Dan dive deep into the mythology of killer clowns. RJ Palacio, best-selling author of “Wonder,” stops by the studio to talk about her quest to spread kindness. And for the Slate Plus segment, Will Saletan discusses the futility of attempting…
The Six Kids and Twelve Nannys Edition
Sep 29, 2016 • 52 min
Dan and Allison search for insight into the mystery of Brangelexit by speaking with two members of a real-life big family, Noreen Malone and her mom, Mary Ellen Brennan. Also, Siân Stevens, an aging services specialist, talks about the important…
The How Soon Is Too Soon To E-Mail the Teacher Edition?
Sep 15, 2016 • 56 min
Dan and Allison discuss the thorny issue of parent-teacher communication with Matt Dicks. And Belle Boggs, author of The Art of Waiting: On Fertility, Medicine, and Motherhood, shares her story of infertility. In the Plus segment, Slate writer John…
The Mom and Dad Have Answers Edition
Sep 1, 2016 • 58 min
Allison and Dan spelunk deep into their psyches to answer listener calls.
The “Doping for Kids” Edition
Aug 18, 2016 • 50 min
On this week’s show, Allison Benedikt and Jessica Winter are joined by two hosts of Slate’s Hang Up and Listen to discuss how to be a good parent while watching the Olympics with your kids, and then talk to novelist Rumaan Alam about the lack of diversity…
Mean Girls and Lazy Guys Edition
Aug 4, 2016 • 61 min
On today’s show Dan Kois and Allison Benedikt talk with Rosalind Wiseman about the new edition about her classic guide to girls’ friendships and discuss the division of household labor.Mom and Dad Are Fighting is brought to you by Green Chef. Their…
Blame Dan and Donald
Jul 20, 2016 • 2 min
Mom And Dad Are Fighting is taking a break this week. Blame Dan and Donald Trump.
What to Expect When You’re Unexpectedly the First Lady Edition
Jul 7, 2016 • 56 min
On today’s show Dan Kois and Allison Benedikt discuss how to talk to your kids about weight and Dan interviews the soon-to-be First Lady of Iceland.Mom and Dad Are Fighting is brought to you by Boll and Branch. Get 20% off your entire order, plus free…
Tale of Two Cities Edition
Jun 23, 2016 • 55 min
On today’s show Allison Benedikt and Jessica Winter discuss school segregation with The New York Times’ Nikole Hannah-Jones and parenting a difficult toddler.Mom and Dad Are Fighting is brought to you by BollandBranch.com, offering luxury bedding at…
Dads and Dogs Edition
Jun 9, 2016 • 58 min
On today’s show Allison and Dan discuss putting a family pet asleep and for Father’s Day we’ll hear stories about dads from Slate staffers. Mom and Dad Are Fighting is brought to you by BollandBranch.com, offering luxury bedding at affordable prices.…
Extreme Bedtime Edition
May 26, 2016 • 50 min
On today’s show Allison and Dan discuss absurdly early bedtimes for kids and then make some summertime resolutions. Mom and Dad Are Fighting is brought to you by BollandBranch.com, offering luxury bedding at affordable prices. Order right now and they’ll…
Is Grit Good? Edition
May 12, 2016 • 54 min
On today’s show, Allison and Dan discuss game theory parenting and whether children need grit to succeed.Mom and Dad Are Fighting is brought to you by BollandBranch.com, offering luxury bedding at affordable prices. Order right now and they’ll give you 20…
Mothers and Meddlers Edition
Apr 28, 2016 • 51 min
On today’s show, Allison and Dan hear stories from Slate staff about their mothers and talk talks with actor Susan Sarandon about motherhood and the movie The Meddler.Mom and Dad Are Fighting is brought to you by BollandBranch.com, offering luxury bedding…
Positive Opposites Edition
Apr 14, 2016 • 46 min
On today’s show, Allison and Dan talk to the owner and chef of a vegan preschool and then debate the latest child psychology trend in parenting discipline of not punishing kids for bad behavior.Mom and Dad Are Fighting is brought to you by…
Defending Easter Edition
Mar 31, 2016 • 45 min
On today’s show, Allison and Dad talk with Brooklyn principal Anna Allanbrook about what to do when parents have a problem with their principal or other school administrators and then Dan calls the Easter Bunny on the phone and asks why Easter is the…
Trump is a Very Bad Man Edition
Mar 17, 2016 • 49 min
On today’s show, Allison and Dad talk to parents about raising a transgender child and how to talk to your kids about Trump.Mom and Dad are Fighting is brought to you by BollandBranch.com, offering luxury bedding at affordable prices. Order right now and…
Dóna Prump Edition
Mar 3, 2016 • 44 min
Dan Kois discusses social media and teens with author Nancy Jo Sales and Black-ish with Slate’s Aisha Harris.Mom and Dad are Fighting is brought to you by BollandBranch.com, the company that makes luxury bedding affordable. Order right now and they’ll…
Live from Brooklyn Edition
Feb 20, 2016 • 61 min
On this week’s show, Dan and Allison are live at the Bell House in Brooklyn and discuss city parenting, surrogacy, and have an artist’s roundtable with children’s book authors and musicians.Dan Kois and Allison Benedikt are live at the Bell House in…
Live Show Lateness
Feb 18, 2016 • 3 min
Mom and Dad Are Fighting is going to go up on Saturday this week because of our live show taping at the Bell House in Brooklyn. If you’re in New York, we would love to see you. You can buy tickets at Slate.com/live.
Better Get a Shotgun Edition
Feb 4, 2016 • 50 min
Dan Kois and Allison Benedikt discuss the Zika virus with an OBGYN and the new HBO Sesame Street.Mom and Dad are Fighting is brought to you by BollandBranch.com, the company that makes luxury bedding affordable. Order right now and they’ll give you 20…
The Worst Time for Your Milk to Come In Edition
Jan 21, 2016 • 51 min
Dan Kois and Allison Benedikt discuss iPads in the classroom and talk with two mothers who had their children days apart.Mom and Dad are Fighting is brought to you by BollandBranch.com, the company that makes luxury bedding affordable. Get the nicest…
The Failed Resolutions Edition
Jan 7, 2016 • 56 min
Dan Kois and Allison Benedikt discuss parenting and money with New York Times columnist Ron Lieber and then check with Slate staffers about how they did on their 2015 New Year’s resolutions.Mom and Dad are Fighting is brought to you by BollandBranch.com,…
Dan Goes to the Mall Edition
Dec 17, 2015 • 43 min
Dan Kois and Allison Benedikt discuss the Every Child Succeeds Act and Dan goes to the mall to talk with dads about how they really feel about holiday shopping. Mom and Dad are Fighting is brought to you by Prudential’s 40/40 Vision, a multimedia…
The Dear Prudence Edition
Dec 3, 2015 • 49 min
Dan Kois and Allison Benedikt discuss how to talk with your kids about the terrible news of the world with teacher Matthew Dicks and then Slate’s new Dear Prudence columnist Mallory Ortberg answers listeners’ parenting questions. Mom and Dad are Fighting…
Another Obama Administration Official Edition
Nov 19, 2015 • 50 min
In this episode of Slate’s parenting podcast, Allison Benedikt and Dan Kois talk to education secretary Arne Duncan and discuss passing along faith to your kids when you have none. Mom and Dad are Fighting is brought to you by Prudential’s 40/40 Vision, a…
The Agony of Defeat Edition
Nov 5, 2015 • 50 min
Dan Kois and Allison Benedikt discuss the appropriate screentime for kids and childhood sports heartbreak. Mom and Dad are Fighting is sponsored by Little Passports. Keep your kids busy this summer with Little Passports, the award-winning subscription for…
Live from Basically The White House Edition
Oct 22, 2015 • 68 min
From Washington D.C.’s Woolly Mammoth Theatre Company, Dan Kois and Allison Benedikt talk with Stephen Thompson of NPR’s “Pop Culture Happy Hour” about the joys and pitfalls of passing along your pop culture taste to your children, White House Senior…
Adult Trick or Treat Edition
Oct 8, 2015 • 48 min
In this episode of Slate’s parenting podcast, Allison Benedikt and Dan Kois talk with Meredith Fein Lichtenberg about parenting with cancer, and then discuss the most important holiday of the year, Halloween. Mom and Dad are Fighting is sponsored by Frank…
Two Truths and a Lie Edition
Sep 24, 2015 • 50 min
In this episode of Slate’s parenting podcast, Allison Benedikt and Dan Kois discuss why it is important to let your kids fail and foster parenting. Mom and Dad are Fighting is sponsored by Frank Einstein and the BrainTurbo—the third installment in the…
Hikes for Whiners Edition
Sep 10, 2015 • 54 min
In this episode of Slate’s parenting podcast, Allison Benedikt and Dan Kois discuss how to get your kids to enjoy nature and the cost of summer for poor families. Mom and Dad are Fighting is sponsored by Frank Einstein and the BrainTurbo—the third…
Back to School Edition
Aug 27, 2015 • 56 min
In this episode of Slate’s parenting podcast, Allison Benedikt and Dan Kois discuss parental math anxiety and back-to-school from the teacher’s perspective.
Lower Your Expectations Edition
Aug 13, 2015 • 57 min
In this episode of Slate’s parenting podcast, Allison Benedikt and Jessica Winter the state of college tuition with Slate’s Jordan Weissmann and the insane world of the Radar family parenting vlog with Slate’s Amanda Hess.
After “Sex After Baby” Edition
Jul 30, 2015 • 53 min
In this episode of Slate’s parenting podcast, Dan Kois and Allison Benedikt sort through listener responses to a segment about sex after pregnancy. And, a trip down the rabbit-hole of organic food for kids. Plus triumphs and fails with a vinyl soundtrack…
Sex After Baby Edition
Jul 16, 2015 • 56 min
Listen to Slate’s parenting podcast where Allison Benedict and Jessica Winter talk about bed wetting and sex after having a baby. Mom and Dad Are Fighting Is Sponsored by Little Passports. Keep your kids busy this summer with Little Passports, the…
Dad And Dad Are Fighting Edition
Jul 2, 2015 • 52 min
Listen to Slate’s parenting podcast where Dan Kois and Dan Check discuss how to deal with judgmental parents and gay parenting with Andrew Solomon. Mom and Dad Are Fighting is sponsored by Little Passports. Keep your kids busy this summer with Little…
Live from Durham Edition
Jun 18, 2015 • 54 min
Listen to Slate’s parenting podcast live from Durham, North Carolina. Allison and Dan are joined by Superchunk frontman and Merge co-owner Mac McCaughan to life as a touring dad, the worst children’s songs, and play a song from his latest album. Mom and…
Your Kids Are Not Getting a Scholarship Edition
Jun 4, 2015 • 47 min
Listen to Slate’s parenting podcast where we discuss the endless Hell of travel sports for kids and parenting lifestyles of Upper East Side mothers with author Wednesday Martin. Mom And Dad Are Fighting is sponsored by Bluum, helping new families finding…
Attacking Molly Weasley Edition
May 21, 2015 • 49 min
Listen to Slate’s parenting podcast where we one New York’s school controverserial program to teach children about race and the decision to become a single mom at 41 with Rachel Sklar. Mom and Dad Are Fighting is sponsored by Bluum, helping new families…
Xenomorph Mom Edition
May 7, 2015 • 57 min
Listen to Slate’s parenting podcast where we discuss talking to children about death and our favorite moms from TV and film. Mom and Dad Are Fighting is sponsored by Macmillian, a publisher of children’s books, including Tractor Mac. A favorite of…
Barrenness Edition
Apr 23, 2015 • 47 min
Listen to Slate’s parenting podcast where we discuss child support and being child free. Mom And Dad Are Fighting is sponsored by Stone Reset by Gemvara. Get 15% off the stone reset of your choice at Stonereset.com/momanddad. And by Macmillan, a publisher…
Quantity Time Edition
Apr 9, 2015 • 51 min
Listen to Slate’s parenting podcast where we discuss spending more time with your teens and what it’s like to confront your childhood bully.
Tampon Falling Out of Your Ear Edition
Mar 26, 2015 • 48 min
Listen to Slate’s parenting podcast where we discuss attending sex ed with your teen and how to deal with guns in people’s homes.
“Is My Kid a Narcissist?” Edition
Mar 12, 2015 • 41 min
Listen to Slate’s parenting podcast where we discuss whether we are unintentionally raising narcissistic children and edler care with Bettyville author George Hodgman.
Call Your Mom Edition
Feb 26, 2015 • 54 min
Listen to Slate’s parenting podcast where we discuss raising charitable kids with Ron Lieber and then give our moms a call.
Vaccinate Your Kids Edition
Feb 12, 2015 • 40 min
Listen to Slate’s parenting podcast where we discuss how to deal with parents who do not vaccinate their children and snowday activities.
If I Only Had a Girl Edition
Jan 29, 2015 • 48 min
Listen to Slate’s parenting podcast where we discuss free range parenting and how children watch movies. Link to our podcast survey: www.slate.com/survey
I Quit Edition
Jan 15, 2015 • 41 min
Listen to Slate’s parenting podcast where we discuss when to allow your child to quit an activity and parenting with chronic pain.
Better Luck This Year Edition
Jan 1, 2015 • 53 min
Listen to Slate’s parenting podcast where we discuss parents’ New Year’s resolutions and take questions from non-parents.
The Truth About Santa Edition
Dec 17, 2014 • 44 min
Listen to Slate’s parenting podcast where we discuss Santa and toys that require a bit of building.
Where Can a Parent Score Some Weed? Edition
Dec 4, 2014 • 49 min
Listen to Slate’s parenting podcast where we discuss baby names and weed-smoking parents.
Disdaingate Edition
Nov 20, 2014 • 40 min
Listen to Slate’s parenting podcast where we discuss stay-at-home parenting and unpack Dan Kois’ complicated feelings about it.
“You Put That Ninja Sword Where?” Edition
Nov 6, 2014 • 40 min
Listen to Slate’s parenting podcast on children’s sexual explorations and parenting kids’ phone usage.
The Your Own Personal Fantasyland Edition
Oct 23, 2014 • 42 min
Listen to Slate’s parenting podcast on the dos and don’ts of allowance and the magical wonder that is Disney.
“Mom Jeans, Dad Jokes” Edition
Oct 9, 2014 • 56 min
Listen to Slate’s parenting podcast on teen sexual health and pop-cultural mockery of parents.
“Should I Even Be a Parent?” Edition
Sep 25, 2014 • 48 min
Listen to Slate’s parenting podcast on whether you should allow your kids to play football and the decision to become a parent.
“The Porn Talk” Edition
Sep 11, 2014 • 46 min
Listen to Slate’s parenting podcast on talking to your children about porn and whether the tradition of the family meal is overrated.
“It Costs How Much?” Edition
Aug 28, 2014 • 52 min
Slate’s Allison Benedikt speaks with Stacia Brown and Dwayne Betts about how black parents talk to their children about racism and the police. Allison is then joined by Slate’s Jessica Winter to discuss the Department of Agriculture’s eye-popping report…
Mom And Dad Are Fighting: The Indigo Child Edition
Aug 14, 2014 • 45 min
Slate’s Allison Benedikt and Dan Kois discuss changing standards of childhood independence and talk to Slate TV Critic Willa Paskin about Bravo’s new show “Extreme Guide to Parenting”.
Mom And Dad Are Fighting: The Slate Staff Call-In Extravaganza Edition
Jul 31, 2014 • 46 min
Slate’s Dan Kois answers listeners’ parenting questions with Hanna Rosin, Katy Waldman, Jordan Weissmann, Amanda Hess, Julia Turner and Troy Patterson.
Mom And Dad Are Fighting: The Ethan Hawke in a Minivan Edition
Jul 17, 2014 • 54 min
Listen to Slate’s parenting podcast on Boyhood, with special guest dad Richard Linklater, and pre-pregnancy contracts.
Mom And Dad Are Fighting: The Magic Beer Fridge Edition
Jul 3, 2014 • 43 min
Slate’s Dan Kois and guest host Emily Yoffe (Slate’s Dear Prudence columnist) discuss preparing your kids for peer pressure, talking with girls about their first period, and more.
Mom and Dad Are Fighting: The Pre-School Pomp and Circumstance Edition
Jun 19, 2014 • 30 min
Listen to Slate’s parenting podcast on maternal mental illness and Kindergarten Graduations.
Mom and Dad Are Fighting: The Trash Can Football Edition
Jun 5, 2014 • 41 min
Listen to Slate’s parenting podcast on teacher gifts and Father’s Day.
Mom And Dad Are Fighting: The Two Kids in a Hot Car Edition
May 22, 2014 • 38 min
Listen to Slate’s parenting podcast on college dropout intervention and the ethics of intervening in other people’s parenting.
Mom And Dad Are Fighting: The Open Hearts by Jane Seymour Mother’s Day Necklace Edition
May 8, 2014 • 40 min
Listen to Slate’s parenting podcast on campus sexual assault, talking to kids about different kinds of families, and Mother’s Day.
Mom And Dad Are Fighting: The What’s in That School Lunch Edition
Apr 24, 2014 • 44 min
Listen to Slate’s parenting podcast on school lunches and the stigma of having, and being, an only child.
Mom And Dad Are Fighting: The Grand Canyon Heat Stroke Edition
Apr 10, 2014 • 46 min
Slate’s Allison Benedikt and Dan Kois discuss paternity leave with the New York Times’ Michael Roston, and talk about the pros and cons of adventurous parenting with Slate’s Amanda Hess.
Mom And Dad Are Fighting: Live And Let Lice Edition
Mar 27, 2014 • 38 min
Slate’s Allison Benedikt and Dan Kois discuss why you should not help your kids with their homework with journalist Dana Goldstein, and whether or not head lice are really that big of a deal.
Mom And Dad Are Fighting: Don’t Be So Bossy Edition
Mar 13, 2014 • 38 min
Slate’s Allison Benedikt and Dan Kois talk about new changes with the SAT with author Todd Balf, and discuss Sheryl Sandberg’s “Ban Bossy” campaign.
Mom And Dad Are Fighting: The City vs. Suburbs Edition
Feb 27, 2014 • 41 min
Listen to Slate’s parenting podcast about losing the Asperger’s diagnosis, and the great debate: Where is it better to raise kids, in the city or the suburbs?
Mom And Dad Are Fighting: Everything Is Awesome Edition
Feb 13, 2014 • 42 min
Slate’s Dan Kois and Allison Benedikt talk to the creators of American Promise, a documentary that follows two black boys from kindergarten through high school graduation, and discuss the Lego Movie.
Mom And Dad Are Fighting: I Am The Standard Edition
Jan 30, 2014 • 37 min
Slate’s Dan Kois and Allison Benedikt discuss gap years before college and are joined by author Jennifer Senior to discuss “All Joy and No Fun”, her new book about modern parenting.
Mom And Dad Are Fighting: The Be Present Edition
Jan 16, 2014 • 36 min
Slate’s Dan Kois and Allison Benedikt discuss the pros and cons of summer camp and are joined by blogger Carla Naumburg to talk about mindful parenting.
Mom And Dad Are Fighting: The Holiday Swirl Edition
Dec 19, 2013 • 37 min
Slate’s Dan Kois and Allison Benedikt discuss parental “hate reads”, and are joined by author Susan Katz Miller to talk about holidays in interfaith families.
Mom and Dad Are Fighting Ep. 1: Don’t Test My Kids
Dec 4, 2013 • 32 min
In the debut episode of Slate’s new parenting podcast, Allison Benedikt and Dan Kois discuss the small but growing number of parents who opt their children out of standardized tests, and the new Disney movie Frozen.