The Thriveology Podcast For Thrive Nation

The Thriveology Podcast For Thrive Nation

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Finding Moments of Calm in Times of Chaos
May 11 • 38 min
What a chaotic time we are in! Even without a pandemic, it was already chaotic, what with politics and changes in society. Stir in a pandemic, and there is NO way to be calm. Right? Or maybe…. Maybe calm is not about what is happening around you, outside…
Thinking Through The Pandemic
May 4 • 56 min
I was at a book signing a while back, signing a book of mine that is a few years old. This person picked it up, looked at the publication date, put it down, and said, “I was looking for something more recent.” That had me pondering… how long is…
Challenge Makes Us Grow
Apr 27 • 45 min
When I was a kid, I hit this point when I was growing fast. So fast that my limbs hurt, I constantly tripped, and knocked everthing over as my hand got there before I expected. Growth was a challenge. Generally, though, it works the other way. When we are…
Breathe for Your Health and Calm
Apr 20 • 51 min
It happens about 25,000 per day. And for the most part, it is automatic. But it is one of the few bodily functions that you can “take off automatic” and choose how you will do it. And you might not be doing it optimally. What is it? Breathing. Taking a…
The Fear/Anxiety Contagion
Apr 6 • 24 min
It’s highly contagious. You can catch it from a single interaction with one person. You can catch it much faster in a crowd. You can pass it on to someone else in an instant. You can also catch it from just reading, watching, or listening to something. In…
How to Hope in Tough Times
Mar 30 • 24 min
Let me just say, I am a bit weary. How about you? This has been a wearying time for so many of us. Nobody is unaffected by this pandemic. And we can’t even point to an end to the crisis. Take a guess, and your guess is probably as good as any other. What…
Stay Sane While Staying Safe
Mar 23 • 25 min
Did you hear about the guy who had been on a meditation retreat for a couple of weeks? He went in with “life as usual.” And he emerged into a whole new world. One where people are practicing social distance, sheltering at home, and scared. One where…
Thriving in an Age of Panic
Mar 16 • 25 min
When I recorded this episode of the Thriveology Podcast, it was almost another world. Many people were still minimizing the novel coronavirus. Even politicians were downplaying the severity and impact. So much has changed. Many, if not most, schools are…
Happiness Is A Constant Reset
Mar 9 • 44 min
Happiness is a funny thing, isn’t it? One day, it’s right there… right in front of you. Then, just as quickly… it’s gone. Why is it so hard to hold onto happiness? Maybe more importantly, is there a way to shift into happiness, nearly at will? I am always…
Getting Clear By Getting Real
Mar 2 • 42 min
What happens when you feel hollow and lost in life, even when you are surrounded by people? What happens when you find success… only to discover it wasn’t really the success you wanted? What happens when you realize that you’ve been hiding and pretending……
The Synergy of Success
Feb 24 • 43 min
Most people tell me that they want something more out of life. Sometimes, they want LOTS more out of life. Usually, though, there is something else… some new point of success. Yet, many people find themselves stuck in a cycle of “inaction” or “any…
The Vacation Effect — Even If You Don’t Leave Town!
Feb 17 • 40 min
Have you ever noticed what happens when it is just a few days before you head out for vacation? If you are like most people, you go into “clear the desk” mode. Things get done. You become hyper-efficient. Why does that happen right before a vacation?…
Still Even MORE Lessons from Jiu Jitsu
Feb 10 • 24 min
Just a little over 2 years ago (exactly 2 years ago, as I recorded this episode of my Thriveology Podcast), I started studying jiu jitsu. At that point, I had no idea where it would go. I have a life-long interest in martial arts, but had not practiced…
Alignment Toward Thriving
Feb 3 • 47 min
Are you in alignment? I had a friend whose hips were out of alignment. It was no big deal for a long time. Just simply a matter of one leg being a bit longer than the other. But every day, she just kept on going. She walked and ran… and just lived life.…
Paths to Mindfulness
Jan 27 • 42 min
Mindfulness is such a buzzword these days that you may find yourself “tuning out” when you hear the term. Ironic, since that is quite the opposite of being mindful! Simply put, mindfulness is the state of being present with your body in the present…
Antidote To Stress
Jan 20 • 44 min
Feeling stressed out? Wondering what your doctor would say? Surprisingly, doctors get very little training on stress, both in how it affects the body and how to deal with it. Got an injury? Great. The doctor has you covered. Got an infection? The doctor…
Journaling for a Change
Jan 13 • 28 min
Do you journal? It is a great tool for reflecting on life, processing events and emotions, and finding new perspectives. Some people think journaling is just “adult diary-ing.” And for some, a journal really is just a place to put down the events of the…
Success and Significance
Jan 6 • 44 min
We all face obstacles in our lives. No matter how successful, no matter how determined we are, we will have tough moments. Soul moments. Times when we have to stop, collect ourselves, let go of who we have been, and step into a new space. Sometimes, those…
Stepping Strongly Into the New Year
Dec 30, 2019 • 16 min
January 1. Just another day. And yet… there is something else about that day. Sure, it starts a new month. Yes, it starts a new year. Psychologically, that new start… it matters. We all need new starts. That is what I loved about being in school. When the…
Comfort and Joy: Deepening the Holidays
Dec 23, 2019 • 14 min
In the hustle and bustle, people lose sight of the Holidays. Sure, we go through the motions, show up to the events, and try to put on our holiday joy. But many times, internally, its a flat-line. Nothing. Nada. Or worse… stressful. Over the years, I have…
Power Habits for Success
Dec 16, 2019 • 45 min
Have you ever noticed how some people just seem to succeed at everything they do? They enjoy success in different areas of life… including financially. Then, others seem to struggle over and over, making little progress toward their goal. Noah St. John…
On a Mission of Health
Dec 9, 2019 • 45 min
What happens when one day, you wake up and realize you are overweight, deep in debt, and desperately holding onto a crumbling relationship? If you are Adam Schaeuble, PhD (“Previously Heavy Dude”), you finally decide to make a change. On that day, Adam…
The Power of Expectations
Dec 2, 2019 • 38 min
What do you expect from life? Sometimes, our expectations can get us into trouble. Maybe you expect things to go badly. Or maybe you expect something beyond your control. Either way, your expectations trip you up. Yet every action you take is based on…
Why Thankful?
Nov 25, 2019 • 18 min
In the States, this Thursday is Thanksgiving Day. What’s the point, right? Let’s just jump on into Christmas season! The stores are already bustling and everything seems to be bursting with green and red. I have nothing against Christmas. But I do think…
Choosing Health
Nov 18, 2019 • 52 min
Most people want to be in better health. In fact, I have yet to run into anyone telling me, “I just wish I was in worse health.” We all want to be in better health! But for many, that is confusing. There is so much conficting information. One day, you eat…
Free From Pain
Nov 11, 2019 • 47 min
If you are alive, you will feel pain. For some, it is just a little here and a little there. For others, pain is chronic and constant. Maybe just a little or maybe a lot. Since I tend to be on the active side, I tend to have lots of bumps and bruises. And…
Break Free From Your Prison
Nov 4, 2019 • 41 min
What prison holds you? We ALL have some prison in our lives. Maybe there aren’t any real bars and locked doors. But it still keeps us stuck, trapped and unable to grow. It might be a way of thinking, a relationship, a job. It may be just your own view of…
Having Tough Conversations
Oct 28, 2019 • 41 min
Tough conversations are, well, tough. You know, those conversations you know you need to have… but avoid having them. Maybe you aren’t comfortable with the topic. Or maybe it feels risky to have that conversation. Here is the problem: when we avoid tough…
Generating Happiness
Oct 21, 2019 • 43 min
Have you been to the Self-Help area of a bookstore lately? We are awash with books on happiness. There are lots of articles on happiness. And lots of trainings and courses on happiness. Heck, I have even addressed it many times before. So, why aren’t we…
Life After Loss
Oct 14, 2019 • 52 min
Long ago, way back in one of my college classes on death and dying, the professor told us that our death rituals — the funeral, visitation, etc. — were our ways of “reweaving the cloth of our community” after a loss. Grief has a process. It is our…
The Power of a Challenge
Oct 7, 2019 • 26 min
Are you up for a challenge? In the last episode of my podcast, I discussed how to hold on when life is tough. That’s when life is challenging you. But what about when life isn’t so challenging… where life is copacetic? Just cruising. It’s my observation…
Holding On (When Life Gets You Down)
Sep 30, 2019 • 21 min
Life is tough. Not always. But along the way. And even after you get past one struggle, that doesn’t mean there isn’t another one up ahead. That’s just the nature of life. It doesn’t mean you are doing anything wrong or that the world, God, or the…
Big WHY Vs. Little Why’s
Sep 23, 2019 • 19 min
What’s your WHY? Your BIG WHY? Why you are here. The WHY that is your life purpose? I think we all have one… even if we haven’t found it yet. It’s there. Within us. Your first task is to find it. That’s important. But finding it isn’t enough. Second, you…
Choosing MORE
Sep 16, 2019 • 28 min
We ALL want MORE out of life… right? But more of what? More toys? More stuff? Or are we craving more of LIFE? Of living… more? Living a more full life? I think that is it. At least, that is “it” for me. Experiencing more, connecting more, adding more…
Learn or… Learn
Sep 9, 2019 • 24 min
I don’t know about you, but I was raised around competition. Not so much from my parents, but from culture. In school, you compete in all sorts of tasks… trying to prove how smart, how good, how talented, how athletic, how whatever you are… compared to…
How To Guarantee You DON’T Thrive
Sep 2, 2019 • 27 min
Well, you are on to me! Last week, I started talking about things you can do to guarantee that you DON’T thrive. I’m sure you knew I didn’t really want you to NOT thrive. But I wanted to point out some ways people make themselves miserable… and what they…
How To Guarantee You DON’T Thrive
Aug 26, 2019 • 20 min
Over the years, I have tried to learn to thrive. And I have tried to teach others how to thrive… even getting other experts to do the same. But today, just for a moment, let’s assume you DON’T want to thrive. In fact, you want to… well, do the opposite of…
Look Up!
Aug 19, 2019 • 21 min
World got you down? Maybe even looking down? It can feel overwhelming, like you just need to keep plodding ahead, keeping your head down. But often, that is just the time we need to look up. To the sky. Physically and metaphorically. When I am feeling a…
Order, Disorder, Reorder
Aug 12, 2019 • 23 min
There are days when you just wish that something would change. The same ol’ same ol’ just seems to roll along. And then there are the days you wished that things wouldn’t change. What happened? How did things turn upside down? One simple word to explain…
Course Corrections and Course Changes
Aug 5, 2019 • 16 min
“How did I end up here?,” my client asked. He told me that for so long, he thought he was headed in the right direction. Now, he thinks maybe it was the entirely wrong direction. I asked him, “Did you course correct along the way?” He looked at me rather…
Curing Insomnia
Jul 29, 2019 • 43 min
Over 40 million people. Every year. That is the number who suffer from insomnia, in the United States alone. It’s just a little “missed sleep,” right? Maybe a little cranky in the morning, but nothing that a cup of coffee can’t fix. Right? Wrong. First,…
Playing Life For Real
Jul 22, 2019 • 45 min
How’s your life going? The way you want? Or not quite? Do you want to “level up” and play a bigger game? Have a bigger life? In this episode of the Thriveology Podcast, I chat with David Wood, successful-entrepreneur-turned-life-coach. Nope, not a…
The Myth of Life Balance
Jul 15, 2019 • 42 min
We have a sectional couch. My spot is right in the corner. I can sit one way, stretch my legs out the other way. And my dog, Ziggy, settles in right beside me. Why do I tell you that? Well, when I am crammed into that corner, you might say I am…
How To Use Your Sub-Conscious Mind
Jul 8, 2019 • 42 min
Your subconscious mind is constantly active, constantly scanning your world. It controls our choices and actions, emotions and feelings. Scanning for threats, it is relying on old scripts and patterns. And that is why our subconscious is often running us,…
Healing Metabolism and Restoring Health
Jun 24, 2019 • 40 min
Did you know that repetitive dieting and relentless exercise can actually break your metabolism? Your body has an amazing capacity of adjusting to circumstances around you. If you simply drop your caloric intake, your body will assume there is a famine……
Even MORE Lessons From Jiu Jitsu
Jun 17, 2019 • 21 min
I’ve rolled and been rolled, tapped and been tapped. My journey into jiu jitsu continues! Since my last post on lessons I have learned in jiu jitsu (LIFE lessons — not just jiu jitsu moves and techniques), I’ve continued on my journey. The first time I…
Listen to the Wisdom of Your Body
Jun 10, 2019 • 44 min
Sometimes, we spend so much time trying to think through a problem that we just get stuck. Our minds tend to spiral on the same thoughts over and over… not really giving any new information or help. “What should I do?” is usually followed by an almost…
Success Leaves A Trail
Jun 3, 2019 • 32 min
We can fail in so many ways. Often, it is just a matter of stumbling through, not looking for a better path. We forge new paths to failure. That is often “life on automatic.” If someone has succeeded, though, they leave a trail. The more people who…
Re-Writing Reality: Reprogramming the Subconscious
May 27, 2019 • 49 min
What is “reality”? Is it “out there” or in us? Or more importantly, is there something about us that creates our experience of reality? And if so, can we somehow find a way to “re-write” reality in a way that shifts it to more of what we want and less of…
Goodbye and Hello – Passing Through Grief
May 20, 2019 • 43 min
Life is a fairly constant flow of goodbyes and hellos. Sometimes, those goodbyes are incredibly painful. The death of a loved one, the loss of a relationship, the loss of a job or role. All can be painful. And sometimes, those goodbyes feel like the end…
From Rebel To Vigilante (Self-Care)
May 13, 2019 • 48 min
Do you find yourself a bit rebellious? Maybe you just don’t want to be told what to do. Or maybe you just want to find your own voice. I think we all have some rebellious place in there. That rebellion can serve us or keep us stuck. Ilana Kristeva tells…
Perfect Imperfection On The Path To Thriving
May 6, 2019 • 38 min
Many times, life just kind of, well, hits us. We have a major transition. Or we just hit a plateau. What if you know there is more… you just can’t get there? That’s when we have to find our “untapped strengths.” Angela Stillwell is the “Vulnerability…
Letting Your Future Help Today
Apr 29, 2019 • 46 min
? What if your “future self” can help your “current self?” And maybe even help you make sense of your “past self!” In this episode of the Thriveology Podcast, I chat with Valerie Lemme about her journey from painful childhood and struggling adulthood to…
Young(er) At Any Age
Apr 22, 2019 • 50 min
My friend tells me, “Aging ain’t for sissy’s, but I ain’t ready for the alternative!” It happens to every single one of us who are fortunate enough for it to happen. We get older. Moment by moment, day by day, year by year… and hopefully, decade by…
Emotional Potty-Training
Apr 15, 2019 • 47 min
How are you with your emotions? This isn’t a question on whether you are “in touch with your emotions” or not. It is how you process the emotions. Some people have, well, “emotional diahrrea.” Emotions just dump wherever and whenever. Others have…
Never Too Late (until it’s too late)
Apr 8, 2019 • 34 min
It’s never too late! Until it’s too late! We all have an expiration date! But up until then… there is time. But don’t take up too much time not getting there. The sooner you do, the better your life will be, for as long as it goes on. Isn’t that a…
Healing From Heartbreak
Apr 1, 2019 • 37 min
Life can turn in an instant: a phone call, a letter, a knock on the door. Everything you thought you knew, everything that was “normal” is pulled apart and thrown upside-down. In that heart-stopping moment, you know life will never be the same. And…
Taking The Leap To Transformation
Mar 25, 2019 • 45 min
What happens when you do all the right things: get the degrees, marry the “right person,” and think you are living your dream… only to discover it is someone else’s dream? You may just push on. You may just run away. Or you may stop and realize that YOU…
Living Your Engagement
Mar 18, 2019 • 27 min
Over the last 2 episodes, we have been talking about YOUR Engaged Life. How to build a life of passion, purpose, and presence. Amplifying that life through gratitude, spirituality, and awe. Here’s the thing… not to be a downer here… you and I, we are…
Amped Engagement: Amplifying Your Engaged Life
Mar 11, 2019 • 23 min
In the last episode of the podcast, I started a series on living The Engaged Life. We continue that series in this episode. If you have focused on living those 3 P’s of Passion, Purpose, and Presence, you can amplify your Engaged Life with attending to 3…
3 P’s Of Living Engaged
Mar 4, 2019 • 29 min
Do you ever that you are “playing small”? That there should be more to life? More for YOU to do in life? More your life should be about? That life you are thinking about… that is the Engaged Life. Living with more engagement, more depth, more meaning……
Why We Stress
Feb 25, 2019 • 20 min
I bet you hear it as much as I do. You may even say it. ”I’m so stressed!” The malady of the modern age. Stressed out, exhausted, and frustrated. But what IS stress? As much as we toss that term around, sometimes almost as a badge of honor, you may not…
Running Loops
Feb 18, 2019 • 19 min
Like a broken record… or an endless audio loop. Those thoughts that just keep turning in your mind. Okay, in MY mind. But I bet it happens to you, too. Let’s say, hypothetically of course, that I get up to 2 emails. One is complimentary, thanking me for…
Down The Habit Hole
Feb 11, 2019 • 24 min
The gyms are emptying out. The running shoes are no longer going out for runs. Comfort food is replacing health food. What gives? February. Actually, it is just long enough that those resolutions made in January are starting to crumble. “I’ll start…
Fear Versus Courage
Feb 4, 2019 • 17 min
I don’t know about you, but I don’t much enjoy feeling fear. I’d rather it not be a part of my life. And yet, it is. Fear is part of our wiring, deep in our DNA and deep in the circuitry of our brains. It keeps us safe — sometimes super-safe. Which is the…
Where You Are (is a pretty good place to start)
Jan 28, 2019 • 15 min
“Where should I start?”, my client asked. Lots of times, we want to make changes, we want things to be different. And sometimes, we want things to be different before we make any changes. We want a different starting point. If you’ve ever been at a park…
How To Handle Tough Days
Jan 21, 2019 • 25 min
Kinda like taxes, tough days are unavoidable. You may see the tough times coming. But sometimes, they just roll right over us. A conversation, a text, a phone call, or an event. Something hits and the bad time is here. Some people will say that tough…
Act or Accept
Jan 14, 2019 • 23 min
I always find it helpful to have some “rules” to live by. Short statements that help keep me pointed in the right direction, ready to handle the challenges of life. And let’s be honest: challenges are an unavoidable part of life. Those who tell you that…
Clean Pain vs. Dirty Pain
Jan 7, 2019 • 22 min
Anyone who tells you that you can go through life without getting hurt and feeling pain is either lying or hiding. Life is rough-and-tumble. Pain is unavoidable. But there is a type of pain that we can leave behind. That is more a result of our own…
Charging Into The New Year
Dec 31, 2018 • 19 min
The New Year. It is upon us. And along with the start of a new year is an opportunity for us to re-start. To make some changes. To find some ways to charge into the New Year, with a new approach. Maybe even a new attitude! Many people make resolutions…
MORE Life Lessons from Jiu Jitsu
Dec 17, 2018 • 27 min
On multiple days each week, my wife and I play a game. She points to a bruise and asks, “How’d that happen?” Fair question. But I don’t have a specific question. All I can say is, “Rolling at jiu jitsu.” Yep, my 52 year old body has to tolerate my…
Embracing Discomfort
Dec 10, 2018 • 16 min
Have you noticed how we all like to keep things in a narrow band of comfort? We keep our houses not-too-warm, not-too-cool. Most homes, all year long, stay in a very narrow band of temperature. Most of us go to the same restaurants, listen to the same…
Embracing “We’ll See”
Dec 3, 2018 • 13 min
For me, “We’ll See” was my philosophy of survival when I was sick. The doctor gave me a diagnosis with a bad prognosis. Lots of ways I could be sick and die. Lots of ways my body could betray me. Oh, and this was 15 years ago. WebMD was the “go-to” for…
Embracing “I Don’t Know”
Nov 26, 2018 • 18 min
How much can any of us really know? But how often do we still choose to have an opinion on everything? Someone asks about a topic, and we give an opinion. Then, we have to back that opinion up. According to neuro-science, we look for evidence to support…
Why Being Thankful Matters
Nov 19, 2018 • 19 min
If you are in the States, we are on the cusp of the Holiday season, kicking off with Thanksgiving in just a few days. For me, the Holidays throughout the year are moments to step into gratitude. Not just in a little “thank you for that gift,” but in a…
Responsibility In A Culture Of Blame
Nov 12, 2018 • 26 min
Blame is rampant in today’s world. We all quickly point the finger at someone/something else, proclaiming, “It’s not my fault!” Interestingly, I also notice how rampant it is for people to take the credit for successes. They/we claim credit for what goes…
From Heartbreak To Wholeness: Kristine Carlson
Oct 29, 2018 • 45 min
What do you do when you think your life is right where you want it… and then it all falls apart? That’s what happened to Kristine Carlson. Her husband, Richard, was traveling the world and sharing his message of Don’t Sweat The Small Stuff. Kristine was…
Attacking Anxiety
Oct 22, 2018 • 28 min
Do you feel anxious? Have anxious moments? Maybe even struggle with anxiety attacks? If so, I want to offer some strategies to help you deal with those feelings… the emotional storm that can hit. Anxiety isn’t a sign of weakness. It is actually a sign of…
Beyond Apology
Oct 8, 2018 • 18 min
You apologize. Now what? Are you finished? Is it now up to the person to whom you apologized? Nope. That is only one part of the process. Understand that apologies, forgiving, reconciliation, and trust are all separate functions. Each is tied to the…
Weathering The Storms Of Life
Oct 1, 2018 • 24 min
Life can really dish it out, can’t it? A sunny (metaphorically speaking) day suddenly gathers rain clouds. And then, the storm (metaphorically speaking) hits! As I recorded this episode of the Thriveology Podcast, people were still trying to dry out from…
Change Your Life Using SSC
Sep 10, 2018 • 17 min
Have you heard of Kaizen? It is the principle of continuous improvement. Continuous improvement is a great model for change. It is based on constant changes toward a better outcome. No need for sudden upheaval or change (although that is sometimes…
Are You Bending Your Map?
Sep 3, 2018 • 23 min
Did you know that it is common to find a lost person with a broken compass? No, they are not lost because their compass was broken. They broke their compass because they didn’t believe the compass. They believed they were somewhere other than where the…
What About Forgiving Yourself?
Aug 27, 2018 • 22 min
Let’s just assume that you have decided to forgive other people. You do it (maybe even following my 6 step process). Things are going well. You are getting unstuck. And then… snap! You are pulled back, stuck. Feeling bad. But this time, feeling bad about…
Why Even Forgive?
Aug 20, 2018 • 19 min
I’ve noticed that many times, when someone is stuck, it is because they have something that keeps hanging on to them, dragging them down. They have something they need to release… someone they need to forgive. And when I note this, I often get a knee-jerk…
Time Affluence / Time Poverty
Aug 13, 2018 • 23 min
Have you noticed how we talk about time and money the same way? You can spend time/money, waste time/money, or save time/money. But never confuse the two. Money… we can always make more. Time… it is passing moment by moment, day by day, not to be…
Chasing Mis-Wants
Aug 6, 2018 • 18 min
Have you ever wanted something… just knowing that if you had it, you would be… happy? And if you got it, did you find yourself happier? Not just for a few moments or days, but long-term? Sometimes, the “buyer’s remorse” sets in right after the purchase,…
Non-WooWoo Ways To Transform Your Life
Jul 30, 2018 • 36 min
My coaching client was wanting to thrive. He told me he was constantly studying about self-growth. But he wanted to really transform his life. And, he told me, so much of what he was reading was, to quote him, “woo-woo stuff.” He used that term as a…
The When/Then Trap
Jul 9, 2018 • 19 min
It’s a trap. And we all fall into it. Sadly, we set it up on ourselves, then step right into it. WHACK! We are stuck… waiting. And that’s the trap — the wait. Life can’t begin until…. What’s the trap? The “When/Then Trap.” You know, that time when you…
3 Ways Fear Keeps You Stuck
Jul 2, 2018 • 23 min
It seems to be a specialty of mine… getting people UN-stuck. Which means I spend a fair amount of time noting what gets people stuck in the first place. Makes sense, right? If you want to get un-stuck, you need to know why you got stuck. There are some…
The Happiness Trap
Jun 25, 2018 • 17 min
Have you noticed how many books there are in the bookstore on how to be happy? Which raises the question on why, in a recent poll, only 1/3rd of Americans claimed to be happy. We have fallen into the “happiness trap,” chasing after happiness as if that is…
When Your Ego Trips You Up
Jun 18, 2018 • 17 min
A couple of episodes back, I discussed some lessons I have learned in my less-than-half a year in jiu jitsu. One of my lessons was about “egoless learning.” Several people asked what I meant by my ego being involved. And what’s wrong with that… the ego?…
Surviving To Thriving
Jun 11, 2018 • 23 min
We always start at survival. You have to survive to do anything else. Surviving is based in dealing with scarcity and threats. Sometimes, people get stuck in survival mode… whether it is necessary or not. For most people, survival mode is less a necessity…
Lessons Learned in Jiu Jitsu
Jun 4, 2018 • 22 min
Let me be clear: I can claim NO expertise in jiu jitsu. I have only been involved since January. So, what can I possibily tell you about jiu jitsu after just 6 months of practice? Nothing. But I CAN tell you some lessons I have learned from those 6…
How To Forgive Yourself
May 28, 2018 • 20 min
Forgiving is an important skill. When we forgive people for hurts and slights in the past, we get to free ourselves from those events. (That skill is so important that I wrote a book about the process I created. That book comes out in October.) But what…
How To Build Your Self-Esteem
May 21, 2018 • 19 min
Schools have based their teaching model on it. Little league sports have revamped their approach on it. Parenting has changed to help it. What is IT? Self-esteem. Which is a great concept, at least in the way Nathanial Branden first proposed it. Not so…
How To Find Your Confidence
May 14, 2018 • 18 min
We all want confidence — SELF-confidence. We want to be confident before we act. In other words, I want to feel confident of myself before I move toward something. Or maybe that’s just me! :-) But I think that comes at it from the wrong direction. FEAR…
Live Each Day As THE Day
May 7, 2018 • 20 min
Ancient Stoics and Latin Christians believed that every day we should “memento mori,” we should remember our death. This practice was not to contemplate how you might die, but that you will die. As will I. And everyone else. Which is what makes life so…
Do Your Part (And Wait For The Moment)
Apr 30, 2018 • 22 min
Some people feel that they are at the whims of the world, unable to make a difference in their own lives. (They often fall into blame and helplessness.) Other people believe that they are fully in charge, their lives entirely in their control.…
Control What You Can; Release The Rest
Apr 23, 2018 • 21 min
It was interesting to see how much my client seemed to relish her self-diagnosed “issue” when she smilingly told me, “I’m a bit of a control freak. I just want things my way. Mostly because I know how they should be.” So, I asked that tough question, “How…
Teach Others How To Treat You
Apr 16, 2018 • 21 min
“Why don’t they treat me the way I want to be treated?”, my client asked me. So, I asked, “Have you taught them how to treat you?” The silence let me know. But after a pause, my client said, “I guess it never crossed my mind I needed to do that.” The fact…
Listen To Your Higher Self
Apr 9, 2018 • 21 min
Have you ever had that moment when you were doing something or saying something, and there was that other voice in your head… the one questioning why? Maybe you already knew you were acting in a way you would not want to, or perhaps you were saying…
Find Freedom From Forgiving
Apr 2, 2018 • 18 min
Have you ever noticed how many times, we get dragged into the past and the pain, even when those hurtful times are over? Those remnants of the events can keep us stuck, frozen in the hurt and pain. Unless we forgive. That’s a big word, I know. One that is…
Grieve Losses and Celebrate Gains
Mar 26, 2018 • 22 min
Losses are painful. No way around it. They are also normal. Or to say it differently, loss is a normal part of life. Not an anomalie. Part of being alive. And loss leads to grief. That is our natural reaction to any loss. Big grief or small grief — that…
Accept the Past and Revise the Future
Mar 19, 2018 • 20 min
Time is an interesting thing, isn’t it? How often do we keep reliving the past, and imagining the future? Unfortunately, when we are caught in the past and the future, the present suffers. As I have watched myself and others, I have noticed the tendency…
Be Present In The Present
Mar 12, 2018 • 21 min
Last week, we started in a new series about my own Rules for Living. These are the rules I try to follow in my efforts to live a thriving life. This week, we head into rule #2: Be Present In The Present. These days, the buzzword is “mindfulness.” In…
Let Fear Point, Not Direct
Mar 5, 2018 • 24 min
Whenever I am playing a game, I like to know the rules… what I can do and can’t do; what I can get away with, and what will get me into trouble. I have the same feeling about life. The “rules” are principles or strategies to use when things are tough.…
The MPI Triad
Feb 26, 2018 • 19 min
I admit it. Her words have stuck with me for decades now. She told me, “Don’t waste it.” She meant that I shouldn’t waste my time… my life. Just before she died, she told me, “Make it matter.” She wanted to make sure I knew not to waste the precious time…
MORE Lessons Learned As A Chaplain
Feb 19, 2018 • 22 min
Last week, I shared some lessons I learned while I was a hospital chaplain at the beginning of my career. In this episode of the podcast, I share another six. That makes a total of ten lessons. But they only scratch the surface. My hope is to share some…
Lessons Learned As A Chaplain
Feb 12, 2018 • 21 min
It was in the early days of my Master’s degree and my clinical training. I spent a summer working as a chaplain intern. Then I joined the staff of the hospital as one of the chaplains. I had the evening shift. Chaplains have a unique position in…
Make It Last, Make It Matter
Feb 5, 2018 • 18 min
I was watching television. This one commercial, it spoke to me. Not about what they were selling, but the story leading up to the product. The product seemed irrelevant to the message. The message was about life. About living. About living long. And…
That Balance Between Certainty and Variety
Jan 29, 2018 • 24 min
We need balance. Tony Robbins notes that we have several human drives. The first two are where we need balance: certainty and variety. We need to be able to count on things in life — that’s certainty. But we also need new experiences and a change of pace…
Your Circle Of Control (and what you can’t)
Jan 22, 2018 • 21 min
Oh, if only we could control things. Everything. Wouldn’t that be nice? Finally, a chance to change the outcome, keep your loved ones safe, rid the world of injustice…. But… we can’t. We sometimes get caught up in trying. In particular, we often fall into…
2 Targets To Thrive
Jan 15, 2018 • 17 min
“But where do I start?”, he asked. I was at a conference talking about thriving. I’d spent a good amount of time discussing some principles of thriving. But I could tell it was a bit overwhelming to my new friend. He challenged me, “You said I could…
Don’t Believe Everything You Think!
Jan 8, 2018 • 15 min
Those thoughts, they get us into trouble, don’t they? We keep looking for that thing that will make us happy. We think we know. We think that thing, that person, that place, that paycheck, position, etc., etc., will finally do it. Until we get it, get…
How To Start Fresh (in the New Year)
Jan 1, 2018 • 16 min
If you haven’t heard it yet, let me be the first to say, “Happy New Year!” I doubt I made the cut, but just in case…. One of my favorite things about school, way back when, was that the semester ended. Each semester stood by itself. No matter how poorly…
3 MORE Ways We Get Stuck
Dec 18, 2017 • 18 min
In the last episode, I discussed 3 ways we get stuck. This week, I cover 3 MORE ways we get stuck. As it turns out, we humans are pretty darn creative in how we get ourselves stuck. And how we manage to think it was someone else who did it! So, in this…
3 Ways We Get Stuck
Dec 11, 2017 • 15 min
We all get stuck. We want to move forward… but something holds us back. WE hold ourselves back. But WHY do we get so stuck? Well, we do it to ourselves. We don’t mean to do it, but we just get in our own way. Which also means that once you understand WHY…
Merry Stress-ness
Dec 4, 2017 • 18 min
And just like that, the Holiday season is upon us! All the hustle and bustle. All the events. All the demands… in the midst of a time that you want to be enjoyable, meaningful, and manageable! Why the stress? In this week’s Thriveology Podcast, I discuss…
Can’t Is Dangerous
Nov 27, 2017 • 16 min
“You can’t… .” ”I can’t… .” That pretty much ends the conversation. Which is unfortunate. History is littered with people doing the very things someone else said, “You can’t do that.” Turns out, you can. And many times, we do the same things to ourselves.…
Thankful & Grateful
Nov 20, 2017 • 21 min
In the United States, we turn our minds this week to being thankful… right before we turn our minds to sales, merchandise, consumption… and all the things we don’t have. It always strikes me as ironic that on Thursday, we are likely going to share the…
“I’m Just Not Happy” and What To Do About It
Nov 13, 2017 • 19 min
Do you ever hear yourself say (or just feel), “I’m just not happy”? What does it mean? What’s keeping you feeling better? It might be depression. But it might be something else. (If you are concerned about depression, CHECK OUT THESE RESOURCES.) There are…
3 Growth Mindsets for Tough Times
Nov 6, 2017 • 21 min
Your mindset doesn’t change what is happening “out there,” but it can change how you perceive it “in here,” in your mind and thoughts. Which can also change your actions. The circumstances are the same. But whether you feel stuck or empowered, that…
Building Your Resilience Muscle
Oct 30, 2017 • 22 min
You’ve got this muscle in you that you might not know about it. Maybe it is strong, just naturally. Or maybe you have built it on purpose. Or maybe it needs a little strengthening. The muscle? Your “resilience muscle.” It helps power you through tough…
Surviving Headline Overload
Oct 23, 2017 • 19 min
I noticed it sometime around September of last year… I was getting sucked into the news! And for several years, I had done a pretty good job of limiting my exposure to the “news.” It seems more like an addiction… one little taste… and you are pulled right…
Parenting Toward Your Goal
Oct 16, 2017 • 19 min
Start with where you want to end. Always a good plan for any trip. Including the long-range trip of parenting. We need to know where we want to go, if we want any hope of getting there. This week, we close out the series on Raising Thriving Children with…
Shift From Expectation To Agreement
Oct 9, 2017 • 17 min
“I expect you to _____” is the starting point to many dead-end conversations. First, it is not a conversation — it is a demand. Second, it often leads to resentment, resistance, or both. And yet, it tends to be the default for many parents. Why? Because…
Teaching Thrive Principles To Kids
Oct 2, 2017 • 13 min
In my recent book, Thrive Principles, I provide 15 strategies for living a thriving life. In that book, I note that this does not mean an absence of struggle and tough times. I suggest, instead, that these tough times are the fuel for thriving. They are…
Antidote To A Narcissistic World
Sep 26, 2017 • 22 min
Have you noticed that the world is getting more and more narcissistic? More “Me-Me-Me” thinking is infecting society — to the detriment to the environment, civility, and those at risk. We can’t stay on this course. Is there an alternative? I believe there…
Ingredients To Thriving Children
Sep 18, 2017 • 21 min
Have you ever made a recipe — but forgot a key ingredient? Or maybe put in the wrong ingredient? One time, I left salt out of a cookie recipe. It was pretty bad. Another time, I accidentally put salt in instead of sugar. It was awful. Ingredients are…
The Important Influence On Children
Sep 11, 2017 • 22 min
There are so many influences on kids these days. They are pulled in so many directions. This has always been true. The influences might change, but the fact that outside influences pull at kids is consistent. In the 1950’s, resilience research started to…
Eggs, Balls, And Turtles
Sep 4, 2017 • 28 min
Summer has flown by! Here we are, already at Labor Day in the States. That kind of marks the end of summer for many. Most schools are back in session and schedules start to be a wee bit more important. Structure returns. And parenting may be ratcheted up…
Raising Thriving Children
Aug 28, 2017 • 12 min
If you are a parent, you know that hope/fear. You hope to raise a wonderful human being, and you fear making a mistake on the way. This week, we begin a series on raising thriving children. During this series, we will look at the goals of parenting, the…
Finding Your Confidence
Aug 21, 2017 • 20 min
Confidence. We all want to feel it. We are in a culture dedicated to the importance of strong self-confidence. And yet, it always seems out of grasp. Why is that? Because we want confidence to be “there,” already present. We want it to be a preset of…
Using Mindfulness To Thrive
Aug 14, 2017 • 18 min
It’s a hot topic these days: Mindfulness. It has been touted as a stress reliever. But it is far more than that (although it does relieve stress). Mindfulness is really an awareness your experience. In other words, instead of lost in thought or…
Systemize Your Life
Aug 7, 2017 • 16 min
Goals are great. Except they give you no path to get there. And goals can interfere with your happiness. If you can’t get there, you feel frustrated. Once you do get there, you can feel let down, not sure what to do next. But you need goals, right? Well,…
A Thriving Breath
Jul 31, 2017 • 14 min
It happens automatically. You don’t even think about it. Unless you choose to notice it — or even change it. And it’s a good thing it happens automatically. Otherwise, you would not last long. Breathing. Even if you don’t ever think about it, your…
The Appreciation Approach
Jul 24, 2017 • 18 min
Your brain is really only capable of being in one of two modes: fear/threat or love/appreciation. Unfortunately, the fear/threat mode is pretty much the default and automatic. Fortunately, changing to manual and shifting to love/appreciation is not…
The Importance Matrix
Jul 17, 2017 • 16 min
Do you find yourself chasing after all of those “urgent” tasks, only to discover that they really don’t matter? President Dwight Eisenhower said, “I have to kinds of problems. The urgent and the important. The urgent are not important and the important…
Your Built-In Importance Indicator
Jul 10, 2017 • 17 min
Wouldn’t it be nice if you had a built-in detector that let you know when something is important? Kind of like a treasure detector to point out when to pay attention and dig in? Guess what? You do! But you probably aren’t using it the way it was designed.…
The Perspective Shift
Jul 3, 2017 • 16 min
As I ran through the woods, I could only see the trees and path right in front of me. I had no idea how far up the mountain I had climbed. I had no idea about the turns in the trail ahead. And I couldn’t even see very far back, given all the twists. My…
The Responsibility Formula
Jun 26, 2017 • 18 min
E + R = O It’s one of my favorite formulas. And it isn’t even math! Well, it kinda is. It is the Responsibility Formula Dr. Robert Resnick developed, and Jack Canfield popularized. And it is powerful. Like most formulas, all the parts must be present.…
Only Control What You Can
Jun 19, 2017 • 19 min
Isn’t it interesting how much time people spend trying to control what they can’t control, and how little time we spend trying to control what we can control? Imagine what would happen if we could flip that. What if we spent our time trying to control…
Thought Awareness
Jun 12, 2017 • 23 min
The human mind is amazing. It is capable of so much. Thoughts that lead to great works of art, inventions, beautiful buildings, great literature, and everyday life. Thoughts can also lead to destruction, pain, hurt, and anguish. All from the same mind.…
Your Thrive Toolbox
Jun 5, 2017 • 15 min
Having the right tool can make ALL the difference. Ever tried to drive a screw with a hammer? I have. It didn’t go so well. A few years back, I was changing out some faucets. After stripping the skin off my knuckles and muttering a few choice words, I…
How To Accept AND Excel
May 29, 2017 • 17 min
In my latest book, Thrive Principles, one of my strategies is Accepting What Is. Which has caused some readers to wonder how that fits into my ideas about constantly growing and changing. They are not mutually opposed. Accepting What Is creates a…
3 Ways You Complicate Your Life
May 22, 2017 • 16 min
Wouldn’t it make sense if we just made things easy, direct, and effective? We don’t. We tend to complicate things. Repeatedly. Life is already a challenge many days. So why do we make it harder on ourselves? Sometimes, it is mental blocks. Sometimes, it…
Are You a WHY or a HOW Person?
May 15, 2017 • 18 min
I was madly taking notes at a conference a couple of months back. This guy beside me was taking no notes. I was impressed with someone who could remember all the details needed. The conference was about setting up social media, blogs, and other technical…
Dealing With Down Days
May 8, 2017 • 17 min
We all get them. Sometimes there is a reason. Sometimes, they just catch you for no real reason. Down days. Those days that seem to be energy-less, lacking in passion, and kinda blue. I was having a down day, so I went to my “Down Day Toolbox” to make it…
Revolutionary Habits, Evolutionary Habits
May 1, 2017 • 18 min
Over the last few weeks, we’ve focused on habits as a path to your thriving life. If you missed any of the weeks, the links are noted below. Today, we wrap up the series by noting the difference between two types of habits: revolutionary habits and…
Thought Habits
Apr 24, 2017 • 19 min
For the last few weeks, we’ve been talking habits. What they are, how they form who you are, how you make them stick, how to turn your goals into habits, and finding your “linchpin habits.” This week, I want to draw your attention to your thoughts.…
Linchpin Habits
Apr 17, 2017 • 17 min
A single habit can be tough, either to make or break. But what if you could make one habit and it multiplied into other habits? What if there is a linchpin habit for you that sets others in motion? The fact is, we all have linchpin habits. The question is…
Habiting Your Goals
Apr 10, 2017 • 20 min
We like to make goals. Most of us start the year with a set of goals. And most goals, certainly most resolutions, never quite make it. Goals are “out there,” some deadline in the future. Resolutions may start now, but rarely do they make it into habit.…
Habit Sticking
Apr 3, 2017 • 14 min
Last week, we started a series on habits. Your life is, in many ways, built on a series of habits. Some are good. Some get in your way. It always seems to me that we form bad habits so much easier than good habits! And these aren’t the habits we want to…
You Become Your Habits
Mar 27, 2017 • 18 min
For a long time, habits seemed to be a useless topic to me. Got a bad habit? Change it. Need a good habit? Build it. But the more I reflect, the more I realize how much of life is really about habits. More than that, I have noticed how hard those bad…
The Thrive Principles Simplified
Mar 20, 2017 • 17 min
Today is a big day for me. It is the release date for my new book, Thrive Principles. This book is near and dear to my heart. I have lived with it for years, collecting and developing the strategies throughout my career. The fifteen strategies can help…
“Commit!”
Mar 13, 2017 • 15 min
It happened long ago, in what feels like another life. And the story I tell is absolutely true (as far as I absolutely remember it happening this way!). I promise accuracy, as far as my memory is capable. Early in my college life, my rather foolish young…
What’s Your Center Point?
Mar 6, 2017 • 16 min
It’s a dizzying world, disorienting and jarring. And every day, you have to make decisions about how to live your life. What is your primary focus point? How do you orient your life? In workshops, I have asked this same question. People begin to name…
Does Everything Happen For A Reason?
Feb 27, 2017 • 15 min
In recent days, I have been with people in the middle of horrific losses. Inevitably, someone steps up and in an attempt to comfort, says, “Everything happens for a reason.” That comment is rarely comforting in the painful moments. But deeper than that,…
Moving Through My Midlife
Feb 20, 2017 • 20 min
Yep, MY midlife. Because I find myself at midlife (maybe, even probably, beyond “midpoint,” but in the midst of midlife). I thought that since I have been discussing midlife transitions and crises, I needed to be open about my own midlife issues and…
Crisis or Depression?
Feb 13, 2017 • 14 min
“I think I might be depressed,” he told me. I wasn’t convinced. When Brian was talking, it seemed he was searching more than he was lost. Depression, unhappiness, and a midlife crisis can look very similar. But they are very different. And the way through…
Healthy Midlife Transitions
Feb 6, 2017 • 16 min
Not every mid-lifer manages a crisis. Many make a healthy transition to the new stage of life and development. The difference? There are several factors that come into play. Central is a misunderstanding about what is happening. Many people refuse to…
The Heart Of A Midlife Crisis
Jan 30, 2017 • 15 min
Most people slide right into midlife, out of breath from exertion. Up until then, it is all about achieve. What can I do, build, and achieve? Then, something shifts. It is about believe. What do I believe? What’s important? What will I leave as my legacy?…
4 Myths of Mid Life Crisis
Jan 23, 2017 • 20 min
This week, we turn our attention to mid-life. Maybe because that is where I am! Many clients come to me in the midst of a midlife crisis. But that term carries so much baggage that many people are even embarrassed to consider the fact that it might just…
My Word for 2017
Jan 16, 2017 • 14 min
Every year, my everyone in my family chooses a word to live into for the coming year. This replaced my New Year’s Resolutions almost a decade ago. After I started this podcast, I have shared my word with you. 2016 was my year of Appreciation. I wrote…
6 Steps To Dealing With Stress
Jan 9, 2017 • 20 min
How many times do you hear someone say, “I’m so stressed!” Or how many times do YOU think and feel that? We live in a culture that seems to revel in being stressed. Unfortunately, it is sometimes a badge of honor — the cost of being in demand and doing…
Starting and Ending Your Day Strong
Jan 2, 2017 • 16 min
How do you build a thriving year? By having thriving days. How do you have thriving days? By focusing on how you start your day and end your day. What happens in the middle tends to take care of itself — IF you start strong and end strong. Do you have a…
How To Deal With Difficult People
Dec 26, 2016 • 13 min
“You can’t take my joy!” What a great line. And it fits so many times. You are having a great day — and then that one person, that difficult person… . They try to rob your joy! So, how DO you deal with difficult people? Because they are all around. At…
3 Thoughts To Turn Around Tough Times
Dec 19, 2016 • 15 min
In the midst of my own serious illness years ago, I had friends who were more than willing to share with me the many ways I might die from my illness. They seemed to have missed the fact that I had the same information. But they also missed the fact that…
Choosing How You Live It
Dec 12, 2016 • 15 min
If there is one thing clearly evident: we do not have a choice in what life sends our way. Sometimes, things happen. Good things, bad things, in-between things. ”Stuff” happens. Sometimes, we have zero control over what happens. Sometimes, we have some…
You Are Designed For Impact!
Dec 5, 2016 • 15 min
When I look around, it seems that everything has a design, a purpose. Trees have a design of making leaves and fruit. When the design fails, the tree fails and dies. I believe humans have a design built in. We are designed for making an impact. The impact…
Fear or Love; Your Choice!
Nov 28, 2016 • 24 min
Have you ever wondered whether your brain controlled your mind or your mind controlled your brain? Here is the answer: YES. Your brain certainly affects your thinking. But your thinking affects your brain… and you can CHOOSE where your thoughts dwell.…
How Do You Spend Your Time?
Nov 21, 2016 • 16 min
How do you spend your time? What an interesting phrase. You are, whether you realize it or not, spending a commodity. In fact, the most valuable commodity. Because you can’t get it back. You spend an hour on something. That hour is gone. Spend some money…
Life Is The NOW
Nov 14, 2016 • 17 min
Do you ever find yourself “lost in thought?” I am willing to bet your thoughts are pulling to the past, the future, or an alternate past. In other words, you are thinking about what happened (or you wish had happened) or about what might happen. But life…
Forgive To Live
Nov 7, 2016 • 13 min
Here’s a concept that trips up many people: Forgiveness. Oh, sure, you know you should forgive. But you just don’t know if that is the best idea. Maybe you believe you just can’t forget what happened (myth: ”forgive and forget”). Or maybe you don’t think…
Control What You Can (Release The Rest)
Oct 31, 2016 • 16 min
Control. We all want it. We all try to have it. And yet, we usually try to control things we cannot control (like, say, other people). At the same time, we often fail to control the things we can (like, say, ourselves!). Which tends to pretty much keep us…
“What Is” IS What Is
Oct 24, 2016 • 19 min
Ever notice how much time and energy we spend (waste) struggling with “what is?” We want things to be different than they are. We want things to have happened differently than they did. Yet here we are, and those things DID happen. And we still spend time…
Your Life Is YOUR Responsibility
Oct 17, 2016 • 21 min
100% All you. Your life is 100% your responsibility. (Notice I did NOT say 100% your fault. HUGE difference between fault and responsibility.) Your life and how it goes is YOUR responsibility. That would be your “Ability to Respond.” You get a choice in…
We ALL Have Fears!
Oct 10, 2016 • 24 min
Fear is wired into our brain. And there isn’t any way to unwire it! Which is probably for the best. Sometimes, fear keeps you from doing something foolish. It helps to keep you alive. But it can also keep you stuck. In many coaching sessions, I ask, “Why…
People Do The Best They Can
Oct 3, 2016 • 17 min
Other than a few people who were being self-critical and a bit harsh with themselves, I have yet to have someone say, “You know, I am just not trying. I am kinda sliding by, not really doing what I think I should.” Almost everyone (other than those few…
Change Is Inevitable
Sep 26, 2016 • 25 min
There is one constant in life: Change. It doesn’t matter if you hate change (most people) or love change (a few people — but usually, only when the change is going their way!). The change happens. Watch the seasons of the year go by. Summer just blew…
Every Perspective Is Limited
Sep 19, 2016 • 22 min
You’ve probably heard the story about the group of blind men describing an elephant, all touching a different part of the elephant. Not surprisingly, they all have a different view of what an elephant is… because they have a limited perspective. We ALL…
A Thought Is A Thought
Sep 12, 2016 • 23 min
Pretty much all day, you are thinking. That is built into our design. We think, ponder, consider, worry over, dream about, and pretty much run everything through our thoughts. That isn’t really a problem. Except when we forget we are thinking. When we…
It’s Not About Happiness
Sep 5, 2016 • 14 min
OK, before you kick me to the curb and tell me you want to be happy, hear me out. I don’t want you to be miserable. But I also don’t think life is simply about being happy. In fact, that assumption is often what leads people to some pretty bad places of…
Life Has Challenges
Aug 29, 2016 • 21 min
Last week, I discussed the fact that life isn’t fair. That is the first immutable law of living. Because when you struggle against it, trying to make life fair, you lose. When you accept life isn’t fair, you shift. Life isn’t about fairness. In fact, one…
Life Isn’t Fair
Aug 22, 2016 • 24 min
If you follow my marriage podcast, you know I am in the midst of a series on the “Immutable Laws of Marriage.” These “laws” are violated at the expense of the relationship. There are also Immutable Laws of Living. And this week, we start looking at those…
Putting It All Together: Your Thriving Body
Aug 15, 2016 • 21 min
There is one reason I shared the Thriving Body Series: so you can build a thriving body. I have noticed that we live in a culture of body-shaming or body-ignoring. We live in a world focused on “what you look like,” compared to some ideal created by…
Calming Your Thriving Body
Aug 8, 2016 • 28 min
“I’m so stressed out,” has become a very common refrain. But what does that mean? Have you paused for a moment to wonder, what is behind that idea? We all have moments of feeling a bit overwhelmed and frazzled. We all have times when we react to some…
Resting Your Thriving Body
Aug 1, 2016 • 27 min
Do you get the rest you (and your body) need? Most people don’t. Research on sleep reveals that almost 50% of people say they do not get enough sleep. And your body takes a toll for this. Slower healing, chronic disease, fuzzy thinking, physical decline,…
Fueling Your Thriving Body, Part 2 – Your Questions Answered
Jul 25, 2016 • 31 min
Two podcasts ago, I covered fueling your thriving body (how to eat to thrive). That raised some questions. So this week, I answer your questions. Let’s talk some more about the best sources for energy when you are fueling that thriving body. And I can…
Moving Your Thriving Body
Jul 18, 2016 • 28 min
We addressed how to fuel your thriving body (how to eat) last week. That is a fundamental building block of a thriving body. But what about building that thriving body? That is all about exercise. I look for the M.E.D. (Minimally Effective Dosage) of…
Fueling Your Thriving Body
Jul 11, 2016 • 35 min
Last week, we started a new series, Your Thriving Body. My focus is on how we build a thriving body. Not a “beach body,” not a six-pack. Not any particular body shape. But a thriving body. We all have limits and limitations. But how can we best live a…
Your Thriving Body
Jul 4, 2016 • 17 min
Somehow I missed it. I was cruising through life, doing my thing, working hard, and trying to move forward. What did I miss? That my body was what took me through life. And it was quite a rude awakening. Like a doctor telling you and your wife that you…
Get Unstuck Wrap-up
Jun 27, 2016 • 29 min
People get stuck for several reasons: The Past The Future Your Energy None of the 3 have to keep you stuck. First, you have to identify the source of “Stuck,” and then decide how to move through it. Unstuck becomes a choice — but only after understanding…
4 Steps To Changing Your Limiting Beliefs
Jun 20, 2016 • 22 min
Within you, lurking just below the surface, there are some beliefs that are limiting you. Your Limiting Beliefs influence your thoughts and your perspective. They mold your paradigm and keep you held hostage. You can break free from those beliefs. You…
The KNAC Protocol To Help You Get Unstuck
Jun 13, 2016 • 22 min
You here it all the time: “Knowledge is power.” Not true. Knowledge is just information. Perhaps it is information that is digested and understood. But it is still information. For knowledge to be power, something else needs to be applied: Action. Action,…
Anchored or Stuck? “Anchors Aweigh!”
Jun 6, 2016 • 17 min
Are you anchored, waiting for the next opportunity to sail? Or are you stuck? Sometimes, we have to set anchor for a bit, let the tide change, wait for a storm to pass, or wait for a new day. Sometimes, we set the anchor so well that we end up stuck. Time…
When Fear Has You Stuck…
May 30, 2016 • 22 min
Fear. It hits us all. And I’m not talking about a “fright,” a startle from something around you. But fear. True fear. We all have it. But it doesn’t have to keep you stuck. The real problem is our relationship with fear. We learn to avoid fear — and the…
Shift Your Perspective
May 23, 2016 • 23 min
When we get stuck, we can’t see beyond ourselves. When we can’t see beyond ourselves, we get stuck. Perspective — or lack of a different perspective — is what keeps us in that stuck space. The good news is a shift in perspective is always available to…
Loops
May 16, 2016 • 24 min
It’s just human nature. We like things And when they’re not, they can often tug at us, pulling energy and focus away. When things are left hanging, we feel (oh, by the way, the last word from that first line is “finished”) incomplete, unfinished,…
Give Up Your Goals To Get Unstuck
May 9, 2016 • 25 min
As counter-intuitive as it sounds, if you are stuck, one of the first things to do is give up your goals. Which may lead you to think that my idea of getting unstuck just means that you leave things the way they are. Instead of being stuck, you might be…
You Are NOT As Stuck As You Feel
May 2, 2016 • 21 min
Stuck. We all feel it sometimes. We can’t get ourselves in gear, out of our own way, moving in the right direction, or even moving at all. There are some reasons we get stuck. But I truly believe we are never quite as stuck as we feel. When I feel stuck,…
How You Get Stuck
Apr 25, 2016 • 23 min
We all have those times when we feel stuck. And we tend to get stuck for the same few reasons: The Past Limiting Beliefs Lack of Clarity Fear Sometimes, we stay anchored in the past, to the old stories and old scripts — and we don’t even realize it. Other…
Getting Unstuck Intro
Apr 18, 2016 • 11 min
During my career as a therapist, person after person came to figure out why they were stuck. As I transitioned to coaching, I realized my focus was on how to get unstuck. How we get stuck is merely a starting point. The real task is how to get un-stuck…
Dealing With Anxiety
Apr 11, 2016 • 30 min
Anxiety. It sometimes seems to surround us. Sometimes, it can even overwhelm. But anxiety doesn’t have to hold you back. You can learn to walk through life without allowing anxiety to control you. Remember that we have “anxiety” wiring in your brain. But…
Is Comfort Killing You?
Apr 4, 2016 • 22 min
We all often seek comfort. But is the comfort we find killing us? Is the comfort, perhaps more subtly, holding us back? Here is the problem: we find something comfortable, something “better,” something bigger. Then, instead of bigger, better, more…
Don’t Take The Bait!
Mar 28, 2016 • 17 min
My son and I were off the coast, fishing in some pretty chilly water. We kept pulling up little fish, but nothing that would serve as dinner. While we were bobbing out there, I was wondering what those fish were thinking. They were hanging out, trying to…
Can’t Change The Past So Stop Trying
Mar 21, 2016 • 25 min
It is an interesting human characteristic that we spend lots of energy trying to rework and change the past — at the same time, we fail to believe we can change our future! A belief that the future is unchangeable (and actions/inactions that often reveal…
You’re Gonna Die!
Mar 14, 2016 • 20 min
Let’s just say it and get it out of the way. You, I, and everyone else, is going to die. An inescapable fact of life. We will die. A morbid thought? I don’t think it has to be a morbid thought, as much as an organizing thought. Reality. It brings things…
Solving The Control Paradox
Mar 7, 2016 • 19 min
Control. We all want it. We strive for it, wrestle for it, grab for it… and end up trying to control the wrong things. Human nature. We try to control the things we can’t control, and abdicate control over the things we should control. When we try to…
2 Words To Thrive
Feb 29, 2016 • 18 min
All the way back to the first century, one philosopher suggested 2 simple words to guide a thriving life (he didn’t really call it a thriving life, but that was what he described). Those 2 words are still crucial for building a thriving life. And they are…
3 Steps To Break Your Stuck Cycle
Feb 22, 2016 • 24 min
Ever feel like you are just running around on that hamster wheel, stuck and repeating? That’s the Stuck Cycle. It starts with stress and ends with stress. In between are the behaviors you do to cope (but that only leave you feeling worse). Here’s a little…
The Trial and Error Life
Feb 15, 2016 • 18 min
“Life is not pass/fail but trial & error.” Nick Vujic How do you live your life? When something doesn’t work out, do you see it as a failure, or another attempt? When something tough comes along, do you take it on as an experiment, or walk away? We know…
Stop Avoiding Discomfort, Struggle, and Stress
Feb 8, 2016 • 26 min
Where did we get the notion that life should be one smooth glide down Easy Street? Never has been, never will be. Life is full of struggles, times of discomfort, and challenges. Thank goodness! Growth only comes from the struggles and challenges. What we…
4 Steps To Regain Your Focus
Feb 1, 2016 • 30 min
About a month ago, you may have made a few resolutions. Or maybe you didn’t need a resolution. You already had a direction. You knew where you were headed. How’s it going? Are you on-track?? Focused??? Making progress???? If you aren’t, consider yourself…
Beliefs, Behavior, and a Fierce Life
Jan 25, 2016 • 21 min
In the last podcast, I suggested giving up a Fear Life, and moving to a Fierce Life. That was not a life devoid of fear, but one that chose a path in spite of fear. It is the courageous life, lived with clarity and purpose, and with intensity. Sometimes,…
Fear Life or Fierce Life?
Jan 18, 2016 • 18 min
I used to wish for a fearless life. You know, that place where you no longer have fears. Only confidence and drive. Don’t get me wrong. I don’t want to live a life of fear, held back by fears and concerns. I just no longer believe that a “fearless” life…
2 Magic Questions To Live Beyond Fear
Jan 11, 2016 • 16 min
Over the years, I have met several people who told me they “had no fear.” I immediately knew one of two things were true: either they were unaware or or unwilling to admit to fear, or they were not pushing very hard. That doesn’t mean that we should live…
Worry Less, Live More
Jan 4, 2016 • 23 min
I keep trying to figure out what the opposite word of “worry” is. That would be when you are constantly thinking about all the good things that might happen. My guess is, there is no such word, because worry is what people do, not the opposite. In 1883,…
4 Steps to Taming Your Fear
Dec 28, 2015 • 25 min
You can never eliminate fear. But you CAN tame it! Really, your choice is between feeding and growing your fear, or taming it. The first will only chase you further into a cave. The second option, taming it, leads you to what is most important to you.…
3 Myths of Fear
Dec 21, 2015 • 18 min
Fear. Does it get in your way? Do you believe the myths of fear? Those myths keep you stuck. Fear becomes the jailor of your life, not the friend it pretends to be. If you want to get to the other side of fear, you need to know the myths of fear. Let’s…
New Series: The Other Side of Fear
Dec 14, 2015 • 15 min
We start a new series for Thriveology Podcast: The Other Side of Fear. Over the years, countless clients have said the same thing. First, they would tell me of some dream, some goal, some hope, they wanted to attain. I would then ask, “Why haven’t you…
Ignore The Noise!
Dec 7, 2015 • 17 min
It is a noisy world. There are so many voices and opinions coming at you. There are so many thoughts in your own head. Noisy. At a recent conference, the presenter noted that music is simply noise with rules applied. For me, it is noise with rules and…
What’s Your Experiment?
Nov 30, 2015 • 18 min
Children naturally do it. Young adults do it. And then we forget to keep it up. Experimenting. Life is built on it. Any new development starts with it. Right now, while I am writing this, I am in the middle of one of my experiments. My torso is wrapped in…
Control What You CAN Control…
Nov 22, 2015 • 16 min
We spend lots of time trying to control our Fears, Feelings, and Thoughts. But, we can’t. We can decide how long they will keep us stuck, but we just can’t stop them from popping up. And yet, we spend LOTS of energy trying to avoid them. Why not spend…
Choosing Plan C
Nov 16, 2015 • 17 min
Too often, we get stuck in “either/or” thinking. We believe that our choice is either A or B. And usually, the magic is in plan C (or D - Z). Our “binary thinking” trips us up. We just see things that way: left/right, yes/no, good/bad, up/down, even…
“We Aren’t Getting Out Alive” – Make It Count!
Nov 9, 2015 • 19 min
No, I am not predicting a huge catastrophe, destroying the world. And I am not stuck in a disaster area. But I remember hearing someone say that about life: ”We aren’t getting out of here alive.” Simple. And profound. Between birth and death, what is life…
The Change Matrix – Dealing with Change
Nov 2, 2015 • 18 min
Change. So many times, I hear people say, “I don’t like change.” But it seems to me that we like change, when we choose it, and when we want it. Over the years, I noticed that change doesn’t always come in the ways we want it, and the time the want it.…
Your Thoughts, Your Story, You’re Stuck (or not)
Oct 26, 2015 • 46 min
You are telling a story, to yourself or to somebody else. In your mind, you are just telling the facts, “telling it like it is,” and “just the facts, ma’am.” But rarely is it just the facts. It may include facts, but there is a “fiction” that is added on…
Change 1 Thing
Oct 19, 2015 • 20 min
Change. Not a favorite of many people. Life is constantly changing, but that doesn’t mean people like change. When people decide to change: lose weight, exercise, get out of debt, or some other worthy goal — suddenly, they want to turn everything…
Are You Focused On The Problem Or The Solution?
Oct 12, 2015 • 13 min
Are you focused on the problem or the solution? I’ve noticed that people fall into one category or the other. The “Problemers” tend to be well aware of why something can’t be done. They can give you the reasons why, the limits of anything, and tell you…
Why Self-Compassion Is More Important Than Self-Confidence
Oct 5, 2015 • 16 min
So much press on self-esteem. And so little evidence that self-esteem predicts success or mental health. A higher-than-average level of self-esteem is, however, associated with juvenile delinquency and narcissism. Then why do we find schools, parents, and…
Curiosity And That Cat: Killer or Thriver?
Sep 28, 2015 • 14 min
Does “curiosity kill the cat?” Hardly. In fact, that is a mis-quote. The actual quote is “care killed the cat.” And that is probably MUCH more accurate these days! Yet that same phrase about curiosity and death has been used to shut down the curiosity of…
Extend Your 3 Horizons to Thrive
Sep 21, 2015 • 20 min
Sometimes, the horizon can seem to stretch in front of us forever. Sometimes, it seems that we are smack up against the world. We can’t see beyond where we are. We can’t see past our problems and struggles. Time to extend and expand your horizons. There…
3 Thoughts You Need To Drop
Sep 14, 2015 • 18 min
All day, our minds are throwing us thoughts, waiting to see which ones we bite. And boy, do we ever bite! We keep on repeating those thoughts, telling ourselves the same lines and stories over and over. Pretty soon, we forget it was just a passing thought…
What Thrivers Do: They Grow
Sep 7, 2015 • 17 min
Are you growing? Maybe you feel “all grown up. But that’s not what I am asking. Are you “done,” or are you in a process of becoming? People who thrive continue growing. It is not about always being happy, but forever growing and developing. When the goal…
Make An Impact
Aug 31, 2015 • 16 min
It is my observation that humans are designed to make an impact, to make a difference, in the world. It is also my observation that, when we stop making an impact, we start acting in unhealthy ways. Addictions are fueled by a lack of making a difference.…
Be Courageous: What Thrivers Know
Aug 24, 2015 • 25 min
Are you courageous? If you are like most people I know, you will tell me you are not. ”Not me,” you will say, “I am too afraid to be courageous.” I would remind you that if you are afraid, you are half-way to courage. The only element missing is acting.…
Act On Your Convictions
Aug 17, 2015 • 15 min
We all move through life, either purposely choosing a direction, or allowing the vicissitudes of life to push us along. Either way, we are making a choice. We are either choosing our directions or choosing to let ourselves be moved about. Thrivers make a…
Building A Life Of Meaning And Purpose
Aug 10, 2015 • 23 min
I believe that we, as humans, have an innate need for purpose in our lives. We need to find meaning in life. When we don’t, we flounder. We fill the “purpose hole” with other things. Addictions, distractions, mid-life crises — all the result of NOT…
Thrivers Care For Themselves
Aug 3, 2015 • 31 min
Years ago, I was learning all I could about resilience, personal development, and how to thrive. I forgot one very important element: my physical health. My body, it would seem, I just left out of the equation. My body did send me a loud “wake up call.”…
What Thrivers Do To Raise Their Personal Standards
Jul 27, 2015 • 18 min
What do you expect of yourself? What are those traits in yourself that you think are crucial? Those attributes you treasure? Those are your Standards. They mark what you expect of yourself, what you expect to live up to. Last week, I discussed boundaries.…
What Thrivers Do To Set Boundaries
Jul 20, 2015 • 24 min
Your line in the sand. Your personal fence line. It is when you say “No.” They are boundaries. We all have limits. People make demands upon us or treat us poorly, and we must all decide our limits. Unfortunately, many people feel guilty for setting a…
What Thrivers Do To Nurture Spirituality
Jul 13, 2015 • 25 min
We all know it: there is an essence deep within. There is something that calls us to a higher place, a deeper perspective, a need for purpose. Thrivers know they must nurture and protect their sense of spirituality. That is the essence within each of us.…
What Thriving People Know About Gratitude And Appreciation
Jul 6, 2015 • 22 min
Some people seem to just know how to thrive. For the rest of us, we need to learn the skills of thriving. Today, we discuss one skill easily learned, with incredible impact. And it is one I work to incorporate into my life. Thrivers practice gratitude and…
What Thriving People Do To Show Up
Jun 29, 2015 • 24 min
Think about 2 types of people. First, there are the ones that trudge through the day, waiting for the next thing. They may have a conversation with you, but nobody is really there. They are a bit vacant and distant. Often, their eyes are a bit dull. The…
What Thriving People Know About Assuming Responsibility
Jun 22, 2015 • 25 min
That word, “responsibility,” is such a loaded term. I immediately go back to childhood, where some adult was saying, “who’s responsible for this mess?” What they were really asking was, “Who’s fault is this?” And nobody wants to be blamed. So, everyone…
What Thriving People Know About Forgiving and Moving On
Jun 15, 2015 • 29 min
Forgiveness is such a loaded term in our culture. You are told by some to forgive, as if it is a burden that must be done. Others tell you not to forgive, but to hold on to the hurt — so the other person is held responsible, I suppose. Forgiveness, to me,…
What Thriving People Know About Accepting What Is
Jun 8, 2015 • 18 min
Things happen, and we wish they hadn’t. Then, we fight against what we think might happen. And we even fight against where we are right now. The struggle does nothing to change what is. In fact, the more we struggle, the less we are able to respond. The…
What Thriving People Know About Thoughts
Jun 1, 2015 • 26 min
Thriving people do things differently. But like success, thriving leaves a trail. If you want to thrive more, look at what thriving people are doing, and follow their lead! So, I have isolated 15 things that thriving people do differently. And each week,…
WAKE UP! Life is calling…
May 25, 2015 • 20 min
Can you hear it? Life is giving you a Wake Up Call. Don’t hit the snooze! What is a wake up call? Some event, some occurrence, that lets you know you have not been paying attention. Life has shifted. It may be a loss. It could be a change. It might be a…
Why Chasing Happiness Chases Happiness Away
May 18, 2015 • 15 min
Have you noticed all the books, articles, and stories about increasing your happiness? Sounds great, doesn’t it? I am certainly not opposed to happiness. I just think that chasing after happiness only chases happiness away. Oh, sure, we may feel a few…
Dealing With Endings and Beginnings
May 11, 2015 • 17 min
Life is filled with endings. And beginnings. There is no avoiding the endings. And there is always another beginning. Some endings are by choice: you decide to leave a job or move to a new town. Some endings give you no choice: someone dies or there is an…
Why We Worry (And How To Stop!)
May 4, 2015 • 27 min
We worry. In spite of songs telling us, “Don’t Worry, Be Happy,” we still wake up in a cold sweat. Or maybe you find yourself sitting at your desk, fretting about what might go wrong at home, at work, or anywhere else in life. And if you have kids… don’t…
From “What If” To “What Is”
Apr 27, 2015 • 17 min
We all can get lost in the Worries and Wishes. We can lose our lives to “What If?”. In the process, we lose focus on the present moment. Instead, we focus on things that may never be, either worriedly or wishingly. You see, your mind is excellent at…
The Success Principles with Jack Canfield
Apr 20, 2015 • 55 min
One of my favorite authors and experts is Jack Canfield. My kids grew up with Chicken Soup For The Soul. I “grew up” with The Success Principles, a book that gave me a plan to shift my mindset. A while back, I ran into Jack at a conference. We chatted and…
You Are Not THAT Story!
Apr 13, 2015 • 13 min
Have you seen this picture in your FB feed or on Twitter? It crossed my path a number of times. The first time I saw it, I was immediately uncomfortable. But it took a little time for me to be clear on why. There is a point to it: just because you…
How To End Your Day On A High Note
Apr 6, 2015 • 22 min
Days have a rhythm. All day long, it is a huge inhale, trying to get that energy in you and into your efforts. But at the end of the day, it is a big exhale, a moment of relaxing and calming. Or more accurately, it should be. In our natural rhythm,…
You Feel Your Focus
Mar 30, 2015 • 16 min
What is your focus? Do you focus on the threats and dangers, the “what’s wrong” of life? It is seductive. The “news” surrounds us with stories that can lead you to believe we are in danger at every turn. The “self-help” world tells us all the things that…
3 Steps to Ending Fear of Failure
Mar 23, 2015 • 22 min
Have you failed? Did that failure stop you from moving forward? Did it get you stuck? Failure is a part of life. Ever watched a child learn to walk? Success only comes after repeated failures. Yet that same child keeps on trying, until the child gets it…
3 Things You Are NOT: #61 Thriveology Podcast
Mar 16, 2015 • 15 min
We all have the same question: “Who am I?” Today, I want to suggest there are some things we are NOT: We are NOT our thoughts. We are NOT our experiences. We are NOT others’ opinions of us. Many times, we make the mistake and assume we are our thoughts,…
Not My Circus, Not My Monkey
Mar 9, 2015 • 19 min
One of my favorite sayings is “Not my circus, not my monkey.” Evidently, this is a Polish proverb. Maybe it is because I have an affinity to monkeys, but I love the meaning of that. Am I caught up trying to deal with someone else’s circus or monkey? Am I…
You’re Going To Be Alright
Mar 2, 2015 • 19 min
Everything will be okay in the end. If it isn’t okay, it isn’t the end. - John Lennon I don’t know what is happening in your life. Only this: we can always continue to grow and thrive, no matter what is going on. How do I know? Life is that way. We all…
Take A Leap!
Feb 23, 2015 • 17 min
I thought we were doing well. The conference was going well. I thought the participants were happy. But sometimes, you can tell by the expression… . I saw her headed toward me, red-faced and determined. I turned to face her, and with a big grin, asked,…
How To Beat Depression
Feb 17, 2015 • 33 min
Disclaimer: The information I provide in this blog and podcast are not to be construed as medical advice. Before making any changes, you should consult with your doctor. This material is my opinion, based in research and experience. It may or may not…
Is It REALLY Depression?
Feb 9, 2015 • 20 min
“If it looks like a duck and quacks like a duck, it must be a duck.” Or so the saying goes. With symptoms of depression, it is not quite so clear. Years ago, I had a client in my office who had been working to resolve her depression for years. Medicine…
What IS Depression?
Feb 2, 2015 • 20 min
Disclaimer: The information I provide in this blog and podcast are not to be construed as medical advice. Before making any changes, you should consult with your doctor. This material is my opinion, based in research and experience. It may or may not…
Truths and Myths About Depression
Jan 26, 2015 • 20 min
Disclaimer: The information I provide in this blog and podcast are not to be construed as medical advice. Before making any changes, you should consult with your doctor. This material is my opinion, based in research and experience. It may or may not…
5 Ways To Shift Your Day From Stressful To Restful
Jan 19, 2015 • 22 min
I was at a workshop yesterday, and was struck with how many people said, “My life/job/relationship is stressful.” That was a belief I once shared. Now, I understand that stress is our internal reaction to an external event. There is nothing inherently…
Stop Striving. Start Thriving.
Jan 12, 2015 • 20 min
“Just a little bit further,” my brother kept telling me. I was out of shape, trying to get to the top of the mountain. Exhausted, I was just trudging along. My brother, leading the way, kept reassuring me that it was just a few more switchbacks… and then,…
My Word for 2015: Present
Jan 5, 2015 • 27 min
Last week, I talked about my 1 word resolution. This week, I want to tell you about my word. See if it applies to you, too! I often find myself impatient, caught in my thoughts, distracted by something else, or plagued by “What if?”, “If only…”, “Why?”,…
Resolve!: Your 2015 Resolution in 1 Word
Dec 29, 2014 • 16 min
I always love New Years. A fresh start! New beginnings! It is really the same reason I always liked the end of a semester at school. While arbitrary, it felt like a fresh start, and a chance to do things differently. So, I used to sit down and right out…
Your Guide To A Guilt-Free NO: #49 Thriveology Podcast
Dec 21, 2014 • 14 min
The favorite word of a two year-old: “NO!” That toddler says it freely, with meaning and conviction. Many of us lose that capacity of “No” soon after. Instead of having control over our lives, we turn it over to others. We are asked to do something, and…
Living The Big Stuff: An Interview with Kristine Carlson
Dec 15, 2014 • 51 min
I finished my training in psychotherapy, and promptly realized I had a thorough education in what is wrong with people. I was far less clear about what is right with people — how people bounce back, thrive, and grow through all of life’s challenges. This…
4 Strategies For Moving From Struggle To Thriving: #47 Thriveology Podcast
Dec 8, 2014 • 21 min
Every person has circumstances that knock them down. A Japanese proverb says, Fall down seven times, get up eight. We can’t stop the circumstances. They just happen. You don’t have to seek them out. They will come. Illness, job loss, relationships ending,…
5 Steps To Overcoming Inertia: Physics and Being Stuck
Dec 1, 2014 • 20 min
Inertia. Being stuck. We all find ourselves there at one point or another. The question is whether we stay stuck or get moving. The choice is whether to let inertia continue or overcome it. Some days, we can feel like Sisyphus, repeatedly trying to push…
What Martin Taught Me About Gratitude
Nov 24, 2014 • 14 min
I met Martin toward the end of his life. He was a double-amputee, with much of an arm also missing. And he suffered from emphysema. Oh, and Martin taught me a lesson I needed to learn: gratitude. He gave thanks for his life, in spite of having lost two…
3 Tools for Dealing With Your Anger: #44 Thriveology Podcast
Nov 17, 2014 • 21 min
Anger. It can be frightening. It can push you away. It can push others away. And expressing anger does little to resolve anger. In fact, it often only feeds the anger, stoking the fire until it is dangerously out of control. Anger is a misunderstood…
Get Unstuck From Your Story: Interview with Kim Ades — #43
Nov 10, 2014 • 43 min
Every day, things happen to us. Circumstances interrupt our lives. Sometimes, we cause them. Sometimes, life is just happening to us. Then, we start telling ourselves stories about those events. The events are one layer. And they can be painful. But much…
This Moment Matters: Interview with Shawn Ellis, #42 Thriveology Podcast
Nov 3, 2014 • 51 min
We fill every day up. In fact, we often fill every moment of every day up. And the moments pass. The days pass. We move from crisis to crisis, event to event. We try to do multiple things at the same time, and pretend it is a skill. In the process, we…
Bad Habits? Change Them! (An Interview with Josh Matthews-Morgan): #41
Oct 27, 2014 • 46 min
Our brains can work for us or against us. We can live, stuck in the loops of poor habits. Or we can create rituals (habits of choice) and transform ourselves. Bad habits are often habits that worked at one time, but no longer serve us. Unfortunately, they…
3 Steps to Dealing With Doubt: 40 Thriveology Podcast
Oct 20, 2014 • 16 min
That tiny little voice whispers to us: “Don’t do it. Don’t try it. You can’t do it. You won’t make it.” That little voice of doubt. Do you have it? You do. How do I know? We ALL have it. We all believe we are the only ones suffering from those feelings of…
Finding Your Hero Within: #39 Thriveology Podcast
Oct 13, 2014 • 42 min
Do you believe there is something heroic within you? Is there a place of bravery within you, calling you to a higher purpose and a place of meaning? My guest today is speaker and auther, Tony Edgell. Tony is a self-described “former bully.” Tony told me…
4 “Can’ts” And How To Change Them
Oct 6, 2014 • 19 min
I used to be the King of Can’t. “I can’t do this,” or “We can’t do that” seemed to roll out of my mouth. Almost all of them were lies. Well, kind of. They certainly were not true. Instead, my “can’ts” were more about mindset and perception than reality.…
No More Manic Mornings: 3 Steps To A Thriving Start
Sep 29, 2014 • 15 min
It’s just another manic morning. Not just Mondays, but for many, every day. Did you know your risk of a heart attack spikes on Monday morning? There are lots of reasons why this might be the case. But at least one reason is because we shock ourselves into…
How To Get Through The Fog: #36 Thriveology Podcast
Sep 22, 2014 • 29 min
Life can be overwhelming. Problems arise and can truly tap us out of resources. Sometimes, you realize that it just seems like you are stuck in a fog, not sure where to go or what to do. Or maybe you know all the things you need to do, but seem to be…
How Big is Your BUT?: #35 Thriveology Podcast
Sep 15, 2014 • 21 min
I know. It’s a personal question. How BIG is your BUT? Oh, just to clarify, I am not talking about anatomy. I am talking about language. Words. In particular, THAT word: “BUT.” We say it all the time: “Blah, blah, BUT, blah blah.” or “Yes, BUT, blah,…
Moving Through Grief: #34 Thriveology Podcast
Sep 8, 2014 • 35 min
We don’t like to face loss and grief in our culture. Yet loss is inevitable. Unfortunately, since most people don’t want to face grief, we don’t always have the tools we need to deal with that inevitable moment of loss and pain. In this podcast, I take a…
Your Value, Your Thoughts, Your Beliefs – Interview with Travis Sago: #33 Thriveology Podcast
Aug 25, 2014 • 60 min
We continue to take a look at how those beliefs and thoughts get in the way of discovering your own value. That’s Travis! This week, I had the great pleasure and honor of interviewing Travis Sago. If you don’t know Travis, he is an internet entrepreneur…
4 C’s To Changing Your Limiting Beliefs: #32 Thriveology Podcast
Aug 18, 2014 • 22 min
We all have beliefs about ourselves, other people, and the world around us. Sometimes, those beliefs help us to move forward with great success. But many times, those beliefs hold us back and keep us trapped. In last week’s podcast, we talked about the…
That Story You Are Telling Yourself? IT’S A LIE! (probably): #31 Thrive Nation Podcast
Aug 11, 2014 • 27 min
Yesterday, I told a lie. To myself. We all do it. Everyday. Here is the sad part: the lies we tell ourselves are hurtful and limiting. They keep us stuck and keep us feeling bad. So why do we keep telling them? Because they originate in some beliefs we…
Damaged, Resilient, or Thriving? #30 Thriveology Podcast
Aug 4, 2014 • 28 min
For a century or so, our culture has become increasingly “psychologized.” Something bad happens to you, your psyche is injured, and your option is to realize what happened to you. That is, generally, the topic of therapy: discovering the roots of your…
Suffering from PPM Syndrome? Why it is Dangerous to You!
Jul 21, 2014 • 32 min
PPM Syndrome is rampant in our society! Do you suffer from it? Do those around you suffer from it? Chances are good that you are infected, and so are those around you. PPM Syndrome is not regularly diagnosed, but can keep you stuck. This one thing can…
Built For Impact: #28 Thriveology Podcast
Jul 14, 2014 • 28 min
Do you wonder why you are here? Are you wondering what purpose you have in the world? You have something unique to offer to the world. It is something only YOU can do to impact the world. Life satisfaction comes from being a person of impact. Change in…
Life, Liberty, and “Having Fun”: #27 Thriveology Podcast
Jul 7, 2014 • 18 min
We seem to be in “pursuit of happiness,” just like the founding fathers of the United States promised! Or did they??? July 4th, Independence Day in the United States, often ends up being one more excuse to party and have a good time. No problem there……
Dealing with Roadblocks and Life Knocks: #26 Thriveology Podcast
Jun 16, 2014 • 29 min
You can guarantee life will hand you lumps. You can guarantee there will be roadblocks and tough times. How will you respond? Will you believe “this just isn’t meant to be?” Or will you believe something else is possible? In this week’s podcast, I share…
Release From Resentment: #25 Thrive Nation Podcast
Jun 8, 2014 • 33 min
In the last podcast, we took a look at regret. Regret ties you to the past. And so does resentment. Resentment keeps us tied to past events and hurts, keeping us from living in the present. More than that, resentment keeps us tied to pain and anger. It…
A Life of Regret or A Life Reset?: #24 Thriveology Podcast
May 30, 2014 • 35 min
Regret. It keeps us locked in the past. Yet we all struggle to let it go. Why? If I had a friend that told me what I tell myself about my past short-fallings, mistakes, and missed opportunities, I would send them away. I would never speak to them again.…
The Problem Is Enough: #23 Thriveology Podcast
May 19, 2014 • 22 min
Problems. We all have them. Difficulties. They come with living. Tragedies. It is a part of life. This past couple of weeks, my wife has been in the hospital. She was quite sick and feeling quite bad. This event gave me a little “thought exercise.” I…
Are We Allergic To Struggle?: #22 Thriveology Podcast
Apr 28, 2014 • 26 min
Are we allergic to struggle? Or do we just misunderstand what struggle means? Do you find yourself avoiding or embracing struggle? Perhaps a shift in mindset will give you a shift in life. Living a life of impact cannot happen — thriving cannot happen —…
Points of Impact: #21 Thriveology Podcast
Apr 14, 2014 • 31 min
When we think of how we can impact on the world, it can be overwhelming. Yet, the world needs you and me to step up and make an impact. You and I need to make an impact. Where do you start? There are 5 levels in your life where you can make an impact. And…