Life (UN)Closeted: LGBTQ & Heterosexual Coming Out Stories & Advice for coming out of life's closets!

Life (UN)Closeted: LGBTQ & Heterosexual Coming Out Stories & Advice for coming out of life's closets!

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Rick Clemons - Bold Move & Coming Out Expert shares stories and advice for coming out of all of life’s closets to live life on your terms.


422: Uncloseting a major life injury to live your best life – Tyler Schrenk
Mar 25 • 38 min
A golf game, a dare, and a life changing event that brought Tyler Schrenck out of a closet of his life that he never saw coming. From got it all going on, living an easy life with not a lot of intention, to suddenly having to depend on a group of people…
421: 5 Steps For Dumping Guilt and Shame – Rick Clemons
Mar 11 • 11 min
No matter what the closet is that you are living in, in your life, there will always be some ridiculous level of guilt and shame associated with coming out of that closet. Guilt and shame of causing others pain. Guilt and shame of letting yourself or…
420: Uncloseting The Stigma of HIV & AIDS – Charles Sanchez
Feb 26 • 35 min
It’s January 2020. HIV and AIDS have now been in our world since 1983. We’ve gone from pandemic panic to people living productive, healthy lives. Yet, there is still stigma, and lack of education, and no one giving a light-hearted look at life with HIV…
419: Uncloseting Yourself To Build Your Destiny – Grant Baldwin
Feb 12 • 31 min
He went from being a youth pastor to a conversation with his Dad about his destiny, to now running a highly successful online business, all because he uncloseted himself to go live his destiny. Now he has a brand new book out, The Successful Speaker - 5…
418: Love making advice from yo’ Momma – Natasha Ria El-Scari
Jan 29 • 45 min
Men, boys, man boys - whatever you want to call the male species, seem to get their love and love making advice from tight lipped men, or loose lipped boys in the locker room. Neither usually serve them well and make them better men when it comes to love…
417: Uncloseting a minimal life – The RV Way – Ashley Gann
Jan 16 • 43 min
She already knows how to stand out in crowd. She’s a STEM gal - science, technology, engineering, and math wizard. She’s a woman in a mostly male dominated world - Chief Meteorologist at CBS 42 in Birmingham, Alabama. And, now she’s coming out of the…
416: Living an unredacted life – Jim Koury
Jan 15 • 27 min
Unredacted. Raw truth, Nothing censored. No obscurity. It takes a lot of guts and a real sense of self to say, here’s my story - unredacted. Yet, most of us feel the need to keep our truth from the world, or at least some of it. However, it can be very…
415: Uncloseting your faith and becoming an non-believer – Geoff Kullman
Jan 8 • 39 min
Sometimes you gotta have faith, and then other times you realize that maybe not believing in God is more your truth. But what kind of crisis of faith causes you to stop believing and to live in the integrity of your own truth? Geoff Kullman shares his…
414: Screw Resolutions. Create your 2020 F*ck It List Instead – Rick Clemons
Jan 1 • 14 min
It’s about to be 2020. Or it might already be 2020 by the time you listen to this podcast. Instead of resolutions, how about creating a F*CK IT List to live by this year. It’s simple, it’s genuine, it’s honest, and it can be real if you put your mind to…
413: Holiday Gifts You Should Give Yourself – Rick Clemons
Dec 25, 2019 • 11 min
It’s Christmas Eve, or right in the middle of Hanukkah, but regardless of where you are or the holiday you celebrate, how about giving yourself some really good, non-materialistic holiday gifts this holiday season. The kind of gifts that truly improve…
412: Stepping Into the Race and Out Of The Closet – Martina Kwan
Dec 18, 2019 • 41 min
What do you do when you’ve built two successful companies, received awards for those companies, then move to Southern California, and you just do feel fulfilled? You come out of the closet at age 50, to become a championship Porsche 911 race car driver –…
411: Making it ok to break the rules – Tanis Frame
Dec 11, 2019 • 35 min
Life is a series of rules. Or is life meant to be about breaking the rules? In reality, it’s a combination of both that require us to play with the rules and see where that takes us. As a Status Quo Disruptor, I’m all about breaking the rules…for good. I…
410: Coming out of the awkwardness closet – Vanessa VanEdwards
Dec 4, 2019 • 40 min
Now that was awkward. Or was it just your own self-imposed closet of feeling awkward? Too often that awkwardness is what keeps us in our closets. No one else will understand. I feel so weird talking about this. Other people will think I’m weird. All of…
409: Coming out of the closet about suicide – Anne Moss Rogers
Nov 27, 2019 • 40 min
Death is never pretty, easy, or something that we are trained to contend with in our lives. We know it is inevitable, but death by suicide is never anything that we can be fully prepared for, especially with it is a death by suicide by our child. It…
408: How To Escape The Toxicity Closet – Rick Clemons
Nov 20, 2019 • 13 min
If you watch the news on a daily basis, you might feel like we live in a very toxic world. Or maybe, you find yourself in a relationship that is draining you. And, let’s not forget that you might be in a work environment that daily only brings out the…
407: Out of the Closet & Back In – Alex Petrarca
Nov 13, 2019 • 26 min
Love happens. Or maybe we should say, attraction happens, even if it isn’t deep love. For some, that means the come out of the closet, then go back in. I know, I was one of those. For others, they believe they are gay, but based on family and societal…
406: They Won’t Win: Uncloseting the music within – Danny M. Cohen & Greg Lanier
Nov 6, 2019 • 36 min
Music lifts us, binds us together, and when it’s really done right, it makes us think, even if that thinking is about dark subjects that no one really wants to talk about. But if we don’t talk about things, those things win. So what happens when you take…
405: Uncloseting The Truth of Being A Reluctant Entrepreneur – Stephen Warley
Oct 30, 2019 • 38 min
You’re moving along in life. Doing the thing that you do. Then suddenly, that life plan is no longer going the direction that you thought it would. Happens to all of us and it’s how we respond, not react that can make all the difference to moving ahead…
404: Losing it all to come out and be Great – Erik Bergman
Oct 23, 2019 • 38 min
No one with a logical head ever said, “I’m going to make a ton of money, then blow it all, just because I’m not happy to see if that brings me happiness!” Just doesn’t makes sense. Yet to be great, sometimes you have to literally make a ton of money to…
403: Stepping out of the status quo closet – Shane Mallory
Oct 16, 2019 • 37 min
Bullied in school. At 17 left at the crossroads of pursuing a career as a DJ or becoming a police officer, he chose, the badge. Even with the badge, the bullying continued, but he survived for 26 years in the line of duty working his way up the ladder,…
Coming Out Without Coming Unglued – Part 6: Owning Your LGBTQ Truth
Oct 11, 2019 • 9 min
Whether you’re exploring your sexuality, considering coming out, or recently out, one of the most often overlooked challenges in owning your truth. Yes, we own it to come out, but the own it I’m talking about is owning it consistently and with commitment.…
Coming Out Without Coming Unglued – Part 5: Dating & Mating Outside The Closet
Oct 11, 2019 • 10 min
You’ve come out, or maybe you’re only out to a few people in your life. You know the ones you can trust with your truth. Or maybe the ones you can’t trust but you don’t care because you are going to live your life. Cool. Now it’s time to start dating and…
Coming Out Without Coming Unglued – Part 4: Having The Big Talk
Oct 11, 2019 • 13 min
You’ve explored how you feel. You know who you are. You’ve worried, had sleepless nights, maybe even considered that it’s not worth it to come out of the closet, but in your heart and soul, you know this is who you are. Now you’re considering having that…
Coming Out Without Coming Unglued – Part 3: Let’s Talk About Sex
Oct 11, 2019 • 10 min
It can be scary saying I’m LGBTQ. Why? For many reasons, but one of the biggest is because everyone, including yourself, might just think you’re that way because it is all about SEX. Well, we’re talking about SEX and why it’s not just about SEX, and how…
Coming Out Without Coming Unglued – Part 2: Religion, Faith, and God
Oct 11, 2019 • 7 min
One of the greatest weapons against the LGBTQ community is the weapon of faith and God. Combine that with the threat of going to hell and you have a mind blowing experience that has been used for years in the realms of conversation therapy. For others…
Coming Out Without Coming Unglued – Part 1: Breaking through the lack of acceptance
Oct 11, 2019 • 7 min
One of the hardest parts of coming out is the fear of being loved, accepted for who you are. Yet, when you step into who you are and accept yourself first, you can find the strength to do what you need to do. During this episode we explore four ways to…
402: That Conversation Therapy Just Ain’t Working – Justin Utley
Oct 9, 2019 • 40 min
It is estimated that over 20,000 LGBTQ minors will be subjected to conversion therapy (reparative therapy) treatments in states where protections do not exist to prevent this cruel and ineffective treatment (Williams Institute at UCLA School of Law). For…
401: Uncloseting Your Money Story – Jill Schlesinger
Oct 2, 2019 • 38 min
Money, money, money, money. We all want it, love it, hate it when we don’t have it and we sure have our own wicked versions of our money story – good or bad. For some it can be a frightening nightmare what money does to their person. For others it is just…
400: 4 Ways To Uncloset The Closets of Your Life – Rick Clemons
Sep 25, 2019 • 16 min
I woke up to a bunch of closets, as will be discussed in this episode, and then began to panic! How am I going to get all this crap done? What should I do first? Will I die before this stuff is completed? Ok that last question was a little over dramatic,…
399: Beyond the closet door of depression and suicide – Frank King
Sep 18, 2019 • 40 min
Imagine depression and suicide running in your family. Then imaging contemplating suicide as regularly as you change your underwear. Now imagine using humor to inspire hope, and laughter to save lives. Frank King, Suicide Prevention speaker and Trainer…
398: Honoring 9/11 victims and spotting your own terrorists – Rick Clemons
Sep 11, 2019 • 16 min
Today is the 18th anniversary of 9/11. As we honor those whose lives were lost and impacted by this tragic event let’s not forget that we are all impacted. Each and every time a world event happens, involving terrorists or not, even if we aren’t directly…
397: Bringing Balance To Your (UN)Closeted Life – Travis Ruskus
Sep 4, 2019 • 31 min
He and I met on the set of a Creative Live shoot for my buddy Mike Michalowicz who was shooting his Profit First course. Little did I know that this young guy would have the impact he did, and that he would help me see that to live a life (un)closeted…
396.1: Bonus Episode: Think Before You Assume – Rick Clemons
Aug 29, 2019 • 9 min
We all assume and too often that makes an ass of ourselves. When we assume to know why someone does what they do, it creates a false sense of security, of superiority, and sometimes it at least seems to heal the wounds. This is short episode that brings…
396: No More Bad Days – Michael O’Brien
Aug 28, 2019 • 30 min
Every day is a good day. Nothing is ever bad. Life is wonderful. I don’t what you’re smoking, but I’m not buying all that. Until I realized bad days only exist if we make them exist. I learned part of that lesson when I realized I could focus on the shit…
395: Break Rules With Creative Trespassing – Tania Katan
Aug 21, 2019 • 42 min
“I hate my job. I’m just here for the paycheck. What difference does it make what I do, no one cares as long as I do what they tell me!” Any of this sound familiar? At times we all have the mindset, “Just show up and do the job!” That can lead to a very…
394: Uncloseting Risk and a New Life – Gareth Martin
Aug 14, 2019 • 41 min
At 16 you almost die from a from a crazy motorcycle accident. At 18 you take a risk and say, “I’m outta here (with a South African Accent).” Before you know it, you’re in America, then off to the UK with minor stops around Europe. Had you known this time…
393: LGBTQ Leadership, The Rainbow Difference – Steve Yacovelli
Aug 7, 2019 • 49 min
Leadership. We hear this term thrown around alot these days. It means many things to many people, and in different contexts it takes on lots of different meanings. But what does LGBTQ Leadership look like. “What unique challenges do you face as an LGBTQ…
392: Listening With Intention Creates A Deeper Love – Kendra Erika
Jul 31, 2019 • 27 min
What’s getting lost in society? Empathy? Understanding? Patience? All true, but what about listening with deep intention and trying to understand one another more. There’s so much noise and chatter in the world, on social media, and in the news that it’s…
391: Discovering the truth of who you are! – David Conley
Jul 24, 2019 • 42 min
Who are you? Seems like a pretty easy question to answer, but most of us rattle of the standard answers. Father, mother, executive, cyclist, etc. The stuff that is part of the truth of who you are, but what is underneath all that easy to spout off stuff?…
390: Bold Moves of Gratitude, Minimalism, and Dumping Medications – Craig Haywood
Jul 17, 2019 • 41 min
Things just aren’t working. Well they are but something was still missing. There’s a drive to do more, be more, and stop living by what other people think I should do. Sound familiar. Well maybe you need to dial into a belief system that gratitude and…
389: Coming Out To See The World Without Limits – Chris Ruden
Jul 10, 2019 • 37 min
Life sucks. The kids won’t get ready for school. The car has a flat tire. Your boss hands you another project that of course has to be done by the end of the day. Your world has so many limits that you could just scream. But what if you flipped the…
388: Building Bridges – Straight & Gay Spouses – Aideen T. Finnola
Jul 3, 2019 • 40 min
It happens. Sometimes a straight spouse marries gay spouse and vice-versa. Is it intentional? Maybe. Is it hurtful? Can be. Regardless of the reasons this happens – which range from societal pressure, to religious beliefs, to complete confusion on sexual…
387: How Far We’ve Come. Straight to Gay, & Coming Out – Anne-Marie Zanzal
Jun 26, 2019 • 25 min
He’s almost 20 years into his coming out journey, she’s little over 3. They’ve both found love, gone through the tough stuff, and have managed to thrive and survive. Your host Rick Clemons, coming out coach, and his friend Anne-Marie Zanzal, Compassionate…
386: Transformation – Building Acceptance One Community At A Time – Brandon Eisman
Jun 19, 2019 • 32 min
Deep in the heart of Kansas, there’s a transformation of acceptance going on. Women dressing as women but glammed up like nobody’s bizness! Nothing unusual you might say! Tis true to some degree sugah’s but when the men decided they needed a little piece…
385: Celebrating Fatherhood and Pride – Dillon Rasmussen
Jun 12, 2019 • 48 min
Imagine that you make the decision to be a parent. Only there’s one problem. You’re going to have to jump through some extraordinary hoops to get there. For starters Fatherhood means there’s two daddies in the equation, which means to the uninformed, it’s…
384: Questions You’re Afraid To Ask About Coming Out – Anne-Marie Zanzal
Jun 5, 2019 • 36 min
Coming out is scary enough. You have tons of questions, and with the right people, you’ll feel comfortable asking those questions. But sometimes you have those questions that you just want to ask, but either don’t know how to, are are afraid to ask.…
383: – Advocating for Transgender Rights, A Filmmakers Perspective – Hammad Rizvi
May 29, 2019 • 32 min
When love is love and who you are is who you are collides, your first thought might be, this sounds like another LGBTQ story. It is, with a twist. Imagine being a transgender woman, and finding an abandoned child and making the decision to care for it out…
382: Out, Asian, and a Pop Sensation Who’s Life Popped When He Came Out – Wils
May 22, 2019 • 35 min
Imagine being a pop sensation. An Asian Pop Star in Korea. You’ve got a rising career, showed off your washboard abs on the cover of Men’s Health Magazine, to become known the Best of the East. Sounds awesome, right? Now the truth steps in. You want to be…
381: What you can’t see makes you bolder – Lachi
May 15, 2019 • 39 min
Sometimes the bolder move of coming out of the closet is something that you can’t see and others can’t see in you. When we say, “See,” we mean, you should take that word literally. Yet, being legally blind doesn’t mean you can’t do the bolder things you…
380: Uncloseted Riff and Rant – Closing Chapters, Creating New Ones
May 10, 2019 • 5 min
Today I’m closing chapters on the weekly Rant and Riffs segments. Don’t worry, those segments will still show up from time to time, but it’s time to let it go and focus on my new podcast 40 Plus: Real Men. Real Talk. That will be released on this day and…
379: (UN)Closeting The Fierce Within – Carolyn Colleen
May 8, 2019 • 40 min
Abuse. Entrapment. Feeling trapped in life. No way out. Not even a possibility of feeling Beyonce’ FIERCE. All of these feelings and life situations leads you to a point of being downtrodden, scared and ragged victim, standing in a food line at the…
378.1: Bonus Episode – Uncloseted Riff and Rant – Enjoying the buffet of life
May 3, 2019 • 7 min
Appetizers. Main course. Side Dishes. Desert. Sounds like it’s a full blown brunch. Now put your imagination caps on, and see that brunch buffet as the buffet of your life. So often we get focused on the main dish that we forget to appreciate the rest of…
378: (UN)Closeting Autism – JR Reed
May 1, 2019 • 31 min
Shhh. Don’t stare. He’s weird. She’s crazy. They’re not normal. Sounds like something kids say to each other. Yeah right. We adults do that too. Make catty remarks about how some acts, if they are the least bit not like us and don’t blink an eye. But what…
377: Uncloseted Riff and Rant – I’m not KKK but I have some similarities to them as an LGBTQ Person
Apr 26, 2019 • 8 min
Right wing. Left wing. Democrats. Republicans. Extremists. Conservatives. We have more in common than we think. But, I’m admitting something that is a deep dark secret of mine today. I’ve got quite a bit in common with the KKK as a gay man. There I’ve…
376: (UN)Closeting Race, Sex, Race Play and Fetishes – Daniel Armando
Apr 24, 2019 • 41 min
Race. There’s not a headline in the news today that deal with some form of race relations. But what happens when Race Play – a form of fetish play – goes awry? Many things that actually evoke feelings, insights, and characteristics that make you want to…
375: Uncloseted Riff and Rant – Uncloseting The Bully Within
Apr 19, 2019 • 7 min
You’d be lying if you said, “I’ve never been bullied!” Hate to say it, we all have a bully. What might surprise you is that bully resides within. Everytime you put yourself down, or make a snide remark, or find yourself question your abilities, you tend…
374: Bullied A Real Life Story – Frankie Cappello
Apr 17, 2019 • 36 min
Once a bully, always a bully. But once bullied, doesn’t mean you have to stand for being bullied. Not now, not ever. Even in a world that seems the bullies are now out in full force, given free reign to do as they please, it’s time to take a stand to…
373: Uncloseted Riff and Rant – I Don’t Know, I Don’t Know, I Don’t Know
Apr 13, 2019 • 7 min
Three of the most used words in the English language are…I don’t know. You don’t? I don’t either. Not sure that statement is true, but I do know that way to many of us say, “I don’t know…” way to much. I’m guilty as charged and so are you. Here’s a simple…
372: Making a Bold Escape – Cults and Mixed Orientation Marriage – Aideen Finnola
Apr 10, 2019 • 45 min
Imagine living a life of abuse – mental, cult religion, and hidden mixed orientation marriage – where all you did was feel neglected. Now imagine that this went for almost 40 years and you had been so brainwashed and gaslighted that you believed this was…
371: Uncloseted Riff and Rant – You can never be limitless without these steps
Apr 5, 2019 • 7 min
What does it mean to live in a space of where you feel limitless? If you listed to episode 370 with my friend Laura Gassner Otting, you know her new book –Limitless: How to Ignore Everybody, Carve Your Own Path, and Live Your Best Life – is all about…
370: Be Bold. Be Limitless – Laura Gassner Otting
Apr 3, 2019 • 48 min
What if success doesn’t equal happiness? What if happiness doesn’t grow on trees? What if you live your life believing you can’t do, blah, blah, blah? What if the problem is you and not seeing that you are limitless? Many of us spend our lives pursuing a…
369: Uncloseted Riff and Rant – Obliging Your Humanity
Mar 29, 2019 • 6 min
Honestly, there’s a lot of humanity damaging going on in the good old USA these days. Mostly from the political arena. Now with the Mueller investigation behind us, it seems that once again certain leaders whom I will not name because it makes me sick to…
368: Making Bold Moves to Embrace Our Differences – Craig Pomranz
Mar 27, 2019 • 36 min
All of us, in some way, shape, or form in our lives have been perceived as different. Yet, nothing is more painful to a child than to be perceived as weird because of their differences, only to be teased, and isolated simply for being who they are in…
367: Uncloseted Riff and Rant – Uncloseting Depression
Mar 22, 2019 • 7 min
Depression. Stigma. Shame. Misery. If you suffer with depression you know the stigma, shame, and misery depression causes in your life. To often those feelings lead you to hate your depression and try to fight it. Truth is, there is no fighting…
366: Coming Out Of The Shame Closet – Midge Noble
Mar 20, 2019 • 37 min
Shame on you! How many of us heard those words as kids? All right, maybe not so much these days, as I think that was the type of phrase us Baby Boomers heard growing up, but today the SHAME FACTOR is prevalent everywhere. You’re shamed if you don’t have…
365: Uncloseted Riff and Rant – Three Steps For Curing Unhealthy Obliging
Mar 15, 2019 • 5 min
To often we oblige for all the wrong reasons. Today I give you 3 steps for Curing Unhealthy Obliging. These steps came out of the podcast interview I recently did with Jeff Goins on Episode 364, where he discovered, so many of his own thoughts were what…
364: Uncloseting Your Truth From During The Most Transformative Year Of Your Life – Jeff Goins
Mar 13, 2019 • 42 min
Imagine, saying to yourself, “Nothing I’ve ever done has felt like a success.” Then, as soon as the words escaped your lips, you feel like a hypocrite. Tons of people envy you. Your accomplishments stack up like a Jenga tower. Weekly, monthly, yearly, you…
363: Uncloseted Riff and Rant – Uncloseting Respect For Women – International Women’s Day
Mar 8, 2019 • 7 min
Once a year we have the opportunity to celebrate women across the globe and contribute to raising awareness about gender bias on International Women’s Day. It’s time to uncloset disrespect of women, and celebrate their achievements, by creating a…
362: Taking flight to live your Life (UN)Closeted – Nathan Seaward
Mar 6, 2019 • 54 min
Flying. Minimalism. Sobriety. Adventure. Each one of those things is about taking flight to live an epic life and helping others live their version of an epic life. Quiet a mixed bag of tricks, eh? Yet, when it all gets put together, you find an…
361: Uncloseted Riff and Rant – Uncloseting Confusion, Courage, Commitment
Mar 1, 2019 • 7 min
What happens when you get stuck in fear, don’t do the thing you most want to do, and you find yourself continuing to apologize for your life? If you are like most of us, you wallow in confusion and don’t get shit done! You freeze, might get angry with…
360: (UN)Closeting The Power of Tarot for Coming Out – Seth Vermilya
Feb 27, 2019 • 40 min
Coming out is a challenge. It’s sticky, icky, and sometimes a blissful happy trail. Regardless of how the journey goes, guidance is always helpful. But where do you turn? Whom do you ask for help? The answers lie within you. Whether you’re coming out of…
359: Uncloseted Riff and Rant – Uncloseting Jussie Smollett and our reactions!
Feb 22, 2019 • 5 min
Headline news about Jussie Smollett has us all questioning what’s happening here in America, especially, as it pertains to race, LGBTQ issues, and fake news. He made a bold move and it backfired. Yet, like rabid dogs, we could all jump on the bandwagons…
358: The Bold Move Of Radical Kindness – Rocco Cozza
Feb 20, 2019 • 39 min
Imagine practicing radical kindness. Now imagine others being kind and also practicing radical kindness. What would our world be like if we all operated from that perspective without all the other bullshit? Simply stated, kindness rocks. So why don’t we…
357: Uncloseted Riff and Rant – Is your Vision To Big? Not!
Feb 15, 2019 • 8 min
We all have dreams. Vision of things that we say we want to do. Heck just this past week we heard from Chase Boehringer how his bucket list lifestyle, not only saved his life, but is not his dream calling. Yet, what he did, and what most of us do, we have…
356: Suicide or Bucket List. Now that’s a bold choice! – Chase Boehringer
Feb 13, 2019 • 39 min
Darkness. Despair. Depression. Divorce. Sounds pretty gloomy and not anything that anyone would but on their bucket list. It was gloomy, ugly, and daunting, and the only way through was either to continue to live his life or to end it. But before ending…
355: Uncloseted Riff and Rant – Uncloset Your Fun and Creativity
Feb 8, 2019 • 3 min
If you aren’t having fun and thinking you aren’t creative, then you’re in good company. Most of us forget to have fun. Life gets in the way, demands take over, and before you know it work, eat, sleep; work, eat, sleep; work, eat, sleep. The hamster wheel…
354: Bold moves of building relationships In The White House and beyond – John Corcoran
Feb 6, 2019 • 41 min
Imagine at 23 you land a gig at the White House. That may or not excite you depending on who’s sitting in the oval office, but, play along here for a moment. You got this gig at the White House, not because you had an Ivy League education, or because your…
353: Uncloseted Riff and Rant – FEAR: facing your truth about those silly fears
Feb 1, 2019 • 8 min
I know some of you are probably going to balk at this. Go ahead. Balk, balk, balk. But the truth is, most fears in life are short-lived and self-created. Think about it. When fears show up, most the time nothing happens the way we FEAR it will and then…
352: Coming Out Of The Closets of Bullying and Drug Addiction – Mark Stephen Pooler
Jan 30, 2019 • 38 min
Darkness. The kind that causes you to retreat into yourself because you’ve been bullied so much you actually believe that you’re worthless. You’ve made the conscious and unconscious decision to hide and turn to a life of self-destruction and drug…
351: Uncloseted Riff and Rant – Transgender Discrimination For No Cause
Jan 25, 2019 • 6 min
Let’s be clear. Transgender discrimination is discrimination, plain and simple. Lacking kindness, empathy, compassion is what Transgender discrimination represents. Those three human characteristics are all that is needed to treat people with dignity,…
350: Fears, Permissions, and Discoveries of Going Your Own Way – Melanie Deziel
Jan 23, 2019 • 36 min
We all desire to go our own way. Doesn’t matter if it is in love, work, or life in general. But there’s this little, big word that holds us back – PERMISSION. We come to the precipice of doing our thing, going our way, and then we retreat, waiting for…
349: Uncloseted Riff and Rant – Did Gillette Make A Bold Masculine Move or Money Play?
Jan 18, 2019 • 7 min
If you haven’t been on social media or watching the news the past couple of days, there’s been a viral explosion. Not about Trump or Theresa may. It’s about razors. Or let’s say about one of the biggest consumer brands behind razors – Gillette – who just…
348: Permission to Be Your Own Gay Man – Enrique Panameno
Jan 16, 2019 • 42 min
Who are you? One of the biggest questions we can ask ourselves, but it is an especially big question for gay men who often find themselves caught up in the world of material goods, great bodies, and always looking to impress so that they can be accepted.…
347: Uncloseted Riff and Rant – Disrupting and Not Believing In The Norm
Jan 11, 2019 • 7 min
I’m a disruptor. I’m also a believer in there is no “NORMAL.” But that’s me, and quite a few of my coaching clients, and other people that tend to hang out in my circle. We disrupt, we don’t see anything as normal, and we tend to us both those energies to…
346: The Bold Move of Belonging at Work – Rhodes Perry
Jan 9, 2019 • 37 min
We all have our own insecurities about fitting in, in life and especially at work. It can be a frickin’ challenge when you don’t have the warm fuzzies that you can be part of the team and it gets in the way of how you contribute. Before you know it work…
345: Uncloseted Riff and Rant – 2019 Living Life On Your Terms With IAR
Jan 4, 2019 • 10 min
Four days into the New Year. Some resolutions have already hit wall, some goals are lost in the past, and you might be struggling to even get focused. I know. I’ve been there. So here’s what I do. First, I follow my buddy Chris Brogan’s lead with his My…
344: Finding our home, your place to live Life (UN)Closeted – Jeff Hammerberg
Jan 2, 2019 • 37 min
Food, shelter. Two basic needs that we all need to survive. Now imagine, fighting to be able to find a home and live in a place that makes you feel secure, only to discover that you can’t because of your sexuality or gender identity. Yes, this is true.…
342: (UN)closeting Confidence & Your Personal Freak – Laura Gassner Otting
Dec 26, 2018 • 51 min
We’ve all struggled with confidence and being who we are. Shame, guilt, comparisons all get in the way of our happiness. Then one day we discover we’ve been sucked into success as for of happiness, rather than letting our own unique freak guide us to…
341: Uncloseted Riff and Rant – Own It & Show Up!
Dec 21, 2018 • 5 min
Toxic people don’t take a break at the holidays. In fact the own their toxicity and show up when you least expect it and need it. In fact, that’s part of the triggering and wake up call for us to own our IT, and to show up fully being ourselves. After…
340: Boldly Turning The World Into Your Classroom – Vanessa Tharp
Dec 19, 2018 • 40 min
Life keeps moving along. Her job brings you joy. She travels every chance she gets. She’s consistently doing the inner work to bring herself closer to her soul center. Looking at her from the outside you’d think this gal’s got it all together, and she…
339: Uncloseted Riff and Rant – The Other Side Of Vulnerability
Dec 14, 2018 • 6 min
Vulnerability. Everyone seems to be talking about it these days. Or maybe it’s just the circles I run in. The truth is, vulnerability is a gift. However, many people are scared to death of vulnerability, and for some, rightfully so. What I’ve learned, and…
338: To Recovery With Love – Sharon Otness
Dec 12, 2018 • 36 min
One day you wake up and realize that self-care is not an option. It is a must. All the fun, fun, fun of drinking and partying has turned into another disastrous wake-up call on Monday morning where your child looks at you with disgust. Getting by is no…
337: Uncloseted Riff and Rant – Boy Erased! Was It Enough? – Joel Barrett
Dec 7, 2018 • 39 min
Boy Erased, starring Lucas Hedges, Nicole Kidman, Russell Crowe, and Joel Edgerton, explores the story of the son of a Baptist preacher is forced to participate in a church-supported gay conversion program after being forcibly outed to his parents. Based…
336: Coach-to-Coach, Truths About Coming Out Later In Life – Anne-Marie Zanzal
Dec 5, 2018 • 51 min
It’s been awhile since we’ve done a “He said, she said” or a “Coach To Coach” segment. But when I was contact by Anne-Marie Zanzal, I knew it was time. Especially given our political climate where it appears that the far right, and maybe even the leaning…
335: Uncloseted Riff and Rant – Curious George, Curious Rick, Curious You!
Nov 30, 2018 • 7 min
I used to love reading Curious George when I was a kid. Then, somehow the stars aligned and I married a guy named George and he always invites me to be curious, rather than jumping to assumptions, or conclusions. Thanks hubby. I’ve also learned in my own…
334: Uncloseting Body Language – Leo (Lay-O) Cardenas
Nov 28, 2018 • 40 min
Imagine knowing exactly what someone is thinking. Or, at least having a pretty good idea of what they are thinking, all because their body speaks louder than their words. You could tell if they were really interested in a date. You’d be able to determine…
333: Uncloseted Riff and Rant – The fine art of PERMISSION
Nov 23, 2018 • 6 min
Have you ever found yourself asking for permission? Of course you have. The better question is, have you ever found yourself not giving yourself permission? Yeah! The permission to do something you really want to do. Or, the permission to say what you…
332: A Daughter’s Bold Truth – Stephanie Cenedella
Nov 21, 2018 • 37 min
Imagine coming into the world, just as your Father made a major life detour. His detour, one of shame in the world, was unbeknownst to you until the age of 13. By then, you’ve been socialized to believe that everything you now discovered your Father is,…
331: Uncloseted Riff and Rant – The Annoying Demands of Perfection
Nov 16, 2018 • 6 min
Nothing is perfect. Nothing. Nothing. Nothing. But we all know that, yet we pursue perfection and allow it to drive us batty. It’s such a waste of energy that could be put to better use. Which begs the question, “If perfection doesn’t exist, how could we…
330: Making The Bold Move of Kindness – Jill Lublin
Nov 14, 2018 • 33 min
Kindness. At times it seems to be elusive. Especially in our world today. People from all walks of life seem more divisive and at odds with one another. Yet, how different would we all be, myself included, if we practiced more kindness, empathy, and…
329: Uncloseted Riff and Rant – Let The Unexpected Be Yo Friend!
Nov 9, 2018 • 10 min
I know the future, I never encounter anything unexpected, and I am fully in control of what is to come. Yeah right! But don’t we wish that were true? Alas, the unexpected is inevitable. So why do we fight it, cringe when it shows up, and then wail and…
328: Bringing Hollywood Out of The LGBTQ Closet – Jason T. Gaffney
Nov 7, 2018 • 51 min
Imagine, in the land of imagination – Hollywood – that LGBTQ characters have leading roles that are never based on stereotypes. That the main conflicts of LGBTQ characters face on the big screen aren’t based solely on their sexual orientation. That female…
327: Uncloseted Riff and Rant – 3 Simple Confusion Busters
Nov 2, 2018 • 6 min
I’m never confused. You’re never confused. We’re all never confused. So why do we need to call Confusion Busters? Because we’re all lying! And, we all hate being in a state of confusion. Or at least most of us do. Those of you who enjoy confusion probably…
326: Boldly eliminating guilt. Creating joy and serving instead. – Sister Aria Inyette
Oct 31, 2018 • 41 min
I want you to imagine just for a moment a Nun. Now I want you to imagine an order of Nuns that knows no gender, embraces all spiritual affiliations, and whose practices included service, education, activism, entertainment, and ministry. Guess we’re not…
325: Uncloseted Riff and Rant – Just Admit It
Oct 26, 2018 • 4 min
Two words, “Admit It” can fix so many things. Yet we don’t like to admit things as humans. And then before you know it, we repress crap and then become miserable. So what’s the solution? LOL. Just admit whatever you’re holding back and get it out of your…
324: Coming Out and Seeing You, for You – Brandon Stansell
Oct 24, 2018 • 42 min
We all want to be seen. We all want to be loved. We all want to be connected. And when we don’t feel seen, we forget to see ourselves for who we are and be content with that. Yet, sometimes we need little reminders along the way, and a few good people to…
323: Uncloseted Riff and Rant – Do you know these people?
Oct 19, 2018 • 8 min
I realized, through all the crap that is going on in our country and the world, that I know these people. People who don’t love themselves, let their egos get in the way, and they forget what it means to be human. Do you know these people? I’m sure you…
320: Boldly Play Like Your Life Depends On It – Jeff Harry
Oct 17, 2018 • 48 min
Innocence lost. Adulting too much. Then suddenly you’re stressed, searching for your passion, and feeling like you’re getting nowhere. All because, you forgot how to play. Yes, play like a child. No fear, imaginations gone wild, and just doing what kids…
321: Uncloseted Riff and Rant – Uncloseting My Truth About Risk
Oct 12, 2018 • 10 min
I’ve been really risk averse the past few months. In fact I haven’t been eating my own dog food. I’ve been letting the bullshit of my thoughts steer me clear from making bold moves in my life and my business. So there you have it. My true confession. Well…
320: The Other Side of Saved – Nate Postlethwait
Oct 11, 2018 • 43 min
This story isn’t new. It’s been told many, many, many times. But it needs to be told again. There’s no better time than the present and on National Coming Out Day to tell the story that is the truth. That truth is that bad therapy, mixed with religion at…
319: 800 Bold Days of Me – Michael Barber
Oct 10, 2018 • 50 min
Coming Out. It’s scary. Electrifying. Confusing. Life changing. It’s about thriving vs. hiding. Taking a stand to live rather than die. But most of all it’s about being you, 100% you, no matter what the odds, the snide remarks, the acceptance or lack…
318: Uncloseted Riff and Rant – Lessons Learned From College Men About Masculinity
Oct 5, 2018 • 8 min
We all have, or at least most of us, have heard the saying, “When the student becomes the teacher and the teacher becomes the student!” Well I had one of those moments this week. Some college guys schooled me as I was schooling them on the finer points of…
317: It’s real BOLD with this Real Housewife of Miami! – Lauren Foster
Oct 3, 2018 • 19 min
Cast aside traditional roles of womanhood, motherhood, and house wifery. There’s a new gal in town, and she’s the empowered trans woman. A woman who says, “This is me, like it or not, and I am all woman from my mind to my heart to my soul.” Yet for all…
316: Uncloseted Riff and Rant – What Kavanaugh’s Nomination Is Really Bringing Out Of The Closet
Sep 28, 2018 • 9 min
You would have to been hiding under a rock, here in the US, to have not seen the circus playing out around Supreme Court Nominee Brett Kavanaugh’s appointment and the ensuing allegations of sexual misconduct. So what does that have to do with Life…
315: Older, Wiser, Better, Bolder – Jack Tracy
Sep 26, 2018 • 43 min
What happens when you don’t date in high school, because you have to keep your crushes and dating life hidden because you are gay? For starters you end up missing out on all the crazy high school relationships your straight classmates went through as…
314: Getting To Hell Yes – Alexandra Jamieson and Bob Gower
Sep 21, 2018 • 45 min
Living life on your terms, making your bold moves, not settling for the status quo, all require one thing…a strong Hell Yes to give yourself, or others permission to make shit happen. But how do you get there? What do you do to overcome the fears and…
313: Conscious Awakening Through The Eyes of Children – Andrew Newman
Sep 19, 2018 • 37 min
Wake up. Wake up. Wake up. How many times have you heard those words said to you when you were a child, by your parent. Or, how often have you said that to your own child? But, in this day and age, with the wisdom of consciousness, mindfulness, and being…
312: Uncloseted Riff and Rant – Getting Back In The Habit
Sep 14, 2018 • 6 min
Yeah, yeah, yeah. I can preach the “make your bold move” message, but even I at times need to be told to eat my own dog food. That’s precisely what I did this week. Started eating my own dog food and resurrecting a past, good for me habit. But boy oh boy…
311: The Closet of Single Parenthood: A Bold Choice – Emma Brockes
Sep 12, 2018 • 42 min
Sure. Parenthood is a choice for most of us. Except for those unexpected surprises. But when you finally decide, there’s no time like the present, even if you are about to peak out of the 30-something years, find yourself single, and flirting with the…
310: Uncloseted Riff and Rant – No Penetration, Does Matter
Sep 7, 2018 • 6 min
If you haven’t heard, the Catholic Church is having some problems. Overtly sexual indiscretion problems. Hey it happens. But it shouldn’t. This really isn’t new, news with the church, but what took me and others aback was the Catholic Leagues Presidents’…
309: Uncloseting the Artist Within – Blake Jamieson
Sep 5, 2018 • 34 min
This is one of those, I knew him when moments. I knew him when he was trying to find himself. I knew him when he helped me with my social media. I knew him when he was in dark times. I knew him when I saw him come blazing out of his closet to do some…
308: Uncloseted Riff and Rant – Sh*t is Short-Lived and Self-Created
Aug 31, 2018 • 6 min
I know some of you are probably going to balk at this. Go ahead. Balk, balk, balk. But the truth is, most sh*t in life is short-lived and self-created. Think about it. When stuff happens, how of it was because of something you did, or allowed yourself to…
307: Uncloseting Spirituality & The Business of Sex – Lance Navarro
Aug 29, 2018 • 39 min
Have you ever wished you could find a place to learn, grow, let go, connect and enjoy absolute bliss and ecstatic pleasure? Sounds great doesn’t it! But then you find yourself stopping yourself, or someone else stopping you all because it might be taboo,…
306: Uncloseted Riff and Rant – Let Sh*t Happen So Shift Can Happen
Aug 24, 2018 • 4 min
Honestly, none of likes having sh*t happening in our lives. It’s stressful, frustrating, annoying and most of all isn’t fun. However, when we realize that sh*t happens so that shift can happen, then it becomes a lot easier to contend with the sh*t of…
305: Boldly Stepping Beyond Toxic Perfectionism – Petra Kolber
Aug 22, 2018 • 40 min
Gosh I’m a fraud. I don’t want anyone to know I don’t know it all? And, I sure the heck don’t want to screw up in front of my friends. I just don’t get how everyone else has such a perfect life except me? Sound familiar? Of course it does because you are…
304: Uncloseted Riff and Rant – Trust Your Gut
Aug 17, 2018 • 6 min
We’ve talked about 7 ways to get your sh*t together. But this one is a true winner. It’s going to require that you look to your past, but don’t get caught up in the crap of the past. It’s about looking back when something has gone right, when you felt…
303: Coming Out To Create a Gender Revolution – Ann Travers
Aug 15, 2018 • 35 min
Imagine being a boy forced to attend school dressed in a girls’ uniform. Imagine being a girl banned from the girls’ bathroom and too afraid to “go” in a stall surrounded by boys. Imagine being asked, again and again, by other kids, “Are you a boy or a…
302: Uncloseted Riff and Rant – Non-Negotiables S*it List
Aug 10, 2018 • 5 min
If you can’t get your S*it together, it might be because you are negotiating way to much in your life. Giving in, letting things be OK instead of great, not standing up for yourself or your values. And then you want to cry, cry, cry and ask, “Why can’t I…
301: Coming Out To Be The Gay, White Oprah – Matt (Mattie) Marr
Aug 8, 2018 • 45 min
Some people are gifted, then some people are gifted with the gift of gab. So what do you do when you are from Southern Oklahoma, have the gift of gab, and love to act…you move to Beverly Hills of course. Well maybe you don’t live in Beverly Hills, but you…
300: Celebrating Bold Moves, Living Life Uncloseted, and 300 Episodes – Rick Clemons
Aug 3, 2018 • 20 min
The year was 2012. On a whim and a nudge from my friend Leah Jantzen I embarked on the journey of an internet radio show entitled “The Coming Out Lounge.” 26 shows later I decided I was done, but, as with most good things in life, I wasn’t done, I was…
299: Uncloseting Corporate Culture – Mike Ganino
Aug 1, 2018 • 38 min
We’ve all been in jobs where we roll our eyes, wonder who’s on first, and just say in our heads, “Screw it. I’m just here to get a paycheck!” Sometimes that’s our own stuff that we feel that way, but unfortunately, too often, it’s the organization that we…
298: Uncloseted Riff and Rant – Stop Apologizing
Jul 27, 2018 • 7 min
Today we continue to explore the real truths as to why you can’t get your shit together. I’m sorry to be so blunt. Oh wait. No I’m not, and I’m not going to apologize for telling it like it is. You see, that’s part of the problem…to much apologizing! We…
297: Behaving Boldly, Chasing Dreams, Pony’s & Fridays – Elise Russell
Jul 25, 2018 • 36 min
Sometimes you’ve got to chase your dreams, make a bold move, and focus on two things that you find make you happy. For some that might be eating pizza and going on vacation. For others it could be taking a stand for advocacy, or stepping out of a…
296: Uncloseted Riff and Rant – Quit Living Someone Else’s Dreams
Jul 20, 2018 • 7 min
Ok, you’re stuck and trying to figure out your next steps for getting your shit together. Over and over again you make a run at it and before you know it, you’re still stuck. But it’s not really you that’s stuck, it’s your dream that is stuck because it’s…
295: The Art of Discomfort – Polis Loizou
Jul 18, 2018 • 37 min
Where does never following conventions or bowing down to peer pressure lead you? To start a London-based theatre company despite never having previously studied theatre or staged a show, of course. Or maybe it leads you to get lost in Marrakech as a…
294: Uncloseted Riff and Rant – Stop Making Excuses
Jul 13, 2018 • 6 min
OMG. This is my worst nightmare, and probably yours too, but you may not be admitting it yet. We are a society addicted to making excuses. Yes addicted. Shocking as that may seem, we make excuses, like we change our underwear. And then we wonder why we…
293: Bold Moves Keep On Coming – Davis Mallory
Jul 11, 2018 • 40 min
The truth is, once you make a bold move, you’ve got the blueprint, and you can keep those bold moves coming. Doesn’t mean it’s a piece of cake, or that you can dance and sing your way through life, unless that’s what your bold moves are all about. But,…
292: Uncloseted Riff and Rant – Confronting Confusion
Jul 6, 2018 • 5 min
You’re struggling to get on track. It’s a part of getting your shit together, but one thing that just keeps creeping up is the constant CONFUSION. Should you do this, or do that? If you do it, will it be the right move? CONFUSION, CONFUSION, CONFUSION. So…
291: Confronting Conflict To Live A Bold Life – Lynne Hurdle
Jul 4, 2018 • 39 min
No one likes conflict. No one. But, it’s a necessary part of making bold moves and needed to live your life uncloseted. And that’s the truth. Nothing worth having, no life worth living boldly, and no closet that you come out of to live your life…
290: Uncloseted Riff and Rant – Getting over permission phobia
Jun 29, 2018 • 5 min
Continuing our exploration of 10 Brutally Honest, Non-Scientific, No Guru Needed Ways to Get your Shit Together, today we dive into magical mystical world of PERMISSION! Not PERMISSION from others, but the oft overlooked world of giving yourself…
289: Living The Uncloseted Life – The Self-Taught Road. – Kieran McKeefery
Jun 27, 2018 • 32 min
Go to college. Get a degree. Get a job. Get married. Yada, yada, yada. That’s what we’re supposed to do. Or at least that’s what most people are told they are supposed to do to be successful. Oh and let’s not forget to keep the steady paying job, even if…
288: Uncloseted Riff and Rant – Admit it. You Don’t Have Your Shit Together
Jun 22, 2018 • 6 min
Here’s the thing. None of us really has our shit together. We all have shit, shit, shit in our lives. So don’t let anyone tell you they’ve totally got it together. But when you don’t feel like you do have your shit together, sometimes it’s validating to…
287: When Opposites No Longer Attract – Michael J. Testa
Jun 20, 2018 • 36 min
It’s a story that’s been told. Yet so many still believe there’s no reason to tell this story again. That’s complete bullshit. These stories need to be told, so that everyone can hear them and realize, that there are still many marriages where opposites…
286: Uncloseted Riff and Rant – Men & Masculinity in a #METOO World
Jun 15, 2018 • 9 min
This one is for the guys…but you ladies can listen to, as I’m calling forth the men of the world to make a bold move and step out of their bullshit masculinity and be a little vulnerable. To be real. To be men without macho crap weighing them down. It’s…
285: Single Gay Dad: Living A Life Uncloseted – Frank Lowe
Jun 13, 2018 • 43 min
Nothing new about being a single, divorced Dad…unless you’re gay. Then all sorts of tricky things happen, that the average person doesn’t think about. Like, He’s gay and has a child? He’s divorced and gay and has a child? He’s a man in his mid-30’s, 40’s…
284: Uncloseted Riff and Rant – The Closet Of Racism
Jun 8, 2018 • 7 min
The hands of time seem to be spinning backwards at an alarming rate. Hate, discrimination, violence towards people of color has become a norm, and worst of all it is being tolerated. But it doesn’t have to be this way, nor does it have to be that “all…
283: Shhh. I’m dating. Don’t tell anyone. – Ramona Rice
Jun 6, 2018 • 57 min
You’ve got a secret. A secret that makes you happy, fulfilled, but may make others think you don’t have a heart. People like your kids, parents, In-laws, friends. But this secret is about you moving forward and being good and at peace with a big event in…
282: Uncloseted Riff and Rant – Take Pride and Don’t Back Down
Jun 1, 2018 • 5 min
It’s Pride Month. Or at least that’s what those of us in the LGBTQI community call it. Not sure what Drumph and his cronies in Washington are going to say this year, since they didn’t’ really say anything last year. But screw them! We are here, were…
281: Pursuing Your Big Bold Goal – Dan McDaniel
May 30, 2018 • 36 min
Have you ever asked yourself – Who am I? Why am I here? What am I truly capable of? What do I really want? If so, you are not alone. In fact, most of us ask those questions, but what do we do once we’ve asked them? Do we take action? Bust a bold move?…
280: Uncloseted Riff and Rant – Outsmarting the cynics
May 25, 2018 • 7 min
The reside everywhere. In our heads, in our relationships, at work, our friendships. No matter where you turn there is a cynic ready to tear apart your joy, your ideas, your happiness. No biggie. You’ve got something to combat that. A bold move, or a few…
279: Taking a chance on BOLD FREEDOM – Robin Finney
May 23, 2018 • 37 min
Imagine leaving your job of 11 years, getting rid of your apartment, and packing up and heading off to Thailand with no real plans other than to reset. It’s a bold move with a capital “B.” One that others may not understand, but that’s ok…yes, seriously,…
278: Uncloseted Riff and Rant – Are you an audacious Buddha?
May 18, 2018 • 6 min
I’ve been called a Buddha. Not because of my enlightenment. Because of my size. Ok, somewhat because I have some wisdom – but I’m still no Buddha. However, I do have the kind of wisdom that comes from learning life lessons that truly make you see the Yin…
277: Now Is Good Enough & Good Enough is Now – Jess Pettitt
May 16, 2018 • 26 min
You’ll never make a bold move, take that risk, or do what you say you’re going to do unless you just say, screw it, good enough is good enough. But why do we not let that truly be our mantra? Why can’t we just say I’m going to take action, do what needs…
276: Uncloseted Riff and Rant – Your Ego. Your biggest enemy!
May 11, 2018 • 4 min
My ego has almost killed me. Several times in my life. Then I started to see it as a wake up call to bigger things. To more honest and authentic ways of showing up in the world. It still gets in the way, but what happens when you finally realize your ego…
275: LGBTQ Acceptance Work Is Never Done – Amy McDonald
May 9, 2018 • 37 min
Sure gay marriage is a constitutional right…at least for now. And if you monitor pop culture, you might think that LGBTQ folks are just a standard presence, so why are we still having this conversation. The truth is, 42 percent of LGBT — lesbian, gay,…
274: Uncloseted Riff and Rant – Your buttoned up life
May 4, 2018 • 5 min
Have you ever really thought about what you wear and the signal that sends out to the world? Are you buttoned up, or super stylish? Frumpy or making a statement? It’s very interesting to observe the world of our clothing and to see if it is projecting our…
273: Struggle Is A Gift – Meridith Elliott Powell
May 2, 2018 • 37 min
Do the time. Tow the line. And of course, “If there is no struggle, there is no progress.” All great words of wisdom. But when you’re in the struggle, no words seem to do the trick. That’s why changing your perspective, and seeing struggle as a gift can…
272: Uncloseted Riff and Rant – Choose Chicken. Don’t gamble.
Apr 27, 2018 • 4 min
The imprints we leave with the words we use can scar anyone for life, but for sure, the words a parent says can have a huge impact. Listen to learn how a Father may have just set the tone for his son’s life with the simple choice of Chicken Tacos. Website…
271: One Yes Can Get You Out Of The Closet – Sherene McHenry
Apr 25, 2018 • 40 min
You do what you believe you’re meant to do – follow a certain career path, pursue the love of your life, build a family you’ve always dreamed of, and plan for retirement. That’s all good, but what happens when you still feel empty, unfulfilled, and no…
270: Uncloseted Riff and Rant – You can’t do anything without this!
Apr 20, 2018 • 3 min
Nothing happens until you allow the “un-” in your life to be part of the journey. What is the “un-“? You’re just going to have to listen and learn why the “un-‘s” are such an important part of doing anything in life, especially, anything worth doing!…
269: Escaping the Menopause Closet- Kelli Jaecks
Apr 18, 2018 • 35 min
It’s hot. You’re cranky. Hormones are raging. You’re not pregnant. Your body says it going to mess with ya on a daily basis. And on top of that you just feel like you need a IV of Martini’s to make it through the day. Hello! Welcome to menopause…and boy…
268: Uncloseted Riff and Rant – The Bold Move of Saying Yes
Apr 13, 2018 • 7 min
On our last Riff and Rant, I shared 5 comparisons for determining how to say a BOLD NO! You could actually use those to say YES too. However, this week I provide you with 5 questions to ask yourself when you need to make a BOLD MOVE to say YES. Website…
267: Living Your Turned On Life – Natalie Vartanian
Apr 11, 2018 • 35 min
What turns you on? Sex? Passions? Dreams? Or maybe it’s living a nomad, gypsy like life where you allow life to just take you where it feels right. Everything from your career and goals to how you love as a polyamorous person, to being cozy in your…
266: Uncloseted Riff and Rant – The Bold Move of Saying “No”
Apr 6, 2018 • 6 min
Have you ever found yourself saying, “No,” and then realizing you wish you’d said yes. Or maybe, doing the reverse. Saying “Yes,” when you wish you’d said, “No?” Of course you have. We all do. In fact I just did it this week and it got me thinking, “Rick,…
265: Uncloseted Passion – Carey Smolensky
Apr 4, 2018 • 39 min
What is my passion? Why do I struggle to follow mine? Is passion necessary for me to have a happy life? These are all questions that most of us ask ourselves each and every day in the pursuit of passion and purpose. But what do you do when you find…
264: Uncloseted Riff and Rant – What does BOLD mean?
Mar 30, 2018 • 4 min
It’s spring. Bold colors are starting to pop up everywhere you look (hopefully). And, with the onset of spring it got me thinking, what does BOLD mean to me, and why is it important to really understand that for myself. In today’s rant and riff I share my…
263: Three words that change your life – Emily D. Baker, Esq.
Mar 28, 2018 • 44 min
Waterpolo, Law, and plans…nothing is as it seems. But what’s the deal with plans…why are they so damn important…or not? Maybe because we think if we have them, we don’t ever have to make a decision again, until you realize that you chose a job, but not a…
262: Uncloseted Riff and Rant – Uncloset Your Past
Mar 23, 2018 • 7 min
A friend of mine inspired this rant. It’s about allowing the past to catch up to your present so that you can make the BOLD MOVE you are meant to make. In Barbara’s journey she came back to her roots and then made the bold move to uncloset her beliefs and…
261: One Hot Dog, Uncloseted His Life – Mark Asquith
Mar 21, 2018 • 38 min
20 years ago a hot dog impacted his life. Yes I said a hot dog. This hot dog was so impactful it caused him to come out of his closet…bun and all. No longer willing to work for “nob heads” any longer, Mark Asquith decided to try his hand at digital…
260: Uncloseted Riff and Rant – Bold Move #WALKOUT
Mar 16, 2018 • 5 min
Bravo. Bravo. Bravo. So proud of our youth for taking a stand and saying enough is enough. #NATIONALWALKOUTDAY occurred just two days ago, yet the impact will move on…or at least let’s hope so. In fact, that is what this movement, like so many others, is…
259: Fix Yo Face, Fix Yo Life – Epiphany Mattel
Mar 14, 2018 • 50 min
If you don’t respect yourself ain’t nobody else going to respect ya either…no matter how pretty yo face is or isn’t. And even if your own parents don’t respect who you are, then sometimes you just gotta sashay away and say, “I’m here to respect myself…
258: Uncloseted Riff and Rant – Your F*ck It Bucket – Pt. 2
Mar 9, 2018 • 6 min
Last week on the Uncloseted Riff and Rant we got you comfortable dumping crap into your F*CK IT BUCKET that was getting in the way of you making your bold move and living your life uncloseted. This week, we go the other direction. We’re going to fill your…
257: Uncloseting your business – John Jantsch
Mar 7, 2018 • 41 min
Whether you own a business, desire to, or find yourself up to your armpits in being an Entrepreneur, one thing for sure that you may not realize. A majority of your problems exist because you won’t come out of the closet in your business. From creativity…
256: Uncloseted Riff and Rant – Your F*ck It Bucket – Pt. 1
Mar 2, 2018 • 5 min
Done. Just done. Not going to do it. You just want to say F*ck It! We’ve all been there and it sucks. But…when you us the power of F*ck It to move you forward. something interesting happens. Come explore with me today the power of saying F*ck It to the…
254: Uncloseted Riff and Rant – Check Yourself – Don’t Be A 45
Feb 23, 2018 • 8 min
He’s our President, like it or not. But he’s also not checking himself, but yet he’s being his bold self, like it or not. Today, I take a stab at the Commander in Chief and look deeply at some of the closets he’s in and how he’s coming out, even if it’s…
253: Golf Balls, Thunderstorms and Living Life Uncloseted – Steve Gamlin
Feb 21, 2018 • 38 min
Life is full of shit storms. We all have them and they can’t be avoided, no matter how much we try. In fact sometimes bursts in to flames delivering a career change, divorce, and near bankruptcy. That’s enough emotional firewood to burn any hope of…
252: Uncloseted Riff and Rant – It’s Time For Attention
Feb 16, 2018 • 6 min
The shooting at Marjory Stoneman Douglas High School in Parkland, Florida reveals another closet. One that has gun control, mental health, settling into norms, avoiding signs…everything that the headlines are screaming as to why these school shootings…
251: What’s Your Red Thread? – Tamsen Webster
Feb 14, 2018 • 37 min
There’s a thread that connects us all. In fact there’s a red thread about finding your soulmate. But here’s what I learned about Red Threads from today’s guest…Red Threads are everywhere and if we pay attention to them they can help us come out of…
250: Uncloseted Riff and Rant – Hypocrisy Closets
Feb 9, 2018 • 6 min
From gay sex scandals, to #METOO movements, it seems the flood gates of HYPOCRISY of overflowing, and truth be said, “Everyone’s coming out of the closet as a hypocrite.” Well everyone except you and me of course. Wait, I can’t say that, I know I can be a…
249: Boldly Tapping Your Namasgay – Frank Macri
Feb 7, 2018 • 36 min
What is spirituality? How do you tap it? Is it religion? Ironically, these are all questions that, only you can answer for you. And that’s where it can get confusing, exciting, become an adventure, and also be a challenge. Now add to the mix that you are…
248: Uncloseted Riff and Rant – #METOO – Rick Clemons
Feb 2, 2018 • 6 min
The #METOO movement is everywhere we look. It’s a sign that shit is coming out of the closet that needs to come out. Women have had it. From #PUSSYPOWER to #BLACKLIVESMATTER there’s a whole lot of #METOO going on. So what about you…what happens when you…
247: Bold Enough To Leave It All Behind – Dr. Karen Jacobson
Jan 31, 2018 • 38 min
We’ve all left something behind. Yet, it takes some nerve, grit and determination to pack up, move across country, start a brand new Chiropractic Practice all in the aftermath of a car accident and while living on disability. Then, it takes even more…
246: Uncloseted Riff and Rant – Get Over Your Super Glued Life – Rick Clemons
Jan 26, 2018 • 4 min
I got super glued this week. It sucked, was a little painful, and opened my eyes. It also gave me good fodder to rant about this week. Led to the question, “Where are you super glued in your life?” Something sticky is going on here, but you can cut loose,…
245: Jail or A Closet…You Choose – Trish Jenkins
Jan 24, 2018 • 41 min
Prison was not on the “goal chart” of entrepreneur Trish Jenkins. Conned by a fraud and a breach of the Corporations Act meant losing her multi-million-dollar portfolio, including her family home. Living with murderers, drug dealers, frauds and broken…
244: Uncloseted Riff and Rant – Uncloseting Patience – Rick Clemons
Jan 19, 2018 • 6 min
This episode is brought to you by Masha E. (pronounced “Mosh” like mosh pit), a new listener to Life Uncloseted. She sent me an email about her bold move for 2018, and low and behold it became today’s Riff and Rant about patience, anxious urgency, what…
243: Life as a “Check Minus” – Raechel Anderson Dressler
Jan 17, 2018 • 35 min
Imagine being that kid in school who loved to help others, innocently over contributed, and being labeled as disruptive, simply because you wanted to contribute, but instead got told, “You’re not paying attention.” Before you know it, your life has become…
242: The True Essence Of Birthdays – Rick Clemons
Jan 12, 2018 • 5 min
This is a short riff and rant that is brought to you by my youngest daughter. Well honestly by my youngest daughter’s birthday. It’s simply my thoughts on what the true essence of a birthday is all about and how it helps you live a bold, life…
241: Loving Bravely A Bold Move – Dr. Alexandra Solomon
Jan 10, 2018 • 35 min
Let’s jump right to the truth – Real love starts with you. In order to attract a life partner and build a healthy intimate relationship, you must first become a good partner to yourself. However, many of us enter into romantic relationships full of…
240: Uncloseted Riffs & Rants – 6 Steps For Bold Living – Rick Clemons
Jan 5, 2018 • 7 min
2018 is moving forward. Your bold move is waiting for you. but what gets in the way and how can you get past the fear of making a bold move. Here’s six simples steps to understand to make your bold move in 2018. And, if you want to share your bold move…
239: 12 Books For Living a Life Uncloseted – Rick Clemons
Jan 3, 2018 • 21 min
Making bold moves and living a life uncloseted, doesn’t take magic. It takes determination, belief, trust, and…a few good books. To get the year started, instead of a typical interview show, or goal setting show, I thought I’d simply provide you 12 (or…
238: Uncloseted Riffs & Rants – 2018, To Goal or Not To Goal – Rick Clemons
Dec 29, 2017 • 6 min
As we enter the last holiday weekend of 2017, I could go all “Goal-Oriented,” or “Make Your Resolutions” stick, on ya, but I won’t. I don’t believe in closeting people up that way when it comes to making things happen. Instead I like to invite people to…
237: The Art of Fearless Communication – Eduardo Placer
Dec 27, 2017 • 36 min
We all hear it but do we listen? Communication is key. Yet part of what keeps us playing small and not making the bold moves in life is that we can’t communicate clearly, let alone without fear. There’s always something holding us back. So let’s stop that…
236: Uncloseted Riffs & Rants – Holiday Hiatus – Rick Clemons
Dec 22, 2017 • 8 min
We’re just a couple of days away from the Holiday – Christmas. For many of you, you’ve already celebrated the holiday – Hanukkah. And for all of us, we’re yet to experience the dawning of the new year. Regardless of what you celebrate, what could be…
235: Walking Outside The Norm – Shawn Singleton
Dec 20, 2017 • 33 min
This ain’t no fiction. It’s actually pretty damn truthful. Gay men, too often put themselves in a closet of only being attracted to the outside appearance and don’t move past the person’s flaws to get the beautiful human. Ok, this is probably true for…
234: Uncloseted Riffs & Rants – Bold Move Recipe – Rick Clemons
Dec 15, 2017 • 7 min
Today I’m sharing 5 key ingredients for making a BOLD MOVE. These are lessons I’ve learned as I’ve been boldly making a move from one house to another…one new city to another…downsizing my life…and stepping into a simpler, less hectic way of being in the…
233: Too Broke For Even A Closet – Josh Elledge
Dec 13, 2017 • 41 min
Imagine having little to no money…and starting a business. Ok, you’ve heard it before, but what you may not have heard is to come out of the closet and become a successful entrepreneur may only take some coupons, and $500 and a lot of believing in…
232: Uncloseted Riffs & Rants – Contingencies of Life – Rick Clemons
Dec 8, 2017 • 7 min
Life and moving out of old homes and into new ones are full of contingencies. So how do you use the contingencies? To your advantage or as a crutch to keep you from moving forward in life. Let’s deconstruct this idea of contingencies and as the saying…
231: Life Ablaze – Orlando Ortega
Dec 6, 2017 • 32 min
If you’ve ever felt flawed, broken, trying to make the best sense of your life, then it’s not surprising if you feel your life is on fire. Whether you’re struggling with sexuality, death, obsessions, religion, acceptance for who you are, or any number of…
230: Uncloseted Riffs & Rants – Bringing Sexual Harassment Out Of The Closet – Rick Clemons
Dec 1, 2017 • 6 min
It’s becoming an epidemic. Sexual harassment, innuendo, even exposing oneself to another human being in the workplace. Women are crying foul and uncloseting what has been lying here needing to be said. But what does this say about us as humans? As a…
229: Attitudes and Mindset For Living Life Uncloseted – Jake French
Nov 29, 2017 • 43 min
Imagine for a moment, that the closet you live in is your own body. A body that keeps you hostage and you had no control over when you were taken hostage. In the blink of an eye, your entire life went from being free to suddenly being confined. Confined…
228: Uncloseted Riffs & Rants – Thankful for Bold Moves – Rick Clemons
Nov 24, 2017 • 5 min
I’m thankful I didn’t eat or drink as much as I usually do on Thanksgiving. But, I’m also thankful I did a little impromptu Facebook poll to see what the boldest thing people had done in their lives. The answers are what I’m sharing today on the podcast.…
227: A Good Crash Always Leads To Good Living – Billy Winn
Nov 22, 2017 • 31 min
Sometimes it takes crashing and burning to find your path to freedom. To live a life uncloseted. That crash make take on the form of leaving a record label, moving away from a relationship based purely on lust, and realizing you’re growing up and becoming…
226: Uncloseted Riffs & Rants – Garage Sale Lessons – Rick Clemons
Nov 17, 2017 • 5 min
There are five types of buyers at Garage Sales. These five types of buyers are also the five types of personalities that approach making bold moves and coming out of the closets of their lives in the same way. It’s an interesting exploration of who you…
225: Uncloseting the Biggest Loser & Winner – Marty Wolff
Nov 15, 2017 • 43 min
Eating healthy, exercise, being fit. One way to look at life. Or, you can see it as another damn diet, exercise that you hate, and “I’m never going to be fit, so why bother?” Welcome the closet of personal well-being and the battle of the bulge. It’s one…
224: Uncloseted Riffs & Rants – Opportunity vs. Obligation – Rick Clemons
Nov 10, 2017 • 4 min
We all love opportunities. Opportunities to grow, travel, explore, laugh, eat, etc. Each of has our own list of perfect opportunities that we wish would magically come our way. To lead us to a place of feeling uninhibited – uncloseted. But what happens…
223: Chaos Creates Stability – Greg Centineo
Nov 8, 2017 • 36 min
Imagine the only way to live your life uncloseted means, failing, with a capital F. Going from creating what’s anticipated to be a Hollywood animation block buster, to a complete box office bust. Your life comes to a halt, to the point that you don’t even…
222: Uncloseted Riffs & Rants – The Ring of Honesty vs. Dishonesty – Rick Clemons
Nov 3, 2017 • 10 min
Ever had ringing of the ears? It’s called Tinnitus. It’s annoying. Like a pebble in a shoe annoying. But, it’s also led me to an interesting observation. Many of the ways you can avoid Tinnitus also can help you face the honesty and dishonesty of why you…
221: Rebellion and living a life uncloseted – Ricky Rebel
Nov 1, 2017 • 39 min
Too often the world sees rebellion as an act to get attention or to buck the system just for bucking the systems sake. Yet, when we rebel with intention, out of a desire to be who we are, the way we are, and as our unique self, we actually build…
220: Uncloseted Riffs & Rants – Certainty vs. Uncertainty – Rick Clemons
Oct 27, 2017 • 6 min
Ironically, certainty is fleeting. Even more ironic, uncertainty drives us batting. So what is one to do? Well I’ve got some ideas and solutions that are not complicated, unless we choose to complicate our pursuit of certainty, when all we need to do…
219: The Side Hustle of Living A Life Uncloseted – Chris Guillebeau
Oct 25, 2017 • 28 min
Impact. That was one of the first words I realized was the reason I had to live my life uncloseted. Then, I happened upon a book entitled, The Art of Non-Conformity, and I knew I had found a voice, a spirit, and a mentor that inspired me. Little did I…
218: Uncloseted Riffs & Rants – Side Hustling For Your Life – Rick Clemons
Oct 20, 2017 • 7 min
We’re all hustling away from or towards something, each and everyday. A lot of us are also hustling things on the side. Is that a good or a bad thing? Not sure it’s either, but it can be. Join me today as I explore how a side hustle can have a major or…
217: The Art of Living A Life Uncloseted – Rick Clemons
Oct 18, 2017 • 26 min
We all get constrained. Stuck. Shackled by life. But what happens when we finally take the bold step to say, “NO MORE!” That’s the day we start to live our life uncloseted. But how do you do that? You make a bold move to embark upon a bold change. Today,…
216: Uncloseted Riffs & Rants – 3 Steps To Forgiveness Without Fear – Rick Clemons
Oct 13, 2017 • 6 min
If anything goes wrong today, blame it on Friday The 13th, then forgive it. I know, forgiveness is easier said than done…until you listen to this episode. I’ve been going through a lot of forgiveness stuff these past couple of months and discovered a…
Episode 215: The Power of Letting Go – The Hound
Oct 11, 2017 • 36 min
It’s time to learn a lesson. Are you listening? Whether it’s a lover, a friend, or family member, those relationships that we think defines us, often involve people who have been in our lives the longest, that we simply need to remove from our lives.…
Episode 214: Uncloseted Riffs & Rants – Time, The Ultimate Friend Not Foe – Rick Clemons
Oct 6, 2017 • 8 min
Fact: you’ve got 168 hours in a week available to you. Fact: You probably aren’t using all those hours to your maximum potential. Truth: We can all do better at using our time…especially to come out of the closets of our lives. All it took was hearing a…
Episode 213: To be or not to be inclusive…how do you make it happen? – Danny Terrero
Oct 4, 2017 • 29 min
Life is a series of transitions. Every day we wake up to new challenges, adventures, and directions. For some of us, those transitions lead not only to a physical transition but also to our life’s work that we’ve been called to do. Danny Terrero is a…
Episode 212: Uncloseted Riffs & Rants – Coming Out & Letting Go – Rick Clemons
Sep 29, 2017 • 8 min
To0 often, the crap of life is because we simply can’t let something go. I recently sat down with a music artist who inspired this post, and realized, so often, my own stress, frustrations, anxiety, stems from my unwillingness to let something go. Yet,…
Episode 211: Coming Out In Asia Led To Creating Good Mornings – Craig Kulyk
Sep 27, 2017 • 36 min
Imagine being in a foreign country, learning to stumble through the language barriers, adjusting to cultural expectations, and realizing that you’re going to come out of the closet. Hard enough to do around people within your own culture, but how do you…
Episode 210: Uncloseted Riffs & Rants – Good or Better – Rick Clemons
Sep 22, 2017 • 6 min
A quick visit to support my friend, and inspiration guy, Chris Guillebeau, on his book tour for his new book Side Hustle: From idea to income in 27 days, led me to as the question that he posed…”What’s good and what could be better?” Learn the five things…
Episode 209: Living Life Uncloseted – Rick Clemons
Sep 20, 2017 • 19 min
You’ve heard me talking about it, the new podcast, you know the one entitled – Life Uncloseted. I know it’s been a long time coming, and we are almost there. Tentative kick off is October 13th. But what does it mean to live a life uncloseted? How do you…
Episode 208: Uncloseted Riffs & Rants – What’s Right With Porn? – Rick Clemons
Sep 15, 2017 • 7 min
Porn gets a bad rap. That’s my opinion and I’m not even an avid porn watcher. It’s goes in phases for me. But porn has helped me be more me and more comfortable with who I am as a person and sexual being. In fact, I don’t personally find anything wrong…
Episode 207: More To The Man Than Meets The Queer Eye – Michael Lucas
Sep 13, 2017 • 46 min
Assumptions make an ass out of you and me. Or so that’s what they say. And, in the case of today’s guest, that is what has happened more often than not. The moment he’s labeled as an adult film star and producer, he gets dropped into a proverbial category…
Episode 206: Uncloseted Riffs & Rants – Coming Out As An Empty Nester – Rick Clemons
Sep 8, 2017 • 10 min
The last one is leaving the nest. My youngest is off to college today, and my husband and I become empty nesters…that is provided she or her sister don’t move back home…fingers crossed…we love you…but it’s time for all of us to start new chapters in our…
Episode 205: Exploring The Dance Party Of Coming Out & Spirituality – Christopher Logan & Sam Coffie
Sep 6, 2017 • 40 min
Coming out. It can be a challenge but also a celebration. A celebration that makes you want to dance. But, for many of us, the moment we come out, we find ourselves trying to fit in. Fit in within our own community. We hit the bars, hang out at the clubs…
Episode 204: Uncloseted Riffs & Rants – Coming Out & Dancing With Your Emotions – Rick Clemons
Sep 1, 2017 • 5 min
Coming out is full of emotions. In fact, any journey of change and transformation is laden with baggage filled with emotions. But what if instead of trying to avoid the emotions you simply allowed yourself to dance with them? In fact, what if you just…
Episode 203: The Art of Being Gays With Kids – Brian Rosenberg
Aug 30, 2017 • 31 min
Parenting. It’s a labor of love and a love of labor. Now add to the mix, a twist of a same-sex household and all sorts of interesting things begin to happen. Especially when it’s a gay household with two Dads. There seems to be this expectation that two…
Episode 202: Uncloseted Riffs & Rants – Raw Honesty – Rick Clemons
Aug 25, 2017 • 6 min
I have to be honest. Being honest was one of the hardest things I ever learned to do. Ok, maybe I haven’t mastered the full art of it yet, but for the most part I’ve learned that raw honesty trumps (not to be confused with 45) fake honesty any day. Yet,…
Episode 201: Reverse The Beat & Thrive! – Dina Delicious
Aug 23, 2017 • 33 min
Isolation, loneliness, not fitting in. All are common feelings on the journey to coming out to be one’s self. In the darkest of moments, you may feel the need to give up or give in, yet the real kick ass triumph comes when you Reverse The Beat and thrive.…
Episode 200: Celebrating the Music & Milestones of our LGBTQ Life – Tony Moran
Aug 18, 2017 • 35 min
I’m 54, he’s 50 something. We’re celebrating 200 Episodes of The Coming Out Lounge. He’s celebrating 35 years in the music business rocking the dance music industry. All that is to say, you’re never too old to rock the world, your way. But it does beg the…
Episode 199: Never Let A Narcissist Keep You Closeted – Chris Hyde
Aug 16, 2017 • 35 min
So what is the difference between self-love and being an arrogant asshole. A lot! It’s just one small step to the right when you move from self-love to conceit and narcissist. From gas lighting to fake love, we’re exploring how narcissists have a deep…
Episode 198: Uncloseted Riffs & Rants – Paying Attention To All The Right Things – Rick Clemons
Aug 11, 2017 • 12 min
Attention. So hard to grab yet so valuable when you do. For the past six weeks I’ve been traveling and putting a real effort into trying to pay attention to things happening around me. It’s helped me learn stuff about myself as well as about my fellow…
Episode 197: The Art of Improv, Communication, and Change – Mike Ganino
Aug 9, 2017 • 33 min
He’s a repeat offender, but actually he’s a repeat guest that is back to talk about the art of using Improv to communicate more clearly in the throes of change. Yes, I said Improv when your deep in the tornadoes of change. Whether you’re coming out,…
Episode 196: Uncloseted Riffs & Rants – Every day’s a Birthday and Coming Out Day – Rick Clemons
Aug 4, 2017 • 4 min
Today’s my birthday, and my gift to you is my perspective on how today and everyday can be your birthday too. I’m keeping it short and sweet this week as I’ve got some celebrating here to do in Las Vegas, but I just know you’re going to get something out…
Episode 195: Love Lives Without Judgment – Raph Solo
Aug 2, 2017 • 33 min
It’s time to declare that you have the right to love without judgment! Yes you do. No matter your desires – gay, lesbian, bi, poly – love is love and it is the summer of love once again. This summer we celebrate the 25th anniversary of the summer of love.…
Episode 194: Uncloseted Riffs & Rants – Play Your Scene! – Rick Clemons
Jul 28, 2017 • 5 min
As Dan Savage would say, ITMFA – Impeach The Mother Fucker Already! As 45 turns the tables on my transgender brother and sisters this week by declaring them unfit to serve in the military, I felt even more compelled to support Savage and his ITMFA…
Episode 193: Out Your Way At Work – Rhodes Perry
Jul 26, 2017 • 34 min
You’re out. Or considering coming out. One of the scariest, most confusing aspects of coming out is whether to be out in the work environment. Some say “yes,” others say “no,” and for others it’s a non-issue. Regardless of what way you are leaning,…
Episode 192: Uncloseted Riffs & Rants – The Fire of Shame, Worry, & Communication – Rick Clemons
Jul 21, 2017 • 6 min
While attending World Domination Summit over the past weekend, I had the opportunity to confront the fire of shame that fuels my worry. Since I returned, I’ve been caught up in potential shame that has been inflicted upon me by someone else, without any…
Episode 191: Just Let Him Play. Just Let Him Be – G. Nigel Moya
Jul 19, 2017 • 39 min
So often we get told to “Man up,” or “Act like a lady,” or “Quit being such a cry baby.” All words that cut like a knife, and often times scar us for life. And once the scar is there, it never really goes away, even with the best plastic surgery, the…
Episode 190: FOBO – Fear Of a Better Option – Rick Clemons
Jul 14, 2017 • 7 min
This weekend I was faced with FOMO. Fear of missing out, but in reality I was facing FOBO – Fear of Better Option. I’m attending World Domination Summit in Portland and one of the activities is a food around the world experience where you could choose to…
Episode 189: Coming Out And Dancing Your Way Into Your True Calling – Susan Duprey
Jul 12, 2017 • 44 min
From theater dork and film student to non-profit work and dancing her way through Boston, NYC, Europe and Los Angeles, today’s guest finally came out, submitted to her calling to go back to school for nutrition and found a path for delving more deeply…
Episode 188: Opportunities! Do You Use Them or Lose Them? – Rick Clemons
Jul 7, 2017 • 8 min
I’ve been handed a lot of opportunities in my life. Some good, some not so good. All have given me opportunities to…well you’ll just have to listen and find out. However, as you listen to this riff and rant, I invite you to seek out the OPPORTUNITY to…
Episode 187: Trans…More Than Just A Life Transformation, It’s A Life – Addison Rose Vincent
Jul 5, 2017 • 38 min
There’s a lot of talk these days about the Trans community…Transgender, Transsexual, Trans-bathrooms…you name it! Trans, trans, trans, has got conversations stirred up all over the globe. Which leads to the question, “Why all the hubbub?” To help us…
Episode 186: He Came Out. She Became A Beacon of Hope – Rebecca Hames
Jun 30, 2017 • 40 min
It’s not often we hear the other side of the story. You know the one from the other side of the closet – the spouses story…from the spouse who’s spouse has come out. But today, we once again share what it’s like when your dreams are shattered and your…
Episode 185: Loving Without Boundaries – What, Why, and How – Kitty Chambliss
Jun 28, 2017 • 43 min
Who you love, how you love, and how you create your relationships is nobody’s business. Got it? Ok, I know. Easier said than done. Yet, it seems in this day and age there is still an overwhelming societal desire to be up in everyone’s busyness…yes I said…
Episode 184: It’s Ok. Go Be You! – Scott Kirkendall
Jun 23, 2017 • 33 min
There comes a point where denying your inner essence leads you to a space of discovering, embracing, and giving yourself permission to be the real you. Is it painful? Hell yes. Is it worth it? Oh, hell, hell yes. But before you can get to that point, you…
Episode 183: A New Perspective On “What Everyone Will Know!” – Maggie Kneip
Jun 21, 2017 • 51 min
It’s the eighties in New York City. It’s the blind date of a girl’s dream, a fairy-tale courtship, a magical wedding in a Chelsea loft. Maggie and John set up house in sleek condo in hip Hoboken. John’s a journalist on the rise and they have a beautiful…
Episode 182: Father Daughter Chat: The Kids Really Are All Right – Shelby & Riley Clemons
Jun 16, 2017 • 35 min
I get asked all the time, “How did your kids take your coming out?” Well instead of me explaining, I thought for Father’s Day it would be an awesome experience to bring my daughters, Shelby (22) and Riley (18) onto The Coming Out Lounge for a truth…
Episode 181: Connection. A Key Ingredient For Coming Out – Alan Cohen
Jun 14, 2017 • 36 min
Connections. It’s all about connections. Or is it about connecting the dots, or creating connections? The answer is yes, yes, and yes. Without connections, we don’t have compassion. Without connections we can’t understand our differences. And, without…
Episode 180: Two Gay Dads Speak Out – Joel Barrett
Jun 9, 2017 • 40 min
Today is all about, he said, he said. My friend Joel Barret of Joel Speaks out, OUTwords:LGBTQ Storytelling and Sexual SundaySchool joins me to talk about whatever peaks our interest. We’re each going to take turns throwing topics on the table and letting…
Episode 179: Your story is your story – Christopher Brune-Horan
Jun 7, 2017 • 37 min
We’ve all got a story. It’s our story. The good, the bad, and the ugly, but it’s still our story. Too often though, we are afraid to tell our story, to share our truth. However, the reality is, our story is our truth and the foundation that should and can…
Episode 178: What is love and friendship? – Tom Conner
Jun 2, 2017 • 32 min
Remember when you were 11 years old? Or maybe not. But for most of us, those younger years were filled with admiration towards older siblings or friends, especially when life gets rough. Add to it, the confusion of pre-adolescence and the stirrings of…
Episode 177: Love Is Love. Yes, it is that simple! – Angie Kiel Hendrix
May 31, 2017 • 32 min
Today is all about good. A good coming out journey, with twists and turns that cover just about every twist and turn you can find in a coming out story. From confusion to rejection, first loves to lasting loves, and all about stepping into the reality…
Episode 176: Uncloseted Riffs and Rants: Get Over Your Shit and Into Your Shift – Rick Clemons
May 26, 2017 • 9 min
At some point in time, someone has told us to get over it, or in more frank terms, “Get over your shit!” I have a different take on this, and I share 10 ways to get over your shit, but it’s really not about getting over your shit, it’s about something…
Episode 175: The Art Of Coming Out & Active Networking – Mark E. Sackett
May 24, 2017 • 41 min
Before you go knocking on the closet door, you might want to consider, NETWORKING. Yes, NETWORKING. In other words, finding some like type folks who’ve been down the road your about to embark upon, before you dive headlong into the life you’re meant to be…
Episode 174: Uncloseted Riffs and Rants: Life Through A Different Lens – Rick Clemons
May 19, 2017 • 8 min
West Los Angeles. Home of the Compton riots and some of the toughest inner city living on the planet. But that didn’t stop me, yet as I drove through the neighborhood my courage waned a little bit with each block as I got closer to the high school I was…
Episode 173: Live Your Out Truth Or Go To Hell – Alfreda Lanoix
May 17, 2017 • 44 min
Let’s be honest. A majority of us in the LGBTQ world have been told, “You’re going to hell for living that lifestyle.” Oh yeah? Well, who are you to judge and cast stones. But yet, maybe they’re right, or very, very wrong. For all the biblically-based,…
Episode 172: Uncloseted Riffs and Rants: The Audacity To Be Yourself – Rick Clemons
May 12, 2017 • 8 min
Audacity – the willingness to take risks. In my book it’s really the willingness to not give a damn what others think and to be yourself. This has showed up in a lot of ways this week – with clients, myself, my kids, and a few friends. Everyone…
Episode 171: When All Else Fails…Be The LGBT News – John M. Livelsberger
May 10, 2017 • 35 min
Imagine living in a town that is literally for all intents and purposes a suburb of Chicago. There’s only one twist…it’s in Indiana. A state where individuals can be fired from jobs for being gay. A state where an evangelical Christian was elected…
Episode 170: Uncloseted Riffs and Rants: Living in Hope – Rick Clemons
May 5, 2017 • 8 min
For the past few weeks I’ve been listening to Oprah and Deepak Chopra’s latest meditation series, “Hope in uncertain times!” It got me think how we can use hope as our guide to come out of our closets to live a rich beautiful bold life. A life uncloseted.…
Episode 169: Coming Out of Your Perfection Detox to Move Towards Happiness – Petra Kolber
May 3, 2017 • 47 min
One of the hardest things about coming out of any closet in life, is realizing that the closet door only opens when you truly love who you are fully and completely. However, most of us would say, “Yes, but easier said than done!” And, that’s how the…
Episode 168: Uncloseted Riffs and Rants: Moving From Irrational to Rational – Rick Clemons
Apr 28, 2017 • 8 min
What do you do when you’ve been dealing with an irrational person? You riff and rant about it on your podcast. And that’s exactly what is happening on The Coming Out Lounge podcast today. I’m giving you a glimpse of my personal life and using it as a…
Episode 167: Truth or Fiction – The Battles of Sexual Attraction – Dwight Gabbert
Apr 26, 2017 • 34 min
It’s been said that life imitates art, but sometimes art imitates life. And that’s exactly where we are going today on The Coming Out Lounge, to a place where art takes us into the provocative life of The Victorians. Our guest, Dwight Gabbert, created…
Episode 166: Uncloseted Riffs and Rants: Finding Security – Rick Clemons
Apr 21, 2017 • 8 min
Security. Certainty. Having to know. We all desire some form or feeling secure. Whether it’s in ourselves, the future, our relationships, or even in our homes. Security gives a sense of knowing. But what if you can’t get to that sense of security? Today’s…
Episode 165: Face It. Belong just as you are in the world. – Mila Jam
Apr 19, 2017 • 43 min
We all are who we are. No getting around that. Even if we put on makeup, false smiles, and act as if we’re really happy, even when we’re not. But, it’s time to take a deeper look into ourselves and embrace that we do belong, we are enough, and there are…
Episode 164: Uncloseted Riffs and Rants: We’re All A Little Transgender & Crossdressing – Rick Clemons
Apr 14, 2017 • 9 min
There’s a lot of hubbub these days about the Transgender community. Everything from where they can go pee to whether they should be vanquished off the face of the other. Too many times they are assumed to be misfits, and weirdos who just love to…
Episode 163: A Mother’s Love Proves, Love is Love – Ellen Bekier
Apr 12, 2017 • 27 min
Her daughter always caught the boy’s eyes. In return, she knew how to flirt, date, and do everything a normal young lady would do growing up. She was active in school, a social butterfly, and pretty much your average kid. College came and then so did a…
Episode 162: Uncloseted Riffs and Rants: Respond vs. React – Rick Clemons
Apr 7, 2017 • 7 min
Life happens, someone gives you a wrong look, or the shit hits your fan, and BOOM you react! Or, do you respond? One of the clutches of living a CLOSETED LIFE is living in a reactive state rather than a responsive state. I know! I’m a reactor! I own it, I…
Episode 161: Real Me, As If There Is Anything Else You Can Be – Kenyth Mogan
Apr 5, 2017 • 38 min
You don’t have to be a genius to understand that regardless of your sexual orientation or gender identity, showing your real self to the world can sometimes be a very scary proposition. The fears of rejection and not being good enough throw us into the…
Episode 160: Uncloseted Riffs and Rants: Giving a F*CK About 6 Human Needs – Rick Clemons
Mar 31, 2017 • 6 min
We’ve all got needs and desires. But one guy on this planet really nutted this concept down to 6 Human Needs. That guy is Tony Robbins and I have to say, when I saw this YouTube Video with his take on the 6 Human Needs I thought, damn, I really need to…
Episode 159: Finally, Out After All These Years – Loren A. Olson, M.D.
Mar 29, 2017 • 38 min
Two questions that always haunt those of us who come out of the closet later in life are, “How did you not know you were gay?” and “Wasn’t your marriage just sham to protect yourself at your spouse’s expense?” For years and years those questions haunted…
Episode 158: Uncloseted Riffs and Rants: New Perspectives For Coming Out – Rick Clemons
Mar 24, 2017 • 6 min
We’ve all heard it – “Change your perspective and everything changes!” So if it is that easy then why don’t we do it? Often times it is because we don’t know how to change our perspective, even if staying in our current perspective is painful. Then one…
Episode 157: Living a Life of Tunnelvision – Tim Cain, Lead Singer Boys’ Entrance
Mar 22, 2017 • 37 min
Glam rock, AIDS, and being yourself. Then imagine being called one of the most iconic queer musicians and you’ve kind of got a glimpse of today’s guest. Fabulous, fun, and willing to put it all out there in his music and his life, Tim Cain is on the brink…
Episode 156: Uncloseted Riffs and Rants: Coming Out of Green With Envy – Rick Clemons
Mar 17, 2017 • 7 min
Happy St. Patrick’s Day. May your day be filled with everything GREEN, excpet being GREEN WITH ENVY! Envy is one of those emotions that doesn’t do a body good in any way, shape or form. In fact it often destroys us. So in honor of it being green day, and…
Episode 155: How To Be Confident In Who You Are – Lina Bradford
Mar 15, 2017 • 35 min
Coming out is about bringing all sides of yourself to the role you’ve been placed on this earth to play. It’s also about being optimistic and carefree with a purpose. It’s about being you, the real you, 24/7 even if that means being a goofball and asking…
Episode 154: Uncloseted Riffs and Rants: Overcoming I don’t know syndrome – Rick Clemons
Mar 10, 2017 • 7 min
My teens favorite response to questions is “I don’t know!” Ok, I get it, sometimes we don’t know, but is that really true 100% of the time? To often “I don’t know” becomes a habitual patterned response so that we can avoid dealing with the stuff that we…
Episode 153: The Importance Of Coming Out Stories – Kevin Gerdes
Mar 8, 2017 • 33 min
We’ve all got a story. A story to uncover, to share, and to help others. Each and every story has purpose. Yet, if we don’t share our stories, or ourselves, and the world doesn’t benefit, and we have less impact, being who we are meant to be in the world.…
Episode 152: Uncloseted Riffs and Rants: How To Uncloset Your Time – Rick Clemons
Mar 3, 2017 • 9 min
We’ve all been given a gift. The gift of time. Yes, I know I’m not the first the say that, nor the last. But have you ever considered how time might be keeping in a closet of your life? Holding you back from doing the things that light you up and make you…
Episode 151: Messages From The Playground – Chris Tompkins
Mar 1, 2017 • 36 min
From baseball to ballet. Video games to theater productions. First picked to last picked. And even from “A’s to F’s” we are who we are because of messages we received on the playgrounds of our lives. Messages that impact our spiritual ability to accept…
Episode 150: Uncloseted Riffs and Rants: Open The BIG BOLD STEP DOORS – Rick Clemons
Feb 24, 2017 • 9 min
You gotta itch that needs scratching. It’s something you desire and want. But in your lovely little mind you find yourself saying, “When the time is right…” Ok. Fine. Wait for the right time. So you wait and then along comes the RIGHT TIME, it knocks at…
Episode 149: Sexual Freedom, A Liberating Pathway to Living Authentically – Deva Logan
Feb 22, 2017 • 46 min
Let’s talk about sex. Or love. Or relationships. And while we’re at it lets address guilt, shame, frustrations, abusive relationships, and STD’s. YES! We’re talking about all those things that sometimes feel yucky and uncomfortable to talk about. Yet,…
Episode 148: Uncloseted Riffs and Rants: You’re The Master Thought Puppeteer – Rick Clemons
Feb 17, 2017 • 10 min
You’ve probably heard the phrase, “You are not your thoughts!” Or maybe, you heard, “You are what you think!” Both are correct, but it is hard for us to wrap our head around that concept. With over 70,000 thoughts rushing through our heads, any given day,…
Episode 147: Falling Under The Spell Of Coming Out and Living Your Truth – Davis Mallory
Feb 15, 2017 • 34 min
Imagine being in the national spotlight. In The Real World (yes that one on MTV). You’re a frat boy who’s simply cuter-than-cupid and to start that next chapter of your life. So what is one such as he supposed to do? It’s Simple. Be BOLD. In Davis…
Episode 146: Uncloseted Riffs and Rants: Let Curiosity Be Your Guide – Rick Clemons
Feb 10, 2017 • 10 min
If I had never been curious, I might never have come out of the closet. If I had never been curious, I wouldn’t have risked becoming an entrepreneur If I had never been curious, I never would have said, “Welcome to The Coming Out Lounge!” For me,…
Episode 145: Coming Out To Thrive, Not Just Survive – Marnie Grundman
Feb 8, 2017 • 37 min
No matter what life hands you, you have within you the spirit to rise, to rewrite the outcome of your story and to create a life filled with love and happiness. That is if you choose to do so. At age 13, today’s guest was lost, and facing the worst of…
Episode 144: Uncloseted Riffs and Rants: React vs. Respond – Rick Clemons
Feb 3, 2017 • 11 min
I’m airing my dirty laundry so to speak. This happened because I realized I’m kind of a reaction junkie. Yes, I think I’m a little bit addicted to reacting versus responding. Although, both serve great purposes in our lives, when used incorrectly,…
Episode 143: Hidden Truth of Loss & Grief – Megan Snedden
Feb 1, 2017 • 38 min
Just for a moment imagine you’re a highly sought after photographer, shooting for media outlets such as the BBC, BuzzFeed, National Geographic Traveler, USA Today, and Yahoo – among others. You’re even one of Maria Shriver’s Architects for Change. But…
Episode 142: Uncloseted Riffs and Rants: How Can You Serve? – Rick Clemons
Jan 27, 2017 • 9 min
Each day I ask myself, “How can I serve?” Some days my answer is, “You can’t because you aren’t serving yourself!” Now that may sound selfish, but it’s so true – if we can’t serve ourselves we can’t serve others! When we don’t care for ourselves, it makes…
Episode 141: They Didn’t Ask, He Didn’t Tell – James Newcomb
Jan 25, 2017 • 33 min
Here’s story about a military guy who had a secret. One that caused him to question his values, kept him up at night, and caused him to pretend to be someone he wasn’t. Yet, he did his duty. Lived by the expectations. Served his country, until he just…
Episode 140: Uncloseted Riffs and Rants: Inauguration Day Coming Out Advice – Rick Clemons
Jan 20, 2017 • 13 min
God Bless America. Heck, bless the whole world for that matter. It’s Inauguration day here in the U.S. and like it or not Donald Trump is our new President. But rather than hide in our closets and curl up in a fetal position for the next four years (god…
Episode 139: Embracing Your Authentic Identity – Shaun Sperling
Jan 18, 2017 • 43 min
Envision the beat of Madonna’s “Vogue” pulsing in the background of your Madonna themed bah mitzvah and the way you’re dancing gives all eyes watching a glimpse into the truth of who you are…that authentic you. In that moment, at age 13, you have no…
Episode 138: Uncloseted Riffs and Rants: Untangling The Cords Of Life – Rick Clemons
Jan 13, 2017 • 7 min
OMG. This box of cords is a mess. No, I can’t find what I’m looking for because it’s a tangled web of…UUUUGGGGHHHH! Ever been there? I was, just today and that’s why I’m challenging you to look at the boxes of cords and tangles you have in your…
Episode 137: Candidly Out In Hollywood – Paolo Andino
Jan 11, 2017 • 39 min
It may be called Tinsel Town, but it can also be one of the most homophobic, “Don’t ask don’t tell” places on earth…that is if you want to keep working. But those times are changing and like most the rest the world, embracing the LGBTQ community is…
Episode 136: Uncloseted Riffs and Rants: The Three E’s Of Success – Rick Clemons
Jan 6, 2017 • 11 min
It’s here. The first week of 2017 is practically over and we’re moving full steam ahead into the New Year. Starting with this episode, we’re changing things up just slightly and bringing short, focused, podcasts, every Friday to you to explore the essence…
Episode 135: Soulful, Out, Country Singer Who Foresaw A Trump Presidency – Kevin Thornton
Jan 4, 2017 • 36 min
The United States and the world as we know it changed dramatically on November 8, 2016. November 9th, we woke up to a nightmare – a white, mostly male, republican party driven, misogynistic, xenophobic, homophobic, little boy’s throwing tantrums in the…
Episode 134: 2017 Coming Out Mantras, Intentions, & Goals – Just a Few of My Favorite Things – Rick Clemons
Dec 30, 2016 • 16 min
It’s inevitable. The year comes to an end and the new one starts. Just like clockwork, or should we say calendar work. So what do we do? We celebrate the old and ring in the new. Then of course we – most of us – set resolutions or goals, and off to the…
Episode 133: Coming Out of Dark Lesbian Closets – Gabriella Meghan
Dec 28, 2016 • 35 min
Imagine being lost, unable to fit in, constantly being bullied, and suffering anxiety and depression. For some of you this may be your life – in and out of the closet. Now imagine you find an escape hatch. One that leads you to a world where you believe…
Episode 132: He’s A Little Bit Country, Little Bit Gay, and Completely Out – Brandon Stansell
Dec 23, 2016 • 32 min
Yes, we still live in a world where being out of the closet can mean the difference between life and death, having a job or being canned, and following your passion or being shunned by those in your industry – all because of your sexuality. Today, we…
Episode 131: Three Marriages and A Transition: Part 2 – Stephanie Poole
Dec 21, 2016 • 35 min
We’re back with the continuation of a discussion with Stephanie Poole, Male-to-Female, transgender. In the first episode Stephanie shared his/her journey to the monumental change of finally finding herself at age 50. Through three marriages and raising…
Episode 130: Three Marriages and A Transition: Part 1 – Stephanie Poole
Dec 16, 2016 • 35 min
We’ve all heard the saying, “You’re going to keep being taught the lesson, until you learn it.” Not sure today’s guest needed to learn a lesson, but she’s had plenty of lessons learned in her 50+ years here on the planet. From man of the world to woman on…
Episode 129: Coming Out, Coming Back to Spirituality – Bobbi Becker
Dec 14, 2016 • 42 min
As wise man once said, “Coming out is one of the most spiritual experiences a human being can ever have!” Yet, in that process, many LGBTQ individuals find themselves disconnected from their religion, faith, and inner self. Out of shame and religious…