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592: CONVERSATIONS AROUND ORAL SEX
Jun 2 • 31 min
When it comes to oral sex this is an area where your emotional intimacy, the conversations, you have will impact your sexual connection. | “It’s amazing how one little conversation can change things forever.” —Anonymous Every marriage is unique and…
591: ROMANCE DEFINED: PART 3 — WHAT YOUR HUSBAND WANTS
May 28 • 29 min
Being romanced is not just something for the women. Men want to be romanced as well. Learn what your husband wants when it comes to romance. | “I vow to love you, and no matter what challenges might carry us apart we will always find our way back to one…
590: CRYING DURING SEX OR AFTER ORGASM
May 26 • 29 min
Tears and sadness, especially unexplained can be hard to talk about. Learn about why wives are spontaneously crying during sex. | “Tears are words the heart cannot express.” —Anonymous Every marriage is unique and amazing! We’re here to see you experience…
589: ROMANCE DEFINED: PART 2 — WHAT YOUR WIFE WANTS
May 21 • 32 min
Ladies your spouse can’t romance you if he doesn’t know what his wife wants and you can’t tell him what you like if you don’t know. | “I’m just a girl, standing in front of a boy asking him to love her.” —Notting Hill Every marriage is unique and amazing!…
588: THE UPS AND DOWNS OF HER CYCLE
May 19 • 30 min
A woman experiences hormonal and physical changes every month. Learn about the ups and downs of her cycle and its impact on your relationship. | “When a woman tells you she started her period the correct response is NEVER “well that explains it”.”…
587: ROMANCE DEFINED: PART 1 — WHAT’S THE DEAL WITH THIS WORD
May 14 • 30 min
It’s time to rediscover the romance and make it a strength in your marriage. Learn about this word and the impact it has on you and your spouse. | “So it’s not gonna be easy. It’s gonna be really hard. We’re gonna have to work at this every day, but I…
586: I NEVER THOUGHT I WOULD DO THAT
May 12 • 27 min
Oh the things you would do as a married couple. Learn about the random things that you never thought you would do after you got married. | “Your blessings may come in unexpected ways.” —Neil Andersen Every marriage is unique and amazing! We’re here to see…
585: NAVIGATE THE PANDEMIC TOGETHER: PART 5 — FIGURE OUT YOUR FINANCES
May 7 • 28 min
Finances are an area that can be a challenge. Learn about how the two of you can and will figure out your finances together. | “Stay on top of your finances. Don’t leave that to others.” —Leif Garrett Every marriage is unique and amazing! We’re here to…
584: WATCH ME UNDRESS
May 5 • 27 min
Getting undressed in front of your spouse can be a stumbling block but it doesn’t have to be. Learn about how your spouse feels when you watch them undress. | “What makes you vulnerable makes you beautiful.” —Brene Brown Every marriage is unique and…
583: NAVIGATE THE PANDEMIC TOGETHER: PART 4 — WORK DYNAMICS
Apr 30 • 30 min
Learn what you can do to not only survive, but thrive at home while you are working together. These work dynamics can be beneficial your marriage. | “We cannot accomplish all that we need to without working together.” —Bill Richardson Every marriage is…
582: SLEEP NAKED
Apr 28 • 32 min
Learn about taking off your jammies before you head to bed to enjoy the many benefits when you sleep naked next to your spouse. | “Sleeping naked is good, to sleep naked with you is the best.” —Anonymous Every marriage is unique and amazing! We’re here to…
581: NAVIGATE THE PANDEMIC TOGETHER: PART 3 — EXTROVERTS
Apr 23 • 31 min
An extrovert is someone who thrives off of connection with other people. Learn about how extroverts approach life and this season. | “The best part of being with a group is that you don’t have to do everything alone. You are with your friends.” —Justin…
580: ALL THE LITTLE THINGS
Apr 21 • 30 min
So much is made of the big things in marriage. The epic trip. The larger than life experiences. Learn about the importance of the little things. | “It’s the little details that are vital. The little things make the big things happen.” —John Wooden Every…
579: NAVIGATE THE PANDEMIC TOGETHER: PART 2 — INTROVERTS
Apr 16 • 30 min
Even though this could seem like the most perfect situation ever for introverts it’s not a perfect scenario and it’s hard for introverts. | “Solitude matters and for some people it is the air they breathe.” —Susan Cain Every marriage is unique and…
578: INTIMACY WITH EVERYONE HOME
Apr 14 • 33 min
Learn what you can do to work through the challenges you currently face so that you can maintain your intimacy with everyone home. | “When you are really in need you think of creative solutions to your problems” —Anonymous Every marriage is unique and…
577: NAVIGATE THE PANDEMIC TOGETHER: PART 1 — OUR NEW NORMAL
Apr 9 • 29 min
There is a new normal happening right now. Learn how your marriage can come out stronger as you press in together during this season. | “As you move outside of your comfort zone what was once unknown and frightening becomes your new normal.” —Robin Sharma…
576: MAKE YOUR BEDROOM A SANCTUARY
Apr 7 • 32 min
Learn how you can take your bedroom from just OK to a romantic sanctuary where you and your spouse can focus on loving on each other. | “To be creative you must create a space for yourself where you can be undisturbed…separate from everyday concerns.”…
575: DEALING WITH CONFLICT: PART 4 — OUR CONFLICT PLAN
Apr 2 • 29 min
Conflict is an area of marriage that can be dramatically improved with having a plan on how you are going to navigate it with your spouse. | “Plan your work and work your plan.” —Napoleon Hill Every marriage is unique and amazing! We’re here to see you…
574: EXCUSES TO AVOID HAVING SEX
Mar 31 • 28 min
The problem with excuses is that they often have an element of truth in them. Learn about facing the excuses when it comes to not having sex. | “Excuses will always be there for you, opportunity will not.” —Anonymous Every marriage is unique and amazing!…
573: DEALING WITH CONFLICT: PART 3 — HOW I HANDLE THINGS
Mar 26 • 30 min
The only person that you can change is yourself. Learn about how you handle things when it comes to conflict and what you can do to improve. | “Strive for continuous improvement instead of perfection.” —Kim Collins Every marriage is unique and amazing!…
572: MARRIAGE IN THE CORONAVIRUS PANDEMIC
Mar 24 • 32 min
Learn what you can do to make your marriage a priority when dealing with the coronavirus as well as during times of uncertainty. | “Hope and fear cannot occupy the same space. Invite one to stay.” —Maya Angelou Every marriage is unique and amazing! We’re…
571: DEALING WITH CONFLICT: PART 2 — I WISH YOU WOULD JUST…
Mar 19 • 31 min
In times when you say “I wish you would just…” this often comes from observing how others in your world interact with each other in times of conflict. | “Sometimes I wish that you were able to read my mind so that I wouldn’t have to explain myself.”…
570: WHY IS INITIATING SEX SO DIFFICULT
Mar 17 • 30 min
Sex is important to vibrant and healthy marriage. Learn about the difficulties you face when it comes to initiating sex with your spouse. | “The easiest thing to do is to react. The second easiest thing to do is to respond. The hardest thing to do is…
569: DEALING WITH CONFLICT: PART 1 — WHAT ARE WE FIGHTING ABOUT
Mar 12 • 29 min
Let’s take a look at what you fight about, how you respond to conflict and how you can better deal with conflict in your marriages. | “You get in the biggest fights with the people you care the most about because those are the relationships you are…
568: VIDEO GAMES
Mar 10 • 31 min
Video games, marriage and what’s going on behind the controllers. Learn how video games impact your marriage for better and for worse. | “I truly don’t mind my husband playing video games. It’s when he makes them a priority over me that I have a problem.”…
567: STEP INTO A SEX CHALLENGE: PART 3 — PUTTING IT ALL TOGETHER
Mar 5 • 30 min
When you come together to learn about each other’s body parts, how you romance, and your emotional intimacy you’ll have success during a sex challenge. | “Love is about growing as a couple, learning about each other, and sticking together.” —Anonymous…
566: POLITICAL DIFFERENCES
Mar 3 • 31 min
Learn about navigating the political minefield that you may encounter with your spouse, family and in-laws during an election season. | “I never considered a difference of opinion in politics, in religion, in philosophy, as cause for withdrawing from a…
565: STEP INTO A SEX CHALLENGE: PART 2 — WHAT YOU NEED TO CONSIDER
Feb 27 • 28 min
A sex challenge doesn’t just happen. Learn about what you need to consider when it comes to having a successful sex challenge. | “I can give you a six word formula for success. Think things through - then follow through.” —Eddie Rickenbacker Every…
564: REBUILDING TRUST WITH YOUR SPOUSE
Feb 25 • 30 min
Learn what the two of you can do to begin rebuilding trust after infidelity, an emotional affair, lying, financial infidelity or other breaches of trust. | “Rebuilding trust when it has been broken is not dependent only on the person who has broken the…
563: STEP INTO A SEX CHALLENGE: PART 1 — MORE THAN JUST SEX
Feb 20 • 28 min
There is much more that happens around a sex challenge than sex. Emotional, physical and spiritual intimacy can all be grown during this time together. | “Challenges are what make life interesting, overcoming them is what makes life meaningful.” —Joshua…
562: WHAT SHE WANTS YOU TO KNOW ABOUT HER ORGASM
Feb 18 • 30 min
Learn about what wives want their husband’s to know about her orgasm and how what husbands have to say about giving her an orgasm. | “Vulnerability is the only bridge to build connections.” —Anonymous Every marriage is unique and amazing! We’re here to…
561: DATING YOUR SPOUSE: PART 4 — HOW TO DATE AT HOME
Feb 13 • 30 min
Enjoy a date at home experience as it may be what you need to get some time together and truly connect without having to blow the budget. | “There’s nothing like staying at home for real comfort.” —Jane Austen Every marriage is unique and amazing! We’re…
560: GO BARE DOWN THERE?
Feb 11 • 29 min
Razor, wax or laser? Learn about the conversations that are happening or may need to happen when it comes to going bare down there. | Razor, wax or laser? Learn about the conversations that are happening or may need to happen when it comes to going bare…
559: DATING YOUR SPOUSE: PART 3 — LOW COST DATE IDEAS
Feb 6 • 29 min
What if having low cost date ideas in your toolbox gave you the ability to make this happen on a more regular basis. Check out these low cost date ideas. | “Opportunities don’t happen, you create them.” —Chris Grosser Every marriage is unique and amazing!…
558: DON’T TAKE YOUR MARRIAGE FOR GRANTED
Feb 4 • 31 min
Learn about what can you do today so that you do not take your marriage for granted as none of us know how many days we have. | “Life can change in an instant, don’t take anyone or anything for granted.” —Anonymous Every marriage is unique and amazing!…
557: DATING YOUR SPOUSE: PART 2 — CREATIVE DATE IDEAS
Jan 30 • 30 min
Why go on the same date over and over again? Learn about creative date ideas the two of you can enjoy when you are on your next date together. | “Do something today that your marriage will thank you for.” —Anonymous Every marriage is unique and amazing!…
556: SPONTANEOUS VS SCHEDULED SEX
Jan 28 • 31 min
Learn what you need to know to best understand the difference between spontaneous and scheduled sex so that you have the sexual intimacy you desire. | “Spontaneity is an infinite number of rehearsed possibilities.” —Peter Drucker Every marriage is unique…
555: DATING YOUR SPOUSE: PART 1 — WHAT YOU EXPECT
Jan 23 • 32 min
Learn about the nitty gritty of what the expectations are around dating your spouse no matter what season you are in or your budget. | “Chase her. Chase her when she’s already yours. That’s the only way you’ll be assured to never lose her.” —Anonymous…
554: SEXUAL DESIRE DIFFERENCES
Jan 21 • 31 min
Learn about how the two of you can navigate differences in sexual desire no matter how long you have been married or what season you’re going through. | “Our goal should be to understand our differences” —James D. Watson Join Tony and Alisa DiLorenzo for…
553: MORE THAN A RESOLUTION: PART 3 — YOUR GAME PLAN
Jan 16 • 32 min
There are obstacles that keep you from being able to honor your commitment to your resolutions and that’s why you need a game plan. | I no longer believe in New Year’s Resolutions. I believe in daily resolutions.” —Anonymous ´╗┐Join Tony and Alisa DiLorenzo…
552: 10 YEAR ANNIVERSARY SHOW
Jan 14 • 47 min
An anniversary is a time of celebration. We share about what’s been accomplished in the last decade and what’s to come in the next decade. | “Celebrations of your accomplishments raise your awareness of what you’ve done.” —Palma Poscillico Join Tony and…
551: MORE THAN A RESOLUTION: PART 2 — WHAT KEEPS ME FROM HAVING SUCCESS
Jan 9 • 31 min
There’s a disconnect between what you want and the actions that you need to have the success that you desire for yourself and you marriage. | “Resolutions require only words. Results take action.” —Tony Robbins Join Tony and Alisa DiLorenzo for a marriage…
550: POWER OF EXPECTATIONS
Jan 7 • 30 min
So many wants, so many expectations. Learn about how the power of your expectations can make what you desire for your marriage a reality. | The best way to predict the future is to create it. —Peter Drucker Join Tony and Alisa DiLorenzo for a marriage…
549: MORE THAN A RESOLUTION: PART 1 — WHERE DO I START
Jan 2 • 30 min
What is a resolution? Learn about what they are and how you can successfully implement them to create lasting change in your life and marriage. | “Tomorrow is the first blank page of 365 page book. Write a good one.” —Brad Paisley Join Tony and Alisa…
548: LEAVE IT BEHIND
Dec 31, 2019 • 31 min
That’s right leave it all behind. Learn about what you need to leave behind so that you can make this next year your best year yet. | “Leave the past behind it’s time to move on to bigger and better things.” —Anonymous Join Tony and Alisa DiLorenzo for a…
547: DREAM AGAIN: PART 4 — LET’S GET PHYSICAL
Dec 26, 2019 • 31 min
Being physical can be about the activities that you enjoy together and yet for most it’s all about the sexual connection between the two of you. | “Sex is more than an act of pleasure, it’s the ability to be able to feel so close to a person, so…
546: CHRISTMAS (EVE) MAGIC
Dec 24, 2019 • 21 min
Make this a night you’ll both remember. Learn about what the two of you can do to make your own Christmas Eve magic to start your holiday of right. | “Christmas magic is silent. You don’t hear it… You feel it. You know it. You believe it.” —Anonymous Join…
545: DREAM AGAIN: PART 3 — SPEND TIME TOGETHER
Dec 19, 2019 • 31 min
Time is the one thing that when given can never be returned. Learn what you can do to create opportunities to spend time together. | “The best gift you could ever give someone is your time because you are giving them something your can never get back.”…
544: HOLIDAY SEX
Dec 17, 2019 • 30 min
It’s the most wonderful time of the year! Learn about what the two of you can do to have better holiday sex no matter where you are celebrating. | “I already have what I want for Christmas and it’s you.” —Anonymous Join Tony and Alisa DiLorenzo for a…
543: DREAM AGAIN: PART 2 — BRIDGING THE EMOTIONAL GAP
Dec 12, 2019 • 30 min
Learn how the two of you can bridge the emotional gap that you are currently experiencing in your marriage and reconnect once again. | “It’s a shame when things that are on your mind or in your heart never reach your lips.” —Anonymous Join Tony and Alisa…
542: GIVE YOUR MARRIAGE AN UPGRADE
Dec 10, 2019 • 33 min
What if you chose to upgrade yourself? Learn about the mindset around what you choose to upgrade and how that mindset impacts your marriage. | “You’ve upgraded your technology but you’ve not upgraded yourself.” —Eric Thomas Join Tony and Alisa for a…
541: DREAM AGAIN: PART 1 — THE POWER OF A DREAM
Dec 5, 2019 • 30 min
The dreams that you have for your marriage are so important. Learn what happens to you and your spouse when you come together and dream again. | “Man alone has the power to transform his thoughts into a physical reality; man, alone, can dream and make his…
540: THE INTIMACY LIFESTYLE DURING TOUGH SEASONS
Dec 3, 2019 • 30 min
The unexpected does happen. Learn about what you have to do to keep the intimacy lifestyle going when tough seasons come your way. | “One cannot plan for the unexpected.” —Anonymous Join Tony and Alisa DiLorenzo for a marriage conference unlike any other!…
539: LET’S TALK ABOUT SEX: PART 6 — WHEN HEALTH GETS IN THE WAY
Nov 28, 2019 • 29 min
What happens when health gets in the way of you being intimate with your spouse.An illness does not only impact you, it takes a toll on everything. | “When I is replaced with WE even Illness becomes Wellness. —Anonymous Join Tony and Alisa DiLorenzo for a…
538: A SIMPLE THANK YOU
Nov 26, 2019 • 27 min
Learn about the power that a simple thank you can have on your spouse and those around you. Sometimes it’s the simple things that go a long way. | “Happiness isn’t getting what you want all the time. It’s about loving what you have and being grateful for…
537: LET’S TALK ABOUT SEX: PART 5 — TO OUR KIDS
Nov 21, 2019 • 34 min
Learn what you can do to have the sex talk with your kids in a healthy way. This is not a one and done conversation but one you can have as they grow. | “It would be irresponsible in this day and age not to talk to our kids about sex.” —Katrina Farmer…
536: I DO MORE THAN YOU
Nov 19, 2019 • 30 min
Learn about what happens when you have this recurring statement in your mind, “I do more than you”. It’s a form of score keeping in your marriage. | “The minute you start keeping score you’re destroying the relationship.” —Tony Robbins Join Tony and Alisa…
535: LET’S TALK ABOUT SEX: PART 4 — AFTER HAVING KIDS
Nov 14, 2019 • 36 min
After having kids there are still two adults that need that physical connection to feel important, to feel loved and to feel valued. | “You’re not learning anything unless you are having the difficult conversations” —Gwyneth Paltrow Start your week off on…
534: SNIP SNIP IT’S TIME FOR A VASECTOMY
Nov 12, 2019 • 32 min
There are a lot of considerations for a couple to make when facing this big decision. Learn about what happens when you get the snip snip of a vasectomy. | “Life presents many choices, the choices we make determine our future.” —Catherine Pulsifer Join…
533: LET’S TALK ABOUT SEX: PART 3 — WITH OUR FRIENDS
Nov 7, 2019 • 29 min
Let’s talk about sex! Learn what’s OK to talk about and what’s not when it comes to sharing your sexual intimacy with your friends. | “Not every part of your personal life needs to be public.” —Anonymous Grab Our Six Questions today. Six incredible…
532: IF YOU LOVED ME
Nov 5, 2019 • 32 min
The statement “If you loved me” holds a lot of weight. Let’s unpack this statement and the impact it has on both you and your spouse. | “Expectations can be premeditated resentments.” —Anonymous Register for the Love Deeper Online Workshop.…
531: LET’S TALK ABOUT SEX: PART 2 — AS NEWLYWEDS
Oct 31, 2019 • 29 min
Learning to talk about sex as a newly married couple is a skill. This week we are focusing on the sex conversations as newlyweds. | “Sex is… perfectly natural. It’s something that’s pleasurable. It’s enjoyable and it enhances a relationship.” —Sue Johnson…
530: SEX CHALLENGE
Oct 29, 2019 • 34 min
Get answers to your top sex challenge questions so that you and your spouse can reignite the connection inside your bedroom. | “Challenges (or a sex challenge) are what make life interesting. Overcoming them is what makes life meaningful.” —Joshua J.…
529: LET’S TALK ABOUT SEX: PART 1 — AN IMPORTANT CONVERSATION
Oct 24, 2019 • 31 min
Join in as this series will address the topic of talking about sex in different seasons of your marriage. It all starts with an important conversation. | “To make progress you have to learn to be comfortable being uncomfortable.” —Anonymous Grab the 19…
528: WHAT’S FOR DINNER
Oct 22, 2019 • 32 min
What’s for dinner? Our delicious suggestions make it easy to answer this age-old question so that you and your family can sit down and eat. | “All great change in America (and the world) begins at the dinner table.” —Ronald Reagan Join the #1 Community…
527: WALKING OUR FAITH: PART 3 — ACTS OF LOVE
Oct 17, 2019 • 30 min
Often times you speak of doing things in the name of love. Of caring for your spouses based on love and yet… What does it mean to demonstrate acts of love? | “Great achievement is usually born of great sacrifice and is never the result of selfishness.”…
526: INTIMACY REQUIRES VULNERABILITY
Oct 15, 2019 • 30 min
Vulnerability is not weakness, it’s your greatest measure of courage. Learn the importance of vulnerability and its power to create a shift in you. | “Vulnerability is not winning or losing. It’s having the courage to show up and be seen when we have NO…
525: WALKING OUR FAITH: PART 2 — BELIEFS ABOUT SPIRITUAL INTIMACY
Oct 10, 2019 • 30 min
Spiritual intimacy is just as important as the other intimacies and has the potential to be one of the most intimate of the intimacies. | “One difficult conversation is better than a bunch of conversations that avoid the truth.” —Anonymous Learn more…
524: WHEN REJECTION HAPPENS
Oct 8, 2019 • 30 min
Learn what happens when rejection becomes a source of pain leaving both you and your spouse feeling frustrated inside and outside the bedroom. | “Often when you are rejected you think that you are not good enough. The truth is that they weren’t ready for…
523: WALKING OUR FAITH: PART 1 — GETTING STARTED
Oct 3, 2019 • 31 min
Spiritual intimacy is the sharing of your faith beliefs whatever that may be for you and your spouse. Learn how you can share and grow your faith. | “Our faith becomes stronger as we express it.” —Billy Graham Learn more about your ad choices. Visit…
522: LOVE LANGUAGE
Oct 1, 2019 • 31 min
There are 5 love languages. Learn how you can speak your spouse’s love language, especially when it’s different from yours. | “We assume that others show love in the same way that we do and if they don’t we worry the love isn’t there.” —Anonymous Learn…
521: MARRIAGE THROUGH THE YEARS: PART 8 — GOLDEN YEARS
Sep 26, 2019 • 31 min
The golden years is a time where folks are starting their second life, couples aren’t slowing down as a new adventure awaits them and their marriage. | “Getting older is an adventure not a problem.” —Betty Friedan Learn more about your ad choices. Visit…
520: SEX OUTSIDE YOUR BEDROOM
Sep 24, 2019 • 28 min
Learn about having sex outside of your bedroom by using the many different rooms and areas available to you in your home. | “A change of scenery can help everything” —Drew Pomeranz Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
519: MARRIAGE THROUGH THE YEARS: PART 7 — SANDWICH GENERATION
Sep 19, 2019 • 30 min
When you have kids to look after and parents who need care you’re part of the sandwich generation. How do you do both and have time for your marriage? | “Parenting is the easiest thing in the world to have an opinion about and the hardest thing in the…
518: THE BENEFITS OF CUDDLING
Sep 17, 2019 • 30 min
There are many benefits of cuddling. Learn what you can do to get more cuddle time between the sheets with your spouse as you enhance your marriage. | “When you are in a relationship (especially a marriage) you should cuddle and kiss. Often. And a lot.”…
517: MARRIAGE THROUGH THE YEARS: PART 6 — GETTING OLDER
Sep 12, 2019 • 31 min
You’re getting older. No matter how long you’ve been married you know that your body is not the same as it was when you first got married. | “You can’t help getting older but you don’t have to get old.” —George Burns Learn more about your ad choices.…
516: SEX OUT OF OBLIGATION
Sep 10, 2019 • 30 min
Learn what you can do when sex becomes an obligation. Break free of this pity sex cycle so you can enjoy sex with your spouse again. | “Sex is an art form not a chore.” —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
515: MARRIAGE THROUGH THE YEARS: PART 5 — MOVING DAY
Sep 5, 2019 • 31 min
It’s moving day. In this series we are exploring different circumstances that couples can find themselves in through the years of their marriage. | “All great changes are preceded by chaos.” —Deepak Chopra Learn more about your ad choices. Visit…
514: IDENTITY CRISIS
Sep 3, 2019 • 31 min
You’re having an identity crisis. What happens when you face this in your marriage? Learn how you and your spouse can work through this season together. | “Identity cannot be found or fabricated but emerges from within when one has the courage to let go.”…
513: MARRIAGE THROUGH THE YEARS: PART 4 — WORK LIFE BALANCE
Aug 29, 2019 • 28 min
Work life balance can evoke emotions of what marriage should look like and yet does it truly exist or should it be something you strive for in your life. | “Work is a rubber ball, if you drop it, it will bounce back. The other four balls-family, health,…
512: THE CHATTER IN MY HEAD
Aug 27, 2019 • 33 min
Learn about taking control of the chatter in your head during sex and those thoughts that keep you from taking action in your marriage. | “When eagles are silent, parrots begin to chatter.” —Winston Churchill Learn more about your ad choices. Visit…
511: MARRIAGE THROUGH THE YEARS: PART 3 — CHORE WAR
Aug 22, 2019 • 31 min
Learn how to stop fighting about housework, the chore war, and get on the same page so that the cleaning gets done around your house. | “Marrying is easy it’s housework that’s hard.” —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
510: BACK TO SCHOOL
Aug 20, 2019 • 31 min
Learn what you can do to stay connected with your spouse when the kids go back to school (no matter if it’s traditional, year around or homeschool). | “You learn something every day IF you pay attention.” —Ray LeBlond Learn more about your ad choices.…
509: MARRIAGE THROUGH THE YEARS: PART 2 — CHILD REARING YEARS
Aug 15, 2019 • 29 min
The child rearing years don’t end in the infant stage, they change over time and is one of the longest seasons that a couple will experience. | “Our children are not going to be just “our children” - they are going to be other people’s husbands and wives…
508: MUTUAL MASTURBATION
Aug 13, 2019 • 29 min
Learn about mutual masturbation and its role in your marriage. Stimulating each other’s genitals is not only normal but a healthy part of sexual intimacy | “Sometimes the most important conversations are the most difficult to engage in.” —Jeanne Phillips…
507: MARRIAGE THROUGH THE YEARS: PART 1 — NEWLY WED
Aug 8, 2019 • 30 min
Marriage changes over the years and that’s not just about how old you are but also how long you’ve been married. It starts when you’re a newly wed. | “A wedding is an event, a marriage is a lifetime. Invest more in your marriage than your wedding and…
506: MARRIAGE IS A TEAM SPORT
Aug 6, 2019 • 28 min
You could say that marriage is a team sport. Learn what you can do so that yours is a place where you and your spouse are working together on the same team. | “Coming together is a beginning. Staying together is progress. Working together is success.”…
505: MONEY AND MARRIAGE: PART 6 — ESTATE PLANNING
Aug 1, 2019 • 32 min
When you look at estate planner remember that this is an act of love for those who will be in mourning and addressing your estate. | “Love begins by taking care of the closest ones-the ones at home.” —Mother Theresa Learn more about your ad choices. Visit…
504: LONELINESS IN MARRIAGE
Jul 30, 2019 • 34 min
Learn what you can do when you are faced with feelings of loneliness and the challenges you need to overcome within your marriage. | “The most terrible poverty is loneliness and the feeling of being unloved.” —Mother Theresa Learn more about your ad…
503: MONEY AND MARRIAGE: PART 5 — PLANNING FOR THE FUTURE
Jul 25, 2019 • 33 min
Whether your newly married or making the decision to go from separate to joint accounts. There comes a time when you need to discuss your future. | “Planning is bringing the future into the present so that you can do something about it now.” —Alan Lakein…
502: FEEL MORE COMFORTABLE WHEN YOU TALK ABOUT SEX
Jul 23, 2019 • 32 min
Learn what you can do to equip yourself to feel more comfortable when you talk about different aspects of sex with your spouse. | “Be brave enough to start a conversation that matters.” —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit…
501: MONEY AND MARRIAGE: PART 4 — SIDE HUSTLE
Jul 18, 2019 • 33 min
If you’re looking to make some extra money, a side hustle might be just what you need. Learn how to pick one that will benefit you and your family. | “I never dreamed about success. I worked for it.” —Estee Lauder Learn more about your ad choices. Visit…
500: THE POWER OF A HUG
Jul 16, 2019 • 34 min
It’s time to celebrate the 500th episode of the ONE Extraordinary Marriage Show. Learn how a hug can transform your marriage and others in the ONE family. | “A hug is like a boomerang, you get it back right away.” —Bil Keane Learn more about your ad…
499: MONEY AND MARRIAGE: PART 3 — DEALING WITH DEBT
Jul 11, 2019 • 31 min
Whether your newly married or making the decision to go from separate to joint accounts. What are the conversations around bringing your debt? | “Just because you can afford the payments doesn’t mean that you can afford the item.” —Anonymous Learn more…
498: EXPRESS YOUR SEXUAL DESIRES
Jul 9, 2019 • 34 min
Learn about the need for and the power in expressing your sexual desire to one another for life long connection.You need o feel desired and to act on it. | “True desire is expressed by action. Only action brings results.” —Anonymous Learn more about your…
497: MONEY AND MARRIAGE: PART 2 — THOSE MONEY CONVERSATIONS
Jul 4, 2019 • 31 min
In this series we are digging deep into the role of money in marriage.This is Part 2 on Money and Marriage: Those Money Conversations. | “Almost everyone is uncomfortable talking about money.” —Olivia Mellan Learn more about your ad choices. Visit…
496: ADULT TOYS IN THE BEDROOM
Jul 2, 2019 • 31 min
Learn about the different types and styles of adult toys you can use in your bedroom. These are great to enhance your sexual connection. | “Just Play. Have fun. Enjoy the game.” —Michael Jordan Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
495: MONEY AND MARRIAGE: PART 1 — BRINGING FINANCES TOGETHER
Jun 27, 2019 • 30 min
Whether your newly married or making the decision to go from separate to joint accounts. What are the conversations around bringing your finances together? | “Money is an opportunity to reach unity in marriage. When couples work together they can do…
494: SEX BEFORE DATE NIGHT
Jun 25, 2019 • 29 min
Date nights have a lot of expectations. Learn what you can do to set yourself up to have sex before you go out on your date night. | “Life is uncertain. Eat dessert first.” —Ernestine Ulmer Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
493: MEDIA AND MARRIAGE: PART 3 — WHERE ARE YOU SCROLLING
Jun 20, 2019 • 34 min
The Media and Marriage series explores the impact different forms of media have on your thoughts and actions. This week it’s about where are you scrolling. | “Spend more time with people who make you forget to look at your phone.” —Jay Shetty Learn more…
492: SEXLESS MARRIAGE
Jun 18, 2019 • 31 min
Sexless marriage is exactly what it sounds like, a marriage in which husband and wife are not having sex for an extended period of time. | “Are you lovers or just roommates?” —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
491: MEDIA AND MARRIAGE: PART 2 — WHAT ARE YOU WATCHING
Jun 13, 2019 • 30 min
The Media and Marriage series explores the impact different forms of media have on your thoughts and actions. This week it’s the shows you’re watching. | “Your diet isn’t only what you eat. It is what you watch, what you listen to, what you read and the…
490: ALCOHOL AND YOUR MARRIAGE
Jun 11, 2019 • 34 min
Learn about the impact that alcohol can have when it becomes a crutch to facing what’s going on in your life and strategies to shift that dynamic. | “Every action that we take impacts the lives of those around us. The question is are YOU aware of YOUR…
489: MEDIA AND MARRIAGE: PART 1 — WHAT ARE YOU LISTENING TO?
Jun 6, 2019 • 24 min
The Media and Marriage series explores the impact different forms of media have on your thoughts and actions. This week learn about what’s in your ears. | “You are what you listen to.” —Alicia Keyes Learn more about your ad choices. Visit…
488: KEGEL TO BETTER SEX
Jun 4, 2019 • 31 min
Yes, both men and women can kegel to better sex. Learn why it important for you to tighten your pelvic floor muscles from time to time. | “The hardest thing about exercise is to start doing it. Once are doing exercise regularly the hardest thing to do is…
487: OUR MARRIAGE VOWS PART 5 — AS LONG AS LIFE SHALL LAST
May 30, 2019 • 31 min
Our Marriage Vows series explores each phrase of the wedding vows. This week we’re wrapping up with the final line in your vows, As Long As Life Shall Last. | “Most people fail not because of a lack of desire, but because of a lack of commitment.” —Vince…
486: YOU NEED TO FIX OUR MARRIAGE
May 28, 2019 • 33 min
So many times this phrase YOU need to fix this comes as a result of frustration. Learn what to do when you hear, “You need to fix our marriage!” | “Marriage is like home maintenance. When the smoke detector starts beeping you fix it. You don’t buy a new…
485: OUR MARRIAGE VOWS PART 4 — FOR BETTER OR WORSE
May 23, 2019 • 33 min
Our Marriage Vows series explores each phrase of the wedding vows. This week we’re going to discuss what it means when you said “for better or worse”. | “More marriages might survive if partners realized that sometimes the for better comes after the for…
484: KISS ME LIKE YOU MEAN IT
May 21, 2019 • 31 min
Learn about one of the most intimate and sometimes overlooked aspects of marriage, a long, passionate kiss between you and your spouse. | “I like kissing, kissing a lot” —Audrey Hepburn Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
483: OUR MARRIAGE VOWS PART 3 — FOR RICHER, FOR POORER
May 16, 2019 • 31 min
Throughout the Our Marriage Vows series we’ll explore each phrase of the wedding vows. Learn what you were in for when you said “for richer, for poorer”. | “There is no my money, his money or her money in a successful marriage.” —Anonymous Learn more…
482: PLAN THE PERFECT VACATION
May 14, 2019 • 31 min
Learn what you can do to plan for the perfect vacation and what you need to do before you go and while you are vacationing. | “Never go on trips with someone you do not love.” —Ernest Hemingway Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
481: OUR MARRIAGE VOWS PART 2 — TO HAVE AND TO HOLD
May 9, 2019 • 31 min
Throughout the Our Marriage Vows series we’ll explore each phrase of the wedding vows. Learn more about what it means when you said “to have and to hold”. | “And it’s still true, no matter how old you are, when you go into the world it is best to hold…
480: LEAVING THE TOILET SEAT UP
May 7, 2019 • 31 min
Learn about the tension that happens between you and your spouse when it comes to hair, clothes, and leaving the toilet seat up in your bathroom. | “Marriage is two people in love standing in the same bathroom.” —Austin Kleon Learn more about your ad…
479: OUR MARRIAGE VOWS PART 1 — I TAKE YOU
May 2, 2019 • 26 min
Throughout this series we’ll explore each phrase of the wedding vows and equip you to take action on them in your marriage. | “People with good intentions make promises. People with good character keep them.” —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices.…
478: DEEPEN YOUR SEXUAL CONNECTION
Apr 30, 2019 • 32 min
Learn how to have the sex talk again and again, what the obstacles are and how you overcome them to have a deep sexual connection. | “When we avoid challenging conversations we trade short term discomfort for long term dysfunction.” —Anonymous Learn more…
477: EMOTIONAL EXHAUSTION
Apr 23, 2019 • 33 min
Learn what happens when you experience emotional exhaustion and begin to feel like you have no power or control over what’s happening in your life. | “Challenges are what make life interesting and overcoming them is what makes life meaningful.” —Joshua J.…
476: WHEN “OK” IS NOT OK
Apr 16, 2019 • 31 min
What happens in your marriage when you say “I’m OK” and yet you’re not really OK? Learn how to break the cycle of saying you’re OK when you’re not. | “Don’t fake being OK. You only hurt yourself. Be real with what you are going through but don’t let it…
475: TAX TIME
Apr 9, 2019 • 31 min
Learn about the dynamic that happens in your marriage when it comes to tax time, filing, owing and maybe even getting a refund. | “Spend your tax return. Because, really…you earned it.” —Dayana Yochim Learn more about your ad choices. Visit…
474: OVERCOMING THE NO
Apr 2, 2019 • 31 min
Marriages become extraordinary when you choose connection. Learn about overcoming the no that you say when you don’t want to put forth the effort. | “Explain your feelings instead of acting them out and you will find solutions instead of arguments.”…
473: ROOMMATE SYNDROME
Mar 26, 2019 • 33 min
There are a number of contributors that lead to roommate syndrome. Learn what causes it, how long it lasts and what your spouse needs in this season. | “Nobody is too busy, it’s just a matter of priorities.” —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices.…
472: MAKE UP SEX
Mar 19, 2019 • 31 min
Learn about the phenomenon of make up sex and how you can use this time to heal, grow, and connect with your spouse after a fight. | “Every couple fights. Just make sure that the makeup sex ALWAYS lasts longer than the fights.” —Anonymous Learn more about…
471: THE DANGER OF ISOLATION
Mar 12, 2019 • 31 min
You need the support of community to do this thing called marriage. Learn about the danger of isolation and why your marriage needs community. | “Isolation is the enemy of improvement.” —Tony Wagner Learn more about your ad choices. Visit…
470: WHAT COLOR IS YOUR UNDERWEAR
Mar 5, 2019 • 31 min
The color of your underwear can make a difference. Learn what the color of your underwear says about you and the influence it has on your marriage. | “The best color in the world is the one that looks good on you.” —Coco Chanel Learn more about your ad…
469: THOSE SWEET BEDROOM SOUNDS
Feb 26, 2019 • 31 min
Learn about those bedroom sounds (music, TV, sound machine) that are used to enhance or mask the noises that come from having sex. | “Music can change the world because it can change people.” —Bono Learn more about your ad choices. Visit…
468: ORAL SEX FOR HIM AND FOR HER
Feb 19, 2019 • 31 min
Learn about oral sex for him and for her. If this is an area that you want to explore it’s time to start the conversation. | “Oral sex can be foreplay, the main course or the dessert!” —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit…
467: TIME FOR BED
Feb 12, 2019 • 31 min
What does that time before bed look like for you and your spouse? It’s important to create a bedtime routine that brings the two of you together. | “Going to bed at night saying WE’VE done something wonderful. That’s what matters to me.” —Steve Jobs Learn…
466: THE CHALLENGE WITH A SEX CHALLENGE
Feb 5, 2019 • 36 min
Learn how you can overcome the biggest challenges to starting any sex challenge. It’s a way to re-ignite your emotional and sexual connection. | “Treat objections as requests for further information.” —Brian Tracy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit…
465: DATE NIGHT
Jan 29, 2019 • 31 min
Learn how you can make your date night more than dinner and a movie by getting creative with your time together. | “Live less out of habit and more out of intention.” —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
464: BEING PREGNANT AND MARRIED
Jan 22, 2019 • 35 min
Pregnancy changes your life, you body, and your relationship to one another. Learn how you can be intentional when you’re married and pregnant. | “Your priorities aren’t what you SAY they are. They are revealed by how you live. What does your life say…
463: TIME FOR THE MONEY CONVERSATION
Jan 15, 2019 • 31 min
In this show show we will equip you and your spouse with the tools that you need to have the money conversation that haven’t been happening. | “Money problems destroy marriage, get on the same page with your spouse and work together toward a common goal.”…
462: GET OUT OF YOUR HEAD AND INTO YOUR BED
Jan 8, 2019 • 32 min
Learn the importance of being in the moment by getting out of your head and into your bed to experience a heightened level of sexual intimacy. | “Overthinking ruins you, ruins the situation, twists things around, makes you worry and just makes everything…
461: IN THE MOMENT
Jan 1, 2019 • 31 min
Learn what it means to be in the moment and the best ways that the two of you can accomplish this in your emotional intimacy. | “Realize deeply that the present moment is all that you have. Make the NOW the primary focus of your life.” —Anonymous Learn…
460: MERRY CHRISTMAS FROM AROUND THE WORLD
Dec 25, 2018 • 21 min
On this December 25th we wish you and your spouse a very Merry Christmas. We’re truly honored and blessed to have you part of the ONE family. | The magic of Christmas never ends and it’s greatest of gifts are family and friends! —Anonymous Learn more…
459: TRADITIONS
Dec 18, 2018 • 30 min
What is it about traditions that makes them so important. Learn about those fun Christmas traditions that create connection and memories with your family. | “At the heart of every family tradition is a meaningful experience.” —Anonymous Learn more about…
458: BETTER THAN YESTERDAY
Dec 11, 2018 • 31 min
Don’t let perception and comparison can get in the way of action. Learn how your attitude and behavior can make today better than yesterday. | “You can’t have a better tomorrow if you are thinking about yesterday all the time.” —Charles Kettering Learn…
457: 12 SEXY DAYS OF CHRISTMAS
Dec 4, 2018 • 31 min
Add your own little twist to the traditional 12 Days of Christmas by having the 12 Sexy Days of Christmas to build your intimacy and connection. | “Success is where preparation and opportunity meet.” —Bobby Unser Learn more about your ad choices. Visit…
456: BEING INTIMATE THIS HOLIDAY SEASON
Nov 27, 2018 • 31 min
Your marriage needs you to be intimate no matter what the season. Learn how the two of you can build deeper intimacy during this holiday season. | “It’s the hap-happiest season of all. With those holiday greetings and gay happy meetings. When friends come…
455: EXPRESSING GRATITUDE
Nov 20, 2018 • 31 min
Learn what can happen when you’re focusing on the power of gratitude to change how you see your spouse and your marriage. | “The miracle of gratitude is that it shifts your perception in to such an extent that it changes the world you see.” —Dr. Robert…
454: DEALING WITH THE IN-LAWS
Nov 13, 2018 • 33 min
Your in-laws can create a dynamic especially around the holidays leaving you frustrated with the impact they have on your marriage. | “No one should come between you and your spouse. They should come alongside you but not between you.” —Ashley McIlwain…
453: FEAR IS CRIPPLING MARRIAGES
Nov 6, 2018 • 31 min
Learn about how fear can cripple your marriage and what you can do to recapture your joy and confidence to live the extraordinary marriage you desire. | “When we invite fear, doubt or worry to occupy seats in the boardroom of our heart, all kinds of…
452: MULTIPLE ORGASMS
Oct 30, 2018 • 31 min
Learn about multiple orgasms for both women and men, and how this information can change what happens in the bedroom. | “The only thing better than having an orgasm? Having another orgasm.” —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit…
451: QUANTITY AND QUALITY SEX LIFE
Oct 23, 2018 • 31 min
Learn the challenge of having both the quantity AND quality sex life your desire and what you can do to begin changing both of those. | “Quality is never the result of an accident. It is always the result of intelligent effort.” —John Ruskin Learn more…
450: THOSE BODILY FUNCTIONS
Oct 16, 2018 • 31 min
Learn the many different bodily functions that regularly occur in your body as well as those that happen with your spouse. | “Never trust a girl who doesn’t fart, you don’t know what else she’s holding back from you.” — Anonymous Learn more about your ad…
449: WHAT DID YOU SAY?
Oct 9, 2018 • 31 min
Your words have power. The power to build up or the power to destroy. What you say and how you say it has the power to build up or tear down your marriage. | “Words are free, it’s how you use them that may cost you.” —Anonymous Learn more about your ad…
448: WORKING OUT FORGIVENESS
Oct 2, 2018 • 35 min
Learn how forgiveness is the key to unlocking the joy you desire as you experience real growth and connection with your spouse. | “Don’t let the past limit the future.” —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
447: MAKE INTIMACY A PRIORITY
Sep 25, 2018 • 31 min
Learn how to make intimacy a priority, what you need to consider and how to get started. | “Great things never come from inside the comfort zone.” —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
446: MORNING SEX
Sep 18, 2018 • 31 min
Learn the impact of morning sex on your marriage and how it can become a valuable resource in your relationship. | “Every morning starts a new page in your story. Make it a great one today.” —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit…
445: WE DIDN’T KNOW
Sep 11, 2018 • 31 min
We didn’t know that in order to go to the next level there was something very important that we need to do and that was to ask for help. | “When I first met you I honestly didn’t know how important you were going to be to me.” —Anonymous Learn more about…
444: KEEP THE ROMANCE ALIVE
Sep 4, 2018 • 31 min
Learn about the state of romance in marriage and what you can do to keep the romance alive with your spouse. | “I fell in love with the way that you touched me without using your hands.” —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit…
443: HONEST TRUTH ABOUT THE FEMALE ORGASM
Aug 28, 2018 • 31 min
Learn the honest truth about the female orgasm and how the two of you can discuss this topic as well as experience joy in this area. | “It takes 237 muscles to fake an orgasm, but only 15 to say, “It’s called a clitoris and it’s right here.”” Learn more…
442: NEVER TOO OLD FOR SEX
Aug 21, 2018 • 31 min
It doesn’t matter how old you are you can still enjoy sex! Learn how you and your spouse can have an amazing sex life well into your later years of life. | “You can’t help getting older but you don’t have to get OLD.” —George Burns Learn more about your…
441: CRITICAL FEEDBACK
Aug 14, 2018 • 31 min
Feedback is not a bad thing…it’s all about how it’s delivered. Learn how the two of you handle critical feedback in your marriage. | “Giving honest and well intended feedback is often confused with being mean. It’s not mean. It’s nice.” —Robert Kiyosaki…
440: WHAT MEN GET FROM FOREPLAY
Aug 7, 2018 • 31 min
Learn what you can do to make foreplay a time when you are both heigtening the sexual arousal and the desire for sexual activity. | “Don’t rush through foreplay. Play with each other until you can’t take it anymore.” —Anonymous Learn more about your ad…
439: STOP SERVING THOSE LEFTOVERS
Jul 31, 2018 • 31 min
Learn about the dangers of serving up the leftovers to your spouse over and over again and how to turn this around in your marriage. | “Most couples make the mistake of giving each other the remains of the day. The leftover time after every other…
438: DO THE OPPOSITE
Jul 24, 2018 • 31 min
Learn what happens to the two of you when you choose to do the opposite of what you feel like doing in difficult situations. | “In order to carry a positive action we must develop here a positive vision.” —Dalai Lama Learn more about your ad choices.…
437: THE ART OF MANSCAPING
Jul 17, 2018 • 31 min
Manscaping is the removal or trimming of hair on a man’s body for cosmetic effect. Learn the impact that it can have on you and your marriage. | “I think grooming is undervalued by men. We expect women to be fully groomed which they do. But I also think…
436: SEX DURING HER PERIOD
Jul 10, 2018 • 31 min
Learn about the possibilities of having sex while she’s on her period, how the two of you navigate that conversation and what factors you might need to consider. | “Do not be too timid or squeamish about your actions. All life is an experiment.” —Ralph…
435: HE’S NOT YOUR CHILD
Jul 3, 2018 • 31 min
Learn the dynamic that occurs in a marriage when a wife refers to her husband as a child and what the two of you can do to change that. | “Handle them carefully, for words have more power than atom bombs.” —Strachan Hurd Learn more about your ad choices.…
434: LESSONS FROM THE BEACH
Jun 26, 2018 • 31 min
Marriage is an adventure and it’s one of the most amazing journeys the two of you will ever be on. Learn the marriage lessons from time spent at the beach. | “Attitude is the difference between an ordeal and an adventure.” —Anonymous Learn more about your…
433: SETTING UP GUARDRAILS
Jun 19, 2018 • 31 min
Guardrails are systems that YOU put in place that allow you to be proactive about your marriage rather than reactive after things go wrong. | “Guardrails: No one needs one until they do.” —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit…
432: THE END OF REJECTION
Jun 12, 2018 • 31 min
Learn about the impact rejection has on a spouse’s willingness to initiate again and what the two of you can do to turn this around. | “Being afraid of things going wrong isn’t the way to make things go right.” —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices.…
431: MARRIAGE BUILDING HABITS
Jun 5, 2018 • 32 min
You have the power to create new habits around your sex life, with conversations or with anything you do in your marriage. | “A bad habit never disappears miraculously. It’s an un-do-it-yourself project.” —Abigail Van Buren (Dear Abby) Learn more about…
430: SEXUALLY SATISFIED
May 29, 2018 • 31 min
Learn what to do in your marriage when one of you is not sexually satisfied. It’s important to have a healthy understanding of yourself and earnest pursuit of pleasing your spouse as you grow together. | “It’s hard to be satisfied with your life (or your…
429: SUMMER LOVIN’
May 22, 2018 • 31 min
Learn how to keep your summer lovin’ going through those hot nights, vacations, kiddos running around the house and all that comes during this season. | “There is always that one summer that changes you.” —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit…
428: DOES THIS OUTFIT MAKE ME LOOK FAT
May 15, 2018 • 31 min
Learn how to break away from sabotaging your marriage with a question such as “Does this outfit make me look fat?” | “Never, ever underestimate the power of your words to build up or tear down the fabric of your marriage.” —Anonymous Learn more about your…
427: TALKING TO YOUR KIDS ABOUT SEX
May 8, 2018 • 31 min
Learn why it is important to make the most of every opportunity to talk about sex with your kids. | “The greatest enemy of sexual wholeness today, is silence.” —Mark Lasser Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
426: SEX IS GOOD FOR YOUR HEALTH
May 1, 2018 • 31 min
Learn how your bedroom and more specifically sex with your spouse could have an impact on your overall health. | “Most people have no idea how good their body is designed to feel.” —Kevin Trudeau Learn more about your ad choices. Visit…
425: OH BABY!
Apr 24, 2018 • 31 min
Learn the impact that having a baby can have on a marriage and how the two of you can maintain intimacy, in all areas after the baby comes. | “Remember that children, marriages and gardens reflect the kind of care they get.” —H Jackson Brown Jr. Learn…
424: ANATOMY OF AN ERECTION
Apr 17, 2018 • 31 min
Learn how and why a man’s penis becomes firmer, engorged and enlarged, or better known as an erection. | “The pursuit of knowledge is never ending. The day you stop seeking knowledge is the day you stop growing.” —Travis Ciaccio Learn more about your ad…
423: PAYCHECK TO PAYCHECK
Apr 10, 2018 • 32 min
Learn about the challenges of living paycheck to paycheck and it’s impact on your marriage, especially in the bedroom. | “Money is an opportunity to reach unity in marriage. When couples work together they can do anything.” —Anonymous Learn more about…
422: WHAT IS THE INTIMACY LIFESTYLE
Apr 3, 2018 • 31 min
Learn how the intimacy lifestyle can become a part of your marriage and we’ll answer your questions on how to best set it up. | “The capacity to learn is a gift. The ability to learn is a skill. The willingness to learn is a choice.” —Brian Herbert Learn…
421: TELLING YOUR SPOUSE YOU STRUGGLE WITH PORN
Mar 27, 2018 • 31 min
Learn about the harm that comes from lying about porn and how to handle the gift of truth when it’s brought into the light. | “The truth may hurt for a little while but a lie hurts forever.” —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit…
420: CONFIDENCE IN THE BEDROOM
Mar 20, 2018 • 31 min
Learn how you can develop the confidence muscle if you are willing to stretch yourself and when you do you’ll increase your confidence in the bedroom. | “Self confidence is the best outfit, rock it and own it.” —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices.…
419: WE HAVE TROUBLE TALKING
Mar 13, 2018 • 31 min
There are many couples that have trouble talking. Learn what to do when the two of you have trouble talking in your marriage. | “Daring greatly means the courage to be vulnerable. It means to show up and be seen. To ask for what you need. Talk about how…
418: CAUGHT IN THE COMPARISON TRAP
Mar 6, 2018 • 31 min
There are times when you can be so focused on other people’s lives that you have stopped living your own. Learn the destructive nature of comparison and how you can refocus on your marriage. | “Every minute you spend wishing you had someone else’s life is…
417: CRYSTAL CLEAR
Feb 27, 2018 • 31 min
Learn about the challenges you face with your communication when words are not crystal clear and share seven words that will help you clear up the confusion. | “Clarity comes from action, not thought.” —Marie Forleo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit…
416: A LONG HOT SHOWER
Feb 20, 2018 • 31 min
Learn what can happen when you take off your clothes as you step into the power of a long hot shower to create a connection in your marriage. | “Let’s go take a hot shower. It’s like a normal shower but with us in it.” —Anonymous Learn more about your ad…
415: WHAT’S YOUR LOVE STORY
Feb 13, 2018 • 31 min
Learn about the ebb and flow of our love story and why sharing your love story can make an impact on both of you. | “Every love story is beautiful but ours is my favorite.” —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
414: SEXPLORATION
Feb 6, 2018 • 32 min
Learn how your sexploration, choosing to explore your sexual intimacy as a couple, impacts both of you as well as your relationship dynamics. | “We live in a wonderful world that is full of beauty, charm and adventure. There is no end to the adventures…
413: LIKE A BROKEN RECORD
Jan 30, 2018 • 31 min
Learn what happens when you feel like areas of your marriage are a broken record, playing the same negative scenes over and over again and what you can do to start to create change. | “You can’t change what’s going on around you until you change what’s…
412: HOW ABOUT THESE POSITIONS
Jan 23, 2018 • 31 min
Learn how you can change the atmosphere inside and outside your bedroom when you have more than one sexual position. | “Variety is the spice of life. We all want surprises.” —Tony Robbins Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
411: FORGIVENESS WILL SET YOU FREE
Jan 16, 2018 • 31 min
It’s time to change how you view forgiveness. Learn about the destructive nature of unforgiveness and what happens when you let forgiveness into your heart. | “When you hold onto anger and unforgiveness you can’t move forward.” —Mary J Blige Learn more…
410: FIND YOUR PRECIOUS MOMENTS EACH WEEK
Jan 9, 2018 • 31 min
Learn about making time for the two of you as a couple, why you need to do this and where you can find those precious moments. | “The greatest gift you can give someone is your time. Because when you are giving your time you are giving a portion of your…
409: WHAT CAN I DO
Jan 2, 2018 • 33 min
If you want to create an extraordinary marriage, it starts with one question and only one question…What Can I Do. | “It’s easy to blame others when things are broken. The hard part is recognizing the part you played in it all.” —Anonymous Learn more about…
408: WRAPPING UP THIS SEASON
Dec 26, 2017 • 31 min
Learn about transitioning from one season to another and how you can make the next season the best ever in your marriage. | “There will come a time when you think everything is finished. That will be the beginning.” —Louis L’Amour Learn more about your ad…
407: SEXY GAMES TO HEAT THINGS UP
Dec 19, 2017 • 32 min
Learn how you can heat things up in your bedroom by playing some sexy games together. | “Just play, have fun, enjoy the game.” —Michael Jordan Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
406: FAKING IT
Dec 12, 2017 • 31 min
Learn what happens when you are faking your happiness during the holidays, in social situations and with your spouse in the bedroom. | “Saying you’re happy isn’t the same thing as being happy.” —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit…
405: WE DID IT! NOW WHAT?
Dec 5, 2017 • 31 min
Learn what comes after you complete the 7 Days of Sex Challenge and how you can continue to grow and strengthen the physical intimacy in your marriage. | “I didn’t come this far to only come this far.” —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit…
404: ROCK YOUR SEX LIFE
Nov 28, 2017 • 32 min
Learn how you can rock your sex life and change the dynamics in your marriage in just seven days. | “A lot could happen in a week. Just look at the last one.” —Julia Quinn Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
403: A THANKFUL HEART
Nov 21, 2017 • 31 min
Learn about the impact being thankful has on your marriage and how you can increase your gratitude awareness any time of the year. | “When I started counting my blessings my whole life turned around.” —Willie Nelson Learn more about your ad choices. Visit…
402: HOLIDAY MARRIAGE HACKS
Nov 14, 2017 • 31 min
Learn about those special marriage hacks that you can do to make this the most amazing holidays you will celebrate with your spouse. | “It’s not the load that breaks you down, it’s the way that you carry it. “—Lou Holtz Learn more about your ad choices.…
401: MOAN OUT LOUD
Nov 7, 2017 • 32 min
Learn about the impact you have on yourself and your spouse when you moan and verbalize your pleasure during sexual intimacy. | “There’s nothing more exciting than hearing your spouse moan in pleasure and knowing you are responsible for it.” —Anonymous…
400: HUGS FROM NEAR AND FAR
Oct 31, 2017 • 35 min
Over the last 399 shows you have meant a lot to the ONE Family. And this show is all about you as we share hugs from near and far! | “Remember to celebrate milestones as you prepare for the road ahead.” —Nelson Mandela Learn more about your ad choices.…
399: WORK SPOUSE DANGER
Oct 24, 2017 • 31 min
The slippery slope of having a work spouse is real. Learn what you need to do to put guardrails around yourself and marriage to protect yourself. | “Most people involved in emotional affairs will downplay the seriousness of the event by claiming that they…
398: THE HOLIDAYS ARE COMING
Oct 17, 2017 • 31 min
Thanksgiving and Christmas are almost here. Learn what you can do to get on the same page with your financial intimacy as the holidays approach. | “Planning for Thanksgiving and Christmas should take place months in advance. They are not a surprise.”…
397: FEELING REJECTED
Oct 10, 2017 • 32 min
Learn what to do with those feelings you have when you are rejected or when you reject your spouse and what you can do to create change in your marriage. | “Rejection doesn’t mean that you aren’t good enough. It means the other person failed to notice…
396: HONOR YOUR WORDS
Oct 3, 2017 • 31 min
You spoke your vows on your wedding now now learn what you can do to honor those words you spoke through tough times and good times. | “You come to love not by finding the perfect person BUT by learning to love an imperfect person perfectly.” —Sam Keen…
395: THAT TIME OF THE MONTH
Sep 26, 2017 • 31 min
A woman’s period happens every month. Learn how you can stay connected physically and emotionally when it’s that time of the month in your home. | “A great marriage is made of two people who continuously put their vows ahead of their feelings.” —Anonymous…
394: TOTALLY EXHAUSTED
Sep 19, 2017 • 31 min
The truth is that we spend so much time being exhausted that often we don’t even realize that it’s impacting our marriages. | Survival mode is supposed to be a phase that helps save your life. It’s not meant to be how you live your life. —Michele…
393: IS YOUR VIBRATOR A CRUTCH?
Sep 12, 2017 • 31 min
Learn how the vibrator might be a crutch for your sexual intimacy and what it might look like to consider a different path. | “Don’t be afraid to give up the good to go for the great.” —John D. Rockefeller Learn more about your ad choices. Visit…
392: CAN’T SEEM TO DO ANYTHING RIGHT
Sep 5, 2017 • 32 min
If you find yourself in a place where you can’t do anything right OR thinking that your spouse can’t do anything right your marriage has a big problem. | “Why can’t my spouse see just how much I am trying.” —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices.…
391: LUBE IT UP
Aug 29, 2017 • 31 min
Pull out the lubricant and get ready to enjoy some special one on one time together. | “…friction is likely to generate heat instead of progress.” —George Eliot Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
390: ENOUGH DRAMA ALREADY
Aug 22, 2017 • 31 min
Creating drama can hurt your marriage. Learn what you can do instead to build up, strengthen and support one another. | Don’t start drama and then say you hate drama. —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
389: WE CAN HANDLE IT
Aug 15, 2017 • 32 min
The two of you can handle the storms in your marriage while becoming united in your commitment to one another like never before. | Relax. Don’t be so hard on yourself. You are living and learning. Forgive yourself and grow from the experience.” —Anonymous…
388: SHOULD AN ORGASM BE THE ULTIMATE GOAL
Aug 8, 2017 • 32 min
Should an orgasm be the ultimate goal for you and your spouse every time you have sex? | Once your learn to appreciate the small victories there is no need for a finish line. —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
387: WHAT ARE YOU LOOKING AT?
Aug 1, 2017 • 31 min
Stop looking down at your phone. It’s important to know where your eyes are looking and the message that they send to your spouse. | I love the look you give me when you really want me.” —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit…
386: RULES FOR A BETTER MARRIAGE
Jul 25, 2017 • 31 min
Learn what you can do now to make your marriage better tomorrow, next week and for years to come. | It’s not about being the best. It’s about being better than you were yesterday. —Anonymous | Subscribe to the show today! Learn more about your ad choices.…
385: WHAT DO YOU WANT IN THE BEDROOM?
Jul 18, 2017 • 32 min
Learn the different ways to let your spouse know what you like about your sexual intimacy in the bedroom. It’s worth every word. | We all need people who will give us feedback. That’s how we improve. —Bill Gates Learn more about your ad choices. Visit…
384: BEING SENSUAL
Jul 11, 2017 • 31 min
Learn what you can do to be sensual and how you can share these ideas with your spouse. | Being sensual in your marriage doesn’t end on the honeymoon, your marriage needs all 5 senses working throughout. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit…
383: CANCER CAN’T STOP THE ADVICE FROM A FATHER
Jul 4, 2017 • 31 min
Learn the responsibility and impact a father has to give sound advice to his children on living a marriage for years to come. | Son, don’t cheat. I’ve had plenty of opportunities over the years but it’s like this…why would I go out for a hamburger when I…
382: FOREPLAY FUN
Jun 27, 2017 • 31 min
Learn why foreplay is a powerful skill you need to know as you lead up to intercourse. | Go down a water-slide without any water and you will understand why foreplay is important. —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
381: SUMMER FUN
Jun 20, 2017 • 32 min
Learn a number of different date ideas you can enjoy so your marriage doesn’t take a vacation during all your summer fun. | Remember the tans will fade but the memories will last forever. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
380: THE ULTIMATE MARATHON
Jun 13, 2017 • 31 min
Learn how your commitment to marriage is the ultimate marathon with an unknown finish line. | Your marriage vows say for as long as life shall last NOT until you get tired or you don’t want to anymore. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit…
379: WHEN HE CAN’T ORGASM
Jun 6, 2017 • 31 min
You are not just waiting in vain. There is a purpose behind every delay. —Mandy Hale | Learn about the reasons why he can’t orgasm and how the two of you can get through this together. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
378: LET’S HAVE MIND-BLOWING SEX
May 30, 2017 • 32 min
Your life does not get better by chance it gets better by change. —Jim Rohn | Learn how you can have mind-blowing sex and surprisingly it has very little to do with the act itself. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
377: I’M OFFENDED
May 23, 2017 • 31 min
If you take everything personally, you will remain offended for the rest of your life. What other people do is because of them, not you. —Vivian Benson | Learn what happens when you are offended and how to work through offense with your spouse. Learn more…
376: THOSE PARENTING BEHAVIORS
May 16, 2017 • 31 min
Each generation will reap what the former generation has sown. —Chinese Proverb | Learn how to break free of those negative parenting behaviors that have held you back from having the extraordinary marriage you desire. Learn more about your ad choices.…
375: WHEN TRANSITIONS HAPPEN
May 9, 2017 • 31 min
“Honor the space between no longer and not yet.” —Nancy Levin When you are married, transitions don’t only affect you, they also affect your spouse. Transitions can impact the different intimacies in your marriage. Marriage is full of transitions: First…
374: YOU’VE LOST THOSE LOVING FEELINGS
May 2, 2017 • 32 min
“Never stop showing someone how much they mean to you.” Over time you have lost the anticipation and excitement of your relationship. Your marriage has become something you have to tolerate, something you have to survive or make it through. For some it’s…
373: ARE YOU UP FOR A SEX CHALLENGE
Apr 25, 2017 • 31 min
“Never be afraid to try something new BECAUSE life gets boring when you stay within the limits of what you already know.” The first sex challenge we completed happened 9 years ago in the fall of 2008. We had been married 11 years and these years were not…
372: STOP THE NAGGING
Apr 18, 2017 • 31 min
“She’s not nagging. She’s trying to tell you something. The only reason she’s being persistent is because she cares. When she stops nagging, you should be worried because at that point she no longer cares.” Nagging usually doesn’t start out as a problem…
371: YOU CAN BE A SPONTANEOUS LOVER
Apr 11, 2017 • 31 min
“Success isn’t a result of spontaneous combustion. You must set yourself on fire.” —Arnold Glasgow For the most part your day-to-day activities are ruled by your calendars, by schedules, and by alerts popping up on your phone. It doesn’t matter how you…
370: CHANGE STARTS WITH ME
Apr 4, 2017 • 32 min
“Being vulnerable is not a sign of weakness rather it is a sign of strength. It takes courage to let others into your world.” —Anonymous As a couple you may be stuck. You may be stuck in the same routines. Maybe you’re stuck in the same fights. Or you’ve…
369: MEN NEED FRIENDS
Mar 28, 2017 • 32 min
“Men who trust other men will make fewer mistakes than he who distrusts them.” —Camillo de Cavour When you think about your friendships as a kid and as an adult a few things stand out and the research is supporting this. During childhood both boys and…
368: LAST LONGER IN BED
Mar 21, 2017 • 32 min
“We don’t grow when things are easy, we grow when we face challenges.” —Anonymous You want to last longer and yet most of the time you ejaculate quicker than you’d like. When you orgasm within 1-3 minutes of penetration this is general considered…
367: I CAN’T TALK ABOUT SEX
Mar 14, 2017 • 34 min
“When you can’t talk about your sex life there’s a connection that the two of you are missing out on.” —Anonymous The world that you live in is hypersexualized and yet couples struggle with talking about their sex life with each other. How-to talk about…
366: LET’S GO TO BED
Mar 7, 2017 • 32 min
“The moment when he rolls over, puts his arm around me and pulls me closer, in his sleep. I like that.” —Country Thang Many marriages are suffering from some lack of connection. Often it’s due to our busy schedules and the commitments that keep us running…
365: I HAVE A HEADACHE… LET’S HAVE SEX
Feb 28, 2017 • 32 min
“Sex solves most problems including headaches.” —Anonymous You have a crazy headache, while on vacation, with plans to have sex, on the only night you have away from your kids. You take a nice nap to see if that would take care of it and it didn’t. You…
364: VACATION EXPECTATIONS
Feb 21, 2017 • 31 min
“In life it’s not where you go, it’s who you travel with.” —Charlie Schultz There are times when your vacations don’t always go as planned. You have your expectations for everything. From how relaxing it’s going to be to how often the two of you are going…
363: HEATING UP YOUR BEDROOM
Feb 14, 2017 • 31 min
“Let’s cuddle so that I can steal your body heat.” —Anonymous There are different reasons and times of the year when your bedroom is cold. It could be winter time, the air conditioning is on to beat the summer heat or your bedroom is in a cool part of…
362: ON YOUR KNEES
Feb 7, 2017 • 32 min
“Intimacy is not purely physical. It’s the act of connecting with someone so deeply, you feel like you can see into their soul.” —Anonymous Spiritual intimacy has a huge impact on you and your marriage. And yet it’s the one intimacy that often gets…
361: MONEY MATTERS
Jan 31, 2017 • 32 min
“Money is an opportunity to reach unity in marriage. When couples work together they can do anything.” —Dave Ramsey You have probably heard the quote, “You should never talk about money, politics or religion.” Now, this might be true if you are at a…
360: TOUCH ME
Jan 24, 2017 • 31 min
“So many people hear the words physical intimacy and think about sex. There are so many layers to being physically intimate with your spouse, choosing just one aspect shortchanges both of you.” —Anonymous Touch is so important and yet touch in any form…
359: WHAT DO WE DO TOGETHER
Jan 17, 2017 • 31 min
“You define what is important to you by who you spend your time with.” —Anonymous When you were dating there was no shortage of things to do or ways that you wanted to spend your time together. No matter where you were or what time of day it was you got…
358: THE POWER OF AN APOLOGY
Jan 10, 2017 • 31 min
“When you forgive, you in no way change the past but you sure do change the future.” —Bernard Meltzer The year started off with us discussing the importance of emotional intimacy in your marriage. This is how the two of you communicate and is the…
357: HONEST, OPEN AND TWO WAY LISTENING
Jan 3, 2017 • 31 min
“Communication must be HOT…Honest, Open and Two Way.” —Dan Oswald Do the two of you have time each week when you can connect with your thoughts and feelings? We spent many years of our marriage, probably the first ten years with little to no emotional…
356: GOING NEXT LEVEL
Dec 27, 2016 • 31 min
“Think as BIG as you possibly can and base what you do, how you do it and who you do it with on succeeding at that level.” —Gary Keller & Jay Papasan If the two of you don’t have a vision for 2017, it’s going to look a lot like 2016. As you look ahead you…
355: TWAS THE NIGHT BEFORE CHRISTMAS
Dec 20, 2016 • 31 min
“Traditions remind us to stop the busy cycle of life long enough to reconnect and build bonds.” —Sabrina Beasley McDonald It’s important for the two of you to have your own night before Christmas or Christmas Day traditions. Something that you do…
354: AWAKE SEX
Dec 13, 2016 • 31 min
“Right NOW is the most important moment in your life.” —Gail Lynne Goodwin Another day comes to an end and you and your spouse are tired. Earlier in the day you both were romancing each other and had every intention to enjoy one another. But it’s another…
353: I’M FINE
Dec 6, 2016 • 32 min
“Sometimes all you do is smile. Move on with your day, hold back the tears and pretend everything is OK.” —Anonymous The holiday season is a busy time of year. You are are pulled in many directions and feel overwhelmed with the responsibilities of job,…
352: PERSONAL HYGIENE FOR A GREAT SEX LIFE
Nov 29, 2016 • 31 min
“What do brushing your teeth, taking a shower and making time to shave all have in common? They all improve your chances in the bedroom.” —Alisa DiLorenzo Interestingly enough we have never tackled the topic of personal hygiene, even though it’s something…
351: ATTITUDE OF GRATITUDE
Nov 22, 2016 • 33 min
“Showing gratitude is one of the most simplest yet most powerful things that human beings can do for each other.” —Randy Pausch Thanksgiving. It’s a time dedicated to giving thanks and expressing gratitude to those you love. The act of expressing…
350: YOUR SEXY UNDERWEAR MATTERS
Nov 15, 2016 • 32 min
“If her bra matches her panties when you take off her clothes, it wasn’t you who decided to have sex.” —Anonymous When you are wearing sexy underwear it has a way of bringing you and your spouse together in a special way. A loose definition of sexy…
349: LIES BECOME A CANCER
Nov 8, 2016 • 33 min
“Once you lie to me the first time, I’ll question everything else you say.” —Anonymous When you lie to your spouse it’s a cancer that multiplies over time. The lie starts off small and then grows with one lie after another. Eventually you have something…
348: YOU’RE SNORING TOO LOUD
Nov 1, 2016 • 31 min
“Snoring is a good indication that one person is asleep and no one else is.” —Linda Poindexter It’s been another long day as you prepare yourself for a good night sleep. You slide into bed, turn on your Sound+Sleep Machine as you enjoy a quiet house. Your…
347: SOMEONE’S KNOCKING ON THE DOOR
Oct 25, 2016 • 31 min
“Circumstances may cause interruptions and delays but never lose sight of your goal.” —Mario Andretti Has there ever been a time in your marriage when you and your spouse were about to enjoy sex and then you hear a knocking at your door? Maybe you can…
346: UNMET EXPECTATIONS
Oct 18, 2016 • 31 min
“The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that is has taken place.” —George Bernard Shaw When you have certain expectations, your spouse has expectations and yet neither of you communicate them to each other there will be unmet…
345: LACK OF SEXUAL DESIRE
Oct 11, 2016 • 31 min
“Desire creates havoc between two people when it is the ONLY thing between them or when it’s what’s missing.” —Mignon McLaughlin Have you ever experienced: Lack of sexual desire Low libido No libido A take it or leave it attitude No expression of desire…
344: CELEBRATION TIME (WEDDING ANNIVERSARY STYLE)
Oct 4, 2016 • 31 min
“A wedding anniversary is the celebration of love, trust, partnership, tolerance and tenacity. The order varies for any given year.” —Anonymous When this show is first released on October 4, 2016, we will be 24 hours away from celebrating our 20th wedding…
343: WHAT YOU DON’T KNOW IN THE BEDROOM CAN HURT YOU AND YOUR MARRIAGE
Sep 27, 2016 • 31 min
“Knowing is not enough we must apply. Willing is not enough we must do.” —J W Von Goethe When you don’t know what works in the bedroom (or what doesn’t) you may be paralyzed wondering… Does my spouse like this? Is this position OK? Are they initiating? Is…
342: WHY KNOWING HER MENSTRUAL CYCLE IS IMPORTANT TO YOUR SEX LIFE
Sep 20, 2016 • 31 min
“In all things there is a law of cycles.” —Tacitus (Roman Historian) It is absolutely critical that you understand the female menstrual cycle for your sex life and for your marriage. A woman’s body is absolutely amazing and it’s hard wired to ebb and flow…
341: STOP THOSE OLD, COMFORTABLE AND INEFFECTIVE PATTERNS
Sep 13, 2016 • 31 min
“Marriage doesn’t have the power to bind-only the actions of two people can do that. Forever and happy endings aren’t a given.” —Leah Mercer You can make changes to your marriage no matter how long you’ve been married. For us it was at the 11 year make…
340: 5 STIMULATING SENSES
Sep 6, 2016 • 33 min
“When you start using senses you’ve neglected, your reward is to see the world [and your marriage] with completely fresh eyes.” —Barbara Sher Your marriages may be experiencing some struggles due to the fact that you are loving each other with only one or…
339: SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE
Aug 30, 2016 • 31 min
“Never judge someone on their past because they are no longer in that stage of life.” —Alisa DiLorenzo Sex before marriage can be a roadblock to deep sexual intimacy. If you had sex before marriage you may have feelings of guilt, shame, and resentment. On…
338: BEAUTIFUL WIFE
Aug 23, 2016 • 32 min
You’ve been sharing with your wife that she is beautiful to you inside and out. You see her as this amazing, incredible gift from God. A gift that honestly you cannot wait to unwrap. You want her to realize that it’s not a sin to acknowledge her own…
337: FUN AND GAMES TO BREAK THE SEXUAL ROUTINE
Aug 16, 2016 • 33 min
“I want a boring sex life, said no one ever.” —Alisa DiLorenzo What would happen to your marriage if you broke the sexual routine you’ve been in and brought back some fun into your bedroom? Many couples are experiencing a sex life that has become one more…
336: YOUR SPOUSE ISN’T THE PROBLEM
Aug 9, 2016 • 32 min
It’s not your husband or your wife that’s the problem. The problem is the problem. Do you remember the part in your vows where it was spoken that the “two become one”? That piece is talking about the two of you. The two of, now marriage, have became one.…
335: SHE’S NOT YOUR MOTHER
Aug 2, 2016 • 31 min
Your wife does not want to be your mother! She is and desires to be your wife and your lover. Unfortunately, more often than not she is treat as your mother. She’s the person in the house who picks up after you, makes sure your laundry is done for when…
334: THE EMASCULATED MAN
Jul 26, 2016 • 31 min
Is there an emasculated man living in your home? For the purpose of this show emasculated means: Make a person weaker or less effective Deprive a man of his role or identity Wives, you have the opportunity to not have an emasculated man in your marriage…
333: REDEFINING THE INTIMACY LIFESTYLE
Jul 19, 2016 • 31 min
The Intimacy Lifestyle was introduced to the ONE Family as a way for you and your spouse to not have to wonder if you were going to have sex or not. Unfortunately, over the years we have heard from couples who have started to only get derailed for one…
332: RELEASING RESENTMENT
Jul 12, 2016 • 31 min
Resentment is a poison that builds slowly as it snowballs into extreme disconnect. What starts out as one disappointment becomes a laundry list of all of the ways that your spouse has hurt you, disappointed you, not been there for you, etc. The resentment…
331: HAVING SEX OR MAKING LOVE
Jul 5, 2016 • 31 min
Married couples perform both sex and making love. Would you agree? Sometimes it is intentional and sometimes it’s because of circumstances. Sex happens when you only have 10 minutes before dinner for a quickie. You only have 10 minutes so it’s not going…
330: DETOURS TO SUCCESS
Jun 28, 2016 • 32 min
Last week we returned from our 20th anniversary trip to Peru. Our travels took us from San Diego to Lima, Peru, Cusco and then on to Machu Picchu. The international trip involved two red eye flights through Dallas on the way there and then Miami on our…
329: RISK REWARD
Jun 21, 2016 • 31 min
What’s the risk reward in your marriage? There’s a risk in any relationship between two people. You risk being vulnerable. You risk being rejected. You risk being misunderstood. You risk hurt feelings. You risk anger. You risk silence. You risk the…
328: THE INTIMACY LIFESTYLE
Jun 14, 2016 • 52 min
What would your marriage look like if you and your spouse were having sex on a consistent basis? Maybe for the two of you it would be one, two or even 4 times a week and yet your not quite sure how to make this happen. For this to happen it takes planning…
327: I WANT OUT
Jun 7, 2016 • 31 min
The truth is that every couple goes through cycles of good times and tough times. The bigger issue is when those cycles last indefinitely and no one takes action. I want out. I don’t want to do this anymore. It’s too hard. You may have said these to your…
326: SUMMERTIME SEX
May 31, 2016 • 31 min
It’s summertime and like a lot of things your sexual intimacy can take a back seat to vacations, family visitors and even the kids being home. Make sure you have a plan for summertime sex this year and for years to come. The areas that you need to be…
325: TEMPORARY WEDDING VOWS
May 24, 2016 • 31 min
Do either of these sound familiar… “I, ____, take you, ____, to be my lawfully wedded(husband/wife), to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, until death do us part.” OR “Will…
324: THE KEY TO YOUR HAPPINESS
May 17, 2016 • 31 min
“Happiness is not something you postpone for the future; it is something you design for the present.” —Jim Rohn Have you ever said: My husband doesn’t make me happy anymore My wife doesn’t make me happy anymore I’m not happy in marriage This isn’t making…
323: SEX IS NOT ALWAYS THE ANSWER
May 10, 2016 • 32 min
Day after day we hear from couple after couple that their marriage is not what they wanted or expected. There is no romance. The sex is OK, at times. There is a struggle with communication. There are many disconnects. Digging deeper into each…
322: IT’S TIME TO INITIATE
May 3, 2016 • 31 min
Knowing how to initiate sex in your marriage can be a very real challenge. You’re not sure what to do or when you do if your spouse even realizes that you’re initiating. On the other side of this is a frustrated who doesn’t understand why you can’t or…
321: REMEWING YOUR MARRIAGE LICENSE
Apr 26, 2016 • 31 min
To get married you had to have a marriage licence. Here’s the thing though… This is the only license that you are never required to renew. You are not required to go to class, spend time and money, or become more informed to grow. On the other hand you…
320: CHANGE OF SCENERY
Apr 19, 2016 • 31 min
When you move into a new house there are… New bedrooms, living areas, bathrooms and other place to explore to enjoy sex. And yet, you may find yourself night after night in the same spot. Your bedroom! What do you do as doing the same thing over and over…
319: ESP (EXTRASENSORY PERCEPTION)
Apr 12, 2016 • 31 min
Having ESP (extrasensory perception) is something that many couples wish they had. The thing is that you don’t and neither does your spouse. At times you may ask yourself… Why doesn’t he/she know that? How many times should I have to tell him/her? He/she…
318: YOUR MARRIAGE NEEDS YOU TO GROW UP
Apr 5, 2016 • 32 min
Unless you are a teenager it’s time to grow up in your marriage. When you partake in behaviors that are typical of a teenager you are chipping away at the foundation of your marriage. A marriage that does not have transparency in all areas is a marriage…
317: TEXTING IS NOT TALKING
Mar 29, 2016 • 32 min
When a “big” or “important” conversation is being dealt with via texting it is causing more heartache and less connection for married couples around the world. Avoiding the face to face conversation may seem easier and yet, the end result is that more…
316: NO KIDS ALLOWED
Mar 22, 2016 • 32 min
Kids are amazing from those cute little baby faces to the amazing young adults they become. However, when the kids become more important than your marriage that’s when problems arise. Some of these may be: The kids are still sleeping with you. Everything…
315: CLEANING UP AFTER SEX
Mar 15, 2016 • 31 min
Have ever noticed that in movies you never see couples cleaning up after sex? Usually this romantic moment has no clean up afterwards. The couple cuddles together as they basks in the afterglow of an amazing sexual moment together. Seems odd… As long as…
314: STOP HOPING, START DOING
Mar 8, 2016 • 31 min
Lack of action, apathy, laziness are marriage killers. In this life you have two options, you are either growing or you’re not. When you wish or hope for change without doing what you need to be doing that’s not growth. That’s being outwardly focused.…
313: PACK THE BOXES, IT’S TIME TO MOVE ON
Mar 1, 2016 • 31 min
Moving is truly one of those events that literally turns everything upside down. You go from being settled and knowing all of your routines to have everything boxed up (both before and after the move) and everything is different. This includes how the two…
312: WHAT YOUR HUSBAND IS THINKING BEFORE AND DURING SEX
Feb 23, 2016 • 32 min
Have you ever wondered what your husband is thinking before and during sex? It may have crossed your mind from time to time or it’s something you haven’t even considered. Here’s the thing though… Just like you and all you have going on he has thoughts…
311: JEALOUSY (THE GREEN EYED MONSTER)
Feb 16, 2016 • 31 min
Jealousy is destructive to both the one who is being jealous and the one who is receiving it. After 19 years of marriage we’ve experienced jealousy at different times and over different things. Jealousy can take the form of: interrogations about where…
310: VALENTINE’S DAY, MAKE IT MORE THAN JUST ONE DAY
Feb 9, 2016 • 31 min
Do you remember your first Valentine’s Day together? I do, I was living in the Delta Gamma house at DePauw University and Tony was at the University of Colorado at Boulder. I had sent him a poem I had written and waited all day for my “Valentine”. I…
309: SEX IS NOT A DUTY IT’S A GIFT
Feb 2, 2016 • 32 min
Sex is one of the biggest perks of being married and yet so often, relegated to an obligation instead of being the gift it truly should be. Have you ever said (or at least thought) any of the following in regard to sex in your marriage. It’s one more…
308: TWO BECOME ONE
Jan 26, 2016 • 32 min
Two become one. You may have heard this when you stood before your pastor as you were about to say “I Do”. Since you got married though you feel that the two of you are not united in your marriage. This is showing up in areas ranging from: handling…
307: STRENGTH TRAINING YOUR MARRIAGE MUSCLES
Jan 19, 2016 • 32 min
Strength training your marriage isn’t just about you as an individual. It’s about strength training your marriage so that you and your spouse create a healthy, vibrant and growing marriage. The first 11 years of our marriage. we didn’t do much strength…
306: A GOOD HUSBAND ISN’T SO HARD TO FIND
Jan 12, 2016 • 31 min
Husbands get a bum rap in media, books, movies, tv—out of touch, unfeeling, sexed up, jerks. And yet your husband your husband is a good husband. You may look at yourself and even say that you are a good husband and one that doesn’t even compare to how…
305: TWICE IN ONE DAY (MAKING LOVE THAT IS)
Jan 5, 2016 • 31 min
Making love to your spouse is one of the most intimate times you two have together. It’s a time when everything else falls away while you bask in each others arms. Now when you make love twice in one day that double the pleasure… Well is it? It sure is…
304: YOUR BEST YEAR EVER
Dec 29, 2015 • 33 min
It’s that time of year when you are thinking about the New Year and what’s ahead for your marriage. You’ve thought about what happened over this past year and what you want this next year to look like. During this time you may be taking a serious look at…
303: ARE YOU BEING PRESENT?
Dec 22, 2015 • 30 min
The presents are wrapped and under the tree, the stockings are hung, the cookies are baked and you’re exhausted. As a couple you find yourselves rushing through life, rushing through your marriage and missing out on being present with your spouse. Here’s…
302: WHEN DRIFT BEGINS TO HAPPEN
Dec 15, 2015 • 32 min
This time of year can be challenging for so many marriages. You are trying to hold it together for the family, for the kids, for the holidays and for yourself. Over the last weeks and months you have noticed that you and your spouse have begin to drift.…
301: THOSE COMPETING VOICES
Dec 8, 2015 • 31 min
What you choose to listen to does and will impact the decisions that you make. You have voices that are marriage enriching, which foster your relationship and are strong when the two of you are making time for each other, sharing your lives with each…
300: WE NEVER THOUGHT WE WOULD BE HERE
Dec 1, 2015 • 40 min
“A journey of a thousand miles starts with a single step.” —Laozi In your marriage there have been joyous times when you look around and think to yourself, ” I never thought I would be here” and tough times when you never thought you would be here. Either…
299: YOUR SEXUAL INTIMACY DURING THE HOLIDAYS
Nov 24, 2015 • 32 min
Your to-do list is a mile long as the holidays and the end of the year approaches. You have meetings, parties, shopping, last minute errands, cleaning the house, end of the year reports, travel, kids out of school, and more that need to get done. There is…
298: TRULY THANKFUL
Nov 17, 2015 • 31 min
The word thankful means, “feeling or expressing gratitude; appreciative.” As a married couple you should take time each day, week, and month to share with your spouse how truly thankful you are for them. For how they have had a positive impact in your…
297: DE-STESS THE HOLIDAYS
Nov 10, 2015 • 32 min
Surprise. Christmas is coming AGAIN this year, in fact it comes every year. Can you believe it? —Said with a little sarcasm. However this is often the sentiment that couples experience when the holidays roll around, every December. Here are a few things…
296: YOUR MARRIAGE MANUAL
Nov 3, 2015 • 32 min
Many items that you purchase come with a manual. Your car, your crockpot, the computer, TV, kid’s toys and even your mascara has instructions. And yet you and your spouse despite all in all of their complexity do not. You marry someone who is completely…
295: THE NO REJECTION ZONE
Oct 27, 2015 • 33 min
Creating a no rejection zone in your marriage is vital to creating an environment where both you and your spouse trust one another. Rejection is incredibly destructive. It eats away at a person’s sense of worth, it creates doubt, it destroys the…
294: YOU HAVE 168 HOURS EACH WEEK
Oct 20, 2015 • 32 min
You’re busy. There is a lot going on in your life. When you’re dating or even newly married it seems like you have the ability to make the time for one another no matter what. You’ll rearrange your schedule. You’ll say no to other people or activities…
293: HOLD ON TIGHT
Oct 13, 2015 • 31 min
On October 5th we celebrated our 19th wedding anniversary! For our anniversary day we choose to have a date day with a theme…we’ll share this date idea on an upcoming Periscope. Follow us there @oneextraordinary. One part of the date was to go to a local…
292: IT’S BEEN TOO LONG SINCE WE’VE HAD SEX
Oct 6, 2015 • 34 min
When you have said to yourself and/or to your spouse, “It’s been too long since we’ve had sex”, then it’s time to sit down to figure out what is going on. The topic of sexless marriages is one a lot of people shy away from. Most of the time because if it…
291: THE MARRIED COUPLES GUIDE TO PMS
Sep 29, 2015 • 31 min
Premenstrual syndrome (PMS) is not just about the emotional toll it has, but also the physical impact it has on women. There are many symptoms that can be experienced. Some of these are: feeling tired food cravings trouble with memory joint or muscle pain…
290: GROUNDHOG DAY
Sep 22, 2015 • 31 min
Routine… while is seems easy and comforting at first really and truly leads to boredom. Boredom in your marriage leads to looking for other people or things to break that sense of routine. This boredom if not address can lead to emotional affairs, to…
289: WALK AROUND NAKED AT HOME
Sep 15, 2015 • 31 min
This show came out of a conversation we had as Tony walked from the master bathroom into our bedroom… naked. It occurred to us that those couples who walk around naked are couples who are vulnerable and comfortable with each other. We realized through…
288: DISCOVERING YOUR TRUE VALUES
Sep 8, 2015 • 31 min
People are lost. Marriages are lost. Families are lost. We have become a society, that for the most part, doesn’t plan who or what we stand for. Do you know what your marriage stands for? Every couple and family has their own unique set of…
287: THE IMPACT OF TONE AND TIMING
Sep 1, 2015 • 31 min
When you first meet your spouse you were most likely on your best behavior at all times. You would watch out for what you would say and how you would say it. Over time, as you became more familiar with each other that “best behavior started to slide”. You…
286: SEX IS A PART OF MARRIAGE
Aug 25, 2015 • 32 min
In your marriage there are six forms of intimacy that build your foundation. Each are vital to a successful marriage, a marriage based on safety and trust. And, sexual intimacy is one of them. When your needs or those of your spouse are not being met a…
285: WORDS OF ENCOURAGEMENT
Aug 18, 2015 • 31 min
There are a lot of distractions in the world… electronics, social media, daily tasks, other people, etc. Because of these distractions it’s easy to lose sight of the gift that you have right in front of your face. The gift of your spouse that God has…
284: COCONUT OIL, VIBRATOR AND THE GAME OF LOVE
Aug 11, 2015 • 31 min
You desire to be sexually intimacy with your spouse and at the same time add some adventure and variety in your bedroom. Where do you start? What do you need? We struggled with this for years in our own marriage. You know how it goes, you do the same…
283: THE HAPPINESS MYTH
Aug 4, 2015 • 31 min
Everyday there are conversations going on about marriage where someone says… My spouse doesn’t make me happy. I’m not happy in this marriage. Why isn’t my happiness important? The issue many marriages face right now is that of the ME focus. It is common…
282: LOOK UP
Jul 28, 2015 • 32 min
Are you living in your own little bubble with your head down, focused only on yourself, your needs, your wants… And yet your spouse may be there wondering if you even know what’s happening to them, what’s going on at work or at home, or how a recent event…
281: CAN’T DO ANYTHING RIGHT
Jul 21, 2015 • 31 min
Defeated. Worn out. Frustrated. Any of these and many more emotions can get you to a place where you have told yourself that you can’t do anything right. Nope. Nothing. This is a lie and four words that will bankrupt you and your marriage. Before you say…
280: THESE WILL FAN THE FLAMES OF YOUR SEXUAL INTIMACY
Jul 14, 2015 • 31 min
Have you lost the spark, emotional, physical, or sexual, in your marriage? Has the fire you once had burning strong is now a flicker and dimming more and more with every day that passes? If the fire isn’t as hot as you would like it’s time to fan the…
279: LIVE THIS DECADE WITH PURPOSE
Jul 7, 2015 • 31 min
According to a 2014 article in The Economist, the average length of marriage in the USA is 8 years. When you factor in that many couples will wait 2-3 years after marriage to have kids you can see that there is a need to better understand the years and…
278: THE SECRET VALUE OF THE QUICKIE
Jun 30, 2015 • 31 min
The quickie can be an amazing sexual experience in your marriage if you know the secret to enjoying it together. In our own marriage, our sex life can be a bit off during the summer months. Different schedules, kids are home, vacations, and just hanging…
277: DRUG OF CHOICE
Jun 23, 2015 • 32 min
When you find yourself spending more and more time or being more and more distracted there is something going on. Maybe society wouldn’t call it a drug of choice. Maybe you even joke about “having a little problem”. The truth is that these choices can…
276: MONEY IN THE BANK
Jun 16, 2015 • 32 min
Financial stress is an intimacy killer. Plain and simple. It can keep you up at night and it keeps you worrying during the day. It’s hard to let down your guard when you are worried about paying the bills or having food on the table. The fear keeps you…
275: COMMUNICATION DOESN’T END WITH FOREPLAY
Jun 9, 2015 • 31 min
It starts with the sweet talk. Then it leads to both of you romancing each other all through the day. And then other times you just want a quickie. In all truth there is some form of communication going on between the two of you to get to the point that…
274: IT’S TIME TO TAKE THE LEAD
Jun 2, 2015 • 31 min
There may have been seasons in your marriage when neither one of you stood up to lead the family. You, your spouse and your marriage were like a boat with no rudder, just going around and around in circles trying to get somewhere but going nowhere. The…
273: TIME FOR AN OIL CHANGE
May 26, 2015 • 31 min
You spend time, effort and energy in maintaining your stuff and yet, you are not giving your marriage that same courtesy. Your expectations for your marriage is so much more. The problem is that you are not giving it the tools that you and your spouse…
272: WALKING IN THE DOOR
May 19, 2015 • 31 min
Throughout the day you are transitioning from waking up, heading to work, coming home, going to bed to doing it all over again. The heading out times always seem to be easier, except for you parents of little ones that are leaving for the first time and…
271: RUNNING BELOW EMPTY
May 12, 2015 • 31 min
The idea of running below empty is nothing new. What is new is how running below empty is impacting marriages. Possible even having a negative affect on you right now. When you are below empty what suffers the most is not your job or your obligations to…
270: A TRENCHCOAT AND HIGH HEELS
May 5, 2015 • 31 min
It can be hard to step out of your comfort zone, to try something new, to be adventurous. This can be as simple as changing your hair color (Alisa went RED once), to eating at a new restaurant, to wearing new clothes, shoes, or trying a different wardrobe…
269: ABSENCE DOESN’T MAKE THE HEART GROW FONDER
Apr 28, 2015 • 32 min
Distance in your marriage can be tough. This can happen in your home or it could be when you and your spouse are miles apart. This can be for work, family illness, deployment, moving to a new city, or any other reason. As much as the old saying goes,…
268: WHY ARE YOU ACTING LIKE THIS?
Apr 21, 2015 • 31 min
You’ve decided that it’s time. It’s time to change because what’s been happening isn’t what you want to continue doing. You’ve decided to make some changes. Well… …your spouse has just noticed that something is up and is asking, “Why are you acting like…
267: BE PREPARED
Apr 14, 2015 • 31 min
Preparation is one of the biggest gifts that you and your spouse can give to each other and your family. And yet it’s hard to think about our own mortality. People often say that it’s the teenagers that think that they are invincible but in reality most…
266: TAKE HOPE FROM A FANTASY TO A FORCE IN YOUR LIFE
Apr 7, 2015 • 31 min
Hope is in short supply in our world. From news reports talking about all of the ugliness to televisions shows that are completed scripted to bring you down. Here at ONE Extraordinary Marriage it has been our goal to bring you hope each and every week.…
265: RUN THE RACE
Mar 31, 2015 • 32 min
Sprinters are amazing at short bursts of energy for a short period of time. However, if your vows were anything like ours they had something like “as long as life shall last” (until death do us part, forever, etc). That is not a short period of time,…
264: MARRIAGE THROUGH YOUR SPOUSE’S EYES
Mar 24, 2015 • 31 min
Looking at the world, especially your marriage, from only your point of view is short sighted. By doing this… you are only taking your feelings, wants and desires into account. Over time this lack of perspective can lead to little consideration from the…
263: LESSONS LEARNED FROM HAVING SEX (A LOT)
Mar 17, 2015 • 31 min
Having sex is a beautiful experience that you and your spouse get to enjoy together. Unfortunately, there are times when having sex goes by the way side. It’s at this moment when you realize that it’s time to change it up. The 7 Days of Sex Challenge is…
262: SAVE MY MARRIAGE
Mar 10, 2015 • 32 min
Your marriage isn’t going the way that you expected when you said “I do” to your spouse. Actually… Your spouse has expressed that it’s time for the two of you to either separate for a time or get a divorce. You need to know that you are not alone. We know…
261: BEFORE AND AFTER SEX
Mar 3, 2015 • 32 min
The time is right and you are ready to make love to your spouse. You’ve been romancing each other and it’s your time to initiate sex. There are certain rituals that you both may have before you make love. These may include, but not limited to… Dimmed…
260: WHERE ARE YOUR PRIORITIES
Feb 24, 2015 • 31 min
When you first met your spouse there was this time when each of you were each others priority. You made sure that you spent time together and if something got in the way you’d reschedule that obligation. As time has past the priorities of life have now…
259: BACK TO BASICS
Feb 17, 2015 • 32 min
There’s a reason that things are so good at the beginning of a relationship… Both you and your partner are putting forth effort into making the relationship work, into learning all about each other, and being on your best behavior. Then comes the ring,…
258: THE TRUTH SHALL SET YOU FREE
Feb 10, 2015 • 32 min
To tell the truth or not to tell the truth? That is something you may ask yourself when talking to your spouse. It’s something that seems so minimal and yet it can have a huge impact on your marriage foundation. There are topics that are not always easy…
257: EROTICA… MY DIRTY LITTLE SECRET
Feb 3, 2015 • 31 min
the book 50 Shades of Grey has become the most successful erotica book ever to be written. It’s a #1 Best Seller with over 100 million copies sold. In it’s path it has left many who have read it yearning for more in their marriage. The problem is that you…
256: SEX WHEN THE KIDS ARE HOME
Jan 27, 2015 • 31 min
When you choose to only have sex when your kids are away or when everyone is, can be limiting in terms of when the two of you can be sexually intimacy. Giving yourself permission to have sex when the kids are home can be liberating. Your kids are not…
255: DELAYED EJACULATION
Jan 20, 2015 • 31 min
Delayed ejaculation is a condition in which it takes an extended period of sexual stimulation for a man to reach sexual climax and release semen from the penis. There are times when a man will not achieve climax as well. There are three causes to why you…
254: PREMATURE EJACULATION
Jan 13, 2015 • 32 min
Premature ejaculation occurs when a man ejaculates sooner during sexual intercourse than he or his partner would like. It’s a time when you can feel embarrassed and/or lacking as a man. The ability to extend sexual pleasure is directly related to your…
253: GOOD TO GREAT
Jan 6, 2015 • 32 min
There are many things competing for your time, attention and energy and yet you want to have the best marriage you can possible have. Being over committed, busy and overwhelmed is not healthy for you or your marriage. When you have too many things to do…
252: MORE THAN JUST AN ORGASM
Dec 30, 2014 • 32 min
An orgasm can enhance your sexual experience for yourself and your spouse. However, an orgasm shouldn’t be the ultimate goal of every sexual encounter. The experience of being together, of sharing that time and space in your marriage bed, that is the…
251: TRUST ME
Dec 23, 2014 • 31 min
Many marriages have experienced broken trust in some form or another. Everything from little white lies, financial wounds, infidelity and addiction impact the trust you have with your spouse. Hiding the truth and not owning up to your actions prevents…
250: UNDER THE SHEETS AND NAKED
Dec 16, 2014 • 31 min
When you get under the sheets and sleep naked with your spouse there are a number of benefits that both of you will experience. There are three ways you will benefit from getting under the sheets and sleeping naked. You will experience health benefits…
249: SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE
Dec 9, 2014 • 32 min
We had sex before marriage. Probably like you or someone you know. It’s really between a couple and yet there seems to be someone always pointing a finger at you for doing so. You cannot change what you did prior to getting married and yet you can learn…
248: FOOD COMA
Dec 2, 2014 • 32 min
You’ve been there before… whether after a large Thanksgiving meal or a meal where you ate too much and need to take a long rest after. It’s that time when the food coma sets in. That period of time when you check out and don’t do anything. When you have…
247: THANKFUL FOR YOU
Nov 25, 2014 • 31 min
Being thankful for your spouse and your marriage is something that you may or may not think about often. Each year we love to share what we are thankful for in our marriage and lives. It’s a way for you to listen in, get ideas and then do this with your…
246: THE FIRST TIMES: SEX IN DIFFERENT SITUATIONS
Nov 18, 2014 • 33 min
The different situations you will have sex for the “first times” as a married couple are important to acknowledge. The truth is that there are many firsts over the years as you may not have even recognized them. Each first is a time to connect with your…
245: CREATE A FINANCIAL PEACE MARRIAGE
Nov 11, 2014 • 31 min
As a married couple the way you choose to combine your finances is going to play out in your relationship. How it is combined (or not), how it is spent, how it is saved, as well as other factors impacts the two of you. Finances do not and cannot exist in…
244: INTENTIONAL INTERRUPTION
Nov 4, 2014 • 31 min
In the hustle and bustle of the holiday season it is so easy to lose sight of one another. Between holiday parties, buying gifts and making sure everything gets done you often find yourself putting your spouse at the bottom of the to-do list without even…
243: STOP STUFFING IT DOWN
Oct 28, 2014 • 31 min
When tears are withheld and emotions are stuffed down inside of you this is a recipe for disaster over time. Stuffing it down again and again lead to frustrated people. Frustrated people lead to angry conversations and than more hurt. As a society and…
242: LET’S TOUCH EACH OTHER
Oct 21, 2014 • 31 min
There are many benefits to touch that have been studied over the years. They range from increased levels of oxytocin to lower blood pressure as well as an increase in overall connection. Physical touch that doesn’t lead to sex is important. It’s something…
241: THIS WOMAN’S HEATH (MAMMOGRAM, ULTRASOUND & STERILIZATION)
Oct 14, 2014 • 31 min
Woman’s health may have an impact on your marriage when the time comes for a mammogram, ultrasound or when sterilization is brought up. These are just a few of the health procedures your spouse can have. The emotional toll these may take can lead you both…
240: BRING YOUR GOOD TIMES AND YOUR LAUGHTER TOO
Oct 7, 2014 • 31 min
Whether you are celebrating your first wedding anniversary or your fortieth, this is a time to celebrate the good times you’ve had together. It’s a time to look back over the past year and then look forward to what’s ahead. Make it a day where you…
239: IT’S NOT A PROBLEM, PORNOGRAPHY IS AN ADDICTION
Sep 30, 2014 • 33 min
Pornography is becoming the drug of choice for many individuals. It’s easy to conceal, doesn’t cost as much as alcohol or drugs, but gives them the same euphoric high that they enjoy. Unfortunately, pornography in marriage is destroying the sexual…
238: COMMON COURTESY
Sep 23, 2014 • 31 min
Common courtesy is something that you know you should extend to your spouse and yet it’s not happening. It may be because you allow your spouse’s actions to dictate if you will be courteous or not. The thing is that true common courtesy should not be a…
237: PUTTING THE KIDS FIRST
Sep 16, 2014 • 31 min
Your job as a parent is to have your children for a season in your house. While they are there you must equip them with the tools that they need to leave your house and live on their own. Being your child’s savior, rescuing them and providing for all of…
236: LOVE IS GREATER THAN FEAR
Sep 9, 2014 • 31 min
Fear or worry can stop you in your tracks when it comes to moving forward in your marriage. Events in the past, words spoken or unspoken, or what may happen leave you feeling helpless. Fortunately for you love is great than fear. The love you have for…
235: SPEAK UP…VOCALIZE YOUR SATISFACTION
Sep 2, 2014 • 31 min
You and/or your spouse may struggle with how to be vocal and speak up during sex. There isn’t a one-size fits all, but there are a few different ways that you can speak up. Vocalization during sex is one way to encourage your spouse during sex. Both of…
234: MARRIAGE BONK
Aug 26, 2014 • 31 min
There will come a time when you will come to a point in your life when you feel depleted, whether it is because of circumstances at home, at work, with family or health. At some point you are going to run out of steam and hit the wall. Your marriage is…
233: ADVICE GIVEN IN LOVE
Aug 19, 2014 • 31 min
When your spouse gives you advice that is unsolicited you may become defensive toward them. It’s times like these that you need to check yourself and understand where they are coming from. Advice that is given in love without complaining or grumbling…
232: YOUR PERSONALITY TYPE AND SEX
Aug 12, 2014 • 32 min
You are uniquely made as there is no one else on this earth that is like you. Even though this is true, you have a personality type that can be learned to better understand yourself and your spouse. The Ennegram with it’s nine personality types is a tool…
231: IS IT MY DAYS OR YOUR DAYS TO INITIATE
Aug 5, 2014 • 31 min
The Intimacy Lifestyle at it’s core is about being able to set specific days that you initiate sex and the days your spouse will initiate sex each week. It’s also a fantastic way for the both of you to not put off sex to another time, but to make it a…
230: VULNERABILITY WHEN TRYING NEW SEXUAL POSITIONS
Jul 29, 2014 • 31 min
In your marriage the vulnerability you experience sexually with your spouse can be a challenge. Trying any position outside of the missionary position feels uncomfortable. For you it may be that the missionary position is efficient. Your spouse does this,…
229: WHEN FACETIME MATTERS
Jul 22, 2014 • 31 min
There are many ways that you can connect with your spouse. The way that you do this depends on where you are and the time you have scheduled for each other. You may even FaceTime your spouse if you are traveling or away from each other. FaceTime is…
228: STRESS AND YOUR LIBIDO
Jul 15, 2014 • 31 min
Low libido due to stress can be frustrating to you and your spouse over time. You want to have a libido that is ready to go and yet the stress you endure has impacted you. This may be a phase or it may be going more prevalent due to work demands, family…
227: BACK AGAINST THE WALL
Jul 8, 2014 • 31 min
The words you never thought you’d hear in your marriage, “I want a divorce”, have been uttered by your spouse. They hit you as if you slammed into a brick wall and at that moment you’re back against the wall. Your mind is flooded with all the reasons why…
226: (WO) MAN IN THE MIRROR
Jul 1, 2014 • 31 min
You are constantly sending your spouse facial expressions. When things are going well you give a smile, bat those loving eyes, as well as radiate joy. When things aren’t going as well those facial expressions are not positive. From grunts, to the raised…
225: WHEN KIDS TAKE PRIORITY IN YOUR MARRIAGE
Jun 24, 2014 • 31 min
When your marriage is pushed to the bottom of your priority list you can sense a disconnect with your spouse. Our priorities have been messed up in our marriage as well. Kids are one of the biggest reasons that your marriage has a lack of priority. How do…
224: IMPROVE YOUR PHYSICAL INTIMACY
Jun 17, 2014 • 31 min
Summertime is here, the kids are out of school, and learning is the last thing on their mind. Unfortunately many of you have taken the same attitude in your marriage. School has been out for awhile now. You know what you know about your spouse and you…
223: SUMMER DAZE (SEX WHEN THE KIDS ARE HOME)
Jun 10, 2014 • 31 min
Summer is a time when your sexual intimacy can take a back seat. There is no down time for you and your spouse with the kids home. The thought of having sex during the summer is the last thing you even think about. We’ve been there! The awkward moment…
222: THE CHOICES YOU MAKE EVERY DAY
Jun 3, 2014 • 31 min
When you participate in activities that are going to impact you, your spouse and your marriage these are not good choices. These choices don’t foster trust, nor do these choices bring the two of you together. In fact it’s just the opposite. Knowing what…
221: IT’S NOT ABOUT THE NUMBER
May 27, 2014 • 33 min
How many times have you had a conversation with someone about their marriage and heard, “Well, we’ve been married (insert number of years) years”, as if that’s all their marriage is about. The longevity of their relationship means so much more instead of…
220: FOREPLAY PLEASE
May 20, 2014 • 34 min
Foreplay is an opportunity for the two of you to mentally and physically get in the same place before intercourse. It’s a time when you are brought into the present with your spouse as you enjoy one another without the distractions of your daily lives.…
219: I LOVE YOU, BUT I’M NOT IN LOVE WITH YOU
May 12, 2014 • 31 min
These nine words, “I Love You, But I’m Not In Love With You”, when said in your marriage are a sucker punch to the stomach. They convey that you or your spouse are no longer willing to put forth any effort into the relationship. “In love” is really about…
218: IT’S NOT ALL GOOD OR ALL BAD
May 6, 2014 • 31 min
In your every day life you see the world and all that is around you in shades of grey. On the other hand you look at your marriage and there is only black and white, it’s either all good or all bad. Your perception is that if your marriage isn’t in one of…
217: I WISH I WOULD HAVE KNOWN
Apr 29, 2014 • 32 min
When you get engaged and become newlyweds you get lots of advice from family and friends. They want you to start your marriage out on the right foot and yet the advice usually given is the same ole thing. After hearing, “don’t sweat the little things”,…
216: UGHH! INTERRUPTED AGAIN
Apr 22, 2014 • 31 min
At some point in time you have been interrupted while trying to have sex with your spouse. It’s not always the kids that interrupt you, but maybe a phone call, an alert on the phone or a knock at the front door. When interrupted there is a break in the…
215: SEPARATE BEDS
Apr 15, 2014 • 31 min
When you leave your marriage bed and begin to sleep in separate beds it can be the beginning to the end to your physical as well as emotional intimacy. Separate beds lead to separate lives and an up hill fight to keep your marriage together. What is it…
214: STRANGER DANGER
Apr 8, 2014 • 32 min
If you allow you marriage to be stagnant for any amount of time you become distant from your spouse. This leads to a disconnect between the two of you and ultimately you become strangers. Be aware of the signs of stranger danger. It’s a point where you or…
213: SEX IS NOT A COMPLETE BAROMETER OF YOUR RELATIONSHIP
Apr 1, 2014 • 31 min
When your sex life has simple become a physical act that you and your spouse are doing it’s time to evaluate what’s going on. The quantity of sex you have each week or month is not a complete barometer of your relationship. Sexual intimacy is only one of…
212: I WANT SPONTANEOUS SEX
Mar 25, 2014 • 31 min
You want spontaneous sex and you want it often and yet do you even know what spontaneous means? Dictionary.com says that spontaneous is: coming or resulting from a natural impulse or tendency; without effort or premeditation; natural and unconstrained;…
211: GET YOUR SEXY BACK
Mar 18, 2014 • 32 min
Recreational intimacy is being active together. Finding activities you both like to do and do them with each other. Take a walk, hike a mountain, go surf…whatever it is do something with your spouse that will bring the two of you together. When you spend…
210: PRAYING OR PROCRASTINATING
Mar 11, 2014 • 31 min
You’ve been praying for healing, peace, forgiveness and change in your marriage for a long time. There are times when you wonder if God hears you or if He even cares about your marriage. It’s easy to pray and then procrastinate. You’ve prayed and yet it…
209: YOU SAID VS I HEARD
Mar 4, 2014 • 31 min
Words that you hear and then say back to your spouse can have a serious impact on the issue you are discussing in your marriage. The walls go up, the conversation stops and then the aftermath occurs. Your perception and the filters you have about what…
208: FERTILITY AWARENESS METHOD (NATURAL FAMILY PLANNING)
Feb 25, 2014 • 32 min
Conceiving a child or not to conceive a child is something many married couples talk about. When it comes to knowing all the ins and outs of ovulation…well that is another story. When the two of you are educated on your (your wife’s) menstrual cycle from…
207: OUT OF WORK
Feb 18, 2014 • 31 min
You never plan to be out of work and yet there will probably come a time in your marriage when you or your spouse has lost their job. This can be a stressful time for you as you look for work again. The loss of a job can add financial stress, drive a…
206: INITIATING SEX
Feb 11, 2014 • 32 min
Sexual intimacy is an important part of your marriage. There is a connection only you have with your spouse and it’s amazing when you have it. The problem is that you’re always initiating sex. After awhile it would be refreshing if your spouse were to…
205: WORK, KIDS, LAUNDRY, & DISHES
Feb 4, 2014 • 32 min
There is so many things going on in your marriage that more often than not the connection you and your spouse have has been placed on the back burner. You can’t even remember the last time you two had uninterrupted moments together. It’s time to get back…
204: WE WILL FIGHT (FOR OUR MARRIAGE)
Jan 28, 2014 • 31 min
Every opportunity you have to fight for your marriage is one that you should take. There is so much out in your every day life that is trying to pull you away from each other. It is time for both of you to focus on each other and fight for your love. It…
203: CONNECT EVEN WHEN YOU’RE APART
Jan 21, 2014 • 31 min
There may come a time in your marriage when you and your spouse are miles apart. This may be due to a deployment, work, caring for a family member, a mission trip or many other reasons. It is during these time that you and your spouse need to have a…
202: TEMPTATION
Jan 14, 2014 • 31 min
Temptation has been around since the beginning of mankind. It happened in the Garden of Eden and temptation may impact you and your marriage at one time or another. Even though temptation is present and will put your marriage in jeopardy there are…
201: I’M SORRY
Jan 7, 2014 • 31 min
It is very easy after a confrontation with your spouse to say something like “Are we good?” and expect the issue to be resolved. In other situations you may not say anything and just go about your business with this unfinished issue hanging around you and…
SPRECIAL EDITION: HAPPY NEW YEAR
Dec 31, 2013 • 22 min
It’s a fresh start, a clean slate and the beginning of a New Year! As you start a new year give serious consideration to where you and your marriage will be over the course of the next 365 days. What intimacy do you and your spouse want to focus in on for…
SPECIAL EDITION: MERRY CHRISTMAS ONE FAMILY
Dec 24, 2013 • 12 min
We know that you are busy with last minute preparations, trimming the tree, wrapping the presents, traveling and setting out the cookies for Santa. So we just wanted to take a few minutes to reflect with you on this season. As you unwrap this holiday…
200: WOOHOO!
Dec 17, 2013 • 44 min
Reaching a milestone in your marriage, your 5th, 10th, 25th, etc anniversary, is a time of celebration. A time when you get to look back at all the amazing things you have done with your spouse. It’s a time to share stories of how your spouse impacted you…
199: IT WON’T HAPPEN TO US
Dec 10, 2013 • 32 min
Your spouse is asking you to get involved in the marriage because there is a problem. Ignoring it will not make it go away. Apathy will not make it go away. Getting involved with someone else will not make it go away. When this is happening you need to…
198: WANT TO OR NEED TO
Dec 3, 2013 • 31 min
Words are interesting and the subtle differences in meaning can often go unnoticed. Except that these words can be played over and over in your head. The words that you choose to use when you have to do something have meaning. These words carry weight not…
197: AROUND THE WORLD
Nov 26, 2013 • 28 min
As the years pass in your marriage it is very easy to settle where you are. Between work, kids, church and other activities you aren’t living your life out loud. It’s time to bust out of your comfort zone so that you can go after that adventure that…
196: SEX TOYS
Nov 19, 2013 • 33 min
Getting creative in your marriage and trying new things can definitely spice things up for the two of you. When sex toys become part of your marriage toolkit you need to keep your motives in check. When you are looking for a way to add something new that…
195: SHOW EMOTION
Nov 12, 2013 • 31 min
It’s a choice to remove the masks and let down the walls in your life. These are holding you back from truly experiencing the joy in your marriage. Your choice to continue living like this is causing your spouse to wonder if you are truly engaged in the…
194: TOUGH TO SWALLOW
Nov 5, 2013 • 31 min
The two of you have probably talked about being sexual intimate via a blow job. It’s a topic that is brought up, but have you discussed what it would be like to have your spouse get to the point of ejaculation? Over the last couple of months many emails…
193: DIVORCE IS OFF THE TABLE
Oct 29, 2013 • 31 min
When you say “I Do”, the furthest thing from your mind at that very moment is uttering the word “Divorce”. As the months and years pass the “D” word begins to enter your vocabulary. The first time it stings and you can’t believe it was even uttered.…
192: GIVE ME A CHANCE
Oct 22, 2013 • 32 min
If you’ve been married for any length of time you may have hurt your spouse. This could be through the words you have said, by being silent, pulling away, not spending time with them, and more. Even though this has happened you can rebuild the trust in…
191: MASTURBATION
Oct 15, 2013 • 31 min
Masturbation in marriage can have a profound impact on your sexual intimacy. When masturbating in private without your spouse you are diminishing the joy of sex with your spouse. If you are masturbating in your marriage and your spouse does not know you…
190: TO TEXT OR NOT TO TEXT
Oct 8, 2013 • 31 min
You live in a world ruled by your phone, you feel lost when you don’t have it. You send text messages when you don’t want to bother someone and yet you are a slave to those text alerts. Unfortunately, some of you are using your cell phone, specifically…
189: ARE YOU DOING TOO MUCH?
Oct 1, 2013 • 31 min
You do everything for your spouse. The laundry, cooking, cleaning, kids, devotional, gardening, and on and on. You don’t understand why your spouse can’t help out around the house. Why are they not engaging with you? Has your marriage become one where you…
188: MAKE A PROMISE
Sep 24, 2013 • 31 min
It is critical that you make the decision to honor the promise you made on your wedding day. It is by keeping this promise that you will experience the true meaning of love in your marriage. Take time to consider these three promises that you can make and…
187: CHANGE IS GOOD
Sep 17, 2013 • 31 min
It’s time to live the marriage you desire. For change to happen you are going to have to take action. Your marriage has changed over the years. Your priorities are so out of whack that you, your spouse, and your marriage is lost. This week Tony & Alisa…
186: DON’T WAIT
Sep 10, 2013 • 31 min
Fear. It stops you from taking off your masks. You sit there as you look at your spouse knowing you need to share where you are and yet FEAR is holding you back. Expressing yourself has become difficult. The kids, work, electronics, have made it easy to…
185: LISTEN TO ME
Sep 3, 2013 • 30 min
One area that is often mishandled in marriage is the art of listening. It’s the ability to keep your mouth shut and your ears open as your spouse shares what is happening in their life. During this time you get to learn about your spouse. Better yet, you…
184: BE A HALL OF FAMER
Aug 27, 2013 • 29 min
Remember back to those days when you played a sport, competed in a competition, or were launching a new business, product or service. You knew where you wanted to get and yet you didn’t have the blueprint to help you get there. Well in your marriage there…
183: THE IMPACT OF PORNOGRAPHY ON YOUR WIFE
Aug 20, 2013 • 31 min
You can believe what you are seeing. You’re heart sinks as the shame and anger inside you begins to burst out. Right there in front of you on your husband’s phone, tablet, and/or computer there are pictures of naked women. The shock has left you wondering…
182: KEEPING SECRETS ABOUT THE KIDS
Aug 13, 2013 • 31 min
There is marriage Before Kids (BK) and then there is marriage After Kids (AK). You know what we are talking about as these can be two extremes. It starts from little sleep, to low sex drive, on to school, sports, and many other good and tough issues as…
181: WARRIOR OR WALKOVER
Aug 6, 2013 • 31 min
You’ve been living long enough in a lack luster marriage. Today is the day that you are going to put on your armor and be a warrior for your marriage. To often you and your spouse get complacent in your marriage. Your expectations are that they will take…
180: EWWW, THAT’S GROSS
Jul 30, 2013 • 31 min
These words are uttered across the globe by kids who see their parents kiss, hug, or show some form of affection. You want to hear them say this. It’s your responsibility in your marriage to show affection around your kids and their friends. Your ability…
179: WARNING SIGNS
Jul 23, 2013 • 32 min
You feel like something’s not quite right in your marriage right now. As you think about what is going on you wonder if you are making too much out of nothing. Your intuition or gut is telling you something. There are warning signs that something is not…
178: SEXPECTATIONS
Jul 16, 2013 • 32 min
You are all excited to take some time away, maybe a long weekend or a week long vacation, with your spouse. You know the two of you are going to have sex and yet have you discussed how many times you will have sex while away. Your sexpectations and those…
177: BICYCLE BUILT FOR TWO (OR NOT)
Jul 9, 2013 • 32 min
Having your own activities and hobbies separately from your spouse is a healthy way for you to grow individually. At the same time it’s also a way for you and your spouse to grow your marriage. Do something that makes your heart sing, brings joy,…
176: HOLD MY HAND
Jul 2, 2013 • 30 min
So often you find yourself in making advances on your spouse with the sole purpose to have sex. You’re touching your spouse for one thing only and it’s not appreciated. What transpires is either you getting accepted after numerous advances or you get…
175: CONTRACT OF RECONCILIATION
Jun 25, 2013 • 31 min
You’ve had enough of your spouse’s antics. The word “Separation” or “Divorce” have been said in hurtful ways and now you are really considering one or both. Before you step out of your home you both need a plan to be working on yourself as well as you…
174: COVENANT OR CONTRACT
Jun 18, 2013 • 37 min
When you first got marriage you may have thought of you marriage as a covenant and/or as a contract. To this day in your mind your marriage is either one of these or both and yet do you know which each of them mean in your marriage? If you view your…
173: CRANK UP YOUR SEX DRIVE
Jun 11, 2013 • 44 min
You don’t have the sex drive you once had within your marriage. It’s waned over the years and really you’re a bit frustrated that you don’t have “IT” like you once did. Your physical well being may be an area that is having a big impact on your sex drive…
172: THOSE WEIRD NOISES
Jun 4, 2013 • 36 min
You know those noises that come from your spouse. Either in the bathroom or right there in the kitchen they come out and boy is it getting a bit much. Never did you think about the burps, farts, throw up, diarrhea, or those weird noises in bed when you…
171: SEX HURTS
May 28, 2013 • 45 min
Ouch! My body hurts. Physical ailments can cause strife in your marriage when you are unable to be sexually intimate with your spouse. You are not doing this to hurt your spouse and yet there is frustration for both of you. Is the pain manageable? Can you…
170: WHAT’S WRONG WITH MY MARRIAGE…I AM
May 21, 2013 • 42 min
There are times in your marriage when everything seems to not be going as you planned. It’s easy to point the finger at your spouse for all that is happening and yet the issues may be with YOU. Yes, you may be what’s wrong with your marriage. Most times…
169: IS THIS ABUSE?
May 14, 2013 • 47 min
You feel alone, unworthy, spoken to like a child, or watched everywhere you go. Physically your spouse hasn’t laid a hand on you and yet the verbal and emotional barrage that you get daily has you at wits end. Have you experienced: Humiliation,…
168: FLYING HIGH
May 7, 2013 • 37 min
Get out of your comfort zone and do something exhilarating with your spouse. When you do amazing changes can happen in your marriage. You’re flying high as you face your fears and stay present in the moment. To often in your marriage there is so much…
167: PLAY BALL
Apr 30, 2013 • 45 min
Your marriage is a participation sport. There are no rewards for sitting on the sidelines watching as the weeks, months, and years pass by. It’s time for the two of you to stand on the field together, playing together, and enjoying this game we call…
166: HOLEY UNDERWEAR
Apr 23, 2013 • 39 min
Those underwear you are wearing are dragging you down. Nobody except your spouse sees them and yet when you are wearing them you don’t feel sexy. Why would you want to have them around any longer if all they do is bring you down? Git rid of those hoely…
165: CUDDLE UP
Apr 16, 2013 • 41 min
Cuddling up with your spouse after a great love making session can do wonders for both of you. Your skin is the largest organ on your body and when it is in contact with your spouse’s skin it can do wonders for your marriage. The act of cuddling with your…
164: IS YOUR SEX LIFE GETTING ENOUGH SLEEP?
Apr 9, 2013 • 44 min
The amount of sleep you get can directly impact your vibrancy as well as the quality of sex you have in your marriage. When you are tired and worn out sex is the last thing you may want to be doing. If anything, you would rather roll over and get more…
163: WHEN THINGS GO WRONG AS THEY SOMETIMES WILL
Apr 2, 2013 • 42 min
You have waited to try something new in the bedroom for months. You purchased what you needed, set the ambiance of your room, and now it’s go time. As the two of you begin having some fun you realize that this isn’t going the way you had planned. The…
162: WALK ON WATER
Mar 26, 2013 • 41 min
Fear can stop you in your tracks and hold you back from what God truly wants from you in your marriage. It’s during these times of fear that you need to face what is holding you back and move forward. Peter walked on water, but it was only when he got out…
161: I DON’T CARE
Mar 19, 2013 • 43 min
Love starts out as that butterfly feeling in the pit of your stomach; a physical emotion that washed over you when you first met your soon-to-be spouse. During this get-to-know-you stage you were swept up with everything they did with you, such as holding…
160: FLIP THE SWITCH TO GOOD SEX
Mar 12, 2013 • 41 min
You were raised in a family where talking about sex and your private parts was a bad. Sex was bad everywhere you went and then you got married. Now you needed to flip the switch to good sex. This has been tough for you and to this day you still have a bad…
159: SEX ON THE ROLLER COASTER
Mar 5, 2013 • 44 min
Hopefully you haven’t actually had sex on a roller coaster. That would be very difficult to say the least and a bit dangerous too. No, this roller coaster is the parenting kind. The one that you a part of each and every day of your life if you have little…
158: SEIZE THE DAY
Feb 26, 2013 • 42 min
Stop the Glorification of Busy! It’s not uncommon for you to ask someone how their day is going and the response you get is, “I’m really busy”. You may even answer the same way when someone asks how your day, week, or month is going. Unfortunately, if you…
157: HOW TO DEAL WITH YOUR PARENTS AND YOUR MARRIAGE
Feb 19, 2013 • 40 min
Consider yourself warned. Any time that you choose your parents over your spouse you are setting yourself up for heartbreak. Making sure that you have boundaries that will protect you, your spouse, and your marriage are needed. You love your parents, we…
156: VALENTINE’S DAY IS MORE THAN JUST ONE DAY
Feb 12, 2013 • 38 min
It’s the time of year when cupid is abuzz with love in your marriage. The cost of chocolates, roses, and jewelry double or triple and a night on the town will set you back a Benjamin or two. The card isle at Target is filled with pink, red, and purple for…
155: HOW-TO MAKE A DAILY DEVOTIONAL PART OF YOUR MARRIAGE
Feb 5, 2013 • 43 min
Your desire to be closer and more intimate with your spouse. Emotionally, financially, and sexually you are there and yet your spiritual intimacy is lagging behind. Maybe you’ve even tried a few times (or many times) without success. We get it! We’ve been…
154: WRITE ME A LETTER, SPEAK TO MY HEART
Jan 29, 2013 • 40 min
In this digital age that you live in how often do you write a hand written love letter or get a romantic love letter? There is something to be said about this lost art of letter writing to that connects you to your spouse. The few moments it takes to…
153: CHEERING FOR THE HOME TEAM
Jan 22, 2013 • 42 min
Professional football is coming to a close with only one game left, the Super Bowl. The tryouts, practices, scrimmages, and the start of the season started long ago. The players began preparing themselves as well as the cheerleaders many months ago. It’s…
152: RUB-A-DUB THERE’S A COUPLE IN THE TUB
Jan 15, 2013 • 35 min
Taking time away and enjoying a sensual shower or bath can do wonders for your marriage. It’s a time where you and your spouse are showing everything to one another and yet it brings you closer together. This time in the shower or bath can enhance your…
151: SLIPPERY SLOPE
Jan 8, 2013 • 43 min
It started out innocently. The conversation was fun, the walks were refreshing, you were losing weight together, and you were connecting. It wasn’t that you were physically attracted and yet you became emotionally attached. Without you realizing it you…
150: READY, SET, GO!
Jan 1, 2013 • 44 min
Whether you are kicking off the New Year or looking to set goals that will impact your marriage you need to get Ready, Set, Go! Making time for the two of you to be on the same page and what you’d like to accomplish is the first step toward an…
149: UNWRAPPING EACH OTHER
Dec 24, 2012 • 31 min
The excitement of Christmas or vacation can have an impact on when and if you are able to make love. Being somewhere other than your house, kids, relatives, friends, and the like make having sex on these occasions a little tougher. It doesn’t mean you can…
148: FROM MOURNING TO JOY
Dec 18, 2012 • 41 min
The events that unfolded at Sandy Hook Elementary School rocked us as we heard about what happened. We sat in our chairs after we recorded this podcast as tears filled our eyes. How is it that this week we would be talking about grief during the holidays…
147: THEN AND NOW
Dec 11, 2012 • 40 min
What was marriage like before we did our 60 Days of Sex Challenge? This was a question we were asked from a listener who is going through a tough time right now. When you are in the depths of those valleys it is sometimes hard to see what’s ahead. Your…
146: MY MARRIAGE IS GREAT BUT…
Dec 4, 2012 • 42 min
Your brain can and does impact your marriage. Those negative thoughts and positive thoughts that play in your mind will determine the outcome of how you react to your spouse. These thoughts play like a broken record and can stop you from taking action to…
145: MAKE TIME FOR A SEXY MARRIAGE
Nov 27, 2012 • 51 min
Your year is about to get even crazier. Thanksgiving started the season of busy for you and your spouse and it will not end until after Christmas if you are lucky. This is the time of year when you can feel completely overwhelmed! The obligations of the…
144: I’M THANKFUL FOR…
Nov 20, 2012 • 56 min
The key to thriving in your marriage each and every year is to take time to share what you are thankful for in your marriage. This is a time when the busyness of every day life is put aside so that you can honor your spouse. Grab a piece of paper, write…
143: ARE YOU LIVING A LIE
Nov 13, 2012 • 48 min
You’re hiding something from your spouse and it is weighing you down. Maybe you have an addiction that your spouse doesn’t know about. Perhaps you’ve spent more money than you shouldn’t have and you haven’t told them. Has that lunch partner become…
142: BLENDED FAMILIES
Nov 6, 2012 • 49 min
It can be tough to bring two families together and blend them into one family. Between exes, kids, alimony, child support, and ex-in laws it can be a real challenge for the two of you to find time to make intimacy a priority in your marriage. It is time…
141: FLIRTING YOUR WAY BACK
Oct 30, 2012 • 46 min
You may have come to a point in your marriage where sexual intimacy isn’t happening any longer. The thought of you and your spouse having sex brings up anxiety in you. This in turn is stopping the both of you from moving forward and having the sexual…
140: SCHEDULING SEX
Oct 23, 2012 • 49 min
Sometimes it seems like life is just too busy. You are running around here, there, and everywhere. The thing is that you sense a distance from your spouse and you need to connect. You need to connect emotionally, spiritually, and sexually. It’s time to…
139: POSITION IT THIS WAY
Oct 16, 2012 • 42 min
Trying different positions while making love is something that we struggled with early on in our marriage. Since we learned little about the birds and the bees it is no wonder we had a difficult time when it came to different positions. Have you…
138: WIND BENEATH MY WINGS
Oct 9, 2012 • 44 min
I sat in a conference room this weekend for Allison Maslan’s Blast Off! Business Breakthrough. It started on my anniversary and I will have to say I was excited to be there. This was mine and Tony’s way of celebrating. I know it’s kinda weird, but heck we…
137: LOVE DOES MAKE A DIFFERENCE
Oct 2, 2012 • 44 min
Love is active and love impacts the world in very big ways. When you first meet your spouse love was active and running rampant in you. Love was active, making you do things that made an impact. This week we had the opportunity to experience Bob Goff,…
136: AUTHENTICALLY YOU
Sep 25, 2012 • 36 min
Live from the inside out for lasting satisfaction in your life and marriage starts with you being authentic with yourself. This authenticity is the DNA that God has placed inside of you that makes your heart sing when you are YOU! You are an amazing…
135: THE POWER OF TOUCH
Sep 18, 2012 • 42 min
In your marriage the power of touch, non-sexual and sexual, are vitally important to your well being. Did you know that touch can ease your pains, lessen anxiety in your marriage, soften the blows of life that come your way, generate hope and has the…
134: ROLE REVERSAL
Sep 11, 2012 • 44 min
Sexual rejection is tough on the spouse who is initiating sex. In our society the focus has been that of the husband getting rejected when initiating sex. Unfortunately, it’s becoming more common for the husband to reject his wife. Long hours at work,…
133: STATE OF THIS MARRIAGE
Sep 4, 2012 • 48 min
This week Tony and Alisa catch you up on all of the exciting developments that are being worked on at ONE Extraordinary Marriage. Over the last year the growth of listeners and readers has been amazing. All of your input via email, voice mail, or…
132: BEING BRAVE
Aug 28, 2012 • 45 min
Facing those skeletons in your closet can be hard. This week Tony shares about getting his girlfriend pregnant in college and then paying for the abortion. This event still impacts him 21 years later. Bringing up the skeletons in you past might not be…
131: BIRDS AND THE BEES
Aug 21, 2012 • 45 min
Is sex a stigma in your marriage? Has the past held you back from completely enjoying the amazing bond you could be having with your spouse? Sex ed or learning about the birds and the bees are an integral part of how you view sex in your marriage. Parents…
130: JESUS IN MY BEDROOM
Aug 14, 2012 • 41 min
The lights are dim in your bedroom and in the corner there is a blue chair. Jesus is sitting there. He is omnipresent in your life and right now he is waiting for you to allow Him into your sex life. Unfortunately, the reality is that you are to quick to…
129: A NEW NORMAL
Aug 7, 2012 • 46 min
Illness, sickness, injuries, and other long term ailments can change the dynamics of your marriage. When this happens you have to adjust to having “A New Normal.” In this episode we share how you have to re-learn all of your intimacies in light of changed…
128: PLAYING ON THE SAME TEAM
Jul 31, 2012 • 43 min
The wedding bells ring, you say your “I do’s”, and the honeymoon is bliss. You’re married, the two of you have become ONE and yet you’re not on the same TEAM. Shortly after that blissful day you find yourselves on opposite sides working against each…
127: ASK AND YOU SHALL RECEIVE
Jul 24, 2012 • 43 min
This past week we received an email from a listener asking why her husband won’t come right out and ask for sex. There is cuddling, kissing, and yet he won’t come out and ask for sex. Join Tony and Alisa as they talk about the fear of rejection, the…
126: LAUGHTER FOR THE SOUL
Jul 17, 2012 • 41 min
As you sit in your living room laughing from the depth of your belly, tears rolling down your face, the world is left behind and all you see is your spouse smiling and laughing too. Both of you enjoying a moment that has pushed aside the emergencies of…
125: FANTASIZE WITH ME
Jul 10, 2012 • 40 min
It’s natural to fantasize, but are you fantasizing about your spouse or someone else? Fantasies can be a great way to spice things up in your marriage by changing things up. The opposite side is that they can also tear down the foundations of your…
124: JOINT OR SEPARATE CHECKING ACCOUNTS
Jul 3, 2012 • 44 min
What kind of checking account do you have? The truth is that finances are always going to be a part of your marriage and how you come to handle money will color many aspects of your married years. Each of us comes into marriage with financial baggage.…
123: THE BATTLEFIELD
Jun 19, 2012 • 43 min
Men it’s time! It’s time to show your wife how much you honor and cherish her. In this world where battles are raging against marriage every minute of the day your wife needs to know that the two of you are on the battle field together. She needs to know…
122: SAY ONE THING DO ANOTHER
Jun 12, 2012 • 40 min
Many of us don’t like confrontation. To avoid a confrontation we’ll us different strategies. One of the most damaging is by saying one thing to our spouses with the full intention of doing something else. Instead of being honest with our spouse, we…
121: RESILIENCE
Jun 5, 2012 • 40 min
This week’s podcast comes from our son and little league baseball. We’re sure that many of you can relate to kids and their athletic endevours. Early in the season, his first season playing baseball, things were not going so well. He wanted to quit just…
120: OH THE PLACES YOU’LL GO
May 29, 2012 • 31 min
Summer is here and it’s time to add some adventure into your physical intimacy. This is a lighthearted look at many different places that you can have sex. Get out of your “comfort zone” and have some fun this summer. What places have you or would you…
119: WHY CAN’T WE HAVE A BABY?
May 22, 2012 • 49 min
This weeks podcast is about finding your way back to intimacy after struggling for years with infertility. We share ideas that we have learned from friends of ours who have found intimacy in their marriage after years of struggling with infertility. When…
118: GREAT EXPECTATIONS
May 15, 2012 • 41 min
Great expectations… All of us have them. The way we want things done, the way we want those in our life to do what we want and yet, it doesn’t always turn out the way we want. What do we do then? Sometimes we lash out, sometimes we shut down, but really…
117: WHERE IS GOD IN MY MARRIAGE
May 1, 2012 • 45 min
Who is at the center of your marriage? Have you thought about that. Really taken the time to sit down with your spouse and discuss who is at the center of your marriage. As we prepare for the 3rd annual 7 Days of Sex Challenge we are looking back at when…
116: MAD, PASSIONATE, LOVE
Apr 24, 2012 • 41 min
You have a choice everyday to either have Mad, Passionate, Extraordinary Love or Mediocrity love. No where is it said or written that you have to “settle” for anything in your marriage. Just because you’ve been married for (insert years married here)…
115: THE GRASS ISN’T ALWAYS GREENER
Apr 17, 2012 • 61 min
Over this last week we have heard from many couples that are struggling with emotional affairs, separation or even divorce. It’s been frustrating for us to hear the lines spouses are saying during these times such as: You don’t make me happy anymore. I…
114: THE SIMPLE LIFE
Apr 10, 2012 • 43 min
Our house saga is finally coming to a close as we wrap up the short sale. Over the last 4 months we’ve had the opportunity to really think about those things that serve as a distraction to our marriage. Are you so wrapped up in work or with your friends…
113: WANDERING EYES
Apr 3, 2012 • 42 min
We’ve all done it, somebody walks across your path and you look. Then maybe you take another one or two looks. Unfortunately, most of the time our spouse catches us looking. This leads to feelings of inadequacy and insecurity in our marriage. We’ve been…
112: FLAMES BURING BRIGHT
Mar 27, 2012 • 42 min
Love is an overused word in our society. We love ice cream and we love our spouses, but how did God really desire for us to love our spouses? There are three different types of love used in the bible: raya, ahava and dod. When we think of these as flames…
111: HIGH DESIRE, LOW DESIRE, WHAT ARE YOU
Mar 20, 2012 • 51 min
One of you wants sex all the time, one of you not so much-what’s wrong with this picture? Nothing! You are just like the rest of us, dealing with differing levels of desire within your marriage. What’s a couple to do? Spend some time today learning about…
110: TRUST
Mar 6, 2012 • 43 min
It hurts when someone violates our trust, especially when that someone is the person that we are married to. Building trust is not easy and it’s not automatic either. Building trust requires both a husband and a wife to be willing to draw the line in the…
109: HONORING THE VOW
Feb 28, 2012 • 40 min
What do your vows mean to you? In our society when everything seems disposable The Vow made us stop and wonder how would we handle a catastrophic incident in our marriage. Do the words “as long as life shall last” really mean that? And what about how God…
108: CAN YOU FOCUS NOW
Feb 21, 2012 • 47 min
When was the last time you sat with your spouse with nothing on. No TV, computer, phones, iPad or other electronics? In today’s show Tony & Alisa discuss how turning all the electronics off is helping them to focus in on each other more. Their tips and…
107: SPICE UP THE BEDROOM
Feb 14, 2012 • 46 min
Happy Valentine’s Day! So often our sexual intimacy follows the same old patterns until it becomes a habit instead of an experience. This Valentine’s Day message will help spice things up in your bedroom. It can be as easy as turning the lights on,…
106: IMPACTING MARRIAGES
Feb 7, 2012 • 46 min
The ONE Extraordinary Marriage Conference was held in Okemos, MI. Tony and Alisa had a phenomenal time sharing their story and the importance of sexual intimacy in marriage. From singles to couples married 50+ years, there was something for everyone who…
105: BOOM BOOM
Jan 31, 2012 • 47 min
A listener wrote in describing a week of sexual frustration. She shares that while she and her husband both verbalized their desire for sexual intimacy, it didn’t happen for various reasons. So what do you do when you have a week or weeks when the…
104: RIGHT NOW
Jan 25, 2012 • 42 min
The future is not promised to you so what are you doing right now to make a difference in your marriage? You need to live in the present with your spouses, loving on them and sharing your life with them. You cannot live so focused on the future that you…
103: HOME IS WHERE THE HEART IS
Jan 17, 2012 • 43 min
Life throws us curve balls at times. Tony & Alisa are no exception. Based on circumstances Tony & Alisa are facing the start of 2012 with the realization that they need to short sale their home. In this episode they talk about the impact it is having on…
102: WILL YOU GO OUT WITH ME
Jan 10, 2012 • 44 min
Do you long to spend time with your spouse on a date night? Many of you have shared with us that the one thing you want to do this year is to have date nights. This week Tony & Alisa share 3 ways you can make sure that date nights or date days happen in…
101: OFF AND RUNNING
Jan 3, 2012 • 46 min
It’s the start of a new year and now is the best time to take a good look at your marriage. Sit down with your spouse and examine all 6 forms of intimacy, evaluate where you are and where you want to go in 2012. Episode 101 Off and Running is a time of…
100: CELEBRATE GOOD TIMES
Dec 20, 2011 • 70 min
The ONE Extraordinary Marriage Podcast presents the 100th episode! This week Tony & Alisa share your stories. Your marriages have been impacted by the podcast, 7 Days of Sex Challenges, and other resources over the years that it was time to share your…
099: DO YOU REALLY HAVE THE TIME
Dec 13, 2011 • 40 min
In light of watching He’s Just Not That Into You and recent conversations with friends going through divorce we find ourselves asking the question… Do you really have the time to invest in another relationship? Whether it’s another person, work,…
098: COMING HOME
Dec 6, 2011 • 42 min
It’s that time of year when we can get very wrapped up in all the “goings-on” and lose track of who we are. Now is the time to take stock of your marriage and make the changes necessary to make sure that you are coming home. Shop Amazon & support ONE…
097: DO YOU HAVE A PLAN THIS CHRISTMAS
Nov 29, 2011 • 40 min
Christmas is right around the corner and this is a challenging time for couples in terms or finances. Last year, Alisa overspent shopping for everyone in the family. We are changing things up this year. In this episode we discuss working on your financial…
096: THANKFUL
Nov 22, 2011 • 39 min
We’ve all had those weeks where absolutely nothing seems to go right, when it seems as if Murphy’s Law is the only law in your house. That was our week and in the midst of all of that God’s blessings continue to tumble forth. This week as you celebrate…
095: ARE THOSE REAL?
Nov 8, 2011 • 44 min
In this episode we tackle another one of those taboo topics…plastic surgery. Two years ago Alisa had breast augmentation. So why share now? Because once again being transparent about this topic has given women the courage to talk about their own desires,…
094: GIVE ME EVERYTHING
Nov 1, 2011 • 45 min
“I want you tonight. C’mon, Let’s do it tonight.” These were words that would flow out of our mouths in those early years of our courtship. We couldn’t get enough of each other then, but as the years have added on things change. The passion that we had…
093: NOW YOU’RE TELLING ME
Oct 25, 2011 • 53 min
Talking to our spouse about certain topics isn’t always easy but it can have such a positive impact on our marriage in terms of increasing our emotional intimacy. The events of our pasts color our future and by sharing with our spouses we can change the…
092: YOU’RE STILL THE ONE
Oct 18, 2011 • 45 min
There is a lot to be said for celebrating 15 years of marriage. First you lasted 15 years with your spouse, that’s big, second you’ve had your ups and downs along the way, & third it’s time to celebrate! In this weeks show Tony & Alisa share their…
091: BACK WHEN THE WORLD MADE SENSE
Oct 4, 2011 • 40 min
As Tony & Alisa get ever closer to their 15th wedding anniversary, happening on Wednesday October 5th, the movie Shrek 4 made them think back to those days before life got crazy. What they discuss in this show is that even though life has become more…
090: DO I LET YOU REALLY SEE ME?
Sep 27, 2011 • 44 min
In today’s social internet world we live in everyone is looking for individuals that are transparent. Listeners, viewers, readers all want to know that they are like those that they are following. That’s great, but are you transparent in your marriage…
089: WHEN DARKNESS FALLS
Sep 13, 2011 • 41 min
There comes a time in all of our marriages when things just aren’t going the way we think it should. Over the past couple of months Tony & Alisa have realized that the darkness has slowly fallen upon them and their marriage. In this episode both Tony &…
088: A FORK IN THE ROAD
Sep 6, 2011 • 32 min
There will come a time in all of our marriages when we will come upon a fork in the road. It’s at this fork that our faith, our love, our marriages will be put to the test. Tony and Alisa have come upon one in their marriage. In this episode they talk…
087: WHEN DISASTER STRIKES
Aug 30, 2011 • 40 min
What happens when we don’t have a topic to start the podcast? An emotional tidal wave of issues that have been building up over the week. In this weeks show we discussed a plethora of topics: 2 Family arguments Learning that Alisa isn’t happy with our…
086: THE BEAUTIFUL BED
Aug 23, 2011 • 40 min
My bed is spread with beautiful blankets, with colored sheets of Egyptian linen. I’ve perfumed my bed with myrrh, aloes, and cinnamon. —Proverbs 7:16-17 It seemed a little question…What size bed did you start with and what size bed do you have now? Wow!…
085: LIVING, LOVING & LEARNING
Aug 16, 2011 • 40 min
Back from vacation and we are ready to start a new school year. This time of year is a great time to reflect as a couple on what you have done over the past year as well as a great time to look forward to where you are heading. In this weeks show we take…
084: AT WIT’S END
Aug 2, 2011 • 41 min
It had been a rough day. Tony lost his temper, grabbed Alex’s arm and scared Abby. And on top of that we got into it ourselves. What do you when it seems like the world is crashing down around you? We made the decision to have a “conference” with our kids…
083: SOMETHING’S BUGGING ME
Jul 26, 2011 • 41 min
Are stressful situations good for your marriage? This week Tony and Alisa were hit with an unexpected case of lice (times 3). Tony and Alisa had to make decisions on how they were going to treat each other and how they were going to serve one another.…
082: ART OF MANLINESS
Jul 19, 2011 • 48 min
Husbands, it’s time to stand up! Take a hard look at yourself in the mirror. Are you taking a stand in your marriage and becoming the man your wife desires? Or are you pulling the “I don’t like it card”? It’s time that you start taking the lead on date…
081: I WANNA LEAVE A LEGACY
Jul 12, 2011 • 47 min
One of these days we are no longer going to walk this earth. We’ll be in heaven with our Father enjoying the good life. Those left behind though will live on with the teachings we showed them. It is while we are here on earth that we can leave a legacy, a…
080: IT’S NOT JUST ABOUT THE SEX
Jul 5, 2011 • 48 min
Is it just about sex? Is a question we get asked often. Is that the secret to our extraordinary marriage? You just have a lot of sex and then the marriage gets better? NO! It’s not just about SEX. It’s about growing in all 6 forms of intimacies in your…
079: TAKING STOCK
Jun 28, 2011 • 50 min
Marriages ebb and flow over days, months, and years. This week Tony & Alisa discuss what to do when taking the lead is not happening during their Intimacy Lifestyle. It was time to bring this up and work through the why’s this is happening. It’s time to…
078 – What Did You Say?
Jun 21, 2011 • 47 min
In marriage there come times when our words wound the one we love the most. Many times we don’t realize the lasting effects these words have on our spouse, but in many cases they do. Days, months, and even years later the messages are being played over…
077 – Check Engine
Jun 14, 2011 • 49 min
Are you paying attention to the warning signs in your marriage? This past weekend we attended the Church at Rancho Bernardo’s annual marriage retreat. This is the third year that we’ve attended and each year we learn something new about our marriage. One…
076 – As Long as Life Shall Last
Jun 7, 2011 • 48 min
Nobody likes to talk about death and the impact it can have on our marriage. The reality is that we are all going to die one day. The question to ask yourselves since this will inevitable happen is, Are your affairs in order both spiritually and…
075 – I’m Finished…I Want Out
May 31, 2011 • 47 min
It’s been a week where it feels like all we have heard about are marriages in trouble, conversations with friends who are making life-changing decisions, emails from listeners about to call it quits. Separation and divorce have been something we’ve been…
074 – Don’t Stop
May 24, 2011 • 46 min
There are times in our marriages when we just don’t have the energy or stamina to go on. Between family obligations, kids, work, outside actives, and the like we have nothing left. It’s during these times that we need continue on with God as our guide.…
073 – We Did It!
May 17, 2011 • 45 min
Over the years there have been times in our marriage when we completed a task or challenge and looked each other in the eyes and knew we did something special. This past week was one of those times. The thing is that you can have a We Did IT! moment and…
072 – Dollars and Sense
May 9, 2011 • 48 min
Have you ever been stressed by your finances? Stupid question, right? In this episode Tony and Alisa talk about how having financial intimacy can bring peace to your marriage. Date night doesn’t have to cause tension. You can go out, spend money and have…
071 – When the Crap Hits the Fan
May 3, 2011 • 46 min
Wouldn’t it be wonderful if nothing bad ever happened in our marriages? No arguments, no infidelity, no pain, no money issues, & all the other things that come with living with someone. Unfortunately, that isn’t the way marriage usually goes. In this…
070 – Let The Good Times Roll
Apr 26, 2011 • 45 min
There is so much happening in our marriages that we need to enjoy those periods of time when all is going smooth. Being content in our marriage is a great place to be and one we should enjoy. We walk a little different, we have a smile on our face, and…
069 – Are You Aware
Apr 19, 2011 • 46 min
Have you ever stopped to think about all the different ways that God shows up in your life Whether it’s a phone call from a friend saying, “I’m thinking about you” or an offer of a ride when you need to get somewhere, God is ever present in our lives.…
068 – A Little Bit of Paradise
Apr 12, 2011 • 50 min
We’re back and it was a wonderful week in paradise. Warm weather was very welcome as it gave us the opportunity to spend lots of relaxing moments on the beach doing a whole lot of nothing! We did unplug as promised and found that you can spend a week…
067 – A Big Decision
Apr 5, 2011 • 31 min
We couldn’t go on vacation and not have a podcast ready for you. So, we recorded this earlier in the week than usual to get it out. Tony scheduled the release date and time so that you could listen to this while we are on the beach in beautiful Puerto…
066 – Did Not Finish
Mar 29, 2011 • 46 min
In life and in our marriage we aren’t able to accomplish everything, we sometimes fail. This leaves us feeling down because we aren’t able to live up to our expectations or the perceived expectations of others. Do you start to engage in negative self talk…
065 – What’s in Your Suitcase?
Mar 22, 2011 • 51 min
We come into our marriages with baggage from all of previous experiences both good and bad. Our suitcase colors how we interact in our marital relationship and how we handle life. It’s time to start unpacking your suitcase so that you can be transparent…
064 – O Yes, That’s the Spot!
Mar 15, 2011 • 47 min
In this episode of ONE Extraordinary Marriage Podcast Tony & Alisa dig deep into orgasming so that you can have one. Alisa shares her experience of not having orgasm early in her marriage and faking orgasms to finish the deed. Through communicating her…
063 – What’s For Dinner
Mar 8, 2011 • 49 min
Over the last 14 years of marriage we’ve spent a lot of time around food. Something that has peaked our interest in the last couple of months is how food impacts intimacy in our marriage? We’ve gone from eating bean burritos, bad frozen pizza, fish…
062 – In Sickness & Health
Mar 1, 2011 • 50 min
When we take our vows we don’t necessarily think about the bad stuff that might happen, especially sickness. The thing is that eventually you or your spouse will become sick. How do you handle life when sickness does happen? This week we were hit from a…
061 – There’s A White Elephant In The Room
Feb 22, 2011 • 65 min
Sometimes people don’t want to talk about what’s right under their noses in their marriages and so of course that makes it the right topic for us to talk about here. We talked about pornography before from a personal standpoint, in this episode we branch…
060 – Broken Hearts
Feb 15, 2011 • 61 min
Emotional distance can seem impossible to overcome, we’ve stopped talking or if we are talking it just about the surface stuff. It just seems easier to avoid the conversations than to face the challenges that come with him. It’s time to mend those broken…
059 – Excuse Me!
Feb 8, 2011 • 62 min
Last week’s episode really struck a chord with many of you and it wasn’t so much the topic as it was the behavior exhibited in the first 10 minutes of the podcast. Interrupting your spouse shows a lack of consideration and respect. This week we dig deep…
058 – Are You Looking to Score? Shoot For the Goal!
Feb 1, 2011 • 64 min
We’ve heard that life is like a “box of chocolates” but after watching kids play soccer tonight I think I might have to change it to marriage is like a soccer game. It’s interesting to see how much of what we learn and experience as children really does…
057 – Coming Home Again
Jan 25, 2011 • 64 min
Sometimes we forget where we come from, why we married our spouse. We allow the distractions of the world: other people, our finances, our jobs-to chip away at the foundation of this specific relationship. As I (Alisa) travelled this past week I found…
056 – The Strain of Change
Jan 18, 2011 • 64 min
Over the years we have attended large churches and very small churches and it’s never been an easy decision to change churches. Sometimes, though, it’s been necessary for the welfare of our marriage. Listen in as we talk about the ups and downs of…
055 – Happy Anniversary
Jan 11, 2011 • 62 min
Sponsored by: This episode marks one year of the ONE Extraordinary Marriage podcast. It’s hard to imagine how far we have come in the last year, growing deeper in our marriage and helping you to grow deeper in yours. Listen in to emails and voicemails…
054 – Hear Us Roar!
Jan 4, 2011 • 56 min
Welcome to 2011! It’s the start of a new year and with it comes some big conversations dealing with financial and sexual intimacy. Alisa reveals some financial dirty laundry and the ramifications, both good and bad, that come with that news. Tony wants…
053 – Great Expectations
Dec 28, 2010 • 60 min
This is the last podcast of 2010 and 2011 is right around the corner. A new year brings new hopes and new expectations. What are your expectations for this new year for yourself and for your marriage? Have you shared them with your spouse? Make the time…
052 – The Christmas Story
Dec 21, 2010 • 59 min
Have you ever stopped to think about the couple behind the Christmas story? Mary and Joseph faced incredible challenges in their young relationship, but they had God the Father and God the Son at the center of their marriage. With this they were able to…
051 – True Friendship
Dec 14, 2010 • 62 min
Lessons I learned from watching my kids (Alisa)…This weekend as I watched my son make decisions about his birthday cake based on the fact that one of his best friends was coming. He sacrificed what he may have wanted for what a friend would prefer. Funny…
050 – Shhh! I’ve Got a Secret
Dec 7, 2010 • 62 min
We had two “We Did IT!” this week! And an awesome number of listener emails that we talk through as they deal with family boundaries, make up sex, and your encouraging words. Secrets can destroy your marriage. This week Tony & Alisa share how to talk…
049 – Tis the Season to Have SEX!
Nov 30, 2010 • 59 min
Are you taking the steps necessary to maintain the intimacy in your marriage during this crazy time of year? This is a time when we can find ourselves so busy with all that “needs to be done” that we neglect the relationships that matter the most. One way…
048 – Count Your Blessings
Nov 23, 2010 • 59 min
Thanksgiving is just a few days away and this is a fantastic time to reflect back on all of your blessings both large and small. Sometimes in the midst of everyday life we lose sight of how much we have received. We challenge you during the next month to…
047 – Getting On the Same Page
Nov 16, 2010 • 61 min
We are almost to 2011 and it’s a great time to be thinking about your goals for next year. So often we focus on our individual goals but it’s time to sit down and work through the goals the two of you have for your marriage. Listen in as we talk through…
046 – Are You Keeping Score?
Nov 9, 2010 • 56 min
So often in our marriages we are playing this invisible game where we keep track of everything our spouse does, comparing it to what we are doing to see who is the winner and who is the loser. You are in a marriage NOT a game. There cannot be a winner and…
045 – Can You Face the Music?
Nov 2, 2010 • 58 min
So often in our marriages we fail to take responsibility for our actions. Have you ever not apologized? Just swept the issue “under the rug”? Waited for everything to blow over? STOP IT! It’s does not matter if you get the words right, what matters is…
044 – On the Road Again
Oct 26, 2010 • 54 min
Can the two of you maintain your intimacy while one is away and the other is at home? You both want to make sure that intimacy stays a priority in your marriage, but how do you make that happen when there is so much to do! Grab your drink of choice, sit…
043 – I Don’t Want the World, I Want YOU!
Oct 19, 2010 • 60 min
Have you stopped to think about what your spouse and family really want from you? Do you know that most of them would be willing to have less “stuff” if it meant more of you? Part of making your marriage extraordinary is investing in the relationships…
042 – Do I Really Want to Make a Change?
Oct 12, 2010 • 56 min
Are you just talking about change or are you ready to step up to the plate and make things happen in your marriage? It’s time to stop trying and start doing! Whether it’s getting in shape or trying a new position make things happen today. It’s easy to…
041 – Is Your Marriage an Adventure or a Burden?
Oct 5, 2010 • 59 min
Have you taken the time to think about how you view your marriage? Every relationship has highs and lows but the difference is all in your mindset. Do you choose to look at the future wondering what is around the corner or do you dread every day. This…
040 – Screw the Kids…This is Our Marriage
Sep 28, 2010 • 61 min
Are you focusing more on your kids than on your spouse? It’s time to teach yourselves and the kids that they are not the center of the universe. It is so easy to get wrapped up in what the kids need that we lose sight of what our marriage needs and our…
039 – Heaven Help Us!
Sep 21, 2010 • 63 min
Week 6 – Stripped Down 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage Small Group Podcast This week we wrap up our small group podcast on Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage. Over the past 6 weeks we dove into the other 11 Keys…
038 – Is Your Bedroom a Sanctuary?
Sep 14, 2010 • 57 min
Week 5 – Stripped Down 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage Small Group Podcast It’s time to take some action this week, starting with your bedroom. Your bedroom needs to be a sanctuary, a place where the two of you can get away from it all.…
037 – Looking Good and Feeling Good
Sep 7, 2010 • 64 min
Week 4 – Stripped Down 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage Small Group Podcast Have you thought about how being physically active impacts your marriage? Yes, you know the kind that makes your heart rate beat fast in your chest while the sweat…
036 – What If?
Aug 31, 2010 • 58 min
What if we had never done the 60 Days of Sex Challenge? Where would our own marriage be today? Where would the ONE Community be? We talk through the last two years and challenge you to stop asking the “what if” question and start doing something today to…
035 – Pencil Me In
Aug 24, 2010 • 59 min
This episode is sponsored by Blow Up My Marriage! Week 3 – Stripped Down 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage Small Group Podcast Challenge yourself this week to show your spouse just how much they matter by getting them on your calendar.…
034 – Can We Talk?
Aug 17, 2010 • 54 min
Week 2 – Stripped Down 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage Small Group Podcast Communication is vital to any marriage and it’s importance cannot be overstated. You need to work past the surface conversation and learn about what is really going…
033 – From the Top Down & More…
Aug 10, 2010 • 55 min
This is the first of our small group podcast on Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Marriage. Each week we will be coving the different Keys that you can use in your marriage today, tomorrow, and into the future to build passion, romance, &…
032 – Home Sweet Home
Aug 3, 2010 • 58 min
We spent last week in Morro Bay on our family vacation. We had a lot of fun together and a few not so fun times. Just goes to show that we are still a work in progress and that this thing called marriage takes on-going effort. Come join us as we recount…
031 – Queen Size Bed
Jul 27, 2010 • 16 min
This week we are not in the studio aka the garage, but instead podcasting from a rock overlooking Morro Bay. We used our digital recorder and Tony’s portion is a bit crackly. Sorry about this and we’ll make sure to have this corrected the next time.…
030 – Sex In The Bedroom
Jul 20, 2010 • 58 min
Are you able to share your sexual passions and desires to your spouse? What’s keeping you from having meaningful conversation about this area of your life? There are so many distractions pulling us in so many directions that we forget that God has given…
029 – But Nothing
Jul 13, 2010 • 53 min
Do you put a period or a comma after “I’m sorry”? If you are putting a comma, then think about this. When you qualify your apology you minimize the apology and put the blame for your actions/reactions on the other person. What impact does this have on…
028 – Life Insurance, Is It Worth It?
Jul 6, 2010 • 59 min
It’s a tough conversation to have but one that is so worth it…what happens if one of us dies? Are we adequately prepared in terms of life insurance? After seeing a family member deal with the unexpected loss of her husband 4 years ago we both increased…
027 – The Whole Enchilada
Jun 29, 2010 • 52 min
Are you loving your spouse with your whole self, serving them in all areas or are you just giving them a part of yourself? Intimacy involves more than just the physical intimacy we think of most the time. There is emotional, intellectual, recreational,…
026 – It’s Summertime
Jun 22, 2010 • 50 min
How do you make intimacy a priority when schedules are all over the place? With kids out of school, vacations, late nights and other unpredictability what are you doing to make your spouse #1? How are you being creative this summer? We are finding ways to…
025 – Getting Away
Jun 15, 2010 • 53 min
It’s time to get away with your spouse and reconnect. Getting away gives you the opportunity to have those deep conversations, to sleep late and explore new places with your one and only.Getting away allows you to refocus your priorities and make your…
024 – When It’s Not On The Radar Screen
Jun 8, 2010 • 46 min
What does your marriage look like when intimacy is not on the radar screen? We had a personal case study last week and it wasn’t pretty. It is never too late to make intimacy a priority in your marriage, it just takes making a decision and making the…
023 – Get Unplugged and Find Your Connection
Jun 1, 2010 • 52 min
We spent Memorial Day weekend unplugged out at Agua Caliente State Park…no phones, no computers, no video games. It was an amazing time of re-discovering the joys that we have in each other. It was a weekend of togetherness, laughter and conversations.…
022 – Is It Safe To Share My Emotions
May 25, 2010 • 53 min
Have you created a marriage where it is safe to share your emotions-both the good and the bad? Are you willing to let the person, who is supposed to love you the most, in on what is truly going on with you? It’s a struggle for us and we share the ups and…
021 – All is Fair in Love and Marriage…
May 18, 2010 • 57 min
Do you feel like things aren’t fair in your marriage? Are you busier keeping track of who did what than how you are serving your spouse? Listen as we respond to a twitter question about whether marriage is fair or can be fair. We talk through our own…
020 – Shaking Things UP!
May 11, 2010 • 55 min
Has your marriage fallen into a rut? Do you want to break out of the routines both emotionally and sexually? Join us for the 1st Annual 7 Days of Sex Challenge. Today we talk about the details and how this can be transformational for your marriage. This…
019 – God Wants You to Make an Impact
May 6, 2010 • 53 min
Small acts done with great love can transform the world. -Jill Todd Do you realize the power that you have? Every day we are presented with opportunities to change someone’s life be it through a conversation, a situation, a prayer. This isn’t about the…
018 – Interview: Facebook and Your Marriage
May 4, 2010 • 38 min
We are pleased to have had the chance to interview Jason & Kelli Krafsky authors of Facebook and Your Marriage. Jason & Kelli have been married since 1994 and been on Facebook since 2008. They have written a number of articles, including “How Facebook Can…
017 – Are You too Tired to Try?
Apr 29, 2010 • 51 min
Have you worn yourself down? Are there too many “things” demanding your attention? In this weeks podcast we tackle the issue of fatigue in our marriage and how it has the ability to wreak havoc on our marriage and your relationships. We don’t always get…
016 – An Attitude of Service
Apr 22, 2010 • 55 min
Do you have an attitude of service in your marriage? You can make a difference in your marriage, in your life, in the world. By choosing to serve, without expectation or requirement of a return, you free yourself to fully enjoy intimacy. You choose to…
015 – How Do You Like to be Touched
Apr 15, 2010 • 51 min
We crave physical touch both non-sexual and sexual. Are you able to communicate your desires to your spouse? Are you open to what your spouse might suggest? This week we challenge you to share your desires and make a commitment to deepen the intimacy in…
014 – Family Gatherings
Apr 8, 2010 • 36 min
In California we drive. We drive a lot to tell you the truth so this week on our drive home from Easter with the DiLorenzo family we decided to make use of our drive time. Join Alisa and I as we talk about the family dynamics during a holiday get…
013 – The Difference One Week Can Make in Your Marriage
Apr 1, 2010 • 37 min
Can 7 days really make a difference in your marriage? We are placing bets that it can. Decide that for one week your spouse is going to be your number one priority and see what happens. Celebrate as you rediscover the communication in your marriage. Why?…
012 – Fireproof
Mar 28, 2010 • 30 min
“Never leave your partner, especially in a fire.” We are a little behind the times but better late than never. This is an amazing movie that will dramatically impact you wherever you are in your marriage. At so many points throughout the movie we found…
011 – Our Beginning…How the Romance Started
Mar 25, 2010 • 50 min
We step back in time to talk about how it all started for us. It was the summer of 1994 when Alisa came to the University of Colorado at Boulder on an internship program. I was a student, cook, and maintenance man around the fraternity house where she was…
010 – Can You Admit When You Are Wrong?
Mar 18, 2010 • 33 min
Can you admit when you are wrong? Or are you quick to jump on the defensive when your spouse brings up an issue? Listen in as we share our less than perfect week. I (Alisa) was moody and irritable, quick to dismiss anything that Tony had to say. Listen to…
009 – Are You Dating Your Spouse?
Mar 11, 2010 • 31 min
You’ve heard everyone talk about it…but are you doing it? Date night that is. Low budget or over the top, spending time with your spouse is critical to the life of your marriage. Listen as we talk about some of our most recent date nights and what you can…
008 – Eyes Wide Open
Mar 4, 2010 • 35 min
Are you able to communicate your desires to your spouse? How do you react when he/she suggests trying something new. In this podcast Tony and Alisa talk about one of Tony’s ideas and how it played out in the bedroom. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a…
007 – Pornography: A Secret That Can Destroy Your Marriage
Feb 25, 2010 • 60 min
Are you aware of the destructive force that pornography can have in your marriage? 28,358 individuals are viewing porn every second Internet porn generated $2.84 billion in 2006 70% of porn is viewed between the 9-5 eight-hour workday (LJ INdex, September…
006 – Power of Prayer
Feb 18, 2010 • 31 min
The Power of Prayer…change is possible, are you willing to ask for what you want and wait for it to happen? In our microwave society we want what we want RIGHT NOW! The reality is this: we can’t change our spouse or their actions no matter how much we…
005 – Sex: Quantity vs Quality
Feb 11, 2010 • 32 min
It’s the ultimate marriage chicken and egg scenario…Are you satisfied with less frequent mind blowing sex? OR Does more frequent sex lead to better sex because you learn how to better please your spouse? We weigh in on these options and discuss what has…
004 – Listener Feedback
Feb 4, 2010 • 54 min
In this episode we answer a number of questions from one of our listeners about ONE Extraordinary Marriage. Click here to read the email. Some of the questions we answer are: Who we are? Why we are doing this? Where did ONE come from? Why an Extraordinary…
003 – Rejection: Our McDonald’s Theory
Jan 28, 2010 • 36 min
Have you ever given any thought to the power the word NO has on your marriage? What might be a minor decision for a wife/husband (do we or don’t we make love tonight) can have a larger impact on our marriages, especially if the rejection is repeated…
002 – Can We Talk?
Jan 21, 2010 • 30 min
Do your talks with your spouse go beyond the small talk about the weather and the kids? Is there a yearning to go deeper in your conversations? Are you wondering how to get the conversation started? Join us as we talk about how we use communicate in our…
001 – 60 Days of Sex
Jan 13, 2010 • 34 min
Eleven years and our marriage had gone through a lot and yet the pain we endured didn’t have to be there forever. So on a fateful day Tony & Alisa began an adventure that would forever change their lives. Since this first show came out we have had…