The Art of Charm

The Art of Charm

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The Art of Charm is where self-motivated people, just like you, come to learn from the company’s coaches about to how to master human dynamics, relationships, and becoming your best self with the help of Johnny and AJ, the company’s founders. Johnny and AJ bring their 11 years of coaching experience from their famous Bootcamps, where they host clients in Los Angeles from all over the world and they share their stories, best practices and themselves on this weekly podcast. Not only does The Art of Charm help everyday people, including active members of the military, learn how to become higher performers, better spouses, partners, and coworkers, they dig deep into human behavior, the science behind it, and demystify what we do and why we do it.
734: 3 Phases of Habit Building You Need to Know
Dec 10 • 57 min
Building (or breaking) a new habit can effectively be broken into 3 different phases, each with its own challenge which can prevent you from reaching the next one - but what are the 3 phases, how can awareness of each one assist you, and is a new habit…
733: Toolbox: How to Build Habits that Stick
Dec 3 • 79 min
Building habits is a gradual and effective process that can forever change your life when done right - but what goes into habits in the first place, what is the most effective way to break/build habits, and how can you use science and self-awareness to…
732: Goals: how to pick ‘em & achieve ‘em | Chris Tye-Walker
Nov 26 • 73 min
Physical fitness can play a significant role in rebuilding your confidence, but what all goes into achieving a desired level of fitness, how do you set goals to ensure steady progress, and how does the pursuit of health and fitness improve your life…
731: BONUS with Phillip Stutts
Nov 22 • 60 min
As we progress further down the path of technology and electronic communication, digital marketing is playing a bigger role than ever, so what is it, how does it affect you in today’s world, and what can you do to make sure you’re using it to help you…
730: Master Your Mindset with David Goggins
Nov 19 • 84 min
We are all capable of more than we think because many of us don’t push ourselves beyond the limit our mind tells us we have - so what does it mean to master your mindset, why is it so beneficial to externalize your insecurities and fears, and how can you…
729: Self-esteem is Bullshit
Nov 12 • 79 min
Many of us grew up in a world that praised the idea of having high self-esteem - but what exactly is self-esteem, why have we been wrongly focused on it for so long, and what do we need to focus on moving forward? What to Listen ForWhy is artificially…
728: How to Bounce Back From Challenging Times
Nov 5 • 90 min
If you want to want to flourish no matter what life throws at you, you must develop a solid foundation of resilience - but what is resilience, why is it so important to our overall happiness and success in life, and how do we make sure we have enough of…
727: Sugar Ray Leonard
Oct 29 • 61 min
Sugar Ray Leonard is regarded as one of the greatest boxers of all time, but did you know he battled social anxiety and substance abuse during his career? We all face obstacles in life on our individual paths to success, so how can we take a solid…
726: 5 Hacks to Improve Your Listening | Q&A w/ Oscar Trimboli
Oct 22 • 66 min
Many of us take listening for granted because we do it all day every day, but did you know there are multiple layers to listening and many of us only focus on one of them - so what does it mean to listen in color versus black and white, how can you vastly…
725: Boost Your Emotional Intelligence w/ Michael Ventura
Oct 15 • 87 min
Cultivating empathy is crucial in developing solid relationships in our personal and professional lives — but what exactly is it, how is it different from sympathy, why did Michael Ventura found a company based on it, and what steps can we start taking…
724: How to Deepen Your Connection With Others | Article
Oct 8 • 76 min
Technology in the digital age has made it easier than ever to form new connections and stay in touch with old ones, but it’s also led to increased loneliness and flakiness as people rack up more screen time and less face time, so why is this, why is…
723: Why Vulnerability Leads to Connection | Toolbox
Oct 1 • 69 min
We all rely on 3 levels of connection when it comes to meeting people — but what are they, do we have to follow them in order, and how do we know what level we’re on with someone? WHAT TO LISTEN FORWhat are the 3 levels of connection and why is it…
722: What Matters Most in a Difficult Conversation | Q&A w/ Andrea J. Lee
Sep 24 • 100 min
In this episode of The Art of Charm, AJ (@AJHarbinger) and Johnny (@AOCJohnny) wrap up September’s month of Emotional Bids. Before answering listener questions, they speak with Andrea Lee (andreajlee.com), an accomplished coach, successful author, and…
721: How to Improve Your Workplace Communication | Michael Sorensen
Sep 17 • 61 min
On this episode of the Art of Charm, AJ (@AJHarbinger) and Johnny (@AOCJohnny) take emotional bids to the next level by speaking with an expert on validation - one of the most important parts of human connection. That expert is Michael Sorensen, a…
720: Turning Toward Emotion | Article
Sep 10 • 60 min
AJ (@AJHarbinger) and Johnny (@AOCJohnny) continue the theme of Emotional Bids by discussing practical ways to deepen and strengthen the connections with the people in our lives. Their source for this week’s discussion comes from a Gottman Institute…
719: Why Emotional Connection Makes or Breaks a Relationship | ToolBox
Sep 4 • 73 min
In this episode, AJ and Johnny speak on the importance of “emotional bids,” and how to successfully identify and respond to them to create a deeper connection with the people around you. We start with a look at the clinical researcher, Dr. John Gottman…
718: Overcoming Social Anxiety in your Career | Q&A w/ Chris “Drama” Pfaff
Aug 26 • 76 min
Christopher “Drama” Pfaff (@drama) is an entrepreneur, producer, and reality TV star. He is best known for his roles in the MTV reality shows “Rob and Big” and “Rob Dyrdek’s Fantasy Factory”. In addition, he has founded “Young & Reckless Clothing” as well…
717: Beat Approach Anxiety | Alex Banayan
Aug 19 • 81 min
In this episode, AJ and Johnny interview Alex Banayan (@AlexBanayan), author of “The Third Door” about his 7-year journey to interview some of the most successful people in the world. Alex shares detail about his struggles to reach his dream and the…
716: 8 Tips to Keep the Conversation Going
Aug 12 • 60 min
How do you take a conversation to the next level and create real connection? In this episode of The Art of Charm podcast, AJ and Johnny explain 8 fundamental steps to develop a relationship beyond just a brief interaction with a stranger on the train,…
715: The Art of Compelling Conversations
Aug 5 • 69 min
In this episode, AJ and Johnny share stories of how they’ve built connections with others and improved upon them — then explore them from a scientific perspective. In their quest to reach the perfect balance, they talk about how vital opening up the door…
714: The Art of the Pitch With Oren Klaff
Jul 29 • 113 min
On today’s episode of The Art of Charm we are speaking with investor, venture capitalist, and author—Oren Klaff. Oren has raised over $2 billion by understanding the prehistoric part of our brain (the “croc-brain”). Tune in to this episode to hear Oren…
713: The Art of Gaining Interest with Chris Williams
Jul 22 • 72 min
This week’s Q&A Episode features actor, comedian, and magician Chris Williams. His resume is as diverse as his performance credits. You may know him as Hoover from Silicon Valley, Krazee Eyez Killa from Curb Your Enthusiasm, or Dwight from Dodgeball. He…
712: The Like Switch: Dr. Jack Schafer
Jul 15 • 72 min
Our guest is former FBI Special Agent, author, and professor – Dr. Jack Schafer. In the past, Dr. Schafer has developed spy recruitment techniques, interviewed terrorists, and trained agents in the art of interrogation and persuasion. Today, he shares…
711: The Art of Talking to Strangers
Jul 8 • 68 min
“There are no strangers here, only friends you haven’t met yet.” – William Butler Think about it – at one point in time everyone in our lives was a stranger – even our closest friend. Whether we are trying to strike up a conversation at a networking…
710: The Art of Breaking the Ice
Jul 1 • 67 min
This episode kicks off The Art of Charm’s series on Breaking the Ice. After learning The Art of the First Impression - it’s time to dig into how to start engaging conversations that genuinely capture the other person’s interest. AJ and Johnny walk us…
709: Q&A: The Art of Style
Jun 24 • 114 min
This week’s Q&A Episode wraps up our series on first impressions, and dive into conversation about style and the art of the first impression with two style experts. LA Based fashion expert and stylist Melissa Chataigne & Real Men Real Style Founder -…
708: The Art of Living - With Jesse Itzler
Jun 17 • 71 min
On today’s episode The Art of Charm is honored to welcome back Jesse Itzler. His first podcast ever was The Art of Charm - and in today’s episode we catch up with him to learn what he’s added to his “life resumé” since we saw him last. Some of our…
707: The Art of Body Language
Jun 10 • 66 min
Whether we’re meeting someone for the first time or trying to elevate ourselves to that next level—body language plays an integral part in our presentation of self. Listen to this episode to learn the importance of body language in our social…
706: The Art of the First Impression
Jun 3 • 87 min
We’re not sure why people aren’t responding to us. We think we’re good at reading people. On today’s episode, we are discussing how to make the best first impression. Whether you’re a CEO trying to better connect with your employees, an introvert wishing…
705: AoC Podcast | Don’t Try To Be Funny: The Art of Improv
May 28 • 61 min
Life is improv. There is no script, no directors, no instruction manual for how to be successful. It’s all improvised. So to be good at life, you have to be good at improv. Erin and Suzanne are professional comedic improvisers here in Los Angeles and…
704: AoC Podcast | The Bad House Guest: Cognitive Distortions
May 22 • 94 min
Our perception of reality is dependent on our thoughts. So if our thoughts are infected, then our lives will be too. That’s why on today’s episode of The Art of Charm we are discussing the 10 most common “cognitive distortions”; those irrational and often…
703: AoC Podcast | The Power of Accountability
May 16 • 80 min
We all have goals and aspirations, but how many of us take the time to share and vocalize those goals or support our friends as they try to achieve their goals? On today’s episode, we are discussing the importance of accountability. We, at The Art of…
702: AoC Podcast | Brutal Truths Part 2
May 9 • 55 min
On last week’s episode, we dove deep into life’s most brutal truths. This week, we are continuing the conversation with Part 2, where we examine more of the complicated truths we run away from. Here is what we cover: The Cheat Sheet:How does emotional…
701: AoC Podcast | Brutal Truths Part 1
Apr 30 • 51 min
We all want attention, approval, and acceptance. But we can’t expect others to give us that if we don’t approve of ourselves. Most often, the reason we struggle with self-acceptance is because we are running away from the brutal truths of life. In today’s…
700: AoC Podcast | The Myth of Perfectionism
Apr 18 • 54 min
Are you a perfectionist? Or, are you just using that term to justify inaction? Tune into this episode of The Art of Charm to learn what’s at the root of perfectionism, and why we use a myth to cover up our fear of failure. The Cheat Sheet: What is the…
699: AoC Podcast | Johnny Interviews AJ
Apr 13 • 88 min
Last week we learned all about AoC co-host Johnny Dzubak (@dzubak). This week, we’re turning the spotlight around to hear the life story of AJ. How did he go from science wiz to football player? And then from cancer biologist to Art of Charm co-founder?…
698: AoC Podcast | AJ Interviews Johnny
Apr 2 • 72 min
Johnny Dzubak (@dzubak) grew up in Greensburg, PA, honed his musical chops in Chapel Hill, NC, and now runs The Art of Charm in Los Angeles, CA with AJ. But how did he get from there to here? Listen while Johnny shares his story. The Cheat Sheet: Who is…
697: AoC Toolbox | High Value Conflict Resolution
Mar 26 • 56 min
There’s a fine line between pushy and pushover. In this toolbox episode, we learn 10 ways to maintain resolve and stay high value in personal and professional conflict situations. “Let us never negotiate out of fear. But let us never fear to negotiate.”…
696: AoC Toolbox | Mental Models and Frameworks
Mar 17 • 61 min
Mental models and frameworks guide the way we make decisions in everyday life — but what are they, where do we get them, and how can we make sure we’re not sticking with outdated defaults? The Cheat Sheet: Mental models are our beliefs about ourselves,…
695: AoC Value Toolbox | Leading with Value
Mar 7 • 64 min
In order to welcome high value people into our lives, we have to make sure we’re leading with value ourselves. Here’s what we can do to make it happen. The Cheat Sheet: Even the highest value people have bad days where they exhibit low value behaviors.…
694: AoC Value Toolbox | Becoming High Value
Feb 28 • 64 min
Your heroes and role models are probably what most would consider high value people. Listen to this episode of The Art of Charm to learn how to soar to their inspirational ranks rather than sinking to the selfish temptations of low value living. The Cheat…
693: AoC Value Toolbox | Identifying Low Value Behaviors
Feb 20 • 58 min
Do you unknowingly exhibit low value behaviors that keep you from connecting with others? Check out this episode of The Art of Charm to identify and renounce these low value behaviors for good. The Cheat Sheet: What does it mean to be a high value…
692: John Heffron | The Laughs You Deserve
Feb 1 • 57 min
John Heffron (@JohnHeffron) is a comedian who emerged victorious from the second season of NBC’s Last Comic Standing, has appeared in numerous comedy specials, and just released his latest album, The Laughs You Deserve from the ’70s, ’80s, ’90s, and…
691: Eric Thomas | The Hip Hop Preacher
Jan 30 • 66 min
Eric Thomas (@ericthomasbtc) is a motivational speaker, YouTube personality, podcaster, pastor, director of Breathe University, and author of several books, including The Secret to Success: When You Want to Succeed as Bad as You Want to Breathe. “Don’t…
690: Allan Pease | Definitive Body Language
Jan 25 • 63 min
Allan Pease (@AllanPease) is an Australian body language expert and co-author of 18 bestselling books on communication who once taught Vladimir Putin how to read western body language. The Cheat Sheet: Find out how Allan Pease began building his expertise…
689: Leo Babauta | Zen Habits
Jan 23 • 80 min
Leo Babauta (@zen_habits) of Zen Habits shares how he’s modified his own behavior to conquer bad habits and create good ones. The Cheat Sheet: Find out how an overweight smoker resigned to living in Guam broke a laundry list of bad habits to move to…
Fan Mail Friday #150 | Chuck Norris vs. Podcast
Jan 19 • 57 min
Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we’ll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. Let’s cut to it! In this episode: How do you build a closer, stronger relationship with a parent who’s…
688: Lewis Howes | The Mask of Masculinity
Jan 18 • 54 min
Lewis Howes (@LewisHowes) rejoins us to discuss his latest book, The Mask of Masculinity: How Men Can Embrace Vulnerability, Create Strong Relationships, and Live Their Fullest Lives. “We aren’t able to fully heal until we start sharing the things we’re…
687: Paul Gilmartin | A Principled Life
Jan 16 • 58 min
Paul Gilmartin (@mentalpod) is the host and producer of The Mental Illness Happy Hour Podcast, known for his brutal honesty, authenticity, and transparency. The Cheat Sheet: How addiction works as a frame of mind and what a support group offers an addict…
Fan Mail Friday #149 | Meta Electroshock Sex
Jan 12 • 42 min
Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we’ll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. Let’s cut to it! In this episode: How feasible is online dating for someone in the public eye? How do you…
686: Akshay Nanavati | Fearvana
Jan 11 • 67 min
Akshay Nanavati (@fearvanalife) was on the brink of suicide, but overcame drug addiction, alcoholism, and PTSD from fighting in Iraq with the US Marines. He is the author of Fearvana: The Revolutionary Science of How to Turn Fear Into Health, Wealth, and…
685: David DeSteno | Emotional Success
Jan 9 • 56 min
David DeSteno (@daviddesteno) is a professor of psychology at Northeastern University and author of Emotional Success: The Power of Gratitude, Compassion, and Pride. The Cheat Sheet: Why is delaying gratification so hard and why is it important? Why…
Fan Mail Friday #148 | Long Distance Feng Shui
Jan 5 • 46 min
Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we’ll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. Let’s cut to it! In this episode: What’s your first step when you suspect child abuse is going on in your…
684: Celeste Headlee | We Need to Talk
Jan 4 • 72 min
Celeste Headlee (@CelesteHeadlee) is the host of On Second Thought at Georgia Public Broadcasting in Atlanta and has been a host and correspondent for NPR and PRI since 2006. She is the author of We Need to Talk: How to Have Conversations That Matter.…
Fan Mail Friday #147 | Pumpkin Pie for Breakfast
Dec 29, 2017 • 62 min
Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we’ll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. In this episode: What’s wrong with eating pumpkin pie for breakfast? Are long distance, lack of…
682: Steve Sims | Making Things Happen
Dec 28, 2017 • 59 min
Steve Sims (@SteveDSims1) is the CEO and founder of Bluefish, an exclusive, members-only luxury concierge service for VIP and executive clients, and the author of Bluefishing: The Art of Making Things Happen. The Cheat Sheet: What’s the chug test and how…
681: Christopher Lochhead | Category Design
Dec 26, 2017 • 54 min
Christopher Lochhead (@lochhead) is a former entrepreneur, retired Silicon Valley three-time public company CMO, category designer, host of the Legends & Losers Podcast, and co-author of Play Bigger: How Pirates, Dreamers, and Innovators Create and…
Fan Mail Friday #146 | Don’t Dip the Pen in Company Ink
Dec 22, 2017 • 50 min
Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we’ll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. In this episode: What can you do to ensure the TSA won’t steal from your luggage? How do you make sure a…
680: Ulrich Boser | Learn Better
Dec 21, 2017 • 54 min
Ulrich Boser (@ulrichboser) is a senior fellow at the Center for American Progress and the author of Learn Better: Mastering the Skills for Success in Life, Business, and School, or, How to Become an Expert in Just about Anything. The Cheat Sheet: What’s…
679: Michele Rigby Assad | My Secret Life in the CIA
Dec 19, 2017 • 75 min
Michele Rigby Assad (@michelerigassad) is an international security consultant, trainer, and author of the book Breaking Cover: My Secret Life in the CIA and What it Taught Me About What’s Worth Fighting For. The Cheat Sheet: Is working undercover for the…
Fan Mail Friday #145 | Less Brutal
Dec 15, 2017 • 42 min
Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we’ll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. We’re trying to keep this a little lighter than last week’s episode because we don’t have Linda Carroll on…
678: Meg Jay | Supernormal Resilience
Dec 14, 2017 • 50 min
Meg Jay (@drmegjay) is a clinical psychologist specializing in adult development and the author of Supernormal: The Untold Story of Adversity and Resilience. The Cheat Sheet: 75 percent of us have grown up dealing with some form of adversity. Being…
677: Kevin Harrington | As Seen on TV
Dec 12, 2017 • 62 min
Kevin Harrington (@HarringtonKevin) is the innovator who invented infomercials, one of the original “sharks” on ABC’s Shark Tank, and the co-author of Put A Shark In Your Tank. “If a guy named ‘Chubby’ walks into your office with a fitness product, you…
Fan Mail Friday #144 | Cracking Knuckles with Brutal Linda
Dec 8, 2017 • 56 min
Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we’ll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. As an added bonus, therapist and Love Cycles author Linda Carroll joins us — and if you haven’t caught her…
676: Susan David | Emotional Agility
Dec 7, 2017 • 62 min
Susan David (@susandavid_phd) is a psychologist on faculty at Harvard Medical School, co-founder and co-director of the Institute of Coaching at McLean Hospital, CEO of Evidence Based Psychology, and author of Emotional Agility: Get Unstuck, Embrace…
675: Justin Ramsdell | Rotten Psychology
Dec 5, 2017 • 59 min
Justin Ramsdell is a clinical psychologist and an assistant professor of forensic psychology at George Mason University. His current work focuses on law enforcement interactions with individuals with severe mental illnesses, crisis de-escalation, and the…
Fan Mail Friday #143 | Sidekicks and Socialites
Dec 1, 2017 • 48 min
Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we’ll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. If you’re new to The Art of Charm Podcast, this isn’t a great place to start. Most of our content is more…
674: AoC Toolbox | What to Do If You’re Stuck
Nov 30, 2017 • 32 min
Being stuck isn’t a barrier to greatness; it’s part of greatness. Here are nine things you can do right now to get un-stuck and on your way to greatness. The Cheat Sheet: Losing momentum happens to everyone, no matter the task at hand. Consider it a…
673: A.J. Jacobs | It’s All Relative
Nov 28, 2017 • 56 min
A.J. Jacobs (@ajjacobs) is a New York Times best-selling author who went on a quest to help build the biggest family tree in history, as detailed in his latest book It’s All Relative: Adventures Up and Down the World’s Family Tree. The Cheat Sheet: What…
Fan Mail Friday #142 | Bits of Cod
Nov 24, 2017 • 34 min
Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we’ll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. If you’re new to The Art of Charm Podcast, this isn’t a great place to start. Most of our content is more…
672: Kevin Rose | From Rose to Oak
Nov 23, 2017 • 64 min
Kevin Rose (@kevinrose) founded social news site Digg, created fasting tracker Zero, made meditation app Oak, and hosts a podcast called The Kevin Rose Show where he explores how to reach peak personal and professional performance while living a minimal…
671: Corbin Payne | How to Interact with the Police
Nov 21, 2017 • 63 min
Corbin Payne (@the_sue_chef), aka The Sue Chef, is a criminal defense attorney who explains why the innocent as well as the guilty should know how to interact with the police in a way that protects their own rights. The Cheat Sheet: What are your rights…
Minisode Monday #80 | How to Ask Questions That Uncover Motivation
Nov 20, 2017 • 3 min
Welcome to Minisode Monday, where we kick off the week with something quick and actionable — to make you more magnetic and effective — that you can implement right away. Are you trying to understand the motivation behind someone’s alleged actions? Here’s…
Fan Mail Friday #141 | Dichromats, Trichromats, and Doormats
Nov 17, 2017 • 39 min
Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we’ll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. Let’s cut to it! In this episode: What do you say when you meet a celebrity — without being awkward? Is it…
669: Scott Adams | Win Bigly
Nov 14, 2017 • 69 min
Scott Adams (@ScottAdamsSays) of Dilbert fame revisits us to discuss his new book Win Bigly: Persuasion in a World Where Facts Don’t Matter. “Nobody ever won an argument with an analogy.” -Scott Adams The Cheat Sheet: Is Scott Adams a Trump supporter?…
Minisode Monday #79 | Why We’re More Productive on Airplanes (and How to Be When We’re Not)
Nov 13, 2017 • 8 min
Welcome to Minisode Monday, where we kick off the week with something quick and actionable — to make you more magnetic and effective — that you can implement right away. Finish: Give Yourself the Gift of Done author Jon Acuff rejoins us (hear his most…
Fan Mail Friday #140 | I Don’t Love Being Lamp
Nov 10, 2017 • 40 min
Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we’ll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. If you’re new to The Art of Charm Podcast, this isn’t a great place to start. Most of our content is more…
668: Jon Acuff | The Gift of Done
Nov 9, 2017 • 66 min
Jon Acuff (@jonacuff) returns to the show to discuss his new book Finish: Give Yourself the Gift of Done. “If culture’s doing its job, you shouldn’t reward middle. You should reward finish.” -Jon Acuff The Cheat Sheet: Why are only eight percent of new…
667: Tom Bilyeu | Impact Theory
Nov 7, 2017 • 58 min
Tom Bilyeu (@TomBilyeu) is a co-founder of Quest Nutrition, co-founder of media company Impact Theory, and host of the accompanying Impact Theory podcast. The Cheat Sheet: Why the fastest way to learn is to teach. Developing a growth mindset (per previous…
Minisode Monday #78 | Harnessing Emotions for Powerful Storytelling
Nov 6, 2017 • 12 min
Welcome to Minisode Monday, where we kick off the week with something quick and actionable — to make you more magnetic and effective — that you can implement right away. Marsha Shandur of Yes Yes Marsha rejoins us (check out her full episode here) with…
Fan Mail Friday #139 | Weed on the Tweed
Nov 3, 2017 • 41 min
Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we’ll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. If you’re new to The Art of Charm Podcast, this isn’t a great place to start. Most of our content is more…
666: Bob Sutton | The Asshole Survival Guide
Nov 2, 2017 • 55 min
Bob Sutton (@work_matters) is a Stanford Business School professor and author of New York Times Bestseller The No Asshole Rule and, most recently, The Asshole Survival Guide: How to Deal with People Who Treat You Like Dirt. “Be slow to label others as…
665: Aubrey Marcus | An Optimized Life
Oct 31, 2017 • 62 min
Aubrey Marcus (@AubreyMarcus) is a multisport athlete, founder and CEO of holistic health and fitness powerhouse Onnit, and author of the upcoming Own the Day, Own Your Life: Optimized Practices for Waking, Working, Learning, Eating, Training, Playing,…
Minisode Monday #77 | How to Curate the Influence of People Around Us
Oct 30, 2017 • 6 min
Welcome to Minisode Monday, where we kick off the week with something quick and actionable — to make you more magnetic and effective — that you can implement right away. We’ve all heard we’re the sum of the five people with whom we spend the most time.…
Fan Mail Friday #138 | Don’t Hug Me, Bro
Oct 27, 2017 • 63 min
Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we’ll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. If you’re new to The Art of Charm Podcast, this isn’t a great place to start. Most of our content is more…
664: AoC Toolbox | Five Fundamentals of a Solid Approach
Oct 26, 2017 • 47 min
The Art of Charm (@TheArtofCharm) trio of Johnny, AJ, and Jordan lay out the five fundamentals of a solid approach when you want to make an engaging connection with someone. “Welcome to AoC Dojo!” -AJ Harbinger The Cheat Sheet: If you want to engage in a…
663: Chris Guillebeau | Side Hustle
Oct 24, 2017 • 65 min
Chris Guillebeau (@chrisguillebeau) rejoins us to explain what a side hustle is and what a side hustle isn’t as outlined in his new book Side Hustle: From Idea to Income in 27 Days. The Cheat Sheet: Understand why you don’t need to be an “all-in”…
Minisode Monday #76 | The Three Rings of Perception
Oct 23, 2017 • 11 min
Welcome to Minisode Monday, where we kick off the week with something quick and actionable — to make you more magnetic and effective — that you can implement right away. This time around, Eyes Wide Open: Overcoming Obstacles and Recognizing Opportunities…
Fan Mail Friday #137 | Toxic Insecurity
Oct 20, 2017 • 67 min
Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we’ll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. This week, Kimberly Seltzer joins Jordan and Jason to set your questions right and help you course correct.…
662: Jeff Goins | Real Artists Don’t Starve
Oct 19, 2017 • 65 min
Jeff Goins (@JeffGoins) rejoins us to dispel a disheartening stereotype and discuss his new book Real Artists Don’t Starve: Timeless Strategies for Thriving in the New Creative Age. “A starving artist is somebody who is unnecessarily suffering for the…
661: Winifred Reilly | It Takes One to Tango
Oct 17, 2017 • 58 min
Winifred Reilly (@winifredmreilly) has been a marriage and family therapist for nearly forty years, runs relationship blog Speaking of Marriage, and is the author of It Takes One to Tango: How I Rescued My Marriage with (Almost) No Help from My Spouse —…
Minisode Monday #75 | The Small Talk Tennis Ball Drill
Oct 16, 2017 • 5 min
Welcome to Minisode Monday, where we kick off the week with something quick and actionable — to make you more magnetic and effective — that you can implement right away. This time around, we try the Tennis Ball Drill — an exercise designed to make small…
Fan Mail Friday #136 | Hamster Wheel of Hate
Oct 13, 2017 • 43 min
Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we’ll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. In this episode: How do you get people to speak up when you’re hearing impaired (and understand you’re not…
660: Too $hort | The Pimp Tape
Oct 12, 2017 • 53 min
Too $hort (@tooshort) is a pioneer West Coast rapper who has probably been making music for longer than you’ve been alive. His new album, The Pimp Tape, drops soon. “When I died, I sold another 1.3 million albums.” -Too $hort The Cheat Sheet: When and how…
659: Russell Brand | Freedom from Our Addictions
Oct 10, 2017 • 62 min
Russell Brand (@rustyrockets) is a comedian, broadcaster, actor, podcaster, columnist, political commentator, mental health and drug rehabilitation activist, and author of twelve books — most recently Recovery: Freedom from Our Addictions. “If you live…
Minisode Monday #74 | Psychological Halloweenism
Oct 9, 2017 • 8 min
Welcome to Minisode Monday, where we kick off the week with something quick and actionable — to make you more magnetic and effective — that you can implement right away. This time around, Tinker Dabble Doodle Try: Unlock the Power of the Unfocused Mind…
Fan Mail Friday #135 | Forwarding the Family Name
Oct 6, 2017 • 46 min
Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we’ll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. Let’s cut to it! In this episode: How can you strengthen your discipline muscles to keep from backsliding…
658: Noah Kagan | Limitations and Innovations
Oct 5, 2017 • 63 min
Noah Kagan (@noahkagan) is the Chief Sumo at Sumo.com and AppSumo.com, sharer of all manner of entrepreneurial wisdom at OkDork.com, and podcaster at Noah Kagan Presents. The Cheat Sheet: Why limitations often spur innovation. Why side hustles aren’t for…
657: Dorie Clark | Entrepreneurial You
Oct 3, 2017 • 59 min
Dorie Clark (@dorieclark) is a marketing strategist, adjunct professor of business administration at Duke University’s Fuqua School of Business, and author — most recently of Entrepreneurial You: Monetize Your Expertise, Create Multiple Income Streams,…
Minisode Monday #73 | The Positive Intent of Emotion
Oct 2, 2017 • 5 min
Welcome to Minisode Monday, where we kick off the week with something quick and actionable — to make you more magnetic and effective — that you can implement right away. This time around, we examine how even the negative emotions we experience originate…
Fan Mail Friday #134 | Less Ego, More Amigo
Sep 29, 2017 • 68 min
Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we’ll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. This week, Kimberly Seltzer joins Jordan and Jason to set your questions right and help you course correct.…
656: AoC Toolbox | Four Components of a First Impression
Sep 28, 2017 • 39 min
The Art of Charm (@TheArtofCharm) trio of Johnny, AJ, and Jordan talk about the four components of a first impression that begin even before the first words are exchanged: static, dynamic, self-presentation, and circumstance. “You can’t become a positive…
655: Roger Stone | Everyone Hates Roger Stone
Sep 26, 2017 • 59 min
Roger Stone (@RogerJStoneJr) is a political consultant, lobbyist, and strategist, subject of Netflix’s Get Me Roger Stone documentary, and author of The Making of the President 2016: How Donald Trump Orchestrated a Revolution. “One man’s dirty trick is…
Minisode Monday #72 | First Meetings for Spies, Anti-Spies, and Ordinary People
Sep 25, 2017 • 10 min
Welcome to Minisode Monday, where we kick off the week with something quick and actionable — to make you more magnetic and effective — that you can implement right away. When you agree to meet with someone for the first time — whether it’s over coffee to…
Fan Mail Friday #133 | Romance and Finance
Sep 22, 2017 • 32 min
Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we’ll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. Let’s cut to it! In this episode: How’s a college kid expected to get a date without owning a sweet ride?…
654: Admiral William H. McRaven | That’s So McRaven
Sep 21, 2017 • 58 min
Admiral William H. McRaven (@billmcraven) masterminded and executed the mission that brought down Osama bin Laden and is the author of Make Your Bed: Little Things That Can Change Your Life…And Maybe the World. “Opportunities, to me, are always the jobs…
653: Robin Dreeke | The Code of Trust
Sep 19, 2017 • 49 min
Robin Dreeke (@rdreeke) is a 28-year veteran of federal service, former head of the Counterintelligence Behavioral Analysis Program, and co-author of The Code of Trust: An American Counterintelligence Expert’s Five Rules to Lead and Succeed. “You can be…
Minisode Monday #71 | How Does Your Pet See the World?
Sep 18, 2017 • 3 min
This Minisode Monday, we try an exercise designed to make you consider the importance of perspective and useful illusions: how does your pet see the world? The Cheat Sheet: As we’ve learned from conversations with David Eagleman, Isaac Lidsky, and Jason…
Fan Mail Friday #132 | Lonely Lattes and Total Teetotalers
Sep 15, 2017 • 61 min
Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we’ll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. Let’s cut to it! In this episode: Can a relationship between a teetotaler and someone who enjoys the company…
652: Daniel McGinn | The Science of Mental Preparation
Sep 14, 2017 • 51 min
Daniel McGinn (@danmcginn) is a senior editor at Harvard Business Review, and the author of Psyched Up: How the Science of Mental Preparation Can Help You Succeed. The Cheat Sheet: How elite athletes and professionals deploy techniques to boost…
651: Frank Sesno | The Power of Questions
Sep 12, 2017 • 62 min
Frank Sesno (@franksesno) is an award-winning journalist with more than 30 years of experience, and the author of Ask More: The Power of Questions to Open Doors, Uncover Solutions, and Spark Change. “If you want to confront a problem, you have to go…
Minisode Monday #70 | How to Control Emotional Feedback with CIRCA
Sep 11, 2017 • 7 min
Welcome to Minisode Monday, where we kick off the week with something quick and actionable — to make you more magnetic and effective — that you can implement right away. When something goes wrong in our lives, sometimes we fixate on its emotional impact —…
Fan Mail Friday #131 | Complicated vs. Complex
Sep 8, 2017 • 48 min
Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we’ll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. Let’s cut to it! In this episode: Here’s an example of advertising selling only emotion because the product…
650: General Ann Dunwoody | A Higher Standard
Sep 7, 2017 • 46 min
General Ann Dunwoody (@AnnDunwoody) grew up as an Army brat in a family with four generations of West Pointers, became the first female four-star general in the US, and is the author of A Higher Standard: Leadership Strategies from America’s First Female…
649: Rob Reid | After On
Sep 5, 2017 • 81 min
Rob Reid (@Rob_Reid) is a tech entrepreneur (Listen.com, Rhapsody), early-stage tech investor, and author of New York Times Bestseller Year Zero: A Novel and, most recently, After On: A Novel of Silicon Valley. “The passage of time makes wizards of us…
Minisode Monday #69 | Why You Should Record Your Conversations with Strangers
Sep 4, 2017 • 5 min
Rob Reid (@Rob_Reid), author of After On: A Novel of Silicon Valley, will be joining us for a full episode tomorrow. But on this Minisode Monday, we share one of his exercises designed to help us cut back on some of the bad habits we have when conversing…
Fan Mail Friday #130 | The Other Guy in the Glass
Sep 1, 2017 • 25 min
Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we’ll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. Let’s cut to it! In this episode: When you’re a young female moving to a new city, is looking for roommates…
647: Charlamagne Tha God | Black Privilege
Aug 29, 2017 • 58 min
Charlamagne Tha God (@cthagod) is a radio presenter (The Breakfast Club Power 105.1 FM), television personality (Uncommon Sense Live), podcaster, and author of Black Privilege: Opportunity Comes to Those Who Create It. “Living scared gives you a sense of…
Minisode Monday #68 | An Everyday Way to Renew Contact with Old Acquaintances
Aug 28, 2017 • 5 min
Welcome to Minisode Monday, where we kick off the week with something quick and actionable — to make you more magnetic and effective — that you can implement right away. This time around, we talk about an easy, everyday habit you can cultivate to renew…
Fan Mail Friday #129 | Listening Instead of Thinking Ahead
Aug 25, 2017 • 32 min
Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we’ll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. Let’s cut to it! In this episode: How do you deal with a toxic co-worker who happens to be related to the…
646: Mark Divine | Unbeatable Mind
Aug 24, 2017 • 56 min
Mark Divine (@MarkDivine) is a former Navy SEAL Commander, SEALFIT founder, and author of Unbeatable Mind: Forge Resiliency and Mental Toughness to Succeed at an Elite Level. The Cheat Sheet: Why would a blueblood CPA decide to leave the family business…
645: Richard Clarke | Warnings, Cassandras, and Catastrophes
Aug 22, 2017 • 67 min
Richard Clarke (@ghsrm) is the former National Coordinator for Security, Infrastructure Protection, and Counter-Terrorism for the United States, and is the co-author of Warnings: Finding Cassandras to Stop Catastrophes. “When you’re a bureaucrat — an…
Minisode Monday #67 | Dabbling: Not Just for Dilettantes
Aug 21, 2017 • 9 min
Welcome to Minisode Monday, where we kick off the week with something quick and actionable — to make you more magnetic and effective — that you can implement right away. Tinker Dabble Doodle Try: Unlock the Power of the Unfocused Mind author Dr. Srini…
Fan Mail Friday #128 | Beware of Insecure Security
Aug 18, 2017 • 29 min
Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we’ll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. Let’s cut to it! In this episode: Is it possible you carry yourself in a way that raises red flags for…
644: Garry Kasparov | Deep Thinking
Aug 17, 2017 • 64 min
Garry Kasparov (@Kasparov63) is a Russian chess grandmaster, political activist, and author of Deep Thinking: Where Machine Intelligence Ends and Human Creativity Begins and Winter Is Coming: Why Vladimir Putin and the Enemies of the Free World Must Be…
643: Srini Pillay | The Power of the Unfocused Mind
Aug 15, 2017 • 51 min
Srini Pillay (@srinipillay) is a world renowned, Harvard-trained psychiatrist, former Director of the Outpatient Anxiety Disorders Program at McLean Hospital, and author of Tinker Dabble Doodle Try: Unlock the Power of the Unfocused Mind. “Most of us…
Minisode Monday #66 | Doing the Hard Thing Is Easy
Aug 14, 2017 • 8 min
Welcome to Minisode Monday, where we kick off the week with something quick and actionable — to make you more magnetic and effective — that you can implement right away. This time around, we discuss how going just a little out of your way to make someone…
Fan Mail Friday #127 | This Misophonia Goes to 11
Aug 11, 2017 • 31 min
Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we’ll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. Let’s cut to it! In this episode: How do you gracefully address the one guy in your group who constantly…
642: Lynn Lyons | Playing with Anxiety
Aug 10, 2017 • 57 min
Lynn Lyons (@lynnlyonsmsw) has been a psychotherapist for 27 years and is the co-author of Anxious Kids, Anxious Parents: 7 Ways to Stop the Worry Cycle and Raise Courageous and Independent Children and its companion book, Playing with Anxiety: Casey’s…
641: Daniel Levitin | Weaponized Lies
Aug 8, 2017 • 51 min
Daniel Levitin (@danlevitin) is a cognitive psychologist, neuroscientist, musician, record producer, and author of Weaponized Lies: How to Think Critically in the Post-Truth Era. “Your brain clings tenaciously to beliefs that it’s held, even when the…
Minisode Monday #65 | The Advantages of Being an Amateur
Aug 7, 2017 • 9 min
Welcome to Minisode Monday, where we kick off the week with something quick and actionable — to make you more magnetic and effective — that you can implement right away. This time we examine why being an amateur sometimes works to your advantage when…
Fan Mail Friday #126 | The Ugly Truth About Excusamine
Aug 4, 2017 • 38 min
Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we’ll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. Let’s cut to it! In this episode: Are you being overprotective, or does your sibling need more help than you…
640: Linda Carroll | First Love Fantasies and the Myth of Closure
Aug 3, 2017 • 41 min
Linda Carroll (@Lovecycleslinda), author of Love Cycles: The Five Essential Stages of Lasting Love, revisits the show to talk some sense into us about first love fantasies, knowing the difference between good and bad relationship advice, and why she…
639: Jay Mohr | Mohr Stories
Aug 1, 2017 • 71 min
Jay Mohr (@jaymohr37) is a comedian, actor, Emmy nominee, bestselling author, and host of Mohr Sports from Los Angeles and Mohr Stories. “Desperation has a very distinct scent.” -Jay Mohr The Cheat Sheet: How Jay Mohr dealt with panic attacks while…
Minisode Monday #64 | How to Make Decisions with Absolute Truths
Jul 31, 2017 • 11 min
Welcome to Minisode Monday, where we kick off the week with something quick and actionable — to make you more magnetic and effective — that you can implement right away. In this Minisode Monday, friend and former guest Cole Hatter of Thrive (September…
Fan Mail Friday #125 | Is Formulating a Response a Mistake?
Jul 28, 2017 • 44 min
Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we’ll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. Let’s cut to it! In this episode: Does the conversation often move on before you’ve had the time to…
637: Bill Nye | Radical Curiosity Saves the World
Jul 25, 2017 • 48 min
Bill Nye (@billnye) is a lifelong champion of science who is determined to teach you something today that you didn’t know yesterday — whether it’s from a television screen or next to you at a dinner party. His latest series is Bill Nye Saves the World on…
Minisode Monday #63 | Are You Setting the Bar Too High?
Jul 24, 2017 • 4 min
Welcome to Minisode Monday, where we kick off the week with something quick and actionable — to make you more magnetic and effective — that you can implement right away. Never let it be said that The Art of Charm would discourage you from being the best…
Fan Mail Friday #124 | Would You Like Vocal Fry with your Uptalk?
Jul 21, 2017 • 27 min
Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we’ll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. Let’s cut to it! In this episode: Does Jordan still use any skills he learned in law school? How can you get…
636: Tim Grover | Relentless at Best
Jul 20, 2017 • 64 min
Tim Grover (@ATTACKATHLETICS) is the legendary trainer called upon by athletes like Michael Jordan and Kobe Bryant when they want to be at the top of their game. He’s the CEO of Attack Athletics and author of Relentless: From Good to Great to Unstoppable.…
635: Jack Barsky | Deep Undercover Pt. 2
Jul 18, 2017 • 53 min
Jack Barsky (@DeepCoverBarsky) joins us to discuss his book Deep Undercover: My Secret Life and Tangled Allegiances as a KGB Spy in America. This is part two of a two-part episode; listen to part one here! The Cheat Sheet: We continue Jack Barsky’s story…
Minisode Monday #62 | It’s All Fake News If We Pick and Choose
Jul 17, 2017 • 3 min
This Minisode Monday, we examine how even the most reliable news sources and documentary makers skew the facts or present half-truths when reporting — often unintentionally — we just don’t notice it unless it happens to be about something with which we’re…
Fan Mail Friday #123 | I Hate My Boss
Jul 14, 2017 • 48 min
Liz Dolan (@SSLiz) and Larry Seal (@IHateMyBossShow) from the I Hate My Boss podcast join us for this Fan Mail Friday to answer your work and career-related questions, so let’s cut to it! In this episode: Company loyalty vs. personal goals when a change…
634: Christian Picciolini | Life After Hate
Jul 13, 2017 • 56 min
Christian Picciolini (@cpicciolini) is an Emmy Award-winning television producer, reformed extremist, co-founder of peace nonprofit Life After Hate, and author of Romantic Violence: Memoirs of an American Skinhead. “Hatred is born of ignorance. Fear is…
633: Jack Barsky | Deep Undercover Pt. 1
Jul 11, 2017 • 50 min
Jack Barsky (@DeepCoverBarsky) joins us to discuss his book Deep Undercover: My Secret Life and Tangled Allegiances as a KGB Spy in America. This is part one of a two-part episode; stay tuned for the second installment next Monday! “The only advice I can…
Minisode Monday #61 | Acknowledging vs. Suppressing Emotions
Jul 10, 2017 • 4 min
Welcome to Minisode Monday, where we kick off the week with something quick and actionable — to make you more magnetic and effective — that you can implement right away. Are there any benefits to suppressing emotions vs. acknowledging them? Here’s an…
Fan Mail Friday #122 | Well Played, Sugar Nuts
Jul 7, 2017 • 37 min
Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we’ll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. In this episode: As a “nice guy,” how do you let go of an ex — who attempted suicide when your relationship…
632: Chase Hughes | The Behavioral Table of the Elements
Jul 6, 2017 • 69 min
Chase Hughes (@thechasehughes) teaches interrogation and behavior science on a tactical level for the US military, created The Behavioral Table of the Elements for behavior analysis in interrogations, and is the author of The Ellipsis Manual: Analysis and…
631: Aaron Walker | View from the Top
Jul 4, 2017 • 54 min
Aaron Walker (@VFTCoach) has almost four decades of successful entrepreneurship under his belt; he rejoins us to talk about his new book, View From the Top: Living a Life of Significance. “I’m always looking for a way to make it happen, not excuses why it…
Minisode Monday #60 | Hacking Motivation with Value Languages
Jul 3, 2017 • 8 min
Welcome to Minisode Monday, where we kick off the week with something quick and actionable — to make you more magnetic and effective — that you can implement right away. Vanessa Van Edwards (check out our full episode with her here) rejoins us to talk…
Fan Mail Friday #121 | 21st Century Millennial Loneliness
Jun 30, 2017 • 37 min
Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we’ll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. Let’s cut to it! In this episode: Is the clock ticking on your window for big adventures? Consider…
629: Timothy Snyder | Twentieth Century Lessons on Tyranny
Jun 27, 2017 • 58 min
Timothy Snyder (@TimothyDSnyder) is the Housum Professor of History at Yale University and author of Black Earth: The Holocaust as History and Warning and On Tyranny: Twenty Lessons from the Twentieth Century. “Americans are no wiser than the Europeans…
Minisode Monday #59 | How to Overcome Default Friendships
Jun 26, 2017 • 7 min
Welcome to Minisode Monday, where we kick off the week with something quick and actionable — to make you more magnetic and effective — that you can implement right away. This week, we’re taking a little friendship audit to determine if we’re hanging out…
Fan Mail Friday #120 | Is the Juice Worth the Squeeze?
Jun 23, 2017 • 25 min
Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we’ll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. Let’s cut to it! In this episode: How much eye contact is just right? How do you spend meaningful time with…
628: Brian Brushwood | Scam School & The Modern Rogue
Jun 22, 2017 • 64 min
Brian Brushwood (@shwood) has spent the last twenty years performing onstage, on TV, and on the Internet, entertaining and teaching people how to harness the deceptive (and self-deceptive) skills of scientists, spies, criminals, and con artists. “The…
627: David Buss | The Evolution of Desire
Jun 20, 2017 • 68 min
David Buss (@ProfDavidBuss) is a professor of psychology at the University of Texas at Austin. He is considered the world’s leading scientific expert on strategies of human mating, and his most recent book is — appropriately enough — The Evolution of…
Minisode Monday #58 | Chris Hadfield: Boss In Space
Jun 19, 2017 • 7 min
Commander Chris Hadfield (check out our full episode with him here) was the first Canadian to walk in space, but the experience went far from smoothly. In this Minisode Monday, he explains how he went temporarily blind but still managed to finish the task…
Norm Pattiz | PodcastOne (Bonus)
Jun 18, 2017 • 55 min
Norm Pattiz (@PodcastOne) is a legendary broadcasting entrepreneur who founded radio syndication company Westwood One in the ’70s and the PodcastOne network in 2013. He’s a member of the National Radio Hall of Fame and one of the most successful and…
Fan Mail Friday #119 | Anger and Dopamine
Jun 16, 2017 • 33 min
Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we’ll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. In this episode: Does resolving simulations in your head keep you up in the middle of the night? Now that…
626: Adam Braun | MissionU
Jun 15, 2017 • 53 min
Adam Braun (@AdamBraun) is the founder of school-building Pencils of Promise and bestselling author of The Promise of a Pencil. He joins us to discuss his new project, MissionU, and how it aims to update higher education for the 21st century. “Credential…
625: Chris Hadfield | Rare Earthling
Jun 13, 2017 • 71 min
Chris Hadfield (@Cmdr_Hadfield) is an engineer, former Royal Canadian Air Force fighter pilot, retired astronaut, the first Canadian to walk in space, and author of An Astronaut’s Guide to Life on Earth and The Darkest Dark. “The big decisions are the…
Minisode Monday #57 | The Way We Treat the Ones We Meet
Jun 12, 2017 • 6 min
Welcome to Minisode Monday, where we kick off the week with something quick and actionable — to make you more magnetic and effective — that you can implement right away. This time around, we show how making a small change in how we treat people we meet…
Fan Mail Friday #118 | What Dat Mean?
Jun 9, 2017 • 30 min
Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we’ll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. Let’s cut to it! In this episode: How do you overcome the need for external validation in a good…
624: Nick Bilton | American Kingpin
Jun 8, 2017 • 48 min
Nick Bilton (@nickbilton) is a special correspondent for Vanity Fair, a contributor to CNBC, a former columnist and reporter for The New York Times, and author of Hatching Twitter: A True Story of Money, Power, Friendship, and Betrayal and American…
623: Dean Karnazes | The Road to Sparta
Jun 6, 2017 • 63 min
Dean Karnazes (@DeanKarnazes) may be most famous for running fifty marathons in fifty states in fifty days, but he’s also a bestselling author who most recently published The Road to Sparta: Reliving the Ancient Battle and Epic Run That Inspired the…
Minisode Monday #56 | Success Momentum
Jun 5, 2017 • 8 min
Welcome to Minisode Monday, where we kick off the week with something quick and actionable — to make you more magnetic and effective — that you can implement right away. This week, we talk about success momentum: small wins that increase confidence and…
Fan Mail Friday #117 | Shelf Help Isn’t Always Helpful
Jun 2, 2017 • 28 min
Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we’ll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. Even a life you love isn’t going to be free of things you don’t like. Does the quest for self-awareness have…
622: David Eagleman | Making Sense of The Brain
Jun 1, 2017 • 55 min
David Eagleman (@davideagleman) is a Stanford neuroscientist, host of Emmy-nominated PBS/BBC series The Brain, and author of Incognito: The Secret Lives of the Brain and The Brain: The Story of You. The Cheat Sheet: Why our conscious brain should be…
621: Bryan Callen | Mixed Mental Arts
May 30, 2017 • 64 min
Bryan Callen (@bryancallen) is an actor, comedian, and podcaster who grew up traveling the world. He holds a blue belt in Brazilian Jiu Jitsu, is certain of comedy’s power to change the world, and is older than you probably think he is. “Embrace the…
Minisode Monday #55 | Communication Between the Lines
May 29, 2017 • 4 min
Welcome to Minisode Monday, where we kick off the week with something quick and actionable — to make you more magnetic and effective — that you can implement right away. “You think you’re ordering a coffee, but you’re also sending non-verbal signals out…
Fan Mail Friday #116 | There’s Always a Bill
May 26, 2017 • 38 min
Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we’ll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. Once again, our beloved Gabriel Mizrahi rejoins us for this one. Let’s cut to it! In this episode: Is it…
620: AoC Toolbox | The Art of Grit
May 25, 2017 • 25 min
Are you resilient? Resilience — true grit — has to last in order to be real. That’s what we’re going to explore in this toolbox: how to build real and lasting grit. [Photo by Lewis Wickes Hine] The Cheat Sheet: The jolt of purpose sometimes masquerades as…
619: Gabrielle Reece | Less Than Perfect
May 23, 2017 • 50 min
Gabrielle Reece (@GabbyReece) has been a volleyball player, a model, an actress, a television personality, a mom, a community servant, author of My Foot Is Too Big for the Glass Slipper: A Guide to the Less Than Perfect Life, and now a podcaster on The…
Minisode Monday #54 | Treat Your Haters Like Toddlers
May 22, 2017 • 4 min
Ever get upset by rude comments on the Internet? In this Minisode Monday, we share an effective strategy for dealing with this that we learned from Jay Baer, author of Hug Your Haters: How to Embrace Complaints and Keep Your Customers. Let’s get to it!…
Fan Mail Friday #115 | Don’t Fake It ‘Til You Break It
May 19, 2017 • 60 min
Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we’ll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. As a bonus, screenwriter and BFF Gabriel Mizrahi joins us for this one. Let’s cut to it! Where’s the line…
618: Peter McGraw | The Humor Code
May 18, 2017 • 59 min
Peter McGraw (@petermcgraw) is an associate professor of marketing and psychology at the University of Colorado Boulder, founder of the Humor Research Lab (HuRL), and co-author of The Humor Code: A Global Search for What Makes Things Funny. The Cheat…
617: Neil deGrasse Tyson | Astrophysics for People in a Hurry
May 16, 2017 • 78 min
Neil deGrasse Tyson (@neiltyson) is the Frederick P. Rose Director of the Hayden Planetarium and author of number one New York Times Bestseller Astrophysics for People in a Hurry. “As the area of your knowledge grows, so too does the perimeter of your…
Minisode Monday #53 | Creative Avoidance
May 15, 2017 • 11 min
Welcome to Minisode Monday, where we kick off the week with something quick and actionable — to make you more magnetic and effective — that you can implement right away. This week, Reach author Andy Molinsky rejoins us to talk about the creative ways we…
Fan Mail Friday #114 | If They Can’t Pay, Walk Away
May 12, 2017 • 36 min
Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we’ll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. Let’s cut to it! In this episode: You can’t keep score when just one out of ten people might help you back…
616: Lisa Feldman Barrett | How Emotions Are Made
May 11, 2017 • 53 min
Lisa Feldman Barrett (@lfeldmanbarrett) is the Director of IASLab at Northeastern University, an innovator in the field of psychology, and one of the world’s foremost researchers on emotion. Her new book, How Emotions Are Made: The Secret Life of the…
615: Isaac Lidsky | Eyes Wide Open
May 9, 2017 • 55 min
Isaac Lidsky (@isaaclidsky) is the only blind person to serve as a law clerk for the U.S. Supreme Court. He’s also an entrepreneur, he was once a child actor on a popular ’90s sitcom, and now he’s the bestselling author of Eyes Wide Open: Overcoming…
Minisode Monday #52 | Five Tips for Remembering Names and Faces with CHARM
May 8, 2017 • 12 min
Welcome to Minisode Monday, where we kick off the week with something quick and actionable — to make you more magnetic and effective — that you can implement right away. This week, brain coach Jim Kwik rejoins us (hear his last visit here) to share his…
Fan Mail Friday #113 | Hating Your Job Is Not a Business Plan
May 5, 2017 • 26 min
Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we’ll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. Let’s cut to it! In this episode: Does processing all the information we learn from our guests and pass on…
614: Alex Kouts | The 7 Deadly Sins of Reading the News
May 4, 2017 • 62 min
Alex Kouts (@akouts) is a teacher, civic tech startup guy, adventure technologist, and Chief Product Officer of Countable, “your dashboard for democracy.” He rejoins the show to explain the seven deadly sins of reading the news that are committed in our…
613: Graeme Wood | Understanding ISIS
May 2, 2017 • 63 min
Graeme Wood (@gcaw) is a political science lecturer at Yale University, a national correspondent for The Atlantic, and author of The Way of the Strangers: Encounters with the Islamic State. The Cheat Sheet for Understanding ISIS: How does ISIS view itself…
Minisode Monday #51 | The Great Waves of Influence
May 1, 2017 • 3 min
Welcome to Minisode Monday, where we kick off the week with something quick and actionable — to make you more magnetic and effective — that you can implement right away. This week, we’ve got a little lesson in art history: Katsushika Hokusai’s woodblock…
BONUS: Daniel DiPiazza | Rich20Something
Apr 30, 2017 • 52 min
Daniel DiPiazza (@rich20something) is the founder of Rich20Something — an education platform that teaches millennials how to build businesses they care about — and author of Rich20Something: Ditch Your Average Job, Start an Epic Business, and Score the…
Fan Mail Friday #112 | Highway to the Friend Zone
Apr 28, 2017 • 30 min
Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we’ll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. Let’s cut to it! In this episode: How do you make room in your life for personal growth when you have an ill…
612: Andy Molinsky | A Reach from Comfort
Apr 27, 2017 • 49 min
Andy Molinsky (@andymolinsky) is a professor of organizational behavior and psychology at Brandeis University’s International Business School and author of Global Dexterity: How to Adapt Your Behavior Across Cultures without Losing Yourself in the Process…
611: Jim Kwik | Kwik Brain
Apr 25, 2017 • 72 min
Jim Kwik (@jimkwik) is a brain coach with clients including Virgin, Nike, Zappos, SpaceX, NYU, GE, Fox Studios, Harvard, and Singularity University. He joins us to share tips for developing amazing learning, memory, and recall skills. “If knowledge is…
Minisode Monday #50 | Skill Stacking for Top Performance
Apr 24, 2017 • 8 min
Welcome to Minisode Monday, where we kick off the week with something quick and actionable — to make you more magnetic and effective — that you can implement right away. This week, Dilbert’s Scott Adams rejoins us to talk about a concept called skill…
Fan Mail Friday #111 | It’s All Kiribati to Me
Apr 21, 2017 • 30 min
If you’re new to The Art of Charm Podcast, this isn’t a great place to start. Most of our content is more in-depth and longer format. Let’s cut to it! In this episode: Ben Franklin was good at dealing with rivals who tried to show him up in public, and…
610: Vanessa Van Edwards | Captivate
Apr 20, 2017 • 70 min
Vanessa Van Edwards (@vvanedwards) is a behavioral investigator, body language expert, returning guest, and author of Captivate: The Science of Succeeding with People. “I think it is important to understand how much space you take up in the world…
609: Sarah Robb O’Hagan | Extreme You
Apr 18, 2017 • 49 min
Sarah Robb O’Hagan (@ExtremeSRO) is an executive, activist, entrepreneur, and author of Extreme You: Step Up. Stand Out. Kick Ass. Repeat. “Almost anyone who’s enormously successful will be able to point to epic fails in their life that became the…
Minisode Monday #49 | Stop Spreading Anxiety
Apr 17, 2017 • 4 min
Welcome to Minisode Monday, where we kick off the week with something quick and actionable — to make you more magnetic and effective — that you can implement right away. In this one, we talk about renegotiating the unwritten rules that allow others to…
Fan Mail Friday #110 | The Dark Side of the Brain
Apr 14, 2017 • 30 min
Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we’ll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. Let’s cut to it! In this episode: Sometimes it’s easier to know who’s not “The One” than who is. Does Jordan…
608: Justin Wren | Fight for the Forgotten
Apr 13, 2017 • 71 min
Justin Wren (@TheBigPygmy) is an MMA juggernaut with the body of a Viking and the heart of a Pygmy. He’s also the author of Fight for the Forgotten: How a Mixed Martial Artist Stopped Fighting for Himself and Started Fighting for Others. “Charity can be…
607: Laila Ali | Reach!
Apr 11, 2017 • 58 min
Laila Ali (@TheRealLailaAli) is a world-champion boxer, entrepreneur, and author of Reach! Finding Strength, Spirit, and Personal Power. The Cheat Sheet: What made Laila become the only boxer out of Muhammad Ali’s nine children? Why do fighters trash talk…
Minisode Monday #48 | Thinking with Your Body
Apr 10, 2017 • 7 min
Welcome to Minisode Monday, where we kick off the week with something quick and actionable — to make you more magnetic and effective — that you can implement right away. Dilbert’s Scott Adams rejoins us to talk about using the body to gauge ideas the…
Fan Mail Friday #109 | Jack of One Trade
Apr 7, 2017 • 34 min
Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we’ll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. Let’s cut to it! In this episode: Do you know anybody who’s a jack of all trades? Gabriel Mizrahi joins us,…
606: R. Douglas Fields | Why We Snap
Apr 6, 2017 • 55 min
R. Douglas Fields (@RDouglasFields1) is a neuroscientist based in Bethesda, MD and author of Why We Snap, Understanding the Rage Circuit in Your Brain. The Cheat Sheet for Understanding Rage and Why We Snap: What is rage, and what evolutionary purpose…
605: Scott Adams | Master Persuader
Apr 4, 2017 • 59 min
Scott Adams (@ScottAdamsSays) is a trained hypnotist, the creator of Dilbert, and author of the upcoming book Win Bigly: Persuasion in a World Where Facts Don’t Matter. He also predicted a 2016 presidential win for Trump — for reasons others didn’t see.…
Minisode Monday #47 | Learning Is Earning
Apr 3, 2017 • 3 min
In this Minisode Monday, we address why graduating from school into the workforce isn’t a pass to stop learning. The world is constantly changing, and the true professional is a perpetual student. Understand why learning and growth should be seen as a…
Fan Mail Friday #108 | Does This Make My Ask Look Big?
Mar 31, 2017 • 22 min
Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we’ll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. Let’s cut to it! In this episode: At what point are you changing too much of yourself for someone else? Is…
604: AoC Toolbox | Narrative Building
Mar 30, 2017 • 52 min
The Art of Charm (@TheArtofCharm) triumvirate of Johnny, AJ, and Jordan discuss the importance of narrative building — taking ownership of the past, being mindful of the present, and setting sights on what we hope to accomplish in the future. To build…
603: Jason Silva | Origins of a Performance Philosopher
Mar 28, 2017 • 59 min
Jason Silva (@JasonSilva) would have been called a “performance philosopher” by counterculture icon Timothy Leary. Among many things, he’s a futurist, filmmaker, creator of short video series Shots of Awe, former host of the National Geographic Channel’s…
Minisode Monday #46 | Self-Sabotage Cessation
Mar 27, 2017 • 7 min
Welcome to Minisode Monday, where we kick off the week with something quick and actionable — to make you more magnetic and effective — that you can implement right away. This time around, we talk about the factors that lead to self-sabotage, the…
Fan Mail Friday #107 | They’re There to Share Their Air
Mar 24, 2017 • 23 min
Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we’ll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. Let’s cut to it! In this episode: What are some tactics we can use to handle over-talkers short of hiring an…
602: Shaquille O’Neal | Flat Earth Theory
Mar 23, 2017 • 68 min
Shaquille O’Neal (@SHAQ) has been retired from basketball for almost six years, but he’s still got his irons in plenty of fires. Here, we’ll discuss everything from superheroes to law enforcement to business to sports to podcasting to — yes — the Flat…
601: Neal Brennan | 3 Mics
Mar 21, 2017 • 58 min
Neal Brennan (@nealbrennan) is a comedy writer/producer/director, co-creator of Chappelle’s Show, and most recently featured in his live stand-up solo show 3 Mics now at Netflix. “A buddy of mine calls me Benjamin Button ‘cause he says I’m doing my career…
Minisode Monday #45 | The After Action Review
Mar 20, 2017 • 6 min
Welcome to Minisode Monday, where we kick off the week with something quick and actionable — to make you more magnetic and effective — that you can implement right away. Ryan Michler (@orderofman) of Order of Man joins us to discuss how we can apply The…
Fan Mail Friday #106 | Serendipitously and Surreptitiously
Mar 17, 2017 • 30 min
Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we’ll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right! In this episode: If high school and college didn’t give you the best years of your life, it just means “the…
600: Brett McKay | Art of Manliness
Mar 16, 2017 • 46 min
Brett McKay (@artofmanliness) is the founder of Art of Manliness, one of the largest independent men’s lifestyle sites on the Web. Similarities in the naming schemes between AoM and AoC are purely coincidental! The Cheat Sheet: What is manliness? What are…
599: Robert H. Frank | The Myth of Meritocracy
Mar 14, 2017 • 51 min
Robert H. Frank (@econnaturalist) is the HJ Louis Professor of Economics at Cornell University and author of Success and Luck: Good Fortune and the Myth of Meritocracy. The Cheat Sheet: As we strive to achieve success, there are natural limits on how hard…
Minisode Monday #44 | Reflections on a Trudging Curmudgeon
Mar 13, 2017 • 3 min
In this Minisode Monday, Jordan reflects on a grumpy old man he met in New York City and wonders if this fellow was a grumpy young man, or if he became that way over time. The Cheat Sheet: Some say that people don’t change. But if you listen to this…
Fan Mail Friday #105 | Dangerous Relationships
Mar 10, 2017 • 23 min
Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we’ll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. Let’s cut to it! In this episode: Like our new show music? It’s Start Shootin’ by Little People. As a…
598: Clint Emerson | 100 Deadly Skills
Mar 9, 2017 • 63 min
Clint Emerson (@100deadlyskills) is a retired Navy SEAL, founding partner of crisis management and risk mitigation company Escape the Wolf, and author of 100 Deadly Skills: Survival Edition: The SEAL Operative’s Guide to Surviving in the Wild and Being…
597: Mike Rowe | The Way I Heard It
Mar 7, 2017 • 78 min
Mike Rowe (@mikeroweworks) of Dirty Jobs fame joins us to talk about the skills gap, authenticity, and life experiences possible outside the comfort zone. Just don’t tell him he’s following his passion. The Cheat Sheet: Did you know Mike Rowe started his…
Minisode Monday #43 | Implementation Intentions
Mar 6, 2017 • 7 min
In this Minisode Monday, guest James Clear rejoins us to talk about how pre-commitment (aka implementation intentions) can make following through with a plan more likely. The Cheat Sheet: “Amateurs do things when it’s easy — when they feel motivated to do…
BONUS: Sally Hogshead | Fascination Advantage Assessment
Mar 5, 2017 • 28 min
Sally Hogshead (@SallyHogshead), author of Fascinate: How to Make Your Brand Impossible to Resist, rejoins the show to tell us how our audience scored in her Fascination Advantage Assessment. You’ll be as surprised as she was when you hear the results!…
Fan Mail Friday #104 | Who Is This Guy?
Mar 3, 2017 • 26 min
Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we’ll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. Let’s cut to it! In this episode: A recovering smart alec wonders how to get a second chance at a bad first…
596: Jessica Tracy | Take Pride
Mar 2, 2017 • 53 min
Jessica Tracy (@ProfJessTracy) is a professor of psychology at the University of British Columbia in Vancouver, Canada, where she also directs the Emotion & Self Lab. She is the author of Take Pride: Why the Deadliest Sin Holds the Secret to Human…
595: Joi Ito | How to Survive Our Faster Future
Feb 28, 2017 • 75 min
Joi Ito (@joi) is the director of the MIT Media Lab, a professor of practice in media arts and sciences at MIT, and co-author of Whiplash: How to Survive Our Faster Future. [Photo by Andy Ryan] “Education is what people do to you, and learning is what you…
Minisode Monday #42 | Stop Reliving Embarrassment
Feb 27, 2017 • 3 min
In this Minisode Monday, we talk about the pointless habit we all have of mentally reliving embarrassing moments in our lives and what we can do to stop it. Let’s get to it! The Cheat Sheet: There are times when we all mull over embarrassing moments from…
BONUS: John Lee Dumas | Discipline Mastery
Feb 26, 2017 • 46 min
John Lee Dumas (@johnleedumas) is the founder and host of EOFire, an award-winning podcast where he chats with today’s most successful entrepreneurs seven days a week — with over 1400 interviews under his belt. How is he so productive? He shares some of…
Fan Mail Friday #103 | More Respectful Than You Need to Be
Feb 24, 2017 • 30 min
Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we’ll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. In this episode: Understanding people in person can be challenging enough. So how do we read between the…
594: AoC Toolbox | Resilience
Feb 23, 2017 • 39 min
The Art of Charm (@TheArtofCharm) trio of Johnny, AJ, and Jordan goes over the importance of resilience and how we can develop it to be ready for anything life throws our way. [Photo by Art Bromage] The Cheat Sheet: What is resilience and why is it so…
593: Roy Wood Jr. | Father Figure
Feb 21, 2017 • 75 min
Roy Wood Jr. (@roywoodjr) was on Variety’s 10 Comics to Watch For list in 2016, is currently a correspondent on The Daily Show with Trevor Noah, and is the star of Father Figure on Comedy Central. The Cheat Sheet: Learn how a youthful indiscretion was…
Minisode Monday #41 | The DANCE Method
Feb 20, 2017 • 10 min
Jonathan Raymond, author of Good Authority: How to Become the Leader Your Team Is Waiting For, tells us how we can let go of resistance to change by using the DANCE Method. If you’ve ever struggled with time management, you’ll really appreciate the…
BONUS: Kerry Dolan | The Forbes List
Feb 19, 2017 • 37 min
Kerry Dolan (@KerryDolan), Assistant Managing Editor of Wealth at Forbes, curates the Forbes World Billionaires List. The Forbes List, hosted by Jordan Harbinger, reveals the details behind the lists that don’t make it to the magazine or online. You’ll…
Fan Mail Friday #102 | Hustle Without Muscle
Feb 17, 2017 • 33 min
Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we’ll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. Let’s cut to it! In this episode: Jordan really does read everything. Per episode 572’s reverse interview…
592: James Clear | Mental Models
Feb 16, 2017 • 58 min
James Clear (@james_clear) experiments with and writes about behavioral psychology, habit formation, and performance improvement through mental models. The Cheat Sheet: Why is decision-making such a fallible process? What are mental models, and how can…
591: Judah Pollack & Olivia Fox Cabane | Breakthrough Thinking
Feb 14, 2017 • 66 min
Judah Pollack (@JudahThinks) and Olivia Fox Cabane (@foxcabane) rejoin the show to discuss their new book, The Net and the Butterfly: The Art and Practice of Breakthrough Thinking. The Cheat Sheet: What is breakthrough thinking — and how does it relate to…
Minisode Monday #40 | Skill vs. Talent
Feb 13, 2017 • 2 min
If something can be learned, it is a skill. If it’s innate, it’s a talent. The reality: most so-called talents are skills in disguise, so stop making excuses that you’re not talented enough to do things and skill up! Welcome to Minisode Monday, where we…
Fan Mail Friday #101 | The Drunk Cam Program
Feb 10, 2017 • 29 min
Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we’ll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. Let’s cut to it! In the process of getting in better shape, is it too much to ask that the people you…
590: Steven Kotler | Stealing Fire
Feb 9, 2017 • 64 min
Steven Kotler (@steven_kotler) revisits the show to discuss his latest book, Stealing Fire: How Silicon Valley, the Navy SEALs, and Maverick Scientists Are Revolutionizing the Way We Live and Work. The Cheat Sheet: Why did psychology take a hundred-year…
589: Jonathan Raymond | Good Authority
Feb 7, 2017 • 59 min
Jonathan Raymond (@jonathanraymond) is the owner of management training startup Refound and author of Good Authority: How to Become the Leader Your Team Is Waiting For. The Cheat Sheet: What’s the real purpose of a business? Why should a business owner or…
Minisode Monday #39 | Fixing Filler Words
Feb 6, 2017 • 4 min
Welcome to Minisode Monday, where we kick off the week with something quick and actionable — to make you more magnetic and effective — that you can implement right away. Um, like, so today we’re going to talk about filler words — why you should avoid…
Fan Mail Friday #100 | Relationship Exit Strategy
Feb 3, 2017 • 41 min
Breakup Triage: The Cure for Heartache author Susan Winter rejoins us to answer a couple of questions that were addressed to her and help with our usual assortment of email in this Fan Mail Friday. Let’s get to it! In this episode: Should a broken…
588: Travis Bradberry | Emotional Intelligence 2.0
Feb 2, 2017 • 52 min
Dr. Travis Bradberry (@talentsmarteq) is the award-winning co-author of Emotional Intelligence 2.0 and the co-founder of TalentSmart, the world’s number one provider of emotional intelligence tests and training. The Cheat Sheet: You may know your IQ…
587: Peter Diamandis | Bold in Abundance
Jan 31, 2017 • 60 min
Peter Diamandis (@PeterDiamandis) is the founder of the XPRIZE Foundation and co-author of Bold: How to Go Big, Create Wealth and Impact the World and Abundance: The Future Is Better Than You Think. The Cheat Sheet: What does the future hold for human…
Minisode Monday #38 | Gratitude Now
Jan 30, 2017 • 4 min
In this Minisode Monday, we talk about how gratitude may be a buzz word you’re tired of hearing about, but it’s a fact: people appreciate being appreciated. Here’s why we should be showing gratitude for the things others do for us now rather than later.…
Fan Mail Friday #99 | Criticism Deconstruction
Jan 27, 2017 • 27 min
Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we’ll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. Let’s cut to it! In this episode: If you listen to hours of personal growth podcasts like The Art of Charm…
586: Jocelyn K. Glei | Unsubscribe
Jan 26, 2017 • 59 min
Jocelyn K. Glei (@jkglei) is a writer who is obsessed with how we can find more creativity and meaning in our daily work. Her latest book is Unsubscribe: How to Kill Email Anxiety, Avoid Distractions, and Get Real Work Done. The Cheat Sheet: Do you spend…
585: Michael Breus | The Power of When
Jan 24, 2017 • 61 min
Michael Breus (@thesleepdoctor) is a clinical psychologist, board-certified sleep specialist, and author of The Power of When: Discover Your Chronotype — and the Best Time to Eat Lunch, Ask for a Raise, Have Sex, Write a Novel, Take Your Meds, and More.…
Minisode Monday #37 | Processing Fluency
Jan 23, 2017 • 4 min
Welcome to Minisode Monday, where we kick off the week with something quick and actionable — to make you more magnetic and effective — that you can implement right away. This time around, guest and To Sell Is Human: The Surprising Truth About Moving…
Fan Mail Friday #98 | Lumberjack Confidence
Jan 20, 2017 • 30 min
Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we’ll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. Let’s cut to it! In this episode: When you start your own business, how do you help the people around you…
584: Jonathan Fields | Good Life Project
Jan 19, 2017 • 59 min
Jonathan Fields (@jonathanfields) is a dad, husband, entrepreneur, and award-winning author — most recently of How to Live a Good Life: Soulful Stories, Surprising Science, and Practical Wisdom. The Cheat Sheet: How do we make sure we’re not overextending…
583: AoC Toolbox | Imposter Syndrome
Jan 17, 2017 • 50 min
The Art of Charm (@TheArtofCharm) talks about imposter syndrome and how to cope with the feeling you’ll be uncovered as a fraud for being unworthy of what you’ve worked hard to achieve. [Photo by xmith xmith] The Cheat Sheet: Do you ever feel like you’ve…
Minisode Monday #36 | Protection from Emotional Buttons
Jan 16, 2017 • 3 min
Welcome to Minisode Monday, where we kick off the week with something quick and actionable — to make you more magnetic and effective — that you can implement right away. We all have emotional buttons that set us off for some reason or another. But we…
Fan Mail Friday #97 | Special Agent Harbinger
Jan 13, 2017 • 19 min
Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we’ll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. Let’s cut to it! In this episode: What is Jordan’s background in law enforcement? Some listener feedback for…
582: Mind Pump | Raw Truth
Jan 12, 2017 • 88 min
Mind Pump (@MindPump) hosts Adam Schafer, Justin Andrews, and Sal Di Stefano talk podcast shop, communication, business, the changing face of courtship, and more with Jordan in this longer format conversational episode. The Cheat Sheet: How does Jordan…
581: Gavin de Becker | The Gift of Fear Pt. 2
Jan 10, 2017 • 41 min
Gavin de Becker (@gavindebecker) is the the author of The Gift of Fear and Other Survival Signals That Protect Us from Violence and the security pioneer who designed the MOSAIC Threat Assessment Systems used at the top levels of government. This is the…
Minisode Monday #35 | Good Discomfort vs. Bad Discomfort
Jan 9, 2017 • 15 min
Welcome to Minisode Monday, where we kick off the week with something quick and actionable — to make you more magnetic and effective — that you can implement right away. As much as we might wish otherwise, personal growth isn’t a comfortable process.…
Fan Mail Friday #96 | Self-Respect Isn’t Selfish
Jan 6, 2017 • 25 min
Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we’ll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. Let’s cut to it! In this episode: If you listened to our recent episode with Darya Rose, you understand the…
580: Linda Carroll | The Narcissistic Continuum
Jan 5, 2017 • 56 min
Linda Carroll (@Lovecycleslinda) rejoins the show to discuss how we often label the other person in a relationship as “the crazy one” and why we need to examine where we land on the narcissistic continuum. Linda is a therapist and author of Love Cycles:…
579: Gavin de Becker | The Gift of Fear
Jan 3, 2017 • 45 min
Gavin de Becker (@gavindebecker) is the the author of The Gift of Fear and Other Survival Signals That Protect Us from Violence and the security pioneer who designed the MOSAIC Threat Assessment Systems used at the top levels of government. The Cheat…
Minisode Monday #34 | How to Find a Mentor
Jan 2, 2017 • 4 min
Welcome to Minisode Monday, where we kick off the week with something quick and actionable — to make you more magnetic and effective — that you can implement right away. Last time he was on the podcast, Jon Acuff shared something he called the notecard…
Fan Mail Friday #95 | High Performer Idiosyncrasies
Dec 30, 2016 • 16 min
Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we’ll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. Let’s cut to it! In this episode: Why do we steer away from more spiritual topics on this podcast? Is Jordan…
578: Paul Bloom | Against Empathy
Dec 29, 2016 • 53 min
Paul Bloom (@paulbloomatyale) is a developmental psychologist and author who returns to discuss his newly published book Against Empathy: The Case for Rational Compassion. The Cheat Sheet: How do you define empathy — and do you believe it’s a crucial…
577: Julian Guthrie | How to Make a Spaceship
Dec 27, 2016 • 60 min
Julian Guthrie (@JulianGuthrie) is an award-winning journalist and bestselling author. She joins us to discuss her new book How to Make a Spaceship: A Band of Renegades, an Epic Race, and the Birth of Private Spaceflight. The Cheat Sheet: How Julian…
Minisode Monday #33 | Productivity Tricks with Noah Kagan
Dec 26, 2016 • 15 min
In this Minisode Monday, AppSumo and OkDork’s Noah Kagan rejoins us to talk about putting simple systems in place to boost productivity. The good news: it’s not as complicated as you may think. Let’s get to it! The Cheat Sheet: What are the two things…
Fan Mail Friday #94 | Bangers and Bottlenecks
Dec 23, 2016 • 14 min
Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we’ll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. Let’s cut to it! In this episode: The path to entrepreneurship is seldom taken alone. Why does AoC advertise…
576: Darya Rose | Foodist
Dec 22, 2016 • 63 min
Darya Rose (@summertomato) is a neuroscience Ph.D and author of Foodist: Using Real Food and Real Science to Lose Weight Without Dieting. On this episode, we talk about the psychology behind forming habits and what we can do to make lifestyle changes that…
575: Tony Hawk | How Did I Get Here?
Dec 20, 2016 • 59 min
Tony Hawk (@tonyhawk) is a vertical skateboarding legend who enjoys household name status these days, but as we learn in discussing his book How Did I Get Here?: The Ascent of an Unlikely CEO, the journey’s been far from easy. The Cheat Sheet: Why taking…
Minisode Monday #32 | Do You Believe You?
Dec 19, 2016 • 4 min
We’re our own worst critics. In this Minisode Monday, the challenge is to question the validity of the thoughts we have about ourselves. The Cheat Sheet: You’re a heck of a lot more than just your thoughts — which is a good thing, considering we all…
Fan Mail Friday #93 | Holiday Party Networking
Dec 16, 2016 • 18 min
Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we’ll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right! Your company just got bought and your future there is uncertain. Is this week’s holiday party an ideal…
574: Sally Hogshead | How to Fascinate
Dec 15, 2016 • 62 min
Sally Hogshead (@SallyHogshead) tells us how we can make anything fascinating in as little as one hour by applying the principles of her book Fascinate: How to Make Your Brand Impossible to Resist. The Cheat Sheet: Are you pistachio or vanilla? Different…
573: General Stanley McChrystal | New Rules of Engagement
Dec 13, 2016 • 72 min
General Stanley McChrystal (@StanMcChrystal) talks about more than 34 years of service in the US Army and his book Team of Teams: New Rules of Engagement for a Complex World. The Cheat Sheet: See leadership from a special forces perspective. Understand…
Minisode Monday #31 | Respect from a Military Perspective
Dec 12, 2016 • 5 min
Welcome to Minisode Monday, where we kick off the week with something quick and actionable — to make you more magnetic and effective — that you can implement right away. This time around, 30-year military aviator and procedure specialist Karen “BattleAxe”…
Fan Mail Friday #92 | Resting You Face
Dec 9, 2016 • 19 min
Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we’ll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. Let’s cut to it! In this episode: What do you do when you have resting grumpy face (you may know it by other…
Gabriel Mizrahi & Jordan Harbinger | The Reverse Interview (Episode 572)
Dec 8, 2016 • 99 min
Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) is a film and television writer, former host of The Lip TV, and long-time friend who turns the tables and interviews The Art of Charm’s very own Jordan Harbinger (@TheArtofCharm) in this one. The Cheat Sheet: Learn more…
571: Susan Winter | Breakup Triage
Dec 6, 2016 • 50 min
Susan Winter (@susan_e_winter) is an Oprah-featured relationship expert and author who rejoins AoC to show us how to handle a breakup in minutes instead of months with tips from her recent book Breakup Triage: The Cure for Heartache. [Photo by Linda…
Minisode Monday #30 | Stop Comparing Yourself to Others
Dec 5, 2016 • 3 min
Welcome to Minisode Monday, where we kick off the week with something quick and actionable — to make you more magnetic and effective — that you can implement right away. This time around, we explain why comparing yourself to others is a toxic habit — and…
Fan Mail Friday #91 | From the Diaphragm
Dec 2, 2016 • 21 min
Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we’ll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. Let’s cut to it! In this episode: How can you develop a stronger, more commanding voice? Some great listener…
570: Susan Cain | Quiet Revolution
Dec 1, 2016 • 58 min
Susan Cain (@susancain) of Quiet Revolution tells us why being introverted is not a disadvantage — nor is it an excuse for shying away from social situations on one’s own terms. The Cheat Sheet: How “quiet” came to be a pejorative term as the west…
569: Mike Massimino | Spaceman
Nov 29, 2016 • 67 min
Mike Massimino (@Astro_Mike) is the astronaut who sent the first tweet from space and the first spacefarer we’ve had on this show! He’s the author of Spaceman: An Astronaut’s Unlikely Journey to Unlock the Secrets of the Universe. The Cheat Sheet: How is…
Minisode Monday #29 | What Do You Do with Your Life?
Nov 28, 2016 • 12 min
Welcome to Minisode Monday, where we kick off the week with something quick and actionable — to make you more magnetic and effective — that you can implement right away. In this Minisode Monday, Jeff Goins, author of The Art of Work: A Proven Path to…
Fan Mail Friday #90 | Leadership Blues and Jet Lag Cures
Nov 25, 2016 • 20 min
Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we’ll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. Let’s cut to it! In this episode: Is it possible your body’s clock is determined at least as much by when…
568: Tom Wainwright | Narconomics
Nov 24, 2016 • 66 min
Tom Wainwright (@t_wainwright) of The Economist shares the harrowing and sometimes grisly experiences he endured to write Narconomics: How to Run a Drug Cartel. The Cheat Sheet: Understand the parallels between the drug trade and regular businesses. Learn…
567: John Ruhlin | Giftology
Nov 22, 2016 • 50 min
John Ruhlin (@ruhlin) returns to share some of the best network-enriching tips from his book Giftology: The Art and Science of Using Gifts to Cut Through the Noise, Increase Referrals, and Strengthen Retention — just in time for the holidays! The Cheat…
Minisode Monday #28 | Media Bias and Critical Thinking
Nov 21, 2016 • 3 min
Welcome to Minisode Monday, where we kick off the week with something quick and actionable — to make you more magnetic and effective — that you can implement right away. This time around, we talk about the importance of applying critical thinking to…
Fan Mail Friday #89 | Explore the Edges
Nov 18, 2016 • 18 min
Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we’ll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. Let’s cut to it! In this episode: Unless Kimberly Seltzer or Duana Welch have time in their busy schedules…
566: Philip McKernan | Give & Grow
Nov 17, 2016 • 64 min
Philip McKernan (@PhilipMcKernan) rejoins The Art of Charm to discuss his new film Give & Grow. It depicts a unique journey of uncovering people’s hidden and dormant gifts that have the ability to affect others, and the potential to change the world. The…
565: Nathan Chan | Connecting with a Foundr
Nov 15, 2016 • 62 min
Nathan Chan (@foundr) built multi-million dollar Foundr Magazine — a digital magazine for aspiring and novice stage entrepreneurs — in three-and-a-half years by networking and sheer hustle. He’s here to share some of his best secrets, including how to…
Minisode Monday #27 | Stop Serving the Compliment Sandwich
Nov 14, 2016 • 4 min
In this Minisode Monday, David Burkus, author of Under New Management: How Leading Organizations Are Upending Business as Usual, joins us to talk about a better alternative to the compliment sandwich — that annoying phenomenon where “constructive…
Fan Mail Friday #88 | Low Info Diet
Nov 11, 2016 • 21 min
Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we’ll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. Let’s cut to it! In this episode: Is it okay to spend a few hours each day doing things that don’t better…
564: Marcus Luttrell & David Rutherford | Team Never Quit
Nov 10, 2016 • 72 min
Marcus Luttrell and David “Rut” Rutherford of Team Never Quit (@Team_neverquit) join us to talk about how you don’t have to be in the military to develop the discipline necessary to reach your goals. The Cheat Sheet: How did Marcus Luttrell summon the…
563: Derek Coburn | Networking Is Still Not Working
Nov 8, 2016 • 54 min
Derek Coburn (@cadredc) returns to the show to share more of his un-networking secrets. He is a master networker and author of Networking Is Not Working: Stop Collecting Business Cards and Start Making Meaningful Connections. The Cheat Sheet: Why is…
Minisode Monday #26 | Are Your Goals Killing You?
Nov 7, 2016 • 6 min
Oliver Burkeman, author of The Antidote: Happiness for People Who Can’t Stand Positive Thinking, joins us for this Minisode Monday to talk about how the relentless pursuit of goals can figuratively — and in some cases literally — kill us. The Cheat Sheet:…
Fan Mail Friday #87 | Mind over Alma Mater
Nov 4, 2016 • 23 min
Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #87! No jibber-jabber, just a short show where we answer Art of Charm listener mail and give out mini-lessons for the weekend! Let’s cut to it! In this episode: How do you balance your need to find the best career fit with being…
562: AoC Toolbox | How to Keep the Conversation Going
Nov 3, 2016 • 42 min
The Art of Charm (@TheArtofCharm) has ways of making you talk! If you want to know how to keep a conversation going and avoid the awkward calm that sometimes besets even the most animated of chats, you’ll want to dip into the toolbox for this one. [Image…
561: Dan Ariely | Payoff
Nov 1, 2016 • 96 min
Dan Ariely (@danariely) is a behavioral economist and bestselling author of Predictably Irrational: The Hidden Forces That Shape Our Decisions and the upcoming Payoff: The Hidden Logic That Shapes Our Motivations. The Cheat Sheet: How does the What the…
Minisode Monday #25 | Get Unstuck from Hard Decisions
Oct 31, 2016 • 4 min
In this Minisode Monday, recent guest Jenny Blake, author of Pivot: The Only Move That Matters Is Your Next One, helps us separate difficult decisions from difficult conversations and handle both of these to get unstuck and move forward. Let’s get to it!…
Fan Mail Friday #86 | Doting on the Voting
Oct 28, 2016 • 29 min
Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we’ll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. Let’s cut to it! In this episode: At this point, if you aren’t aware there’s an election going on this…
560: Jon Levy | The 2 AM Principle
Oct 27, 2016 • 53 min
Jon Levy (@JonLevyTLB) is a behavior scientist who studies influence and adventure. He returns to the show to talk about his latest book, The 2 AM Principle: Discover The Science of Adventure. The Cheat Sheet: What is adventure and why should we seek it…
559: Kevin Kelly | Inevitable Future
Oct 25, 2016 • 71 min
Kevin Kelly (@kevin2kelly) is the founding editor of Wired magazine and, most recently, author of The Inevitable: Understanding the 12 Technological Forces That Will Shape Our Future. The Cheat Sheet: Technology is an extension of the natural process of…
Minisode Monday #24 | How Do You Make a Perfect Day?
Oct 24, 2016 • 5 min
Welcome to Minisode Monday, where we kick off the week with something quick and actionable — to make you more magnetic and effective — that you can implement right away. In this Minisode Monday, Clay Hebert joins us to talk about what makes a perfect day,…
Fan Mail Friday #85 | At War with Bullies and Stress
Oct 21, 2016 • 16 min
Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we’ll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. Let’s cut to it! In this episode: Sometimes a workplace bully is best defeated by the kind of precision and…
558: Nancy Duarte | Ignite and Illuminate
Oct 20, 2016 • 36 min
Nancy Duarte (@nancyduarte) and her agency have been transforming Silicon Valley companies into movements for 25 years. She is the author of several books — most recently Illuminate: Ignite Change Through Speeches, Stories, Ceremonies, and Symbols. The…
557: Joshua Fields Millburn | The Minimalists
Oct 18, 2016 • 42 min
Joshua Fields Millburn (@JFM) of The Minimalists tells us how we can make do with less of what we don’t need to have room for more of what we value most. The Cheat Sheet: What is minimalism, and how does putting it to practice give you more from less? How…
Minisode Monday #23 | What Makes You Qualified?
Oct 17, 2016 • 8 min
Welcome to Minisode Monday, where we kick off the week with something quick and actionable — to make you more magnetic and effective — that you can implement right away. In this Minisode Monday, Ryan Holiday — author of Ego Is the Enemy — joins us to…
Fan Mail Friday #84 | Cold Shoulders and Secret Families
Oct 14, 2016 • 37 min
Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we’ll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. Kimberly Seltzer (as featured in our Toolbox for Women episodes) joins us for this one, so lets cut to it!…
556: Oliver Burkeman | The Antidote to Positive Thinking
Oct 13, 2016 • 49 min
Oliver Burkeman (@oliverburkeman) is the author of The Antidote: Happiness for People Who Can’t Stand Positive Thinking; he joins us to explain why it’s healthier to accentuate — rather than ignore — the negative. The Cheat Sheet: How does a pessimistic…
555: Clay Hebert | The Perfect Intro
Oct 11, 2016 • 45 min
Clay Hebert (@clayhebert) is a storyteller, marketing provocateur, and founder of Crowdfunding Hacks. He joins us to explain a framework he developed called The Perfect Intro: How to Confidently Introduce Yourself, Your Business, or Anyone Else in Six…
Minisode Monday #22 | Should You Leave Your Current Career?
Oct 10, 2016 • 10 min
Welcome to Minisode Monday, where we kick off the week with something quick and actionable — to make you more magnetic and effective — that you can implement right away. In this Minisode Monday, recent guest Jenny Blake, author of Pivot: The Only Move…
Fan Mail Friday #83 | More Podcast Feed Clutter
Oct 7, 2016 • 19 min
Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we’ll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. Let’s cut to it! In this episode: A listener sends supportive feedback to Jamila from Fan Mail Friday #80…
554: Daniel Pink | To Sell Is Human
Oct 6, 2016 • 67 min
Daniel Pink (@DanielPink) is the author of To Sell Is Human: The Surprising Truth About Moving Others, which uses social science, survey research, and stories to offer a fresh look at the art and science of sales. The Cheat Sheet: What’s the best way of…
553: Greg McKeown | Essentialism
Oct 4, 2016 • 54 min
Greg McKeown (@GregoryMcKeown) is the author of Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less, which challenges core assumptions about achievement (e.g., “more is better”) to get to the essence of what really drives success — on one’s own terms. The Cheat…
Minisode Monday #21 | A Better To Do List with SMART Goals
Oct 3, 2016 • 4 min
Welcome to Minisode Monday, where we kick off the week with something quick and actionable — to make you more magnetic and effective — that you can implement right away. In this Minisode Monday, recent guest Charles Duhigg — author of Smarter Faster…
Fan Mail Friday #82 | Homebrew for Humanity
Sep 30, 2016 • 21 min
Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we’ll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. Let’s cut to it! In this episode: Is quitting something stable you hate to do something risky you’ve always…
552: Charles Duhigg | Smarter Faster Better
Sep 29, 2016 • 53 min
Charles Duhigg (@cduhigg) is a Pulitzer prize-winning reporter at The New York Times and author of Smarter Faster Better: The Secrets of Being Productive in Life and Business and The Power of Habit: Why We Do What We Do in Life and Business. The Cheat…
551: Paul Bloom | Rational Compassion
Sep 27, 2016 • 44 min
Paul Bloom (@paulbloomatyale) is a developmental psychologist and author of the upcoming Against Empathy: The Case for Rational Compassion. He joins us to talk about the evolution of our innate (but limited) morality and what we as modern, rational humans…
Minisode Monday #20 | Even Monday Deserves Gratitude
Sep 26, 2016 • 11 min
Welcome to Minisode Monday, where we kick off the week with something quick and actionable — to make you more magnetic and effective — that you can implement right away. This week we tackle one of the most overused words today: gratitude. Let’s get to it!…
Fan Mail Friday #81 | Is Profanity Cool?
Sep 23, 2016 • 23 min
Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we’ll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. Let’s cut to it! In this episode: Is it possible to strike a balance between a no-strings-attached…
550: AoC Toolbox | Perfecting Your Elevator Pitch
Sep 22, 2016 • 36 min
The Art of Charm (@TheArtofCharm) presents one of the most important tools in the toolbox: perfecting your elevator pitch — a brief and memorable introduction you could make to a fellow passenger in the time it takes to get from the lobby to the penthouse…
549: Penn Jillette | Presto!
Sep 20, 2016 • 78 min
Penn Jillette (@pennjillette) is the vocal half of comic magician duo Penn & Teller and author of Presto!: How I Made Over 100 Pounds Disappear and Other Magical Tales. The Cheat Sheet: The role of flow (or autopilot) in high-level performing. Why Penn &…
Minisode Monday #19 | Relationship Roles
Sep 19, 2016 • 4 min
In this Minisode Monday, we may not be able to change someone else’s behavior directly, but we can change the role we play in our relationship with them. Let’s get to it!: The Cheat Sheet: What can you do if the bad behavior of a friend is reinforced…
Fan Mail Friday #80 | Should Broken Trust Be Rebuilt?
Sep 16, 2016 • 21 min
Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we’ll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. Let’s cut to it! In this episode: In a relationship, can trust be rebuilt once broken? More important:…
548: Srdja Popovic | Blueprint for Revolution
Sep 15, 2016 • 61 min
Srdja Popovic (@SrdjaPopovic) is the author of Blueprint for Revolution: How to Use Rice Pudding, Lego Men, and Other Nonviolent Techniques to Galvanize Communities, Overthrow Dictators, or Simply Change the World. The Cheat Sheet: What do revolutions and…
547: Mark Manson | A Counterintuitive Approach
Sep 13, 2016 • 61 min
Mark Manson (@IAmMarkManson) returns to the show to talk about his new book The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life — available today! F-bomb alert level: juicy orange. The Cheat Sheet: Conventional life…
Minisode Monday #18 | Three Positive Things Drill
Sep 12, 2016 • 4 min
Welcome to Minisode Monday, where we kick off the week with something quick and actionable that you can implement right away. It’ll make you more magnetic and effective. Let’s get to it! The Cheat Sheet: If you find your default mode is negative, how do…
Fan Mail Friday #79 | If You Build It, They Will Hire
Sep 9, 2016 • 18 min
Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we’ll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. Let’s cut to it! In this episode: Feel like your resume is lacking in experience? Show ‘em what you can…
546: Brian Fetherstonhaugh | The Long View
Sep 8, 2016 • 55 min
Brian Fetherstonhaugh (@BrianOgilvy) is the CEO of digital marketing agency OgilvyOne Worldwide and author of The Long View: Career Strategies to Start Strong, Reach High, and Go Far. The Cheat Sheet: Career math: calculations to help you appreciate the…
545: Jenny Blake | Pivot
Sep 6, 2016 • 60 min
Jenny Blake (@Jenny_Blake) is the author of Pivot: The Only Move That Matters Is Your Next One. She joins the show to help us better deal with the only real constant in life: change. The Cheat Sheet: How to make yourself more agile in your career. How to…
Minisode Monday #17 | How to End a Conversation
Sep 5, 2016 • 7 min
Welcome to Minisode Monday, where we kick off the week with something quick and actionable that you can implement right away. It’ll make you more magnetic and effective. In this Minisode Monday, former and future guest Jon Levy — author of The 2 AM…
Fan Mail Friday #78 | Hard Problems
Sep 2, 2016 • 13 min
Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we’ll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. Let’s cut to it! In this episode: How do you go back to your long-term marriage that needs work once you’ve…
544: Shep Gordon | A Supermensch in Maui
Sep 1, 2016 • 113 min
Shep Gordon (@SupermenschShep) is a talent manager, Hollywood film agent, producer, and author of They Call Me Supermensch: A Backstage Pass to the Amazing Worlds of Film, Food, and Rock’n’Roll. He was featured in Mike Meyers’ documentary Supermensch: The…
543: Robert Cialdini | Pre-suasion
Aug 30, 2016 • 63 min
Dr. Robert Cialdini (@RobertCialdini) is a speaker, consultant, and author of Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion and, most recently, Pre-suasion: A Revolutionary Way to Influence and Persuade. The Cheat Sheet: What is “pre-suasion,” and how does it…
Minisode Monday #16 | How to Write 1,000 Words a Day
Aug 29, 2016 • 4 min
Welcome to Minisode Monday, where we kick off the week with something quick and actionable that you can implement right away. It’ll make you more magnetic and effective. Today, we’re joined by recent guest, Unmistakable Creative host, and author of…
Fan Mail Friday #77 | Hustle Hard; Sleep Harder
Aug 26, 2016 • 17 min
Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we’ll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. Let’s cut to it! In this episode: You’ve been so busy building a life for you and your family that, through…
542: Lecrae | Unashamed
Aug 25, 2016 • 70 min
Lecrae (@lecrae) is a two-time Grammy winning hip hop artist and author of Unashamed, the autobiography about his rocky path to becoming a chart-topping industry anomaly. The Cheat Sheet: How do you make it to the top of the hip hop world as an introvert?…
541: Srinivas Rao | Why Only Is Better Than Best
Aug 23, 2016 • 47 min
Srinivas Rao (@unmistakableceo) is the host and founder of the Unmistakable Creative podcast — where he’s interviewed more than 700 people from all walks of life — and author of Unmistakable: Why Only is Better Than Best. The Cheat Sheet: The power of…
Minisode Monday #15 | Accommodating Old Injuries
Aug 22, 2016 • 3 min
Welcome to the 15th episode of Minisode Monday! We keep finding so many useful tactics and tips that we want to share with you, but they don’t fit into the format of a regular show — hence, Minisode Monday. Today, we’re going to address sore spots and…
Fan Mail Friday #76 | Vengeance or Validation
Aug 19, 2016 • 23 min
Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we’ll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. As an added bonus, Gabriel Mizrahi joins us! In this episode: How do you call out a friend when you see them…
540: James Altucher | Minimal Expectations
Aug 18, 2016 • 57 min
James Altucher (@jaltucher) is a serial entrepreneur, speaker, podcaster, and author of several books, including Choose Yourself: Be Happy, Make Millions, Live the Dream. He joins us to talk about — among many things — the benefits of minimizing…
539: Shawn Blanchard | From Miscreant to Mentor
Aug 16, 2016 • 43 min
Shawn Blanchard (@Shawntb) has overcome a past of drug dealing and limited options to become a speaker, mentorship specialist, and author of How ‘Bout That For A Crack Baby: Keys to Mentorship and Success. The Cheat Sheet: How does someone go from living…
Minisode Monday #14 | Worrying Never Helps
Aug 15, 2016 • 3 min
Welcome to the 14th episode of Minisode Monday! We keep finding so many useful tactics and tips that we want to share with you, but they don’t fit into the format of a regular show — hence, Minisode Monday. Today, we tried to come up with a word for the…
Fan Mail Friday #75 | Is Dual Enrollment a Game Changer?
Aug 12, 2016 • 17 min
Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we’ll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. Let’s cut to it! In this episode: If you believe weird things, one of them might be in thinking it’s a good…
538: Dacher Keltner | The Power Paradox
Aug 11, 2016 • 45 min
Dacher Keltner is a professor of psychology at University of California in Berkeley, one of the world’s foremost scientists specializing in the study of power, and author of The Power Paradox: How We Gain and Lose Influence. The Cheat Sheet: You don’t…
537: Sebastian Junger | Tribe
Aug 9, 2016 • 46 min
Sebastian Junger (@sebastianjunger) is a journalist, filmmaker, and bestselling author; he joins us to discuss his latest book Tribe: On Homecoming and Belonging and his experiences covering war for the past 20 years. The Cheat Sheet: Why do some people…
Minisode Monday #13 | Overcoming Imposter Syndrome
Aug 8, 2016 • 8 min
Welcome to the 13th episode of Minisode Monday! We keep finding so many useful tactics and tips that we want to share with you, but they don’t fit into the format of a regular show — hence, Minisode Monday. Presence: Bringing Your Boldest Self to Your…
Fan Mail Friday #74 | Personal Overdevelopment
Aug 5, 2016 • 18 min
Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we’ll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. Let’s cut to it! In this episode: What news sources do we trust to keep us informed about current events? If…
536: Amy Cuddy | Presence
Aug 4, 2016 • 51 min
Amy Cuddy (@amyjccuddy) is a social psychologist, TED Talk speaker, and author of Presence: Bringing Your Boldest Self to Your Biggest Challenges. The Cheat Sheet: What is presence, and why do the charismatic seem to have it in abundance while so many of…
535: Bob Burg | The Go-Giver
Aug 2, 2016 • 49 min
Bob Burg (@BobBurg) is the co-author of The Go-Giver: A Little Story About a Powerful Business Idea, a parable with dynamic business principles and life lessons that we can all apply with great effect. The Cheat Sheet: Why the world isn’t dog-eat-dog. The…
Minisode Monday #12 | Playing Roles and Holding Ladders
Aug 1, 2016 • 3 min
Welcome to the 12th episode of Minisode Monday! We keep finding so many useful tactics and tips that we want to share with you, but they don’t fit into the format of a regular show — hence, Minisode Monday. We take on roles when interacting with others.…
Fan Mail Friday #73 | Why Don’t I Want to Hire You?
Jul 29, 2016 • 35 min
Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we’ll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. Let’s cut to it — as an added bonus, Gabriel Mizrahi joins us! In this episode: What can you do to keep a…
534: Chris Voss | Never Split the Difference
Jul 28, 2016 • 55 min
Chris Voss (@VossNegotiation) is a former FBI hostage negotiator and author of Never Split the Difference: Negotiating as If Your Life Depended on It. He joins the show to discuss how we can be more effective negotiators by using hostage negotiation…
533: Carmen Simon | Impossible to Ignore
Jul 26, 2016 • 45 min
Carmen Simon (@areyoumemorable) is a cognitive scientist specializing in neuroscience research and how we can use memory to have a positive impact on other people’s decisions. She is the author of Impossible to Ignore: Creating Memorable Content to…
Minisode Monday #11 | How to Tell If Your Network Is Too Dense
Jul 25, 2016 • 4 min
Welcome to the 11th episode of Minisode Monday! We keep finding so many useful tactics and tips that we want to share with you, but they don’t fit into the format of a regular show — hence, Minisode Monday. Under New Management: How Leading Organizations…
Fan Mail Friday #72 | Endocrine Disrupting Atheists
Jul 22, 2016 • 17 min
Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we’ll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. Let’s cut to it! In this episode: Are you an introvert who leaves the party early because you need time away…
532: David Burkus | Under New Management
Jul 21, 2016 • 35 min
David Burkus (@davidburkus) makes it easier for good ideas to leave the ivory tower of academia and get adopted by the people in the corner office who need it. He is the author of Under New Management: How Leading Organizations Are Upending Business as…
531: Michael Shermer | Why We Believe Weird Things
Jul 19, 2016 • 57 min
Michael Shermer (@michaelshermer) is the founder of Skeptic magazine and several books on the nature of belief. He’s the Director of The Skeptics Society, a non-profit dedicated to the promotion of science, reason, and critical thinking. He joins us to…
Minisode Monday #10 | Compassion for Cretins
Jul 18, 2016 • 5 min
Welcome to the 10th episode of Minisode Monday! We keep finding so many useful tactics and tips that we want to share with you, but they don’t fit into the format of a regular show — hence, Minisode Monday. Ego Is the Enemy author and recent guest Ryan…
Fan Mail Friday #71 | Like a Neckbeard Champion
Jul 15, 2016 • 16 min
Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we’ll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. Let’s cut to it! In this episode: If your significant other voices negative opinions about people who have…
530: Jo Marchant | Cure
Jul 14, 2016 • 50 min
Jo Marchant (@JoMarchant) is a science journalist and author — her new book is Cure: A Journey into the Science of Mind over Body. The Cheat Sheet: Understand the power of placebos. Learn how your immune system can be trained. Find out why stress kills…
529: Jonah Berger | Invisible Influence
Jul 12, 2016 • 43 min
Jonah Berger (@j1berger) has spent over 15 years studying how social influence works and how it drives products and ideas to catch on. He’s a marketing professor and author; his new book is Invisible Influence: The Hidden Forces that Shape Behavior. The…
Minisode Monday #9 | Gut Decision Vs. Making up Your Mind
Jul 11, 2016 • 9 min
Welcome to the ninth episode of Minisode Monday! We keep finding so many useful tactics and tips that we want to share with you, but they don’t fit into the format of a regular show — hence, Minisode Monday. If You’re so Smart, Why Aren’t You Happy?…
Fan Mail Friday #70 | Reverse Culture Shock
Jul 8, 2016 • 17 min
Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we’ll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. Let’s cut to it! In this episode: A lonely expat wonders if he’s really cut out for living abroad, but…
528: Michelle Lederman | Nail the Interview
Jul 7, 2016 • 49 min
Michelle Lederman (@mtlederman) rejoins the show to discuss her recent book Nail the Interview, Land the Job: A Step-by-Step Guide for What to Do Before, During and After the Interview. The Cheat Sheet: Learn how to prepare for a job interview. Understand…
Minisode Monday #8 | Forthright with Faults
Jul 4, 2016 • 4 min
Welcome to the eighth episode of Minisode Monday! We keep finding so many useful tactics and tips that we want to share with you, but they don’t fit into the format of a regular show — hence, Minisode Monday. Originals: How Non-Conformists Move the World…
Fan Mail Friday #69 | Are Schools for Fools?
Jul 1, 2016 • 20 min
Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we’ll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. Let’s cut to it! In this episode: In the thick of it, high school seems like a waste of time when you’ve got…
526: Angela Duckworth | Grow Your Grit
Jun 30, 2016 • 55 min
Angela Duckworth (@angeladuckw) is a professor of psychology at the University of Pennsylvania, founder of the non-profit Character Lab, and author of Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance. The Cheat Sheet: Why we shouldn’t label others as talented.…
525: Jason McCarthy | Charming the Snake
Jun 28, 2016 • 36 min
Jason McCarthy (@GORUCK) teaches lessons focused on problem solving and rapport building related to “Charming the Snake,” a way of life for Green Berets that works in war, business, and love. The Cheat Sheet: What does GORUCK mean? Where does the term…
Minisode Monday #7 | Kindness and Giving
Jun 27, 2016 • 8 min
Welcome to the seventh episode of Minisode Monday! If You’re so Smart, Why Aren’t You Happy? author and recent guest Raj Raghunathan joins us to talk about the benefits of kindness and giving. Here’s what’s up today: The Cheat Sheet: Kindness and giving…
Fan Mail Friday #68 | Don’t Call Me a Solopreneur
Jun 24, 2016 • 16 min
Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we’ll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. Let’s cut to it! In this episode: Is it fair to assess someone’s character and integrity from a small…
524: Amy Herman | Visual Intelligence
Jun 23, 2016 • 52 min
Amy Herman (@AmyHermanAOP) helps people from across the professional spectrum enhance their observation and perception skills by learning to look at works of art in her Art of Perception course. Her new book, Visual Intelligence: Sharpen Your Perception,…
523: General Michael Hayden | Playing to the Edge
Jun 21, 2016 • 68 min
General Michael Hayden (@GenMhayden) is a retired United States Air Force general, former Director of the NSA and CIA, and author of Playing to the Edge: American Intelligence in the Age of Terror. The Cheat Sheet: How does an intelligence agent view…
Minisode Monday #6 | You’re Not Alone In Loneliness
Jun 20, 2016 • 4 min
Welcome to the sixth episode of Minisode Monday! We keep finding so many useful tactics and tips that we want to share with you, but they don’t fit into the format of a regular show — hence, Minisode Monday. Here’s what’s up today: The Cheat Sheet:…
Fan Mail Friday #67 | A Face for Podcasting
Jun 17, 2016 • 16 min
Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we’ll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. Let’s cut to it! In this episode: How do you maintain a healthy mind and keep improving yourself when there…
522: Tim Urban | Wait But Why
Jun 16, 2016 • 55 min
Tim Urban (@waitbutwhy) of Wait But Why tells us how to build good patterns for defeating chronic procrastination and gain control over our own lives. The Cheat Sheet: Telling someone afflicted with chronic procrastination not to procrastinate is like…
521: Jocko Willink | Extreme Ownership
Jun 14, 2016 • 76 min
Jocko Willink (@jockowillink), commander for the most highly decorated special operations unit of the Iraq War, joins the show to talk about taking responsibility, discipline, intensity, and leadership to the next level as outlined in Extreme Ownership:…
Minisode Monday #5 | Testing Our Assumptions
Jun 13, 2016 • 3 min
Welcome to the fifth episode of Minisode Monday, where we’ll talk about testing our assumptions! We keep finding so many useful tactics and tips that we want to share with you, but they don’t fit into the format of a regular show — hence, Minisode Monday.…
Fan Mail Friday #66 | Unfriending In Real Life
Jun 10, 2016 • 17 min
Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we’ll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. Let’s cut to it! In this episode: If a partner is going through therapy and the 12 steps for recovery from…
520: Hines Ward | Do the Dirty Work
Jun 9, 2016 • 60 min
Hines Ward (@mvp86hinesward) is a two-time Super Bowl champion and MVP of Super Bowl XL. He joins us to talk about how, in spite of just turning 40, he’s just getting started. The Cheat Sheet: Hard work beats talent when talent doesn’t work hard. By…
519: Ryan Holiday | Ego Is the Enemy
Jun 7, 2016 • 54 min
Ryan Holiday (@ryanholiday), author of Ego Is the Enemy, talks about how learning to put our higher goals above a desire for recognition leads us to true accomplishment. The Cheat Sheet: What is the ego? When does the ego go from being a fundamental part…
Minisode Monday #4 | Never Too Late to Be Grateful
Jun 6, 2016 • 2 min
Welcome to the fourth episode of Minisode Monday! We keep finding so many useful tactics and tips that we want to share with you, but they don’t fit into the format of a regular show — hence, Minisode Monday. The Cheat Sheet: Off the top of your head,…
Fan Mail Friday #65 | Sex and the Single Superhero
Jun 3, 2016 • 53 min
Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we’ll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. Kimberly Seltzer (as featured in our Toolbox for Women episodes) joins us for this one, so let’s cut to it!…
518: Raj Raghunathan | If You’re so Smart, Why Aren’t You Happy?
Jun 2, 2016 • 55 min
Raj Raghunathan (@Rajadon), author of If You’re so Smart, Why Aren’t You Happy?, examines why happiness often eludes us in all walks of life — no matter how healthy, wealthy, or wise we seem to others. The Cheat Sheet: The very things that make people…
517: Adam Grant | Originals Move the World
May 31, 2016 • 53 min
Adam Grant (@AdamMGrant), author of Originals: How Non-Conformists Move the World, revisits the show to explain how defying conformity gives us the power to change the world instead of just accepting it as it is. The Cheat Sheet: Great creators don’t…
Minisode Monday #3 | Nonverbal Communication for Travelers
May 30, 2016 • 3 min
Welcome to the third episode of Minisode Monday! We keep finding so many useful tactics and tips that we want to share with you, but they don’t fit into the format of a regular show — hence, Minisode Monday. The Cheat Sheet: When you’re traveling around…
Fan Mail Friday #64 | Paralysis By Analysis
May 27, 2016 • 24 min
Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we’ll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. Let’s cut to it! In this episode: You’ve resolved to make big changes in your life — but how do you…
516: Rob Norman | Improvising Now
May 26, 2016 • 43 min
Rob Norman (@robthenorman), co-host of The Backline podcast and author of Improvising Now, explains how we can use techniques from improvisational theater to conquer everyday life challenges. The Cheat Sheet: Improvisational theater skills go far beyond…
515: Cal Newport | Deep Work
May 24, 2016 • 60 min
Cal Newport revisits the show to talk about deep work and how focus can make you not only more productive and effective, but happier and more neurologically healthy. The Cheat Sheet: What’s the difference between shallow work and deep work? Why is…
Minisode Monday #2 | Reading People Quickly
May 23, 2016 • 3 min
Welcome to the second episode of Minisode Monday! We keep finding so so many useful tactics and tips that we want to share with you, but they don’t fit into the format of a regular show — hence, Minisode Monday. The Cheat Sheet: How can you start reading…
Fan Mail Friday #63 | Lady Boner Killer
May 20, 2016 • 35 min
Time for Fan Mail Fridays, where we’ll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. In this episode: Is there a polite way to snap your friend out of a need for attention from the opposite…
514: Sam Harris | The Anti-Trump
May 19, 2016 • 74 min
Sam Harris (@samharrisorg) is a neuroscientist, author, and philosopher; he’s also a staunch critic of religion (while being an advocate of mindfulness) who joins the show to discuss some views that — fair warning — many may find controversial. The Cheat…
513: Dr. Anders Ericsson | Science of Expertise
May 17, 2016 • 54 min
Dr. Anders Ericsson (@PeakTheBook) is the expert in finding out what it takes to become an expert. Here, he discusses Peak: Secrets from the New Science of Expertise, his new book co-authored with Robert Pool. The Cheat Sheet: Innate talent is a myth. How…
Minisode Monday #1 | Taming Negative Emotional Biases
May 16, 2016 • 5 min
Welcome to the first episode of Minisode Monday! We keep finding so so many useful tactics and tips that we want to share with you, but they don’t fit into the format of a regular show — hence, Minisode Monday. But don’t worry! We’ll still present the…
Fan Mail Friday #62 | Red Flag Dads and Fowl Obstructions
May 13, 2016 • 21 min
Time for Fan Mail Fridays, where we’ll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. In this episode: If men are the gas and women are the brakes (per guest Emily Nagoski in The Art of Charm…
512: Linda Carroll | Lasting Love
May 11, 2016 • 53 min
Linda Carroll (@Lovecycleslinda), therapist and author of Love Cycles: The Five Essential Stages of Lasting Love, revisits the show to discuss how we can maintain strong romantic relationships for years beyond the initial hormones of early love. The Cheat…
511: Dr. Melanie Watkins | Your Mental Health First
May 9, 2016 • 40 min
Dr. Melanie Watkins (@MWatkinsMD) is a psychiatrist who emphasizes the importance of making mental health a priority by minimizing the mystery — and sometimes the misery — of mental illness and addiction treatment. The Cheat Sheet: Maintaining mental…
Fan Mail Friday #61 | Shocked!
May 6, 2016 • 19 min
Time for Fan Mail Fridays, where we’ll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. In this episode: How do you deal with success anxiety when you find yourself deviating from an ambitious…
510: AmyK Hutchens | The Secrets Leaders Keep
May 4, 2016 • 47 min
AmyK Hutchens (@AmyKHutchens), author of The Secrets Leaders Keep: Insightful Stories And Provocative Questions That Unlock The Hidden Secrets To Winning Big In Business And Life tells us how we can think more critically, solve our problems more quickly,…
509: Duana Welch | The Evolution of Love
May 2, 2016 • 55 min
Dr. Duana Welch (@duanawelch), author of Love Factually: 10 Proven Steps from I Wish to I Do, rejoins us to discuss the evolution of love. The Cheat Sheet: What are some of the core differences between men and women? Learn how men and women have shaped…
Fan Mail Friday #60 | Scent of Single
Apr 29, 2016 • 14 min
Time for Fan Mail Fridays, where we’ll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. In this episode: Your overall confidence is low and your desperation rises as you seek a new job in a new…
508: Dan Millman | The Four Purposes of Life
Apr 27, 2016 • 48 min
Dan Millman (@pwdan) revisits the show to talk about his newly updated book The Four Purposes of Life: Finding Meaning and Direction in a Changing World. The Cheat Sheet: Earth/life is a school and daily life is your classroom. Career and calling are two…
507: Kimberly Seltzer | Body Image and Confidence
Apr 25, 2016 • 37 min
Kimberly Seltzer (@SeltzerKimberly) returns to the show to share her formula for creating and maintaining a confident body image based on the body we have over the body we might wish we had. This pertains to women and men, so there should be something…
Fan Mail Friday #59 | The Peer Pressure of Wall Street and Drugs
Apr 22, 2016 • 22 min
Time for Fan Mail Fridays, where we’ll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. In this episode: If you’re going through the trouble of enduring so-called “networking events,” should you…
506: Neil Pasricha | The Happiness Equation
Apr 20, 2016 • 43 min
Neil Pasricha (@1000Awesome), author of The Happiness Equation, shares counterintuitive and practical happiness hacks to help us elevate ourselves into greater positivity and productivity every day using real action-oriented models and frameworks to think…
505: Karen Baetzel | BattleAxe Consulting
Apr 18, 2016 • 46 min
Karen Baetzel (@BattleAxe57) started BattleAxe Consulting to sharpen leaders — for work and for life — through experiential and multi-channel training using military aviation principles. She insists they have fun doing it, too! The Cheat Sheet: Learn…
Fan Mail Friday #58 | Take a Chance on You
Apr 15, 2016 • 20 min
Time for Fan Mail Fridays, where we’ll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. In this episode: How do you meet new people for platonic relationships while making it clear that you’re…
504: Kira Asatryan | Stop Being Lonely
Apr 13, 2016 • 38 min
Kira Asatryan (@KiraAsatryan) discusses the epidemic of loneliness felt by modern Americans — millennials in particular — and how it can be countered by closeness, the foundation of all happy and long-lasting relationships. She is the author of Stop Being…
503: Kimberly Seltzer | Top 5 Mistakes Women Make When Trying to Attract a Man
Apr 11, 2016 • 23 min
Kimberly Seltzer (@SeltzerKimberly) is a dating and makeover expert who draws upon her experience as a therapist for an inside-out approach to helping people look and feel their best. We welcome her back to the show to share the top five mistakes women…
Fan Mail Friday #57 | Social Performance Anxiety
Apr 8, 2016 • 20 min
Time for Fan Mail Fridays, where we’ll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. In this episode: What do you do for the friend who seems to need you as a cheerleader to pursue their life…
502: Bert Jacobs | Life is Good
Apr 6, 2016 • 39 min
Bert Jacobs (@Lifeisgood) is co-founder and CEO (Chief Executive Optimist) of The Life is Good Company, which spreads the power of optimism through inspiring art, a passionate community, and groundbreaking nonprofit work. He’s also the co-author of the…
501: Chris Guillebeau | Born for This
Apr 4, 2016 • 47 min
Chris Guillebeau (@chrisguillebeau) is a bestselling author and host of the annual World Domination Summit. He’s here to tell us how his new book Born for This will help you find the work you were meant to do. The Cheat Sheet: Why don’t more people pursue…
Fan Mail Friday #56 | Becoming a Better Role Model
Apr 1, 2016 • 17 min
Time for Fan Mail Fridays, where we’ll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. AJ fills in for Jordan this time around, so let’s cut to it! In this episode: The cold shoulder is a poor…
500: Dan Harris | 10% Happier
Mar 30, 2016 • 60 min
Dan Harris (@danbharris) is a co-anchor of Nightline and the weekend edition of Good Morning America on ABC News. He’s the author of 10% Happier: How I Tamed the Voice in My Head, Reduced Stress Without Losing My Edge, and Found Self-Help That Actually…
499: Kimberly Seltzer | How to Set Boundaries
Mar 28, 2016 • 37 min
Kimberly Seltzer (@SeltzerKimberly) is a dating and makeover expert who draws upon her experience as a therapist for an inside-out approach to helping people look and feel their best. We welcome her back to the show to give us a woman’s perspective on…
Fan Mail Friday #55 | Fear of a Millennial Planet
Mar 25, 2016 • 28 min
Time for Fan Mail Fridays, where we’ll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. If you’re new to The Art of Charm Podcast, this isn’t a great place to start. Most of our content is more…
498: Dr. Jeff Spencer | Champion’s Blueprint
Mar 23, 2016 • 58 min
Dr. Jeff Spencer (@jeffspencer) is here to tell us how he enables the impossible when everything’s on the line. He’s helped Olympic athletes win gold medals, he’s helped businessmen make millions of dollars, and he’s helped thought leaders move to the…
497: Kimberly Seltzer | Flirting for Women
Mar 21, 2016 • 39 min
Kimberly Seltzer (@SeltzerKimberly) is a dating and makeover expert who draws upon her experience as a therapist for an inside-out approach to helping people look and feel their best. We welcome her back to the show to give us a woman’s perspective on…
Fan Mail Friday #54 | Long Hair, Don’t Care
Mar 18, 2016 • 16 min
Time for Fan Mail Fridays, where we’ll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. And if you want to ask us a question by phone to possibly be featured in a future Fan Mail Friday, drop us…
496: Scott Barry Kaufman | Wired to Create
Mar 16, 2016 • 35 min
Scott Barry Kaufman (@sbkaufman) believes in the power of imagination and creativity to transform society for the better. He’s the co-author of Wired to Create: Unraveling the Mysteries of the Creative Mind, which details the 10 habits of highly creative…
495: Philip McKernan | Intuitive Clarity
Mar 14, 2016 • 63 min
Philip McKernan (@PhilipMcKernan) is like a life flow chiropractor. He helps people find or reconnect to what it is they truly love by aligning with their own intuition instead of suppressing it for the expectations of others and appeasement of a…
Fan Mail Friday #53 | Not Crazy for Kinky
Mar 11, 2016 • 19 min
Time for Fan Mail Fridays, where we’ll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. If you’re new to The Art of Charm Podcast, this isn’t a great place to start. Most of our content is more…
494: Gary Vaynerchuk | #AskGaryVee
Mar 9, 2016 • 66 min
Gary Vaynerchuk (@garyvee) revisits The Art of Charm to talk about his new book #AskGaryVee: One Entrepreneur’s Take on Leadership, Social Media, and Self-Awareness and answer questions from listeners and AoC alumni. “Everybody old cares way more about…
493: Teresa de Grosbois | Mass Influence
Mar 7, 2016 • 41 min
Teresa de Grosbois (@TeresaDee) is an influence expert sought by entrepreneurs and large corporations wanting to better understand how local word of mouth can suddenly turn epidemic, and she’s the author of Mass Influence: The Habits of the Highly…
Fan Mail Friday #52 | Supplicative Sweatpants
Mar 4, 2016 • 17 min
Time for Fan Mail Fridays, where we’ll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. In this episode: Can your personal growth still thrive if you’re in a relationship with an underachiever? A…
492: Duana Welch | Love Logically
Mar 2, 2016 • 59 min
Dr. Duana Welch (@duanawelch), author of Love Factually, rejoins us to explain how men can enter, exit, and recover from relationships in a way that benefits them…all based on science. The Cheat Sheet: Is “love at first sight” a real thing? Science has…
491: Jay Baer | Hug Your Haters
Feb 29, 2016 • 54 min
Jay Baer (@JayBaer), author of Hug Your Haters: How to Embrace Complaints and Keep Your Customers, shows us why we should strive to understand our haters and communicate with them instead of getting defensive or — worse — ignoring them altogether. “When…
Fan Mail Friday #51 | Bubonic Plague Friday
Feb 26, 2016 • 21 min
Time for Fan Mail Fridays, where we’ll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. If you’re new to The Art of Charm Podcast, this isn’t a great place to start. Most of our content is more…
490: Michael Roderick | Small Pond Enterprises
Feb 24, 2016 • 60 min
Michael Roderick (@MichaelRoderick) went from being a high school teacher to a broadway producer in two years. Here, he shares what he’s learned about the different ways we connect and how they tie into our own issues around giving and asking. The Cheat…
489: Russ Roberts | How Adam Smith Can Change Your Life
Feb 22, 2016 • 56 min
Russ Roberts (@EconTalker) talks about how economics can help us understand the world around us and lead better lives. He’s the author of How Adam Smith Can Change Your Life: An Unexpected Guide to Human Nature and Happiness and host of the EconTalk…
Fan Mail Friday #50 | Not Mad About Adderall
Feb 19, 2016 • 19 min
Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #50, where we’ll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right! In this episode: Remember this one important rule when someone keeps blowing you off: your time is…
488: Ben Michaelis | Your Next Big Thing
Feb 17, 2016 • 42 min
Dr. Ben Michaelis (@DrBenMichaelis) is a motivational psychologist and author of Your Next Big Thing: Ten Small Steps to Get Moving and Get Happy. Here, he shows us how to stop trying to avoid stress and, instead, utilize it in intelligent ways. “The…
487: Brian Koppelman | Making Billions
Feb 15, 2016 • 73 min
Brian Koppelman (@BrianKoppelman) was a blocked writer until he was 30. Now, he’s the showrunner, co-creator, and executive producer of Billions on Showtime and the host of Slate’s The Moment podcast. How did he turn things around? He’s here to discuss…
Fan Mail Friday #49 | Do It for the Children
Feb 12, 2016 • 16 min
Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #49! No jibber-jabber, just a short show where we answer Art of Charm listener mail and give out mini-lessons for the weekend! In this episode: Be careful of giving too much significance to someone you think of as a “significant…
486: Frances Cole Jones | How to Wow
Feb 10, 2016 • 49 min
Frances Cole Jones (@FCJones), author of How to Wow, wants you (yes, you!) to know that charisma is something you can learn and cultivate for better job interviews, sales pitches, presentations, and connecting with others. The Cheat Sheet: Understand the…
485: Dr. Rhonda Patrick | Found My Fitness
Feb 8, 2016 • 59 min
Dr. Rhonda Patrick (@foundmyfitness) of FoundMyFitness.com talks about micronutrient deficiencies on metabolism, inflammation, DNA damage, and aging as well as the role of vitamin D and omega-3 fatty acids in brain function. The Cheat Sheet: Just because…
Fan Mail Friday #48 | Derple Hazing
Feb 5, 2016 • 22 min
Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #48! No jibber-jabber, just a short show where we answer Art of Charm listener mail and give out mini-lessons for the weekend! In this episode: Was Cal Newport’s advice to entrepreneurs in episode 482 of The Art of Charm too…
484: Dov Gordon | 5 Questions from a Dying Man
Feb 3, 2016 • 49 min
Dov Gordon (@dovgordon) helps consultants, experts, and small professional service firms build a steady, consistent, predictable flow of ideal clients. He also tells us why it’s important to take “Seddon Days” by putting our priorities in perspective and…
483: Pat Flynn | Will It Fly?
Feb 1, 2016 • 51 min
Pat Flynn (@patflynn) helps entrepreneurs build and grow successful online businesses with his book Will It Fly?: How to Test Your Next Business Idea So You Don’t Waste Your Time and Money and the Smart Passive Income podcast and blog. The Cheat Sheet: An…
Fan Mail Friday #47 | Self-Deprecation and Arrogance
Jan 29, 2016 • 20 min
Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #47! No jibber-jabber, just a short show where we answer Art of Charm listener mail and give out mini-lessons for the weekend. To mix things up a little, AJ joins us for this episode! In this episode: What’s the difference…
482: Cal Newport | So Good They Can’t Ignore You
Jan 27, 2016 • 61 min
Cal Newport (@calnewport) shows us how to cultivate meaningful and successful working lives while debunking the “follow your passion” advice that lesser professors peddle to the masses. The Cheat Sheet: Why is “follow your passion” bad advice — and what…
481: Cameron Herold | Double Double
Jan 25, 2016 • 55 min
Cameron Herold (@CameronHerold) tells us how we can double our revenue and profit in three years or less in his book Double Double. The Cheat Sheet: What’s the real harm in a serial entrepreneur’s lack of focus? Sometimes, working backwards is the best…
Fan Mail Friday #46 | Outdressing Your Bullies
Jan 22, 2016 • 37 min
Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #46! No jibber-jabber, just a short show where we answer Art of Charm listener mail and give out mini-lessons for the weekend! Kim Seltzer joins Jordan in this episode to offer a genuine therapist’s perspective. Enjoy! In this…
480: Linda Carroll | Love Cycles
Jan 20, 2016 • 51 min
Linda Carroll (@Lovecycleslinda) practices and teaches the skills of learning to love wholeheartedly by looking at what gets in the way, and discusses her book Love Cycles: The Five Essential Stages of Lasting Love. The Cheat Sheet: There are five natural…
479: Bill Caskey and Bryan Neale | Advanced Selling
Jan 18, 2016 • 49 min
Bill Caskey and Bryan Neale (@advancedselling) of The Advanced Selling Podcast show us we don’t have to be in sales to master our “inner game” mindset and get what we want out of life. The Cheat Sheet: Whether we realize it or not, we’re all in sales — no…
Fan Mail Friday #45 | Red Flag Intervention
Jan 15, 2016 • 25 min
Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #45! No jibber-jabber, just a short show where we answer Art of Charm listener mail and give out mini-lessons for the weekend! In this episode: How can you objectively qualify relationship red flags in your own situation when…
478: Maria Konnikova | The Confidence Game
Jan 13, 2016 • 55 min
Maria Konnikova (@mkonnikova) shows us how we can defend ourselves against would-be con artists and use the same principles for more benign purposes in her new book The Confidence Game. The Cheat Sheet: As it turns out, you can fool an honest man. But…
477: Steve Kamb | Level Up Your Life
Jan 11, 2016 • 53 min
Steve Kamb (@stevekamb) gives us a blueprint to follow, based on game mechanics and nerd culture, to finally accomplish things in our lives we’ve always wanted but never found the time for in his first book, Level Up Your Life. The Cheat Sheet: Stuck in a…
Fan Mail Friday #44 | Data Dating
Jan 8, 2016 • 23 min
Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #44! No jibber-jabber, just a short show where we answer Art of Charm listener mail and give out mini-lessons for the weekend! Because Jordan is out of town, Kim Seltzer joins Jason for today’s Fan Mail Friday! In this episode:…
476: Jon Acuff | Do Over
Jan 6, 2016 • 68 min
Jon Acuff (@JonAcuff) shares how we can rescue Monday, reinvent our work, and never get stuck — at any age or stage of career — in his new book Do Over. The Cheat Sheet: 90 percent of Americans are disengaged from work — are you among them? If you spend…
475: John Lee Dumas | SMART Goals
Jan 4, 2016 • 36 min
John Lee Dumas (@johnleedumas) shows us how use the SMART goal system from his new Freedom Journal to accomplish a number one objective in 100 days. The Cheat Sheet: What is the number one reason some entrepreneurs succeed while others fail? Which is more…
Fan Mail Friday #43 | Ignore Mom: Talk to Strangers
Jan 1, 2016 • 10 min
Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #43! No jibber-jabber, just a short show where we answer Art of Charm listener mail and give out mini-lessons for the weekend! In this episode: How do you keep your work ethic strong when you’re surrounded by countless…
474: Rob Scott | Identity Shifting Mastermind
Dec 30, 2015 • 44 min
Rob Scott (@rob_scott) is a master coach known for hijacking people’s minds, rewiring their limiting beliefs, and leaving them completely transformed. The Cheat Sheet: Why is self-sabotage such a common characteristic among human beings, and how can we…
473: AoC | Best of 2015
Dec 28, 2015 • 48 min
The Art of Charm team (@TheArtofCharm) recounts personal favorite episodes from 2015. Did your favorite episode get left out? Leave a comment and let us know! The Cheat Sheet: Could you name your five favorite Art of Charm episodes from 2015? Are you…
Fan Mail Friday #42 | What Happens in Reno…
Dec 25, 2015 • 10 min
Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #42! No jibber-jabber, just a short show where we answer Art of Charm listener mail and give out mini-lessons for the weekend! In this episode: Does consistently getting bored with people you date indicate there’s a problem with…
472: Shawn Rafferty | The Safety Blueprint
Dec 23, 2015 • 59 min
Shawn Rafferty (@SafetyBlueprint) is here to show us how to avoid being victimized by harnessing the key principles of situational and observational awareness and making them a permanent part of our daily routine. The Cheat Sheet: What’s more important…
471: Matt Moore | The Gentleman’s Kitchen
Dec 21, 2015 • 39 min
Matt Moore (@HHOFD) is here to show you how to become a better version of yourself — personally, in relationships, in friendships, and in business — by cooking and sharing food with others. The Cheat Sheet: If you aren’t cooking, why aren’t you cooking?…
Fan Mail Friday #41 | Winds of Change
Dec 18, 2015 • 18 min
Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #41! No jibber-jabber, just a short show where we answer Art of Charm listener mail and give out mini-lessons for the weekend! In this episode: “Pull my finger” is the new “It’s not you — it’s me.” How do you tactfully let a…
470: Scott Harrison | Give up Your Birthday
Dec 16, 2015 • 54 min
Scott Harrison (@scottharrison) has convinced more than 20,000 people to give up their birthday presents to raise money for people who need access to clean, safe water in developing countries. And in only nine years, charity: water has raised more than…
469: AOC Toolbox | Social Capital Basics
Dec 14, 2015 • 50 min
The Art of Charm (@TheArtofCharm) presents this toolbox episode about networking and social capital basics that will give you an important leg up in your own relationship development skills! The Cheat Sheet: Relationship development (and, by extension,…
Fan Mail Friday #40 | Disastrous Toasts and Punctual Lurkers
Dec 11, 2015 • 9 min
Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #40! No jibber-jabber, just a short show where we answer Art of Charm listener mail and give out mini-lessons for the weekend! In this episode: In the 21st century, who pays for what and when in the world of (American) dating?…
468: Kabir Sehgal | The Darwin of Dollars
Dec 9, 2015 • 49 min
Kabir Sehgal (@HiKabir) looks at biological, psychological, and external factors that help us make sense of how we interact with our dollars in his book Coined: the Rich Life of Money and How Its History Has Shaped Us. The Cheat Sheet: What happens in…
467: Jay Samit | Disrupt You
Dec 7, 2015 • 52 min
Jay Samit (@jaysamit) is a leading technology innovator and serial entrepreneur who tells us how to master personal transformation, seize opportunity, and thrive in this era of endless innovation. The Cheat Sheet: Are you living your life, or are you just…
Fan Mail Friday #39 | From Creepy to Courtly
Dec 4, 2015 • 14 min
Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #39! No jibber-jabber, just a short show where we answer Art of Charm listener mail and give out mini-lessons for the weekend! In this episode: When you don’t feel like you have enough time or energy for dating, take a cue from…
466: Jesse Itzler | The 100 Mile Man
Dec 2, 2015 • 51 min
Jesse Itzler (@the100MileMan) is a powerhouse of boundless energy with a rigid discipline for time management who has never missed a day of work in 25 years. Still, he hired a Navy SEAL to help him up his routine’s game and then wrote a book about it —…
465: Adrienne Dorison | Self-Mastery over Debt
Nov 30, 2015 • 50 min
Adrienne Dorison (@adriennedorison) ditched over $45,000 in student debt in less than six months; follow her advice here and achieve your own financial freedom. The Cheat Sheet: Your beliefs about debt — and your credit score — don’t (and shouldn’t)…
Fan Mail Friday #38 | Correlation Does Not Imply Causation
Nov 27, 2015 • 26 min
Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #38! No jibber-jabber, just a short show where we answer Art of Charm listener mail and give out mini-lessons for the weekend! In this episode: Is it possible to get out of the friend zone when you’ve been there since the game…
464: Bobby Umar | Network Anytime
Nov 25, 2015 • 42 min
Bobby Umar (@raehanbobby) believes we can change the world by recognizing the power of connection originating within and embracing our own leadership. He specializes in turning lost leaders into thought leaders. The Cheat Sheet: How does someone become a…
463: Jeff Goins | How to Find Your Calling
Nov 23, 2015 • 48 min
Jeff Goins (@Jeff Goins) transitioned into his own dream job as a full-time writer; now he helps others overcome common myths and misconceptions about the journey so they can find and answer their own callings. The Cheat Sheet: Everyone has a calling —…
Fan Mail Friday #37 | The Lady Doth Protest Too Much, Methinks
Nov 20, 2015 • 13 min
Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #37! No jibber-jabber, just a short show where we answer Art of Charm listener mail and give out mini-lessons for the weekend! In this episode: How does a fixer successfully date a complainer? What do you do to rekindle the…
462: Chris Donaghue | Sex Outside the Lines
Nov 18, 2015 • 45 min
Dr. Chris Donaghue (@ChrisDonaghue) is one of only a few hundred people in the entire world certified as a sex therapist, so you’ll want to hear what he has to say about the myths of sexual dysfunctions, accepting your desires (even if they don’t align…
461: Anese Cavanaugh | Contagious Culture
Nov 16, 2015 • 55 min
Anese Cavanaugh (@anesecavanaugh) knows what it takes to make “busy” beautiful. She helps people and companies unlock leadership potential, create meaningful impact, and enjoy themselves while doing it. The Cheat Sheet: Is the way you’re “showing up”…
Fan Mail Friday #36 | Fashion Plate Banquet at the Memory Palace
Nov 13, 2015 • 11 min
Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #36! No jibber-jabber, just a short show where we answer Art of Charm listener mail and give out mini-lessons for the weekend! In this episode: We get listener feedback about how to deal with someone who laughs awkwardly at…
460: Stephen Mansfield | Building a Band of Brothers
Nov 11, 2015 • 40 min
Stephen Mansfield (@MansfieldWrites) strives to inspire men to form a Band of Brothers around themselves to help them perfect noble manhood in their lives. The Cheat Sheet: Learn why most men in contemporary society don’t have a best friend. Why does…
459: Duana Welch | Science-Based Dating
Nov 9, 2015 • 56 min
Dr. Duana Welch (@duanawelch) is known for applying social science to real-life relationship issues and is the author of Love Factually: 10 Proven Steps from I Wish to I Do, the only book that applies science to your love life from before you meet until…
Fan Mail Friday #35 | Just Say No to Drug Myths
Nov 6, 2015 • 14 min
Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #35! No jibber-jabber, just a short show where we answer Art of Charm listener mail and give out mini-lessons for the weekend! In this episode: What is the function of self-deprecation when striking up a new acquaintance, and…
458: Bob Arno | Pickpocket King
Nov 4, 2015 • 66 min
Bob Arno (@bambivalent) is a professional pickpocket who uses his powers for good. How? Find out in this episode of The Art of Charm! The Cheat Sheet: How does someone without a criminal background become a pickpocket? What are the psychological…
457: Hugh Culver | Hero Habits
Nov 2, 2015 • 36 min
Hugh Culver (@HughCulver) teaches us how we can think better, plan smarter, and act now on what really matters by developing Hero Habits. The Cheat Sheet: The first secret of success is to learn failure is temporary. Which pain are you more willing to…
Fan Mail Friday #34 | Alt Girls, Nice Guys, and Bad Friends
Oct 30, 2015 • 15 min
Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #34! No jibber-jabber, just a short show where we answer Art of Charm listener mail and give out mini-lessons for the weekend! In this episode: How do you deal with an overwhelming sense of envy that springs up whenever you…
456: Lewis Howes | The School of Greatness
Oct 28, 2015 • 53 min
Lewis Howes (@LewisHowes) discusses his new book, The School of Greatness, and its framework for achieving real, sustainable, and repeatable success. The Cheat Sheet: What is a lifestyle entrepreneur? While interviewing successful people, Lewis Howes…
BONUS: Kimberly Seltzer | How to Find a Therapist
Oct 27, 2015 • 21 min
Kimberly Seltzer (@SeltzerKimberly) gives us her five-step process for finding a therapist who is right for you. The Cheat Sheet: We all need help from time to time; there’s absolutely no shame in seeking therapy — just as there’s no shame in consulting a…
455: Alex Kouts | Getting Hired at a Startup
Oct 26, 2015 • 58 min
Alex Kouts (@akouts) returns to The Art of Charm to talk about how to get hired at a startup (and if the startup life might — or might not — be a good fit for you). The Cheat Sheet: What is a startup? How does a startup find a sustainable product/market…
Fan Mail Friday #33 | Contrariwise Bedroom Superheroes
Oct 23, 2015 • 19 min
Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #33! No jibber-jabber, just a short show where we answer Art of Charm listener mail and give out mini-lessons for the weekend! In this episode: Sometimes your partner will complain just to vent about something that’s bothering…
454: Mark Manson | Unconditional Communication
Oct 21, 2015 • 60 min
Mark Manson (@iammarkmanson) is the author of Models: Attract Women Through Honesty, and he blogs to an audience of millions about psychology and personal development. The Cheat Sheet: Love is not enough; people prioritize love over other more important…
453: Zachary Stockill | Retroactive Jealousy
Oct 19, 2015 • 30 min
Zachary Stockill (@zfstockill) shows us how overcoming retroactive jealousy and possessiveness is as easy as learning to let go. The Cheat Sheet: All jealousy is related to insecurity in some way. How should we deal with the complex cultural politics of…
Fan Mail Friday #32 | Advice for the 25-Year-Old Virgin
Oct 16, 2015 • 16 min
Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #32! No jibber-jabber, just a short show where we answer Art of Charm listener mail and give out mini-lessons for the weekend! In this episode: While it might not be the end of the tunnel, it’s good that you’re seeing the light…
452: Neil Strauss | The Truth
Oct 14, 2015 • 63 min
Neil Strauss tells The Truth about past transgressions in his latest book, but it’s more than just a head-cleaning confession — it’s an exploration of options most people probably haven’t considered. “Nobody’s making you do anything. You have complete…
451: Amy Port | Heroic Public Speaking
Oct 12, 2015 • 52 min
If you can learn to tell a good story, you can captivate any audience — whether as a public speaker, while interviewing for a job, or when you’re on a date. “If there’s one big piece of advice that I have — albeit I have a lot of them — it’s: make sure…
Fan Mail Friday #31 | Homemakers of the World Unite and Take Over
Oct 9, 2015 • 17 min
Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #31! No jibber-jabber, just a short show where we answer Art of Charm listener mail and give out mini-lessons for the weekend! In this episode: How do you learn to trust yourself and your instincts (especially when it comes to…
450: Michael Port | Steal the Show
Oct 7, 2015 • 60 min
Every interaction is a performance — whether you’re speaking up in a meeting, pitching a client, negotiating a raise, or walking into a job interview. Michael Port tells us how to steal the show. “There’s a benefit to being chameleon-like.” -Michael Port…
449: Amy Morin | Mentally Stronger
Oct 5, 2015 • 42 min
By recognizing in our own behavior what keeps us from being resilient against life’s obstacles, we’re empowered to stop the cycle and focus on what it takes to become mentally stronger. “Every time you take your eyes off of your own goals and you start…
Fan Mail Friday #30 | Social Chops for Covert Ops
Oct 2, 2015 • 14 min
Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #30! No jibber-jabber, just a short show where we answer Art of Charm listener mail and give out mini-lessons for the weekend! In this episode: Contrary to popular belief, a lot of intelligence agents have trouble pulling off…
448: Gary Vaynerchuk | Climbing the Ladder
Sep 30, 2015 • 63 min
Do you think of people who pursue their passions and make good money doing it as lucky? Chances are that Gary Vaynerchuk works a lot harder than you. “Let me just clarify one thing — I’m not lucky!” -Gary Vaynerchuk The Cheat Sheet: How did a kid from the…
BONUS: Robert Richman | The Culture Blueprint
Sep 29, 2015 • 41 min
Corporate culture is only as boring and stagnant — or exciting and thriving — as the people who create it. “You can never really create culture…but you can design all these elements around it the same way you can design a house for the kind of…
447: Austin Kleon | Steal Like an Artist
Sep 28, 2015 • 53 min
Stop worrying so much about where your inspiration is coming from and just create. “People think that authors are writing exactly what they know, but I think a lot of times, authors are writing what they’re trying to figure out.” -Austin Kleon The Cheat…
Fan Mail Friday #29 | Thanks for That Challenging Viewpoint
Sep 25, 2015 • 20 min
“What men and women did to each other was beyond comprehension.” -Charles Bukowski Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #29! No jibber-jabber, just a short show where we answer Art of Charm listener mail and give out mini-lessons for the weekend! In this episode: A…
446: Tony Stubblebine | Ruthless Meditation
Sep 23, 2015 • 49 min
Meditation is for doers who seek personal top performance — from entrepreneurs to professional athletes like Kobe Bryant. “If you hand a top performer a potential advantage, they’re going to try it.” -Tony Stubblebine The Cheat Sheet: What benefits will…
445: Dr. Carol Dweck | The Motivated Mindset
Sep 21, 2015 • 51 min
Your talents, abilities, and intelligence aren’t fixed traits — they can be expanded and improved at any age with a mindset motivated toward growth. “It’s exciting to be progressing and doing things you never thought you could do; it’s less exciting to…
Fan Mail Friday #28 | Stop Aiming Below Your Dating League
Sep 18, 2015 • 16 min
Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #28! No jibber-jabber, just a short show where we answer Art of Charm listener mail and give out mini-lessons for the weekend! In this episode: If the pervasive drunken collegiate environment isn’t offering any appealing…
444: Jason Connell | Ignited Leadership
Sep 16, 2015 • 55 min
Even if it seems like you’ve got the world figured out and you should be loving life, you might be among a surprising number of high-performing people who find happiness, confidence, and connection elusive. “The high performer only ever really sees the…
Fan Mail Friday #27 | Why Does Profit Make Me Feel Guilty?
Sep 11, 2015 • 17 min
Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #27! No jibber-jabber, just a short show where we answer Art of Charm listener mail and give out mini-lessons for the weekend! In this episode: The past may be the past, but it’s the best indicator of what’s to come when that…
442: Jeffrey Hayzlett | Think Big, Act Bigger
Sep 9, 2015 • 43 min
Thinking big and acting bigger means doing hard work and owning your role — leading by example while keeping your ego in check. But the rewards make it all worthwhile. “That’s what you have to start to learn about thinking big — for any person or company,…
441: Ben Kovacs | Everyone is an Entrepreneur
Sep 7, 2015 • 46 min
You don’t have to quit your day job in order to follow your entrepreneurial aspirations. “I live in a state of constant retirement.” -Ben Kovacs The Cheat Sheet: What does the recreational fisherman know that the rich man does not? Working for “The Man”…
Fan Mail Friday #26 | Receding Confidence and Short-Term Ethics
Sep 4, 2015 • 17 min
Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #26! No jibber-jabber, just a short show where we answer Art of Charm listener mail and give out mini-lessons for the weekend! In this episode: What do you do when balding causes more than your hairline to recede? When is the…
440: Barbara Oakley | Learning How to Learn
Sep 2, 2015 • 57 min
You don’t have to be afraid of math (or anything) when you adapt techniques that make you excel at other things. “You can do way more than you think you can do.” -Barbara Oakley The Cheat Sheet: Why is following your passion not always your best option?…
439: Robert Patrick Lewis | Green Beret MBA
Aug 31, 2015 • 53 min
Discover how lessons learned by a special forces veteran can be applied to the worlds of business, finance, strategy, and marketing. “It’s not survival of the fittest; it’s survival of the most adaptable.” -Robert Patrick Lewis The Cheat Sheet: The worst…
BONUS: Hal Elrod | Beyond the Bestseller
Aug 29, 2015 • 68 min
If you want to write a book that creates a movement, earns you a fortune, and changes the world, you need to think beyond the bestseller. “The best time to start was yesterday; the next-best time to start is today.” -Hal Elrod The Cheat Sheet: What’s the…
Fan Mail Friday #25 | Why the Frat Hate, Bro?
Aug 28, 2015 • 17 min
Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #25! No jibber-jabber, just a short show where we answer Art of Charm listener mail and give out mini-lessons for the weekend! In this episode: You can’t hold a whole fraternity responsible for the behavior of a few sick,…
438: Chester Santos | International Man of Memory
Aug 26, 2015 • 53 min
Think you have a lousy time remembering things? You’re probably not giving your brain enough credit. According to this expert, it’s never too late to expand your capacity for memory. “Definitely everyone can dramatically improve their memory from where it…
437: Rick Hanson | Taking in the Good
Aug 24, 2015 • 54 min
Self-doubt is normal, but it can be overwritten. Harness the innate ability of the confident brain to grow and learn over time to change your life for the better. “The brain is velcro for the bad and teflon for the good.” -Rick Hanson The Cheat Sheet:…
Fan Mail Friday #24 | An Unappealing Invitation
Aug 21, 2015 • 16 min
Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #24! No jibber-jabber, just a short show where we answer Art of Charm listener mail and give out mini-lessons for the weekend! In this episode: Is hitting on women disrespectful? Listener JT has a funny (but possibly effective)…
436: Chris Yeh | Entrepreneurial Alliance
Aug 19, 2015 • 63 min
Don’t let “success” get in the way of living a life that maximizes your impact and happiness. “Do you really want to devote your life to the single-minded pursuit of a particular goal where you have a less than 50 percent chance of achieving it, and where…
BONUS: Steli Efti | The Art of Hustle
Aug 18, 2015 • 56 min
Accomplish more of the things you want to do with the power of the hustle. “When I arrived here, I was so painfully clueless; I arrived at San Francisco International Airport asking someone how to get to Silicon Valley.” -Steli Efti The Cheat Sheet: The…
435: Eldonna Lewis Fernandez | Don’t Negotiate with Crazy
Aug 17, 2015 • 51 min
Think like a negotiator in all aspects of life and create win-win results by understanding the pitfalls to avoid. “That’s all negotiation is — basically a technical term for discussions and conversations to reach an agreement.” -Eldonna Lewis Fernandez…
Fan Mail Friday #23 | Caveman Biology Lessons
Aug 14, 2015 • 18 min
Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #23 In this episode: You can give her enough space to fly a rocketship, but she’s already moved on. You should, too. Another listener chimes in with some positive thoughts about the 9-5 routine we talked about last week.…
434: Aaron Walker | Steps to a Productive Day
Aug 12, 2015 • 56 min
If you want to get, you’ve got to give. And if you want to give, you’re already ahead in the game of true success. “I didn’t know what I wanted to do, but I knew what I didn’t want to do at an early age.” -Aaron Walker The Cheat Sheet: When considering…
433: Dan Martell | Hustle to Help
Aug 10, 2015 • 50 min
Entrepreneur or not, when it comes to seeking a path in life, ignoring the power of your own potential is downright criminal. “Entrepreneurs and founders are like chaotic Ferraris; we just know how to build and create at speeds that…do not make sense to…
Fan Mail Friday #22 | Twice as Bright, Half as Long
Aug 7, 2015 • 20 min
Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #22 In this episode: How do you know when your own red flags are a problem? Why are so many people content with the 9-to-5? How do you kick a substance like Adderall (or caffeine) when it seems to maximize your brainpower? And…
BONUS: Steven Kotler | From Sci-Fi to Sci-Fact
Aug 6, 2015 • 47 min
Technology is progressing so quickly that science fact is catching up with what was recently only imaginable as science fiction. Welcome to the 21st century. “The invention of the future is a war, make no mistake.” -Steven Kotler The Cheat Sheet: The line…
432: Patrick Van Horne | Left Of Bang
Aug 5, 2015 • 55 min
Using techniques developed by the Marines makes reading nonverbal cues to identify potential threats very straightforward. “Somewhere between 60-90 percent of all communication is nonverbal. If you’re making a decision in the absence of 60-90 percent of…
431: Nir Eyal | Hooked on Technology
Aug 3, 2015 • 57 min
Technology can save you a lot of time — when it’s not helping you waste it. Break tech addiction by learning how it gets you hooked in the first place. “I need to use what I know about human behavior and consumer psychology to put technology in its…
Fan Mail Friday #21 | Complaining About Ridiculous Terrible Things
Jul 31, 2015 • 11 min
Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #21 In this episode: Anonymous commenter about the Chris Edwards show. Workplace harassment in the kitchen. How to handle a girlfriend who want’s you to fight for her honor. Review of the week. Click here to support the show at…
430: Dan Griffin | Man Rules
Jul 29, 2015 • 56 min
You don’t have to be shackled to your programming. Learn to identify and move beyond the Man Rules for genuine relationships and a more emotionally fulfilling life. “The cultural expectations for men have risen dramatically while the guidance for us has…
429: Chris Edwards | The Balls to Rebrand
Jul 27, 2015 • 56 min
Hesitant to make important life changes based on what other people might think of you? Take control of how you’re perceived and rebrand yourself — on your own terms. “No one would ever choose to put themselves through this unless it was critical to their…
Fan Mail Friday #20
Jul 24, 2015 • 15 min
Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #20 In this episode: How to let go of negative people in your social circle. Why the AoC programs are based in LA. Where are all the cute people in my town? How can you reduce the chances of a sudden negative personality shift…
427: Ian Altman | Grow My Revenue
Jul 20, 2015 • 60 min
Conduct your business with integrity and people will know you as a problem solver instead of just another charlatan trying to sell them stuff. “Trust is more important than like.” -Ian Altman The Cheat Sheet: Nobody likes being sold to — in business or in…
Fan Mail Friday #19
Jul 17, 2015 • 15 min
Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #19 In this episode: Don’t let insecurities and low self-esteem torpedo your relationships. Are communications with your ex-girlfriend above board? What does it mean when your ex-fiance keeps texting you? If you treat a woman…
426: Marni Kinrys | Your Wing Girl
Jul 15, 2015 • 54 min
Having a baby is a stressful, transformative experience for even the most prepared couples. Here, we talk about how to survive the ordeals — and enjoy the rewards — of parenthood together. “During that [first] three months, you’re so tired…you don’t even…
425: Coach Burt | Becoming a Person of Interest
Jul 13, 2015 • 48 min
Most of us are taught to chase opportunity, but a Person of Interest gets opportunity to chase them. “‘Person of Interest’ is how you flip the script and become a buyer vs. a seller.” -Coach Burt The Cheat Sheet: Why does everyone need a life coach? Do…
Fan Mail Friday #18
Jul 10, 2015 • 11 min
In this one: Getting job recommendations. Dealing with non-reciprocating friends. Conquer the fear of flying. And more. More at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast/ HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a…
424: Rory Vaden | Procrastinate on Purpose
Jul 8, 2015 • 54 min
When you learn to think like the top one percent of people who get things done, procrastination is a virtue on par with patience — and an essential part of your time management strategy. “Automation is to your time exactly what compounding interest is to…
423: Judah Pollack | Hack Your Inner Genius
Jul 6, 2015 • 68 min
Even if you don’t believe in yourself, the sleeping genius within you does — and comes equipped with a backlog of ideas you didn’t even know you had. “While we live in an age that is demanding breakthroughs, we live in an age that paradoxically refuses to…
Fan Mail Friday #17
Jul 3, 2015 • 13 min
In this one: How to keep calm inside and out. Why isn’t there a show like this for women? Does alcohol matter? And more. Oh, and Maaaaazda… More at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast/ HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes…
422: Marni Battista | Advice from a Crazy Ex-Girlfriend
Jul 1, 2015 • 57 min
If being parked in a bad dating pattern is your idea of a comfort zone, consider how a little discomfort will take you to a far better place. “Imagine two dysfunctional puzzle pieces out in the universe with a magnet…” -Marni Battista The Cheat Sheet: If…
420: AoC Toolbox | Screening and Qualifying
Jun 26, 2015 • 41 min
For better or worse, we mirror the company that we keep. Here’s how we maximize its quality for the best reflection. “I’m selective with second chances, but I’m always willing to give a first chance.” -AJ Harbinger The Cheat Sheet: Are you due for a…
419: Dorie Clark | Brand and Stand Out
Jun 24, 2015 • 49 min
The truth about the modern economy: you make your own credentials (and you don’t need a middleman anymore). “All the advice from our parents is just absolutely wrong.” -Dorie Clark The Cheat Sheet: The game of achieving success today has different rules…
418: Kevin Kermes | Bridge the Direct Experience Gap
Jun 22, 2015 • 53 min
It’s never too late to shed a lousy job description. Learn to bridge the direct experience gap and stop enduring work you hate. “It’s painful to learn new stuff, [but] I learned how to surf and snowboard at 40!” -Kevin Kermes The Cheat Sheet: Why it’s…
Fan Mail Friday #16
Jun 19, 2015 • 10 min
In this one: -How do I have a tough conversation with my boss? -Why Special K cereal is sexist -And more, natch’ Show notes at https://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/fan-mail-friday-16/ HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dig the show, please subscribe in…
417: Olaniyi Sobomehin | I Am Not You
Jun 17, 2015 • 59 min
To succeed, focus on what you want and how to get it, nothing more. “Your beliefs really shape what you do or don’t do.” -Olaniyi Sobomehin The Cheat Sheet: When does discipline really count? Why success isn’t as complicated as most people think. A…
416: Cole Hatter | Make Life Matter
Jun 15, 2015 • 58 min
Tragedy is not a choice; learning how to thrive in its aftermath is. “When you get thrown out of a car going 80, you usually leave a little bit of skin on the pavement.” -Cole Hatter The Cheat Sheet: How can you ensure that tragedy creates rather than…
415: AoC Toolbox | Rapport
Jun 12, 2015 • 38 min
Rapport takes time, patience and vulnerability. “You have to be interested to be interesting.” - Johnny Dzubak The Cheat Sheet: Why you have to be vulnerable to connect. The three levels of rapport-building. What is floodlighting? How to build rapport if…
414: Dr. Emily Nagoski | Come As You Are
Jun 10, 2015 • 63 min
Most of us have been taught some BS about sexual desire. “The way to become a person’s type is to treat them in a way that makes them feel really, really good.” -Dr. Emily Nagoski The Cheat Sheet: Why women are easier to turn off than men. What is yucking…
413: Dr. Aubrey de Grey | Live for 200 Years
Jun 8, 2015 • 52 min
We can rejuvenate our cells and avoid aging. “We have a clear moral obligation to get these therapies developed as quickly as possible.” -Dr. Aubrey de Grey The Cheat Sheet: Dr. Aubrey de Grey explains why breathing is bad for us (really). Is a 4-digit…
412: Larry King | Curiosity is King
Jun 5, 2015 • 30 min
Curiosity about everything makes you ready for anything. “There isn’t a person alive who doesn’t think they’re interesting. My job is to make that ‘interesting’ come out.” -Larry King The Cheat Sheet: What traits come naturally to a good broadcaster — and…
Fan Mail Friday #15
Jun 5, 2015 • 12 min
In this one: -What do I do when someone really “gets my goat”? -Does AoC take BitCoin? -Is it important to drink when I go out? -Should I call people out when I see them doing something wrong? HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dug this episode, please…
411: Ryan Hurd | Dream Like a Boss
Jun 3, 2015 • 56 min
Dreams can increase your emotional IQ. “The creative mind awake and asleep is the same mind.” -Ryan Hurd The Cheat Sheet: Do we all dream, whether we remember or not? Why napping is a good thing. One of the top ten most common dreams is what? Dream work…
410: Esther Perel | Mating in Captivity
May 31, 2015 • 67 min
Relationships are still complicated. “We are creatures of meaning and we want to feel we matter.” -Esther Perel The Cheat Sheet: Why have we lost the value of relational intelligence? How to know if you’re in a role or are being accountable? How to…
409: AoC Toolbox | Banter
May 29, 2015 • 36 min
Banter is a muscle to be flexed daily. “A man who stands for nothing will fall for anything.” -Malcolm X The Cheat Sheet: Do you always have to be funny to create banter? What is the conversation formula? What are the three traits you want to embody…
407: Dan Millman | Way of the Peaceful Warrior
May 25, 2015 • 58 min
According to The Way of the Peaceful Warrior author Dan Millman, everyone is a peaceful warrior in training. “Heroes and cowards feel exactly the same fear, they just respond differently.” -Cus D’Amato The Cheat Sheet: Why doesn’t Dan Millman like to use…
406: AoC Toolbox | Attraction
May 22, 2015 • 53 min
Attraction is more than just sex. “Attraction starts before we even open our mouths.” -AJ Harbinger The Cheat Sheet: What’s The Art of Charm definition of attraction? Why the first 60 seconds are critical to attracting a woman. How to make people…
405: Adam Nesrallah | What Spies Teach Us About Reading People
May 20, 2015 • 65 min
Reading people takes practice. “You’ve got two ears and one mouth, use them in proportion.” -Adam Nesrallah The Cheat Sheet: Why saying “I understand” actually means you don’t. What is a baseline and how do you use it? Are lie detectors about the machine…
404: Andrea Waltz | Go For No
May 18, 2015 • 59 min
Getting a no is part of the process to get a yes. “No one ever died from getting a no.” -Andrea Waltz The Cheat Sheet: Why did her husband propose while she was trying on shoes in Macy’s? How to reframe your model of failure and success. The one simple…
403: AoC Toolbox | Your Third Place
May 15, 2015 • 31 min
Everyone needs a third place. “You can find these in every community.” -AJ Harbinger The Cheat Sheet: Why the third place is disappearing. The four criteria to use when choosing a third place. Why clubs are not a good option. How TV has replaced the third…
402: Mike Fried | How to Buy a Diamond Without Getting Ripped Off
May 13, 2015 • 57 min
You can save a lot of money and still buy a great diamond. “Nobody wants to spend more for less.” -Mike Fried The Cheat Sheet: How diamond websites are shifting the industry like Zappos did with shoes. Are diamonds a dime a dozen? The 4 Cs: which of the…
401: Todd Herman | The Power of Negative Thinking
May 11, 2015 • 65 min
Todd Herman (@todd_herman) explains why high performers think differently — but not in the way you expect. “Try not to become a man of success, but rather become a man of value.” -Albert Einstein The Cheat Sheet: Are we meant to be in the zone all the…
Fan Mail Friday #14
May 8, 2015 • 13 min
Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #14! No jibber-jabber, just a short show where we answer Art of Charm listener mail and give out mini-lessons for the weekend! In this episode: Why don’t you just do a digital/virtual bootcamp so we don’t have to travel? My…
400: AoC Toolbox | Moving to a New Town
May 6, 2015 • 58 min
Boom. Episode 400! Meet and connect with the right kind of people. “Everyone entering your life on a social level is an opportunity to grow your network.” -AJ Harbinger The Cheat Sheet: The four groups you need to have in your life. How to get introduced…
399: Ramit Sethi | Cold Truths about Success and Networking
May 4, 2015 • 72 min
As Ramit Sethi (@ramit) knows, mindset comes first, then networking, then success. “Top performers in one field want to meet top performers in other fields.” -Ramit Sethi The Cheat Sheet: What is curated value and how does it apply to networking? The…
Fan Mail Friday #13
May 1, 2015 • 14 min
In this one: How do I follow my passion? Work life balance isn’t real Tim sykes is a scammer? What’s the deal with that shampoo? HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dug this episode, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us…
398: Michelle Lederman | The Laws of Likability
Apr 29, 2015 • 53 min
Network to create lifelong connections. “Vulnerability leads to credibility.” -Michelle Lederman The Cheat Sheet: Can you fake confidence? If so, how? Why the real you is the best you. The key to being more authentic. How many times should you try…
BONUS: Tim Ferriss | The Art and Science of Meta-Learning
Apr 28, 2015 • 81 min
Learn from someone who is great at something they shouldn’t be great at. “You don’t need to be superhuman to get superhuman results.” -Tim Ferriss The Cheat Sheet: The two language hacks Tim recommends. What’s the exercise he’d do if he could do only one…
Fan Mail Friday #12
Apr 24, 2015 • 9 min
In this one: -Focus is a double-edged sword -Jordan talks too much -Chris needs to grow a set HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dug this episode, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from all the fluff out there.…
BONUS: Omar Zenhom | The $100 MBA
Apr 23, 2015 • 40 min
You don’t have to reinvent yourself to do something new. “No one cares about how much you know til you show them you care.” -Omar Zenhom The Cheat Sheet: How to frame failure in a productive way. Should you forget your past skills when starting a new…
395: Olivia Fox Cabane | The Science of Creativity and Genius
Apr 20, 2015 • 53 min
We can induce creativity, innovation and genius from our minds. “We are a vast magma of instincts and emotions with a thin veneer of civilization on top.” -Olivia Fox Cabane The Cheat Sheet: What is a metaphorical insight and how can you use it? The Thin…
Fan Mail Friday #11
Apr 17, 2015 • 11 min
In this one: -She asks: “Should he be with me or his ex?” -“How can I show her I am a changed man?” -“Wah wah wah the ads for the sponsors are annoying.” HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dug this episode, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review!…
394: Kristen Brown | The Happy Hour Effect
Apr 15, 2015 • 49 min
You can control what happens in your life. “We forget we have the power to control what happens in between stressful times. ” -Kristen Brown The Cheat Sheet: Do successful people simply handle stress better? The origins of fight or flight and why that…
393: Alex Kouts | The Art of Public Speaking
Apr 13, 2015 • 66 min
If you’re serious about advancing your career and yourself, you have to be serious about your communication and speaking skills. Here, Alex Kouts gives us the edge we need to communicate well. The Cheat Sheet: What is the Rule of Threes and how does it…
Fan Mail Fridays #10
Apr 10, 2015 • 9 min
In this one: -“What do I do with my life and how do I find out what that is? How can I play to my strengths?” -“Should I work smarter or harder? I hear a lot about both” -y mas! HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dug this episode, please subscribe in iTunes…
392: Simon Sinek | Start With Why
Apr 8, 2015 • 46 min
What matters most is why you do what you do. Simon Sinek, best-selling author and visionary, joins us to talk about how to start with why and how to be a leader on episode 392 of The Art of Charm. The Cheat Sheet: What are the three levels our brain…
391: Steven Rambam | The Real Life of a Private Investigator
Apr 6, 2015 • 66 min
A private investigator’s life isn’t like what we see on TV. “No fraud can survive real due diligence.” -Steve Rambam The Cheat Sheet: Prime bank guarantee fraud: what is it and how does it work? Why is the US a “garden of eden” for bad guys in general?…
Fan Mail Fridays #9
Apr 3, 2015 • 9 min
In this one: -Strong feelings about the ‘Chipotle Hack’ -Spencer nails networking and makes it a habit, gets a job -Why volunteering can change the way you think about yourself and give you a new sense of purpose. HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dug this…
390: Nev Medhora | How to Crash Parties and Grow Your Network
Apr 1, 2015 • 55 min
Nev Medhora (@nevmed) shows you how to stop letting your fear of rejection keep you from what you want. “No one is paying attention to you, everyone is too busy worrying about themselves.” -Nev Medhora The Cheat Sheet: How Nev Medhora helped AppSumo get…
389: Scott Stratten | Unmarketing
Mar 30, 2015 • 43 min
We are always marketing ourselves whether we know it or not. “You can’t get rabid fans without rabid detractors.” -Scott Stratten The Cheat Sheet: How he uses his appearance to his advantage. What can you learn from his speech at The Venetian? Scott…
Fan Mail Fridays #8
Mar 27, 2015 • 11 min
In this one: -His mother passed: what to do now? -People from the ghetto need help from ANY race -Divorced with a kid and homeless before AoC HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dug this episode, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what…
388: Gretchen Rubin | Mastering Happiness
Mar 25, 2015 • 58 min
How you successfully create a habit may not work for someone else, and vice versa. “Habits are a good servant and a bad master.” -Gretchen Rubin The Cheat Sheet: Why does the habit of making your bed matter? Is there a link between happiness and…
387: Geoff Thompson | Watch My Back
Mar 23, 2015 • 66 min
If we change one thing we change everything. “No one gets left behind but not everyone chooses to come with you.” -Geoff Thompson The Cheat Sheet: Where do all fears exist? How did writing down all of his fears make a difference? Why he forgave the man…
Fan Mail Fridays #7
Mar 20, 2015 • 8 min
HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dug this episode, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from all the fluff out there. FEEDBACK + PROMOTION Hit us up with your comments and guest suggestions. We read EVERYTHING.…
385: Chris Taylor | Deliberate Choice: Going Beyond the Picket Fence
Mar 16, 2015 • 43 min
Curiosity is important at any age. “There is something interesting about every person you interact with.” -Chris Taylor The Cheat Sheet: What is a squiggly career and why is it a good thing? If it ain’t broke don’t fix it: should you follow this old…
Fan Mail Fridays #6
Mar 13, 2015 • 7 min
In this one: -Married guy who “doesn’t need AoC” gets arse handed to him by listeners -Working out before heading out HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dug this episode, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from…
384: Nick Onken | Turning Passion Into Profit
Mar 11, 2015 • 46 min
Your passion will drive you. “You are the creator of your reality.” -Nick Onken The Cheat Sheet: Nick shares how to find your why. Is there a formula to creating your vision? Why no idea is actually new, and why that’s okay. Being successful all comes…
383: Sam Cook | Life-Saving Negotiation Skills
Mar 9, 2015 • 53 min
If you have options and resources negotiation is easier. “In the land of the blind the one-eyed man is king.” -Sam Cook The Cheat Sheet: Why there’s no such thing as a safe and secure job. What’s the hardest part of negotiation? He who cares the least…
Friday Five Minutes #5
Mar 6, 2015 • 5 min
In this one: -This stuff works everywhere, so quit cryin’ -Why you need AoC “even though you’re married” -A Chipotle hack that Jordan is particularly proud of. HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dug this episode, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a…
382: Ian Kerner | She Comes First
Mar 4, 2015 • 53 min
Female sexuality is quite different than male sexuality. “For a woman to turn on parts of her brain need to turn off.” -Ian Kerner The Cheat Sheet: Sexual attention deficit disorder: what is it and how does it relate to porn? Is Ian in favor of or against…
381: Adam Braun | Pencils of Promise
Mar 2, 2015 • 49 min
An ordinary person can create extraordinary change. “One of the biggest things missing in the non-profit space is the sense of for-profit business acumen.” -Adam Braun The Cheat Sheet: How much money did he start Pencils of Promise with? Why must all…
Friday Five Minutes #4
Feb 27, 2015 • 6 min
In this one: -How to tell someone they have bad oral hygiene -Why you shouldn’t have lunch meetings -More on the issue of race/ethnicity and mentorship HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dug this episode, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review!…
380: Tim Larkin | How to Survive The Unthinkable
Feb 25, 2015 • 50 min
Violence is simply a tool. “The best information for survival is going to come from the worst part of society.” -Tim Larkin The Cheat Sheet: Why has Tim been banned from the UK? What advice did Tony Robbins give him after going through his training? Why…
BONUS: Marc Goodman | Future Crimes and How to Protect Yourself
Feb 24, 2015 • 66 min
We must use grand thinking to secure the Internet. “We are at the first minutes of the first hours of the first days of this internet revolution.” -Marc Goodman The Cheat Sheet: What are steganography and script kiddies? How air conditioning led to the…
379: Jairek Robbins | Live It
Feb 23, 2015 • 65 min
Learn it, live it and give it. “If you focus on serving others it adds purpose to your life.” -Jairek Robbins The Cheat Sheet: What drives most high achievers? What is the archetype of the “do next” person and why should you care? Think winning the lotto…
Friday Five Minutes #3
Feb 19, 2015 • 7 min
In this one: -Is it my job to convince people to listen to me “even though I’m white”? -A drill to help improve eye-contact and make it a habit HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dug this episode, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is…
378: Chalene Johnson | Push: The Real Way to Set and Achieve Goals
Feb 18, 2015 • 54 min
There is a simple trick to setting and achieving goals. “The thing that we focus on is what we accomplish.” -Chalene Johnson The Cheat Sheet: What is the one thing that stops most people from achieving their goals? Why and how to create a fortress around…
Friday Five Minutes #2
Feb 13, 2015 • 6 min
Experimenting with a new type of Friday show to help kick off your weekend. No jibber-jabber, just a short solo show where we dig into listener mail and bite-size mini-lessons you can apply right out of the box. In this episode: -A feminist wonders if…
376: Craig Wilkenson | Masculinity and What it Means to be a Good Dad
Feb 11, 2015 • 50 min
You can be a good dad even if you grew up without one. “You don’t have to play the man to be the man, you are the man.” -Craig Wilkinson The Cheat Sheet: What are the three things that drive a man? What is the #1 thing a man must have to truly be a…
BONUS: Friday Five Minutes #1
Feb 7, 2015 • 6 min
Experimenting with a new type of Friday show to help kick off your weekend. No jibber-jabber, just a short solo show where we dig into listener mail and bite-size mini-lessons you can apply right out of the box. HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dug this…
374: Simple Pickup (Jesse and Kong) | What ‘Pickup’ Skills Teach About Value
Feb 4, 2015 • 52 min
Having pickup skills translates to every part of life. “You’ve got to just give value to the world without expecting something in return.”-Simple Pickup The Cheat Sheet: How is Simple Pickup different than other pickup approaches? What was their “kissing…
373: Isaac Tolpin | Choose Growth
Feb 2, 2015 • 46 min
Being proactive will keep you successful. “There’s no such thing as a balanced life, that’s a complete joke! I think it’s an integrated life.”-Isaac Tolpin The Cheat Sheet: What is positive disruption and why is it important? The questions he asked that…
372: Wesley Chapman | A Human Project
Jan 28, 2015 • 58 min
The control we give an experience is on us. “We have two options in life: we can be the victim or the hero.”-Wesley Chapman The Cheat Sheet: What was his first entrepreneurial enterprise at the age of 8? Why he was on 25 pills a day until he was 16. What…
371: Christine Hassler | Expectation Hangover
Jan 26, 2015 • 46 min
Don’t believe every thing you think! “Some of us get wake up calls in a graceful way and some of us need a massive 2x4 to hit us on the head.”-Christine Hassler The Cheat Sheet: What is the original definition of passion? What exactly is an expectation…
370: Brad Szollose | Liquid Leadership and Bridging Generational Gaps
Jan 23, 2015 • 66 min
Baby Boomers and Millennials think in opposite ways. “Millennials are your new customer and your new workforce. They don’t think, behave, buy or romance the same.”-Brad Szollose The Cheat Sheet: What’s the one question to ask when learning a new…
369: Ben Greenfield | How to Burn Fat Without Exercising
Jan 21, 2015 • 54 min
You don’t have to exercise 4 hours a day. “Any time your body has to venture outside of its homeostatic norm and make micro adjustments it will burn calories.”-Ben Greenfield The Cheat Sheet: Why adding a cool shower can help you burn fat. Shivering…
368: Danny Iny | Engagement From Scratch
Jan 19, 2015 • 55 min
Extroverts aren’t always the best networkers. “Business savvy comes down to being able to sustainably and effectively get done whatever it is you want to get done.”-Danny Iny The Cheat Sheet: Can you fake being a good networker? Why not answering your…
367: Steve Sims | How to Always Get a Yes
Jan 16, 2015 • 51 min
First you’ve got to believe you’ll get a “yes”. “The perfection is in the imperfection.”-Steve Sims The Cheat Sheet: How to get anyone to say yes to your request. What is market ugly and how does it work? Creating a win-win scenario: Steve shares how he…
366: Rich Roll | Finding Ultra and Rejecting Middle Age
Jan 14, 2015 • 42 min
Small, progressive steps create lasting change. “I allowed myself to be imperfect and to fail.”-Rich Roll The Cheat Sheet: Are you on The Window Diet? Junk food vegetarianism: what is it? Rich explains the problem with our “hacking” culture. What forges…
365: Mark Divine | Six Weeks to SEALfit
Jan 12, 2015 • 62 min
Toughness goes beyond just physical prowess. “We like to go to the challenge before the challenge comes to us.”-Mark Divine The Cheat Sheet: Why do 80% of Navy SEAL trainees fail? What’s the oldest personal development system known to mankind? When do we…
364: Kevin Davis | Overcoming Anxiety Naturally
Jan 9, 2015 • 48 min
Many high performers suffer from anxiety. “The anxiety itself becomes an addiction.”-Kevin Davis The Cheat Sheet: Do only combat veterans suffer from PTSD? What is brain zap? Why you don’t have to be a monk to meditate. Rest and relaxation are not lazy:…
363: Dr. Chris Ryan | Sex at Dawn
Jan 7, 2015 • 56 min
Sex has long been about relationships, not procreating. “Monogamy is like vegetarianism: it doesn’t come naturally to our species.”-Dr. Chris Ryan The Cheat Sheet: Why the gangbang porn category is so popular from a biological standpoint. Women are…
362: Harville Hendrix | Getting the Love You Want
Jan 5, 2015 • 53 min
You chose your partners for a reason. “The bottom line for great relationships is you have to know how to deal with differences.” -Harville Hendrix The Cheat Sheet: What is zero negativity and how do you use it in a relationship? Imago: what is it and why…
360: Jake Ducey | The Purpose Principles
Dec 31, 2014 • 43 min
Create a plan and work backwards. “Most of us are gambling on the biggest risk of all: that one day we can buy the freedom to do what we want later in life.”-Jake Ducey The Cheat Sheet: What percentage of people are actively disengaged from their work?…
359: Marsha Shandur | Saying Yes to Networking
Dec 29, 2014 • 59 min
As Marsha Shandur (@yesyesmarsha) knows, networking can be fun. Here’s where she shows you how. “Networking is a long-term relationship, not a one-night stand.” -Marsha Shandur The Cheat Sheet: Is everyone afraid of networking events? The top two ways to…
357: Linda Galindo | The Straight Truth on Accountability
Dec 24, 2014 • 61 min
You are the common denominator. “We gain strength, courage and confidence by each experience in which we really stop to look fear in the face and we do the thing we cannot do.” -Eleanor Roosevelt The Cheat Sheet: Why is everyone afraid of accountability?…
356: Dave Cornthwaite | Expedition 1000
Dec 22, 2014 • 48 min
Adventure is good for everyone. “The biggest risk is getting to the end of your life and looking back and thinking ‘Man I could have done more.’” -Dave Cornthwaite The Cheat Sheet: What training does he do for his adventures? This kills ambition more than…
355: MJ Shaar | Smarts and Stamina
Dec 19, 2014 • 48 min
Focus on what works, not what doesn’t. “Somebody busier than you is running right now.” -MJ Shaar The Cheat Sheet: Why being busy is just a way of showing self-importance. What is the confirmation bias? The truth about why sleeping poorly leads to poor…
354: Andrew Hallam | The Millionaire Teacher
Dec 17, 2014 • 46 min
Why financial advisors are not always in your corner. “Learn to master money, and not let money master you.” -Andrew Hallam The Cheat Sheet: How much would the average US stock from 20 years ago have earned you today? How $6.45 a day can get you a million…
353: Scott H Young | Language Hacks for Everyday Life
Dec 15, 2014 • 48 min
Language hacks aren’t just for languages. “Vulnerability is the best way to show strength, and vulnerability and respect go hand in hand.”-The Art of Charm The Cheat Sheet: How he condensed four years of MIT curriculum into 12 months. The new learning…
351: Jon Levy |The Influencers Dinner
Dec 10, 2014 • 65 min
Create your own influential network. “Just start something. Test something out, let it fail and let it fail often.”-Jon Levy The Cheat Sheet: The statistical impact your friendships have on you. What are the two types of epidemics? The ninja strategy for…
350: Steve Sisler | How to Read People
Dec 8, 2014 • 66 min
Steve Sisler (@stevesisler) explains how to adjust your style to connect. “We don’t see people as they are, we see people as we are.”-Steve Sisler The Cheat Sheet: The three reasons people listen. How much of communication is verbal, how much body…
349: John Lee Dumas | Entrepreneur on Fire
Dec 5, 2014 • 55 min
Sometimes, it takes courage to quit. “If you want to be you have to do.”-John Lee Dumas The Cheat Sheet: What was his first real train wreck in his life? Why quitting isn’t just for quitters. Is luck part of the success equation according to John? How…
348: Mike Michalowicz | Profit First
Dec 3, 2014 • 50 min
Be a boss and automate your savings. “Money amplifies our true self.”-Mike Michalowicz The Cheat Sheet: What is Parkinson’s Theory? ____ makes us lazy, Mike fills in the blank. Money has now become a mechanism for what? What is The Wedge and how do you…
347: Oren Klaff | Pitch Anything
Dec 1, 2014 • 61 min
Be in charge, no matter what. “Tension is what holds people’s attention.”-Oren Klaff The Cheat Sheet: Why repoire-building doesn’t work. The power of scarcity in any scenario. What do you need to convince people? How long is the average human attention…
345: AoC Toolbox | Single Dads
Nov 26, 2014 • 48 min
How to have it all as a single dad. “You can be vulnerable, while still being confident.”-Dave, single dad The Cheat Sheet: How to be confident AND vulnerable with everyone. Put an end to “Nice Guy Syndrome” once and for all. How to talk with your kids…
BONUS: Tom Corley | Rich Kids
Nov 25, 2014 • 55 min
Author and financial advice favorite Tom Corley stops by to discuss his new book, “Rich Kids” and tell us how to teach our kids habits that will prepare them for success later in life. HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dug this episode, please subscribe in…
344: Shawn Achor | The Happiness Advantage
Nov 24, 2014 • 52 min
Happiness does make a difference. “Happiness is an incredible competitive advantage.”-Shawn Achor The Cheat Sheet: Shawn gave a talk about happiness at the Pentagon: true or false? The science behind the contagiousness of happiness. The importance of…
342: Scott Dinsmore | Live Your Legend
Nov 19, 2014 • 51 min
Create real friendships with people you admire. “If you want to stand out just do what you say you will and kick ass at it.” -Scott Dinsmore The Cheat Sheet: Why not to go to a networking event, and what to do instead. One awesome way to add value: Scott…
341: David Nihill | Comedy Habits to Become a Funnier Speaker
Nov 17, 2014 • 57 min
Humor connects you and your audience. “There’s nobody more judged than a stand-up comedian.”-Jerry Seinfeld The Cheat Sheet: How to have people talking about your speech after it ends, in a good way. 22 hours of work go into 1 minute of a 60-minute stand…
BONUS: Jon Davis | Adjusting Back to Civilian Life Post-Depolyment
Nov 11, 2014 • 65 min
Veteran Jon Davis stops by to discuss readjusting to civilian life after deployment in Iraq, what employers will “just never get” about vets, and how to annoy a veteran in 3 easy steps. Happy Veterans’ Day, and, if you’re a vet, we thank you for serving.…
338: Dan Schawbel | Promote Yourself
Nov 10, 2014 • 59 min
Stay relevant in the workforce. “There is no linear career path anymore.”-Dan Schawbel The Cheat Sheet: How many jobs do most people have between the ages of 18 and 45? 20% of the workforce is retiring in the next 4 years: true or false? Which are the top…
336: Seth Godin | Conquering the Dip
Nov 4, 2014 • 43 min
Do what would make your mom proud. “We don’t live in a scarcity economy any more, we live in an abundant economy.” -Seth Godin The Cheat Sheet: Is there really such a thing as writer’s block? Why quitting and failing aren’t the same, Seth explains. When…
335: PJ Ghadimi | Third Circle Theory
Nov 3, 2014 • 64 min
Circumstances don’t define us. “I always do anything I do as if I’m at stake and I have everything to lose.”-Pejman Ghadimi The Cheat Sheet: The good is the enemy of the great. What are Pejman’s three circles and why do they matter? The fear that holds…
334: Dr. Geoff Miller | Mating Grounds
Oct 31, 2014 • 54 min
Find out what women really want (it’s science!) “As humans we are not a species that runs on physical dominance; we are a species that runs on social status, respect.”-Dr. Geoff Miller The Cheat Sheet: What body types are women most attracted to? (13:00)…
333: Dorie Clark | Reinventing You
Oct 29, 2014 • 56 min
It’s better if you tell your own story. “In order to be successful today we have to make reinvention a constant part of our repetoire.”-Dorie Clark The Cheat Sheet: Elements of a personal brand: what are they and how can you use them? (7:00) Why the days…
332: AJ Jacobs | Life as an Experiment
Oct 26, 2014 • 50 min
Experiment with your own life. “I wouldn’t say fail faster, I’d say fail more. For every ten failures you’re going to get one success.”-AJ Jacobs The Cheat Sheet: Digital reminders: how to use them to become happier. (10:00) How to use the Song of Solomon…
331: Todd Henry | Die Empty
Oct 24, 2014 • 57 min
Give your all while you can. “I want to know that on my last day when they lay me down in my grave, I am not taking my best work to the grave with me.”-Todd Henry The Cheat Sheet: The best possible education experience you can have. (10:30) Should anyone…
329: Scott Barry Kaufman | Mating Intelligence Unleashed
Oct 20, 2014 • 46 min
It only takes one. “Assertiveness and kindness is the combination most attractive to women.” -Scott Kaufman The Cheat Sheet: Dopamine is the pleasure molecule: true or false? (7:25) Scott defines a true alpha male. (18:40) The Dark Triad revealed: is it…
328: Guy Winch | Emotional First Aid
Oct 17, 2014 • 54 min
Negative self-talk amplifies painful experiences. “We need to monitor our emotional health like we monitor our physical health. It has nothing to do with self-esteem, it has nothing to do with masculinity.” -Guy Winch The Cheat Sheet: Why avoidance…
327: Dandapani | The Monk with a MacBook
Oct 15, 2014 • 58 min
No one has the right to hold you back. “There’s nothing more important than knowing who you are, the path you are on and its final end.” -Dandapani The Cheat Sheet: Why you should make your bed every day. (5:10) They watched 30 minutes of the news in his…
326: Alex Kouts | The Art of Negotiating
Oct 13, 2014 • 60 min
Alex Kouts gives us the edge we need to overcome our fear of negotiating and make deals that benefit both sides of any arrangement. The Cheat Sheet: Why everybody’s price is an f-you price, according to Alex. (11:15) How to emotionally prepare for…
324: Judy Robinett | How to be a Power Connector
Oct 8, 2014 • 53 min
Choose who you connect with wisely. “Other people have all of the critical resources to get you to where you need to go.” -Judy Robinett The Cheat Sheet: How to know if you’re in the wrong room. (4:30) What are the three golden questions and when should…
323: AoC Toolbox | Keeping Relationships Fresh
Oct 6, 2014 • 51 min
Don’t ever stop pursuing her. “A lot of what you do to get the girl you need to do to keep the girl.” - The Art of Charm Toolbox The Cheat Sheet: How not to be needy. (12:00) When and how to use sexual banter to add fun and intimacy (23:30) The three A’s…
322: Srinivas Rao | The Unmistakable Creative
Oct 3, 2014 • 55 min
You really did learn everything in kindergarten. “Your ability to take action in the face of unanswered questions is essential to accomplishing anything of significance.” - Srinivas Rao The Cheat Sheet: What are gaba levels? (4:50) What have been the two…
321: John Jantsch | Duct Tape Marketing: Why Everyone Needs a Personal Brand
Oct 1, 2014 • 41 min
Choose a word you can say you stand for. “You need to grab on to something that you say ‘this is what I stand for’.” -John Jantsch The Cheat Sheet: How long did it take him to write his first book? (10:50) You have to have a narrow niche: true or false?…
320: Julian Treasure | Conscious Listening, How & Why
Sep 29, 2014 • 60 min
How to listen the way women want you to. “If you are somebody who listens it gives you advantages in all walks of life. Persuaders, influencers and leaders are people who really listen.” - Julian Treasure The Cheat Sheet: You hear with your whole body:…
319: Andrew Ferebee | Knowledge for Men
Sep 26, 2014 • 50 min
From wantrepreneur to real-life success story. “Instead of wondering when your next vacation is, maybe you should set up a life you don’t need to escape from.” - Seth Godin The Cheat Sheet: The good and the bad types of wantrepreneurs. How many views did…
318: Grant Baldwin | Follow Your Passion: When and How
Sep 24, 2014 • 50 min
There is no straight line from your current job to your ideal career. “No matter how much you enjoy what you do, there will always come a time when it is work.” - Grant Baldwin The Cheat Sheet: The myth of the perfect job and/or career. (7:00) The best…
317: Jayson Gaignard | Next-Level Networking
Sep 22, 2014 • 54 min
Proof that your network is your net-worth. “When you hit rock bottom you will be left with two things: your network and your word. Never tarnish your word and always invest in your network.” - Jayson Gaignard The Cheat Sheet: Why making 22x the national…
316: Gabriel Wyner | Fluent Forever: How To Learn And Remember Languages
Sep 19, 2014 • 49 min
Hack Language Learning. “You get to meet different parts of yourself by going through the process of learning other languages.” - Gabriel Wyner The Cheat Sheet: What is the European scale of fluency? There is such thing as the language gene: true or…
315: Jennifer Verdolin | Wild Connection
Sep 17, 2014 • 45 min
Are deeper voices more attractive? “Animals show us to take our best attributes, whatever they are, and highlight them, display them.” - Jennifer Verdolin The Cheat Sheet: Looks matter! and why biology supports this. (6:00) What MHC is and why it’s so…
314: Shane Snow | Smart Cuts
Sep 15, 2014 • 59 min
Lateral Thinking Solves Problems Better. “If you truly love life, don’t waste time because time is what life is made of.” - Bruce Lee The Cheat Sheet: Facebook and The Death Star: we compare. The 3 ways to change on a micro level. Skeptical optimism: what…
313: Tom Corley | Rich Habits
Sep 12, 2014 • 46 min
“One of the reasons they call it ‘the secret to success’ is that people don’t even understand that their habits are the cause of their wealth or poverty.” - Tom Corley The Cheat Sheet: A goal is only a goal if it has these two things: what are they? Is…
312: James Fell | The Myth of the Alpha Male
Sep 10, 2014 • 56 min
“In a lot of ways, the whole Alpha Male thing is just an excuse for being an asshole.” - James Fell The Cheat Sheet: Scientific research has debunked the Alpha concept: true or false? Why you should run towards danger (i.e., your fears). The secret to…
311: Adam Grant | Give and Take
Sep 8, 2014 • 54 min
“Whatever kind of giving you’re focused on, it starts with asking the question: What do other people need?” - Adam Grant The Cheat Sheet: The different categories of giving value. How to give to someone you don’t know - the RIGHT way. What are stage gates…
310: Michael O’Neal | Solopreneur Hour
Sep 5, 2014 • 58 min
“You’ve got to take imperfect action. You literally have to start. It doesn’t matter if it’s not perfect. It doesn’t matter if it crashes and burns.” - Michael O’Neal The Cheat Sheet: Why he decided to stop trading time for dollars. The business takeaway…
309: Adam Gilbert | Psychology of Change
Sep 3, 2014 • 48 min
“Unless you’re actually on Jeopardy, knowledge without action is useless!” - Adam Gilbert The Cheat Sheet: What’s the top reason people fear losing weight? Why awareness is the key to making lasting changes. The broccoli test: what it is and how to use…
308: Susan RoAne | How to Work a Room
Sep 1, 2014 • 62 min
“If we listen, we always know what to say next.” - Susan RoAne The Cheat Sheet: Your number one purpose at any event. Why drinks aren’t really free at an open bar. How to remember people when you meet them. Why it’s important to never burn bridges, Susan…
307: Pat Flynn | Smart Passive Income
Aug 29, 2014 • 47 min
“We can’t control what happens to us, but we can control how we feel, how we react and what we do.” - Pat Flynn The Cheat Sheet: Why it’s important to him to fail on his own terms. The best way to find potential income opportunities. The most important…
306: Jon Vroman | Legacy is Greater than Currency
Aug 27, 2014 • 59 min
“A day of pain is worth a lifetime of pride.” - Jon Vronman The Cheat Sheet: How he invested his last $4k and how it motivated him. The 53-mile double marathon that changed Jon’s life. Do you have to be an extrovert to be in the front of your life? The 3…
305: Art of Charm | The Tinder Toolbox
Aug 25, 2014 • 45 min
“When it comes to setting a date, just take the lead and guide the interaction. You’ll have a lot better first dates and help yourself out with the Attraction Process.” - Justin Jensen The Cheat Sheet: What’s a social sales funnel and how do you use it in…
303: Michael Simmons | Top 30 Under 30
Aug 20, 2014 • 50 min
“A lot of the best stories are the ones you are most resistant to share.” - Michael Simmons The Cheat Sheet: What are brokers and why are they uniquely successful? The most common mistake people make when posting online. How to use social media as an…
302: Arel Moodie | Art of Likeability
Aug 18, 2014 • 55 min
“The truth is no matter what we want in this life, every single thing is learnable.” - Arel Moodie The Cheat Sheet: Shaq has a legitimate PhD: true or false? What’s the most crucial component of likability? What is one of the most common mistakes he sees…
301: AoC Toolbox | Long-Distance Relationships
Aug 15, 2014 • 57 min
“Part of trust is being secure, not just with you as a couple but also within yourself.” - The Art of Charm The Cheat Sheet: How long-distance becomes full-disclosure and why it’s good. How to work backwards when you go from long distance to being in the…
300: James Altucher | Choose Yourself & 50 Alternatives to College
Aug 13, 2014 • 73 min
“The best indicator of a successful tomorrow is having a successful day today, that’s the only thing.” - James Altucher The Cheat Sheet: Why starting a business is better than going to college. Anyone can take the bar exam in California: true or false? US…
299: Ted Ryce | Alpha Man Project
Aug 11, 2014 • 57 min
“I can’t control what happens outside of me, but I can control what happens on the inside.” -Ted Ryce The Cheat Sheet: What was it like to see his brother’s murderer executed? Ted’s warrior mindset and how it has served him. The principles of resilience.…
298: Jesse Elder | Wealth, Women & War
Aug 8, 2014 • 53 min
“It’s never going to be perfect, I’m never going to have all the answers and I don’t want all the answers because that would be boring!” - Jesse Elder The Cheat Sheet: How he fought and won a dojo? The acid test: how to use it for success in any area of…
296: Derek Coburn | Networking is Not Working
Aug 4, 2014 • 47 min
“The definition I use for networking is anything that increases the value of your network and/or the value you contribute to it. ” - Derek Coburn The Cheat Sheet: Who you’ll really meet at big networking events. Why successful networking is a lot like…
294: John Ruhlin | Epic Gifting
Jul 30, 2014 • 52 min
“Most people feel under-appreciated so if you want to make huge jumps up the career ladder, start treating other people as if you own the company.. ” - John Ruhlin If you’ve ever been that guy who gave his wife or significant other a vacuum cleaner for…
293: Michael Port | Book Yourself Solid
Jul 28, 2014 • 54 min
“When I started seeing myself as I actually am and allowing other people to see that too, I started feeling more powerful. ” - Michael Port Can acting teach us more about life, being human and getting real with each other? Indeed it can according to our…
292: Tony Blauer | Mindsets for Survival
Jul 25, 2014 • 62 min
“The tools and skills you need to protect yourself are things you come equipped with.” - Tony Blauer If it came down to it, could you defend yourself or a loved one in a street fight? Would martial arts save the day? Probably not says our guest for…
BONUS: Tai Lopez | Read a Book Each Day
Jul 24, 2014 • 54 min
“What makes homo sapiens the dominant force on the planet for the last 150,000 years is the brain.” - Tai Lopez What would you call a man who spent his teenage years in a mobile home park, lived with the Amish for 2.5 years as an experiment, was a…
290: Heidi Reeder | Commit to Win
Jul 21, 2014 • 55 min
“Anybody can accomplish amazing things if they reflect on what they value and then fully commit to it.” -Dr. Heidi Reeder What does commitment really mean? Is it just a matter of will power and determination, or is there more to it than that? Joining The…
288: Nick Morgan | Power Cues
Jul 16, 2014 • 57 min
“Every communication is two conversations: the content and the body language. When the two are aligned, you can be successful.” - Nick Morgan Did you ever do something and then think, why the heck did I just do that? Our guest for episode 288, Dr. Nick…
287: Hunter Maats | Straight-A Conspiracy
Jul 14, 2014 • 70 min
“It is our emotional experience that makes the difference in how we’re learning.” - Hunter Maats Can intelligence and mastery be learned or are we all innately good at some things and terrible at others? Is there really a “math” gene or can anyone, with…
286: Shawn Stevenson | Hack Your Sleep
Jul 11, 2014 • 51 min
“When your sleep is on point, everything you’re doing is going to get better.” -Shawn Stevenson Sleep: It’s commonly accepted that we should sleep 8 hours a night. But is that really true? Does the quantity of sleep we’re getting matter or is this a case…
284: Isaiah Hankel | Black Hole Focus
Jul 7, 2014 • 67 min
“Paradoxes are powerful. The main paradox when it comes to being charismatic that you want to create, is to create the paradox of strength & warmth .” -Isaiah Hankel Most people believe charisma is something you’ve either got or you don’t - that you’re…
283: Ari Meisel | Less Doing, More Living
Jul 4, 2014 • 53 min
“Have things come to you at the time that you can best deal with them.” Ari Meisel What would you do if you were given a diagnosis and put on 16 pills a day? Would you accept your fate or would you biohack your way to health and wellness? Ari Meisel chose…
282: Dr. Sara Gottfried | Decoding Female Hormones
Jul 2, 2014 • 58 min
When you understand these hormonal changes, it creates grace in a relationship. - Dr. Sara Gottfried Are you tired of not knowing how to cope with your woman’s hormonal cycles? Of not knowing when she’ll go from zero to crazy in .002 seconds? And what…
281: Vanessa Van Edwards | How to Read People Like a Book
Jun 30, 2014 • 62 min
Imagine what you could do if you could always know what someone else was really thinking - no matter what they were saying to you. How would that change your work life, your life at home and your relationships? Here to help you do just that is Vanessa Van…
277: Charlie Tips | Raising Young Millionaires
Jun 20, 2014 • 45 min
“Nobody ever got rich working for a living.” -Grandpa Tips If the ‘World’s Most Interesting Man’ were a dad, he’d be Charlie Tips. Charlie gives parenting and life advice to those of us shooting for the stars, including: -How to educate your kids to be…
275: James Swanwick | Fake It ‘til You Make It on ESPN
Jun 16, 2014 • 50 min
“If you don’t like the way the world is, you change it. You have an obligation to change it. You just do it one step at a time.” -Marian Wright Edelman James Swanwick of Alpha Male Club swings by to discuss: -Why fear of success is just as real as fear of…
271: Steven Kotler | The Rise of Superman
Jun 6, 2014 • 46 min
“You cannot run away from weakness; you must some time fight it out or perish; and if that be so, why not now, and where you stand?”—Robert Louis Stevenson We’ve all heard of ‘flow’. That mysterious in-the-zone state that athletes, performers and other…
270: Hal Elrod | Your Miracle Morning
Jun 4, 2014 • 60 min
“Where you are is a result of who you were, but where you go depends entirely on who you choose to be.” Hal Elrod died and came back to life. But, he didn’t just want ANY old life… In this episode, we’ll talk about: -How Hal went from dead for 6 minutes…
269: Noah Kagan | Building an Empire from the Ashes
Jun 2, 2014 • 71 min
“To be in the 1% you have to do what the 99% won’t.” -Unknown Noah Kagan got fired from Facebook…and proceeded to kick ass, again and again. Noah Kagan of Okdork.com was a cubicle slave at Intel, #30 at Facebook (AND GOT FIRED), #4 at Mint.com and has…
268: Jordan Gray | Keep Her Captivated
May 30, 2014 • 58 min
“Either you run the day or the the day runs you.” - Jim Rohn This one starts off a little scattered but gets fun and goes deep quick. Jordan and Jordan (yes, we’ve not doubled but SQUARED the Jordan in this one), discuss: -What men have been led to…
267: Mike Hrostoski | The H is Kinda Silent
May 28, 2014 • 56 min
“The greatest fear in the world is of the opinions of others. And the moment you are unafraid of the crowd you are no longer a sheep, you become a lion. A great roar arises in your heart, the roar of freedom.” – Osho Brace yourself for some woo-woo-ness…
266: Josh Shipp | Wishful Thinking is NOT a Strategy
May 26, 2014 • 60 min
“Wishful thinking is NOT a strategy.” -Josh Shipp Josh Shipp is a motivational speaker and author with an awesome story (in both the good and the bad way). Jordan and Josh uncover: -The journey from depression and criminal behavior to successful…
265: Daniel Duane | Do Men Suck at Friendship?
May 23, 2014 • 50 min
“Friendship… is not something you learn in school. But if you haven’t learned the meaning of friendship, you really haven’t learned anything.” -Muhammad Ali Men’s Journal Contributing Editor Daniel Duane discusses friendship between men, why we suck at it…
263: Robin Dreeke | Spy Catcher
May 19, 2014 • 43 min
“I know not every mom is a secret KGB spy, but every mom has this whole other life. Every dad and every person has this whole other life.” -Keri Russell Robin Dreeke is an author, teacher of social engineering (sometimes with The Art of Charm’s Jordan…
260: Tucker Max | I Used to Be an A-Hole
May 12, 2014 • 47 min
“I’m just starting to scratch the surface of what really makes me happy and it’s taken me a while to admit that acting like a little child and being a jerk and a punk is fun.” -Leonardo DiCaprio Best-selling author, investor and a-hole extraordinaire…
259: Ben Greenfield | Become Superhuman
May 9, 2014 • 59 min
“The cost of being wrong is less than the cost of doing nothing.” - Seth Godin Ben Greenfield is kinda crazy, but in a good way. You’ll see what we mean when you listen to Ben & Jordan discuss body-hacking, natural supplements (and not-so-natural…
258: AoC Toolbox | Where to Meet High-Quality Women
May 7, 2014 • 43 min
“Love is the expression of one’s values, the greatest reward you can earn for the moral qualities you have achieved in your character and person, the emotional price paid by one man for the joy he receives from the virtues of another.” -Ayn Rand AJ &…
257: James Clear | Transform Your Habits
May 5, 2014 • 55 min
“One can have no smaller or greater mastery than mastery of oneself.” —Leonardo Da Vinci Habit-Change maestro James Clear knows about habits, the good, the bad, and how to change them for the better, every day. During this episode of The Art of Charm…
256: Elliott Hulse | Strength Camp
May 2, 2014 • 50 min
“Every action is measured by the sentiment from which it proceeds.” -Emerson Mild-mannered yet Super-Human, Elliott Hulse both terrifies and delights small children (and adults). He also drops serious knowledge on The Art of Charm Crew, including: -Why…
255: Susan Winter | Is she crazy or is this normal?
Apr 30, 2014 • 54 min
“Here’s all you have to know about men and women: women are crazy, men are stupid. And the main reason women are crazy is that men are stupid.” -George Carlin Men are apt to say that “women are crazy.” And while some women are truly off kilter, many of…
254: John Corcoran | Systemize your Network
Apr 28, 2014 • 64 min
John Corcoran of Smart Business Revolution tells us how to systemize our networking and relationship-building process, including: Why it’s all about who you know and why that’s a GOOD thing (instead of something to whine about) How to start developing a…
253: Jordan Harbinger on TheLip.Tv
Apr 26, 2014 • 31 min
Jordan Harbinger of the Art of Charm chats with Gabe Mizrahi of TheLip.tv about social confidence, removing social anxiety, and what we do here at AoC! We thought you’d dig this bonus audio (all right, let’s just call this Episode 253) where Jordan…
206: Justin Jensen | Top Excuses for Not Coming to AoC
Apr 24, 2014 • 60 min
Since the foundation of The Art of Charm, thousands of students have come through our doors, graduated and left as the type of man they’ve always wanted to be. Unfortunately, thousands more have made an excuse NOT to take action. Perhaps you’re one of…
251: AoC Toolbox | How to Break Up with Someone
Apr 23, 2014 • 56 min
“I’m thankful for my struggle, for without it I wouldn’t have stumbled across my strength.” - Alex Elle Breaking up is hard to do. AJ & Jordan Harbinger of The Art of Charm go over some ‘best-practices’ for planning and managing the end of a relationship…
250: Robert Greene | 7th Anniversary Special
Apr 21, 2014 • 53 min
Jordan’s Note: this is the 7-year anniversary episode of The Art of Charm Podcast. Since we couldn’t and wouldn’t have ever done this without your support, I’ve written a special letter to you, the fans, at the end, so stay tuned for it. Here’s to another…
249: AoC Toolbox | How to Read Body Language
Apr 16, 2014 • 45 min
“Your actions speak so loudly, I can not hear what you are saying.” - Ralph Waldo Emerson In the latest installment of The Art of Charm Toolbox, Justin Jensen, an instructor at The Art of Charm discusses reading body language, why it’s important and how…
236: AoC Toolbox | Vocal Tonality
Mar 2, 2014 • 29 min
In this long-awaited edition of The Art of Charm Toolbox, AJ & Jordan Harbinger outline some of the basics of solid vocal tonality, including drills and exercises to improve your voice and hone your pitch, cadence and tone, as well as begin to eliminate…
230: AoC Toolbox | Red Flags
Feb 5, 2014 • 42 min
So you’ve found someone new and you’re love-struck? That’s great! Watch out for these red flags that tend to signal crazy, high-maintenance (or worse) from a mile away. Which red flags do you see in yourself? A sobering look at people’s tell-tale signs,…
228: AoC Alumni Spotlight: Daniel
Jan 26, 2014 • 39 min
Daniel, an AoC alum, went from homeless to successful entrepreneur and philanthropist. In this episode, we explore how he used his AoC skill set to grow, advance and overcome -every step of the way. You’ll also like: The Art of Charm Toolbox Best of The…
225: AoC Toolbox | Relationship Foundations
Jan 5, 2014 • 67 min
When things go right an you’ve met someone who piques as much interest and curiosity in you as you have in them relationships bloom. AJ, Johnny and Justin go through the ins and outs of setting up boundaries, continuing being your charismatic self and…
221: AoC Toolbox | Guide to First Dates
Dec 8, 2013 • 40 min
Now that you’ve met and garnered some interest from the opposite sex AJ, Johnny and Justin go through some tried & tested ideas and tips to help you out on those all-important first dates. This episode keeps it simple so you can enjoy your date rather…
218: AoC Toolbox | Nightlife Dos and Don’ts
Nov 17, 2013 • 57 min
In episode 218 we talked to club builder, production manager, and friend of the show Derek W on the ins and outs of the nightlife industry. We covered different ways of getting into clubs, how to make a statement when you do, and getting the most out of…
215: AoC Toolbox | Getting over a Breakup
Oct 27, 2013 • 47 min
When it comes to dating and relationships, we’ve spent a lot of our toolbox episodes on getting things started. One phase we haven’t talked too much about is the breakup. AJ Harbinger, Johnny D, and Justin Jensen discuss picking yourself up, dusting…
208: AoC Toolbox | Escaping the Friend Zone
Sep 1, 2013 • 37 min
AJ Harbinger, Johnny Dzubak, and Justin Jensen of The Art of Charm Crew get together to discuss the dreaded Friend Zone: Why you’re in it How to get out of it How to avoid it in the first place Why it can actually be a good thing …and how to turn getting…
204: AoC Toolbox | Signs of Attraction
Aug 4, 2013 • 32 min
AJ, Johnny and Justin from The Art of Charm Crew get together to discuss signs of attraction in the latest addition to The Art of Charm toolbox! Enjoy! How to recognize the signs that she’s interested in you. How to communicate your interest in her…
105: AoC Toolbox | Value Revisited Part 3
Dec 22, 2009 • 33 min
Who decides what you’re socially worth? People make assumptions about you just by seeing the way you interact with and react to others. We just re-made the The Art of Charm Podcast Value Toolbox episodes because we feel they’re so important. This kind of…
104: AoC Toolbox | Value Revisited Part 2
Dec 7, 2009 • 75 min
Who decides what you’re socially worth? People make assumptions about you just by seeing the way you interact with and react to others. We just re-made the The Art of Charm Podcast Value Toolbox episodes because we feel they’re so important. This kind of…
103: AoC Toolbox | Value Revisited Part 1
Dec 2, 2009 • 55 min
Who decides what you’re socially worth? People make assumptions about you just by seeing the way you interact with and react to others. We just re-made the The Art of Charm Podcast Value Toolbox episodes because we feel they’re so important. This kind of…
0: Welcome to The Art of Charm!
Jan 1, 2007 • 2 min
This short episode is for those of you wondering where all the previous shows have gone or are new to The Art of Charm Podcast. You can find all of our episodes at http://theartofcharm.com/category/podcast-episodes/