Savage Lovecast

Savage Lovecast

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Dan Savage’s call-in show.


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Mar 24 • 48 min
This week, Dan’s guest is epidemiologist Daniel Westreich, who spells out the concept of physical distancing, and why sexual intimacy is going to be pretty difficult to attain for many of us. Some of the conversation is on the Micro, and all of it is…
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Mar 17 • 61 min
Here at Savage Lovecast world headquarters, in the heart of the epicenter of the Big Sick, we are keeping calm and carrying on, baby! Dan chats with Dr. Jen Gunter, who had to practice social distancing for ONE YEAR, so quit griping. She offers some…
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Mar 10 • 47 min
Sometimes people call us when they’re drunk. Sometimes they call us about their dogs. Welcome to the center of this Venn diagram. A woman has been invited to a “costume wedding.” She will be required to dress up like a character in a movie. Is…
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Mar 3 • 46 min
A gay man was hooking up at a bathhouse. His brand new lover wanted to bring a little romance into the encounter by saying the caller’s name and complimenting him. The caller was horrified. Isn’t bathhouse sex supposed to be anonymous? Meanwhile, in…
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Feb 25 • 50 min
A straight man was dating a woman, and it felt great. Until she gave him the “I’m not ready for a relationship” line. Is this always a lie? What does it mean? Dan spells it out, with no sugar on top. A man is worried about his new girlfriend. You see,…
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Feb 18 • 51 min
A man is going through a divorce from his wife of 7 years. Although their breakup was peaceful, now her communication is curt and unfriendly. Is he entitled to feel angry about her unwarranted coldness? A man kindly lent a friend some money. Now she…
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Feb 11 • 48 min
A young man has been dating a woman for a short time. She seems great…except. Except she is anti-abortion, and anti-gay in a lazy, not very heartfelt sort of way. Can he use his sex powers to change her feeble mind? Meanwhile, a woman is dating a…
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Feb 4 • 46 min
A woman is hoping to find a monogamous partner who is also kinky. But when she puts the word “kinky” in her profile she gets flooded with ridiculous pervs. How can she filter out the clueless horndogs? Hear the very unpleasant tale of a gay couple who…
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Jan 28 • 51 min
Have you ever experienced conflict during a family vacation? The first call on this show might put it all in perspective for you. A protective big sister can’t stand that her 17 year-old sis is dating a 21 year-old man. Their parents don’t mind….
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Jan 21 • 48 min
Scootch closer, ya’ll. It’s Bible study with Dan Savage. On with the show: A happily single woman finally broke down after pressure from her friend to have some sex. Against her misgivings, he convinced her to pursue a relationship, promising that if…
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Jan 14 • 48 min
Hand-wringing women, am I right? First we have a lady who feels guilty about masturbating at night when her partner is snoring next to her. And another woman feels guilty about “objectifying” her new cross-dressing boyfriend. Is it wrong to be…
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Jan 7 • 49 min
Why, oh why (bemoans this woman,) is it that the indie, cool, female-owned sex stores never carry dildos that are big enough for her? WHY?! A gay man has been invited to be the man of honor at his sister’s wedding. But you know what’s weird? The…
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Dec 31, 2019 • 47 min
It’s kind of the bad actors show. A biting biter bit her boyfriend and drew blood. He didn’t like it, so she calls him a baby. A dude wonders if can catch a contact high from sleeping with someone who is on meth. A man is miffed because a couple who…
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Dec 24, 2019 • 47 min
A formerly repressed man is discovering his wild side. He and his wife like to do it in quasi-public in the mountains. He just got her a remote controlled vibrator, and wants to see if he can get her off in a restaurant. But is this ethical? Will…
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Dec 17, 2019 • 50 min
The show begins with an insecurity vampire. You know the kind. A person who sucks you dry with their endless need for praise and reassurance. This man is dating one, but is she entirely to blame? It’s complicated. And, it’s a wedding battle royale! In…
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Dec 10, 2019 • 50 min
Hot tubs. Are they a safe, relaxing haven or a menacing vector of disease? Here’s a poly peril. What do you do when you really, really don’t like your boyfriend’s other boyfriend? On the Magnum, all of your chastity cage questions are answered,…
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Dec 3, 2019 • 53 min
A man went on a date and he felt fireworks. But later that she told him that wasn’t feeling it, but wants to be friends. He doesn’t need friends. He already has friends. Should he bother? This question is pretty simple. Her new lover has a gargantuan…
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Nov 26, 2019 • 51 min
A man is getting re-married. Is it shoddy to use the same officiant as his first wedding? Dan talks to a woman who had a blurry encounter with another woman as a very sexually repressed Christian school. Her lover called it rape the next day. It’s…
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Nov 19, 2019 • 50 min
A woman is concerned about her friend. Why? Well, for one, she is in a 24/7 dom/sub relationship with an abusive ex-con. They have kids, and the friend is open with them about the nature of her marriage. Is it possible to explain in a healthy way that…
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Nov 12, 2019 • 48 min
A woman wants her boyfriend to pee inside of her. Cool, cool. But he is pee shy! How can he get over it? A woman and her man love threesomes with women. But they don’t want kids. Should they warn their unicorn that if she happens to get knocked up…
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Nov 5, 2019 • 52 min
A young woman slept with her pal’s ex about a year ago in one drunken evening. Now she is wracked with guilt. Should she tell her? A gay proofreader lives in a repressive country. He is tasked with fixing grammatical and spelling errors. One of his…
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Oct 29, 2019 • 50 min
A tale of two subs: What to do when both people in a couple are subs? Find one dom to rule them all? Take turns? A woman is super-duper annoyed that her Trump-lovin’ brother is throwing a gender reveal party. Are they inherently unacceptable? On the…
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Oct 22, 2019 • 47 min
A woman was apparently dating Genghis Khan. He told her he had had a vasectomy, but she got pregnant anyway. And so had a bunch of other women he dated. Her lawyer says she has a battery case. Her friends tell her to chill out. What do you think? A…
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Oct 15, 2019 • 47 min
A woman has vowed to never date a Trump voter. But she lives in a small conservative town, and she’s getting lonely… A woman did some sex work a couple years ago. She’s dating someone new and wonders if, when or how to tell him. On the Magnum, Dan…
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Oct 8, 2019 • 50 min
An open-minded but shy woman has a gaggle of friends who all talk about sticking their fingers in their boyfriends butts- to everyone’s delight. But the caller isn’t into it. Is she depriving her boyfriend of this singular pleasure? A woman got a…
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Oct 1, 2019 • 51 min
An anonymous LinkedIn contact has asked a woman if she would be his FinDom. He would give her money every week in a form of submission to her. But he refuses to reveal his identity. Should she take him up on it? Would you? A gay man has an out-of-town…
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Sep 24, 2019 • 48 min
It’s your typical story: Man has sex with girl who has only 2 fingers on one of her hands. Man never calls girl again because he only wanted casual sex anyway. Years later, man feels guilty for not calling girl with disability because he worries she…
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Sep 17, 2019 • 55 min
A married woman has just hosted her mother-in-law in their small apartment. After seeing her husband and his mother interact, she just doesn’t fell like having any sex at all. How can she clear out the in-law vibes? Morning! A woman emerges from sleep…
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Sep 10, 2019 • 53 min
A woman’s boyfriend used to achieve orgasm with ease. But now he can’t come from penetration. The caller worries that in her boyfriend’s eyes, she has become the madonna, when she used to be the whore. Dan speaks with a bisexual man, whose first…
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Sep 3, 2019 • 52 min
A gay man is fed up with all the public sex at gay pride parades! It’s bad PR! Enough already! Will Dan agree? Listen and find out. A woman is planning to marry. Her fiancé has a lot less money than she does, and they maintain separate bank accounts….
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Aug 27, 2019 • 51 min
What do you do when love being single, but also want that new relationship energy? A woman vents some righteous fury that many women don’t find short men attractive. IT’S NOT FAIR. On the Magnum, Dan chats with the very amazing RIVAL but BELOVED…
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Aug 20, 2019 • 54 min
A 76 year-old woman wonders if everyone is doing polyamory these days, or if there are any monogamous couples left. A woman’s twin brother has become a white supremacist, and is getting sucked in to a very scary community. Dan brings on Christian…
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Aug 13, 2019 • 47 min
A man keeps sending his female friends sexual texts and pics, later apologizing saying it was a mistake and sent to the wrong person. Both our caller and podcast host know better. A man’s husband will sometimes wake in the middle of the night and have…
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Aug 6, 2019 • 49 min
Is it common for straight men to be “secretly into dick?” Because that’s what this woman’s boyfriend is. A transwoman got together with a guy in a dungeon. But she forgot to tell him that she is trans. Her lover told her it would be wise to reveal…
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Jul 30, 2019 • 48 min
A woman is tormented that her partner of 7 years has not learned how to pee without spraying the area. Dan’s response is both charitable and practical. A 70 year-old man is in an open relationship with his wife. He is communicating with a 30 year-old…
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Jul 23, 2019 • 48 min
A woman has been dating a man for 4 months. She just read on his public blog that he thinks he isn’t clicking with her. Should she admit she read his blog? Why would he write such a thing? A gay man encountered a willing slave in the bathroom at an…
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Jul 16, 2019 • 54 min
A reasonable woman is about to visit her over-the-top Christian family. Her sister has invited her to join a book club when she’s there. Guess what the book is! Should the caller sit through her sister’s stealth Bible study, or find a way to politely…
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Jul 9, 2019 • 49 min
A man still has hot videos he took of his ex. He loves his current girlfriend, but the sex isn’t nearly as good. How wrong is it to view the historical footage? A straight man has HAD IT UP TO HERE with all this “they/them” stuff! And sometimes, you…
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Jul 2, 2019 • 49 min
It’s the One-Minute Wonder Show! That’s right. Your calls were one minute or less. Dan’s answers were 2 minutes or less. We blasted through so much, it feels like a blur. Blowing air in vaginas, toxic Drag Race fans, squirting cleanup, anal skin tags,…
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Jun 25, 2019 • 51 min
Just in time for your pride parade, it’s the all gay episode! Calls by, for and about queer people. We got nervous lesbians who are scared to introduce the girlfriend to their moms, we got homos who come too soon, or get spooked by conventionally…
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Jun 18, 2019 • 55 min
A gay man is dating a self-described “Sex Pig.” His antics in public are epic. The caller wants to figure out if he can learn to be more carefree and uninhibited or negotiate some rules to please them both. Hear and learn from the cautionary tale of…
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Jun 11, 2019 • 52 min
With the ever-charming and fearsome Mistress Matisse. She came to our studio to help Dan answer questions about bruises (wanted and unwanted,) gang bangs, the nasty kind of doms you’ll meet on Reddit, rough sex when you’re pregnant and the proper care…
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Jun 4, 2019 • 50 min
Here’s a conundrum: A black, gay man is married to his white husband. They want to dive into threesomes, but the black man is only attracted to white men and the white man is only attracted to black men. So you see. This is a real pickle. Meanwhile, a…
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May 28, 2019 • 49 min
Here are the Savage Lovecast we’ve noticed that we’ll get a bunch of calls on a particular subject all at once. This week it was abortion and weddings. A caller asks if we should just sit on our hands and let Alabama and the other states hijacked by…
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May 21, 2019 • 51 min
A woman is dating a man who used to be a sex addict. He slept with hundreds of women. Now their relationship is solid and monogamous, but his many former lovers keep texting him and trying to keep in touch. The caller feels threatened and creeped out….
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May 14, 2019 • 52 min
A man and his wife want to have kids. He would like to have a threesome before they do. Is it wrong to issue an ultimatum: “NO KIDS until we have that threeway?” Dan chats with Dr. Landon Trost from the Mayo clinic about vasectomies- how reversible…
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May 7, 2019 • 46 min
A woman keeps getting told to go home after she hooks up in the middle of the night. Don’t any of these gentleman know how to make breakfast? A woman has learned that her beloved aunt has been having a lesbian affair for decades. Some but not all of…
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Apr 30, 2019 • 51 min
A kinky woman enjoys having slaves. But the guy she really likes is vanilla. It didn’t work out. This is sad. Does being kinky mean you can’t have vanilla love too? A school teacher and her boyfriend want to go to a sex club. But she’s worried about…
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Apr 23, 2019 • 50 min
A woman claims that over 90% of the time, her casual hook-ups end with the man orgasming, and she gets…nothing. And then! When she asks for a little reciprocity, these men accuse her of being a demanding princess. Meanwhile, another straight woman…
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Apr 16, 2019 • 55 min
A bisexual man and his girlfriend want to try a threeway with another man. But he has never been with a man before and feels anxious. The girlfriend just feels turned on. He wishes she would suppress her desire and support him in this trying time. A…
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Apr 9, 2019 • 51 min
Look at her. She’s only a lesbian when she’s drunk! Why does she dream of a white picket fence with her loving wife by her side but only when she’s had 5 whisky sours? A woman is planning to marry Prince Charming. He is so wonderful in every way….
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Apr 2, 2019 • 45 min
A man often yawns soon after coming. He has to convince his partners that he’s not bored. What up? A dutiful father worries that when he drops his used come-rag in the laundry along with his kids’ clothes that his sperm is getting spread around the…