#WithChude

#WithChude

#WithChude is a special series of targeted multimedia (video, audio, text, event) conversations and investigations that leverage the voice, networks and passions of its host, Chude Jideonwo to underline social issues, raise social consciousness and spa…


E.57 - Love your family
Jun 4 • 2 min
Many of us go through life looking for the approval of so many other people, that we don’t appreciate the families and the love we have.
Tosyn Bucknor sits #WithChude
Jun 3 • 43 min
Tosyn Bucknor was such a vibrant soul and absolutely free-spirited while she lived. She disclosed to Chude that she designed her own life around the things she considered sacred. And in the end, her happiness is all that matters.⁣
E.56 - They don’t have to like you
Jun 3 • 2 min
What happens if that person you want to like you, never likes you in their life? What happens when the person you want to notice you, never notices you in your life?
E.55 - Why are you making that choice?
Jun 2 • 2 min
Before you make an important choice for your life, ask yourself, did you make that choice because it is what is good for your life or did you make that choice because that’s what your friends on Instagram are doing?
E.54 - Open your heart to life
Jun 1 • 2 min
I stayed open to believing that no matter how hard a climb, there is always a way to let in a sliver of light to illuminate the path forward - Oprah.
E.53 - Pay attention
May 29 • 2 min
A person who is pretending to have no emotions around you is a person who is living a lie to you.
E.52 - You don’t need more time
May 28 • 2 min
You can have all the time in the world but without peace of mind, whatever you have to do including just looking at your phone, it will expand to fill the time available.
E.51 - Be friendly
May 27 • 2 min
A man who wants friends must make himself friendly.
Ronke Bamisedun sits #WithChude
May 27 • 45 min
Ronke Bamisedun is the perfect picture of what most people will call successful. Flying high as a PR professional and an all-round achiever. On this episode of #WithChude, she again reminded us that she’s only human and shared her victorious journey…
E.50 - Don’t overthink
May 26 • 2 min
Don’t overthink. The only thing that makes a difference in your life is action. It’s taking action, even if it is the smallest, minutest, action.
E.49 - Be patient
May 25 • 2 min
Those people who are patient are the ones who not only survive, who not only thrive, but who enjoy the rewards of living in this world.
E.48 - Depression is a bully
May 22 • 2 min
Depression is also just a bully, and like every bully, it runs away from those who stand up to it. It is how you stand up to it that makes the difference.
E.47 - Build new routines
May 21 • 2 min
Build new routines, build new rhythms, build new rituals. You must always remember that you created them to help you live a better life.
Waje sits #WithChude
May 20 • 35 min
On another soulful episode of #WithChude, Waje describes how she was broken over and over again by the judgements of others.
E.46 - The law of non-attachment
May 20 • 2 min
Non-attachment says, ‘I will enjoy it, but I’ll realise that at anytime, it can go. So, I’ll both enjoy it and be prepared to lose it at anytime’, at the same time.
E.45 - Grief is inescapable
May 19 • 2 min
Grief is an inescapable part of human existence. The reason why many of us cannot handle grief is because we pretend to ourselves that the people that we love will never leave us.
E.44 - Control your reflexes
May 18 • 2 min
It is a very miserable way to live life - the lack of the ability to control your reflexes, to say to yourself, ‘people have done this but I am going to choose my reaction’.
E.43 - Prepare for change
May 15 • 2 min
The only thing that is predictable about the future is that the future is unpredictable, and so your best bet is to prepare for change.
E.42 - You can be emotional
May 14 • 2 min
When someone tells you to not be emotional, ignore them, be emotional. You’re a human being and that’s what human beings do - we emote!
Chioma Nwosu sits #WithChude
May 13 • 43 min
Chioma Nwosu sat on yet another profound episode of #WithChude baring all her struggles with mental imbalance and how she came out victorious.
E.41 - A wave of envy
May 13 • 2 min
We see a friend’s new car, you wish them well but suddenly you compare yourself with them and you’re like ‘Oh my God, what have I been doing with my life?’
E.40 - You’re not lonely
May 12 • 2 min
It is impossible for anybody who is really thinking about others, not just themselves, to be truly lonely in this big, wide world.
E.39 - Become the person you want to date
May 11 • 2 min
Are you the kind of person you want to date? Have you done the work of making yourself the best version of yourself?
E.38 - Dealing with habits
May 8 • 2 min
If you want to change a habit, it is not by force or willpower, It is by replacing one habit with another habit.
E.37 - Vulnerability is a gift
May 7 • 2 min
People have to earn the right to participate in your life. People have to earn the right to participate in your story. You are a precious piece of the universe.
Ubi Franklin sits #WithChude
May 6 • 46 min
Despite going through public scandal and enduring private shame which put him at the brink of suicide, Ubi Franklyn still found a way to calm his storm and overcome his greatest and most challenging phase.
E.36 - The energy you bring to the room
May 6 • 1 min
No one else is responsible for the energy you bring into a room. You alone make the choice as to how you want to show up.
E.35 - Are you a good person?
May 5 • 2 min
Are you trying your best every day to put out the best possible energy in the world? That’s all you owe yourself and the universe.
E.34 - Adulation is a trap
May 4 • 2 min
Adulation can be a trap; but the more you people know that you’re as human as they are, the more you make it easier for them to do the things that you do, almost as well as you can.
E.33 - The Nigerian movie test
May 1 • 2 min
Do not spend time doing the things you won’t enjoy. Do not spend time doing the things that will not give you joy.
E.32 - Avoid malevolent people
Apr 30 • 2 min
For yourself, and the health of your soul, you need to avoid anybody or anything that kills your spirit.
E.31 - Your opinion is all that matters
Apr 29 • 2 min
Do not allow another person’s opinion about the work you want to do be more important than your own opinion about the work you want to do.
Oluwaseun Ayodeji Osowobi sits #WithChude
Apr 29 • 48 min
Incidentally, Ayodeji Osowobi survived COVID-19 two weeks ago. She is a powerful woman with an incredibly powerful story. In this conversation with Chude, she talks about the tragic rape that changed her life.
E.30 - Keep doing the work
Apr 28 • 2 min
Keep doing the work. Keep putting in the energy. Do what you think you should do, how you think you should do it and when you think you should do it. In the end, your preparation will meet the moment and things will ignite from thereon.
E.29 - Don’t pretend when in trouble
Apr 27 • 1 min
The strong person is one who doesn’t allow what others did to them affect who they are. According to Bishop Desmond Tutu in the Book of Joy, ‘to deal with hardship without becoming hard’.
E.28 - You deserve the best
Apr 24 • 2 min
Why are you constantly putting yourself in situations that don’t honour you? You deserve to the best. You deserve to be treated with respect.
E.27 - Happiness is real
Apr 23 • 2 min
Happiness exists. And there are people who live their lives daily with so much happiness. Living a happy life doesn’t have to be your goal, but it can be.
Toyin Abraham sits #WithChude
Apr 22 • 46 min
Toyin Abraham let’s out on deep and soulful conversations on the very first episode of the show with Chude Jideonwo. She disclosed how she managed and conquered the emotional battles she had faced over the past few years.
E.26 - On Accountability
Apr 22 • 2 min
Accountability is saying to yourself; I could have done better, I should have done better, I will do better. Don’t blame yourself by saying you’re a failure.
E.25 - On Perfection
Apr 21 • 2 min
If we; leaders, parents, bosses, teachers, keep lying to others about how perfect our lives are, then we make it extremely difficult for others to recover from their mistakes when they make them.
E.24 - Love Exists
Apr 20 • 2 min
Love is a gift to be received with gratitude by those who have it, to be awaited with grace and a smile by those who haven’t received it, and to warm the heart with memories by those who have lost it. To only have experienced true love only briefly is…
E.23 - You’re Priority
Apr 17 • 2 min
When it’s time to make a choice about your life, it is important not to choose something because it will make you more money, choose based on what suits the kind of life you want to live as a human being.
E.22 - Change your Perspective
Apr 16 • 2 min
The Buddhists talk about ‘right perspective’. They say that no matter what is going on in your life if you can think of the right way to process it, it can make a whole lot of difference in your life.
E.21 - Suicide
Apr 15 • 2 min
The fact that your life feels unliveable today, doesn’t mean it will feel the same tomorrow. If you can just wait, something will happen in your life that will make you look back and say, ‘why did I ever consider taking my own life?’
Easter Special - What are you focused on?
Apr 13 • 2 min
Many people fetishize the suffering of Christ, but what are you focused on? The suffering and death of Christ or his resurrection and life?
E.20 - On Disappointment
Apr 10 • 2 min
To be afraid of disappointment is to waste the grand opportunity you have everyday to live the life you have to the best of your ability.
E.19 - On Love
Apr 9 • 2 min
Don’t allow yourself get to the point where you pretend to yourself that you’re not a human being that feels a heartbreak or love. We don’t like to feel these things, but that’s what makes us human beings.
E.18 - Unforgivable
Apr 8 • 2 min
Forgiveness is not dependent on what the person who has hurt you did, forgiveness is something that comes from you.
E.17 - Forgive Yourself
Apr 7 • 2 min
You are allowed to make mistakes, but forgive yourself. Don’t focus only on the things you got wrong and how you disappointed yourself, focus on all the ways you can now improve from what you’ve done before.
E.16 - On Happiness
Apr 6 • 2 min
The easiest way to make yourself happy is to focus on other people.
E.15 - Time Affluence
Apr 3 • 2 min
Some people are rich in money, some are rich in friends, some people are rich in relationships. But to be happy, you have to be rich in time. This is called Time Affluence in the literature of happiness.
E.14 - Being Yourself
Apr 2 • 2 min
You don’t need anyone’s approval to be your authentic self. For you to become who you are, you have to face the criticism you fear the most. Have the courage to be yourself, even if those around you don’t approve.
E.13 - On Mistakes
Apr 1 • 2 min
Mistakes are unavoidable, but mistakes are valuable.’ One of the biggest lessons I learnt from one of my greatest teachers, Warren Buffet.
E.12 - Giving Feedback
Mar 31 • 2 min
You must learn to give feedback to people in a way that affirms them and validates them. You must not give feedback in a way that makes them feel less of themselves. The minute your candidness, honesty, truth, makes people feel less than human, you’ve…
E.11 - Being Yourself
Mar 30 • 2 min
Gratitude is important for living a joyful life. To be grateful every day, and keeping a gratitude journal is an important practice for wholesome, joyful life.
E.10 - Connection
Mar 27 • 2 min
It is not enough to be authentic - saying what you want to say, doing what you want to do, just speaking your mind. You have to think about other human beings because we are created to live with other human beings and we must consider how our actions…
E.09 - You are More than this
Mar 26 • 2 min
You can not reduce yourself to what one person says or thinks about you, no matter how dear the person is to you. You are more than their opinion of you.
E.07 - On Sadness
Mar 25 • 1 min
To live a joyful life doesn’t mean you’ll be happy every day. To live a joyful life means that you’re able to process all the emotions that come to you in proportion.
E.08 - Life’s Choices
Mar 25 • 2 min
One day, we will be gone from this earth. When that time comes and we are looking at the life we lived, will we sit down on our death beds and say, ‘I lived a good life, I made a good choice, I did the things that I wanted to do’?
E.06 - The Road to Joy
Mar 25 • 1 min
The one thing I have learnt on the road to joy is to change my relationship with adversity, to be fascinated by it, to dance with it, to even embrace it.
E.05 - Take Action
Mar 23 • 2 min
Instead of reading several books [on self-management] over and over again, read one book [about it] and implement what that book teaches. The only way what you read has an effect on your life is when you practice what it teaches. - Chude Jideonwo
E.04 - Emotional Space
Mar 21 • 2 min
In this life, you need the [emotional] space every day to be able to sit down, reflect, and realize the things you did wrong today and how you can be better the next day. - Chude Jideonwo
E.03 - Inner Child
Mar 20 • 2 min
If you stop doing those [silly] things that make you just be a human being and enjoy life, because of what people will say or what people will think, you’re the one that will go to bed feeling miserable not them. You have to open up a space for joy. -…
E.02 - On Friendships
Mar 19 • 2 min
When people do something to you that you don’t like, remember the time you did something they didn’t like too, and realise that it is your duty to forgive them and forgive yourself too - Chude Jideonwo
E.01 - Rumble
Mar 16 • 2 min
To live a joyful life, you have to be comfortable with uncertainty, with being wrong, with confronting how you feel at any point in time. - Brene Brown