Love & Hope

Love & Hope

davidmcelroy.org
Love & Hope isn’t advice about love from an expert. It’s confessional lessons from someone who keeps losing his way on the long search for the love and connection we all need. Each episode is about 20 to 30 minutes.


The end of the beginning
Apr 8 • 4 min
UPDATE: The world has changed since Love & Hope started on Jan. 1, in ways that none of us expected. I’ve tried to adjust this show to the present reality, but the concept isn’t really adequate to cover what’s going on. I’ll have one more episode after…
Things we never learned in school
Apr 1 • 33 min
Episode 14 — If we are about to face the financial meltdown which I fear is being triggered right now, everything is about to change for all of us. Normal life as we knew it might very well be gone. And that could change everything for you — including…
Love in the age of reckoning
Mar 25 • 34 min
Episode 13 — When something has been wrong for a long time — or when books have been out of balance — there eventually comes a day of reckoning. That’s when debits and credits are added up and there’s either a credit or a price to be paid. In our culture,…
Pausing in the midst of fear
Mar 18 • 3 min
Episode 12 — This is a very short episode this week and it’s not in my normal format. As you all know, there’s a crisis going on in the world right now and it has arrived in force all across the U.S. over the past 10 days or so. Most people’s thoughts are…
Fix your relationships before it’s too late
Mar 11 • 25 min
Episode 11 — The quality of your life is determined largely by the meaning you find in the relationships you choose, but many of us end up with broken relationships that need to be repaired. What’s just as bad is that we waste time with relationships that…
Counterfeit love is toxic
Mar 4 • 28 min
Episode 10 — Nobody ever thinks he or she will end up in a love-less marriage, much less an abusive relationship with serious physical abuse. So why do so many people end up with partners who are either abusive or who can’t provide what they really need?…
The pointless pursuit of perfection
Feb 26 • 21 min
Episode 9 — Have you ever found the love you thought you wanted but then lost the relationship because you picked it apart — and ultimately lost the love — because the other person wasn’t perfect? We do that because we get comfortable having something we…
A woman’s love changes everything
Feb 19 • 22 min
Episode 8 — Why are people who fall in love so often willing to pay a tremendous price for the love they want? I first encountered this question as a child in the book of Genesis when I read about Jacob’s love for Rachel. Why was he willing to work seven…
Will you be my Valentine?
Feb 12 • 21 min
Episode 7 — I have horribly mixed feelings about Valentine’s Day. I grew up being told that it’s a very artificial holiday made up by companies that want to sell you something. That still makes sense to my head, but my heart strongly identifies with the…
Waking up from the longest dream
Feb 5 • 23 min
Episode 6 — Everybody has some delusional expectations about life when he or she is young, but most people outgrow such things pretty quickly. I started out with bigger delusions — bigger expectations and plans — and they only got bigger by the time I was…
Will you abandon me, too?
Jan 29 • 28 min
Episode 5 — Our relationships with our parents often lay the foundation for what our future romantic relationships will be like. My mother abandoned me when I was a child and it took me many years to figure out that I was playing out that childhood drama…
Both of us are broken people
Jan 22 • 25 min
Episode 4 — When my first company failed shortly before my 30th birthday, it was the first real failure of my life. I felt like a complete failure and spent a year in depression. For the first time, I saw how broken I was underneath my facade of success.…
The narcissist who taught me to feel shame
Jan 15 • 25 min
Episode 3 — My father wanted me to be just like him. Little did I know when I was young how close I came to becoming just like the narcissist who subjected me to emotional abuse for decades. —- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to…
Two women loved me, but I lost them both
Jan 8 • 20 min
Episode 2 — When I was going to get married almost 12 years ago, I had to break the news to another woman who hoped I would choose her instead. I ended up caught between two women who loved me, but I somehow lost both of them — because I refused to commit…
“What is wrong with me?!”
Jan 1 • 20 min
Episode 1 — When I fell into deep depression in 2009, I hoped for a quick fix, but I was forced to confront my dysfunctional childhood — and I realized I had to make serious changes to myself if I ever really wanted to be loved in a healthy way. —- This…
Intro—What’s this show all about?
Dec 26, 2019 • 3 min
This is a brief explanation of what you’ll hear in Love&Hope in the future. —- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/david-mcelroy/message