Dating Kinky

Dating Kinky

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A ‘cast about love, sex, romance, and kink.


Today In Butts: Are Rectums Self-Lubricating?
Jan 23 • 4 min
Short answer: No. Long answer included, LOL! Find the transcript and learn more about my new book The Big Book of Ass here. —- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/dating-kinky/message
Fly Fishing For Your Needs and Wants
Jan 21 • 6 min
Soooo sneaky to just dangle bait, right? They TOTALLY don’t know that when you say “I love you…” and leave it hanging in the air that you are desperately waiting to hear it back. TOTALLY. Posted on the Dating Kinky Blog. —- Send in a voice message:…
BDE (Big Dick Energy) and Confident Versus Cocky
Jan 20 • 8 min
What is Big Dick Energy (BDE), and what is the difference between confidence versus cockiness? Transcript/Blog Post —- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/dating-kinky/message
The Problem With Blaming Victims of Abuse
Jan 15 • 3 min
I will be clear about my position early in this short writing: THE PERSON WHO ABUSES IS ALWAYS AT FAULT. A transcript of this podcast can be found on my blog. —- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/dating-kinky/message
How Do YOU Get Into The Right Headspace?
Jan 13 • 8 min
When you have a real life with kids, or career, or money worries, how do you get into the headspace for kink? —- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/dating-kinky/message
What Level of Kink Are You?
Jan 8 • 8 min
In writing about the power exchange/kinky play balance, I went down a rabbit hole of how to categorize or measure kink in daily life. This is what I’ve created as a result. A starting place for thought or discussion. —- Send in a voice message:…
I’m Gonna R*pe All I Want
Jan 7 • 6 min
A discussion of CNC (consensual non-consent) relationships. —- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/dating-kinky/message
Belief Is NOT Everything. But It Is A Lot.
Dec 19, 2019 • 8 min
Belief can affect our memory, vision, hearing, and even physical strength and appearance. Let’s use it as a force for good in our lives! —- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/dating-kinky/message
The Red Flag Diaries: How Do They Talk About Others?
Dec 17, 2019 • 4 min
Not only does how a person talk about others tell you a lot about how they will talk about you (in good times and bad), but it also informs how they will see you and interpret your actions and words. —- Send in a voice message:…
Words CAN Hurt
Dec 16, 2019 • 4 min
Not because of the words. Because of the actual physical harm that those words can incite. —- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/dating-kinky/message
Got Nuance?
Dec 15, 2019 • 5 min
The less nuance we share with each other, the less accepting we are of it. And another thing I’ve noticed, those that see and respect nuance?BOTH sides hate them as a sellout, white knight, traitor, extremist… —- Send in a voice message:…
What If You’ve Been Wrong Your WHOLE LIFE? I Was.
Dec 14, 2019 • 4 min
I could accept that I had been wrong and make the changes so that moving forward I could enjoy the fruits of being right, or stay comfortable in my bubble of self-righteousness and fear and disdain and loneliness. —- Send in a voice message:…
It’s Black AND White, Not Shades Of Grey
Dec 13, 2019 • 7 min
In fact, I rarely think in shades of grey. Or compromise. Or whatever it is we’re told we’re supposed to do to get along in this world. I also have some tips on writing a dating profile to disqualify people, and hwy that’s important. Excerpted from Dating…
A Ticklish Situation
Dec 12, 2019 • 2 min
It’s not cool to treat people on the internet like they exist ONLY to fulfill your fetishes. Just saying. —- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/dating-kinky/message
I Don’t Do Hookups (Except When I Do)
Dec 11, 2019 • 2 min
A look at hookups from a woman’s perspective. —- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/dating-kinky/message
FRAMED! A New Series On How We See The World
Dec 4, 2019 • 9 min
Sometimes our mental frames are harmful. And sometimes those frames are helpful but not as helpful as they could be. How can we change them, when we need to to expand our perspectives and possibilities? —- Send in a voice message:…
Unconditional Relationships? *cough cough* BULLSHIT!
Dec 2, 2019 • 8 min
My love and my relationships are conditional. Mark Manson says that unconditional love and relationships are what we should strive for. I make my points against. —- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/dating-kinky/message
We All Have That One Friend… Maybe YOU Are That One Friend.
Nov 29, 2019 • 4 min
The one who will put EVERYONE’s needs before their own. The loyal, loving, always-there-for-you bestie who will give and give and give… —- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/dating-kinky/message
It’s My World. You’re Just Living In It
Nov 27, 2019 • 7 min
A perspective of the world that keeps us alive is more important than one that is objectively accurate. That’s not easy on connecting, communicating, and understanding each other, though. —- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/dating-kinky/message
The Red Flag Diaries: How Do They Respond To Your First “No”?
Nov 26, 2019 • 4 min
This is a new series on red flags to watch out for when meeting and dating and connecting with others in kink and elsewhere. People who feel entitled to your time and effort and who believe that their wants and needs are more important than yours will…
It’s Like Toilet Paper Bondage…
Nov 25, 2019 • 3 min
Behavior modification, on yourself or others. It’s not a one-and-done thing. It’s more like toilet paper bondage. —- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/dating-kinky/message
Conflict Resolution Protocol
Nov 23, 2019 • 8 min
Two ways to resolve conflict in your relationships. On involves pulling rank (in a loving way) and pattern interrupts. The other is simply an agreement of what happens when someone unilaterally ends a stressful conversation. —- Send in a voice message:…
I Hurt You BECAUSE I Love You.
Nov 22, 2019 • 3 min
I’ve heard, “I can’t beat so-and-so like I used to. I love them too much.” I just can’t comprehend. —- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/dating-kinky/message
You Can’t Even Get ONE Relationship Right! (Poly Is Not, Part XXII)
Nov 21, 2019 • 4 min
There are a lot of reasons that a relationship (or series of relationships) might not work. Polyamory or any sort of ethical non-monogamy are not the answer, nor are they right for everyone. —- Send in a voice message:…
Successful Relationships: 3 Critical Questions
Nov 20, 2019 • 3 min
If you are able to answer all three of these questions in the affirmative, then you have what it takes to create a successful relationship. Will you? Maybe, maybe not. —- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/dating-kinky/message
The Way We Were, AKA The WON TWOO WAY™
Nov 19, 2019 • 5 min
I’ve often found that the very people who proclaim to all how accepting WE KINKSTERZ are of others are themselves incredibly intolerant of views that don’t exactly match their own. —- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/dating-kinky/message
Any Problem You Can’t Discuss In Your Relationship…
Nov 16, 2019 • 5 min
…is two problems. Or more. —- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/dating-kinky/message
It’s Only Romantic When You Still Love Them
Nov 16, 2019 • 5 min
“If you don’t still love them, or worse, you barely even know them, it’s creepy. It’s stalkerish.” —- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/dating-kinky/message
In Life And Love, VALUE Is The Key
Nov 16, 2019 • 5 min
Musing on the idea of value, and how important providing value is to creating love and lasting relationships. —- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/dating-kinky/message