Relationship By Design

Relationship By Design
Relationship is both the access to - and the ultimate experience of - being fulfilled

022 Community Call: The Pitfalls of Promises
Sep 1 • 78 min
Today our topic is “The Pitfalls of Promises” on our twice-monthly Zoom Community Call. At the end of the call, someone asked if there would be a replay of the call? We took a poll to make sure nobody would have any problem if we shared the complete call.…
021 Community Call: You can do it. Or you can pretend you can’t.
Aug 25 • 29 min
The original title of this episode recorded on August 15, 2020, was “Do you have your relationship handled? Part 2” HOWEVER at the top of the call Lon asked the question “What’s possible with going forward?” So as it is with all relationships, things…
020 Community Call Exploring: Do You Have Your Relationship Handled?
Aug 4 • 19 min
We thought today we’d give you more excerpts from the Community Calls we have a few times a month. We take people’s privacy seriously. You’ll only be hearing from the leaders of Relationship By Design. Conversations and Topics Covered Today: Introduction…
019 Community Call Excerpts July 11, 2020
Jul 21 • 31 min
We thought today we’d give you some excerpts from the Community Calls we have a few times a month. We take people’s privacy seriously. You’ll only be hearing from the leaders of Relationship By Design. If you like what you hear, consider joining us for…
018 What if a Snarky Remark is a Red Flag?
Jul 7 • 3 min
Have you ever said something snarky, spiteful, unkind, or just plain thoughtless, to someone you love? How did it go? Did you get into a fight or hear a defensive reaction? Or worse. Perhaps you ended a relationship. It happened to us and opened a door to…
017 Irritations in Relationships
Jun 23 • 3 min
At the beginning of our workshop, “Relationship: The Real Deal,” some participants are startled when we announce this intention: “The issues you have been dealing with, trying to fix, or just plain tolerating … dissolve/disappear simply by being in…
016 When Your Relationship Isn’t Working, What Should You Do?
Jun 9 • 2 min
Well, our first question for you is, “Are you willing to set aside your penchant to fix, change or leave your relationship?” Leaving, either physically or emotionally, surely doesn’t resolve anything. It simply transports your concerns to your next…
015 Ordinary to Extraordinary… in a Moment
May 26 • 4 min
How do people move from ordinary relationship to extraordinary relationship? In ordinary relationship, we react to upsets by pulling out of the experience of relationship, the experience that we actually long for. It’s extraordinary to be aware that…
014 Distancing Relationship
Apr 16 • 40 min
For many of us during this time of “physical distancing,” we’re finding ourselves at home, sheltered in place, and in close-quarters with family members, and just maybe feeling a bit overwhelmed by it all.
013 Parents: Outside The Trap Workshop
Mar 18 • 8 min
In this episode, Sandy&Lon continue with John briefly educating us on a coaching course they had done years ago for parents titled Parents: Outside The Trap.
012 Relationships: Arrangements and Understandings
Mar 4 • 5 min
In this episode, John Biethan the producer of the podcast, asks Sandy&Lon for their comments on his thoughts about “arrangements.” In some family relationships, in certain conditions, and when people get together in relationship and marriage, there “may”…
011 Strike 3: Hostile Backdrop
Feb 19 • 12 min
In this episode, we’ve taken the liberty of starting off with the last few minutes of the previous episode, Strike 2: Fear In Relationships Part 2, where Sandy&Lon talk about relationships during the holiday season. For more insights into the impact the…
010 Strike 2: Fear In Relationships Part 2
Jan 30 • 18 min
Continuing on from episode Strike 2: Fear In Relationships Part 1, today Sandy&Lon take a deeper look into fear and what happens when it feeds into relationships when they’re shaped. If you’re new to Relationship By Design start here: Episode 001 Get Real…
009 Is Resignation Shaping Your Relationship?
Oct 15, 2019 • 2 min
If you really listen to yourselves talking about your relationships, you’ll hear (1) how often you exaggerate with “always” and “never” - which fills your future with your past - and (2) how often you unconsciously talk about what happened in the past as…
008 Strike 2: Fear In Relationships Part 1
Sep 26, 2019 • 11 min
Commitments and promises are the foundation for every relationship. What is the basis for your relationships? For ALL relationships? There’s a foundation that all relationships rest, lay, or stand on. For the most part, as human beings, we haven’t really…
007: Are We Doing Politics The Way We Do Relationships?
Sep 17, 2019 • 4 min
Today Paul Bennett from Relationship By Design is reading his blog post about Politics and Relationships. There’s a lot of dissatisfaction and unhappiness in American politics today. There’s a lot of dissatisfaction and unhappiness in relationships, too.…
006 Strike 1: The Fantasy
Sep 12, 2019 • 14 min
Today Sandy and Lon Golnick are talking about the “fairy tale” in a relationship they call Strike 1. They’ll be covering the problems; what you’re looking for; everything you want, all the time, everywhere, w/everyone, forever - and that fantasy is not…
005 What’s Hidden From View
Sep 6, 2019 • 6 min
Unseen conditions undermine effectiveness. Today Sandy and Lon Golnick take a look at what’s hidden from our view when we have upsets or concerns, and breakdowns in relationship. So what happens when you don’t see what’s actually going on?
004 What Is A Relationship?
Aug 29, 2019 • 5 min
Synonyms, characteristics, actions; you don’t know; problems; blame. Today Sandy and Lon Golnick have a short conversation discussing “What is a relationship?” The question is not answered here, but what’s given are a few things to consider when…
003 Three Facts About Relationship
Aug 22, 2019 • 7 min
Today Sandy and Lon Golnick have a short conversation about the 3 facts about relationships in hopes of leaving you with questioning, wondering, and curiosity about relationships. -Relationships are natural. -There is no escaping breakdowns in your…
002 Strong, Lasting Relationships
Aug 15, 2019 • 4 min
Does your relationship have what it takes to last? A relationship could be considered to be a structure. And like any structure, its strength and durability is determined by its foundation. Strong foundations produce strong, lasting relationships.
Get Real About Relationship
Aug 3, 2019 • 49 min
Get Real About Relationship explores the traps built into the design of relationships and sets you free to experience a new peace, ease, and fulfillment in all your relationships.