Mommy Oyoyo!

Mommy Oyoyo!

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On the Mommy Oyoyo podcast, Berry Dakara shares the unique experiences of being an African mother! Listen for the funny anecdotes, inspiring stories, challenging topics, heartbreaking moments and more that come with motherhood from an African perspective. African mothers in Africa and the Diaspora, listen in for honest, transparent, authentic and REAL life gist about what being a mother means to us!


Break Time. See you in August
Jul 1 • 5 min
For the month of July I will not be publishing any podcast episodes as I use the time to rest, reset, refresh, reflect, and restrategize.
44. Hyperemesis Gravidarum feat. Temi R. | @FirstTimeMumDotCom
Jun 26 • 60 min
Hyperemesis Gravidarum is a debilitating condition that causes sufferers extreme nausea, near-constant vomiting, weight loss, dehydration and even fainting in pregnancy. The first time I heard about Hyperemesis Gravidarum was just a couple of years ago,…
43. Raising African Children in the UK feat. Iko-Ojo Mercy Haruna
Jun 19 • 45 min
In this episode, I have a chit chat with Mercy that touches on different aspects of raising her Nigerian children in England. We talk about identity, language, diversity, building a support system of mum friends, and working from home with children.…
42. MicroPreemie/Premature Babies and NICU feat. Ola Adegbenro | @ColourfulBeginnings
Jun 12 • 72 min
Ola Adegbenro, my guest in this episode, shares what having her two children prematurely was like. Her first child was born at 23 weeks (micropreemie) and spent 5 months in the NICU before being discharged home. Ola’s second child was born at 29 weeks,…
Sharing My Heart: Black Lives Matter | End Rape (Bonus Episode)
Jun 5 • 18 min
It seems like the world has reached a boiling point in the past two weeks: another killing of an unarmed black man in America, and young women/girls being killed senselessly and subjected to rape in Nigeria. In this bonus episode I just share my thoughts…
41. Decade-Long Struggle to Have A Child feat. Mama Z.
May 22 • 65 min
In today’s episode, I chatted with Mama Z who struggled to get pregnant for about 7 years. She finally conceived, but unfortunately suffered a miscarriage a few months into her pregnancy. In her ninth year of marriage, Mama Z got pregnant again and on her…
40. Mom Friends feat. Tomisin | @The.MillennialMum
May 17 • 63 min
Is having mom friends important? How do you find or make mom friends? Is there a difference between mom friends in real life versus social media? In this episode, my guest Tomi and I talk about mom friends: whether it’s necessary to have mom friends, the…
39. Heaven Baby/Life After Infant Loss feat. Lola Igunbor
May 8 • 61 min
Nobody ever imagines losing their child, let alone an infant. It is a soul-wrenching and heartbreaking situation for anyone to ever go through. In this episode, Lola Igunbor talks very candidly about losing her son Elijah at just two weeks old. Lola’s…
38. Balance and Time Management as a Busy Working Mom feat. Dr. Lola Day | @LollieTasker
May 1 • 43 min
Finding balance and learning how to manage time as a busy working mom can seem almost impossible. Sometimes I wonder whether I have fewer hours in the day than other mums who seem to accomplish so much! In this episode, Dr. Lola Day shares her time…
37. Stay At Home Mom with Purpose feat. Eziaha Bolaji-Olojo
Apr 24 • 55 min
If you are a working mother, have you ever wondered what being a stay-at-home-mom is like? Do you think that SAHMs lounge at home all day, with nothing to do? In this episode, Eziaha Bolaji-Ojo shares what being a stay at home mom with a purpose has been…
36. My High Risk Pregnancy - Incompetent Cervix and Bed Rest
Apr 14 • 33 min
In this episode I talk about my high risk pregnancy: sharing why it was categorized as high risk, being admitted to the hospital twice, and having to be on strict bed rest. Previous episodes you may be interested in: 3. What Not to Say to Someone who is…
35. “Only Girls?!” Societal Pressure to Have a Male Child feat. Chinyere Abang @YummyMumLife
Apr 7 • 24 min
“You need to try for a boy.” “Who will carry on the family name?” “If you don’t produce an heir, your husband will leave you.” “Your girls will marry one day and leave you… you need a boy.” If you’re African, chances are that you’ve heard any of the above…
34. Public Pregnancy Announcements
Mar 30 • 18 min
After trying to conceive for almost two years after I got married, and publicly talking about it on my YouTube channel and blog, it made perfect sense to me to announce my pregnancy when I finally got pregnant. Almost 3 years to the day, I publicly…
33. I Don’t Show My Child’s Face Online feat. Tomi Olatunde | @TheCuddleBlog
Mar 20 • 35 min
In today’s world where social media is king, millions of people have accounts on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter and an ever increasing number of social media platforms. People share photos of themselves, the things they eat, where they travel to and very…
32. Coronavirus Awareness feat. Dr. Ada Adejoro MD | @Ask_Dr_Ada
Mar 15 • 39 min
Coronavirus disease (COVID-19) is an infectious disease caused by a new virus that had not been previously identified in humans. The virus causes respiratory illness (like the flu) with symptoms such as a cough, fever and in more severe cases, pneumonia.…
31. Dealing with Divorce as an African Mum feat. Vera Ezimora | @verastic
Mar 13 • 60 min
Vera Ezimora is a vivacious content creator who is not one to shy away from having hard conversations. After writing all (and I mean EVERYTHING) that led to the end of her marriage, Vera was gracious enough to share what her thought process was like in…
30. How to Approach Someone Who is Trying to Conceive
Mar 6 • 25 min
In this episode I talked about what NOT to say to someone who is trying to conceive. In this episode, women who are TTC share their opinions and input on what CAN be said and how to approach or address the topic. It is not one-size-fits-all. Whereas some…
29. “Are You Pregnant?” 6 Reasons Why You Should Not Ask
Feb 14 • 20 min
Asking a woman if she’s pregnant, especially if you don’t know her on a deeply personal level, is a very intrusive and invasive question. It’s strange that in our society (Nigerian or African) that likes to keep things hush-hush, people think asking that…
28. Giving Birth Like The Hebrew Woman and Birthing Blissfully feat. Ibiene Warmann
Feb 7 • 40 min
Have you ever heard about giving birth like the Hebrew woman? Do you know the origin of the Hebrew Woman birth story? If you have had children or are currently pregnant, has anyone ever prayed that you give birth like the Hebrew woman? In this episode, I…
27. My Potty Training Experience So Far…
Jan 31 • 19 min
Potty training is NOT for the faint-hearted! In my opinion, it is mentally and physically exhausting trying to convince a toddler to “go potty.” From chasing them down to begging them to just sit on the potty for ten more seconds to cleaning up pee and…
26. Breastfeeding Myths Part 2 feat. Tomisin | The Millennial Mum Podcast
Jan 24 • 24 min
Bigger boobs equal more breast milk? A nursing mother cannot exclusively breastfeed after she goes back to work? In this episode, Tomisin and I continue our conversation around some breastfeeding myths we have heard and give our opinions and experiences…
25. Life as a Single Mother feat. Ebube N
Jan 17 • 57 min
Let’s face it - there’s a certain stigma attached to single mothers, particularly African women who are raising children on their own. From negative labels to turned-down noses, issues related to finances, time/flexibility, etc, an African single mother…
Mommy Oyoyo! (Trailer)
Jan 14 • 0 min
24. Getting My Tubes Tied feat. Kiki Makanjuola
Jan 10 • 42 min
What makes a woman decide to tie her tubes aka undergo a tubal ligation? Why does she decide to go that route as opposed to other methods of contraception like the use of condoms, birth control pills or implants, IUDs, or even having her partner get a…
23. 2019 in Review and 2020 Preview
Jan 3 • 13 min
In this first episode of 2020 I recap the last 6 months of the Mommy Oyoyo podcast (2019 in review) and share a preview of what I plan for 2020! —- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app
Announcement!
Dec 5, 2019 • 7 min
With 2019 drawing to a close, in readiness for 2020 and simply because this mummy is tired and overstretched, I will be taking a break for the month of December to relax, refresh, reset and rest! I wish all of you a happy and merry holiday season and a…
21. No Shout Parenting feat. Remi Makanjuola of @GraceToParent
Nov 27, 2019 • 45 min
“Shouting is a weapon not a tool” Remi Makanjuola. In this episode I speak with the founder of Grace to Parent about not shouting at children as a disciplinary or communication measure. Follow Grace to Parent @gracetoparent and visit the website at…
20. Mom Guilt and How to Get Over It
Nov 22, 2019 • 29 min
Mom Guilt is defined as the feeling of guilt, doubt, anxiousness or uncertainty experienced by mothers when they worry they’re failing or falling short of expectations in some way (source: Activekids.com) Every mother out there has felt mum guilt stemming…
19. Bedtime Routines and Co-sleeping feat. Kachi Tila-Adesina of Kacheetee Blog @kacheetee
Nov 15, 2019 • 27 min
Putting babies and little children to sleep can be stressful, mentally and physically draining. In this episode Kachi and I share what we’ve both done regarding bedtime routines with our children so far. Kachi does not mind co-sleeping and I prefer for my…
18. Growing Up African in America/Diaspora feat. Joy J. @adabob83
Nov 8, 2019 • 50 min
How do Africans raise children in the diaspora (America, UK, Europe, etc) while instilling traditional African values? In this episode I speak to Joy who was born and raised in America to very traditional Nigerian parents. Joy shares what growing up as a…
17. Raising A Biracial Child featuring Aisha O’Reilly of @AishaAndLife
Nov 1, 2019 • 42 min
“Mixed. Biracial. Half-caste. Black. White. Colored.” All these and other names can be and are used to refer to a person whose parents are of different races. The world is becoming increasingly diverse and the number of multiracial people around the world…
16. Mommy Oyoyo Spotlight on Tinuke of Mums And Tea
Oct 25, 2019 • 46 min
In this episode we have a chat with Tinuke, founder of Mums and Tea. Tinuke shares what going through the Vanishing Twin Syndrome was like - she miscarried a baby and successfully delivered his twin. She touches on things not to say to someone who is…
15. Your Child is Spoiled
Oct 18, 2019 • 26 min
Has anyone ever told you that your child spoiled? Have you ever said or thought that someone else’s child is spoiled? There could be a number of reasons why a child could be deemed a spoiled brat, and in this episode I share some of those behaviors,…
14. Post Delivery Hospital Visits
Oct 10, 2019 • 21 min
The birth of a child is wonderful thing and certainly cause for excitement and celebration! So much so that sometimes there is a long line of visitors who can’t wait for the new mother and baby to leave the hospital, and carry themselves to visit them in…
13. Baby Names. What’s in a Name?
Oct 3, 2019 • 27 min
A very important part of being a parent is naming your child or children. Some people have names picked out for their children way before they even start having children. Some others have divine inspiration for their children’s names. As Africans, there…
12. Living with Sickle Cell Disease featuring Isowa Odiase @isowarrior
Sep 29, 2019 • 68 min
September is Sickle Cell Awareness Month and in this episode we speak to Isowa, a sickle cell warrior and founder of IsoWarrior. Isowarrior is a foundation that helps to raise funds through various programs and initiatives, with the aim of creating…
11. Living with PCOS feat. Titi Oyebade
Sep 19, 2019 • 40 min
September is PCOS Awareness Month. Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome is a hormonal illness that affects about 10 million people in the world and is a leading cause of infertility. It is currently not curable but can be managed with medicine, nutrition and…
10. I Love My Children But…
Sep 11, 2019 • 24 min
Motherhood is wonderful… and tough! As much as we all wanted children, the truth there are some aspects of motherhood that aren’t so great or sweet. Whether it’s your children never giving you space or privacy, or being a single mother, we all have our…
9. Endometriosis and Trying To [Freaking] Conceive feat. Kunbi Odubogun of Perfete | TTF*C
Sep 1, 2019 • 56 min
In this episode, Kunbi Odubogun shares her story about her struggles with Endometriosis and Infertility. Endometriosis is a debilitating disease that is grossly under-reported by indigenous African women due to different factors including poor awareness,…
8: Homeschooling in Africa feat. Tomilola Olatunde | The Cuddle Blog
Aug 23, 2019 • 42 min
Homeschooling in Africa (in this episode, Nigeria specifically) is not the norm. Traditionally young children are either just kept at home without a learning structure or sent to creche/daycare/preschool. In this episode, we hear from Tomilola Olatunde…
7: My Breastfeeding Story | World Breastfeeding Week
Aug 7, 2019 • 26 min
World Breastfeeding Week is an annual celebration and campaign to foster and encourage breastfeeding across the world. The aim is to empower parents, enable breastfeeding. In today’s episode I share my personal experience and struggles with Breastfeeding.…
6: The Omugwo Experience
Jul 29, 2019 • 21 min
Omugwo is the Igbo word that describes the practice of when a woman’s mother or mother-in-law comes to help her out after she’s given birth. For a period of time, postpartum care is showered on the new mum and her child(ren) and it’s important to manage…
5: Not Your Typical African Father. Featuring special guest - Osi O.
Jul 18, 2019 • 39 min
The stereotypical African father is not very involved in raising his children. More often than not, the typical African man leaves the daily hands-on parenting activities to the children’s mother. In today’s episode I speak with Osi who’s not your typical…
4: Discipline and How Early is Too Early to Discipline a Child
Jul 12, 2019 • 17 min
Discipline is the act of training someone to obey rules and using punishment to correct disobedience. As Nigerians (or maybe Africans or black people at large) many of us were subjected to being spanked or flogged as part of discipline. These days though,…
3: What NOT to say to Someone Who is TTC (Trying to Conceive)
Jul 4, 2019 • 21 min
Why do a lot of Africans like to do amebo and give unsolicited advice? While trying to conceive, there are certain things that a woman or couple does not need to hear. In today’s episode I shared some of the comments that were thrown my way before I…
2: Children’s Birthday Parties
Jun 27, 2019 • 16 min
Africans like to party! From weddings to graduations to even kids birthday parties! I’m talking about renting event spaces, spending lots of money on food, decor, photography for a child’s birthday party. I’m of the “Small Birthday Parties” persuasion…
1: Introduction to Mommy Oyoyo
Jun 20, 2019 • 11 min
Welcome to the Mommy Oyoyo podcast. In this first episode, I introduce the podcast and explain where the idea came from, my hopes and expectations of Mommy Oyoyo and giving a voice to the African mother! —- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The…