40 Plus: Real Men. Real Talk.

40 Plus: Real Men. Real Talk.

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Real guys talking about guy stuff, without the fluff, with a little bit of vulnerability mixed in.


067: Erectile Dysfunction Doesn’t Make You Less Of A Man – Dr. Ron Gor
Apr 3 • 33 min
Most guys fear having a broken penis. It’s our lifeline to enjoyment, pleasure, and of course peeing. But how much of our issues with sexual function and our penis issues is in our heads vs. truly with the HARDware…no pun intended? Dr. Ron Gor, DO, joins…
066: 6 Steps for committing to show up fully in crisis – Rick Clemons
Mar 27 • 10 min
We all know where we are right now as a planet. In the midst of a global pandemic - COVID19. But, what is that calling us to do? What are we men being asked to commit to during this crisis? For each of us it varies, but in our own way we are being called…
065: How to tap into joy, gratitude, and connection – Murray Guest
Mar 20 • 40 min
What happens when you lose sight of joy, happiness, connection, and intent in your life? Us guys tend to keep a lot of that stuff on the surface and say, “I’m great, I’m fine,” when in reality we become disconnected and hold it all inside. Talking from…
064: Your Negativity Is Killing You – Rick Clemons
Mar 13 • 9 min
Ever found yourself stuck in the negativity? Like nothing does anything but pisses you off and makes you only experience the crappy side of life. Then you wonder why, why, why you feel so darn miserable. It’s because the negativity has got you by the…
063: When Opposites No Longer Attract – Michael Testa
Mar 6 • 20 min
There are those life moments when you realize, “This just isn’t working!” For some it’s when they realize, “I’m gay and I just gotta stop pretending to be straight.” For others, its “I’m killing myself trying to carry this team and I hate it.” Regardless…
062: Navigating The Possibility Of An Open Relationship – Rick Clemons
Feb 28 • 12 min
Relationships are not easy…right? Yet, sometimes relationships cause one or both partners to wander into the land of infidelity or lackluster connectedness. On the other hand, some relationships wander into the realm of an open relationship. All of these…
061: Building Your Destiny – Grant Baldwin
Feb 21 • 31 min
He went from being a youth pastor to a conversation with his Dad about his destiny, to now running a highly successful online business, all because he focused on building his destiny. Now he has a brand new book out, The Successful Speaker - 5 Steps For…
060: All YOU need is love…self-love – Rick Clemons
Feb 14 • 4 min
It’s Valentine’s Day. The day of either a lot of pressure, loads of love, or screw this who cares. Regardless of how you feel about Valentine’s Day, there’s one thing most men forget to do…LOVE THEMSELVES. I know you’ve heard this before but cut the crap…
059: I got nothing – Rick Clemons
Feb 7 • 5 min
I woke up this morning, chatting with a friend, and then she said, ” I got nothing!” She was referring to a time when she was doing a Facebook Live and she admitted to her viewers that she had nothing to say. I loved it. And you should too. You should…
058: Creating Killer Relationships With Your Partner – Chuck Chapman
Jan 31 • 21 min
Relationships are tough. Relationships are wonderful. Either way, as men we tend to get confused about what to do when the relationships get tough. We either let our egos screw everything up, clam up, or blow up, or give up. That’s not the best…
057: When The F*CK Did You Decide To Live In A Box? – Rick Clemons
Jan 24 • 7 min
Do you ever feel like are living in a box? Maybe it’s not a box of your own choosing? Yet, you are choosing. We all choose to get boxed in. Now it’s time to choose better. Get the F*CK out of that box and start living your life. Here’s some tips on using…
056: Un-structure Yourself For Success – Rick Clemons
Jan 17 • 7 min
Do you find yourself feeling penned in, marching to, to many drums, and never feeling free? Maybe it’s time to drop the structure and create your F*CK YEAH life. But you gotta UN-STRUCTURE in order to do that. Here’s the keys to un-structuring without…
055: Getting Radical Alignment With LIfe – Bob Gower
Jan 10 • 25 min
Imagine being married 3 times, and feeling on the verge of suicide, and then getting WOKE! Woke to your truth and become radically aligned to your truth about what you wanted for your life. You got specific, dumped the bullshit, set the boundaries that…
054: Set your year of intentions with three words – Rick Clemons
Jan 7 • 9 min
We’re well into the first full week of January, a new year, and by now, many resolutions are out the door. But what if you started with intentions and used three words to get you there. I believe intentions are the way to get there and my buddy Chris…
053: Create Your 2020 F*ck It List - Rick Clemons
Dec 31, 2019 • 13 min
It’s about to be 2020. Or it might already be 2020 by the time you listen to this podcast. Instead of resolutions, how about creating a F*CK IT List to live by this year. It’s simple, it’s genuine, it’s honest, and it can be real if you put your mind to…
052: Taking the walk of faith to leave your faith - Brian Gilbert
Dec 27, 2019 • 24 min
Faith. It’s something that guides us, gives us cause to take risks, and sometimes gets in the way of us being able to be who we are meant to be. Faith in ourselves, faith in the path, faith in our destiny. Especially when you realize that in order to come…
051: 12 Holiday Gifts Men Should Give Themselves – Rick Clemons
Dec 24, 2019 • 11 min
It’s Christmas Eve, or right in the middle of Hanukkah, but regardless of where you are or holiday you celebrate, how about giving yourself some really good, non-materialistic holiday gifts this holiday season. The kind of gifts that truly improve your…
050: Facing your Daddy issues head on - Rick Clemons
Dec 20, 2019 • 10 min
I’ve typically had an on again, off again relationship with my Father. It’s not easy and sometimes I feel like a real asshole because I don’t’ have a great relationship with him. Then I realized, it takes two to show up in the arena to play the Father/Son…
049: Accepting Our Changing Bodies - Elliott Kronenfeld
Dec 17, 2019 • 26 min
Guys just don’t want to admit our changing bodies. We continue to try to do the stuff we did in our 20’s, 30’s and wonder why our changing bodies won’t follow us into those places any longer. We become stubborn, ignore stuff, and before we know it, our…
048: Getting clarity in the crap of life - Mike Kim
Dec 13, 2019 • 28 min
What happens when you wake up and realize that your marriage isn’t working, but you don’t hate each other - and there is clarity. Then you realize you need to feel security, so you move back to family - and there is clarity. And finally, you begin to…
047: Why One Day is One Day To Long - Rick Clemons
Dec 10, 2019 • 11 min
You done a lot of things in your life. Military, been a DJ, worked in corporate America, husband, father, and then that tickle begins. You’re being called to step out of the comfort zone and do what you are called to do - be an entrepreneur in your own…
046: Becoming A Midlife Entrepreneur - Erick Rheam
Dec 6, 2019 • 27 min
You done a lot of things in your life. Military, been a DJ, worked in corporate America, husband, father, and then that tickle begins. You’re being called to step out of the comfort zone and do what you are called to do - be an entrepreneur in your own…
045: Why men should invite their toddler out to play - Rick Clemons
Dec 3, 2019 • 7 min
The holidays can be a really grind or a real blast. Either way, you’re going to probably find yourself feeling overwhelmed, tired, exhausted, and wondering how the year can already be coming to an end. This is a great time to invited your toddler self out…
044: Becoming a Self-Reliant Man & Entrepreneur - John Jantsch
Nov 29, 2019 • 21 min
Men have been innately raised from childhood to be self-reliant. Do it yourself. Man up. Don’t ask for help. Yet, one of the biggest downfalls of men is that we often are too self-reliant and we don’t let others in and end up becoming isolated. My friend,…
043: Avoiding the Holiday S*it Show - Rick Clemons
Nov 26, 2019 • 7 min
The holiday season is upon us. If you’re in the good old USA, Thanksgiving is just two days away, and poof then it will be Black Friday. Of course, if you really want to be obnoxious you will be out shopping on Thanksgiving Day, but that’s a whole other…
042: Being Your Badass Self - Lou Bortone
Nov 22, 2019 • 18 min
He went from introvert to being his own version of a badass. So what caused the change? He realized that being fully expressed was more important than hiding behind a shadow of pleasing everyone else, just to not attract attention. Lou Bortone, the…
041: He Said, She Said – Jackie MacDougall
Nov 19, 2019 • 45 min
He said, she said. It’s a part of life, and a part of this podcast as my sister - Jackie MacDougall - from another show - Forty Thrive - joins me in a true “He said, she said” moment. Well actually more than a few moments as we compare notes about what…
Why being a PREP whore is a good thing - Damon L. Jacobs
Nov 15, 2019 • 27 min
He’s a WHORE, for PREP. A wonderful human offering responsible education about the use of PREP to prevent transmission of the HIV virus. He’s not afraid to talk about it, the use of it, nor to talk about why he uses it. He’s owning his sexual truth,…
How to align your heart and your art - Rick Clemons
Nov 12, 2019 • 6 min
Sometimes stuff just falls out of your mouth and they you think, “Boy that was some pretty profound shit I just said!” Ever felt that? Well I did, just the other day while coaching a client. I said “If your heart’s not there, then your art’s not there!”…
How to create connection with your emotions - Alan Cohen
Nov 7, 2019 • 23 min
We’re all emotional beings. Except as men we’re told not to show our emotions and then we wonder why we lack connection. What a bunch of bullshit. When we bottle up our emotions we can not connect, we men suddenly become ticking time bombs and then like a…
The truth about being openly… - Rick Clemons
Nov 5, 2019 • 7 min
There’s a phrase used in the gay community, “openly gay.” It’s always bugged me a little bit. Why should anyone have to be “openly” anything…except who they are. I’m exploring this thought on today’s solo podcast of life would look like for a guy to be…
Age is all in your heads boys - Matt Marr
Nov 1, 2019 • 28 min
Aging isn’t a disease it’s a reality and if you don’t feel it you can’t heal it, or at least that’s what therapist, actor, and podcast show host Matt Marr says. He’s the one person who can tell it like it is better than I can and when we get together…
Keeping it real - Shane Mallory
Oct 29, 2019 • 21 min
Most of ust guys have a hard time keeping it real with ourselves, let alone others. We put on these costumes of manhood and pound our chests and that’s supposedly our real self. We’re calling bull shit and keeping it real with my buddy from down under,…
Making Multigenerational Work Environments Work - Adam Lippin
Oct 25, 2019 • 19 min
Imagine you own a business, or for that matter work in a business, and you are the oldest guy in the group. You try to figure out how to relate to the Gen Z’s and Millennials but it is a constant struggle. And, while that’s all happening, you want to…
Dumping the excess weight - physical and otherwise - that’s killing you! -David Conley
Oct 22, 2019 • 25 min
You’re too fat. You’re tired of being called stocky when what people are really saying under their breath is your fat. It’s all about the extra weight you are carrying, but it’s not just the physical weight, it’s about everything else that is killing you…
Let’s get real about happiness - Rick Clemons
Oct 18, 2019 • 12 min
I’m so happy. Everything is great. Nothing could be better. Really? Or, are you just blowing happiness smoke up your ass just to make yourself feel better and to make other believe that your life is filled with happiness, happiness, happiness. Don’t get…
Why some guys initiate divorce – Stephen Warley
Oct 15, 2019 • 25 min
Did you know that only 30% of men ask for divorce? And when they do, it’s like they’ve committed the ultimate sin. So what happens when you’re a guy, who realizes it is just not working for you and it’s time to say “I love you but, I can’t be with you!”…
Why Every Guy Has A Coming Out Journey - Rick Clemons
Oct 11, 2019 • 9 min
Hey guys. Hate to say it but you need to come out of the closet. No, I’m not accusing you of being gay or bi-. Don’t make that assumption. Nor am I saying that if you are gay or bi- that you aren’t already out of the closet, even though some of you might…
Why One Thing Changes Everything - Rick Clemons
Oct 8, 2019 • 9 min
Focus. Focus. Focus. You ever heard that or been told that? Of course you have. But sometimes us guys just don’t want to listen to that advice. Yet, when we focus, especially on the ONE THING that we most desire, a majority of the time we get what we…
Embracing and Loving Your Self-Image - Darren Main
Oct 4, 2019 • 23 min
It all starts with that very first, “You’re a dork,” or “Be a man,’ and from then on we as men question the image of who we are in our own minds. Struggling day-in and day-out to embrace and love ourselves, often doing more damage than good to our…
Why a guy needs a break - no guilt necessary - Jim Kukral
Oct 1, 2019 • 21 min
We all have a lot on our shoulders. But what happens when you’re the primary breadwinner? Does that weight eat at ya? Make you nervous? Or does it pump you up because, he that’s what mean are supposed do is carry the load. Take the stress off and give…
Fitness, Knitting & Being a Man - Jon Giswold
Sep 27, 2019 • 31 min
What happens when your life suddenly takes a detour, your career as a boutique fashion designer suddenly comes to a halt, and you wander into a fitness studio at the suggestion of the owner of the studio? Probably not what you thought, but then suddenly…
What manhood really means! - Ryan Sallans
Sep 24, 2019 • 24 min
What defines a man? Ever asked yourself, or been asked that question? The answers are as varied as there are men, yet when we step back, most of us guys have more in common in our definition than we have differences. Yet manhood becomes a whole different…
Just because life hands you lemons, don’t be a dead beat Dad - Steve Bates
Sep 20, 2019 • 19 min
Divorce isn’t easy for anyone, but it doesn’t mean if you can’t hack it, that you need to become a deadbeat Dad. Yet, society sure likes to assume that a lot of Dads are deadbeat Dads, but that’s not necessarily always the case. In fact, most Dads going…
The Importance of Male Sexual Health - Dr. Dudley Danoff
Sep 17, 2019 • 28 min
We guys, most of us, sure love our penis and using it. Sex, getting off, or cutting loose with a good stream of pee just seem to be so manly. Yet, one of the things most men do is take their sexual health for granted. Sure we will use condoms…from…
Embracing The Second Half of Life - Salvatore Sapienza
Sep 13, 2019 • 19 min
If you’re hating on your mid-life, then no wonder you could be in a crisis. On the other hand, you could be writing and publishing your first book, finding your calling that was so far removed from what you thought, and then finding out that your second…
Life Choices & Learning To Appreciate Them - Josh Packard Ph. D.
Sep 10, 2019 • 26 min
There are those moments in life, when you reach the crossroads. You stand there wondering which way to go, and you make your life choice. Then, you wonder, “What might have happened if you had chosen differently?” Even if you don’t regret your choice, you…
Stop and push the Pause Button – Darren Tipton
Sep 6, 2019 • 18 min
You’re a guy who’s found your passion. You pursue it with a loving vengeance. You feel alive and on a roll. Then that roll leads you to realize, “If I don’t chill pill, push the pause button, and step back from life, I’m going to die!” Ever felt that way?…
Dump The Pressure Of Others - Rick Clemons
Aug 30, 2019 • 10 min
We’re all under pressure. Crazy, fast-paced pressures of life. Yet, most of us play into this pressure because of some thing that someone else says we should do. It’s rare the pressure we feel or participate in comes from our own internal making. Every…
Why Men’s Work Ain’t no Circle Jerk – Andrew Newman
Aug 23, 2019 • 21 min
Men are more rapidly than ever flocking to men’s work, and we aren’t talking about men working out. They’re going to places where they can feel safe about being vulnerable and able to be open about what they are feeling. But does it work? Andrew Newman,…
Venturing Back To Corporate Life Does Not Mean You Failed - Phil Gerbyshak
Aug 16, 2019 • 18 min
So what do you do when everything is going well in your business, you seem to be on top of the world, and then suddenly everything flips 36o degrees the other direction. You step up to the plate and do something that you didn’t think you would ever do…
Depression isn’t and shouldn’t be a shameful prison – Chris Brogan
Aug 9, 2019 • 22 min
I admit it. I suffer from depression. I also take my little one pill a day to keep it at bay…no shame whatsoever. Then there’s my buddy Chris Brogan. A guy who’s written NY Times Bestsellers, talked in front of 100’s of people, talks marketing, startups,…
Birthday Message - Doing Stuff From Your Soul - Rick Clemons
Aug 2, 2019 • 10 min
Not going to go all sappy on ya, nor am I looking for a ton of birthday wishes, and I’m not needing your sympathy. Now that we’ve got all that out of the way, I’m talking from my soul today, because I’m turning 56 in a couple of days, I had a big life…
Weathering The Storms of Life – Mark Asquith
Jul 26, 2019 • 17 min
We all have storms in life. Crazy making storms. Some that we call the S*it Storms of life. As a guy 40 Plus, we can find ourselves right in the midst of a bunch of these storms, pulling our hair out, if we even have any hair left, or managing through…
Internalized Homophobia and all that Jazz – Seth Vermilyea
Jul 19, 2019 • 19 min
Sometimes you get slapped upside the face with your stuff and you didn’t really realize it was sitting there in the corner of your mind just waiting to hit ya! Those things that you’re like, “No, no, no, no, no. This is not me, this not how I am supposed…
Yeah that mind is meant to be mindful! – Will Schneider
Jul 12, 2019 • 22 min
Ok, I’m going to be honest. I met him on an island in Bermuda. I was drawn to him. I saw things in him that I wanted. And, no I wasn’t some gay guy crushing on a handsome straight guy…well maybe a little. Truth is, I was drawn to his mindfulness and…
Making Space For Men To Be Men - Rick Clemons
Jul 5, 2019 • 8 min
There are amazing things you learn when you get a group of men together to be vulnerable. They are either one, upping each other, or being very tight lipped about what they really want to be saying. It’s how we’ve been conditioned as men. But what happens…
Kindness and the Masculinity Factor – Rocco Cozza
Jun 28, 2019 • 16 min
He’s a Jersey boy, an attorney, and built pretty much like a tank. First thoughts? He’s an Alpha Male. In reality he does have a book with alpha in the name and he’s also a kindness kind of guy that makes you go, “WHOA!”. So, don’t judge this book by it’s…
Just because you’ve got wisdom doesn’t make you old! – Brad Montgomery
Jun 21, 2019 • 17 min
“I look up to you because you are older and wiser! You have so much wisdom.” Ok! God, I feel old now. Or you could say, “Wow what a compliment!” Depending on perspective, some of us guys take that as a kick in the gut, and others of us take it as a badge…
Gay, Black, White, Interracial Couple, and an Ex-pastor. Oh my! – Joel Barrett and David Seymour
Jun 14, 2019 • 20 min
Man #1 - He was married to a woman. Was a pastor. Then decided he could no longer, NOT live his truth as a gay man. Man #2 – He was black, gay, and ready to mate. Then they met and the magic began. When it seems all the cards are stacked against you…
Get A Grip. Aging is just part of the equation! – Chris Guillebeau
Jun 7, 2019 • 15 min
God I can’t believe I’m aging and turning 30, 40, 50, 100! Yeah it happens guys and I know you know that is true, but what happens when it hits you like a ton of bricks? I know, because I’ve experienced it and it wasn’t pretty. Nor was it pretty for my…
Men of Respect, RESPECT – Mike Domitriz
May 31, 2019 • 14 min
Aretha Franklin, just reading the word RESPECT, will start getting you all sassy in your heads. Some of you even started singing it out loud with the queen of soul. So why you are talking trash, not giving yourself and others the R-E-S-P-E-C-T that’s…
Taking Ownership When You Screw Up – Gerson Sternstein
May 24, 2019 • 19 min
Let’s be honest. Being honest is tough for us guys. Then add admitting we’re wrong to the mix, or that we’re a screw up, and that brings on a whole other set of masculinity pushback that we guys just aren’t good at doing. Now imagine you get called out in…
Spirituality Is Such A Guy Thing – Chris Tompkins
May 17, 2019 • 20 min
Yes, real men (whatever that means) get spirituality. It’s not some woo-woo, out of this world thing. It’s at the core of who you are as a man. Don’t’ believe me? Fine. Not going to twist your arm, but it is true. Spirituality makes the man. Joining me to…
Divorcing with Dignity – Leo Cardenas
May 17, 2019 • 19 min
I plan to get divorced, said no guy, as he stands at the alter getting married. Yet, it happens and how we get through it is a very individual experience. This is a real. Raw, honest chat about divorce, with a guy who’s dove into the trenches of being a…
How You, As A Man, Can Stop Shaming Men and Vulnerability
May 17, 2019 • 11 min
Admit it. We’ve all been shamed as men for our vulnerability and it has nothing to do with Brene’ Brown and her work around shame and vulnerability. For most of us men, we shame each other from being vulnerable. That crap needs to stop. It’s not healthy,…
Why Guys 40 Plus Need This Podcast
May 17, 2019 • 11 min
I’m a 40 Plus Guy. A dad. A small business owner. A friend. A mentor. A lot of, of lot of things, like most people. I’m also a guy that wants to connect with guys, guy-to-guy on a deeper level, to make me a better man and hopefully help other guys do the…
40 Plus: Real Men. Real Talk. - Trailer
May 15, 2019 • 1 min
40 Plus: Real Men. Real Talk. is a short-format (10 - 15 minutes per episode) podcast where real guys talk about real guy stuff for men over 40.It’s a shame free environment, where anything goes, including the B.S. masculinity stuff, which gets checked at…