Not Overthinking

Not Overthinking

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The weekly podcast about happiness, creativity, and the human condition.


External appearances vs internal experiences
Dec 8 • 50 min
In this episode we talk about the external appearances of different lifestyles and how they differ from the internal experience of living them. We also dig into Ali’s mindset when it comes to YouTube and business, and whether it’s best to always be…
Inner Rings - The Desire to Fit In
Nov 30 • 52 min
In this episode, we discuss our desire to fit in, to be part of the ‘cool kids’ group, to be part of what CS Lewis calls “The Inner Ring”. We share some instances in our own life when we’ve succumbed to this desire, and discuss whether it’s ever…
Intentional Socialising
Nov 17 • 55 min
In this episode we talk about how we socialise — the different types of social events we take part in, and how we take part in them. We talk about how we, for the most part, leave our social life down to chance, and we try and find ways to be more…
Being Weird
Nov 10 • 46 min
In this episode we talk about ‘being weird’. We explore the merits of being weird, the different ways in which people can be weird, and some of our personal experiences.
Conflict and Communication - The Roommate Relationship ft. Molly
Nov 3 • 59 min
In this episode, Taimur acts as a relationship therapist and digs into the (strictly platonic, for the record) relationship between Ali and his roommate Molly. We discuss our feelings about living with one another, things about Ali that wind Molly up,…
Treating your personal life like a business
Oct 20 • 45 min
In this episode we talk about a new theory of Taimur’s — that we should treat our personal lives more like businesses, and treat our businesses more personally. We explore two aspects of “business thinking” in particular — valuing time + comparing options…
Small Talk & Social Awkwardness
Oct 13 • 43 min
In this episode, Ali tells us about a party(!) he recently attended, and how he approached the social interactions there. We talk about how we approach conversations with new people, whether it’s okay to talk about “work” at social events, and, of course,…
Book Discussion: “The Magic of Thinking Big”
Sep 29 • 48 min
In this episode, we try a brand new format! We go through Ali’s Kindle highlights, from 4 years ago, from the book “The Magic of Thinking Big”. We end up talking about mental restraints, making good conversation, setting goals, and a smattering of other…
Will a new iPhone make us happier?
Sep 22 • 54 min
In this episode, we try to formulate an algorithm for buying new tech. We try to figure out when it’s worth upgrading our iPhones, and how to think about new purchases in terms of their contribution to our overall happiness. We come up with several new…
Invisible Shackles & Life Scripts
Sep 14 • 48 min
As we grow, we’re subconsciously exposed to various ‘life scripts’ that can have a profound effect on the way we lead our lives, without any conscious control on our own part. In this episode, we discuss some of the invisible shackles that bind us, and…
What do we want from this podcast?
Sep 8 • 39 min
In this episode, we reflect on what we’ve been doing for the past 6 months with this podcast. We talk about why we took a break last week, whether we should have an episode every week vs every 2 weeks, and how we should judge the quality of our episodes.
What’s it like to be internet-famous? Ft. Sara Dietschy
Aug 25 • 49 min
This week we’re joined by a very special guest — Sara Dietschy, tech and creativity Youtuber and podcaster (links in the full show notes). In this episode, Taimur interviews Sara and Ali about being “internet famous” and how they feel about it — getting…
Is being negative ever acceptable?
Aug 18 • 36 min
In this episode, we discuss whether negativity is ever okay. Taimur discusses why he didn’t like an Ed Sheeran concert we attended, and we try and figure out whether expressing negative views about stuff / complaining about stuff is ever justified, and if…
Birds, Supersonic Jets, Internet Businesses and Trophy Hunting
Aug 11 • 68 min
Taimur and Ali feature as guests on the Episode Party podcast. Along with hosts Jack and Freddie, we discuss an episode of (1) The Casual Birder, (2) Indie Hackers, (3) Should This Exist, and (4) Radiolab. We share our thoughts on each of these episodes,…
How do we make friends?
Aug 4 • 46 min
In this episode, we discuss the various strategies we use to make friends. We start at primary school (aged 4) and examine how our tactics for making friends changed over time to the present day. We lament the difficulty of making friends and of showing…
Procrastination, Money-making, Rejection etc - Answering your Questions
Jul 28 • 25 min
This episode is a Life Advice Q&A that Taimur and Ali did as part of Ali’s 300,000 YouTube subscriber milestone video. We answer questions about startups, procrastination, motivation, productivity, money-making, rejection, investments, imposter syndrome…
Startups, Coding and Making Money Online - An Interview with Taimur
Jul 21 • 39 min
In this episode, Ali interviews Taimur about his life. We discuss how he learned to code, how he made money online by selling psychic readings, and how he uses Twitter to explore fame and fortune.
How should we give advice?
Jul 14 • 46 min
In this episode we talk about whether we should give advice to others, and if so, how to go about it. Do we have a moral imperative to offer advice to our friends if we think they’re doing the wrong thing? Or should we simply ‘let it be’?
Is ambition a virtue?
Jul 7 • 33 min
In this episode, we tackle the issue of ambition. What does it mean to be ambitious? Why do so many of us look for ‘ambition’ in a spouse? Why are some activities considered inherently more ‘ambitious’ than others?
Why do we seek permission?
Jun 30 • 38 min
In this episode, we address a question from a listener. She wants to become a content creator but is concerned that because she isn’t ‘qualified’, no one will care what she has to say. This turns into a discussion about how society is wired to implicitly…
Ali’s Journey on YouTube [Inbetweenasode]
Jun 23 • 50 min
This ‘inbetweenasode’ is an interview that Ali did on the Social Colours podcast: ‘Journey of a Creator’. They talk about how he got started with YouTube, the strategy behind growing his channel, and his inspirations along the way. They also share some…
What does it mean to be authentic?
Jun 16 • 58 min
This week we talk about authenticity — ”keeping it real”. Taimur tries, with difficulty, to explain why he thinks there’s something deeper to authenticity than what everyone already knows and feels: that it’s nice to have authentic interactions with other…
How to deal with Rejection
Jun 9 • 36 min
This week we talk about rejection. We dig into a rejection that Taimur recently faced, and then explore the various rejections we’ve both faced in our lives — how we felt about them, what we took from them, and how we can improve the way we handle…
How much of our behaviour is status-seeking?
Jun 2 • 46 min
In this episode, we discuss the concept of social status, and wonder to what extent the signalling of status contributes to our own behaviours. We talk about how our schoolboy days were defined by status games, and think about how we might work to…
How can we get into the habit of reading?
May 26 • 37 min
This week we discuss the challenges of developing a reading habit. Taimur shares his struggles with starting books and never finishing them, lamenting the small role of reading in his life. Ali offers some advice on how to read more regularly, and we…
Why do we struggle with motivation?
May 19 • 38 min
This episode is all about motivation. We start by introducing our ideal state of ‘motivation is a myth’ and the idea that discipline is all we *should* need to get stuff done. But then having recognised this, we spend the rest of the episode discussing…
What makes an awkward silence?
May 12 • 50 min
In this episode, we talk about awkward silences, why we think they happen, how we can stop them happening and whether we should stop them happening at all. We try and understand why we’re more comfortable with some people than others, and why car journeys…
Time management, motivation, productivity etc [Inbetweenasode]
May 5 • 23 min
In this Inbetweenasode, Ali answers various questions relating to motivation, productivity, time management and that sort of stuff. It’s a bit cheeky because we didn’t record a proper episode, but given the need for consistency, we thought we’d repurpose…
How should we take advice?
Apr 28 • 32 min
We all love getting advice from our audience, our mentors, our seniors, our listeners. In this episode, we discuss some of the feedback we’ve got about the podcast so far and wonder to what extent we should change things up based on advice. We then…
Why do we love our jobs?
Apr 21 • 40 min
This is the first episode that features a guest! Paul Tern, a Cambridge-grad junior doctor who works in London, joins the discussion about why we love our jobs. We start off with some meandering around the history of the ‘I want to enjoy my job’…
Why should you invest in a good kitchen bin?
Apr 14 • 42 min
In this episode, we explore “Measure” — a mental model for spending time and money more effectively. Based on this framework, we conclude that everyone should get a good kitchen bin and a voice coach, and that Ali probably shouldn’t get a Tesla.
Why do we struggle with consistency?
Apr 7 • 37 min
In this episode we discuss how consistency in almost every domain is a super power, and come to a few conclusions about what helps us be more consistent with things like morning routines, gym workouts and writing practices.
Why do we hate networking events?
Mar 31 • 50 min
In this episode, we discuss why we hate networking events but love group holidays, and we try and figure out how to better connect with our fellow human beings.
Why are we scared to put ourselves out there?
Mar 24 • 43 min
In this episode, we discuss why we were (once) scared to put ourselves out there and how we overcame that fear. Send us your thoughts — [email protected]!
Why do we like to be correct?
Mar 16 • 40 min
In this pilot episode of Not Overthinking, we discuss our reasons for starting the podcast, and then have a chat about why we feel the urge to be correct in everyday conversation.