Human Up

Human Up

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An emotionally-stunted dude’s exploration of what it means to be emotionally intelligent. Raised between Asian and American culture, and in the tech world, where mental and emotional health was not prioritized enough, this nerd aims to demystify what it means to not only be a man, but a human. As society progresses faster than humans were meant to keep up with, how do we adapt to an ever-changing world while strengthening our brittle emotions for resiliency? Human Up plans to collect the tools, stories, and practical applications to help us navigate through the modern, technological age. Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/victorung/support


Emotional Intelligence in Schools and Intuitive Body Work with Wendy Horng Brawer
Jun 24 • 48 min
When I reflect upon my upbringing in my early education, I realize how much I’ve been lacking in the skills to manage my own emotions and to communicate that with the other kids around me. I wasn’t taught how to be social and emotional and while I learned…
I’ve Been Trying so Hard to be Someone That I Forgot to be Myself
Jun 17 • 12 min
I guess you could say I’ve had an epiphany, or an ‘aha’ moment in learning to accept myself. I’ve realized that all throughout my life, I was always trying to be someone else. I would look up to those successful entrepreneurs, or famous celebrities, or…
Where Are the Men of Color in the Wellness Industry? (with Mike Sagun)
Jun 10 • 63 min
Growing up, prioritizing my mental health was not something I explored with anyone. Our family rarely addressed our emotions. Sh*t would happen and we would all go to our respective corners of the house and either distract ourselves with other things or…
How Emotional Intelligence Provides Space for Genuine Attraction with Ed Baxter
Jun 3 • 50 min
After embarking on this journey to improve my own emotional intelligence, I’ve found that the lack thereof not only resulted in stagnation within my career, but in my romantic relationships as well. I didn’t know myself, I didn’t know what values to…
A Clarity Coaching Session with William Kelley
May 20 • 59 min
When we lack direction and purpose, we lose all meaning in what we do and why we do it. Without our own sense of direction, we’re also that much more susceptible to other people’s influence. Finding clarity in how you want your future life to look like…
You Don’t Have to Do It Alone
May 8 • 16 min
Have you’ve heard of the Lone Wolf mentality? Being the oldest of the first-generation of kids from an immigrant family, I took on a lot of the pressure and responsibility to perform and to be independent. I found pride in my own ability to take care of…
(1 year later) An Update On My Quarter-life Crisis
Apr 29 • 16 min
A year ago, I uploaded a video proclaiming that I am going through my own quarter-life crisis. Since then I’ve connected with so many others going through something similar of their own and learning so much about people, humanity, and life, but most…
What They Didn’t Tell You About Happiness
Apr 22 • 13 min
Have you heard of the happiness equation? Happiness = reality - expectations. My logical mind loved this simple formula to follow in order to be happy! But what this did was contain me to a certain standard of what my reality was. I assumed that that was…
Over-doing vs Over-thinking
Apr 17 • 21 min
When we find ourselves stuck in life it’s usually because we either have been doing too much without thought, finding ourselves all of a sudden somewhere we don’t like to be, or because we keep going in circles over-thinking our next steps, mostly out of…
Find Direction by Slowing Down
Apr 8 • 24 min
Slow down for a minute. There’s a rush that so many of us feel like we have to chase. It’s face-paced and we praise it. We have to get somewhere as fast as possible, get promoted in the shortest number of years, find the perfect partner after just a…
What Do You Love?
Apr 1 • 15 min
I found this song, “What Do You Love” by Seeb ft Jacob Banks, and it was one of those moments where the lyrics feel like they’re speaking right to you. It made me think about, what it is I do love, which helped me feel better about the direction I’m…
Using the Negative Emotion Typology (with friends!)
Mar 25 • 34 min
One of my good friends decided he was tired of being angry at his coworker for no reason and took it upon himself to figure out why. He literally Googled, “What is annoyance” and found an awesome tool, the Negative Emotion Typology. It lists out the major…
The First Step to Increasing Emotional Intelligence
Mar 19 • 14 min
Being the emotional beings we are, it’s impossible to absolutely control what we feel, but we do have some control over how we emote them. The first step to gaining that control back is to define what we’re feeling. If you are aware of the factors that…
So This is a Quarter Life Crisis Huh?
Mar 11 • 12 min
I never thought I would get to this point. Everything seemed fine, was going great, I genuinely enjoyed what I was doing with my life. But something shifted where I realized that what I was enjoying really was complacency, disguised as comfort. I was…
I’m Tired of Holding Myself Back
Mar 4 • 18 min
Whether we know it or not, our environments have a huge impact on ourselves, but the less believed perspective is that we have a huge impact on our environments as well. It sounds like common sense, but it’s not common knowledge, that we do have more…
Why Human Up?
Feb 25 • 10 min
As a kid, I was told to “man up” many times. I heard people say this to the boys around me, sometimes even some girls. As innocent as their intentions were, what this did was confuse me. What did that mean exactly? So rather than telling others to “man…
What Emotional Intelligence Means to Me
Feb 25 • 21 min
I talk about my journey in learning to become more emotionally intelligent after growing up in environments that didn’t give me the safe space to express my thoughts and emotions. I didn’t develop enough confidence in myself to create that space on my own…