Polyvagal Podcast

Polyvagal Podcast

www.justinlmft.com
Understanding & Applying the Science of Connection


Open Letter 4 / You Are Not Who You Think You Are
Dec 10 • 10 min
You can own all 10 of my Open Letters! $20 gets you over 90 minutes worth of Open Letters from Justin as well as the PDF for each one. https://www.justinlmft.com/openletters
Is That Self Care?
Dec 5 • 18 min
Prompted by a question about parenting from a listener. Turned into an interesting question about self care - what it is and what it isn’t. Does it have to be alone? Does it have to be without your kids present? More Polyvagal…
Safety vs Protection
Dec 3 • 29 min
Protection is something we settle for. Safety is something we deserve. And more! Open Letters / Stack 1 - https://www.justinlmft.com/openletters Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats
Empathy vs Compassion
Nov 26 • 30 min
In episode 15, Dr Porges himself differentiated between empathy and compassion. We’ve mentioned this numerous times since then. We examine the difference between the two in this episode. More Polyvagal Podcast content for $5/mo -…
Polyvagal Ladder Audio Guide
Nov 21 • 13 min
An audio clip originally from an Instagram Live we did. Join us every Sunday at 915pm PST on Instagram Live! Download the Polyvagal Ladder guide here - https://www.justinlmft.com/fileshare There is also MORE Polyvagal Podcast content for $5…
Curiosity vs Evaluation
Nov 19 • 30 min
We’ve mentioned the difference between curiosity and evaluation a few times on the podcast before. In this episode, we drill down further than ever in search of a deeper understanding. Mercedes opens with curiosity and Justin closed with…
Irene Lyon Interview p2
Nov 12 • 61 min
Part 2 of my chat with Irene Lyon! IRENE Website - https://irenelyon.com/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/irenelyon/ YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCBkXgr0E9ZWUg4iSDEUKqVA Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/lyonirene Twitter -…
Irene Lyon Interview p1
Nov 5 • 59 min
Show notes are available at https://www.justinlmft.com/post/irenelyon Links are to Amazon, where I get a portion of the sale at no extra cost to you. Gabor Mate, When The Body Says No - https://amzn.to/2VNe0Q3 Peter Levine, Trauma Through a…
Are You an Introvert… or in Shutdown?
Oct 31 • 12 min
Another excellent question from a fellow Trauma Nerd - are shutdown and introversion the same thing? We don’t have a crystal clear answer on that, but we’ve got an interesting discussion on it. We’d love to hear what you think - send an…
Jealousy vs Insecurity - Same Thing?
Oct 29 • 27 min
We look at jealousy and insecurity - how are they connected? Are they actually the same thing? And how do they tie into the Polyvagal Theory? Our response to a listener question. If you’re new to the Polyvagal Theory, definitely…
Stuck in Shutdown - Stop Fighting It!
Oct 24 • 22 min
If you’re stuck in shutdown, you’re definitely not alone. Getting out of shut down and back up the polyvagal ladder might require less fighting than you think. More Polyvagal Podcast content for $5/mo - https://www.justinlmft.com/members Mugs…
Workplace Environment, Culture & the Polyvagal Theory
Oct 22 • 28 min
We already know that the environments we spend time in are filled with cues of danger and safety. The workplace is no different. But what about how our coworkers, the work culture and work hierarchies? Justin & Mercedes take a…
Take Ownership Over Your State
Oct 17 • 12 min
The work isn’t done FOR us or TO us. It’s on us though. Get even more Polyvagal Podcast content, including the rest of this livestream, for $5 a month here - justinlmft.com/members
Jill Miller: Yoga & the Polyvagal Theory part 2
Oct 15 • 42 min
More in depth show notes are available here - https://www.justinlmft.com/post/jillmiller Check out the Coregous Ball for yourself here - …
Jill Miller: Yoga & the Polyvagal Theory part 1
Oct 8 • 41 min
More in depth show notes are available here - https://www.justinlmft.com/jillmiller Check out the Coregous Ball for yourself here - …
Stop Asking “Why?” & What Your Eyebrows Are Saying
Oct 1 • 35 min
We talk in depth about why it’s not necessarily helpful to ask “why” to someone you’re listening to. We also talk about eyes and eyebrows when it comes to communication and what you may be signaling. PLUS we talk about the fact that you…
Trauma Bonding & the Polyvagal Theory
Sep 26 • 11 min
If you need even more Polyvagal Podcast content, we got it for you! https://www.justinlmft.com/members Contact either of us at - https://www.justinlmft.com/contact
9 Ways You ARE Listening
Sep 24 • 24 min
You really try to understand me, even if I’m not making much sense. You grasp my point of view, even when it’s against your own sincere convictions. You realize the hour I took from you has left you a bit tired and a bit drained. You allow me the…
The 4 Parenting Love Tips Apply to Teens Too
Sep 19 • 12 min
We look back on the 4 ways to express love that your child will experience as love and apply it to teens. Yes, they need your love too! the 4 Ways to Express Love episode - https://www.justinlmft.com/post/episode27 More Polyvagal Podcast content for…
7 Ways You Are NOT Listening
Sep 17 • 21 min
7 ways that you are not listening: You say you understand. You say you have an answer before you’ve heard the problem. You cut someone off before they finish speaking. You finish someone’s sentences. You’re dying to tell me something while I am…
“Safe & Social” Song by Miles Irving & Forager, Ltd.
Sep 5 • 11 min
Watch the “Safe & Social” music video in all of its incredibleness and also check out Miles and all of his incredibleness. And please check out FORAGER & listen to the World Wild Podcast! For only $5 a month you can get more Polyvagal Podcast audio…
Consequence Fundamentals for Parents
Sep 3 • 31 min
All about consequences in this episode: Why they are important When they mean nothing Positive consequences vs gift/reward/bribe Natural consequences Your homework assignment - Plan out your consequence structure and discuss with everyone that needs to be…
Deb Dana Interview: Story Follows State, Climbing the Ladder and Diagnosing
Aug 27 • 53 min
Deb Dana - one third of my Polyvagal Trinity. Deb Dana is called “the Pied Piper of the Polyvagal Theory,” and honestly someone I want to be like when I grow up. She does the stuff I do, but better and first. I gotta be honest. We talk in depth about:…
You Are Not Your Diagnosis
Aug 22 • 12 min
You’re not you’re diagnosis. It’s a label - a shorthand system for professionals to use - to collect “symptoms” that typically occur together. It makes communication among therapists, psychologists and psychiatrists easier. And that’s the point of…
4 Ways to Express Love That Your Kids will Experience as Love
Aug 20 • 31 min
We go in depth into each of these four ways to express love. It’s not enough to just love your kiddos, you also need to express it. And express it in ways they will be able to get. 1. Say it out loud 2. Write it down 3. Physical affection 4. Play DETAILED…
Parental Anxiety About Kids’ Trauma and Kids’ Anxiety About School
Aug 15 • 18 min
We answer two questions from our amazing Listeners. We originally answered these on our weekly Instagram Live segment, which you can be a part of every Sunday at 915pm PST. Consider supporting the podcast - $5/mo will give you access to the Bonus section…
Applying Parental Co-Regulation
Aug 13 • 36 min
Lots of co-regulation ground covered in this episode: Kids neurocepting danger cues your state vs your empathy your empathy vs your compassion face to face interaction self-regulation (for you, parent) DETAILED SHOW NOTES -…
Avoiding Creating a Trauma in Your Kids & Approaching a Parent who is Stuck
Aug 9 • 24 min
We answer two more questions from our Dear Listeners about parenting - 1. “How can parents avoid creating a trauma with their kids?” 2.”How do you approach a parent who is stuck?” Support the podcast here - justinlmft.com/support —- Send in a voice…
Understanding Parental Co-Regulation Before Kids’ Self-Regulation
Aug 6 • 20 min
Self-regulation is built upon co-regulation. Kids aren’t born able to self-regulate, but they are born ready to receive a parent’s co-regulation. DETAILED SHOW NOTES - http://www.justinlmft.com/post/episode25 JOIN THE TRAUMA NERDS Forum -…
Parental and Toddler Polyvagal State Shifts
Aug 2 • 11 min
We answer two questions submitted by two of our amazing listeners: 1. How to best overcome a parental state shift? 2. Do toddlers experience defensive states more often than adults? Join us on Sunday nights on Instagram Live! We go live around 915pm PST.…
We Don’t Control Our Kids and How to Strengthen Their Vagal Brake
Jul 30 • 29 min
Two big ideas discussed in this episode: 1. Strengthening the vagal brake as a fundamental purpose of parenting and why. 2. You don’t control your kids. And you can’t. And neither do we. No one does. DETAILED SHOW NOTES -…
The Role of Narratives in Surviving a Sexual Assault
Jul 29 • 9 min
Taken from an Instagram Live on July 21, 2019. we discuss the function of “Stories” or “Narratives” that a survivor of sexual assault may be living with. Join us on Instagram every Sunday night around 915pm PST. We answer questions and let people listen…
Therapy and the Polyvagal Theory
Jul 16 • 61 min
We apply the polyvagal theory to the process of psychotherapy. DETAILED SHOW NOTES on - http://www.justinlmft.com/blog JOIN THE TRAUMA NERDS Forum - http://www.justinlmft.com/forum CONTACT either of us at http://www.justinlmft.com/contact Music & Sounds…
Bad Therapy 3
Jul 9 • 48 min
Mercedes and I break down some real life examples of #badtherapy for the final time! Plus we share our own bad therapy and a couple of good therapy examples too. more detailed show notes on justinlmft.com/post/episode22 TREATMENT ABANDONMENT -…
Bad Therapy 2
Jul 2 • 43 min
We look at more listener submissions of their #badtherapy experiences. And believe it or not, there’s many more we haven’t gotten to. More detailed show notes on justinlmft.com/post/episode21 JOIN THE TRAUMA NERDS Forum - http://www.justinlmft.com/forum…
Bad Therapy 1
Jun 25 • 53 min
We continue the Bad Therapy series, this time with real examples submitted to us by listeners and Instagram followers. We dissect the therapeutic issues at play here, discuss what is and isn’t therapy and share our own thoughts based on how we practice…
Basic Therapy
Jun 18 • 62 min
Welcome to the first installment of the Bad Therapy series. We need to first understand some basics of what therapy is and how it works. Clients are walking into sessions with a combination of hope and desperation - this is easily taken advantage of by a…
Top-Down Thoughts to Climb the Polyvagal Ladder
Jun 11 • 56 min
We tackle the issue directly - you’re normal, you survived, your body is awesome and is probably working fine. Plus a whole lot more. More detailed show notes are available here - https://www.justinlmft.com/post/episode18 You can also join the discussion…
Bottom-Up & Outside-In Ways to Change Your Polyvagal State
Jun 4 • 63 min
Mercedes & I discuss how we personally use different bottom-up techniques to climb the polyvagal ladder and reach a more safe & social state - music, dance, play, breathing and more. We also discuss what it means to “allow” the process to happen in simple…
Climbing the Ladder with Listener Submissions!
May 28 • 46 min
Full show notes are available on https://www.justinlmft.com/post/episode16 We got some Listener submissions for how they use the polyvagal theory to climb their ladders! Thanks to Carla-Jo, Theresa and Emily! JUSTIN Instagram -…
Dr Stephen Porges Interview: Mental Disorders, Substance Use, Psychiatry & the Polyvagal Theory
May 21 • 53 min
Full show notes are available on justinLMFT.com/post/episode15 I had the distinct pleasure of being able to talk in-depth with Dr Porges about the Polyvagal Theory and how it applies to various things, such as clinical disorders, the role of psychiatry,…
Teacher Self-Care & Being Ready to Teach
May 14 • 48 min
This is part 5 of 5 of the Polyvagal Schools series. Full show notes are on justinlmft.com/blog. We hear about students being “ready to learn,” but what about teachers being “ready to teach”? Mercedes and Justin look in depth at danger cues for teachers,…
Relationships Over Academics
May 7 • 61 min
This is the Polyvagal Schools series, part 4 of 5 - A slew of trauma-informed ways for educators to improve relationships with their students. After the relationship is improved, with safety being the priority, things like motivation and behavior will…
Classroom Structure - Consequences, Fidgets & Flexibility
Apr 30 • 49 min
Polyvagal Schools episode part 3 of 5 - The Polyvagal Theory applied to the classroom structure. We look at suspensions, fidgets, quiet zones in the classroom, suspensions, consequences and a lot more. Also, learn how my hands turned orange during a…
Classroom Danger Cues & What to Do About Them
Apr 23 • 56 min
Part 2 of 5 of the Polyvagal School series - Danger cues in the classroom: the environment, the teacher and peers! And we give you some unique ways to problem-solve around these. JUSTIN Twitter - https://twitter.com/justinlmft Pinterest -…
Path of Transition & Cues of Danger in School
Apr 16 • 60 min
Mercedes Corona, LMFT joins me to talk in depth about what the Path of Transition is and how it applies to the school environment. Part 1 of our Polyvagal School Series! JUSTIN Twitter - https://twitter.com/justinlmft Pinterest -…
Attachment, Generational Trauma & the Polyvagal Theory
Apr 9 • 35 min
Attachment is integral to the mechanics of how generational trauma is actually passed on. I take a look at this through the lens of the amazing polyvagal theory (but you probably know that by now). Twitter - https://twitter.com/justinlmft Pinterest -…
Mixed States & the Polyvagal Theory
Apr 2 • 49 min
I cover the other Fs that I’ve been seeing, like “flop,” “friend” and “fawn.” Plus an in depth look into why I don’t think these are primary autonomic responses to danger or life threat. And more, much more. Twitter - https://twitter.com/justinlmft…
Play, Stillness & the Polyvagal Theory
Mar 26 • 46 min
We’ve covered the primary states (Safe, Flight, Fight & Freeze), now let’s look at a couple of state combos: play & stillness. Twitter - https://twitter.com/justinlmft Pinterest - https://www.pinterest.com/justinlmft/ Website - http://www.justinlmft.com…
Vagal Brake, Co-Regulation & the Polyvagal Theory
Mar 19 • 44 min
A look at the vagus, the vagal brake, the window of tolerance AND co-regulation. It’s a jam-packed episode from your host, Justin Sunseri, LMFT99147. Twitter - https://twitter.com/justinlmft Pinterest - https://www.pinterest.com/justinlmft/ Website -…
Trauma, Shame & the Polyvagal Theory
Mar 12 • 54 min
A way way in-depth look into how trauma works plus what shame and disgust have to do with it. From Justin Sunseri, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist 99147. NATIONAL SUICIDE PREVENTION LIFELINE -Website - https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/ -Phone…
Freeze & the Polyvagal Theory
Mar 5 • 44 min
Justin goes in depth into the Freeze response - the bottom of the polyvagal ladder! NATIONAL SUICIDE PREVENTION LIFELINE -Website - https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/ -Phone Number - 1(800)273-8255 -Chat - https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/chat/
Flight, Fight & the Polyvagal Theory
Feb 26 • 60 min
I dive into the sympathetic autonomic nervous system and how flight/fight arousal can become chronic and affect our day to day lives. Justin Sunseri, LMFT 99147 Twitter - https://twitter.com/justinlmft Pinterest - https://www.pinterest.com/justinlmft/…
Safety, Social Engagement & the Polyvagal Theory
Feb 19 • 44 min
We start at the top of the Polyvagal Ladder with the Safety & Social Engagement autonomic nervous system, the face to heart connection! Twitter - https://twitter.com/justinlmft Pinterest - https://www.pinterest.com/justinlmft/ Website -…
Intro to the Polyvagal Theory
Feb 9 • 30 min
An intro to the Polyvagal Theory from Dr Stephen Porges. Autonomic state shifts, creating narratives, neuroception and more! More Polyvagal Podcast content for $5/mo - https://www.justinlmft.com/members Amazon Influencer Store (I get a portion of sales) -…