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Christopher and Wendy West answer questions about faith, life, love, and sexuality, in light of John Paul II’s Theology of the Body.


Prophetic Underpants | ACW83
Aug 3 • 34 min
Is it immoral to cohabitate with your fiance due to COVID if you are not engaging in intercourse and taking measures to avoid scandal? Do you have any wisdom for overcoming the struggle with pornography after a relapse? How do we know John “leapt for joy”…
Sadness in Heaven? | ACW82
Jul 27 • 38 min
If we won't be married in heaven, will we still be together as a family? How does God's command to "be fruitful and multiply" apply to us today? Ask Christopher West is a weekly podcast in which Theology of the Body Institute President Christopher West…
Mary Precedes the Patriarchy | ACW81
Jul 20 • 36 min
Why did God create a patriarchy for the human family and for the hierarchy of his church? Why is there no gender complementarity at the altar during mass or in the organization of the church? Can you shed some light on the sacrament of confession? Ask…
Inviting God into the Bedroom | ACW80
Jul 13 • 35 min
How can I experience Christ through love making? Is the path of holiness a return to Eden? Ask Christopher West is a weekly podcast in which Theology of the Body Institute President Christopher West and his beloved wife Wendy share their humor and wisdom,…
Is the Woman to Blame? | ACW79
Jul 6 • 35 min
What is your opinion on the negative impact popular music has on the way men treat women? Are women responsible for presenting themselves in a way that does not arouse lust? My husband refuses to be intimate with me because of my dedication to the faith.…
It’s in the New Testament Somewhere | ACW78
Jun 29 • 35 min
How do I help my sister who feels she is pansexual and struggles with suicidal thoughts? Is it wrong to marvel at the beauty of someone's sexuality? Does sickness in the body relate to anything spiritually? Ask Christopher West is a weekly podcast in…
Do We Have a Perfect Marriage? | ACW77
Jun 22 • 35 min
How do I understand the part of the Litany of Humility that says "from the desire of being loved, deliver me, O Jesus"? Aren't we made for love? How was your experience homeschooling your children? Ask Christopher West is a weekly podcast in which…
Seeing Through the Window | ACW76
Jun 15 • 40 min
How do I forgive my perpetually dysfunctional family? What do you think about the Latin Mass? How do I understand the part of the Litany of Humility that says "from the desire of being loved, deliver me, O Jesus"? Aren't we made for love? Ask Christopher…
The Cookie Analogy | ACW75
Jun 8 • 29 min
My wife works for Planned Parenthood; how do I talk to her about this? Is it possible to get too "into" books, movies, and music? How did the Fall happen if we already experienced the supreme love of God? Ask Christopher West is a weekly podcast in which…
A Beautiful Challenge | ACW74
Jun 1 • 37 min
Are humans fundamentally "not good"? My husband needs to be intimate to feel close, and I need to feel close to be intimate. How do we resolve this disparity in our marriage? Ask Christopher West is a weekly podcast in which Theology of the Body Institute…
Fertility in Suffering | ACW73
May 25 • 37 min
What is the difference between attraction and lust? My friend is considering using IVF to try to conceive. How can I help her? My son is going through marriage prep and has asked me for reading recommendations. What do you recommend? Ask Christopher West…
Becoming Saintly | ACW72
May 18 • 39 min
I want to practice the spiritual disciplines of the saints and mystics, but they get in the way of my being a joyful wife and mother. How do I achieve balance here? I take pride in working out, but how do I keep this from straying into vanity? Ask…
Live from the TOB Virtual Conference | ACW71
May 11 • 44 min
What does the church teach about organ donation? How do I remain faithful to Church teaching on contraception while dealing with sexually abused youth? How do I deal with an abusive and dismissive husband? Ask Christopher West is a weekly podcast in which…
Beyond Rejection | ACW70
May 4 • 36 min
I'm very saddened by the loss of the Eucharist in quarantine. What do I do? God created man (male and female) in his own image, but God is not biological. How does this work? How do I deal with deep feelings of rejection after divorce and annulment? Ask…
Christopher is a Chronic Melon | ACW69
Apr 27 • 44 min
I have been waiting for an annulment of my previous marriage for years. Do you have any advice? Is it appropriate to say that for intersex people, God created them that way? Do you ever use the four temperaments to talk about personality and the…
Heart and Soul | ACW68
Apr 20 • 36 min
For a non-Catholic, what is "transubstantiation"? Is my "heart" the same thing as my soul? I'm about to have my sixth Caesarean section. My doctor wants me to undergo a tubal ligation. Is this licit? Ask Christopher West is a weekly podcast in which…
Make Peace with the Journey | ACW67
Apr 13 • 45 min
Is taking communion spiritually the same as taking communion physically? Can we experience the true communion of persons in Eden here on Earth? As a woman, I struggle with the number of men who watch porn. I feel like I should be more thoughtful about the…
In the Family | ACW66
Apr 6 • 37 min
This week, Christopher and Wendy talk about struggles within families. How do I deal with my dad's pornography use? How do I help my mother be at peace with my upcoming marriage? As a disabled person, how do I find a spouse who loves me for me? Ask…
Thirsty Hearts | ACW65
Mar 30 • 41 min
Why do people hoard toilet paper? How do I help my wife deal with my past of pornography addiction? Why is polyamory wrong? Ask Christopher West is a weekly podcast in which Theology of the Body Institute President Christopher West and his beloved wife…
Trust | ACW64
Mar 23 • 41 min
Christopher and Wendy talk about the experience of a global pandemic. Can I confess over videochat? I want to get married but I lost my virginity to a previous boyfriend before understanding the church's teaching. How should I approach this in a…
The Ember Beneath the Ash | ACW63
Mar 16 • 40 min
My father is divorced from my mother and in a new relationship, and is now receiving the Eucharist. Should I say something? My husband has a form of Narcissistic Personality Disorder. How do I handle this issue within our marriage? In some Christian…
Called to Life | ACW62
Mar 9 • 36 min
My boyfriend is recovering from a pornography addiction, and I'm worried about its effect on our future marriage. Should I be? Do all Catholic weddings have to take place in a Catholic Church? What is the theological/spiritual similarity between life and…
The Holy Land | ACW61
Mar 2 • 48 min
Christopher and Wendy take a break from listener questions this week to discuss Christopher's recent pilgrimage to the Holy Land. What does it mean to be a pilgrim? What was walking in the footsteps of Jesus like? What does the Holy Land tell us about the…
The Look of Love | ACW60
Feb 24 • 43 min
I know I'm made for motherhood, but in the midst of breastfeeding difficulties, postpartum depression, and other difficulties, my body and brain seem to resist it. How can this be? As a future doctor, how do I lovingly care for transgender patients…
The Rocky Road to Heaven | ACW59
Feb 17 • 38 min
Before understanding TOB, my wife and I underwent sterilization. Can we still teach TOB? As a woman pregnant with her first child, what can TOB say to me? My girlfriend is not Catholic, but respectful of my beliefs, but I feel called to a relationship…
Wendy Doesn’t Like Surprises | ACW58
Feb 10 • 34 min
Is it a sin to read steamy romance novels? How is it possible for me as a husband to be totally "disinterested" in my gift of self? Shouldn't I be "interested"? How can I integrate Theology of the Body into my priesthood? Ask Christopher West is a weekly…
Put It In The Light | ACW57
Feb 3 • 37 min
Can a priest have a deep relationship with a female friend? Similarly, can a married man have a deep relationship with a female friend who is not his spouse? What does the Church teach on circumcision? Ask Christopher West is a weekly podcast in which…
The Significance of the Seed | ACW56
Jan 27 • 40 min
If masturbation isn't mentioned explicitly as a sin in the Bible, why does the Church teach that it's wrong? If my boyfriend and I feel we aren't ready for children when we get married, can we use NFP with the intention of avoiding pregnancy? I have a…
A New Hope | ACW55
Jan 21 • 32 min
What do you think about the new Star Wars movies? What about Gone with the Wind? How do I love myself in the woman in the way I know I should? Ask Christopher West is a weekly podcast in which Theology of the Body Institute Director Christopher West and…
A Beautiful Day in the Neighborhood | ACW54
Jan 13 • 36 min
How do I talk about cohabitation with my secular friends? My wife wants to use contraception, what should I do? How does Theology of the Body speak into seminary formation and discernment for priesthood? Ask Christopher West is a weekly podcast in which…
The Scandal of the “Hic” | ACW53
Jan 6 • 37 min
I had a tubal ligation, have repented, and have been absolved, but I still feel guilt. Can you give me any guidance? Was the Crucifixion God the Father taking out his wrath on God the Son? What advice can you give to someone who is struggling with…
Be the Love of Christ | ACW52
Dec 30, 2019 • 38 min
How often should married couples have intercourse? How do I relate to my relative who is undergoing a sex reassignment surgery? Is it normal to experience resistance when trying to teach Theology of the Body at my parish? Ask Christopher West is a weekly…
Momma, Feed Us | ACW51
Dec 23, 2019 • 45 min
How does one get as knowledgeable about TOB as Christopher West? Is it okay for Catholics to do yoga? As a mother, I often feel conflicted about covering up to breastfeed. What does TOB say about the theology of my body in this regard? Ask Christopher…
Love is Only Ever Just Becoming | ACW50
Dec 16, 2019 • 27 min
What does St. Paul mean when he talks about "marital debt" in First Corinthians? I've had a hysterectomy; is this an impediment to marriage? How do I respond to people who believe that large families are harmful to the environment? Ask Christopher West is…
The Body is a Gift | ACW49
Dec 9, 2019 • 35 min
How do I overcome the brokenness I experience as a victim of abuse and toxic relationships? What do you think about the use of Viagra? What is the right age to talk to my kids about sex and the body? Ask Christopher West is a weekly podcast in which…
Being A Person | ACW48
Dec 2, 2019 • 35 min
Animals vs humans! Relics! Catholics going overboard on Mary! We've got it all this week! Ask Christopher West is a weekly podcast in which Theology of the Body Institute Director Christopher West and his beloved wife Wendy share their humor and wisdom,…
It’s All About the Gravy | ACW47
Nov 25, 2019 • 38 min
We're a young couple in college and we're very much in love. What advice do you have for keeping our relationship chaste? What do you think about cursing during prayer? What does TOB teach on tattoes? Ask Christopher West is a weekly podcast in which…
Blood and Water | ACW46
Nov 18, 2019 • 33 min
How can TOB help me as I give spiritual directions to others, particularly young people? What light can TOB shed on the spiritual significance of menstruation? Ask Christopher West is a weekly podcast in which Theology of the Body Institute Director…
Christopher’s Talk in the Sistine Chapel | ACW45 | Bonus Episode
Nov 11, 2019 • 31 min
As Christopher and Wendy take a week off, we share a very special talk from Christopher in the Sistine Chapel, which John Paul II called "The Shrine of Theology of the Body". It was recorded at the TOB Institute Pilgrimage to Rome and Assisi in Fall of…
The Gift of Self | ACW44
Nov 4, 2019 • 34 min
My wife and I spent many years living in a state of serious sexual sin. How do we deal with this now that we have decided to change our lives? As a young woman experiencing same-sex attraction, how am I meant to experience intimacy in life? What should I…
Atomic Pumpkin Glory | ACW43
Oct 28, 2019 • 33 min
My husband and I are unable to have physical relations at the moment. How do we maintain our intimacy? Why did we inherit the Original Sin of Adam and Eve if we did not personally commit it? Why did the salvific act of Jesus bring salvation to all of us?…
The Church is a She | ACW42
Oct 21, 2019 • 35 min
Why is the Church referred to as a "She?" What's going on with the JPII Institute in Rome? My health makes it difficult for my husband and I to have marital relations, and I'm concerned. What should I do? Ask Christopher West is a weekly podcast in which…
The Soul of Christ | ACW41
Oct 14, 2019 • 31 min
What does the Anima Christi prayer tell us about TOB? Should I be using NFP to avoid pregnancy? How do I talk to my daughter about transgenderism? Ask Christopher West is a weekly podcast in which Theology of the Body Institute Director Christopher West…
Choose Love | ACW40
Oct 7, 2019 • 32 min
How have criticisms of your work changed how you teach TOB? What is the "disinterested gift of self"? Is hell real? Ask Christopher West is a weekly podcast in which Theology of the Body Institute Director Christopher West and his beloved wife Wendy share…
The Interior Gaze | ACW39
Sep 30, 2019 • 34 min
What does TOB teach about individuals with physical, emotional, or intellecutal disabilities? What is "the interior gaze" and why does it matter? How do I recover from bullying? Ask Christopher West is a weekly podcast in which Theology of the Body…
The Marriage Business | ACW38
Sep 23, 2019 • 34 min
Does the Church need to "get out of the marriage business?" Can I encounter God through rap music? What's your opinion on married priests? Ask Christopher West is a weekly podcast in which Theology of the Body Institute Director Christopher West and his…
Receiving His Mercy | ACW37
Sep 16, 2019 • 33 min
How do I help my future potential spouse understand the shameful parts of my sexual past? I have many secular friends, whom I love very much. How do I respond to an invitation to a same-sex wedding from one of them with love and respect? Is there a…
In the Womb | ACW36
Sep 9, 2019 • 33 min
My priest instructed women to cover their shoulders at mass. Was this the right call? Why does God give us desires if they seem impossible to attain? How do I deal with the shame I carry over my past? Ask Christopher West is a weekly podcast in which…
What for Questions | ACW35
Sep 2, 2019 • 33 min
If I'm called to the celibate life, I feel like I would be missing out on so much! What does TOB have to say about the celibate life? What is the difference between delighting in my wife's body and lusting after her? How should a man think about the…
Christopher, Wendy, and the Moon | ACW34
Aug 26, 2019 • 35 min
What are your thoughts on dress and modesty? Is there a theology to the menstrual cycle? Is it OK if our honeymoon sex was kind of awkward? This episode of Ask Christopher West features questions from women on issues largely pertaining to womens'…
The Ground is Level at the Foot of the Cross | ACW33
Aug 19, 2019 • 35 min
What advice do you have to those expecting their first child? What should I be thinking about when choosing my child's name? Is forgiveness as depicted in the movie "The Shack?" really possible? Ask Christopher West is a weekly podcast in which Theology…
Wendy Goes Backpacking | ACW32
Aug 12, 2019 • 45 min
If no one is given or received in marriage in heaven, what will be the primary purpose of our bodies? My husband and I were married outside the church, and are seeking an annulment for his previous marriage. We are currently living as brother and sister.…
The Wounds of Christ | ACW31
Aug 5, 2019 • 27 min
I feel that my eating disorder has ruined my body. How is God's glory revealed through MY body, which is so often shameful to me? My brother-in-law has dwarfism, and retains some anger toward God for this. How do I help him? As a new Christian therapist,…
Love is Worth It | ACW30
Jul 29, 2019 • 31 min
What was your dating story? As a divorced person, should I seek an anullment? I have some friends who are seriously discussing polyamory, and whether monogamy is even worth it. What do you think? Ask Christopher West is a weekly podcast in which Theology…
Let the Flowers Grow | ACW29
Jul 22, 2019 • 36 min
Why does the Church teach against pre-marital sex? Were Adam & Eve unmarried? How do all the difficult parts of marriage fit into the idea that "God wants to marry us"? What advice do you have for an older couple that had a vasectomy done in the early…
It Is Very Good | ACW28
Jul 15, 2019 • 33 min
Why is the priestly vocation for men only? As a man, how do I determine whether I am looking at a woman's body in a way that is loving, not lustful? Ask Christopher West is a weekly podcast in which Theology of the Body Institute Director Christopher West…
Christopher Needs a Pickle Counselor | ACW27
Jul 8, 2019 • 32 min
Some celibate religious feel a sense of loss or regret towards marriage and family life. What advice would you give to priests and religious who are struggling in this way? As a woman who is deeply uncomfortable with sexuality and intimacy, how can I…
The Misadventure of Christopher | ACW26
Jul 1, 2019 • 32 min
How do I get started learning about TOB? How do I abstain from participating in Pride Month activities, while still showing compassion for all people? Does TOB give guidance on taking care of the body? Would you and Wendy every consider writing a book…
The Misadventure of Wendy | ACW25
Jun 24, 2019 • 40 min
What's the deal with mortification? Did Adam and Eve really exist? How do I go about understanding my vocation as a celibate woman? As a Protestant woman, how to I share TOB with my friends? As a single man, how can I cultivate true friendships with…
Grace Is Your Name | ACW24
Jun 17, 2019 • 40 min
How can TOB help me heal spiritually from anorexia? Why does the Church teach against contraceptives? Is watching Game of Thrones okay? As a woman who has struggled with pornography, how do I heal? Ask Christopher West is a weekly podcast in which…
Wendy’s Work | ACW23
Jun 10, 2019 • 33 min
As a single young woman, should I be open to marrying someone who doesn't share my faith? How does Wendy feel about not being able to tour and speak like Christopher? What bible verse has resonated the most with you through life? We continue taking…
Cheese and the Sacred Heart | ACW22
Jun 3, 2019 • 23 min
Any recommendations for a couple that is dating who wants to include TOB in their relationship? Do you think the "Culture of Death" that we currently live in can be overcome? Do you have any tips for overcoming jet lag? Christopher and Wendy dive into…
Questions from Confirmation | ACW21
May 27, 2019 • 35 min
Confirmation students from St. James Catholic Church in Charles Town, WV submit their questions to Christopher and Wendy! How do I talk to my non-Catholic friends about hot-button issues? How do you know if the love between a husband and life is real? As…
Christopher’s Car Goes for a Ride | ACW20
May 20, 2019 • 34 min
How can a Catholic artist include their faith in their work? How do we help children in the process of exploring their bodies? What kind of faith formation experiences are out there for older people? How do we best go about making sure our marriage is…
I’ve Got the Power | ACW19
May 13, 2019 • 38 min
How do I address a verbally abusive husband? What does the Church teach on the vocation of singlehood, both as a permanent and temporary state? Is it okay for a woman to wear a bikini? Christopher and Wendy share stories from their life together as they…
Become Who You Are | ACW18
May 6, 2019 • 30 min
I understand mentally how important Jesus is, but how do I cultivate a real relationship with him? Why does St. Paul speak so negatively about marriage and sexuality? What's all this about the eyes of Our Lady of Guadalupe? What's the difference between…
Wendy and the Granola Avalanche | ACW17
Apr 29, 2019 • 29 min
How do I know if the girl I am dating is "The One"? I have experienced a lot of spiritual growth since entering into my marriage, but my husband is not. He is not interested in living as the Church calls us to live. Do you have any advice for this…
Skydiving with Christopher | ACW16
Apr 22, 2019 • 40 min
I've been married before; can I be a consecrated virgin? What does chastity look like for engaged couples? How do I help couples who are struggling with practicing NFP? Christopher and Wendy dive into these questions on this episode of Ask Christopher…
Working at Wendy’s | ACW15
Apr 15, 2019 • 32 min
This episode contains subject matter of an intimate marital nature. How do I deal with post-graduation life outside the "Catholic bubble"? Do you have any advice for a couple struggling to bring the wife to climax during intercourse? Or for a couple in…
I Choose You | ACW14
Apr 8, 2019 • 30 min
What can TOB teach us about work? My wife wants to contracept, but I don’t. How would you recommend I handle this situation? Do you have any specific songs that speak to your love one another? Christopher and Wendy dive into their own stories to cast…
The Lord is Calling | ACW13
Apr 1, 2019 • 31 min
As a couple in the perimenopausal stage of life, how should we handle issues surrounding NFP, irregular cycles, and prolonged periods of abstinence? As a husband, I feel that my wife is often only ever interested in sexual union from the physical side.…
The Cross is Real | ACW12
Mar 25, 2019 • 34 min
How do I live my single-ness while in the process of an annulment? If you had only 30 minutes to talk to an RCIA class on Theology of the Body, what would you say? My husband is suffering from a pornography addiction; what should I do? Christopher and…
Wendy and the “Good Bread” | ACW11
Mar 18, 2019 • 35 min
As a newlywed, how can my spouse and I live out the TOB message in our parish community? What do we do when our first year of marriage doesn't feel like a "honeymoon year"? Where should unmarried couples draw the line at physical intimacy? Christopher and…
In Which Christopher Quacks | ACW10
Mar 11, 2019 • 33 min
As a single person in my thirties, how do I cope with the desire to be married? As a happily married man, how do I ensure that my sexual desire for my wife is expressed in love and not lust? How can couples develop a deeper practice of marital prayer?…
The Socks on the Floor | ACW9
Mar 4, 2019 • 33 min
A lot of people support the Sexual Revolution (and everything that comes with it) out of genuine compassion for their fellow man. How do we best address or dialogue with people in this position? What are some ways that married couples manage conflict…
Our Kids Have Two Parents, and You’re One of Them | ACW8
Feb 25, 2019 • 33 min
Do I have to be a "slave" to God? As a minister, how do I figure out the balance between work and life balance? What role does male/female complementarity play in parenting? Christopher and Wendy answer these questions in this week's episode of Ask…
Getting Un-Stuck | ACW7
Feb 18, 2019 • 36 min
Why all the emphasis on dressing modestly? Why are we focusing on that and not on seeing others as people, not objects? As a youth minister, how do I help my teens see the beauty of Theology of the Body? Why does the Church seem to be overly concerned…
The Fridge is Dead, but My Soul is Alive | ACW6
Feb 11, 2019 • 30 min
Cake or pie? Seriously, that's a question this episode. Also, do you have any advice for my husband and I as we give a talk about NFP to a group of engaged couples? How do we begin to teach some TOB principles to our young children? Christopher and Wendy…
The Best a Man Can Get? | ACW5
Feb 4, 2019 • 36 min
A few weeks ago, Gillette released an ad commenting on masculinity and its place within society. Christopher and Wendy answer questions people have submitted on this particular topic. Ask Christopher West is a weekly podcast in which Theology of the Body…
May Your Joy Be Complete | ACW4
Jan 28, 2019 • 31 min
I'm a gay Catholic woman, living a chaste life. Why did God make me this way? Why should Theology of the Body matter to me as much as it does to you? What do I tell my teen who wants to have sex with her boyfriend? Christopher and Wendy answer these…
The Man Can Whistle | ACW3
Jan 21, 2019 • 30 min
As a teenager, how can I share my love for TOB with my peers and friends? How can a wife continue to love a husband who seems increasingly distant? What acts outside of intercourse are appropriate in marriage? This episode contains content that may be…
Wendy’s in the House | ACW2
Jan 14, 2019 • 37 min
Does my own broken sexual past mean I can't talk to my kids about virtue? How do I talk and pray with my teen daughter who identifies as a lesbian? How do we overcome poor father figures in our lives? Christopher and Wendy lend their wisdom to these…
I Love the Way You Crack an Egg | ACW1
Jan 11, 2019 • 33 min
Should there be a Theology of the Body dating site? Do people in committed marriages need to understand TOB? What about people who are really struggling with life issues? Christopher and Wendy plunge into these questions and more on the first episode of…
Trailer | ACW0
Jan 7, 2019 • 1 min