The Healing Trauma and CPTSD Podcast

The Healing Trauma and CPTSD Podcast
Monique Koven is a certified Trauma Recovery and Resilience Coach. She was diagnosed with C-PTSD and Anxiety from childhood trauma. She is recovered and helps others uncover their resilience and peace of mind. Monique offers 1:1 virtual coaching for trauma recovery. Disclaimer. I am not a licensed mental health professional and do not treat or diagnose mental health illnesses. The information provided is not a replacement for medical and mental health advice. Always follow the advice of your medical or licensed mental health professional.

Dom’s Recovery Journey From Trauma and Anxiety to More Peace Of Mind
Jan 16 • 35 min
Today I am joined with my client Dominika. Dominika shares her story of childhood trauma and abandonment and how she is recovering. You can follow Dom on her IG account @ moments with Dominika.
The Unempathtic Mother with Britt Frank
Jan 9 • 27 min
Today I will be talking with psychotherapist and trauma specialist Britt Frank about some of the implications of being raised by a mother without empathy.
Freedom, Recovery And A New Name.
Jan 2 • 13 min
In this episode Monique talks about why she changed the name of the podcast.
A New Year Wish For You
Dec 30, 2019 • 6 min
In this short episode, Monique shares her wish for the new year.
Surviving The Holiday Struggle
Dec 19, 2019 • 28 min
In this episode, Monique is talking to therapist Natalie Gutierrez about how we can prepare ourselves emotionally for the holidays with family.
Complex Trauma and Chronic Pain
Dec 12, 2019 • 23 min
In this episode Monique is talking to psychotherapist and coach Julie Markowitz on the relationship between Trauma and chronic pain.
Anxiety With Dr. Amy Johnson
Dec 6, 2019 • 25 min
In today’s episode, Monique will be talking to psychologist and coach Dr. Amy Johnson about Anxiety.
Why Can’t I Can’t Stay Present?
Nov 29, 2019 • 18 min
In this episode, Monique discusses how it can be challenging to stay present if we have grown up with developmental Trauma.
There is Life After Trauma
Nov 24, 2019 • 13 min
When we have only ever known suffering, it’s often difficult to imagine living a life without it. In this episode Monique offers hope that living a life with increased freedom and peace of mind is possible.
Thinking We Are Responsible For Other People’s States Of Mind.
Nov 14, 2019 • 22 min
In the episode, Monique talks about how we often feel that it is our responsibility to change another person’s mind. This idea can make us feel anxious and overwhelmed.
Joe’s Recovery Journey From Childhood Trauma
Nov 8, 2019 • 22 min
In This episode Joe shares his experience of running from childhood trauma. He shares what he has learned about trauma and recovery . *Trigger Warning- Discussion of physical and sexual childhood abuse.
When We Feel Not Equipped For Adulthood
Nov 2, 2019 • 16 min
In This episode, Monique shares some thoughts about entering Adulthood after Developmental Trauma.
Unbroken- Madeleine Black’s Story of Hope and Resilience
Oct 28, 2019 • 24 min
In today’s episode, bestselling author of Unbroken, Madeleine Black shares her journey to rebuild her life a violent and trauma event. * TRIGGER WARNING- some content may be triggering.
Trauma and Attachment
Oct 21, 2019 • 21 min
On today’s episode, psychotherapist Andrea Glik and I will be talking about trauma and attachment.
The Narcissistic Parent
Oct 15, 2019 • 33 min
Today I have with me therapist Natalie Gutierrez. We will be talking about The Narcissistic Parent. What it is and how to heal from it. [email protected]
Our Authentic Self
Oct 10, 2019 • 13 min
In this episode, Monique is talking about our authentic self that is there beneath the trauma.
Understanding Our Trauma Adaptive Responses
Oct 6, 2019 • 18 min
In this episode, Monique talks a little bit about The Polyvagal theory, and the autonomic nervous system with its survival adaptions in response to threat and safety.
An Anxiety Disorder Recovery Story with Drew From The Anxious Truth
Oct 1, 2019 • 27 min
Today on the podcast, I have Drew Linsalata from The Anxious Truth. He will be sharing his own personal story of living with anxiety in various forms and recovering from it.
Resilience Within With Guest Viviene Edgecombe
Sep 25, 2019 • 35 min
In today’s episode Monique is talking with author and transformational coach Viviene Edgecombe about what resilience is and where it comes from.
The Underlying Fear In Trauma
Sep 16, 2019 • 13 min
In this episode, Monique shares some of her thoughts on what she thinks may be the underlying fear in trauma.
Alana’s Story - Recovery From Childhood Trauma.
Sep 10, 2019 • 16 min
*Trigger Warning - violence, sexual abuse. In this episode, Alana talks about living with PTSD and anxiety from childhood sexual abuse. She shares about how she has been able to uncover her true self after years of not feeling worthy of love.
Vanessa’s Recovery Journey From Childhood Abuse and Anxiety
Sep 3, 2019 • 28 min
*Trigger Warning* In this episode, Vanessa talks about her childhood sexual trauma and how she is moving through recovery from anxiety and CPTSD.
It Isn’t Yours To Carry
Aug 27, 2019 • 11 min
So much of what we think is our stuff to carry isn’t.
Parenting With Complex Trauma and Anxiety with Guest Jacci Jones
Aug 22, 2019 • 26 min
In the episode therapist Jacci Jones and I talk about parenting children while experiencing complex trauma symptoms and anxiety.
Tina ‘s Recovery
Aug 15, 2019 • 26 min
Tina suffered with chronic PTSD, panic attacks, anxiety, depression and agoraphobia. In this episode she shares her story and how she is finding freedom from CPTSD and anxiety.
Narcissistic Tendencies Explained - With Jacci Jones
Aug 9, 2019 • 26 min
Today’s episode features a discussion with therapist and coach Jacci Jones. We talk about narcissistic tendencies in relationships with parents and partners.
Jul 31, 2019 • 12 min
Is home a place? In this episode, Monique talks about the concept of home.
PTSD- Feeling The Past
Jul 25, 2019 • 18 min
Why does it feel so familiar? That was a question many of us have when we are experiencing PTSD. In this episode, Monique shares how she has come to understand what was going on for her.
Connection and Recovery
Jul 19, 2019 • 11 min
In this episode, Monique talks about recovery beginning with the connection to a safe relationship.
Growth In Recovery with Kimberly Weeks
Jul 12, 2019 • 31 min
In this episode, I’m joined with my friend and colleague Kimberly Weeks. We talked about recovery and growth in the healing journey.
Our Story
Jul 5, 2019 • 9 min
In this episode, we look at who we are outside of any circumstances we may have found ourselves in.
The Problem With Listening To Our Thoughts - w/”That Anxiety Guy”
Jun 25, 2019 • 29 min
Great conversation with Drew (That Anxiety Guy) - about thoughts!
You Are Not Who You Think You Are
Jun 21, 2019 • 15 min
When we start to see that we are not who we thought we were, things start to change.
Finding Power When You Feel Powerless - w/That Anxiety Guy
Jun 18, 2019 • 25 min
My conversation with Drew from the That Anxiety Guy podcast about how even in what seem like our most helpless and powerless moments, we are empowered and capable.
Jun 14, 2019 • 10 min
In this episode Monique talks about regret and compassion.
Sharing Your Story
Jun 7, 2019 • 10 min
In this episode, Monique talks about how sharing our story can help us feel seen, heard and validated.
You Are Not Responsible For The Happiness Of Others - w/That Anxiety Guy
Jun 4, 2019 • 25 min
My conversation with Drew from the That Anxiety Guy podcast about how making ourselves responsible for the happiness of others can be a problem.
Mental Chatter
Jun 1, 2019 • 12 min
We have chatter going on all day. Much of it we take as truth, and in turn feel the effects of our own thinking.
Self Worth
May 28, 2019 • 13 min
In this episode, Monique talks about our personal beliefs and self worth.
Understanding Anxiety
May 24, 2019 • 10 min
In this episode, Monique shares an example of how anxiety looks now to her
A Little Mother’s Day Reminder
May 10, 2019 • 6 min
Monique shares a little message as we are coming close to Mother’s Day.
We Are Not Our Trauma
May 8, 2019 • 14 min
Our trauma often feels like an identity. In this episode, Monique talks about how we are not defined by what has happened to us.
Grief- Why We Can’t Just Get Over It.
May 6, 2019 • 9 min
Many people assume that because the trauma happened a long time ago, we should be able to move forward.
Anxiety- Where does It come from?
May 4, 2019 • 18 min
In this episode, Monique talks about anxiety and where our experience comes from in the moment.
My Memories Keep Coming
Apr 27, 2019 • 17 min
In this episode Monique talks about having memories that keep coming up.
What if-ing ?
Apr 21, 2019 • 12 min
In this episode, Monique talks about anxiety and what- ifing.
Our Mind and Our Wisdom
Apr 18, 2019 • 14 min
In this episode Monique talks about our built in wisdom and resilience.
CPTSD/Anxiety & Exhaustion
Apr 16, 2019 • 5 min
Feeling tired is common for those living with GAD and C-PTSD.
Emotional Flashbacks Are Safe
Apr 14, 2019 • 13 min
Emotional Flashbacks can feel very frightening when we don’t understand their nature.
My Partner & PTSD
Apr 14, 2019 • 10 min
Living with ptsd and anxiety and having a partner who does not understand, can feel challenging.
C-PTSD - My therapist Doesn’t Get It.
Apr 11, 2019 • 12 min
In this episode Monique addresses a listener’s question regarding working with a therapist who doesn’t seem to understand the impact of ongoing repetitive childhood trauma.
Uncovering The You underneath the anxiety and trauma
Apr 9, 2019 • 12 min
Monique shares the hope that things can really change from the inside out.
We Are All The Same.
Apr 8, 2019 • 13 min
In this episode Monique discusses our design and how we all work the same way.
Listener Ask’s- “ How Did You Recover From Anxiety?”
Apr 4, 2019 • 9 min
In this episode, Monique responds to a listener’s question about recovery from anxiety.
Self -Talk & Self- Compassion
Apr 3, 2019 • 11 min
In this episode Monique talks about how we can learn to be more compassionate with ourselves.
We Feel Our Thinking.
Apr 2, 2019 • 6 min
In today’s episode, Monique responds to a listener’s question.
Learned Helplessness and Empowerment
Mar 21, 2019 • 13 min
In this episode Monique talks about learned helplessness in relation to trauma and chronic anxiety.
You Are Not Stuck
Mar 19, 2019 • 9 min
Living with chronic anxiety and chronic PTSD can feel like you are living in a prison. We often conclude that we are stuck.
Do I Need The Abuser To Apologize In Order To Heal?
Mar 16, 2019 • 10 min
Many people who have been abused in childhood believe they need the Abuser to apologize in order to heal.
Anxiety, Trauma and Secondary Thoughts
Mar 15, 2019 • 12 min
In this episode Monique talks about how we often increase our suffering by adding secondary thoughts.
Should I Change My Thoughts?
Mar 12, 2019 • 7 min
We are often told to take our negative thoughts and make them positive. Monique discusses this idea in today’s episode.
Triggers & Flashbacks
Mar 10, 2019 • 8 min
In this episode Monique talks about being triggered and experiencing a flashback.
Mar 9, 2019 • 8 min
In this episode Monique addresses the topic of trust in interpersonal relationships.
Generational Trauma
Mar 8, 2019 • 7 min
In this episode Monique looks at the burdens we carry and how it’s often tried to many generations past.
Personality and Identity.
Mar 6, 2019 • 6 min
In this episode Monique talks about our identity.
Thoughts and Beliefs
Mar 3, 2019 • 8 min
In this episode Monique talks about thoughts and beliefs.
Making Meaning Out Of Our Experiences
Mar 2, 2019 • 14 min
In this episode Monique looks at how we give meaning to our experiences.
Generalized Anxiety-A Little Deeper
Feb 27, 2019 • 8 min
A continuation of the last episode on the experience of Generalized Anxiety.
Generalized Anxiety
Feb 26, 2019 • 10 min
Generalized Anxiety feels like it’s fixed and permanent. Monique discusses her own experience of being labeled with it and finding freedom from it.
Empathy for Others, even when you were not given any.
Feb 24, 2019 • 12 min
In this episode, Monique talks about her own experience with empathy.
Trauma Is Not A Mental Illness
Feb 19, 2019 • 9 min
Trauma is not a mental illness it’s an injury, therefore it can be healed
Hope and Resilience
Feb 15, 2019 • 8 min
Getting in touch with who we are underneath the trauma is the beginning of freedom.
Boundaries and Going Low to No Contact
Feb 14, 2019 • 10 min
Establishing good boundaries is essential in trauma recovery. Deciding how this plays out is a personal choice.
A Closer Look At Our Beliefs
Feb 9, 2019 • 7 min
We often carry into adulthood old beliefs we picked up in childhood.
Does It Spark Joy?
Feb 6, 2019 • 7 min
In this episode Monique talks about living our lives from a place of joy rather than from obligation.
CPTSD - When You Didn’t Have A Before
Feb 2, 2019 • 6 min
In this episode Monique talks about not having a personal frame of reference before complex trauma.
Being Heard Heals
Feb 1, 2019 • 8 min
Part of the healing recovery of complex trauma is allowing yourself to speak and be heard.
You Are Not Negative
Jan 30, 2019 • 7 min
Always looking at the worst case scenario is very common for those who grew up in homes where life was unpredictable.
You Are Not Your Diagnosis
Jan 26, 2019 • 7 min
Sometimes we can become attached to our diagnosis and it can become an identity.
CPTSD - Why do I still feel like a child?
Jan 25, 2019 • 5 min
If you have had developmental trauma or ongoing childhood trauma feeling child like is a common experience.
Hypervilgilance and CPTSD
Jan 24, 2019 • 5 min
Hyper vigilance is one the hallmark symptoms of Chronic PTSD.
Overwhelm with CPTSD
Jan 22, 2019 • 6 min
Feeling Overwhelmed is a common response to trauma. Monique briefly discusses how ongoing trauma in childhood can set the brain up for the fear.
CPTSD Giving ourselves outrageous self compassion
Jan 17, 2019 • 9 min
There is nothing as important as giving ourselves self compassion and self acceptance in trauma recovery.
It Wasn’t About You
Jan 14, 2019 • 8 min
Self loathing is a common response to ongoing repetitive trauma. We tend to believe it was about us.
CPTSD and The Plastic Brain
Jan 12, 2019 • 6 min
Changes occur in the brain as a result of early childhood trauma. The hopeful news as that our brains have the capacity to change.
CPTSD and Emotional Flashbacks
Jan 9, 2019 • 8 min
Emotional flashbacks are a common symptom with those diagnosed with PTSD/ complex trauma.
Anxiety and Avoidance
Jan 7, 2019 • 7 min
Many people will avoid things, places and people that they believe cause them anxiety. In this episode we look at where the experience of fear is really coming from.
Trauma Recovery is about discovery of who you really are.
Jan 6, 2019 • 8 min
Part of the Trauma Recovery process is discovering who you are underneath your perceptions and beliefs.
The Pattern of Generalized Anxiety
Dec 30, 2018 • 7 min
Living with generalized anxiety appears to come out of no where. Monique talks about where anxiety really stems from.
What is Trauma?
Dec 28, 2018 • 6 min
Monique talks about what the experience of trauma is.
Holiday Triggers with CPTSD
Dec 24, 2018 • 4 min
Many people who have experienced trauma in the past experience triggers from the past. Validation helps ease the pain as you move towards your recovery.
Letting go of “should’s”
Dec 22, 2018 • 5 min
In this episode Monique talks about giving yourself permission to let go of the “should do” list.
Fight & Flight with Anxiety and CPTSD
Dec 18, 2018 • 7 min
Monique talks about the flight and flight mechanism in relation to anxiety and PTSD and our experience of life.
What is the difference between Anxiety and PTSD?
Dec 12, 2018 • 2 min
In this short episode Monique explains in a general way the difference between Anxiety and PTSD.
Feeling Stuck In Anxiety & Ptsd
Nov 30, 2018 • 6 min
In this episode Monique talks about the experience of feeling stuck in anxiety and PTSD from childhood trauma. Monique is fully recovered today.
Why we need a compassionate witness to heal from trauma.
Nov 22, 2018 • 5 min
In this episode, Monique talks about how having a compassionate witness deeply listen to your trauma can start you on your road to recovery.