GirlBossGuide: Lessons for Ladies who Lead

GirlBossGuide: Lessons for Ladies who Lead

www.deborahhartung.com
Being a GirlBoss is often a lonely road and we have to celebrate our own victories and celebrate each other, every step of the way. We all need a little motivation and a friend to tell us how it is and make sure we are keeping it real. Leadership and Culture Changemaker, coach, writer and speaker, Deborah Hartung, is that friend. Episodes are never longer than 15 minutes and always aim to educate, entertain and enlighten you, no matter your age or where you are on your leadership journey. Leadership & Personal Development for women leaders and entrepreneurs (and the men who support us).


Cull the Herd & Curate your Tribe
Dec 1 • 12 min
All the convenience of the last decade has fundamentally changed the way that humans interact. As we enter 2020, Deborah invites you to let go of some of the people and relationships that no longer serve you and to commit to cultivating relationships with…
Making Lemonade
Oct 29 • 8 min
As irritating as that old phrase is, most of the time, if we look back on our lives at the times we didn’t get what we really wanted, we find that things worked out better than we could have imagined at the time. The challenge is to just lean into life…
Mindfully Grateful
Oct 29 • 8 min
After recently participating in a global 10 day gratitude challenge, Deborah shares some of her learnings and the importance of being more mindful of all the things we have to be grateful for, on a daily basis. Deborah talks about the free app “3 good…
3 Lessons in 3 Months
Sep 13 • 9 min
After a rather long absence from the podcast, Deborah is back and explaining the 3 main reasons for her absence and the lessons she has learned in the process. Firstly, if you’re sick, you need to rest and recuperate and you shouldn’t be working or…
If you don’t change it, you’re choosing it
Jul 3 • 7 min
Sometimes we forget that we have the power to make choices to change our situations and our lives. If you become aware of something that is causing you stress or making you unhappy, you can actively work towards changing it by either making some…
Feel the Feeling. Don’t become the Emotion
Jul 3 • 6 min
It’s ok to be sad or heartbroken or disappointed or to feel fear in a moment. Recognize the emotion. Sit with it for a while. Feel it and let it go. Don’t allow an emotion to control you or define who you become.
Patience and delayed gratification
Jun 26 • 6 min
In our world of ‘always on’ we have all become socially conditioned to expect instant gratification. We are losing our ability to have patience and to understand that some things take longer than others. Deborah invites you to be realistic about your…
Health, wealth and time
Jun 26 • 9 min
After a 4 week absence due to illness, Deborah is back and sharing her very personal insights on the importance of looking after our own health and wellbeing and being selfish with our time. Money cannot buy us health and it cannot buy us more than the 24…
Just ‘love’
May 29 • 6 min
Instead of assuming that love is romantic or familial, Deborah encourages listeners to distinguish love-based actions and emotions from those that are fear-based and to act from a place of love, more often. For additional reading, check out Scott Stabile…
Belief in Self
May 28 • 6 min
You need to believe in yourself and your abilities, fiercely and unequivocally. Don’t let the fears of others - or your win negative self talk - get in the way of achieving your goals or taking risks to change the world. You are amazing and should be…
The Myth of Closure
May 24 • 10 min
Are you still stuck on an event from the past? Something ended and you don’t really know why? Deborah talks about what she calls the ‘myth of closure’ and how you can move on by accepting an apology you will never get and making peace with an explanation…
Stop Starting & Start Finishing
May 21 • 6 min
How many projects have you started and not finished? How many of those projects still belong on your to-do list? Deborah invites you to follow this inspiring mantra: stop Starting, start finishing and start where you are. No more procrastinating and no…
A Personal SWOT
May 20 • 8 min
Your fear and self limiting beliefs are the only thing standing in the way of a world of opportunities for growth, Discovery, success and abundance. Deborah invites you to start a personal SWOT analysis to really start looking at the things that make you…
Not My Job
May 14 • 9 min
The shadow side to being kind and empathetic and always willing to help others, is that we take on burdens that are not ours to carry. In this episode, Deborah reminds you that there are certain things in life which are possibly causing you anxiety and…
A lesson in not taking things personally
May 13 • 10 min
Deborah shares a very personal story about the importance of not internalizing the behaviors of others and not taking things personally. It’s important that we see people for who they are and meet them where they are on their journey and that we choose…
3 lessons on Taking Chances
May 8 • 10 min
Deborah shares the top 3 Lessons she has learned over the past few years about taking chances in life and going after your dreams.
Changing your Habits will Change your Life
May 7 • 9 min
Simply having knowledge about something doesn’t actually lead to lasting change. If we truly want to change our lives, we need to change our behaviors and we need to create healthier, more positive habits for ourselves. In this episode, Deborah explains…
The Best Compliment Ever
May 2 • 7 min
What is the best compliment you have ever received? A compliment about your character and your way of showing up in this world? What lasting impression are you leaving on the people you interact with? Even if the interactions are brief and fleeting, you…
Be the Architect of your own Life
Apr 29 • 8 min
In this retrospective, Deborah encourages you to be the Architect of your own life, instead of being a construction worker for someone else’s dreams. Gain some Perspective on work and life and start doing more of the things that bring you joy and less of…
Reason, season or lifetime
Apr 23 • 9 min
As with all things in nature, human relationships also go through cycles and we can be a lot happier and healthier if we all let go of our expectation that human relationships should last ‘forever’ or that any kind of a relationship ending, is somehow a…
The People who Light you Up
Apr 23 • 9 min
Deborah recently got to spend time with one of her best friends who was visiting Johannesburg from Chicago. Being around someone who brings out the best in us, someone who encourages us to do better and be better, is one of the most rewarding parts of…
Finding purpose in a cause
Apr 12 • 7 min
In a world of suffering, violence, poverty and efforts to erode human rights, Deborah invites you to be aware of what is happening in your community and to find a cause that sets your soul on fire. Anything - Animal rights or children or education or…
Niko-Niko Mood Tracking
Apr 8 • 8 min
Deborah shares some insights into how you can use mood tracking in your personal life and at work to create awareness and really improve relationships and overall wellbeing. Combining mood tracking with free apps or journaling, as well as a personal…
Tradition may be holding you back
Apr 4 • 6 min
In the corporate world, there are few phrases worse for innovation and growth than “we’ve always done things this way”. We have many traditions in our families, our communities and our workplaces that may well be outdated and not serving us or bringing us…
You are Enough
Apr 1 • 4 min
Deborah encourages you to realize that you are Enough, right now. You don’t need a better job or car or house. You don’t need to lose a few pounds, first. Your worth as a human being doesn’t depend on what you do for a living or what possessions you have…
Dealing with conflict
Apr 1 • 8 min
Conflict is inevitable. Combat is optional. In this episode, Deborah discusses the importance of embracing disagreements and conflict as a learning opportunity and truly knowing your motives and being aware of your ego. Engage with empathy and use active…
Quit the Judgment
Mar 25 • 9 min
Ever noticed how judgmental we are of others? What they’re wearing, their body type, their physical appearance in general? When we judge everyone else, we also tend to judge ourselves more harshly and we are dealing with a global pandemic of low…
The Company we Keep
Mar 19 • 5 min
There are really only 2 kinds of people in this world - those who energize and inspire us and those who drain and deplete us. Deborah invites you to be mindful of how you feel around certain people and to start becoming more selfish with your time and…
Healing a Broken Heart
Mar 15 • 5 min
If you’re dealing with some kind of heartbreak, be kind to yourself and allow your heart time to heal. Deborah shares 3 tips for recovering from heartbreak and making sure that you don’t compromise on who you are, simply because you’re hurting right now.
Have to vs. Get To
Mar 13 • 7 min
Deborah shares the transformative power of flipping the script on yourself and replacing every “I have to..” statement with a more positive grateful statement, starting with “I get to..”. Change your thinking and you change your life. Focus on positivity…
Be a Change Maker
Mar 12 • 6 min
If you want to change your life, start by changing your mind - the thoughts and beliefs that are holding you back. If you want to change the world, start with yourself. Be clear on your purpose and your goals and focus on those, ignoring the irrational…
Know your Motives
Mar 8 • 7 min
How often do you question your own motives or gain clarity on your intentions before you speak up or take action in your life? Deborah shares a personal account about a friend who had to ask this very tough question of himself recently and had to confront…
The Power of Active Listening
Mar 7 • 8 min
Listen to ‘understand’ instead of just listening to ‘respond’. Active Listening is a powerful tool that will help you improve relationships and make people feel genuinely seen and heard. By focusing your attention on the speaker and being respectful and…
Top 5 Traits of Toxic People
Feb 28 • 8 min
Actions always speak louder than words and it is possible to identify toxic people and avoid them, if you look out for the top 5 traits that Deborah has found to be common in all toxic people she has encountered. Keep an eye out for the article for Thrive…
Actions Speak
Feb 27 • 6 min
When meeting new people or assessing current relationships, Deborah reminds us that people can say all kinds of things, but the real test is found in how those people act and behave. Don’t just listen to words. Watch actions and behaviours - those will…
Overcoming Digital Isolation
Feb 26 • 7 min
In Part 2 of the Lessons on Digital Isolation and resultant loneliness, Deborah shares 4 practical tips to get you out of your digital cocoon and back to making some real human connections again. You will feel SO much better, both physically and…
Digital Isolation
Feb 25 • 6 min
Are you perhaps allowing technology and your digital life to become a replacement for IRL connections? Deborah talks about how technology could be contributing to feelings of loneliness and isolation and could be depriving us of human connection. Do a…
Evolve or Repeat
Feb 19 • 6 min
Have you ever noticed a pattern repeating itself in your life? Perhaps in your relationships or your career? Deborah invites you to take stock of these experiences and ask ‘what is this trying to teach me?’. Listen to the expression of your soul in that…
Schedule your Priorities
Feb 18 • 6 min
Your daily and weekly schedule should reflect the priorities and things that are truly important to you. Deborah invites you to examine your schedule and see how much time you have scheduled for family or fun or fitness and to then make adjustments…
Real vs True
Feb 12 • 5 min
Deborah invites you to learn to distinguish between real feelings in a specific moment and question whether the accompanying thoughts and beliefs, are really true. Chances are, the feelings are real but the thoughts are not. You can learn to flip the…
Be more selfish with your time
Feb 11 • 6 min
Deborah invites you to take a look at all the things on your ‘to do’ list and to examine how many of those are actually YOUR responsibility and how many are other people’s problems and responsibilities that have now become yours to solve. It’s ok to be…
The 90/90/1 Principle
Feb 6 • 7 min
If you have identified goals you want to focus on this year, Deborah invites you to use GROW coaching to become un-stuck and to use Robin Sharma’s 90/90/1 Principle for exceptional growth. GROW coaching was discussed in Ep 21 and worksheets are available…
The ‘wheel of life’ Exercise
Feb 5 • 7 min
In order to create more balance in our lives, or embark on a personal journey to create the life we dream of, completing a ‘wheel of life’ assessment is a very useful tool. It allows us to see a visual representation of areas of our lives that need…
Don’t take anything Personally
Feb 4 • 10 min
How others behave and act towards us, is never about us and always about them. Yet we are so arrogant and self absorbed that we are quick to make things personal and to become defensive or hostile. Deborah invites you to practice the Second Agreement…
Is your Job Slowly Killing You?
Jan 29 • 8 min
Stress and burnout don’t happen overnight and the signs are there if we just look for them. Headaches, digestive problems, changes to eating or sleeping habits or lack of interest in sex - all signs that you’re headed for burnout and need to make a…
Lead by Example
Jan 28 • 7 min
As leaders, we have to model the behaviour we want to see in our teams and we have to constantly ensure that our behaviours reflect the values we are trying to promote within the workplace and at home. People will do as we do and not as we say. Deborah…
The 10 Year Challenge
Jan 25 • 9 min
Deborah encourages you to do a retrospective on the last 10 years of your life and, instead of focusing on the superficial changes to your face and body, focus instead on what you have learned and how you have grown because of your life experiences and…
The impact we make
Jan 24 • 9 min
How often do you think about the fingerprints you leave behind on the souls of everyone you come into contact with? How often do you thank friends and colleagues for their presence in your life or for the impact they have made? Deborah encourages you to…
I AM - how we define ourselves
Jan 23 • 7 min
Have you ever noticed the power of the phrase “I am”? How do you define yourself? What characteristics are you focusing on? Are these negatively impacting your self esteem and the way other people treat you? Deborah encourages you to look at how you…
It’s OK to ask for help
Jan 17 • 8 min
After falling ill and being out of commission for a week, Deborah is back, sharing her learnings and the importance of listening to your body and asking for help or just saying ‘no’ so that you don’t run yourself down into full burnout territory. It’s ok…
Love Yourself
Jan 8 • 7 min
Do you truly behave in a way that shows that you love yourself? Are you taking care of your health and your diet and your negative self talk and treating yourself as well as you would treat someone you love? If not, now is the time to change that.
Fear is an opportunity for Growth
Jan 6 • 5 min
Welcome to 2019! Deborah is super excited for a year of new challenges and opportunities for growth and invites you to take the first small step outside your comfort zone and to do something you are afraid of. Smash one fear, then the next and the next…
A calendar date won’t change your life
Dec 18, 2018 • 5 min
In the last episode for 2018, Deborah takes her own advice to take time out to relax, recharge and re-group in order to be ready for a brand new year full of challenges. She also encourages listeners to remember that it’s not a date on a calendar that…
Make Better Decisions
Dec 13, 2018 • 10 min
Deborah shares 5 simple tips to empower and enable you to make better decisions on life and love. You can read the article for Women on Topp, here: https://www.womenontopp.com/how-to-make-better-decisions-in-life-and-love/
It is what it is
Dec 12, 2018 • 9 min
Deborah briefly explores our tendency to focus our energy on things we cannot control or change, instead of simply accepting these things for what they are. We should focus, instead, on our own attitudes and beliefs and how we respond to the things we…
Kindness, empathy & Compassion
Dec 11, 2018 • 11 min
Kindness is not a weakness, especially not from a leadership perspective and especially not in our increasingly more disconnected world. Deborah invites you to lead by example and show more kindness, empathy and compassion - especially at work. Give…
Retrospective 1
Dec 10, 2018 • 10 min
Every 20 episodes or so, Deborah invites you to do a retrospective of what you have learned and to celebrate the changes you are making and the progress you have shown. During the past 20 episodes, we have covered some pretty BIG things and if you’ve…
Share your Story
Dec 6, 2018 • 11 min
Nobody is sharing their failures and challenges on social media and this creates a false sense of ‘perfection’. Sharing your story with authentic vulnerability both inspires and empowers others and it helps you celebrate all you have overcome. Own your…
Personal Integrity
Dec 5, 2018 • 13 min
Integrity is one of the most important qualities that we as leaders can possess. In this episode, Deborah speaks about the importance of knowing your values and then actively living those - even if it makes you unpopular. Doing the right thing, being…
GROW Coaching
Dec 4, 2018 • 10 min
Deborah explains how you can use the GROW coaching method to coach peers, friends and colleagues. You can even use the methodology to ‘coach’ yourself. Head on over to DeborahHartung.com and download the free mini transformation workbook on the…
Trust your Intuition
Dec 3, 2018 • 11 min
Learn to trust your sixth sense and align with your higher purpose, by trusting your intuition - that gut feeling that you get that something or someone is right for you or you should stay away from. To live a life aligned with your higher purpose, you…
Root Cause Analysis
Nov 30, 2018 • 8 min
If we want a different outcome in life, we need to start making different choices. In this episode, Deborah explains the importance of a ‘root cause analysis’ and asking ‘why’ when trying to understand how we landed up in a certain situation. Once we…
Survive the Holidays like a Pro
Nov 28, 2018 • 10 min
Women have a lot of pressure on them, especially during the holidays. The parties, the entertaining, the travel, the gifts and the dealing with people you can’t stand. Deborah shares her 4 top tips that she lives by, to get through the holidays like a Pro.
How we Measure Success
Nov 27, 2018 • 10 min
Deborah invites you to take stock of how we measure our success and asks whether we are truly living in integrity with our most authentic self and our values that we hold most dear. You can participate in the mini transformation exercise by downloading…
It’s still a Man’s World - unless Women change it
Nov 26, 2018 • 13 min
Deborah explores the top 4 beliefs and behaviours that we have to challenge and change because these are holding us back. You can also read the article Deborah wrote for Women on Topp:…
Commit to Lifelong Learning
Nov 23, 2018 • 9 min
Leaders are called upon to create more leaders. “Who dares to teach, must never cease to learn.” Deborah encourages you to focus on self awareness and to learn new skills and to share your learning with others. From 11/25 you can visit deborahhartung.com…
What’s your Type?
Nov 22, 2018 • 10 min
Self-awareness is a critical skill for anyone in leadership. Do you know your personality type? Are you able to recognize the types in others and adjust your communication and expectations, accordingly? Deborah shares a free resource you can use to learn…
What brings you JOY?
Nov 21, 2018 • 7 min
You’re so many different versions of ‘you’ for so many different people. When do you feel happiest and most like your true, authentic self? What brings you joy and makes your heart sing? Do more of that!
The Sounds of LIFE
Nov 20, 2018 • 8 min
Are you so engrossed in your work or your social media feed, that you’re drowning out the sights and sounds of life? Deborah caught herself being agitated by the sounds of life and quickly realized that she needs to change that mindset and appreciate the…
Quit being Afraid
Nov 16, 2018 • 7 min
Fear stops us from chasing our dreams and living our best lives. Deborah shares her thoughts on fear of failure, fear of what others may think and fear of success. Quit being afraid. Own your sparkle!
Patience and Grace
Nov 15, 2018 • 10 min
We are all so busy chasing our goals that we sometimes become impatient when things don’t work out exactly as we wanted them to. Have patience and trust that there is a bigger plan. You might not get what you want in life, but you will always get what you…
Progress over Perfection
Nov 14, 2018 • 6 min
Sometimes you’re physically ill or emotionally drained and feel like you can’t go on. Just do your best under the circumstances and focus on ‘progress’ over ‘perfection’. Don’t beat yourself up. Be kind to yourself and just do your best!
Level Up!
Nov 12, 2018 • 9 min
Each phase in your life, will require a different version of you. Never stop learning or doing the work to become the woman you need to be in order to thrive during the next stage in your journey. Not everyone will understand your journey or support you -…
Respond, don’t React
Nov 12, 2018 • 7 min
Learn to practice the pause and respond to challenges in a mindful, methodical way instead of having knee-jerk reactions and making rash decisions
Kindness & Boundaries: you can be a kind bad-ass!
Nov 9, 2018 • 11 min
As a woman in leadership, your natural kindness and empathy is actually a superpower. It’s ok to lead with more ‘heart’ and to acknowledge your emotions and the feelings and needs that others have. But you need to establish healthy boundaries to ensure…
Negative Self-Talk damages your soul
Nov 8, 2018 • 11 min
You will never speak to anyone as often as you speak to yourself. Learn how to speak to yourself more kindly and in a loving and respectful way that will increase your self-esteem. Stop being your own worst critic and being an enemy that breaks ‘you’ down…
Find the Balance
Nov 8, 2018 • 13 min
What if we recharged ourselves as often as we recharge our phones? Yu are not a smartphone with ‘low power mode’. You have a finite amount of time in this life and you have to find balance between work and life. It’s ok to take some time out to rest and…
Social Media: Watch out for the Dark Side
Nov 5, 2018 • 8 min
As much as we love social media and technology and the fact that it makes the world seem so much smaller and allows us to connect with new friends from around the world, social media can also be bad for us. Deborah shares 3 things to look out for.
ME Time
Nov 5, 2018 • 8 min
As a woman in leadership, you spend a lot of time and energy helping others and dealing with other people’s problems. It’s mentally, emotionally and physically draining. Take some ME Time - even if it’s for 30 minutes a day - to connect with your true…
Welcome & Intro
Nov 5, 2018 • 2 min
Welcome to the GirlBoss Guide Podcast, specifically for Ladies who Lead. Hosted by Deborah Hartung. Deborah is a Leadership & Culture Consultant, Coach, Writer and Keynote Speaker who works with women from around the world, encouraging and enabling them…