Less Drama More Mama

Less Drama More Mama

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Less Drama More Mama is the podcast for moms who want to feel calm, in control, and confident about how to handle anything life throws their way. As a Certified Life Coach, LCSW, School Counselor, and blogger, Pam Howard has been helping empower parents for years. In her podcast, she shares personal stories, case studies, and life coaching tools to help you go from feeling frazzled and disrespected to feeling calm and connected. Learn more at http://LessDramaMoreMama.com.


Getting Unstuck with Shira Gura – 080
Feb 18 • 39 min
My guest today is Shira Gura, a well-being coach who’s on a mission to create an emotionally healthy world. She talks about her first client — herself — and how she learned to recognize when she was “stuck.” Eventually, her awareness and consistent daily…
Disarming Your Defenses – 079
Feb 11 • 14 min
Your brain is designed to protect you from painful thoughts and emotions by keeping them out of your conscious awareness. Sigmund Freud first identified nine psychological defense mechanisms, also called ego defenses, and many psychoanalysts have added…
Why Every Mom Needs a Life Coach – 078
Feb 4 • 15 min
If you’re wondering what Life Coaching can do for you or how it works, you’re in the right place. Every mom could benefit from working with a Life Coach to help her reach her fullest potential. Join me for today’s episode, where I share what life coaching…
3 Ways Moms Self-Sabotage – 077
Jan 28 • 14 min
Do you ever wonder how much more joy you’d experience if you just got out of your own way? As humans, we’re actually wired to self-sabotage. But when we learn to recognize the signs, we have the ability to change our patterns. Tune in to today’s episode…
Parenting with Curiosity – 076
Jan 21 • 9 min
If I asked you to choose the top three emotions you’d want to feel on a daily basis, what would they be? Happiness? Patience? Excitement? I’d like to suggest Curiosity. Curiosity is open and inviting. It doesn’t judge or evaluate. It just notices what is.…
Favorites and Fairness – 075
Jan 14 • 10 min
Do you have a favorite child? According to research, nearly 75% of moms do. Whether you think you do or don’t have a favorite, join me for this episode as I explore the concepts of favoritism and fairness, as well as the importance of examining your…
How to Reinvent Yourself in the New Year – 074
Jan 7 • 13 min
You’ve tried changing your habits and behavior many times, but the changes never seem to stick. You reason that there must be something wrong with you or that change is just impossible. But neither of those conclusions is true. Change is hard, and…
When You Don’t Like Your Child – 073
Dec 31, 2019 • 9 min
If you’ve ever looked at your child and thought, “I love you, but I don’t like you,” you’re not alone. Thoughts like this are common, and yet no one ever talks about them. Join me for today’s episode to learn how to feel better about yourself and your…
How to Drop Your Drama – 072
Dec 24, 2019 • 11 min
Is your life full of drama? Do you sometimes feel like you could be on reality TV? Join me for today’s episode, where I talk about what drama is, why you have it, and how to have less of it. www.lessdramamoremama.com/072
The Truth About “Buttons” and “Triggers” – 071
Dec 17, 2019 • 10 min
How many times have you thought, “My kids really know how to push my buttons” or “My kids always trigger me?” In today’s episode, I share why believing those lies will always make you feel powerless as a mom. I’ll also discuss 5 steps to taking your power…
Raising Good Humans with Hunter Clarke-Fields – 070
Dec 10, 2019 • 47 min
You want your kids to be good students. You want them to be good friends. But at the end of the day, you just want them to be good humans. My guest on today’s podcast is Hunter Clarke-Fields, aka The Mindful Mama Mentor. Join us as we talk about her new…
Dealing with Difficult Family Members – 069
Dec 3, 2019 • 14 min
Is there someone in your family you consider to be difficult? If so, this episode is a must. Family can bring out the worst in people, but with these tips, you can be at your very best. www.lessdramamoremama.com/069
Raising Grateful Kids – 068
Nov 26, 2019 • 13 min
We can train our kids to say “thank you” and act grateful. But what we really want is for them to feel grateful, so their expression of gratitude is authentic. Join me for this episode as I share some of the ways I cultivate gratitude in my own family,…
The Problem with Praise – 067
Nov 19, 2019 • 12 min
No one loves your kids as much as you do. And you want to shout from the rooftops how special and amazing they are. You want them to feel good about themselves and proud of their accomplishments. But too much praise can actually cause problems you might…
The Problem with Rewards – 066
Nov 12, 2019 • 12 min
Rewards. Kids love them. Adults love them. How could there possibly be a problem with them? Join me for this episode, where I share how rewards, like punishments, are not only ineffective, but counterproductive when it comes to solving behavior problems…
Disabling Your Labeling – 065
Nov 5, 2019 • 11 min
How did people describe you as a kid? Were you “the shy one,” “the sensitive one” or “the wild one?” Were you “athletic,” “nerdy,” or “gifted?” Now your kids are being labeled, too — by you, their teachers, and their peers. Join me for this episode, as I…
Your Evidence File – 064
Oct 29, 2019 • 13 min
“We don’t see things as they are, we see them as we are.” — Anais Nin I find the human brain fascinating. When we think a negative thought, our brains go to work looking for (and creating) evidence to prove it true. When we think a positive thought, our…
Peace and Quiet – 063
Oct 22, 2019 • 9 min
Do you have quiet moments throughout your day? Or are you always filling your head with the sounds of podcasts, music, news, and energetic kids? Turn off your notifications and tune in for today’s episode to learn about the benefits of quiet time and how…
Your 2020 Vision and Mental Rehearsal – 062
Oct 15, 2019 • 16 min
As people get older, they tend to look back at where they’ve been, rather than ahead to where they’re going. They just ride out their lives re-creating their past over and over again. Living from the past is a very predictable, safe, and comfortable way…
Sorry, Not Sorry: Kids and Apologies – 061
Oct 8, 2019 • 12 min
If you want your kids to take responsibility for their actions, handle mistakes with grace, and apologize with sincerity, this episode is for you. Many parents force their kids to apologize when they’ve made a mistake, rather than help them learn from it…
How to Stop Losing Your Sh*t with Your Kids: Interview with Carla Naumburg – 060
Oct 1, 2019 • 41 min
Are you ready to stop losing your sh*t with your kids? Today on the podcast, I interview Carla Naumburg, PhD. about her most recent book on that very topic. Carla is funny, relatable, and knowledgeable about helping moms learn how to feel better about…
Husband Resentment – 059
Sep 24, 2019 • 13 min
I’ve coached so many moms who harbor resentment toward their husbands that I wanted to dedicate an entire episode to it. If you don’t have a husband or you don’t feel resentment toward yours, feel free to substitute someone else. All of the concepts will…
Your Child’s Core Emotional Needs, Part Three: Competence – 058
Sep 17, 2019 • 13 min
Today, we’re wrapping up the three-part series about your child’s core emotional needs. In part one, I talked about your kids’ need for connection. Part two was all about giving your kids more control over their lives and why it’s so challenging to do.…
Your Child’s Core Emotional Needs, Part Two: Control – 057
Sep 10, 2019 • 14 min
Last week I talked about your child’s need for connection and how to support that need through involvement, warmth, empathy, and responsiveness. In this second part of the three-part series on core emotional needs, I discuss your child’s need for control…
Your Child’s Core Emotional Needs, Part One: Connection – 056
Sep 3, 2019 • 18 min
According to the Self-Determination Theory of Motivation, all humans have three innate psychological needs. Over the next three episodes, I’ll explain each of these core needs and why they’re important. I’ll also address how to know when your child’s…
Why It’s So Hard to Stop Yelling – 055
Aug 27, 2019 • 12 min
Every day, you make a promise to yourself to stop yelling at your kids. And every day, you break that promise. You feel guilty and ashamed, and decide there must be something wrong with you. Why else would you feel so out of control and keep doing…
Overcome Your Overwhelm – 054
Aug 20, 2019 • 15 min
Do you wish you could stop feeling so overwhelmed all the time? As moms, we take on a lot of responsibilities — housework, meal prep, shopping, driving, helping with homework, and cleaning up messes. There never seems to be enough money to deal with all…
Adjusting to a New School Year – 053
Aug 13, 2019 • 17 min
How are you feeling about the new school year? Are you relieved? Overwhelmed? A nervous wreck? Don’t miss this episode, where I’ll share my tips for feeling calm and confident about the year ahead, and how to help your kids through their transition back…
What It Means To Be a Good Mom – 052
Aug 6, 2019 • 17 min
The majority of my clients come to me believing that they’re bad moms. They feel like failures. They feel guilty, ashamed, and inadequate. They tell me they just want to be good moms. But what does that even mean? Who decides what makes a good mom,…
The Problem with I-Statements – 051
Jul 30, 2019 • 13 min
I-Statements are a technique often recommended by counselors and therapists to help with communication. They’re supposed to reduce defensiveness when trying to resolve conflicts by focusing on how you feel, rather than attacking the other person’s…
Out of the Mouths of Babes: Conversations with Marissa and Dalia – 050
Jul 23, 2019 • 27 min
Today on the podcast, I interview two VERY special guests. They’re the ones who call me “Mommy.” Marissa (13) and Dalia (almost 10!), share what they know and understand about what I teach as a life coach. They offer their advice to moms about parenting…
Bridging the Belief Gap – 049
Jul 16, 2019 • 13 min
When my clients first learn that they’re in control of their thoughts and feelings, they’re blown away. They feel like they’ve just unlocked the secret of the Universe…which, of course, they have. They want to start changing all of their negative thoughts…
When Mom Has Separation Anxiety – 048
Jul 9, 2019 • 14 min
When you hear the term “separation anxiety,” you probably think of a toddler clinging to his mother’s leg and crying while she’s trying to leave the house or the preschool. I wanted to do an episode about separation anxiety for moms who become excessively…
Put Down the Parenting Book – 047
Jul 2, 2019 • 13 min
As of today, there are more than 50,000 parenting books on Amazon. These books are filled with different techniques, strategies, theories, and opinions related to parenting that often contradict one another, which can leave parents feeling confused,…
When Your Child Lies to You – 046
Jun 25, 2019 • 17 min
Nothing seems to upset parents more than when their child lies to them. But since lying is a normal and natural part of child development, every parent deals with it at some point. While you may not have control over whether or not your kids lie to you,…
Keeping Friendship Strong – 045
Jun 18, 2019 • 11 min
We’re taught to believe that the quality of a friendship depends on how people behave toward each other. But that’s not true. The quality of a friendship really depends on how people think about each other. If you’re feeling dissatisfied with a friendship…
Making New Friends – 044
Jun 11, 2019 • 20 min
From an early age, friendships are a vital part of our social development and emotional well-being. As we grow older, and especially after having kids, we tend to get so caught up in our responsibilities at home and at work that we sometimes neglect to…
Overcoming Loneliness – 043
Jun 4, 2019 • 14 min
I’ve coached many moms who struggle with loneliness. Their husbands travel for work. Their families live far away. They’ve been through a divorce. And yet, I’ve also worked with moms in these same exact situations who don’t feel lonely at all. How is that…
How to Stop Beating Yourself Up – 042
May 28, 2019 • 12 min
Most of us would never speak to our best friends the way we speak to ourselves. When we make a mistake or act in a way we regret, we mentally beat ourselves up with harsh, negative self-talk. Our brains think that this kind of self-punishment is somehow…
Dealing with Entitlement – 041
May 21, 2019 • 23 min
Entitled kids believe the world revolves around them. They want what they want, when they want it, and they don’t know when enough is enough. The rules don’t apply to them. They will resort to whining, negotiating, begging, pleading, guilt-tripping,…
Switched On Parenting with Dr. Kristy Goodwin – 040
May 14, 2019 • 33 min
With technology constantly changing and evolving, it can feel overwhelming to parent in the digital age. There are so many decisions to make when it comes to setting appropriate screen-time limits for our kids and for ourselves. Join me for today’s…
Feeling Appreciated on Mother’s Day (and every day) – 039
May 7, 2019 • 12 min
Mother’s Day is the one day of the year specifically dedicated to appreciating moms. But not every mom feels appreciated on Mother’s Day. In fact, many of the moms I coach tell me that they feel unappreciated, or taken for granted, on most days. Don’t…
The Power of Play – 038
Apr 30, 2019 • 17 min
Long before kids speak their first words, they learn the language of Play. As they get older, play continues to be their main way of communicating and learning. But play isn’t only necessary for kids. It’s essential for adults, too. Join me for this…
Are You Raising a People Pleaser? – 037
Apr 23, 2019 • 14 min
Are you raising a people-pleaser? Do you suffer from the “disease to please?” While it may seem easier to have a child who’s always agreeable, has a strong desire to be liked, and goes out of his or her way to please you, the long-term consequences of…
Emotional Adulthood – 036
Apr 16, 2019 • 15 min
Most people go through life living in a state of emotional childhood, blaming external circumstances for their feelings. When you combine kids who have no ability to manage their minds with parents who don’t manage their own, it can spell trouble. Join me…
Consequences with Love – 035
Apr 9, 2019 • 17 min
Did you know that you can set and enforce consequences with love? It’s not only possible, it’s also much more effective. Tune into today’s episode where I talk about the differences between consequences and punishments, the different types of…
Is Your Child’s Behavior Normal? – 034
Apr 2, 2019 • 19 min
Do you ever get frustrated with your child and wonder, “What’s wrong with my kid? Is this behavior NORMAL?” If you answered, “yes,” you’re not alone.Parents feel agitated, worried, or confused by their kids’ behavior all the time. But with a better…
Helping Kids Manage Their Emotions – 033
Mar 26, 2019 • 18 min
Do you ever feel stuck when it comes to helping your kids manage big emotions? Do you have a hard time helping them because your own emotions and reactions get in the way? In today’s episode, I share why it can be so challenging to help your kids when…
Parenting with a Growth Mindset – 032
Mar 19, 2019 • 12 min
You’ve probably heard it said that “mindset is everything.” But what does that really mean? What is a mindset? And more specifically, what’s a Growth Mindset? In today’s episode, I explain exactly what a Growth Mindset is, how it can help you as a parent,…
What’s Your Story? – 031
Mar 12, 2019 • 15 min
As humans, we love stories. Storytelling is one of the main ways we connect with other people. We tell stories all the time without even realizing it — about our daily experiences and about our relationships and our past. The way we tell these stories is…
Glamour and Goop: An Interview with Susan Egan – 030
Mar 5, 2019 • 38 min
Susan Egan is a Tony Award nominee for Best Actress as Broadway’s original “Belle” in Disney’s Beauty and the Beast. She’s best known to animation fans as “Rose Quartz/Pink Diamond” on Cartoon Network’s Steven Universe and the sassy “Megara” in Disney’s…
No Regrets – 029
Feb 26, 2019 • 11 min
Regret is the feeling you experience when you wish you had done things differently in the past. While we all feel regret from time to time, some people use it to punish themselves and others use it to bring about change. On this episode, I’m sharing how…
Stop Taking Things Personally – 028
Feb 19, 2019 • 11 min
The eye roll. The “Whatever, Mom.” Completely ignoring your requests. How can you stop taking these things personally when they’re clearly about you? Tune into this episode where I explain why even though it feels like it, other people’s behavior isn’t…
Victim Mentality – 027
Feb 12, 2019 • 12 min
Be honest. How often do you think thoughts like these? “This shouldn’t be happening.” “Nobody appreciates me.” “I have to do everything.” “My life is so hard.” Many people aren’t even aware that they’re thinking these thoughts on a regular basis, but they…
Taming Morning Madness – 026
Feb 5, 2019 • 16 min
How would you describe mornings in your home? Do you rush around trying to make sandwiches and sign field trip forms before the bus arrives? Do you yell because your kids dawdle or whine that they don’t want to wear the outfit they picked out the night…
No Wrong Decisions – 025
Jan 29, 2019 • 10 min
Do you struggle with indecision? There was a time (not too long ago) when I felt overcome with anxiety about making even the smallest decisions. Then, one single thought helped me feel more confident about making both big and small decisions in my life.…
Freedom from Perfection – 024
Jan 22, 2019 • 14 min
Our culture is obsessed with perfection. There’s pressure all around us to have the perfect body, the perfect house, the perfect baby stroller, the perfect kids with the perfect grades. Even those of us who know that striving for perfection is unrealistic…
Releasing Judgment – 023
Jan 15, 2019 • 18 min
Whether or not you like to admit it, judging others is something we all do. I’ve found that the more curious and open I’ve been about examining my judgmental thoughts, the better I’ve been able to understand myself and those thoughts, and ultimately…
Parenting with Patience – 022
Jan 8, 2019 • 14 min
Do you struggle with feeling impatient and irritable? Do you wish you could feel more tolerant and patient with your kids? Tune into this episode to learn about why moms find it so challenging to be patient, and how to feel patience more often.
Quit Being Busy – 021
Jan 1, 2019 • 14 min
Most of us have been taught to believe that being busy is a good thing. We think that being busy means we’re important, valuable, successful, and productive. But what if that isn’t true? What if being busy leads to feeling stressed out, overwhelmed, and…
Organize Your Home with Shira Gill – 020
Dec 25, 2018 • 41 min
Is your home a hot mess? I believe that an organized mind creates an organized life. That’s why I invited Shira Gill to be today’s guest. She’s a Professional Organizer and a Certified Life Coach who has transformed the lives and homes of hundreds of…
How to Change Your Beliefs – 019
Dec 18, 2018 • 12 min
Many of my clients and podcast listeners intellectually understand the idea that their thoughts create their feelings, actions, and results. But they have a hard time applying the concept in their own lives. They know they want to change their thoughts…
Your Relationship Manual – 018
Dec 11, 2018 • 14 min
In all relationships, we have rules and expectations of how we think other people should operate. These make up our “manuals” (or instruction guides) for our relationships. Usually, we don’t tell other people what’s in our manuals. We think they should…
The Ultimate Gift for Your Kids – 017
Dec 4, 2018 • 15 min
Do you know what your kids want more than anything? They might tell you it’s the latest iPhone or a trip to Disney World. But that’s not what they really want. What they really want is so much better than that. Listen in to today’s episode and find out…
Saying No to Your Kids – 016
Nov 27, 2018 • 14 min
This week we’re wrapping up our month-long series in NO-vember with an episode about how to say “no” to your kids. https://lessdramamoremama.com/016
How to Set Boundaries – 015
Nov 20, 2018 • 12 min
Setting boundaries is an important part of establishing your identity and defining who you are. Most people are confused and misinformed about what boundaries are, when they’re appropriate, and how to set them. They think of setting boundaries as a way to…
Defining Your Priorities – 014
Nov 13, 2018 • 11 min
We’re in our second week of NO-vember and we’re talking about priorities. Getting clear on your priorities will help you when it comes to saying no and spending your time in a much more deliberate way. Tune in to learn what I recommend you make your #1…
How to Say No – 013
Nov 6, 2018 • 17 min
Have you ever agreed to do something without really thinking about it and ended up feeling resentful? Do you feel like you’re always busy, but not very productive? Do you agree to things you don’t want to do because it just seems easier than dealing with…
The Masks We Wear – 012
Oct 30, 2018 • 12 min
Do you ever worry that you’ll be exposed as a fraud when it comes to motherhood? Do you feel like everyone around you is doing a better job than you when it comes to raising kids? Do you find yourself acting one way in private and another way in public?…
How to Feel a Feeling – 011
Oct 23, 2018 • 15 min
Most of us were never taught how to feel our feelings. We learned to deal with our emotions by watching how others deal with theirs — by resisting, reacting, and avoiding. On today’s episode, I share a fourth option that most people don’t even know about,…
Take a Break from Drinking with Rachel Hart – 010
Oct 16, 2018 • 39 min
Are you ready to take a break from drinking? Today on the podcast, I interview Master Coach Rachel Hart. Rachel coaches women who want to change their drinking habit and reduce their desire for alcohol once and for all. Rachel is poised, personable, and…
Balance of Emotions – 009
Oct 9, 2018 • 11 min
Many people misunderstand the goal of coaching; they think it’s to feel happy all of the time. But that’s not the goal. The goal of coaching is to become more aware of the thoughts causing your feelings, and more intentional about the thoughts you choose…
Accepting Help – 008
Oct 2, 2018 • 10 min
In this episode, I talk about the reasons it can be challenging to accept parenting help, and I explain all the reasons why signing up for a mini-session with me is a smart decision. Will you accept? Full show notes at http://www.lessdramamoremama.com/008
Breaking Your Worry Habit – 007
Sep 25, 2018 • 18 min
Are you a worrier? I have good news for you: worrying is a habit that can be broken! In today’s episode, I discuss what worrying is, why it’s not useful, and what to do instead. Full show notes at http://www.lessdramamoremama.com/007
Your Solution to Any Problem – 006
Sep 17, 2018 • 18 min
In today’s episode, I introduce you to the Self Coaching Model, a tool you can use to solve any problem in your life. Knowing and understanding the model is seriously life-changing. Full show notes at http://www.lessdramamoremama.com/006
Letting Go of Guilt – 005
Sep 11, 2018 • 13 min
In this episode, I share some stories about my own experiences with guilt and how I was able to let it go. Full show notes at http://www.lessdramamoremama.com/005
Questions for Self-Reflection – 004
Sep 4, 2018 • 16 min
In this episode, I share why the process of self-reflection is so important, and give examples of some questions to ask yourself. Full show notes at http://www.lessdramamoremama.com/004
How to Stop Yelling at Your Kids – 003
Aug 28, 2018 • 13 min
Every morning you wake up with the intention of keeping your cool, but somehow by dinnertime, all bets are off. You’ve lost all control of yourself and your kids, and you can’t seem to get it back. Full show notest at http://www.lessdramamoremama.com/003
Your Kids Can’t Make You Angry – 002
Aug 28, 2018 • 12 min
When Marissa was a toddler, I started yelling a lot because it seemed to be the only that “worked.” It got me the short-term results I wanted, and it helped me feel powerful and in control. But I hated myself. Full show notest at…
Why You Should Listen to the Podcast – 001
Aug 25, 2018 • 6 min
Welcome to the very first episode of Less Drama More Mama, the podcast for moms who want to feel calm, in control, and confident about how to handle anything life throws their way! Here’s what you’ll discover: Who is Pam Howard, anyway? Who this podcast…