Q Marriage Mentors

Q Marriage Mentors

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Psychotherapist Jeff Lutes holds candid conversations with remarkable lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender couples about what makes great relationships really work. Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/jefflutes/support


#34: JENELL & ANGELA
Nov 11 • 31 min
“HAWK FEATHERS AND FIERCE VULNERABILITY” - Some people hold their first date in a fancy restaurant on a cruise ship. Not Jenell and Angela. After connecting online, they decided to meet halfway between Houston and Austin and proceeded to spend the next 10…
#33: GARY & RICHARD
Jun 18 • 36 min
“ALMOST STONEWALL, ALMOST WOODSTOCK, ABSOLUTE LOVE” - For nearly 36 years, Gary Cooper and Richard Hartgrove have loved one another, faced multiple challenges, and given unselfishly to the LGBTQ community in many ways. They first met when Gary lived in…
#32: KELLY & SARAH
May 30 • 34 min
“LONGEVITY AND A KING-SIZE ELECTRIC BLANKET” - In this episode, Kelly and Sarah Ross talk about their 17 relationship and how they persevered despite the death of Kelly’s mom, the rejection when Sarah came out to her parents, and the challenges of…
#31: DENICE & MARY
May 8 • 33 min
“NOTHING SAYS LESBIAN LOVE LIKE A PEZ DISPENSER” - In this episode, Jeff talks with Denice Bain and Mary Priddy from Bastrop County, Texas. Denice and Mary have been together 16 years, after a colleague at Dell played matchmaker. Don’t miss the…
#30: TERRY REAL
Apr 8 • 31 min
“CHALLENGING GRANDIOSITY AND PATRIARCHY IN COUPLES & COUPLES THERAPY” - Today Jeff takes a break from the usual format of interviewing couples to welcome a very special guest. Terry Real is the founder of the Relational Life Institute in Arlington,…
#29: TONY & ROSS
Apr 1 • 28 min
“SOMETIMES COMMITMENT TRANSCENDS THE SELF” - Tony Shelton and Ross Smith from Houston, Texas, have been together 28 years. Have you ever heard of someone meeting their husband at the very first party after they come out? That’s what happened to Ross! In…
#28: KAREN & JENA
Mar 20 • 27 min
“FROM UNREQUITED CRUSHES TO THE GIRL SCOUTS” - In this episode, Jeff talks with Jena Recer and Karen Phemister. Karen is a water quality scientist for the City of Austin and Jena is soap maker and a pet sitter. In fact, they were pet sitting when we spoke…
#27: ANN & IRIS
Mar 11 • 31 min
“YODEL AND THEN DISMANTLE CLASSISM” - Ann Benson and Iris Harrell from Santa Rosa, California, met 40 years ago when Iris heard Ann sing and yodel at an all lesbian coffee house sponsored by the National Organization of Women. In this episode, they talk…
#26: JEFF LUTES
Mar 4 • 16 min
“EMPATHY, STRESS, AND POSITIVE ILLUSIONS” - Today Jeff shares some thoughts based on the work of Helen Fisher, the biological anthropologist who ran people through a brain scanner and discovered three parts of the brain that get activated among those in…
#25: PAIGE & KATY
Feb 19 • 29 min
“ACADEMIC MEETS VIKING IN GROUP THERAPY” - Prior to coming out, Paige Schilt thought her interest in gender and sexual minorities was purely intellectual and academic. Katy Koonce, on the other hand, became quickly self-aware when a friend took her to a…
#24: DAVID & DANA
Feb 12 • 30 min
“I JUST CALLED TO SAY I LOVE YOU” - David Ferguson and Dana Hall met in church 18 years ago and went to dinner one stormy night after a congregant played matchmaker. They married in Iowa, and over the years learned the importance of saying “I love you”…
#23: KIM & CARMEN
Feb 5 • 27 min
“RESOUNDING HARMONY AND A NEW POTATO MASHER” - In this episode, Jeff talks with Kim Wisdom and Carmen Field from Richardson, Texas. Carmen remembers being mesmerized by Kim after hearing her sing at a concert, and Kim recalls having an equally strong…
#22: JULIE & JOANNE
Jan 30 • 28 min
“46 YEARS AND STILL THRIVING AFTER TRANSITION” - In this episode, Julie and Joanne Nemecek from Jackson, Michigan tell their remarkable story of meeting in college when Julie was still “John”. They married, had three boys, and later survived Julie’s…
#21: LYNNE & MARILYN
Jan 21 • 29 min
“JUST THE PRICE OF ADMISSION” - Lynne Weynand and Marilyn Buckner from Coupeville, Washington met in a music class in 1973. But for the next 20 years, they lived very different lives. In their mid-forties they reconnected and have now been together 21…
#20: KIMBERLY & KAI
Jan 14 • 32 min
“LOVE WELCOMES ALL: HOW A CHRISTIAN MOM BECAME A FIERCE ADVOCATE FOR HER TRANS DAUGHTER” - Today Jeff takes a break from the usual format of interviewing LGBTQ couples. Instead, he has a conversation with Kimberly Shappley, a Christian mother of seven who…
#19: SUZANNE & SARAH
Jan 6 • 31 min
“JEFF LEARNS FROM TWO OF HIS SHEROES”- Suzanne Bryant and Sarah Goodfriend are a remarkable couple of 34 years that share a deep commitment to making the world a better place. In this episode, they talk about the early “Tweety Bird” moments, parenting two…
#18: CHAD & PASHA
Dec 17, 2018 • 29 min
“WHEN BREAKING UP IS NOT AN OPTION” In this episode, Chad Peevy and Pasha Sabori talk about building a life together. Chad tried to sabotage the relationship three times, but Pasha persisted and now they are busy growing incredibly successful careers…
#17: MARY & ANNE
Dec 10, 2018 • 31 min
“ON BEING ADULTS (BUT CERTAINLY NOT GROWN UPS)” - Mary Summerall and Anne Woods met in a writer’s group while they were both in other relationships. They reconnected on Facebook a few years later when those relationships had ended. In this episode, they…
#16: ADAM & MASEAN
Dec 3, 2018 • 30 min
“KARAOKE, THE GOLDEN GIRLS, & RADICAL AUTHENTICITY” - Sometimes couples that choose an open or polyamorous relationship are judged and misunderstood by others. In this episode, Adam Maurer and MaSean Fontenot give us a refreshingly honest look at what it…
#15: CAITLIN & JENNIFER
Nov 26, 2018 • 31 min
“I LOVE YOU AND I LIKE YOU” - Caitlin MacIntyre and Jennifer Luu met on the Equality Ride; a two month bus tour of young people trying to change hearts and minds at religious colleges and universities with policies that discriminate against LGBTQ…
#14: GREGG & DAN
Nov 12, 2018 • 30 min
“FIRST DATE DINNER, SECOND DATE AFRICAN SAFARI” - Gregg Kaminsky is the co-founder of R Family Vacations and Daniel MacDonald is a Broadway producer and a television entrepreneur. Gregg and Dan have been together 18 years and on this episode they talk…
#13: PAT & MARTHA
Nov 5, 2018 • 30 min
“BE INTERESTED, LISTEN, AND DON’T TRY TO CHANGE EACH OTHER” - Pat Freeman and Martha Knowles have been together 23 years. They worked at the Texas Attorney General’s Office for many years, but neither realized the other was gay until they met at a…
#12: IVAN & FABIO
Oct 29, 2018 • 29 min
“MENTORING OTHERS TOWARD RECOVERY” - Research indicates that approximately 30% of the LGBTQ community struggles with some form of addiction. In this episode, Ivan Carlos Zheral’dovich and Fabio Zuluaga from Houston talk about their 24 year relationship,…
#11: KEN & TOM
Oct 22, 2018 • 30 min
“SWITCHING TRAINS AND CREATING SANCTUARY” - Ken Martin and Tom Cole have been together 43 years and live on 14 lush acres in Manor, Texas. Ken is a retired clergyperson and Tom is a retired art director in the television & film industry. Jeff visited…
#10: ROSIE & BOBBY
Oct 15, 2018 • 30 min
“LOVING EACH OTHER MORE THAN HALF A CENTURY” - Jeff visits the home of Bobby Dell Adcock and Rosie Williams in Austin, Texas. These two incredible woman, both in their 80’s, met in 1965 but loved each other in secrecy for the first 40 years of their…
#9: BRYAN & JOAN
Oct 8, 2018 • 31 min
“18 YEAR AGE DIFFERENCE AND DEEPLY CONNECTED” - Bryan Cotton and Joan Valaderez live in Houston, Texas. Bryan is a financial advisor and Joan is a teacher. In this conversation with Jeff, they share their vastly different coming out experiences and what…
#8: DOTTI & ROBY
Oct 1, 2018 • 31 min
“LIVING WITH COURAGE AND AUTHENTICITY” - Dotti Berry and Roby Sapp live in Blaine, Washington and they are simply amazing. Life has thrown them the kind of curve balls that would have derailed most couples long ago. Yet, against all odds, they have found…
#7: KELVON & NEIL
Sep 24, 2018 • 30 min
“SOMETIMES ANGELS ARE GAY” - Kelvon Hansen and Neil Ely live in San Marcos, Texas and have been together for 33 years. They own and operate Akya-Aveda Concept Salon and are incredibly talented in their profession. But that’s just what they do for a…
#6: MICKI & MARY MARGARET
Sep 17, 2018 • 30 min
“BAYLOR UNIVERSITY TO MARRIAGE 40 YEARS LATER” - Jeff visits the gorgeous home of Micki Grimland and Mary Margaret Bodenhamer in Houston, Texas. Micki is a psychotherapist and Mary Margaret is in an executive in the pharmaceutical sales industry. These…
#5: JASON & DEMARCO
Sep 10, 2018 • 30 min
” JOURNEY TO SERVING OTHERS ON GRATIDUDE RANCH” - Jason Warner and deMarco DeCiccio from Franklin, Tennessee have packed a lot into their 17 years together. They met at a restaurant in LA, traveled the country as a gospel singing duo, and now share a…
#4: LISA & MAURINE
Aug 31, 2018 • 30 min
“FOUR LITTLE WORDS FROM TWO QUEER FOLKSINGERS” - Lisa Rogers and Maurine McLean from Austin, Texas have been together for 36 years. Jeff drank coffee in their kitchen as Lisa (a social work professor) and Maurine (a Spanish translator and court room…
#3: JEFF & BRADD
Aug 24, 2018 • 30 min
“FROM CRYSTAL METH TO COPARENTING AND CONNECTION” - Jeff Zacharias and Bradd Easton own and operate New Hope Recovery Center - an addictions treatment program in Chicago. Later in the episode, Jeff shares how his own addictions nearly killed him, how…
#2: DELLA & RUTH
Aug 17, 2018 • 31 min
“TWO HEARTS HOLD EIGHT CHILDREN” - Jeff visits the home of Della Nagle and Ruth Pinkham, an amazing couple together 33 years in San Antonio, Texas. In this heartfelt conversation, they share how they met as summer camp counselors and went on to become…
#1: TOBY & KIP
Aug 10, 2018 • 31 min
“YOUNG BANKER MEETS HEAD OF THE HOMOSEXUALS” - Toby Johnson & Kip Dollar live in Austin, Texas and have been together for 34 years. Jeff visited their beautiful home and listened as they shared stories about how they met (it’s a bit like the Ellen “coming…