The King Within

The King Within

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If you are a father who has been through a breakup then this is the podcast for you. Here, Millar talks about how the breakup is your launchpad for growth and unlocking the king within. How to best navigate being a single dad so that you can: - Move on with your life - See your kids more - Improve things with your ex


Stuck In Your Head? Here’s 3 Reasons Why + How To Stop It
Aug 9 • 13 min
Going through a breakup can challenge the internal direction of any man. Where to from here? Was everything back then BS? Am I really what she is accusing me of? In this podcast I cover the 3 main reasons (in my experience) that have led to me being so…
How To Say Yes or No To People With Confidence, Conviction and Clarity
Jul 25 • 13 min
Today I talk about the importance of knowing exactly what you want and why you want it. Sometimes the things we want aren’t even things that are truly our own - Do you ever feel like the reasons your parents wanted things are the same things you do..?…
How To Withstand ‘The Barrage’ of Insults When Communicating
Jul 2 • 14 min
How many times have you attempted to have a ‘productive’ conversation only to find that it ends up in a war of words that all hit below the belt? It’s hard as shit not to get caught up in the emotion of the situation when you have someone personally…
Why It’s Your RESPONSIBILITY To Disappoint People
Jun 20 • 9 min
Men, enough of this people pleasing so that we don’t ‘rock the boat’. It’s time to shake that shit up! (if it’s for your benefit). What I’m saying is that too many of us (including myself in the past) start living life based upon WHAT WE THINK OTHER…
3 Hard Truths You’re Avoiding That Will Unlock Life Mastery (If You Have The Courage)
Jun 12 • 20 min
Have you ever felt like other people just ‘get it’ in life and you somehow come off second best. Every. Single. Time? What about feeling like others are in the ‘cool’ group and you’re stuck on the outer looking in behind some sort of perspex barrier that…
One Massive Mistake You’re Making When Speaking To Your Ex (I Still Do This Too)
May 23 • 18 min
Are you constantly in battles between your ex where you’ll say one thing that annoys her and then you feel the repercussions through: - More restricted time with your kids - The Silent Treatment - Not being able to see your kids It’s not uncommon. And…
Happy Wife = NO LIFE
May 2 • 13 min
How many times have you had it where you’ve had some great idea for it to be shot down by your partners fear/uncertainty? Where you have that seed of potential inside of you calling you somewhere or to do something but when discussing it with your partner…
How To Stop Waiting For ‘The Dust To Settle’ To Be Happy Again
Apr 10 • 15 min
Most people need all their ducks in their EXTERNAL environment to be in line before they can be happy.. Needing the validation and permission from others and things to be happy again.. BS Here are a few facts: - There are always new problems arising in…
Stop F*cking Lying: Why Burning Your Life To The Ground Is Important
Apr 2 • 20 min
It’s important for every man to go through change or rebirth in his life.. and the reality is: It’s happening whether you like it or not. The question is.. Do you want to be in control of it? Or in reaction to it? In this podcast I go through why lying…
Gambling, Drugs and Sex: What Are You Doing To Fill The Void?
Mar 19 • 13 min
After we go through the breakup we go from work/kids/family time as the main things that we do to then being in a situation where we’re on our own a lot more. Then what happens is we become our own worst enemy because of the constant thoughts about the…
Stop Sucking On The Tit of Life! Masculinity is More Than Obtaining Things
Mar 7 • 21 min
Buying houses, toys, clothes, money or cars… All things that we’ve been told to search for and will subsequently make us happy…right? Wrong. Masculinity is more than just obtaining shit to make ourselves feel a temporary surge of serotonin. In fact, when…
Delving Into The Subconscious: Cutting Out Neediness and Getting Your Buttons Pushed
Mar 3 • 19 min
The man you are RIGHT NOW is the tip of the ice-burg when compared to the man you COULD BE. And the fact is that the things that are holding you back from getting from A to B are issues that YOU DON’T EVEN KNOW EXIST. How are you meant to fix something…
Climbing Out of Your Suffocating and Debilitating Rut
Feb 19 • 12 min
Soon after the breakup I went through this period of blaming others… but soon after that, I was left understanding that I needed to change something about myself but not knowing: A) WHAT or B) HOW There is no guide map and structure for pulling yourself…
Making The Transition To Single Dad, Faster and Easier By Looking Within
Feb 14 • 11 min
As men we can get so focussed on the end goal that we forget to appreciate the present OR when life events happen and that end goal is taking away from us it can leave us feeling like failures. We continue along in life just idling through without a…
Your Problems Are Your Fault! ..Here’s Why (And How To Fix Them)
Jan 29 • 13 min
Life’s easy when you’re blaming others. Life’s A LOT harder when you’re putting your own actions under the microscope - and for good reason. The problems that are showing up in your life today are a reflection of the man that you have been up until this…
Stop Protecting Your Loved Ones From Pain
Jan 21 • 13 min
So often us men feel like we have to bare the brunt of all the pain, problems and obstacles in not only our own lives but also the lives of our children, partners, friends and family. Well, I’m here to tell you, you don’t have to go in it alone. Your…
Am I A Man Basher, Blamer or Hater?
Jan 8 • 11 min
In today’s episode I talk about ‘man blaming’ off the back of some videos I’ve posted recently. There are some comments in there about BLAMING men and not women…am I a man basher? Listen in to find out my thoughts on this issue.
How To Trust People Again When You’ve Been Burnt
Dec 18, 2018 • 12 min
Today I riff on TRUST after a troll called me out on Facebook. It got me thinking….Is trust different for people at different ages? What does this mean for you as a father and a partner? How can you trust again after someone burns you? Listen in to find…
Man Up With Millar is No More… Here’s Why.
Dec 11, 2018 • 12 min
As some of you may have noticed.. Man Up With Millar is no longer! In this podcast I go into why I changed the name and what it means for you as a single father being the king of your kingdom! I cover: - How to look at change in your life so it happens…
Beginning The Journey Means Accepting That You’re Shit
Dec 3, 2018 • 16 min
So, after going to my regular salsa dance night and realising that I was definitely not where I wanted to be…I realised that I had to accept that I was shit before I could move on…. See, I was judging the shit out of myself for where I was and not…
Walking Through The Door of Uncertainty
Nov 26, 2018 • 11 min
Let’s face it. Going through a breakup with the mother of your kids can leave you feeling lost and uncertain….in more ways than one. Will I see my kids again? Why did this happen? Who the FUCK am I? If there’s one thing for sure it’s that this breakup has…
If You Really Love Her You’ll Let Her Go
Nov 6, 2018 • 12 min
Today I talk about the difficulties that arise when separating and deep down still wanting that other person in your life. Is this because you ‘love’ them or because you ‘need’ them? When the mother of your kids breaks up with you, many men will struggle…
Life Without Pain is BS. [Personal Story]
Oct 29, 2018 • 8 min
In this podcast I talk about a recent experience I had with saying bye to my son after drop off. It cut me deep and re-opened a wound from the initial stages of the breakup when I had to drop off the kids and felt like I was a failure and doing the wrong…
The Warning Signs Men Don’t Know About
Oct 24, 2018 • 10 min
Most men struggle with self-awareness. In fact, most people struggle with it. Today I talk about the importance of finding YOURSELF and how you can do that through the breakup itself. We need to move away from being mindless working robots and move into a…
Robert Kandell on Narcissists, Parenting and Improving Communication
Oct 15, 2018 • 24 min
In this podcast I interview Robert Kandell, author of the book Unhidden and host of the Tuff Love Podcast. Rob works with men and women on improving communication in their relationships by helping them with tools and techniques but most importantly…
Finding Your Purpose And Why You Should Go On
Oct 8, 2018 • 12 min
A man’s purpose is the most important thing in his life. Men who lack purpose will lack direction, motivation and drive. They will wonder why they are here and feel like working DOGS who are living their life for the needs of others. In today’s podcast I…
Sean Whalen On Owning Your Sh*t To Generate POWER
Oct 3, 2018 • 20 min
Sean Whalen is a single-dad doing big things. Author of ‘How To Make Sh*t Happen’, Creator of Lions Not Sheep and The Revolution Podcast, Sean knows a thing or two about being through tough shit after a breakup with the mother of your kids. In this…
How to Balance Your Masculine and Feminine
Sep 17, 2018 • 11 min
As men, from an early age we get taught how to WORK, PROVIDE, GRIND and seek out SEX. We are not taught how to be still, reflect, dig deep into ourselves and go on the journey within. Work, hustle, grind, sex, sleep, repeat. Today I talk about how to…
Interview w Jeff Scult on Re-Connecting To Your Gold
Sep 11, 2018 • 63 min
Jeff Scult is the founder of One Golden Thread - A ‘Tree-Shirt’ company that is centred around connection and reminding us of our inherent golden nature. After going through some big life events Jeff changed his tune on life, choosing to let go of the…
The 4 Agreements For Every Man
Sep 3, 2018 • 8 min
Without a set of ‘rules’ to being a man or at least guidelines, its hard to know exactly what to do in times of stress or struggle. In this podcast I go through the ‘4 Agreements’ for any man to live his life by. But simply listening to these is not…
What If I NEVER Meet Another Woman Again?
Sep 3, 2018 • 9 min
A massive fear that I personally had after the breakup was questioning if I was ever going to be able to be in another relationship again that was supportive and accommodated to the fact that I had kids. I was worried that I would meet my ‘one and only’…
Should You REALLY Get Back With The Mother of Your Kids?
Aug 28, 2018 • 10 min
In this podcast I talk about whether or not you SHOULD get back with the mother of your kids… it can be a certain decision for some men, for others it can be unsure and scary because of the implications it can have on the kids. I talk about a few…
Are You Your Own Worst Enemy?
Aug 22, 2018 • 9 min
Sometimes we can think that the battles are all outside of us… The mother of our kids… Parents… The court system.. But the reality is that behind closed doors when we’re all alone, the biggest battle of all is within ourselves! WE are our own worst enemy…
Have You Failed Your Kids?
Aug 20, 2018 • 10 min
I know how it can feel when you’ve been through the breakup and that possibly you have failed everyone that you really cared about. Well, in this podcast I get clear on when you have and when you haven’t failed…
The Four ‘Hats’ of Being In A Relationship…Life Changing
Aug 19, 2018 • 13 min
Many people think that getting into a relationship is easier than being single. The reality is, especially for men, that it becomes harder. More things to organise, better communication and being attentive to multiple facets of another person. Money,…
Two Secrets to a 60 Year Long Marriage
Aug 14, 2018 • 12 min
Today I talk about two secrets to having a 60 year long marriage from none other than my own Granny and Grandad! I asked them what was the key to having a long marriage while I was overseas visiting them in Scotland. Their answers were great!
Stop The Cycle of Negative Thoughts With This Strategy
Aug 8, 2018 • 7 min
I’m sure that you, as I did, got caught up in endless spirals of negative thoughts, worries and concerns…. What if there is another man around my kids? This is just my luck? I don’t deserve to be happy… And when it comes to breaking through these…
Women Want To Know What You Want! Here’s How to Show Them
Aug 7, 2018 • 11 min
One of the biggest issues women have when it comes to men is that they don’t know what we want. A friend of mine who coaches single ladies recently did a poll and that was the number one response. Check out this episode to understand why this is the case…
When Is The Right Time To Ask For Help?
Aug 6, 2018 • 10 min
One of the most common issues I see (and also have) is that us men struggle to ask for help. Instead, bottle things up, go into avoidance of the issue or self-destructive behaviour. So, why don’t we? and when is the right time to ask for it? In this…
Being Able to Heal Yourself and Move On With Life
Jul 30, 2018 • 7 min
Why is it that some people take years to actually heal the traumas of life events? There is something most people misunderstand about healing, which is that its an ACTIVE process…time is not enough. There is one thing that most people miss when trying to…
When is it Time to Surrender The Fight?
Jul 26, 2018 • 9 min
The battles that we fight as single dads can sometimes seem insurmountable and never ending. Battles with trying to get more visitation with the kids, having financial battles with the mother of your kids, battles in the court room or battles within our…
Your World Is Your Mirror
Jun 27, 2018 • 9 min
Everything in your life is a DIRECT reflection of that person that you are at this very moment. Your job, your friends, your relationships… everything.. This might be a bit hard to hear, but its true. So if this is the case you must ask yourself, WHO do I…
Unlock Incredible Motivation With These Tools
Jun 27, 2018 • 6 min
How do you get motivated when the things you want in your life seem so far away? How can you bridge the gap when A) the target seems so far away and B) you have to deal with a constant barrage of things from your ex, work and life. I cover: - The #1…
How To Deal With Emotional Flare Ups With Women
Jun 26, 2018 • 8 min
It’s time to stop walking away from emotional flare ups because ‘there’s just no point’. Think about what repeatedly withdrawing from disagreements communicates to women.. In this podcast I cover: - A strategy that you can use to deal with emotional flare…
A World of Disempowered Men
Jun 22, 2018 • 10 min
In this episode I get DEEP. Deep into why men are the most disempowered they have ever been and why I believe it has gotten to this point. You will discover: - How to pull yourself out of this and into empowerment - How to live a more authentic life so…
A Powerful Technique To Improving Communication With Your Ex
Jun 10, 2018 • 7 min
Seek first to understand and then to be understood. And when I’m talking about understanding your ex I don’t just mean listening to the words that she’s saying….In this podcast I cover: - A powerful technique that I take all of my clients through when…
How Your Ego Is Holding You Back From POWER
Jun 7, 2018 • 8 min
The illusive and evil EGO! How is this showing up for you at the moment? If there’s one thing for sure its that if you are ruled by your ego communication with the mother of your kids will be difficult and you will feel entitled and expectant of things in…
Is Fear Ruling The Decisions You Make? Get On Purpose TODAY!
Jun 3, 2018 • 10 min
In today’s podcast I get into the difference between fear based decisions and making decisions that are PROACTIVELY in alignment with your purpose or the life that you actually want to live. I cover: - How you’re currently living life on everyone else’s…
Vulnerability VS Insecurity
May 30, 2018 • 9 min
How do you stay open with your emotions without getting smacked down from your partner or ex-partner saying its too much? Where is that line between too much and ‘just enough’ emotion? In todays podcast I cover: - The framework you need to making sure…
Stop Pushing Women Away With Your Neediness
May 28, 2018 • 10 min
Have you ever been in a relationship where your partner would tell you: ‘Its too much’, ‘Your over the top’, ‘I feel like you want me more than I want you’?? One thing that women HATE is neediness.. but why does this happen to men? Why do we get stuck in…
Guilt VS Shame: Knowing The Difference Could Unlock Happiness Again
May 22, 2018 • 6 min
What is the difference between guilt and shame? If there’s one thing for sure, its that one of these will thrust you into action while the other will keep you stuck in no man’s land FOREVER. I cover: - An actionable task that will make the shift for you -…
How To Let Go of The Past
May 21, 2018 • 14 min
Here is a MASSIVE problem that most fathers will go through. Letting go of the things that happened or the lifestyle that you once had. In this podcast I cover: - What the real underlying issue is when you’re struggling with this - A few ways that you can…
Stop Using The Breakup As An Excuse!
May 17, 2018 • 8 min
If you’ve ever been guilty of getting stuck in the victimhood of going through the breakup, I can understand. The thing is that being here forever will leave you sad, lonely and depressed. You are in control of your own actions! In this podcast I cover: -…
How To Stop The Repetitive Cycle Of Pointless Arguments
May 16, 2018 • 9 min
If you’re sick of going around and around in circles and never getting anywhere when it comes to your communication and being able to compromise with your ex then listen up! In this podcast I cover: - The biggest trap that men get sucked into when they…
Your Ex Doesn’t Owe You SHIT!
May 14, 2018 • 8 min
Don’t get caught in the trap of thinking that because you have spent a long time in a relationship with her that you deserve a certain level of treatment. Now, although I do agree that this would be great in an ideal world, the reality is quite different.…
Here’s What You Need To Do To Get Back With Your Ex
May 9, 2018 • 9 min
If you are a father who wants to get back with your ex, here are a few of the fundamental things that need to happen. In this podcast I cover: - The mindset that is going to give you the best chance of it happening - Where most people go wrong when…
Interview With Juvan Langford on Fatherhood and Masculinity
May 7, 2018 • 36 min
In this podcast I interview Juvan Langford who is an international speaker and mens motivational speaker. He has worked on things like the MENtour and the Elevation Effect helping thousands of men around the world on being able to remove the masks that we…
Does Your Ex Still Control The Way You Feel?
May 4, 2018 • 8 min
No matter how much you try, the words that she says still get under your skin. Why do they constantly affect you in a negative way? Do you still love her? Do you still care about what she thinks? In this podcast I cover: - The reality of why this is…
Why Your Ex Doesn’t See A Problem With Withholding The Kids
May 2, 2018 • 10 min
This is one of the biggest problems single dads face and is definitely the source of enormous pain and suffering. In this episode I cover: - One reasoning behind why she is being difficult - How you can improve the relationship to see them more - Where…
Does Time Really Heal All Wounds?
May 1, 2018 • 7 min
So often I hear people giving advice like.. “You’ll be alright” or “Just give it a couple months and hang in there”.. But then I also speak to fathers years after they’ve broken up who still haven’t dealt with the past. In this podcast I cover: - The…
She Said She Never Wants To Be With You Again
Apr 26, 2018 • 9 min
One of the hardest things to hear when you want to get back with the mother of your children is: “I don’t ever want to get back with you again”. That light which was potentially there gets shut down like a candle being blown out. In this podcast I cover:…
Being a YES Man
Apr 23, 2018 • 10 min
Are you a man who says YES to people even when you know you shouldn’t? I cover: - How shutting down your personal power is impacting your identity - The repercussions this is having on your body - How to open up so that you can find yourself again
How to Start Believing In Yourself So That You Can Create Change
Apr 20, 2018 • 10 min
Half the battle in getting yourself through this is the belief that you can. How do you do that when everything seems so shaky and out of control? In todays episode I cover: - How to retrain yourself past the negative beliefs - Why its important to set…
How To Communicate After The Breakup
Apr 18, 2018 • 6 min
Communicating with your ex can be one of the hardest things to do when emotions are running high. In this podcast I go through: - How to rebuild the foundation so that you can improve communication - The mindset you need to have when it comes to emotional…
The Four Reasons Why Your Ex Won’t Let You See The Kids
Apr 16, 2018 • 8 min
Today I cover the four main categories areas that I have encountered with my work when it comes to your ex not letting you, or making it difficult for you to see the kids. You will hear: - Breakdown of the “Four S’s” and reasons why - How you can start…
Punishing Yourself For Making Mistakes
Apr 16, 2018 • 9 min
Today I talk about punishing yourself for things you either A) Have done or B) Haven’t done in the present or past. I cover: - The common ways punishing yourself can manifest - The impacts this is having on your well being and relationship with kids - The…
How to Deal With Feeling Lost and Alone
Apr 11, 2018 • 10 min
In todays episode I talk about how to deal with feeling lost, alone and not knowing the way forward. If you feel like you don’t even know yourself anymore then listen in. I cover: - How to shift your mindset so that you ramp up confidence - How to ensure…
The Mindset You Must Have For The Breakup
Apr 10, 2018 • 16 min
The very first episode of the Man Up With Millar Experience! Here I talk about: - How to get out of victimhood and into empowerment - The three levels of mindset that you MUST know - The reality of the breakup - How to move into taking powerful action