Parenting In The Thick Of It with Louise Clarke

Parenting In The Thick Of It with Louise Clarke

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Welcome to the Parenting In The Thick Of It show - the place where you will feel heard, supported and guided through YOUR parenting challenges. If you are tired, stressed, frustrated & struggle with kids not listening/being disrespectful, difficult behaviours, social media, or have a son with ADHD, tune in! By taking inspired action steps, I can help you re-align & create the life you deserve as a parent: to be the parent you know you can be and the parent your child needs you to be. You can find out more about me and get some great FREE parenting tips and tools at www.yourparentingpartner.com
56: Smelly Boy, Oh Smelly Boy…
Jul 16 • 6 min
When my neighbour knocked on my door and asked to borrow… my nose, I was intrigued. Little did I know that I already knew the answer, for I had no teenagers at the time. Tune in, it’s a good one!
55: Should Kids Listen To Music While They Are Studying?
Jul 13 • 6 min
This causes many parents much anguish, myself included. Yet, our children claim that it helps them study more effectively!!! What do we do? Lo-Fi might just be a better alternative. If you don’t know what it is, tune in…
54: If We Think Our Children Are Distracted By Screens, We Need To Look At Ourselves…
Jul 12 • 8 min
Little is written and spoken about the fact that adults are becoming more and more distracted by their smartphones. And it is wreaking havoc with their ability to connect with their children. Never before have a generation of parents spent so much “time”…
53: Can You Force Your Teenager To Do What You Used To Do?
Jul 11 • 11 min
Many parents I work with say this: “When I was his age, I was working so hard… I just don’t know why he can’t seem to do it?” “Because he is not you” I reply compassionately. It’s a tough place to find yourself but as long as we “put” our expectations on…
52: Not On The Same Parenting “Page” As Your Spouse?
Jul 10 • 8 min
Being on a different page is a common thing between parents. It can cause friction between the parents and confusion and inconsistency for the child. If this is something you struggle with, tune in…
51: I Thought You Would Get A Kick Out Of This!
Jul 9 • 7 min
I just got back from visiting my family in Scotland and this was what my daughter had to say about being left at home with her brothers and about being a “mom”… Tune in!
50: They Say That High EQ Is A Better Predictor Of Success Over IQ
Jul 6 • 7 min
However it is we choose to quantify or qualify “success”, building Emotional Intelligence in our children is super important and in this episode I share with you, where you might start. Tune in…
49: How Can We Know How To Do Something That We Have Never Done Before?
Jul 5 • 7 min
There is nothing that says we “should” know how to parent. In fact, how can we fully know how to do something that we have never done before? Yet, the reality is, many parents are embarrassed and ashamed of the fact that they sometimes find themselves not…
48: Toddlers, Teens & Triggers
Jul 4 • 9 min
There is nothing that can test us quite like a toddler or teen. It can be exhausting and leave us feeling like we have failed as a parent. Believe it or not, toddlers and teens have a lot in common. When we get these 3 key things right, we find ourselves…
47: Do You Have A Child That Negotiates With You Over Everything?
Jul 3 • 8 min
When your child argues with you and negotiates with you over everything, it can leave you feeling at your wit’s end. In this episode I discuss some strategies that work well for managing exactly this. Tune in…
46: Why Do I Behave & React The Way I Do?
Jul 2 • 7 min
In episode 45 I discussed the subject of our child’s behavior and the fact that there is always more to it than meets the eye. We are no different. If we hope to be able to “react” in socially acceptable ways to our child’s various behaviors we have to be…
45: There’s Always More Than Meets The Eye
Jun 29 • 7 min
In this episode I help you understand WHY your child sometimes behaves the way he/she does. There’s always more going on than meets the eye. We have to ask ourselves: what is the unmet need beneath the behavior and there is always one, if not more. Tune…
44: Many Of You Have Requested I Do This, So… Here It Is!
Jun 26 • 9 min
On the show today, I talk you through how you can start to meditate, what you will do and what might happen when you start. We all like to know what to expect, so this is what to expect! At the 4.5 minute mark, I take you through a 2 minute guided…
43: In My Role As A Parent, Doing This Has Helped Me More Than Anything
Jun 25 • 10 min
I have been discussing the topic of mindfulness and meditation on the Podcast a lot recently. And for good reason. If you are interested in finding more about meditation and HOW you can start to do it, tune in to the show today… For more information on…
42: Do You Struggle To Set Boundaries Around Screen Time?
Jun 22 • 14 min
It’s Friday and on the podcast today, I read my most recent blog post: Do You Struggle To Set Boundaries Around Screen Time? Tune in if you need some extra help with this common challenge. It is one that almost every parent I know struggles with. We blame…
41: The “Woowoos” Were Onto Something. Something HUGE…
Jun 21 • 12 min
And for years I’ve been onto it too, and trust me, I’m so not “woowoo”! At least I don’t think I am. Haha! So many parents say to me that they want to find ways to really connect with their child. This is how you do it. You have to first connect with…
40: Do You Know What Has Helped Me MOST As A Mom?
Jun 20 • 13 min
Doing this has been THE most empowering and rewarding thing in my life as a parent. I cannot stress this enough. I truly believe that THIS is where it is at. It is doing THIS that will help you stay calm in the moment when you are caught up in the thick…
39: How To Stay Calm In The Thick Of It? There Is A Way…
Jun 19 • 11 min
This is where it’s at. If you can master this, you are good to go! Haha, wouldn’t that be nice! It is a work in progress but with practice, you can become so attuned with where your mind is that in the moment, you are more able to sniff the reactivity…
38: Arghhhh… I’m So Caught Up In It
Jun 18 • 6 min
Sometimes when you are so caught up IN IT, and in the thick of it, you just can’t see a way out. Being able to look into it from the outside, offers us the chance to see the big picture. From here, the next step is often more obvious than you realize.…
37: Top Strategies For Discussing Report Cards With Your Kids
Jun 15 • 13 min
In this episode, I read this week’s blog post on how to facilitate healthy discussions around your child’s report card. Tune in…
36: Fed Up With The Kids Bugging Each Other & Fighting?
Jun 14 • 12 min
Sibling Rivalry… it’s so draining and awful to watch and be a part of. What many parents don’t realize is that they are inadvertently, and unintentionally, fuelling the fire. If you struggle with this and it’s been going on for too long, you will be…
35: Instagram… Are You On It? Do You Follow Your Kids On It?
Jun 13 • 8 min
I had such a cool discussion with a mom about this that I wanted to share it with you. If you follow your kids on Instagram, what are your reasons for doing so? I’d love to hear from you. Tune in…
34: “My Son Is Soooo Disrespectful”… R.E.S.P.E.C.T… Show Me Some!
Jun 12 • 13 min
This is one of THE most common things parent’s complain to me about. Sound familiar? The solution to this is not what you think it will be. Understanding this is so key. Tune in…
33: OMG… Teenagers! They Are So Amazing And Yet So…
Jun 11 • 12 min
One minute you are oooogling over how much you love them, then BOOM… you are triggered beyond anything you have ever experienced before! In this episode I share with you some ways to help you communicate with your teenagers and steer discussions in a…
32: All Families Need To Do This… Do You?
Jun 8 • 15 min
This is possibly one of the most important things we have done as a family and doing so has given our 3 kids the opportunity to develop some super important life skills. Curious… Tune in!…
31: Hot Topic Alert! Devices, Screen Time, Social Media… It’s A Biggie!
Jun 7 • 10 min
Such a HUGE topic and one which I’ll no doubt revisit over and over again on the show. It’s a challenge to all of us but WHY? Why does it bother us as much as it does? You HAVE TO work out your why in order to deal with this beast. Tune in as I share what…
30: The Most Encouraging Parenting Tip I Can Think Of…
Jun 6 • 16 min
Understanding and recognizing the difference between praise and encouragement cannot be under-estimated. One helps your child in more ways than you could imagine whilst the other… it’s toxic. Tune in. I also wrote about this in a recent blog post and have…
29: Dealing With Things In The Heat Of The Moment
Jun 5 • 10 min
When things get heated it’s easy to forget about the most important thing - to validate our child’s feelings. All too often we go straight to the point, to “fix” things only to find it fuels the fire. Tune in and find out what you can do…
28: Wait Till Your Hear My Consequence Story!
Jun 4 • 13 min
Many parents struggle with consequences. How, What, When, Why? Consequences are the greatest of teachers for our children because they teach them cause and effect: if X then Y. This is something they have to learn and these tips will help you handle…
27: Teenagers…Parties, Alcohol, Drugs & Rock ‘n Roll
Jun 1 • 13 min
Have you thought about how a conversation might go in the event that your teen comes home drunk or stoned? What will you say and do? In the episode today I discuss just this. What works and what might not work. Some ideas and food for thought. Tune in…
26: Exams, Tests, End Of The Year Pressure…Help!
May 31 • 10 min
This time of the year can be a stressful one for parents but also for children. Kids today are under so much pressure to achieve that I believe it is almost at breaking point. In this episode I discuss ways in which you can deal with this, specifically in…
25: How Do I Get My Kid To Eat?
May 30 • 12 min
There’s nothing more frustrating than a child who will not eat what you put in front of him/her. In this podcast I share 8 tips which will help you manage this with more ease. You can find all the tips I discuss in this episode in the blog post (link…
24: Why It Is Vital To Hold The Limits
May 29 • 16 min
Setting the boundary is the easy piece - “You can have 30 minutes on your iPad”. However, making sure it IS 30 minutes is the hard part. Why is it so hard? Because kids will push back on it. Every time. They don’t want it to end. In this episode I discuss…
23: You Ask Once, Twice, Thrice And Then What?
May 28 • 13 min
The holidays are fast approaching and remember, history repeats itself…They often are far from the relaxing break we thought we would be getting! Yes? In todays episode I discuss what you can do in advance of the holidays to bring more R and R. Tune in…
22: Why The Parenting Books Don’t Always Work
May 25 • 11 min
Have you ever read a parenting book, got some awesome advice and tips only to find they missed the biggest piece… that being what to do when what they recommend doesn’t work!! In this episode I discuss this help you understand what does work and why. Tune…
21: Why Judging Our Kiddos Is So Toxic
May 24 • 11 min
Judgment… Do you do it? Are you aware of when you do it and why it never turns out well? It’s a toxic pattern and one that many parents do without even knowing they are doing. In this episode I explain why we do it and what you can do to get out of it.…
20: How To Help An Anxious Child Before They Go To Sleep
May 23 • 7 min
Sometimes kids find it hard to actually get to sleep, adults too!! It can often be just the perfect time for our minds to take us for a ride. In this episode I share how I help my son to mind his mind, exit his mind, and use his breath to help him get to…
19: You Just Lost Your Sh*t, Exploded And Stormed out…Now What?
May 22 • 9 min
What do you do? In this episode I discuss this and give you lots of ideas and tips around the subject of apologizing. It is so so vital that our kids are able to apologize and it all starts with us and our ability to role model this behaviour to them.
18: When We Let Fear Drive Us
May 21 • 9 min
What you can do when you realize that you are caught in fear and how it prevents you from being able to do what is needed in the present moment. Tune in!
17: What To Do When Things Don’t Go To Plan
May 18 • 11 min
You are faced with a tantrum, or a reactive teenager, find yourself caught in an argument or you child announces they want to quit something… what do you do? Listen in and I’ll give you some ideas.
16: Preparing Ourselves For Report Cards
May 17 • 12 min
Our behaviours and responses to what we see on our child’s report card is critical to them developing courage and self-motivation… or not. We have to be aware of how powerful our influence is regarding this. Listen in.
15: Is Your Behaviour “Good” For Your Kids To Copy?
May 16 • 13 min
Children inherit so many of their behaviours from us, their parents so best we give them something acceptable and good to imitate! In this episode I discuss just this and how being aware of our internal landscape can help us shape our behaviours more…
14: Bribes, Rewards, Punishment… Do They Really Work?
May 15 • 11 min
In this episode I discuss just this and what happens when you use these methods to “discipline” your child. I refer to a piece called “No Need For Threats” on page 32 of The Parents Tao Te Ching by William Martin.
13: How To “React” When Your Kids Interrupt You
May 14 • 11 min
In this episode I share something that happened to me last week which highlights this.
12: WT*… Did My TEENAGER Really Just Say That!
May 11 • 12 min
How do you respond to that? It seems like no matter what you say, it’s never right? Trust me you are not alone! If you struggle with this, tune in. In this episode I discuss ways that work for me and give you lots of ideas to try out.
11: Arrghhhh Picky Eaters
May 10 • 14 min
Do you have a picky eater? Do you dread meal times and find yourself cooking three different things every night? In this episode I discuss some ideas that might help you out. Listen in…
10: Why You Need To Be An Unabashedly Badass Mom!
May 9 • 9 min
Life is so busy for parents today. There are so many distractions. So many things our children can do and be a part of. We have to be unabashedly badass in our ability to make sure our children are getting their basic needs met.
9: Are Your Kids On Their Devices ALL.THE. TIME?
May 8 • 11 min
If you find yourself frustrated and over-whelmed with this, then tune in. In this episode I give you lots of ideas as to how you can manage the beast, aka technology, and navigate it with more ease.
8: Why Managing Your Expectations Plays Such A Vital Part In Parenting Well
May 7 • 11 min
Almost every emotional reaction you have will be as a result of an unmet expectation. They play a huge part in our lives as parents and learning to manage them well and understand the impact of them, is key to being able to find more joy, calm and ease in…
7: We Cannot Parent Each Child The Same Way!
May 4 • 8 min
In this episode I discuss how there is no one style fits all. We have to learn to fine tune and tweak our parenting style to match our child’s unique spirit and make up.
6: Teenagers And How To Tame Your Reactivity When Dealing With Them
May 1 • 9 min
Do you find yourself triggered by your teen, and find it hard to control your reactivity? Then tune in, this is for you. In this episode, I offer some super effective strategies for dealing with this. FYI, I refer to the book “Brainstorm” by Dan Siegel.
How To Get Your Kids To Listen - Listen In!
Apr 30 • 9 min
Do you struggle to get your kids to listen? Many parents do. In this episode I discuss why it is I believe kids don’t listen and what you can do to help your kids be better listeners.
Sharing My Story On Having A Son With ADHD
Apr 6 • 16 min
Learning that you have a child with ADHD can be a shock to many parents. It was a shock to me, but also in a funny way, a relief to hear. In this episode I share our story on ADHD and hope that in me sharing mine, it helps you in yours. Here is the link…
How To Connect Deeply To Your Child
Mar 17 • 11 min
Do you feel an increasing sense of dis-connect in communities and in your life as a parent? Being truly connected to your child, family and community is hard today - there are so many distractions. In today’s episode I discuss how you can become more…
Dealing With A Controlling Child
Mar 4 • 7 min
This is such a common problem today and dealing with child that wants to control everything is both exhausting and frustrating. In this episode I reply to a frustrated and about to lose it mum who reached out for help. I discuss a few things you can do in…
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Mar 4 • 3 min
Are you tired of your kids not listening to you? Fed up with them being on their devices ALL. THE. TIME? Done with nagging because it doesn’t change anything except continue to drain you? Do you feel like you never get any time to yourself? You are not…