Parenting In The Thick Of It with Louise Clarke

Parenting In The Thick Of It with Louise Clarke

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Welcome to the Parenting In The Thick Of It show - the place where you will feel heard, supported and guided through YOUR parenting challenges. If you are tired, stressed, frustrated & struggle with kids not listening/being disrespectful, difficult behaviours, social media, or have a son with ADHD, tune in! By taking inspired action steps, I can help you re-align & create the life you deserve as a parent: to be the parent you know you can be and the parent your child needs you to be. You can find out more about me and get some great FREE parenting tips and tools at www.yourparentingpartner.com
162: Do You Think Your Child Really Understands What Unconditional Love Is?
Dec 11 • 10 min
Can you imagine how your child would feel to know that you could not love them any more than you do, nor any less? That no matter what they do or might do, you will love them the same. Do you think they actually realize this or do you think they might…
161: Meditation On Monday M.O.M (3) - Dealing With Mental Clutter & Chaos
Dec 10 • 14 min
It’s can be all too easy to let your thoughts consume you AND worse still, not even know it is happening! Meditation has helped me raise my thought awareness BIG TIME and I want to help you do the same! Thoughts can become quite a burden. You can end up…
160: The 3rd Step To Parenting A Child With ADHD (Part 3)
Dec 7 • 13 min
What do you understand by the word “connection”? Does it imply being physically present or is there more to it? For me, it is much deeper and in going deeper I am much better equipped to meet my child’s needs. There’s more to connection than you realize,…
159: Trading Presents For Presence
Dec 6 • 12 min
In the run-up to the festive season, I always like to think about ways in which I can really help my children understand the value of presence. This is why I chose December’s theme page in The Parenting In The Thick Of It Family Organizer (link below) to…
158: Can You Build Resilience In Your Child? YES You Can!
Dec 5 • 11 min
Many parents “worry” about their child not being resilient and it’s a legitimate concern. Here’s the deal though, the chances are if you are worried about it, you are seeing signs of “not enough” resilience. There are many things you can do to help top up…
157: I’m At My Wits End With My Toddler’s Tantrums
Dec 4 • 11 min
Toddlers can have really BIG emotional surges where they get the bit between their teeth and NOTHING we can think of works to help them out of it… It can be scary and overwhelming. In this episode, I offer you some ideas as to what you can try in the…
156: Meditation On Mondays M.O.M (2) - A Super Cool Exercise
Dec 3 • 14 min
Join me as I show you what typically happens when you simply shut your eyes to get some peace and quiet! After this, I guide you through an exercise to show you how you can tame it all, and really tap into and experience presence on a much deeper level.…
155: 3 Essential Ingredients To Parenting A Child With ADHD (Part 2)
Nov 30 • 17 min
It is well researched and documented that kids with ADHD can struggle with developing a healthy sense of self and building self-esteem. As such, it is vital that as parents we do everything we can to help them develop this. In part 2, I discuss the second…
154: What To Do After You Have Lost It With Your Kid
Nov 29 • 10 min
We are moms, we are human and as such, it would be impossible to be a mom without occasionally losing it. However, knowing what to do after the event is super important. Tune in… Follow Me Online Here Instagram: https://instagram.com/louiseclarke.ypp…
153: Boundaries…Tune In & Tune Up (Part 2)
Nov 28 • 11 min
Refining your boundary setting skills and knowing how to hold the limits is such a valuable thing to do. There are few parts to parenting that do not require boundaries in some shape or form: getting up in the morning, meal times, bedtime, screen time,…
152: Here’s Why Boundaries Are So Vital - For You & Your Child (Part 1)
Nov 27 • 8 min
I rank boundaries as being one of THE most important aspects to parenting well. It’s so vital yet, so many of us are not great at doing it. Why is this? And what can you do to refine your boundariy setting skills? Tune in… Follow Me Online Here Instagram:…
151: Meditation On Mondays M.O.M (1) - Helping Moms Calm The Chaos
Nov 26 • 10 min
When our minds are full and our lives are full, the fullness can result in a feeling of overwhelm and chaos. Being aware of where your mind IS and what your mind is focused on is vitally important to being able to meet your child’s needs in the moment and…
150: 3 Essential Ingredients To Parenting A Child With ADHD (Part 1)
Nov 23 • 12 min
It’s all too easy to overlook these 3 key things when parenting a child with ADHD. Yet, they are super important to your child developing a healthy sense of worth and self-esteem. Tune in… Follow Me Online Here Instagram:…
149: Every Child Needs To Have These Deep Needs Met
Nov 22 • 9 min
Every child needs to be seen, heard, feel that they matter and are worthy, loved and feel like they belong but do you parent in such a way as to meet these deep deep needs. In generations past, children were seen but not heard. I’d like to ask if, with…
148: Slammed & Suffering By Your Own Expectations
Nov 21 • 16 min
What many parents fail to realize is that the expectations we have of ourselves and others near and dear invariably cause us to suffer, not to mention put tremendous pressure on everyone. So what do you do? Expect nothing? Surely not! Tune in…
147: Do You Get Frustrated When Your Kids DON’T Listen To You?
Nov 20 • 11 min
There are few things more infuriating than a child who doesn’t listen to you but there’s often more going on than meets the eye. In this episode, I share with you some of the reasons why your child might not be listening to you and what you can do. Listen…
146: Last Week’s Double Mom Fail…
Nov 19 • 13 min
We all screw up from time to time but how you deal with yourself when you do is super important? I used to get really upset with myself but not anymore. I used to feel guilty about it but not anymore. Here’s what I now offer myself in those moments and…
145: It’s So Hard To Not Take My Child’s Behavior Personally…
Nov 16 • 9 min
There are times where it can be so hard to not take your child’s actions or choice of words personally but here’s the deal; when you do, nine times out of 10 it will only make matters worse. It is only when we can witness the actions and words of another…
144: Are You So Attached To Your Phone That You Can’t Be Without It?
Nov 15 • 13 min
Do you find yourself in a panic if you don’t have your phone with you at all times? Do you find yourself checking it when there’s no real reason to check it? Do you find yourself frustrated with your kids for always checking their phones? If you answered…
143: Do You Struggle With A “Controlling”, Defiant or Strong-Willed Child?
Nov 14 • 11 min
Why are some children controlling? Where does it come from? And HOW do you deal with it? This is such a common struggle for many parents that I felt compelled to discuss it again. There is a way to effectively deal with this but it’s probably not what you…
142: Do You Suffer From PAR.ENT.ING? If So, You Need To Take AphukenbrakE!
Nov 13 • 10 min
I watched a hilarious youtube video on this, a new fake medication for parents! It says that if you suffer from any of these symptoms (having kids, children, tots, youngins, boys, girls), kick back and take AphukenbrakE. All jokes aside, it is absolutely…
141: How Do You Motivate An Unmotivated Child?
Nov 12 • 11 min
Having to witness an unmotivated child can be highly frustrating for many parents. What do you do? How do you motivate them? And can you motivate them? Tune in as I share my thoughts… Instagram: https://instagram.com/louiseclarke.ypp Pinterest:…
140: Every Parent Needs To Listen To This Cry For Help
Nov 9 • 11 min
When a child is not seen for who he/she truly is the effects are far-reaching and damaging to their developing self-esteem and worth. In this vulnerable share, this singer-songwriter Anna Blue shares a powerful message. One every parent should hear. Tune…
139: Dealing With Your Teenagers Emotions
Nov 8 • 11 min
Knowing what to say, how to say it and when to say it to your teenager is an intricate dance, and one that often has you on thin ice. In this episode I share with you an emotional conversation I had with my 17-year-old son.
138: The Fine Art Of Slowing Down
Nov 7 • 11 min
I’ve talked about this before and I’m sure I’ll talk about it again. But before you can slow down, you have to know that things are just too fast. Do you feel that life is just going by all too quickly? In this episode, I share with you some things that…
137: Sometimes You Have To Get Our Of Your Own Way
Nov 6 • 10 min
It is so important to be aware of our part to play in all the situations we find ourselves with our kids and in life! And knowing when we have to get out of the way is super important. How do you know? And, how do you do it? Tune in… Instagram:…
136: It Can Be So Hard To See Your Child In Pain…
Nov 5 • 10 min
It is so hard to see a loved one suffer and as moms, it can be especially hard. But, pain is an essential thing for children to learn to navigate. If we spare them from feeling pain and don’t teach them how to sit in it, they will never learn. In life,…
135: F.E.A.R Has More Control Over You Than You Might Realize
Nov 2 • 13 min
Many parents are surprised to hear this and according to Dr. Shefali Tsabary, fear is the number one obstacle in the parent-child relationship. Whatever is going on, fear is always at the root of things. Understanding this and being able to deconstruct it…
134: Do You Need Your Kids To Meet Your Needs?
Nov 1 • 11 min
Looking outwards to meet your needs can lead you to not meeting your needs at all. Only you can meet your needs and in this episode I explain why. Tune in…
133: The Power Of The Pause - Do You Use It?
Oct 31 • 10 min
Pausing is amongst one of the best parenting tools I use in my interactions with three teenagers. It has bought me out of more potential conflicting situations than I care to imagine! Tune in and you’ll find out more about it. Instagram:…
132: Sometimes No Communication Can Be Good News!
Oct 30 • 9 min
Just occasionally this is okay and in this situation, I came round to realizing that it was actually a good sign! It involved a teenager, a trip to New Zealand and a whole lot of fun. Curious… tune in! Instagram: https://instagram.com/louiseclarke.ypp…
131: Things You Can Do To Help You & Your Child Deal With Shame
Oct 29 • 10 min
Shame has to be one of the most corrosive and damaging of emotions we can feel and knowing how to deal with it and kick it in the butt is super important. And not only that, if you understand it, you can help your children move through any feelings of…
130: Parent Child Respect Through The Eyes Of A Teenager
Oct 26 • 9 min
This says it all. As far as I am concerned, he was bang on the buck. I owned it, apologized and welcomed the conversation. So valuable I thought it was worth sharing with you. Tune in… Instagram: https://instagram.com/louiseclarke.ypp Pinterest:…
129: Doing THIS Really Helps Me Start The Week On The Right Foot
Oct 25 • 9 min
There are times when life as a mom can get pretty chaotic right! In this episode, I share with you something that I do that allows me to start each week off on the right foot and reduce the overwhelm. It also saves me so much time that it is a godsend.…
128: Do You Sometimes Struggle To Understand Your Child’s Behavior?
Oct 24 • 8 min
Understanding and making sense of your child’s behavior can be a challenge for many of us. In this episode, I refer to a wonderful tool you can use to better equip you to get to the root of any behavior challenges you might find yourself caught up in.…
127: There’s Nothing Like Gratitude To Inspire Me
Oct 23 • 8 min
When we tap into gratitude it’s hard to be uninspired for life. In this episode, I take you to the ocean and record why I love to use gratitude and how I hopefully inspire my kids to be grateful for gratitude. Tune in…
126: What Do You Do When Your Child’s Plan Is Not What Yours Would Be
Oct 22 • 8 min
This is a really hard thing for parents to manage. It is so easy to launch into “lecturing” your child and pointing out what won’t work when they approach things differently to you and especially when the plan is not logical, practical or remotely doable!…
125: What Do You Do When You Run Out Of Energy?
Oct 19 • 7 min
Today I was working super hard and could feel myself running low on energy. I still had a lot of work to do but knew that I would have to refuel if I hoped to get through it all. I recorded this episode, from the ocean where I go to refuel and share with…
124: Does Your Child Ever Lie?
Oct 18 • 13 min
In this episode I discuss lying and why children typically do it. I offer you some ideas as to how you can respond to it and manage it effectively. And I give you an alternative to asking: “Did you lie?” that encourages your child to tell the truth.. Tune…
123: The HUGE Difference Between Consequences & Punishment
Oct 17 • 11 min
There is a huge difference between consequences and punishment and understanding this deeply influences how your child will grow and learn or not… If you struggle to use consequences effectively and know you resort to punishing when you shouldn’t then…
122: Handling Your Child’s Monumental Meltdowns
Oct 16 • 10 min
It can be incredibly hard to stay in control of ourselves when our child is screaming at us and behaving unacceptably but if you want your child to learn how to behave differently, we have no choice. If you struggle with this, tune in…
121: Grades Are Not Everything
Oct 15 • 10 min
The pressure on kids to achieve high grades seems to be spiraling out of control. Kids are so much more than their grades and sure, at a certain stage in their lives, of course, the grade matters, but what is the cost? As Jay Shetty said: grades only…
120: Could Our Wish For Our Children To Be Successful & Happy Perhaps Cause Them Stress?
Oct 12 • 7 min
We all want our kids to be successful and happy but how does this translate for them and impact them? What will they say about us wanting them to be successful and happy when we are gone? Is our wish perhaps adding to the pressure they are already under…
119: Do You Think You Might Be Addicted To Your Phone?
Oct 11 • 12 min
Have you heard of the book called “How To Break Up With Your Phone” by Catherine Price? It is a highly thought-provoking read and inspired me to write a blog post on the subject and dedicated this episode to reading it. If you are looking for some ideas…
118: The Biggest Parenting Challenge Is How We Control Ourselves!
Oct 10 • 10 min
Dealing with our kid’s emotional outburst or poor choice of behaviour can sometimes leave us at our wit’s end and result in us not behaving much better than they did!! Learning to control ourselves is THE hardest thing to do as a parent. Trust me, you are…
117: A Vital Piece When Parenting Toddlers
Oct 9 • 11 min
When your toddler has behaved in a socially unacceptable way (tantrum, kicking, biting etc) it is vitally important that you separate the deed / behaviour from the do-er / your toddler. In other words, it’s the behaviour that is questionable, not them.…
116: How “Vaguely” Understanding What’s Going On In The Teenage Brain Has Helped Me Parent Them!
Oct 8 • 13 min
Understanding just what is going on inside my teenagers’ heads has really helped me develop more empathy for them and help maintain the strong connection I have with them. In this episode, I share with you some of the takeaways from Dan Siegel’s book,…
115: Here’s An Interesting Way To Save Your Energy!
Oct 5 • 7 min
Do you worry about what other moms might think of you or your child? What if your child misbehaves? Then what? I have taught my kids this one thing that allows them to save their energy and I share it with you here. Tune in…
114: Do You Run Out Of Time?
Oct 4 • 8 min
I am fascinated with time. My relationship with time is intriguing to me. What is your relationship with time? How do you interact with it? It never stands still. It never stops, yet we believe that we run out of it? What do your children understand about…
113: Let It go!
Oct 3 • 7 min
Letting go of material things that no longer serve us is one thing, but learning to let go of the non-tangible things like for example, expectations, the need to be perfect, inherited beliefs and conditioning, control, the need to do everything is even…
112: Why It’s Not Good To Do For A Child What They Are Capable Of Doing For Themselves
Oct 2 • 7 min
In this episode, I share with you some of the things that my kids now do for themselves and how empowering it has been for them. It can be damaging to a child’s developing sense of self and self-esteem to have a parent do too much for them as it strips…
111: Why I Share My Mistakes With My Kids
Oct 1 • 7 min
Sharing a mistake we might have made and the action we took as a result of it is a powerful way to help children realize that it’s okay to make mistakes. It helps them develop the capacity to own their mistake, not deny it and come up with a plan. It…
109: Find Yourself Head-To-Head With Your Strong-Willed Child ?
Sep 28 • 11 min
In this episode, I share with you a success story with a mom I worked with years ago. Her son was super controlling and with my support, she got through it. Wind the clock forward about 6 years and this boy knew exactly what to do when he had to “look…
110: How Often Do You Think You Are “Lost” In Thought?
Sep 27 • 10 min
Do you know you have 50,000 - 70,000 thoughts per day! That’s 35 - 48 per minute. It’s mind-boggling for me to try and get my mind around that. Add to this, we spend 54% of our time not where our minds are. If this isn’t motivation to do something about…
108: If This Isn’t Proof That Meditation Works For Me…
Sep 26 • 7 min
I’ve always known that meditation is a powerful tool for me. It brings me so many benefits many of which I have discussed on the podcast. However, this really amazed me and my GP was seriously impressed. I think she’ll be onto meditation in a big way…
107: You Prioritize The Bedtime Routine For Your Kids But Your Partner…. Not So Much!
Sep 25 • 9 min
What to do when bedtime runs away with you and what do to when you and your partner are not always on the same page regarding bedtime. This can cause many moms a lot of stress. I have a couple of ideas. Tune in… 10 Tips To End Your Bedtime Struggles:…
106: Sometimes It’s Better Not To Ask
Sep 24 • 5 min
If you don’t have enough energy to deal with the pushback you might get from asking your child to do something, like picking up their toys or their “stuff”, I truly believe it’s better not to ask. Tune in and I’ll tell you why…
105: I Don’t Expect My Kids To Tell Me Everything But I Do Want Them To Feel Safe Enough To Share Anything
Sep 21 • 6 min
It is so vital that we create a safe place for our children to feel vulnerable enough to share things with us. If they fear us, our reaction, a punishment or being judged, they will never tell us anything. Tune in…
104: Do You Want More “Calm” In Your Life?
Sep 20 • 7 min
Tapping into Mother Nature has helped bring so much more gratitude, peace and calm into my life as a mom. “She” is my ultimate teacher. Learning to use her magnificence and expansiveness to guide me as a mom has been powerful. So much so that I had to…
103: The Power Of Yet & How You Can Use It To Encourage Your Child
Sep 19 • 5 min
This little word is so inspirational for me. I use it a lot to help my kids understand that just because they might not be able to do something now, does not mean they will not be able to do it ever. Add yet and it immediately delivers hope. Tune in…
102: When I Learned To Give Without Expectation My Life As A Mom Changed For The Better
Sep 18 • 7 min
When I talk about giving, I don’t mean gifts and things, I mean of ourselves. I spent many years feeling unappreciated until I realized that I was, unbeknownst to me, creating the dissatisfaction within myself. When I realized this, life changed…
101: Do You Find Yourself Getting Impatient With Your Kiddos?
Sep 17 • 9 min
There are times when kids can be and are infuriating. I hear you. And it can cause you to become irritable and impatient with them. Don’t worry, you are not alone. In this episode, I share with you what I do to try and curb it because at the end of the…
100: My Most Embarrassing Moment EVER & So Much More…
Sep 14 • 31 min
In celebration of this, the 100th episode on the podcast, I am sharing my story. There’s the hilarious comment I made age 5 while playing dominoes, my most embarrassing moment (trust me it’s good, you don’t want to miss it…), my most profound moment and…
99: Do Your Kids See You Looking After Yourself?
Sep 13 • 8 min
It is so important that our kids see us prioritizing our self-care and us meeting our needs so that they learn to do this for themselves. How else will they learn? I want my daughter to value her self-care and do what she needs to do to show up as the…
98: Why You Don’t Need To Be Anything Other Than Who You Are
Sep 12 • 6 min
If we are not careful we can get so caught up in trying to be something or someone that we are not. We think we should be more like so in so because she has got her s#*t together or whatever it might be… So, she might have, but you don’t have to be like…
97: Everyone Else’s Parents Do It, You’re The Only One Who Doesn’t…
Sep 11 • 9 min
Ever heard that from your kids? If so, just know that you are not the only one. Last night my son announced he wanted a new backpack and that he would be the only one who won’t have a new one… In this episode, I share with you what I said, or didn’t… Tune…
96: There’s Not A Mom I Know Who Does Enough Of This…
Sep 10 • 6 min
We are all pretty darn good at giving this to others (but not always to our kiddos) but generally not so good at giving it to ourselves. I’m hopeless at it! Can you guess what it is? I’m going to keep you in suspense, tune in…
95: Do You “Should” On Yourself Or Worse Still, “Should” On Your Kids?
Sep 9 • 11 min
When I realized just how much “shoulding” I was doing it was scary! But I’m so glad that I discovered it because letting go of the should’s has had a profound effect on me in my role as a mom and for my kids. Do you should on those around you? Tune in…
94: Frustrated With The Kids And Don’t Know What To Do?
Sep 8 • 7 min
Doing this one simple thing in the height of frustrating moments I face with my kids has rescued me more times than I care to imagine. Curious? In this episode, I share my tip with you. Tune in…
93: 10 Tips To End Your Bedtime Struggles (Part 2)
Sep 7 • 10 min
In today’s episode, I read part 2 of the blog post I wrote to help you end your bedtime struggles. Part 1 can be found in episode 88 and you can tune in to more bedtime antics in episodes 79 and 80.
92: It Takes Great Courage To Face The Truth
Sep 6 • 7 min
The truth is sometimes hard to face and never more so than the moment we realize that we have played a part in creating some of the socially unacceptable patterns of behaviour we see in our children (eg. not listening, disrespect, control). In order to…
91: Valuable Lessons From A 13 Year Old!
Sep 5 • 11 min
In this episode, I have a special guest with me… my 13-year-old son! He has meditated for a few years now and has gained some valuable insights on it all. It’s always great to hear it from the mouths of babes. Tune in…
90: You Upgrade Your Phone, Do You Upgrade Your Mindset?
Sep 4 • 10 min
We all spend $$$ and time to make sure our phones are equipped with the latest operating systems but what if we were to do the same for our minds. How could we? Why would we? And should we? I believe we “should” be doing this. I do and it has been deeply…
89: 3 Steps For Managing The Meltdowns - The Detail
Sep 3 • 9 min
In Episode 88 I shared with you 3 steps you can take to help you manage the tantrums and emotional outbursts. In the episode today, I use an example to explain how you can do this. Tune in…
88: 3 Steps For Managing The Meltdowns - Big Picture
Aug 31 • 8 min
When our child has a meltdown it is vitally important that we do not join them with an “adult” meltdown of our own! It can be oh so hard to remain cool, calm and collected but we have to. In this episode I discuss the three steps you can take to make sure…
87: Top 10 Tips For Ending Bedtime Struggles (Part 1)
Aug 30 • 12 min
In this episode, I read you part 1 of a blog post I wrote on finding ways to end bedtime struggles. Tune in… If you want to read the post, here is the link. In this, you will also get access to the link for the Meal Planning FREE Download that I mention…
86: The Most Impactful Tip On How To Manage Technology In Your Home
Aug 29 • 7 min
Doing this can have a powerful effect on everyone in the home. Our family does this and I rate it as one of THE most important things we can do to help us better navigate technology. Tune in…
85: Mirror Mirror On The Wall Who Behaves The Fairest Of All?
Aug 28 • 8 min
Have you ever stopped to think why your kids might have developed certain patterns of behaviour? Whilst understanding this can be a bitter pill to swallow, understanding it can be very revealing and rewarding. Tune in…
84: Should Kids Have To Fit In A Particular “Hole”? Who Designs The Hole Anyway?
Aug 27 • 8 min
Round peg in a square hole. Square peg in a round hole. Don’t get me started! Too many parents are told that their child just doesn’t fit in and this breaks my heart. As parents, we need to help our child see their “shape” as being perfect & unique just…
83: How Compassion & Zipping Is A Better Way To Be - Here Is The Evidence!
Aug 24 • 9 min
In this episode, I share with you how my ability to show up in the moment with compassion and calm allowed me to parent in a way that worked for both my son and I. Had I said what I really “wanted” to say, it would have gone downhill and fast. Tune in…
82: Are You A “No, No, No…. Well Okay, Yes… But Just This Time Parent?
Aug 23 • 9 min
Your parenting style & your behaviour shapes your child’s behaviour more than you realize and more than anything else in their lives. How you show up in the moment and respond to them matters. Tune in…
81: This Was A Game Changer For Helping Me Deal With My Kids Various Behaviours
Aug 22 • 12 min
Understanding this key thing about behaviour was one of those AHA moments for both my husband and me. In this episode, I take you through it and offer you 3 super important questions to ask yourself in relation to your child’s behaviour. Tune in…
80: Bedtime Has Just Got Too Late & School Starts Soon…
Aug 21 • 7 min
If you haven’t already listened to Episode 79, please do so before you listen to this because it will help you create new bedtime patterns and routines. However, when things have just got too late the kids just can’t get to sleep earlier. Don’t worry, I…
79: Do You Struggle To Get The Kids To Bed On Time?
Aug 20 • 10 min
This is such a challenge for so many parents. Life is busy right! There is a way and in this episode, I share with you my bedtime secrets. Clue: It all depends on the way you are showing up. Tune in… And don’t forget to listen to Episode 76, it paves the…
78: Breaking The Patterns Of Control & Knowing Why They Exist
Aug 17 • 13 min
In order to break the toxic cycles of control that might exist in your home, you first have to understand why they are there and why your child is running the show. There’s a reason for it all. Tune in… If you haven’t had a chance to listen to Episode 76…
77: Do You Have A Child Who Controls Everything, Everyone & Runs The Show?
Aug 16 • 8 min
I get more calls from parents regarding this than anything else. So, if you struggle with this, you are not alone. Understanding the one fundamental thing that I share in this podcast is key to dealing with this and changing the patterns. You have to…
76: My Parenting Secret Is Out… It Will Change Your Life!
Aug 15 • 13 min
This is the first time I have shared this on the podcast and it is HUGE! This is the key. When I work with parents, THIS is what we work on and the results are amazing. Tune in…
75: Struggling To Set & Hold Limits On Screen Time? This Is Genius…
Aug 14 • 9 min
If you are struggling to set and hold the limits on Screen Time with your child, this is for you. I discuss a genius strategy that my dear friend Kate Muker came up with for her 5-year-old. Tune in… Kate is a proud, conscious mama who uses…
74: Does Your Child Continually Push The Limits?
Aug 10 • 8 min
In order to set a limit and hold it, you have to mean what you say and your child has to believe you. Do you mean what you say? Tune in…
73: Choosing Compassion Over Frustration Is A Win-Win In Parenting A Child With ADHD
Aug 9 • 12 min
It’s so easy to become frustrated, impatient and judgmental when parenting a child with ADHD. However, it never works, for you or your child. Compassion and empathy is what your child really needs. Tune in…
72: The ONE Thing That Never Fails Me, Or My Kids…
Aug 8 • 10 min
Doing this always puts me on a better path, it never fails me. This way of showing up as a Mom is what makes the most positive impact in my life and I share it here with you. Tune in…
71: You Empty The Trash But Do You Empty Your Mind?
Aug 7 • 10 min
In order to parent “well”, I believe that being able to empty our mind of the constant planning, what if’s, should’s, doubts and worries is THE most important thing we can do. Simply put, if we can’t do this and develop the skill to mind our minds, we…
70: Have Your Kids Ever Told You They “Hate” You?
Aug 6 • 7 min
It can be terrifying when your child venomously shouts “I hate you”. But… do you believe them? What do you do? What do you say? How do you respond? In this episode, I discuss some things that have helped many parents and share in the hope it will help you…
69: How Do You Choose The “Right” Sport Or Activity For Your Child?
Aug 3 • 9 min
Should you choose? Should your child choose? What do you do when they don’t like it? In this episode, I share with you some ideas as to how to get this right. Tune in…
68: Time Outs - Do They Really Work…. I Think Not
Aug 2 • 9 min
With the best of intentions, many parents turn to timeouts only to find the tantrum or unacceptable behaviour continues. In this episode I explain why they don’t work and share with you an alternative technique that works really well.
67: During The School Holidays It’s Way Too Easy To Forget About Yourself!
Aug 1 • 8 min
With the kids home from school, do you find yourself catering to everyone else’s needs and forgetting about your own? In this episode, I share with you what I do to make sure I honour my needs. When I do this, life is always better, for everyone. Tune in…
66: OMG Is That A Coffee Table Under All That Clutter?
Jul 31 • 8 min
I don’t know about you, but typically, around four weeks into the summer holidays, the coffee table can resemble a bit of a junkyard! When my living room takes on that “holiday” look, here’s what I do to reset things and restore some order. Tune in…
65: Hot Tips For Communicating With Your Teenager!
Jul 27 • 8 min
How do you know when they might want to chat? They can be hard to read, but if you look carefully, the signs will be there. When I found what I was looking for, I keep finding more of it! In this episode, I share with you some of my tips. Tune in…
64: Are We Creating A Generation Of “Keep Your Options Open”?
Jul 26 • 6 min
I had the fortune of stumbling across this BRILLIANT video in my Facebook feed. Too good to miss and a great thing to chat about in today’s episode on the Parenting In The Thick Of It Show. Tune in and catch the video in the link below:…
63: Queen Of Multi-Tasking Or Queen Of Distraction
Jul 25 • 6 min
I used to think multi-tasking was the bee all and end all. Don’t get me wrong, it definitely has its place but is the kiss of death if it becomes all we do. It is vital that we know when we can and when we can’t so we don’t become The Queen Of…
62: Get This Right And Life At Home Will Be Much Calmer
Jul 24 • 11 min
When my kids know exactly what is expected of them on any given day during the holidays, the days are way better. Despite wishing they were born with crystal ball reading skills, alas, they were not! I have to tell them. But when I remember to do this,…
Episode: 61: Car Rides - Do You Find Yourselves Arguing Over What To Listen To?
Jul 23 • 7 min
Trust me, this used to happen in our car. Bad rap, not so bad rap! Bad teen bands, not so bad teen bands! A steady stream of it. Not any longer. Tune in…
60: Balancing Screen Time & Green Time
Jul 20 • 7 min
Do you know that the average child in America spends only 5 minutes per day freely playing outside? I found this staggering. I knew the stats were bad, but this bad! In this episode, I discuss what you can do to help your child develop an interest in the…
59: Teens, Alcohol, Drugs, Par-tays & The Holidays…
Jul 19 • 9 min
You hear parents discussing this and think you have it all dialled in until it happens to you! What is your plan? Do you have one? A plan for you and a plan for them? Tune in…
58: How Honest Are You?
Jul 18 • 6 min
I value honesty. A lot. And I hope to instil this value in my children, but how do you do it? I’m not sure there is a “right” answer but in this epidsode, I share my views on it all. Tune in…
57: It’s Amazing What An Aerial Perspective Can Do!
Jul 17 • 6 min
Sometimes when you are in the thick of it you need to see things through a different lens, yes? This particular lens has brought me so much relief and I wanted to share it with you. Tune in…
56: Smelly Boy, Oh Smelly Boy…
Jul 16 • 6 min
When my neighbour knocked on my door and asked to borrow… my nose, I was intrigued. Little did I know that I already knew the answer, for I had no teenagers at the time. Tune in, it’s a good one!
55: Should Kids Listen To Music While They Are Studying?
Jul 13 • 6 min
This causes many parents much anguish, myself included. Yet, our children claim that it helps them study more effectively!!! What do we do? Lo-Fi might just be a better alternative. If you don’t know what it is, tune in…
54: If We Think Our Children Are Distracted By Screens, We Need To Look At Ourselves…
Jul 12 • 8 min
Little is written and spoken about the fact that adults are becoming more and more distracted by their smartphones. And it is wreaking havoc with their ability to connect with their children. Never before have a generation of parents spent so much “time”…
53: Can You Force Your Teenager To Do What You Used To Do?
Jul 11 • 11 min
Many parents I work with say this: “When I was his age, I was working so hard… I just don’t know why he can’t seem to do it?” “Because he is not you” I reply compassionately. It’s a tough place to find yourself but as long as we “put” our expectations on…
52: Not On The Same Parenting “Page” As Your Spouse?
Jul 10 • 8 min
Being on a different page is a common thing between parents. It can cause friction between the parents and confusion and inconsistency for the child. If this is something you struggle with, tune in…
51: I Thought You Would Get A Kick Out Of This!
Jul 9 • 7 min
I just got back from visiting my family in Scotland and this was what my daughter had to say about being left at home with her brothers and about being a “mom”… Tune in!
50: They Say That High EQ Is A Better Predictor Of Success Over IQ
Jul 6 • 7 min
However it is we choose to quantify or qualify “success”, building Emotional Intelligence in our children is super important and in this episode I share with you, where you might start. Tune in…
49: How Can We Know How To Do Something That We Have Never Done Before?
Jul 5 • 7 min
There is nothing that says we “should” know how to parent. In fact, how can we fully know how to do something that we have never done before? Yet, the reality is, many parents are embarrassed and ashamed of the fact that they sometimes find themselves not…
48: Toddlers, Teens & Triggers
Jul 4 • 9 min
There is nothing that can test us quite like a toddler or teen. It can be exhausting and leave us feeling like we have failed as a parent. Believe it or not, toddlers and teens have a lot in common. When we get these 3 key things right, we find ourselves…
47: Do You Have A Child That Negotiates With You Over Everything?
Jul 3 • 8 min
When your child argues with you and negotiates with you over everything, it can leave you feeling at your wit’s end. In this episode I discuss some strategies that work well for managing exactly this. Tune in…
46: Why Do I Behave & React The Way I Do?
Jul 2 • 7 min
In episode 45 I discussed the subject of our child’s behavior and the fact that there is always more to it than meets the eye. We are no different. If we hope to be able to “react” in socially acceptable ways to our child’s various behaviors we have to be…
45: There’s Always More Than Meets The Eye
Jun 29 • 7 min
In this episode I help you understand WHY your child sometimes behaves the way he/she does. There’s always more going on than meets the eye. We have to ask ourselves: what is the unmet need beneath the behavior and there is always one, if not more. Tune…
44: Many Of You Have Requested I Do This, So… Here It Is!
Jun 26 • 9 min
On the show today, I talk you through how you can start to meditate, what you will do and what might happen when you start. We all like to know what to expect, so this is what to expect! At the 4.5 minute mark, I take you through a 2 minute guided…
43: In My Role As A Parent, Doing This Has Helped Me More Than Anything
Jun 25 • 10 min
I have been discussing the topic of mindfulness and meditation on the Podcast a lot recently. And for good reason. If you are interested in finding more about meditation and HOW you can start to do it, tune in to the show today… For more information on…
42: Do You Struggle To Set Boundaries Around Screen Time?
Jun 22 • 14 min
It’s Friday and on the podcast today, I read my most recent blog post: Do You Struggle To Set Boundaries Around Screen Time? Tune in if you need some extra help with this common challenge. It is one that almost every parent I know struggles with. We blame…
41: The “Woowoos” Were Onto Something. Something HUGE…
Jun 21 • 12 min
And for years I’ve been onto it too, and trust me, I’m so not “woowoo”! At least I don’t think I am. Haha! So many parents say to me that they want to find ways to really connect with their child. This is how you do it. You have to first connect with…
40: Do You Know What Has Helped Me MOST As A Mom?
Jun 20 • 13 min
Doing this has been THE most empowering and rewarding thing in my life as a parent. I cannot stress this enough. I truly believe that THIS is where it is at. It is doing THIS that will help you stay calm in the moment when you are caught up in the thick…
39: How To Stay Calm In The Thick Of It? There Is A Way…
Jun 19 • 11 min
This is where it’s at. If you can master this, you are good to go! Haha, wouldn’t that be nice! It is a work in progress but with practice, you can become so attuned with where your mind is that in the moment, you are more able to sniff the reactivity…
38: Arghhhh… I’m So Caught Up In It
Jun 18 • 6 min
Sometimes when you are so caught up IN IT, and in the thick of it, you just can’t see a way out. Being able to look into it from the outside, offers us the chance to see the big picture. From here, the next step is often more obvious than you realize.…
37: Top Strategies For Discussing Report Cards With Your Kids
Jun 15 • 13 min
In this episode, I read this week’s blog post on how to facilitate healthy discussions around your child’s report card. Tune in…
36: Fed Up With The Kids Bugging Each Other & Fighting?
Jun 14 • 12 min
Sibling Rivalry… it’s so draining and awful to watch and be a part of. What many parents don’t realize is that they are inadvertently, and unintentionally, fuelling the fire. If you struggle with this and it’s been going on for too long, you will be…
35: Instagram… Are You On It? Do You Follow Your Kids On It?
Jun 13 • 8 min
I had such a cool discussion with a mom about this that I wanted to share it with you. If you follow your kids on Instagram, what are your reasons for doing so? I’d love to hear from you. Tune in…
34: “My Son Is Soooo Disrespectful”… R.E.S.P.E.C.T… Show Me Some!
Jun 12 • 13 min
This is one of THE most common things parent’s complain to me about. Sound familiar? The solution to this is not what you think it will be. Understanding this is so key. Tune in…
33: OMG… Teenagers! They Are So Amazing And Yet So…
Jun 11 • 12 min
One minute you are oooogling over how much you love them, then BOOM… you are triggered beyond anything you have ever experienced before! In this episode I share with you some ways to help you communicate with your teenagers and steer discussions in a…
32: All Families Need To Do This… Do You?
Jun 8 • 15 min
This is possibly one of the most important things we have done as a family and doing so has given our 3 kids the opportunity to develop some super important life skills. Curious… Tune in!…
31: Hot Topic Alert! Devices, Screen Time, Social Media… It’s A Biggie!
Jun 7 • 10 min
Such a HUGE topic and one which I’ll no doubt revisit over and over again on the show. It’s a challenge to all of us but WHY? Why does it bother us as much as it does? You HAVE TO work out your why in order to deal with this beast. Tune in as I share what…
30: The Most Encouraging Parenting Tip I Can Think Of…
Jun 6 • 16 min
Understanding and recognizing the difference between praise and encouragement cannot be under-estimated. One helps your child in more ways than you could imagine whilst the other… it’s toxic. Tune in. I also wrote about this in a recent blog post and have…
29: Dealing With Things In The Heat Of The Moment
Jun 5 • 10 min
When things get heated it’s easy to forget about the most important thing - to validate our child’s feelings. All too often we go straight to the point, to “fix” things only to find it fuels the fire. Tune in and find out what you can do…
28: Wait Till Your Hear My Consequence Story!
Jun 4 • 13 min
Many parents struggle with consequences. How, What, When, Why? Consequences are the greatest of teachers for our children because they teach them cause and effect: if X then Y. This is something they have to learn and these tips will help you handle…
27: Teenagers…Parties, Alcohol, Drugs & Rock ‘n Roll
Jun 1 • 13 min
Have you thought about how a conversation might go in the event that your teen comes home drunk or stoned? What will you say and do? In the episode today I discuss just this. What works and what might not work. Some ideas and food for thought. Tune in…
26: Exams, Tests, End Of The Year Pressure…Help!
May 31 • 10 min
This time of the year can be a stressful one for parents but also for children. Kids today are under so much pressure to achieve that I believe it is almost at breaking point. In this episode I discuss ways in which you can deal with this, specifically in…
25: How Do I Get My Kid To Eat?
May 30 • 12 min
There’s nothing more frustrating than a child who will not eat what you put in front of him/her. In this podcast I share 8 tips which will help you manage this with more ease. You can find all the tips I discuss in this episode in the blog post (link…
24: Why It Is Vital To Hold The Limits
May 29 • 16 min
Setting the boundary is the easy piece - “You can have 30 minutes on your iPad”. However, making sure it IS 30 minutes is the hard part. Why is it so hard? Because kids will push back on it. Every time. They don’t want it to end. In this episode I discuss…
23: You Ask Once, Twice, Thrice And Then What?
May 28 • 13 min
The holidays are fast approaching and remember, history repeats itself…They often are far from the relaxing break we thought we would be getting! Yes? In todays episode I discuss what you can do in advance of the holidays to bring more R and R. Tune in…
22: Why The Parenting Books Don’t Always Work
May 25 • 11 min
Have you ever read a parenting book, got some awesome advice and tips only to find they missed the biggest piece… that being what to do when what they recommend doesn’t work!! In this episode I discuss this help you understand what does work and why. Tune…
21: Why Judging Our Kiddos Is So Toxic
May 24 • 11 min
Judgment… Do you do it? Are you aware of when you do it and why it never turns out well? It’s a toxic pattern and one that many parents do without even knowing they are doing. In this episode I explain why we do it and what you can do to get out of it.…
20: How To Help An Anxious Child Before They Go To Sleep
May 23 • 7 min
Sometimes kids find it hard to actually get to sleep, adults too!! It can often be just the perfect time for our minds to take us for a ride. In this episode I share how I help my son to mind his mind, exit his mind, and use his breath to help him get to…
19: You Just Lost Your Sh*t, Exploded And Stormed out…Now What?
May 22 • 9 min
What do you do? In this episode I discuss this and give you lots of ideas and tips around the subject of apologizing. It is so so vital that our kids are able to apologize and it all starts with us and our ability to role model this behaviour to them.
18: When We Let Fear Drive Us
May 21 • 9 min
What you can do when you realize that you are caught in fear and how it prevents you from being able to do what is needed in the present moment. Tune in!
17: What To Do When Things Don’t Go To Plan
May 18 • 11 min
You are faced with a tantrum, or a reactive teenager, find yourself caught in an argument or you child announces they want to quit something… what do you do? Listen in and I’ll give you some ideas.
16: Preparing Ourselves For Report Cards
May 17 • 12 min
Our behaviours and responses to what we see on our child’s report card is critical to them developing courage and self-motivation… or not. We have to be aware of how powerful our influence is regarding this. Listen in.
15: Is Your Behaviour “Good” For Your Kids To Copy?
May 16 • 13 min
Children inherit so many of their behaviours from us, their parents so best we give them something acceptable and good to imitate! In this episode I discuss just this and how being aware of our internal landscape can help us shape our behaviours more…
14: Bribes, Rewards, Punishment… Do They Really Work?
May 15 • 11 min
In this episode I discuss just this and what happens when you use these methods to “discipline” your child. I refer to a piece called “No Need For Threats” on page 32 of The Parents Tao Te Ching by William Martin.
13: How To “React” When Your Kids Interrupt You
May 14 • 11 min
In this episode I share something that happened to me last week which highlights this.
12: WT*… Did My TEENAGER Really Just Say That!
May 11 • 12 min
How do you respond to that? It seems like no matter what you say, it’s never right? Trust me you are not alone! If you struggle with this, tune in. In this episode I discuss ways that work for me and give you lots of ideas to try out.
11: Arrghhhh Picky Eaters
May 10 • 14 min
Do you have a picky eater? Do you dread meal times and find yourself cooking three different things every night? In this episode I discuss some ideas that might help you out. Listen in…
10: Why You Need To Be An Unabashedly Badass Mom!
May 9 • 9 min
Life is so busy for parents today. There are so many distractions. So many things our children can do and be a part of. We have to be unabashedly badass in our ability to make sure our children are getting their basic needs met.
9: Are Your Kids On Their Devices ALL.THE. TIME?
May 8 • 11 min
If you find yourself frustrated and over-whelmed with this, then tune in. In this episode I give you lots of ideas as to how you can manage the beast, aka technology, and navigate it with more ease.
8: Why Managing Your Expectations Plays Such A Vital Part In Parenting Well
May 7 • 11 min
Almost every emotional reaction you have will be as a result of an unmet expectation. They play a huge part in our lives as parents and learning to manage them well and understand the impact of them, is key to being able to find more joy, calm and ease in…
7: We Cannot Parent Each Child The Same Way!
May 4 • 8 min
In this episode I discuss how there is no one style fits all. We have to learn to fine tune and tweak our parenting style to match our child’s unique spirit and make up.
6: Teenagers And How To Tame Your Reactivity When Dealing With Them
May 1 • 9 min
Do you find yourself triggered by your teen, and find it hard to control your reactivity? Then tune in, this is for you. In this episode, I offer some super effective strategies for dealing with this. FYI, I refer to the book “Brainstorm” by Dan Siegel.
How To Get Your Kids To Listen - Listen In!
Apr 30 • 9 min
Do you struggle to get your kids to listen? Many parents do. In this episode I discuss why it is I believe kids don’t listen and what you can do to help your kids be better listeners.
Sharing My Story On Having A Son With ADHD
Apr 6 • 16 min
Learning that you have a child with ADHD can be a shock to many parents. It was a shock to me, but also in a funny way, a relief to hear. In this episode I share our story on ADHD and hope that in me sharing mine, it helps you in yours. Here is the link…
How To Connect Deeply To Your Child
Mar 17 • 11 min
Do you feel an increasing sense of dis-connect in communities and in your life as a parent? Being truly connected to your child, family and community is hard today - there are so many distractions. In today’s episode I discuss how you can become more…
Dealing With A Controlling Child
Mar 4 • 7 min
This is such a common problem today and dealing with child that wants to control everything is both exhausting and frustrating. In this episode I reply to a frustrated and about to lose it mum who reached out for help. I discuss a few things you can do in…
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Mar 4 • 3 min
Are you tired of your kids not listening to you? Fed up with them being on their devices ALL. THE. TIME? Done with nagging because it doesn’t change anything except continue to drain you? Do you feel like you never get any time to yourself? You are not…