Born to Thrive with Jamie Lee

Born to Thrive with Jamie Lee
Welcome to the Born to Thrive with Jamie Lee podcast, where I present ideas, tips and tools to help ambitious women become bolder, braver and better paid. As a coach, I help smart women who work in male-dominated industries and hate office politics get promoted and better paid without throwing anyone under the bus. Learn more at

Ep 63. Strategic Conversations Part 2: Root of All Behavior
May 10 • 21 min
This is part two of a five-part podcast series on leading Strategic Conversations so you can improve your results and relationships at work. Check out the first episode here. In this episode, I explain what’s at the root of all behavior. When you…
Ep. 62 Strategic Conversations Part 1 - Planning with Future Focus
May 3 • 27 min
I coach smart women to get promoted and better paid without throwing anyone under the bus, manipulating people, or burning themselves out. How? I teach simple but powerful concepts that help my clients engage in strategic conversations with a mindset of…
Ep. 61 How to Negotiate Budget Cuts and Unconscious Bias with Amy Auton-Smith
Apr 24 • 30 min
I met Amy Auton-Smith at Catalyst Conference in March 2019. She shared a salary negotiation story of how she successfully negotiated a win-win solution when the budget for her position was significantly reduced. I immediately knew I’d love to have her…
Ep. 60 Two Simple Reminders that Improve Negotiation Outcomes: Dr. Julia Bear
Apr 10 • 33 min
According to research, women’s monetary negotiation outcomes improved when they did two things before negotiating: 1. Recalling the last three times they were assertive 2. Imagining that they are negotiating for a friend. In this episode, I interview one…
Ep. 59 On Money, Family, and Passion: Eric Kohner Coaches Jamie Lee Using The Five Knowledge Centers
Mar 22 • 27 min
According to Ivy Business Journal, “Executives and HR managers know that coaching is the most potent tool for creating lasting personal change.” I think coaching is something everyone should get to test drive and experience first hand to really understand…
Ep. 58 How to Tame Your Inner Mammal with Dr. Loretta Breuning
Mar 15 • 35 min
When I first encountered Dr. Loretta’s work on Youtube, I was delighted because she has created a valuable body of work that helps us understand the why and how behind our animal impulses that don’t always support our human aspirations to be better, to…
Ep. 57 The Human Brain: How Neurotransmitters Impact Negotiation Behavior
Mar 8 • 60 min
As a negotiation geek, I love thinking about how the brain impacts our negotiating behaviors. The brain is a fascinating organ. It’s the human computer that can process a trillion bits per second. Yet scientists say we’ve only barely begun to understand…
Ep. 56 You’ve Gotta Ask
Feb 15 • 21 min
In this episode, I share insights on negotiation and leadership from the book Success Affirmations: 52 Weeks for Living a Passionate and Purposeful Life. In week 17, the affirmation is: I am asking for what I want and need with a positive expectation that…
Ep. 55 How to Generate Self-Confidence Without Faking Anything
Feb 8 • 63 min
We all know self-confidence helps you get more of what you want. But how do you get confident if you haven’t yet gotten what you want? There’s a better way than “fake it till you make it,” pretending to be something you’re not, or blowing yourself up like…
Ep. 54 Why do you assume the worst case scenario?
Feb 1 • 23 min
“I’m afraid of losing all my money and becoming a bag lady.” “I think they are going to criticize and rebuke me.” “They will pigeonhole me for what I’ve done, not what I can do.” Does your brain assume the worst case scenario when it comes to your career…
Ep. 53 How to Set Boundaries Without Giving Up Power
Jan 25 • 20 min
Clients often tell me that they struggle with setting boundaries at work. The feelings associated with this are resentment, victimhood, and powerlessness. Here’s the good news: It’s totally possible to set and maintain boundaries without giving up…
Ep. 52 Why It Feels Gross to Claim Value For Ourselves
Jan 18 • 19 min
Clients often tell me, “It feels gross to claim value for myself. It feels like bragging. It’s uncomfortable to assign dollar value to my accomplishments.” In this episode, I dispel a persistent myth — one that was ingrained in me by the patriarchy from a…
Ep. 51 How to Break The Habit of Being You
Jan 4 • 20 min
Out of unconscious habit, I’ve thought that there’s something wrong with me. I’ve thought, “I’m lazy. I’m not smart enough. I’m not good enough.” Thinking this way had me feeling shame, anxiety, and self-loathing. This negative mindset did not motivate me…
Ep.50 How to Set Wildly Improbable Goals for 2019 and Beyond
Dec 28, 2018 • 63 min
“What the mind can conceive and believe, it can achieve,” said Napoleon Hill. What is your compelling vision for a fulfilling life and career? In this webinar replay, I walk you through 12 powerful questions I’ve asked my coaching clients to help you set…
Ep. 49 How to Apply the Growth Mindset to Your Career Strategy
Dec 21, 2018 • 60 min
This is a replay of Free Coaching Live session recorded on November 27th, 2018. In this session, I supported one of my clients apply the growth mindset to his career strategy, because learning to negotiate, influence, and lead is just like growing a…
Ep.48 How to Become Bolder, Braver, and Better Paid with Klay S. Williams
Dec 14, 2018 • 29 min
How do ambitious people actually become bolder, braver, and better paid? By making a contribution. By committing to their life’s purpose. By risking their authenticity, even when there’s only $500 in the back pocket and not much else, other than a dream.…
Ep.47 How to Negotiate and Coach Relationships with Aeric Meredith-Goujon
Dec 10, 2018 • 31 min
If you’re a human being in, wanting to be in, or who just got out of a relationship, you won’t want to miss this interview with relationship coach Aeric Meredithgoujon. Aeric is a visual artist, musician and relationship coach. He lives in Brooklyn with…
Ep. 46 A 15-Year Career Retrospective Introspective
Dec 4, 2018 • 34 min
What did you desire for yourself in the past? What did you think and believe in the past that have now become your current reality? What do you believe now? What is your dream for the future? These are some of the questions I answer for myself in this…
Ep.45 How to Self-Appreciate So You Can Self-Advocate
Nov 30, 2018 • 60 min
Please enjoy this special replay of Free Coaching Live session recorded on Wednesday, 11/21/18. With a live audience, I shared - My journey in becoming a leadership and negotiation coach helping ambitious women become bolder, braver, and better paid - The…
Ep.44 How to use Future Gratitude as Networking Fuel
Nov 19, 2018 • 12 min
What if you can decide how you want to feel in the future? What if you can use gratitude to fuel your strategic interactions so that you can become bolder, braver, and better paid? In this special episode, I share a quick five-minute exercise that you can…
Ep.43 How to Embrace Discomfort to Become Unstoppable as a Negotiator
Nov 16, 2018 • 65 min
Please enjoy this special episode - a replay of my Bolder, Braver, and Better Paid: Coaching Live session recorded on November 14, 2018. I shared: - #1 secret to becoming unstoppable as a negotiator - The impact of neurotransmitters on our feelings,…
Ep.42 Future Focus and Goal Shame
Nov 9, 2018 • 19 min
“Why do you need to articulate your future potential as part of your negotiation strategy?” I address this question and explain the importance of future focus for you, for your negotiation, and for your leadership. I share my updates for 2018 “Wild and…
Ep.41 The People-Pleasing Trap
Nov 1, 2018 • 30 min
How differently would you show up to ask for help, work, or money if you didn’t have the need to please people? My bet is that you’d be bolder, braver, and as a result, better paid. I have a lot of experience with the people-pleasing trap, because I’m a…
Ep. 40 Six Common Negotiation Mistakes with Vivian Giang
Oct 26, 2018 • 40 min
If you’re a pragmatic negotiation geek like me, or if you want to improve your negotiation skills so that you can thrive, you won’t want to miss this interview with Vivian Giang. Vivian is a business writer covering how the changing workplace has impacted…
Ep. 39 How Ambitious People Overcome Anxiety and Burnout
Oct 19, 2018 • 34 min
Though I believe we are all born to thrive, I know there are days when that truth can feel like a lie, because of anxiety. We experience anxiety more acutely when we most need our courage to brave a high-stakes conversation like negotiation. In this…
Bonus: A Thousand Names for Joy
Oct 16, 2018 • 7 min
In this bonus episode, I read chapter 42 from Byron Katie’s book - A Thousand Names for Joy.
Ep. 38 Money is Easy
Oct 12, 2018 • 20 min
I share my own experiences in holding on to limiting beliefs about money and explain some new beliefs about money, value, and self-worth. What new and better story can you tell about money so that it can flow into your life like water?
Ep. 37 How to Negotiate a Career Pivot with Lisa Lewis
Oct 5, 2018 • 54 min
If you are ambitious and analytical, and if you want to grow your career through strategic pivots, you won’t want to miss this value-packed conversation with career change coach Lisa Lewis. Lisa Lewis is a career change coach helping ambitious, analytical…
Mac’s List Interview: How to Manage Emotions in Negotiation
Sep 28, 2018 • 33 min
This is my interview on Mac’s List podcast “Find Your Dream Job.” When preparing for a negotiation, especially about money, people are often told that their feelings don’t matter. We are warned to not get emotional at the negotiating table. Women are seen…
Ep. 36 How to Avoid the Trap of Imposter Syndrome
Sep 21, 2018 • 25 min
One of the most insidious traps in negotiation is the impostor syndrome. If you’ve ever struggled with feeling like you are good enough, or if you’ve sabotaged your outcomes because of imposter syndrome, you won’t want to miss this episode. I walk you…
Ep. 35 Three Key Principles for Negotiating as a Leader
Sep 13, 2018 • 16 min
It’s no coincidence that the principles behind interest-based negotiation framework dovetail with time-proven leadership principles. 1. Success is 80% mindset and 20% tactics. My clients are applying this insight to reinvent their lives and careers from…
Ep. 34 What If You Lowballed Yourself? #SalaryNegotiation
Sep 6, 2018 • 26 min
What if you took the job without asking for more? What if you find out only later that you’re getting paid under-market rate? I’ve done this a few times early in my career. In this episode, I share my own experience, insights into shifting your mindset,…
Ep. 33 Webinar recap: How to Deal with “Difficult” People
Aug 30, 2018 • 19 min
With webinar series “Bolder, Braver, and Better Paid,” I am working towards my mission of helping women double their income and impact. This is a quick recap of the kick-off webinar “How to Win Over Difficult People.” I give an example from my own life,…
Ep.32 Interview with Eric Kohner: How to Take a Stand #MeToo
Aug 21, 2018 • 39 min
Eric Kohner is an ally who taught me how to coach — which I love not only because it’s a grand way to make a living, but also because coaching skills are at the intersection of leadership and negotiation skills. Eric is also an internationally recognized…
Ep. 31 Jay Fields: How to Use the Brain in Your Body
Aug 13, 2018 • 34 min
Jay Fields is a somatic educator and therapeutic coach who teaches women how to regulate their nervous systems — or “the brain the body” — so they can manage anxiety and difficult emotions with empathy and connection. In this impactful interview, Jay…
Ep. 30 Interview with Lisa Gates: How to Name the Elephant.
Aug 3, 2018 • 30 min
Lisa Gates is my good friend and mentor who taught me nearly everything I know about teaching negotiation to professional women. She’s also the co-founder and chief inspiration officer of She Negotiates, a leading negotiation consulting and leadership…
Ep. 29 Eight steps to coaching yourself to a promotion
Jul 25, 2018 • 18 min
Take twenty minutes to brainstorm on your promotion strategy. What strengths do you bring to the table? What expresses the unique value of you? Who do you need to become to be leadership potential? I present step-by-step, easy-to-follow self-coaching…
Ep.28 Interview with Simon Brady, CFP: How True are Truisms?
Jul 18, 2018 • 40 min
Simon Brady, CFP® is founder and principal of Anglia Advisors, a fee-only personal financial planning and investment management firm in New York specializing in a clientele of younger professionals in their 20s, 30s and early 40s as well as foreign…
Ep. 27 Script and Strategy: Leverage an Offer to Get Another
Jul 9, 2018 • 12 min
How do you leverage a job offer to get and then to improve another offer from the company you most want to work with? How do you do that in a way that enhances your relationships and reputation? The script I offer here addresses these questions and…
Ep.26 Your Future Potential
Jun 28, 2018 • 16 min
What is your future potential? What are you doing about it? There are three types of responses to this question: 1. Avoid thinking about your future potential out of fear of disappointment 2. Define your present and future by your past 3. Own your future…
Ep. 25 Interview with Erin Davis, Change Agent and Connector
Jun 21, 2018 • 37 min
Erin Davis is Director of Global Talent Engagement at Stantec, an international design and consulting company headquartered in Canada. Erin connects with individuals, teams, and the community to talk about why inclusion and diversity are key…
Ep.24 Yes Lives in the Land of No
Jun 13, 2018 • 23 min
We are often afraid of asking for what we want because we dread hearing no. What if we operated under the assumption that “yes lives in the land of no?” I share some of my deepest fears, recent client successes and misses that demonstrate that yes, “yes…
Ep. 23 Big Embarrassing Mistake And Pitfalls of Assumptions
Jun 5, 2018 • 25 min
Last month I was in Japan to give a workshop and I made a terrible mistake that had me feeling mortified and embarrassed. In this podcast I share the dirt: what happened, how I recovered, and what I learned from the experience. Assumptions have the power…
Ep. 22: Selena Rezvani on How to Negotiate Meeting Culture
May 16, 2018 • 29 min
Selena Rezvani is a highly sought-after expert on leadership and negotiation who promotes a more female-friendly workplace culture through her award-winning writing and speaking engagements. If you’ve ever been told no, if you’ve ever been cut off at a…
Ep. 21 Questioning: It’s Unfair I Bungled My Salary Negotiation
May 8, 2018 • 15 min
In the book The Prosperous Coach, Rich Litvin says, “One advantage of me spending so much of my own life feeling powerless is that I now quickly see how powerful people are.” Same here. In this episode, I share my experience bungling a salary negotiation…
Ep.20 Three Scripts for Sidestepping Illegal Salary Question
May 2, 2018 • 13 min
The good news: Local governments (CA, OR, MA, DE, Philadelphia, and NYC) are taking the lead in banning salary history question (“What did you make in your last job?”) that perpetuates the gender wage gap. The bad news: Bad hiring practices still dominate…
Ep. 19 Tele-class: Negotiating in Emotionally Smart Way
Apr 27, 2018 • 63 min
According to Ivy League experts in behavioral psychology, how you *feel* about the negotiation process, partner, and your negotiation capabilities have an outsized impact on your negotiation success. Contrary to popular misconception, emotions rule in…
Ep. 18 Katrina Jones: Negotiation Secrets from HR, Diversity & Inclusion Expert
Apr 23, 2018 • 25 min
Katrina Jones is an accomplished HR executive and fierce champion for diversity, equality and inclusion. She currently serves as the Director of People & Inclusion at Vimeo and is also an adjunct faculty at NYU Wagner. In this interview, Katrina shares:…
Ep.17 Why We Need to Talk About the “F” Word in Negotiation
Apr 17, 2018 • 6 min
“How you feel doesn’t matter.” “Women are emotional and therefore make terrible negotiators.” “Your feelings are a weakness.” All false. To feel is to be human. To have emotional intelligence is to have a secret weapon in a negotiation. I explain the…
Ep. 16 Kathlyn Hart: Desire More. Earn More. Give More.
Apr 13, 2018 • 32 min
My special guest Kathlyn Hart is creator of Be Brave Get Paid, a salary negotiation bootcamp for women. In addition, she hosts The Big Leap Show podcast where she interviews badass women about the journey from dreaming to doing. She shares the biggest…
Ep. 15 Dismantling the myth “I have to be miserable to grow”
Apr 10, 2018 • 14 min
Is it true that misery fuels success? Where does the myth come from and how does it impact the lives of people we love? Why do we compare our success to other people’s shiny outsides? What does Joy and Meaning have anything to do with negotiation success?…
Ep.14 Why We Suck at Articulating Our Value for Money
Apr 5, 2018 • 10 min
Is it true that women don’t like to negotiate? I share evidence that the tide is rising for women. I also explain Tiara Syndrome, its impact on our negotiations, and the definition of value that generates money.
Ep.13 Minda Harts: Advancing the Next Generation of #WoC
Apr 4, 2018 • 13 min
My special guest Minda Harts is a social impact entrepreneur and founder of My Weekly Memo, a digital career education platform. Her mission is to advance the next generation of women of color. She drops negotiation and leadership wisdom, and shares how…
Ep. 7 Where I’m From, What I do, and What It Means For You
Apr 3, 2018 • 16 min
In this episode I get personal and share where I come from (South Korea), how I became a coach for ambitious women, and what it means for you. Then I wrap it up with some baller lady brags. What’s your baller lady brag?
Ep.12 3 Surprising Negotiation Insights from Women in Auto
Mar 30, 2018 • 12 min
What are the negotiation secrets of women leaders in the automobile industry? I share inspiring insights from the Women in Automobile Networking Breakfast at the New York Auto Show and talk about how you can apply these insights to gain the upper hand in…
Ep.11 Ding! 5 Minute Exercise for #Negotiation Anxiety
Mar 26, 2018 • 11 min
Does the thought of negotiating for yourself make your hands go clammy, your throat dry and your heart beating fast? I share the good news about negotiation anxiety, the tough news (not bad, just tough) and a five minute exercise for overcoming anxiety so…
Ep.10 Five Minute Exercise for Speaking Your #Value
Mar 21, 2018 • 9 min
I share a quick and fun exercise for crafting your unique value statement so you can #negotiate with power and poise. I also offer my free script “How To Ask For A Big Pay Raise”. Email me at [email protected] for the free script.
Ep.9 Articulating Your Value for a Big Pay Raise
Mar 19, 2018 • 9 min
How do you articulate your value at the #negotiation table, so that you can ask for a big pay 💰 raise? I share three approaches and offer a free script on How to Ask for a Big Pay Raise.
Ep.8 What are 5 Key Practices for #Negotiation Success?
Mar 16, 2018 • 9 min
#Negotiation skills are #leadership skills. Conscious leadership and value-creating negotiation both require self-awareness, learning agility, communication and influence. I share my definition of negotiation and five key practices for negotiation success.
Ep.6 Overcoming the Fear: She Brags Too Much
Mar 13, 2018 • 10 min
“But I don’t want them to think I’m bragging.” I hear this a LOT as a negotiation coach for women. In this episode, I share concrete tips for overcoming the fear of judgment that holds us back from speaking up, advocating for our value and confidently…
Ep.5 How to Listen with Respect So You Can Get Respect
Mar 12, 2018 • 13 min
Listening, true ❤️-❤️listening is so RARE these days🤷🏻‍♀️That’s why when you master the 3️⃣Levels of Listening, you’ll become influential, respected and magnetic to the people you engage with.
Ep.4 How to Speak to Impact Social Change
Mar 11, 2018 • 17 min
In the fourth episode, I share top three lessons on how to speak to impact social change. This is also a recap of the advocacy workshop I led for Global Network of Women Peace-builders to an audience of feminist activists who have gathered for the 62nd…
Ep.3 Traps of Perfectionism & Itty Bitty Shouldy Committee
Mar 9, 2018 • 8 min
Welcome to the third episode of Born to Thrive. In this episode we explore the trap of perfectionism and the voice of Itty Bitty Should-y Committee. Then we break down communication into four parts, so that we can focus our energy and attention on the…
Ep.2 Salary Negotiation FAQs
Mar 8, 2018 • 12 min
In the second episode of Born to Thrive, I address three most frequently asked questions that I get as a negotiation coach for women. 1. Who goes first in giving a number (you!) 2. What if my employer questions your loyalty? (They don’t pay for your…
Ep.1 3 Steps to Organizing a Winning Speech
Mar 8, 2018 • 12 min
Hi! My name is Jamie Lee and I am a coach and speaker dedicated to helping women become bolder, braver and better paid. I present three key steps for organizing a winning speech, which are 1. Big Idea 2. Premise 3. Call to Action. To give an example, I…