Talking To Teens: Expert Tips for Parenting Teenagers

Talking To Teens: Expert Tips for Parenting Teenagers
Parent-teen researcher Andy Earle talks with various experts about the art and science of parenting teenagers.

Ep. 58: The Great Outdoors and Teens
Nov 10 • 24 min
Linda McGurk, author of There’s No Such Thing As Bad Weather, clues us in on the surprising benefits of outdoor time…and how to get your kid out there in the first place!
Ep. 57: Your Teen on Power
Nov 3 • 25 min
Erin Clabough, PhD, joins us for a discussion on the importance of giving teens the right amount of power…and making sure they know how to use it! Instilling a value of empathy is key to making sure teens wield power fairly. And how do you do that? Erin…
Ep. 56: Make Meaningful Connections
Oct 27 • 26 min
Joanna Guest shares the lessons she (re)learned about meaningfully connecting with your kids while curating her book, Folded Wisdom, a collection of the best of Joanna’s dad’s 4775 notes to her and her brother. An inspiring story packed with applicable…
55: Build Resilience & Capability in Teens
Oct 20 • 33 min
Katherine Lewis, author of The Good News About Bad Behavior, reveals that kids today lack resilience and capability more than ever. By rescuing kids from every micro stressor they encounter, parents are doing more harm than good - and when it comes to…
54: Making Room for More with Minimalism
Oct 13 • 24 min
Christine Koh, author of Minimalist Parenting, reveals how to get more out of your family life by doing LESS. She says “minimalism” isn’t about getting rid of apps and toilet paper, it’s about making room for the stuff that helps your family thrive while…
53: Bad Behavior? Ignore It!
Oct 6 • 26 min
Catherine Pearlman, author of Ignore It, explains how to make bad behavior stop by pretending you don’t notice it. Discover Catherine’s secret strategies for eliminating annoying behaviors on this episode. Learn what you can ignore and what you can’t as…
52: Get Your Teen to Think
Sep 29 • 23 min
Dr. Jennifer Salerno, author of Teen Speak, shares communication tactics that you can put into practice today to start reshaping your relationship with your teen. As founder of the non-profit Possibilities for Change, Jennifer knows a thing or two about…
51: Hack Your Parenting
Sep 22 • 25 min
Susan Groner, founder of the Parenting Mentor, shares her wisdom and parenting “hacks” with us. Discover my favorite tips from Susan’s latest book Parenting: 101 Ways to Rock Your World, and Susan’s #1 reason why fights break out between parents and…
50: Teenagers Under Pressure
Sep 15 • 31 min
Lisa Damour, bestselling author of Untangled and Under Pressure, reveals a startling trend on this episode: stress and anxiety are on the rise among teenage girls. Learn why this is happening and what parents can do about it from the psychologist who…
49: Risky Behaviors and Self Harm
Sep 9 • 24 min
Michelle Mitchell, author of 5 parenting books, shares some surprising facts from her newest book, Self Harm. She says teens act reckless and harm themselves when they can’t find a better way to deal with strong negative emotions. Thankfully, there’s a…
48: Gaslighting and Emotional Manipulation
Aug 18 • 24 min
Stephanie Sarkis, author of Gaslighting, explains how parents should handle emotionally manipulative teenagers, partners, and ex-partners. She also shares strategies for preparing your teen to deal with emotionally manipulative people in their own lives.
47: Sex Positive Education for Teens
Aug 4 • 17 min
Gia Lynne, author of On Blossoming, thinks the current model of sex education does more harm than good. In this episode, she reveals how to adopt a “pleasure-focused”, or “sex positive education”, approach instead. Use these tips to set your teen up for…
46: Handling Problem Teenagers
Jul 14 • 24 min
David Sortino, author and psychologist, talks about the time he spent working at a school for troubled kids during his twenties. He developed a unique approach, using kinesthetic activities to engage the students. This episode also covers his new book on…
45: Troublesome Teenage Boys
Jun 30 • 22 min
Bill Beausay, the author of 20 books including Teenage Boys! and True Greatness, talks about how to build a strong and deep connection with a tough teenager and what you can do to challenge teens to step up and handle their own problems. He also reveals…
44: Non-Punitive Parenting Strategies
Jun 17 • 24 min
Judy Arnall, the author of four parenting books including Discipline without Distress and Parenting with Patience, explains how to stop teenage rebellion and attitude problems instantly using non-punitive parenting strategies. Your teens will surely…
43: How to Stop Yelling at Kids
Jun 2 • 29 min
Bonnie Harris, the bestselling author of When Your Kids Push Your Buttons and Confident Parents, Remarkable Kids, reveals why your kids make you so mad sometimes. In this episode, she breaks down her incredible system to stop yelling at kids and start…
42: Positive Parenting Solutions
May 26 • 22 min
Jane Nelsen, the author of the Positive Discipline books and founder of the positive discipline movement reveals some positive parenting strategies for rebellious and defiant teenagers. Get your teen under control without punishing and lecturing them with…
41: Choosing Great Teen Fiction Books
May 4 • 21 min
Brandon Mull, author of 15 New York Times Bestsellers, discusses what makes good teen fiction books. He also shares what he’s learned about how to get teens reading for fun while giving thousands of free lectures in schools around the country.
40: Learning and Study Strategies
Apr 10 • 20 min
Ulrich Boser, author of “Learn Better” and “The Leap”, discusses the latest research on the science of learning strategies and reveals how you can help your teen to adopt proven study techniques for accelerating academic performance with less effort.
39: Getting Kids to Listen to You
Mar 17 • 29 min
Chris Smith, bestselling author of The Conversion Code, reveals a step-by-step formula for how to get kids to listen to you and follow your rules. Learn how to deal with teenagers and use Pattern Interrupt statements. Getting kids to listen to you is easy…
38: Giving Advice to Teenagers
Feb 14 • 23 min
Annie Fox, an online adviser to thousands of teens and the author of 12 books including “Teaching Kids to be Good People”, reveals the best ways to give teens advice when they need some guidance. Learn how to give teens advice they will actually listen to…
37: Teach Lessons Using Stories
Jan 24 • 32 min
Paul Smith is the author of three books: Parenting with a Story, Lead with a Story, and Sell with a Story. On this episode, he reveals how to tell teens stories that teach them important lessons about life. He also shares a few of his favorite parenting…
36: Sex and Pornography Talks
Jan 1 • 22 min
Dina Alexander, the president of Educate Empower Kids and the author of numerous parenting books, explains how to talk to teenagers about porn and sex, including how to start conversations, what to do if you find porn on your family computer, and what…
35: Parenting Like a Badass
Dec 14, 2018 • 23 min
Biz Ellis, the host of the “One Bad Mother”, reveals how she found her inner badass as a parent and learned how to be cool again through her kids’ eyes. She also points out a number of ways in which you are probably already doing a great job and should…
34: Drug and Alcohol Conversations
Dec 1, 2018 • 22 min
Robert J. Meyers, the author of “Getting Your Loved One Sober”, explores strategies that parents can use to get teenagers to stop using drugs and alcohol. Instead of blaming and shaming teenagers, Meyers’ research-based approach involves loving and…
33: Does Your Teen Bully You?
Nov 15, 2018 • 26 min
Sean Grover, author of “When Kids Call the Shots”, discusses the hidden psychology that leads teenagers to bully their parents and reals simple strategies you can use to regain control from your teenager if you find yourself getting bullied. Sean has…
32: Productivity for Teenagers
Sep 30, 2018 • 25 min
David Allen the author of “Getting Things Done”, one of the best-selling business books of all time, explains how to get teens excited and motivated about their goals and productive as they pursue those goals. If you have a “lazy” teenager, you won’t want…
31: Eating Disorders and Exercise
Sep 15, 2018 • 19 min
Dana Suchow, founder of Do The Hotpants, discusses what parents need to know to discuss eating disorders with a teenager. She also explains how to connect with teenagers about exercise in a positive way, words you should avoid with teens, and a lesson in…
30: Puberty and Body Changes
Sep 5, 2018 • 25 min
Suanne Kowal Connelly, author of Parenting Through Puberty, reveals when to start talking about puberty, how to start the conversation, and the important topics to discuss. Suanne also explains how to use techniques from Motivational Interviewing to…
29: Finding Your Identity
Aug 31, 2018 • 22 min
Paul Angone, author of 101 Questions You Need to Ask In Your Twenties, discusses the process of finding your identity and your unique “secret sauce” to bring to the world. The key is to push teens to take on increasingly more responsibility in their lives…
28: Connect then Redirect
Aug 15, 2018 • 21 min
Todd Cartmell, author of 8 Simple Tools for Raising Great Kids, explains how to get a strong bond with a teenager and then use this as a home base to redirect them to a better way. He says you need to start by fixing your relationship with the teen, then…
27: Awkward Talks with Teens
Aug 9, 2018 • 22 min
David McGlynn, author of “One Day You’ll Thank Me” along with two other books, gets candid about tough talks. By stepping up and doing the awkward talks with his own kids, McGlynn developed some important insights about how to approach the toughest…
26: The Teenage Achievement Trap
Jul 23, 2018 • 21 min
Brandilyn Tebo, bestselling author of The Achievement Trap and a retreat leader and life coach, says it’s important for parents to help teens develop a practice of unconditional self love. This episode is full of word-for-word scripts you can use to make…
25: Mental Strength for Teens
Jul 10, 2018 • 21 min
Amy Morin, bestselling author of 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do, an expert on how to teach grit and emotional strength, discusses lessons she learned from her years as a foster parent to dozens of children and as a psychologist who helps…
24: Adolescent Neuroscience
Jun 29, 2018 • 22 min
Lucy Maddox, author of Blueprint: How Childhood Makes Us Who We Are, discusses the fascinating science of why social experiences are also heightened during the teenage years. In this episode she reveals what you should teach your teen about friendships…
23: The Terror of Teenage Rebellion
Jun 15, 2018 • 22 min
Neal Thompson, author of Kickflip Boys, discusses the drama of raising rebellious and defiant teenagers. He reveals some of the strategies he found that worked for getting through to his kids in the end and talks about how he coped with the rebellious…
22: Negotiating Rules and Limits
Jun 8, 2018 • 23 min
Chris Voss, the former lead international hostage negotiator for the FBI and author of the bestselling book Never Split the Difference: Negotiating as if Your Life Depended on it, speaks with us about how to win negotiations with your teenager over things…
21: Teaching Your Teen to Be Happy
May 25, 2018 • 22 min
Tim Bono, author of When Likes Aren’t Enough, reveals some strategies parents can use to help teens cope with setbacks and maintain a positive outlook in the face of obstacles and failure. Ultimately, the tools discussed in this interview are things that…
20: Building a Strong Family Culture
May 17, 2018 • 20 min
Thomas Lickona, author of How to Raise Kind Kids, reveals how parents can combat the constant barrage of influence on teenagers from peers, media, and the internet. His philosophy for this requires creating a family culture so strong it overpowers the…
19: Teenagers and Self-Motivation
May 10, 2018 • 23 min
Ned and Bill, the authors of The Self-Driven Child, discuss the difficulties of getting teens motivated about things like homework. They provide a useful framework for helping teens develop self-motivation and self-sufficiency in their lives.
18: Christian Parenting Skills
May 1, 2018 • 20 min
Hannah Seymour, author of The College Girls Survival Guide, reveals what she has learned from years of running a Christian advice blog for teenage girls. She explains how to share stories with teens about your own mistakes and how to encourage them to…
17: Work-Life Balance for Dads
Apr 11, 2018 • 20 min
Matt Schneider, an outspoken “dadvocate”, co-founder of City Dads Group, and host of the Modern Dads Podcast, talks to us about what it means to be a father to a teenager today, how to find work-life balance, and tips for a more fulfilling “parenting…
16: Getting College Paid For
Mar 17, 2018 • 22 min
Jeannie Burlowski, author of LAUNCH: How to Get Your Kids Through College Debt-Free and into Jobs They Love Afterward, reveals some incredible tricks for helping your teen get an early jumpstart on a college education that is completely paid for by the…
15: Wake Up and Get More Savvy
Mar 9, 2018 • 20 min
Michelle Mitchell, author of Parenting Teenage Girls in the Age of a New Normal, has a wake-up call for parents on this episode. She thinks it is a big problem that parents tend to be out of touch with the latest technology and culture. Parents today need…
14: Chores and Responsibility
Feb 4, 2018 • 20 min
Dr. G, author of Get the Behavior You Want Without Being the Parent You Hate!, explains her philosophy on how to instill responsibility and a strong work ethic in teenagers. In Dr. G’s opinion, cleaning your room isn’t a chore. Chores are things teens do…
13: Passion, Grief, and College
Jan 17, 2018 • 21 min
Susan Toler Carr, elite college admissions and career counselor and founder of the organization Justin Carr Wants World Peace, opens up about the loss of her son and discusses candidly how we can be better at talking with teenagers — or anyone — who is…
12: Underage Drinking Special
Jan 10, 2018 • 20 min
Various guests. Alcohol use during the teenage years isn’t a new phenomenon. But a lot of new research has been done on how parents can mitigate risks for teens. Combining clips from interviews with leading experts from around the world, parent-teen…
11: The Science of Teen Popularity
Jan 4, 2018 • 20 min
Mitch Prinstein, author of the book “Popular”, talks about his research on teenage popularity and reveals the scientific explanation for why teens get so obsessed with status. He also shares some simple things parents can do to help teens keep everything…
10: Help Teens Cope with Anxiety
Dec 21, 2017 • 21 min
Karen Young, founder of the immensely popular psychology blog “Hey Sigmund” talks about how to help teens with anxiety. It starts with listening and not trying to convince them that their feelings are “no big deal”. Then we should teach them about anxiety…
9: Smartphones, Social Media, and Texting
Oct 9, 2017 • 19 min
Joani Geltman, author of the bestselling book “A Survival Guide to Parenting Teens”, explains how to handle teens who are addicted to their electronic devices. She has found that kids are texting during class, posting on SnapChat while they do their…
8: Teens Who Think Creatively
Oct 8, 2017 • 22 min
Jim Davies, author of the book Riveted discusses how imagination and creativity work, and how can we help our teens to think outside of the box. He explains the key to raising teens who can think for themselves is to reward them when they take risks–even…
7: The Science of Teen Persuasion
Oct 7, 2017 • 22 min
Jake Teeny, persuasion researcher and author of the immensely popular course “The Psychology of Persuasion” explains what to do when you need to persuade your teen to do what you are asking. Use these tactics to be more influential in every parent-teen…
6: Don’t Raise a Wimpy Teen
Oct 5, 2017 • 23 min
Nick Boothman, New York Times bestselling author of “How to Make People Like You in 90 Seconds or Less” reveals how to instill perseverance in a teenager. He has raised five highly successful children and he worked hard to teach his kids to be resourceful…
5: Resolving Conflicts with Teenagers FAST
Oct 5, 2017 • 20 min
Lianna Tsangarides, a family therapist and leading expert in Dialectical Behavior Therapy points out that teens are struggling with some significant inner conflicts. Lianna teaches us how to reduce external type of conflict as a parent by understanding…
4: Mastering Non-Clinging with Teens
Oct 4, 2017 • 19 min
Rachel Scott, yoga teacher, blogger, and founder of Rachel Yoga, explains the concept of Aparigraha, meaning non-grasping or non-clinging. She says that parents can embody this principle by creating an open, loving space for teens to talk about whatever…
3: Handling Self-Centered Teenagers
Oct 2, 2017 • 19 min
Wendy Behary, author of “Disarming the Narcissist” talks about how to deal with a self absorbed teenager. What is the best way for parents to handle self centered teenage problems? One of the big topics covered in this episode is how to tell a self…
2: Getting Yourself in the Right Space
Oct 2, 2017 • 20 min
J. Brown, host of the “Yoga Talks” podcast, blogger, and founder of his own yoga studio talks about how parents can get themselves into a more open, receptive state before jumping into an important conversation with a teenager. These tactics are sure to…
1: Success and Getting What You Want in Life
Sep 30, 2017 • 18 min
Bill Deresiewicz, bestselling author of Excellent Sheep, talks about the conversations he had with students that really had an impact when he was teaching at Yale and Columbia. His advice for how to do this with your own teen involves being non-judgmental.