Quick and Dirty Marriage Podcast

Quick and Dirty Marriage Podcast

A short and to the point podcast about marriage and relationships, Dale and Heather share what they’ve learned since saying “I Do” back in 1999. Through their pain and suffering, and also joys and triumphs, they want to help you get from the dating


Notice the Good
May 22 • 19 min
Looking for a quick win in your marriage? When you notice the good in your marriage, you will not only see your relationship improve, but your spouse will develop into the person they were created to be.When you speak to their future person, and tap into…
Coping with COVID
Apr 3 • 17 min
The pandemic is all around us. And it’s affecting everyone in so many different ways. In this episode, Heather and I share some Real Talk when it comes to our own struggles, and also offer some simple ways in which you and your spouse can step back and…
3 Ways to Survive Self Isolation with your Spouse
Mar 20 • 14 min
Isn’t this kinda crazy? How the entire world is having to witness, experience and live out this COVID-19 Pandemic together?People sick, others are dying, countries are in lock down and schools and workplaces are shut down. It’s some difficult times we are…
Love is not…Sacrificing
Mar 9 • 9 min
Love is not…Sacrificing.One foundation that is super important in a marriage is sacrifice. Love cannot thrive without a healthy level of sacrifice between both husband and wife. However, there are different types of sacrifice that you must be able to…
Love is not…Control
Mar 4 • 14 min
Believe it or not, no one likes to be controlled. Especially in a marriage relationship.Wrongly, there are times where we feel that in order to be loved more, we must control more, when in fact, it’s the exact opposite.In this episode, we chat about how…
Love is not…Selfish
Feb 26 • 12 min
Love is not…SelfishDo you feel as though you keep giving into your marriage and there’s nothing in return? Like you’re being taken for granted?Or maybe it’s is like a tug of war where you do something for yourself then your spouse has to do something for…
When the Tank is Empty
Feb 19 • 19 min
We don’t fight. We used to, but we don’t fight anymore. We figured that out in the beginning of our marriage and thank God we did early on.However, we certainly disagree, we argue and from time to time, we get out of sorts with each other. Most often, we…
What Really is True Love?
Feb 14 • 17 min
What Really is True Love?So you think you’re in love. What does that really mean? Like really?Too often, couples associate love with how they feel. We, however, have a different view of love. And it has NOTHING to do with feelings.
Hurt and Anger
Nov 29, 2019 • 19 min
Heath of the Heart Series, Part 2 - Hurt and AngerAnger is a symptom of hurt that lives deep inside of you. Without addressing your past hurts, you will continually hurt your spouse, even for the smallest of things. So how then do you overcome this…
Affects of a Guilty Heart
Nov 14, 2019 • 21 min
Affects of a Guilty Heart
Where the Heck did we Go?
Nov 5, 2019 • 13 min
We’ve been away for about 8 months without a single Podcast Episode and now we’re back! But where the heck dd we go? This Episode is a summary of where we’ve been and what’s next with the Quick and Dirty Marriage Podcast.
Your Partner is not a Mind Reader
Mar 17, 2019 • 9 min
We do this all the time. THINK. And it’s a bad habit when it comes to relationships. We think we know what they wantWe think they know how we feelWe think, “Of course he knows what to do”And that’s a bad habit and it leads to too many problems.Stop…
Help Me Get over my Ex
Mar 14, 2019 • 13 min
It’s ToughBreaking up with your Ex and then trying to live your life afterward. Especially when the relationship wasn’t ideal towards the end. Dealing with pain, regret and most of all hurt. So what do you do? How do you ‘get over’ them?
Dating: In the World of Social Media
Mar 7, 2019 • 15 min
Trust is built with Transparency. And that is evident when it comes to Dating and Social Media. And more specifically, as your dating relationship progresses and begins to move into a more serious one, the subject of access to each other’s accounts may…
Dating: You Complete Me
Feb 27, 2019 • 21 min
Too often we hear the saying “You Complete Me!” It’s this false idea that someone else in your life will complete you. As if to say that I am less when I am single, but now that I have that special one, they are the finishing touch to make me complete and…
Dating: Control in a Toxic Relationship
Feb 21, 2019 • 19 min
We all have needs in a Relationship. Legit ones like Love, Trust, Security, and Respect.But what happens when other things are masked as needs, but in turn, are actually just high expectations?Those high expectations, when unmet, are the start of a toxic…
Dating: When Should we get Engaged?
Feb 14, 2019 • 20 min
Getting engaged, or married for that matter, by a certain age or number of years you’ve been in your relatiponship puts nothing put pressure on the both of you. Those numbers are simply arbitrary and should never be used as a time to get engaged.Instead,…
Healthy Relationships in Blended Families
Dec 6, 2018 • 9 min
There’s a good chance that you may know someone who is part of a blended family. They might be a step child, foster child, someone who is adopted and any other relationship that is not blood related. Or, you might be part of a blended family yourself. We…
Fighting your Outlaws
Nov 28, 2018 • 15 min
As we go on in life, we get used to the family dynamics growing up. But what happens when we get married? How do we bring two different worlds together and function in a way that’s best for our new family?
Win Their Respect
Nov 15, 2018 • 13 min
Don’t mess up their Jam! 3 Things you can do to Win Their Respect when entering into a relationship when a child(ren) is already there. Don’t take Dad’s place Win the child’s heart Respect the system and relationship
Letting Your Ex Lead
Nov 8, 2018 • 16 min
In Relationships where there is a child involved and the Relationship can longer exist, how should you treat your Ex?
Moving Forward with Mental Health
Oct 30, 2018 • 12 min
So what do you do now? How do you move forward now that life looks a bit different than what it used to look like? Especially after Mental Health issues have now entered into your life and it’s out in the open?Some of the things we chat about in this…
Your Roles and Responsibilities
Oct 25, 2018 • 12 min
As far as the Roles and Responsibilities are concerned, who does what when Mental Health is involved? It’s a big question to answer, and when answered correctly, could launch your relationships into a healthy state that’s worth the hard discussions about…
The New Normal
Oct 18, 2018 • 15 min
In talking about Mental Health in Marriages, there’s a question you need to tackle when one of you, or both of you, decides to finally admit that you are struggling mentally. And that question is this: “What does our NEW normal look like?” We chat…
Mental Health in Marriage
Sep 6, 2018 • 16 min
Mental Health Problems are very real. And although neither of us are trained psychologists, we have been dealing with this long battle for many years now. Adjustments have needed to be made, capacities have been altered and it’s wreaked havoc in our…
Coming Out of the Closet
Aug 16, 2018 • 14 min
It’s way too easy to keep things hidden in the closet. Some even choose to hide them behind closed doors or even swept under the rug. That way you never have to deal with them right? Besides, it’ll probably just go away over time, no one will notice and…
Can I Date your Daughter?
Aug 8, 2018 • 15 min
When you first plan to get married, kids are usually not the first thing you think about or even discuss. There are SO many aspects of raising kids that one would wonder where to even begin. Things such as babies, diapers, toddlers, school, teenagers…
The Differences between Counselling and Mentoring
Aug 4, 2018 • 13 min
There are so many things we can do alone. Play a game of Solitaire, go to the gym to workout, travel, and even bake a cake. But there’s certainly one thing you should never do solo, and that’s your relationship with your partner. Think of it. Every day,…
Plan to Move Forward
Jul 25, 2018 • 11 min
Constantly sitting on your relationship issues after you’ve dealt with them is a sure fire way of never moving forward. 3 Things To Plan ForAfter you have discussed and gone through all the pain and heartache of betrayal, what next? What are the next…
Forgive and Be Forgiven
Jul 18, 2018 • 9 min
Breaking someone’s trust is painful. Not only that, they feel betrayed, unsafe and unsure of what you say or do next. They will second guess you for the next little while, or, in some cases, forever. But it doesn’t have to be that way. When you begin the…
Deciding to Love
Jul 12, 2018 • 14 min
When trust is broken, it does not mean the relationship is over or unstable. It just means there’s work for both of you to do if you want to make it work. Trust makes people feel safe. And in a relationship, when it begins on a firm foundation of trust,…
Winning the War against Screen Time
Jun 27, 2018 • 12 min
Are you losing the war against screentime? Do you kick, scream and shout when your kids are locked behind their screens for hours? Are you so sick of it that you want to rip your hair out?
Create a Habit of saying Sorry to your Kids
Jun 20, 2018 • 13 min
Parenting is hard. And it’s worse when you hurt your kids. But there’s good news. There’s always good news. You can say sorry to them and make things right. Not only do you make things right, you also prove to them that your relationship is more important…
How Entitlement can Ruin Relationships
Jun 14, 2018 • 16 min
We all want things. But for some people, they feel they are entitled to whatever it is they want and feel as though they deserve it all. And that can make for very difficult relationships and a whole lot of disappointment.Entitlement is a killer. And it…
Healthy Balance of Marriage and Kids
Jun 7, 2018 • 13 min
The balance between Marriage and Kids is one of the toughest jobs one can accept. It’s not one for the faint of heart. But it’s one of the most rewarding. No one comes into a marriage wanting to lead a child-centered home. But sometimes it happens so fast…
How to Deal with a Toxic Relationship
May 24, 2018 • 12 min
They are around you. Toxic people and toxic relationships. The question is, how do you manage them in a healthy manner?If someone in your life is either toxic or has toxic tendencies, we feel that in order to keep the relationship intact as best as you…
When Do You Feel Most Loved?
May 17, 2018 • 10 min
Do you know when you most feel loved? Like actually? Because it’s important. Especially when you’re in a relationship. Because love can be so complicated, simplifying it and understanding your own personal love language can prove to be quite advantageous.
How to Manage the Introvert and Extrovert in your Marriage
May 9, 2018 • 14 min
There are so many variables that come into play when it comes to relationships. Discovering what they are is the first priority. And the second, and most of all, is understanding what those variables and challenges are and how to manage them. Nothing…
Do I have to Agree with my Spouse?
May 2, 2018 • 10 min
Newsflash, you will never agree on absolutely everything. It’s near impossible. Because you both are 2 different people with 2 different points of views, you will eventually come to a place where you don’t see eye to eye and are faced with either fighting…
Setting Boundaries around Conflict and Arguments
Apr 26, 2018 • 12 min
One of the major killers in our relationship used to be Conflicts and Arguments. We had no idea how to discuss things respectfully and in a calm and peaceful manner. It was always 0-100 in 2 seconds flat when either of us was upset about something.We…
How to Spice up your Sex Life
Apr 18, 2018 • 13 min
Guys need to understand that in order to have a great sex life with your wife figure out what she likes, and SLOW IT DOWN. Find ways throughout the day to kick start her mood and her desire for you, so that by the time you get home from work, she’s…
Boundaries in Bed
Apr 12, 2018 • 10 min
We want you to walk away from this episode and talk to your spouse about what is acceptable and enjoyable in bed. Once you are in agreement, we believe that there are no boundaries, except the things that either of you are uncomfortable with. Respect each…
Boundaries with Sex
Apr 5, 2018 • 11 min
Once you cross a boundary, it becomes easier to cross it again. And once that begins, the lines keep moving farther and farther out until you become desensitized to the dangers around you.
Affair Proof your Marriage with Boundaries
Mar 29, 2018 • 14 min
Too often we think that relationships with the opposite sex can be harmless. But then you end up going for JUST coffee, and then it’s JUST lunch, which turns into JUST dinner, and then it’s JUST talking in your car and before you know it, you both find…
How to Avoid Daily Distractions in your Marriage
Mar 8, 2018 • 13 min
There’s no other time in history where we’ve been so bombarded with the many distractions of life. From our jobs, to our families, and most of all, to Social Media, we need to get back to being intentional at combatting those distractions in order to have…
How to Stay Desirable to your Spouse
Feb 21, 2018 • 11 min
How does one stay desirable their spouse through the entirety of a marriage?To be Desirable to your Husband, Be his Cheerleader and Biggest FanTo be Desirable to your Wife, Create and Provide Safe Environments for your Wife
Put Her in Her Place
Feb 16, 2018 • 8 min
In this Episode, we chat about the core need of a woman and what that looks like when it’s implemented in a relationship.The One KeyWomen need security and love. Women feel most secure when they are married to a sacrificial, caring man.When a man loves…
Respect Yo Man
Feb 9, 2018 • 15 min
What Heather came to understand was that when exposed to an environment where respect is abused, demanded and used as a way to control, the exact opposite occurs and it breeds an undercurrent of resentment and contempt. Respect spills into everything. As…
Drop the Gloves
Feb 1, 2018 • 18 min
We all have fight styles. Some good and some destructive. In this Episode, we talk about how Criticism/Blaming, Defensiveness and also Stonewalling almost destroyed our marriage and the simple things you can do to change that!
Protect to Connect
Jan 25, 2018 • 10 min
How do you Stay Connected in Survival Mode? In this Episode, we answer a question called in by the Quick and Dirty Website. Don and Glory asks: “how do we stay connected when you’re in survival mode”! PLANNING Once a month planning Weekly…
Giving up in your Marriage
Jan 18, 2018 • 12 min
From the day we said “I Do” (1999) Heather and I have tried so many things to improve our marriage. We’ve gone to marriage counseling, read countless books and attended a tonne of Marriage Conference. And out of all that, we found something that truly…
Saying the “F” Word
Jan 11, 2018 • 11 min
Do you use the “F” Word freely in your marriage? In this episode, we’ll share why we’ve been using it almost daily for over 20 years.Plus, we answer a Podcast listeners question on fun and cheap date night ideas.To get your question answered on the…
I’m All Out of Love
Jan 4, 2018 • 8 min
What do you do when you fall out of love? When the warm and fuzzies disappear, the honeymoon stage is over and you’re left with life but the romance is fading or even gone completely. Is it game over? What do you do?
Give it to Him
Dec 20, 2017 • 9 min
The power of our words are controlled by us. We have the ability to build our spouses up or tear them down…with just a few words. What words are you using to describe your husband? Do you respect him when you speak about him? Choose your words…
Keep Pursuing Her
Dec 14, 2017 • 11 min
In this Episode, we look at the importance of continuing the Pursuit of the woman. In the beginning of even the dating relationship, the man will stop at nothing to gain the heart of the woman, but when things progress and move into marriage, life tends…
Welcome to the Quick and Dirty Podcast
Dec 7, 2017 • 4 min
Welcome to the very first episode of the Quick and Dirty Podcast. We are so very excited to begin this journey with you and we hope that you will find value in the things that we share. Please subscribe to our Podcast. We’d love to get to know you!…