Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel

Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel

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Listen to the incomparable therapist Esther Perel counsel real couples as they reveal the most intimate, personal, and complicated details of the conflicts that have brought them to her door. This season, she takes on open marriage, racism inside an extended family, coming out in a religious home, and chronic infidelity, among other delicate dynamics. Esther creates a space for us to hear our own lives and struggles articulated in the stories of others. So….where should we begin?


Season Four Trailer
Jun 18 • 2 min
A new season of Where Should We Begin? With Esther Perel.
Couples Under Lockdown: Lagos, Nigeria
May 14 • 55 min
Last summer they left everything they’d built in Seattle for a chance at a very different life. He took a dream turn to expand his company and be closer to home; she gave up her nursing job to manage their girls and explore new horizons abroad. COVID-19…
Couples Under Lockdown: New York, New York
Apr 16 • 49 min
They have three kids and their volatile marriage has fallen apart. She still hopes to rebuild. He can’t get out of there fast enough. Two weeks before COVID-19 forced New Yorkers to shelter in place, they filed for divorce. Now they feel trapped. If he…
Couples Under Lockdown: Bavaria, Germany
Apr 2 • 55 min
For the last year they have lived in separate countries. She took a dream job closer to where she grew up in Germany and he stayed behind with the promise he would follow soon. Six months turned into a year, which turned into a conversation that…
Couples Under Lockdown: Sicily, Italy
Mar 24 • 49 min
They left each other emotionally years ago, but with three kids they have been trying to keep it together. For the last two weeks they find themselves confined to a small apartment in Sicily, Italy — he bears the brunt of the domestic duties at home all…
Esther Perel’s New Show: How’s Work?
Feb 26 • 50 min
Today we’re sharing the first episode of Esther Perel’s new show How’s Work? In it, Esther sits down with coworkers, cofounders and colleagues, and brings her inimitable perspective to workplace relationships and conflicts. You can listen to all episodes…
Happily Divorced
Nov 21, 2019 • 56 min
They’re a divorced couple whose two-household relationship may prove that a happy family doesn’t have to end with divorce.
Mom and Monique
Nov 14, 2019 • 53 min
They’re a child desperate to connect with their single mother after 28 years of living in the shadow of a special-needs brother.
A Romantic Revival
Nov 7, 2019 • 49 min
He’s away a lot. She’s a stepmother at home to four children whose mother died by suicide. Is there anything left over for her?
The Other Woman
Oct 31, 2019 • 50 min
She wonders if she can satisfy her attraction to women without losing the husband she loves.
A Small Town Affair
Oct 24, 2019 • 50 min
Their relationship started with an affair that ended two marriages. Now they wonder if there’s enough trust there to build something stable together.
Young Love
Oct 17, 2019 • 51 min
She lives in Mexico, he lives in the US. Their immigration status has forced them to consider marriage sooner than they might have planned.
Season Three Trailer
Mar 8, 2019 • 2 min
A new season of Where Should We Begin?
I Don’t Want to Be Your Caregiver, I Want to Be Your Wife
Apr 27, 2018 • 49 min
Almost two years ago her husband was diagnosed with early onset Parkinson’s Disease. They have three kids, a mortgage to pay, and he has developed some compulsive behaviors he isn’t proud of. Esther helps them learn how to turn off the caregiver, and…
I’ve Had 100 Conversations with You in My Head
Apr 19, 2018 • 49 min
[Contains mature themes] After a discovery in her doctor’s office, a woman realizes her husband has been unfaithful. While betrayed and angry, she still feels a desire to stick it out for the sake of the kids. He, meanwhile, is desperate to find a way…
You Can Be Right or You Can Be Married
Apr 12, 2018 • 48 min
[Contains mature themes] They’ve been together for more than a decade, but this isn’t the first time they’ve separated. Stuck in a cycle of explosive escalations, a husband and wife want to make it work but can’t break their habit of going for the…
Questions You Aren’t Allowed to Ask
Apr 5, 2018 • 49 min
[Contains mature themes] What began as an eight-year affair between two women has stretched into a 19-year partnership. But despite their private commitment to one another, they’ve never quite managed to move beyond the shame of their origin story. Esther…
Leaving the Shame Behind
Mar 29, 2018 • 50 min
A young couple has endured a series of crises early in their marriage, from a benign brain tumor to a serious car crash to the husband’s near-fatal heart attack. Following his recovery, he’s adapting to new physical limitations, while she says the…
Ms. Entitlement and Mr. Sacrifice Out On a Date
Mar 22, 2018 • 51 min
[Contains mature themes] An on-again, off-again couple in their fifties, dating in a post-divorce landscape, are struggling with different world views, priorities and sexual interests. Recognizing that their polarized dynamic takes the fun out of spending…
I Want to Feel Wanted
Mar 15, 2018 • 51 min
After ten years, a husband tells his wife he no longer wishes to be married. A month later, stuck in limbo, they come to Esther. She helps them have an honest conversation about their expectations, desires, and the ways in which their role as parents has…
You Need Help to Help Her
Mar 8, 2018 • 49 min
[Contains mature themes] A husband and wife are united in their desire to help their daughter, two years after she suffered a breakdown and moved home, shutting herself off from her family and friends. Esther urges them to examine the way pressure and…
I Can’t Give You a Child
Nov 30, 2017 • 45 min
[Contains mature themes] A woman realizes she doesn’t want to have children and comes to Esther for help expressing this to her husband, who passionately wishes to be a father. But often the stories people come in with are not the ones they take home.
Trauma Doesn’t Like to be Touched
Nov 23, 2017 • 41 min
[Contains mature themes] A newly-married couple comes to Esther for guidance on how to create a space of safety and physical intimacy, while also giving voice to past trauma.
Sexlessness
Nov 16, 2017 • 38 min
[Contains mature themes] A couple are first-generation children of immigrants, raised to believe sex should only take place in a marriage. Now that sex isn’t forbidden, it’s deeply uninteresting…to one of them.
Tell Me I’m Not Alone
Nov 9, 2017 • 44 min
[Contains mature themes] A young family, a ten-year age difference, and a wife who found independence through an extra-marital relationship. They’ve decided to forgive and rebuild, but the pain of the betrayal remains.
There’s You There’s Me and There’s Us
Nov 2, 2017 • 48 min
[Contains mature themes] They have been together for 17 years, best friends and partners who, despite their loving and positive relationship, go months without connecting sexually.
Impotent Is No Way to Define a Man
Oct 26, 2017 • 47 min
[Contains Mature themes.] A man has struggled with impotence for over two decades. His wife, in despair over her feelings of hopelessness in the bedroom, seeks relief for her sexual frustration and feelings of resentment.
The Addict
Oct 19, 2017 • 43 min
[Contains mature themes] They’re grandparents, with a 40-year love story and a stable, happy marriage. But one of them had quite a few secrets. Esther gives them some tools to navigate and support each other’s experiences.
Speak to Me in French
Oct 8, 2017 • 43 min
[Contains mature themes] A husband and wife met while deeply committed to the evangelical faith and didn’t kiss until their wedding day; for her, that kiss felt like “kissing her brother.” Esther gets creative in an effort to help them create a new sexual…
Motherless Women
Oct 8, 2017 • 40 min
[Contains mature themes] A couple with two small children are at physical and emotional odds in their relationship. One has given herself over entirely to the children, while the other struggles to find her place within the family dynamic. Esther helps…
I’ve Had Better
Oct 8, 2017 • 51 min
[Contains mature themes] He reached out because a year after the discovery of his affair, they aren’t fighting anymore, but they certainly haven’t moved on. Esther guides them towards a more honest conversation, and a revelation about their communication.
Prologue
May 17, 2017 • 2 min
Step into iconic relationship therapist Esther Perel’s office and listen as 10 anonymous couples in search of insight bare the raw, intimate, and profound details of their story. From infidelity to sexlessness to loss, it’s a space for people to be heard…