Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel

Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel

estherperel.com/podcast
Step into iconic relationship therapist Esther Perel’s office and listen as 10 anonymous couples in search of insight bare the raw, intimate, and profound details of their story.


Season Three Trailer
Mar 8 • 2 min
A new season of Where Should We Begin? coming Spring 2019
I Don’t Want to Be Your Caregiver, I Want to Be Your Wife
Apr 27, 2018 • 45 min
Almost two years ago her husband was diagnosed with early onset Parkinson’s Disease. They have three kids, a mortgage to pay, and he has developed some compulsive behaviors he isn’t proud of. Esther helps them learn how to turn off the ‘caregiver,’…
I’ve Had 100 Conversations with You in My Head
Apr 20, 2018 • 45 min
[Contains mature themes] After a discovery in her doctor’s office, a woman realizes her husband has been unfaithful. While betrayed and angry, she still feels a desire to stick it out for the sake of the kids. He, meanwhile, is desperate to find a way…
You Can Be Right or You Can Be Married
Apr 13, 2018 • 43 min
[Contains mature themes] They’ve been together for more than a decade, but this isn’t the first time they’ve separated. Stuck in a cycle of explosive escalations, a husband and wife want to make it work but can’t break their habit of going for…
Questions You Aren’t Allowed to Ask
Apr 6, 2018 • 45 min
[Contains mature themes] What began as an eight-year affair between two women has stretched into a 19-year partnership. But despite their private commitment to one another, they’ve never quite managed to move beyond the shame of their origin story….
Leaving the Shame Behind
Mar 30, 2018 • 45 min
A young couple has endured a series of crises early in their marriage, from a benign brain tumor to a serious car crash to the husband’s near-fatal heart attack. Following his recovery, he’s adapting to new physical limitations, while she says the…
Ms. Entitlement and Mr. Sacrifice Out On a Date
Mar 23, 2018 • 46 min
[Contains mature themes] An on-again, off-again couple in their fifties, dating in a post-divorce landscape, are struggling with different world views, priorities and sexual interests. Recognizing that their polarized dynamic takes the fun out of…
I Want to Feel Wanted
Mar 16, 2018 • 46 min
After ten years, a husband tells his wife he no longer wishes to be married. A month later, stuck in limbo, they come to Esther. She helps them have an honest conversation about their expectations, desires, and the ways in which their role as parents…
You Need Help to Help Her
Mar 9, 2018 • 45 min
[Contains mature themes] A husband and wife are united in their desire to help their daughter, two years after she suffered a breakdown and moved home, shutting herself off from her family and friends. Esther urges them to examine the way pressure and…
I Can’t Give You a Child
Dec 1, 2017 • 40 min
[Contains mature themes] A woman realizes she doesn’t want to have children and comes to Esther for help expressing this to her husband, who passionately wishes to be a father. But often the stories people come in with are not the ones they take home.
Trauma Doesn’t Like to be Touched
Nov 24, 2017 • 36 min
[Contains mature themes] A newly-married couple comes to Esther for guidance on how to create a space of safety and physical intimacy, while also giving voice to past trauma.
Sexlessness
Nov 17, 2017 • 33 min
[Contains mature themes] A couple are first-generation children of immigrants, raised to believe sex should only take place in a marriage. Now that sex isn’t forbidden, it’s deeply uninteresting…to one of them.
Tell Me I’m Not Alone
Nov 10, 2017 • 39 min
[Contains mature themes] A young family, a ten-year age difference, and a wife who found independence through an extra-marital relationship. They’ve decided to forgive and rebuild, but the pain of the betrayal remains.
There’s You There’s Me and There’s Us
Nov 3, 2017 • 43 min
[Contains mature themes] They have been together for 17 years, best friends and partners who, despite their loving and positive relationship, go months without connecting sexually.
Impotent Is No Way to Define a Man
Oct 27, 2017 • 42 min
[Contains Mature themes.] A man has struggled with impotence for over two decades. His wife, in despair over her feelings of hopelessness in the bedroom, seeks relief for her sexual frustration and feelings of resentment.
The Addict
Oct 20, 2017 • 38 min
[Contains mature themes] They’re grandparents, with a 40-year love story and a stable, happy marriage. But one of them had quite a few secrets. Esther gives them some tools to navigate and support each other’s experiences.
Speak to Me in French
Oct 8, 2017 • 38 min
[Contains mature themes] A husband and wife met while deeply committed to the evangelical faith and didn’t kiss until their wedding day; for her, that kiss felt like “kissing her brother.” Esther gets creative in an effort to help them create a…
Motherless Women
Oct 8, 2017 • 35 min
[Contains mature themes] A couple with two small children are at physical and emotional odds in their relationship. One has given herself over entirely to the children, while the other struggles to find her place within the family dynamic. Esther…
I’ve Had Better
Oct 8, 2017 • 46 min
[Contains mature themes] He reached out because a year after the discovery of his affair, they aren’t fighting anymore, but they certainly haven’t moved on. Esther guides them towards a more honest conversation, and a revelation about their…
Prologue
May 17, 2017 • 2 min
Step into iconic relationship therapist Esther Perel’s office and listen as 10 anonymous couples in search of insight bare the raw, intimate, and profound details of their story. From infidelity to sexlessness to loss, it’s a space for people to…