Who Am I Really?

Who Am I Really?

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Adoptees telling their stories of life in adoption, the search for their birth family, and how their reunion attempt turned out. Stories that make you laugh, cry, or simply say “wow”. This podcast has two purposes: 1) To help you explore your own feelings about your adoption, accept your desire to try to understand your own personal history, and decide for yourself whether a search for reunification with your biological relatives is right for you. It will help you understand how others have dealt with issues related to protecting the feelings of their adopted families who may be supportive of your search, or question your motives and present challenges. 2) For non-adoptees, this podcast will help you understand some of what is in the minds of your friends, family members, or others who are adopted, but you didn’t know if you should ask some of the questions that will be answered here. The stories will make you smile or bring you to tears, but they’re all true as told by the people who lived them. In t


One Foot In Front Of The Other
Feb 8 • 29 min
I planned to bring the show back this week, but the end of 2019 and beginning of 2020 have been rough. When you listen to this one, you’ll understand why…
014 – I Would Not Have Made It Without My Faith
Feb 1 • 33 min
Sara was the baby in her family of four biological half brothers to one another, and one other brother who was also adopted like her just like her. When she hit puberty, a naturally more emotional time in our lives, she lost her grandmother, someone who…
008 – She Knew She Had To Do This For Me
Jan 25 • 33 min
Cindy had one sister growing up in a mormon family in Las Vegas. But the two adoptees looked very different: Cindy’s blue eyes and blond hair were in stark contrast with her sister’s olive skin and brown hair. She was a very sick child battling illness…
055 – I’ve Found My Answers And Fulfillment Helping Other People
Jan 18 • 43 min
Katelyn followed her older adopted sister into rebellion against their adopted mother’s rule. Years later her husband suggested they do DNA tests when she got pregnant. Seeing relationships online she hadn’t considered before, she searched for her birth…
059 – I’m Heather 1
Jan 4 • 45 min
Vonni learned from the neighbor’s child that she was adopted, but she was too young to know what it really meant. In her teen years, the yearning to understand her adoption led her on a journey an hour away to the adoption agency for her non-identifying…
062 – One Month Of Bonding Helped Me With A Lifetime In Adoption
Dec 28, 2019 • 46 min
Tim was adopted into a Lutheran family and his curiosity about his roots started when he was very young. When he met his biological mother, she portrayed her husband as Tim’s father, but the truth came out when her daughters suggested a different version…
039 – I’m An Adult, But They’re Acting Like Children
Dec 21, 2019 • 43 min
Mitch’s parents adopted his older brother, then him. Then they got a surprise addition to the family. They had a great life outside of Chicago, but Mitch did feel somewhat sidelined by the attention paid to his youngest sibling. He learned as a teen that…
027 – I Got A Picture Of My Mother’s Sadness Though Other People
Dec 14, 2019 • 38 min
As a kid, Rebecca was considered quirky. Unbeknownst to her, that quirkiness was an after effect of fetal alcohol syndrome. She tells the story of learning her birth mother’s lonely and troubled past, and the closure she finally got after she learned of…
002 – When the Law is in the Way, Try DNA
Dec 7, 2019 • 39 min
Laura became a dear friend when we quickly bonded over being adoptees while working together. Laura had been searching for her family of origin for years, before the age of the internet, and the promise of consumer DNA testing linking long lost relatives.…
109 – You Can’t Change The Past
Nov 23, 2019 • 39 min
Dan has barely told anyone the his whole story until this episode. He shared that he was in the neonatal intensive care unit (NICU) as an infant. Then his son's rare medical condition and his wife’s ability to share her heredity while he could not was a…
108 – On The Outside Is Where I’ve Always Been
Nov 16, 2019 • 33 min
Pam, from Emeryville, CA, told me her desire to search started when she was a kid, but it was Oregon’s laws that changed everything for her search. When she met her birthmother she encountered a woman who couldn’t relay the details of her past, leaving…
107- From A Place Of Love
Nov 9, 2019 • 40 min
David from Columbus, Ohio said he was practically at the front door of reunion, but drove away. Years later he finally found some siblings who looked almost exactly like him, and others who’s genetic connection was undeniable. David admitted he’s not an…
106 – Beautiful Truth
Nov 2, 2019 • 45 min
For Shelby, growing up as a Korean adoptee left her feeling “othered” as she didn’t quite fit into her community. The Korean school her parents tried to raise her in wouldn’t accept her either. She was forced to live in between her culture and what…
105 – I Call Her Incubator
Oct 26, 2019 • 46 min
My guest asked that I maintain her anonymity, so I’ll refer to her as Nina. She shared her story growing up with dedicated parents who embraced her challenges and gave her the foundational support she needed. Her birth father found her through a…
104 – You’re Obviously One Of Us
Oct 19, 2019 • 49 min
Karen is from Stratford, Ontario, Canada. She shares her story of growing up a woman of color who stood out in her family and community. Locating her birth mother she found little connection and a bit of tension, but ultimately she wants to keep the…
103 – Fixing The Fates
Oct 12, 2019 • 52 min
Diane called me from St. Petersburg, Florida, but her’s is a story that originated in Germany. Diane tells the story of her parents wanting to form a family with her, but her grandmother frequently talking about her adoption such that no one could ever…
102 – It’s Always Maybe
Oct 5, 2019 • 37 min
Breanna learned that she was fostered then adopted but for financial gain and she described her home as a hostile environment. Her adopted mother was abusive, and Breanna ultimately ran away from home to the military. But before bootcamp she contacted her…
101 – This Is About Everybody
Sep 28, 2019 • 50 min
In Debby’s home adoption was an open topic because she was fostered by her grandparents and adopted by their daughter. Unfortunately, she wasn’t welcome as an adoptee by her adopted father and she and her family faced abuse by her stepfather. In reunion…
100 – Purely Loving Intentions
Sep 21, 2019 • 52 min
Haley Radke, Host/Producer of the Adoptees On podcast is my special guest for this special 100th episode! Haley shared her story of gaining access to her open adoption record in Canada when she was 18 and quickly connecting with her first mother via…
099 – We Were Both Missing Something In Our Lives
Sep 14, 2019 • 56 min
Joseph is a really outdoorsy guy who lives in Edmonds, Washington, about 30 minutes north of Seattle. He likes mountain biking, trail running, camping and skiing. Joseph grew up in a family of several children, some biological, and one other adoptee you…
098 – Trained In Trauma
Sep 7, 2019 • 39 min
Dr. Julie Lopez lives and works in Washington, D.C. Julie’s early childhood was happy at home, but it was her circle of friends that made her question just what was wrong with being adopted? When she graduated college, her need for information, for…
097 – You Gotta Forgive
Aug 31, 2019 • 36 min
James called me from right up the road in Laurel, Maryland and we have one degree of separation with one of my adoptive father, Willie’s, friends. In his story you’ll hear his struggle to find himself and an identity as a youth in a family that didn’t…
096 – The Safe Space That’s Don’s Place
Aug 24, 2019 • 61 min
Singer Song writer Jenni Alpert, commonly referred to by her birth name, Cami had a wonderful life supported by her adoptive parents as she pursued the performing arts. After her adoptive father passed away, she learned that her biological mother had too.…
095 – I Tested Her To See If She’d Give Up
Aug 17, 2019 • 46 min
Laura called me via Skype, would you believe, from Falkirk Scotland. Laura told the story of her childhood knowledge that she might have siblings out in the world, and her quest to meet them. When she met her biological mother things started slowly as…
094 – Why Would You Spend This Much Time Searching?
Aug 10, 2019 • 40 min
Barry always knew he was adopted, but before he ever launched a search, he was found by his older sister. He tells the story of meeting her, and subsequently meeting his birth mother, both of whom welcomed him into their hearts. Hearing stories about why…
046 – I Am Adopted, It Is Who I Am
Aug 3, 2019 • 53 min
Jennifer is a reunited adoptee from Pittsburgh. She’s a petite, white blonde of European descent whose adoptive parents are a Spanish man and a Mexican woman. Through her search, she found both of her natural parents are deceased, and she had half…
054 – I Just Want To Sit And Be At Peace
Jul 27, 2019 • 40 min
After 52 years in adoption, Mary never had a desire to locate her birth family. Her feeling was they had given her up, so she didn’t really want to share how well she turned out. Still, Mary obtained her non-identifying information in 1999, to satisfy…
018 – What I Gained Through Reunion Is Context
Jul 20, 2019 • 25 min
Rebecca always knew she was adopted, but she also recognized that she didn’t quite fit with her adopted family. While she loved them a lot, she noticed physical and personality differences between them. She was taller with a different skin tone than them.…
025 – I Feel So Lucky, I Got Way More Than I Bargained For
Jul 13, 2019 • 30 min
With extra time on her hands, Jennifer used a Search Angel to locate her biological relatives. She connected with her maternal Aunt over Facebook Messenger, simultaneously emailing her birth father using his contact info from LinkedIn. Hoping for a…
015 – We Wish We Could Have Grown Up Together
Jul 6, 2019 • 34 min
David tried to find his birth mother in the early 90’s in California. He received non-identifying information back then, but it wasn’t much to act on at the time. Later, in 2015, motivated by his wife and his “lifetime sister”, he embarked on an intense…
009 – What Doesn’t Kill You Makes You Stronger
Jun 29, 2019 • 28 min
Mary is 78, but she still has stinging memories of her mother leaving her in another woman’s guardianship. The era was the Great Depression but her mother wanted to go out and have fun without the responsibility of raising In guardianship she was sexually…
022 – I’m Still On This Journey, Using My Experience to Help Others
Jun 22, 2019 • 34 min
Marni grew up in Madison, WI in a transracial family that lived a predominantly white community. Everywhere they went, they were stared at for the heterogeneity they brought to the community. The attention their family received was a constant reminder of…
028 – Working Out The Puzzle Pieces Helped Me Feel Whole
Jun 15, 2019 • 40 min
Elise has always been into genealogy and loved looking at family photos & records when she was a child. As a child of adoption, she wondered where her family of origin was? Reunion has had its ups and downs for Elise. The experience with her birth…
063 – I’m Really Glad You Came, But It’s Gonna Be A While
Jun 8, 2019 • 55 min
Brenda was born in California, grew up on the east coast and lives in Texas. She’s the child of a military family that has lived all over. When a school project required her to ask her adoptive mother about her family tree at eight years old, she was…
011 – From Childhood Rebellion to Thankful Reunion
Jun 1, 2019 • 30 min
When Sean was a kid, he found out he was adopted. That news created some conflict in him and challenged his identity. He began to rebel against his adopted parents, but some sage wisdom from his grandmother quickly set him straight. Sean returned to…
023 – I’ve Found My Joi
May 25, 2019 • 47 min
Growing up Joi tried to convince herself that being adopted didn’t bother her because she had such a great family. But in reality, great parents did not erase the fact that she didn’t know her birth parents. She laments that never saw anyone who looked…
093 – Who Am I Really? An Adoptee Memoir, A Preview
May 18, 2019 • 20 min
You probably know by now that I’ve written book to share my story, just like so many of our crib mates who have documented their own stories. It’s called Who Am I Really, An Adoptee Memoir. In this episode I introduce my own story, and recap lessons…
092 – Paternally Unrelated
May 11, 2019 • 29 min
Cindy knew she was adopted, but she believed the men in her life where of biological relation – she thought she was adopted within the family. She lived decades with what she calls a lie. DNA testing revealed that her biological father was someone else…
091 – I’m In The Middle Of Two Stories
May 4, 2019 • 71 min
Ashley had one of those moments where talking to her biological sister felt so familiar it was like texting and and responding to herself. But her birth mother’s pain and uneasiness over Ashley’s desire to learn anything about her birth father was too…
090 – It’s Not Your Fault, I Made It Through
Apr 27, 2019 • 37 min
Lori was adopted after her biological mother lived with her adoptive parents, desperately trying to escape the tyranny of her abusive husband. The abuse her birth mother suffered would be a recurring theme in her own life when her mother’s drinking got…
089 – I’m Reconciling This Feeling of Hurt
Apr 19, 2019 • 59 min
Steve, from London, Ontario, Canada shares his story of being adopted after his mother lost a child. Steve and his mother never connected, in fact, she stifled his social development and seemed to be holding him back because he didn’t look like their…
088 – Being Biracial Never Occurred to Me
Apr 12, 2019 • 33 min
In Kenneth’s family all of siblings were adoptees, each fostered in their parents home before their adoption were made final. That scenario worked out great for Kenneth, but not so much so for his oldest sister who never bonded with their mother. Seeking…
087 – A Journey To Find Out Where I Came From
Apr 6, 2019 • 43 min
When he was a kid, Bill saw clues here and there that he was adopted, but no one ever actually said it. It wasn’t until he called an uncle he’d never met before that the truth was revealed, turning Bill’s world upside down. Reunion with his birth mother…
086 – Second Time
Mar 30, 2019 • 55 min
As an interracial adoptee and musical artist, Ferera grew up feeling different from her adopted family. When her adoption was tearfully confirmed by her Mom, it created doubt within her about whether it was okay to be different? Ferera met her birth…
085 – A Bad Truth Is Better Than A Good Lie
Mar 23, 2019 • 76 min
After the adoptive father she loved so much died, Alison learned her birth father, Tim, was looking for her and she took it as a good sign of things to come. Sadly she found herself disappointed in him, and later in her birth mother, Jean, whom he…
084 – There’s A Certain Sense of Completeness
Mar 16, 2019 • 26 min
Neal’s search didn’t take off until he was 66 years old! He got a DNA kit for his birthday and within months he was in touch with his paternal family. Ohio’s open original birth certificate help him learn his birth mother’s name, but he couldn’t find a…
083 – An Unbelievable Emotional Roller Coaster For Me
Mar 9, 2019 • 41 min
Before becoming an adoptee advocate Rich was searching for his own identity. As a child, his older adopted sister vengefully told him their mom wasn’t his real mother. It made him wonder who the other woman could be. When he was in college, his adoptive…
082 – The Only Thing That Divides Us Is The Mississippi
Mar 2, 2019 • 46 min
Ann has an array of experiences from being kidnapped briefly from her adopted family to learning she celebrated the wrong birth date for 22 years. She said she was raised not to question God’s plan in relation to her adoption — so she did so quietly. When…
081 – I’ve Got The World By The Tail
Feb 23, 2019 • 44 min
Sandee shared the story of her life with an adopted brother who was coddled by their mother, so much so, that it reinforced her own natural position as a Daddy’s girl. That favoritism forced Sandee’s independence from her mother, but also created a bit of…
080 – It’s Not About How You Got Here
Feb 16, 2019 • 45 min
Rachel is a Hispanic woman of Chilean descent, raised in a Jewish family. She shared her feelings of otherness trying to connect with other Spanish speaking children with her limited proficiency. Rachel describes her father’s blindness to her heritage,…
079 – There Are Wins And Losses
Feb 9, 2019 • 42 min
Paul grew up in a family where he didn’t look like his parents, his father was Mexican and his mother was Japanese. In his childhood, his mother turned incredibly harsh and abusive, especially toward his sister. Searching for his birth mother, Paul made a…
078 – I’m In Recovery, I’m In A Good Place
Feb 2, 2019 • 45 min
Megan grew up in an affluent suburb of Chicago and was comfortable with her adoption, but curious about her start in life. After pregnancy, “I struggled with mental health problems and became addicted to narcotics and anti-anxiety meds.” When she met her…
077 – I’m A Wounded Healer With My Father’s Eyes
Dec 1, 2018 • 34 min
Linda’s childhood was tumultuous after her mother’s death as she was raised in what she thought was her grandmother’s home. When she learned the truth about her life from the neighbor’s kids, at age 10, Linda immediately wanted to find her birther father.…
076 – What Would My Life Be Like In Korea?
Nov 24, 2018 • 35 min
Kim is a Korean born adoptee raised in an all-white community. She shared how she always pushed down her desire to search for her birth mother until the recent political climate brought out the true colors of her adoptive mother. I’ve heard stories of…
075 – I’m Good On My Own, I Know Who I Am
Nov 17, 2018 • 43 min
In her adopted family Tameko’s parents just assumed that as an adoptee, she was misbehaving, but when her older adopted brother showed up he actually started framing her for terrible things, trying force her out. Even worse, he abused her. On her search,…
074 – I Feel Some Of It Too
Nov 10, 2018 • 23 min
Serena told me she had a similar experience to what a lot of adoptees feel, even though she grew up with her birth mother. I’m always talking about empathizing with others, so I wanted to hear her story. Serena told me about her birth on a Native American…
073 – It Hurts That Someone Took Her From This World
Nov 3, 2018 • 26 min
Ashley shares her story growing up in adoption and having a positive outlook on her life because she felt she was placed for a reason, living life according to God’s plan. Ashley had two sisters, one adopted, one genetic to her parents but she bonded most…
072 – Amazing Intuition, One Cousin Connection
Oct 27, 2018 • 31 min
Recalling her early family life, Ann said she felt like her parents were sucked into feeling like they had to have a family, and while they were focused on creating a better world in their professional lives, that didn’t necessarily translate to their…
071 – I Would Give Anything To Hear His Voice
Oct 20, 2018 • 46 min
Amanda describes her childhood with a father she considered to be a hero and a mother whom she loves despite her physical and mental abuse while showing favoritism toward her sister. She always wanted to search for her birth parents, scouring her house…
070 – I Don’t Think She Can Move Forward From The Pain
Oct 12, 2018 • 41 min
Kyle tells the story of growing up, towering over his mother and sister and looking very different from them, but being loved. Locating his birth mother he was amazed to see someone he looked like but struggled to get along with as she battled her own…
069 – I Lived As A Secret, That’s Not Healthy
Oct 6, 2018 • 48 min
Honor described a childhood in isolation, so much so that it impacted her health when she started school. Wondering about her biological parents, she developed a romantic story in her mind that they were in love but simply couldn’t keep her. It took her…
068 – I Don’t Feel Lost, I Know Where I Come From
Sep 29, 2018 • 42 min
Daniela was born in a small mining town in Chile. Adopted by a German family who moved from South America to Miami, she never felt like she belonged. While struggling as a teenager and burning to know more about her own heritage she was psychoanalyzed and…
067 – Part Of The Gift Has Been The Work I’ve Done On Myself
Sep 22, 2018 • 41 min
Christie was a shy child who wanted to participate in activities but held herself back from engaging. It wasn’t until she was an adult when her adopted brother unexpectedly suggested that Christie might want to search that their mother shared her adoption…
066 – I’ve Had A Lot Thrown At Me, But I’m A Happy Human Being
Sep 15, 2018 • 51 min
Rick’s birthmother relinquished him into foster care where he was terrorized as a toddler. He was eventually adopted around age 6 but always felt like an outsider. At 16 years old he reunited with his maternal family who informed him his mother was…
065 – Two Years Too Late, Then I Was Shocked
Sep 8, 2018 • 28 min
Dana received her original birth certificate and when her husband looked up her birth mother’s name they found her obituary. It took her two years to find an address for her surviving aunt and a year to find the courage to write to her. Her Aunt gave Dana…
064 – The Truth Is Stranger Than Fiction
Sep 1, 2018 • 48 min
Julie describes herself as very independent from her parents’ influences and drastically different than her older adopted brother. She tells the story of finding her birth mother thanks to open access legislation in Australia and the gentle influence of a…
061 – I Know They May Not Love Me…
Jun 16, 2018 • 59 min
Stephanie grew up in a very wealthy family in South Carolina and you’ll hear discuss the family’s fortune, but pause before you pass judgment on how easy life must have been. Her story is filled with manipulative behavior, malicious intentions, and a…
060 – Its Like Ripping The Wounds Off Over And Over
Jun 9, 2018 • 39 min
Alisa describes her life as the child of Latvian refugees who escaped the brutality and destruction of World War II. They raised Alisa in the ways of their heritage and while she identifies with her community and her upbringing, she admits she struggled…
058 – I Feel Like I’ve Found My Tribe
May 26, 2018 • 50 min
Nicole was adopted into a military family, the structure of which ran against her freewheeling nature. She’s an interracial woman with interracial adopted parents, so they looked like a natural family. In reunion, Nicole is facing secondary rejection from…
057 -My Acceptance Is Etched In Stone
May 19, 2018 • 42 min
Kendra’s story is filled with peaks and valleys of emotion. After running far, far away in her teens, Kendra’s adopted mother blamed her for her adopted father’s demise. She and her mother were estranged for years until her adopted mother’s mortality…
056 – I Feel Whole… Finding Him Was The Key
May 12, 2018 • 32 min
Every day Leslie’s birth mother called the orphanage where she was left for adoption. So when Leslie located her birth mother 30 years ago, then tried again to connect with her six years ago, it was shocking that the woman wanted no contact with her.…
053 – Seeing The Life That Could Have Been
Apr 21, 2018 • 36 min
Meredith had enough adoptees around her growing up that adoption was no big deal. Yet, her parents never felt comfortable actually discussing adoption. After getting pregnant, and spurred on by her mother-in-law’s intuition that Meredith wanted answers,…
052 – Little Who?
Apr 14, 2018 • 39 min
Kandice grew up in a loving Christian home, an adoptee with one older sister who was biologically related to their parents. Kandic found her biological mother living in Gulf Port, Mississippi where she was lucky to spend time with the woman before losing…
051 – The Black Sheep Rocks The Boat
Apr 7, 2018 • 38 min
Megan says she put her adopted mother through the ringer emotionally when she was a teenager. She thinks that’s partially because of her anger with her birth mother over her relinquishment. Most adoptees have no clue whom they’re setting out to find when…
050 – Dem Smell De Blood, They Know Who You Are
Mar 31, 2018 • 45 min
Kennon was raised by in the lumber town of Mattawa, Canada, where he was one of the only people of color in the community. Growing up in a predominantly white community, he later had trouble assimilating into the black and Jamaican communities when he…
049 – It’s Just More People To Love Me
Mar 24, 2018 • 45 min
Sherie said she sometimes thought about searching for her birth family, but even talking about it with her husband made her cry. She finally gathered the strength to search after voraciously reading “The Girls That Went Away”. It dramatically changed her…
048 – It’s Not Always The Fairy Tale You Hoped For
Mar 17, 2018 • 32 min
When Kaitlin was nine years old she was ready to lobby for access to her original birth certificate. She attempted a reunion with her birth mother, who left clues that she wanted to be found. But when she was located she was surprised. Kaitlin’s…
047 – I Was In Charge Of My Destiny
Mar 10, 2018 • 56 min
When Anna was born, her adoption resulted in Anna and her mother living as siblings. Very early in her life she lost her birth mother and her adopted mother, so she was on her own. Anna shares how she survived those tragic losses, physical abuse by her…
045 – This Child Will Find Me
Feb 24, 2018 • 48 min
Michael says he always knew he was adopted and spoke openly about it with anyone who expressed curiosity. However, when he launched his search, he didn’t feel like he could share those details openly with his adopted mother. When he found his birth…
044 – She Never Met Me, But She Saw Me
Feb 17, 2018 • 52 min
Angie lived a split life as a child in small-town Mississippi. During the week her mother had her in all kinds of activities and her stepfather was her rock. On the weekends her dad exposed her to alcohol, drugs, and abuse. Through it all, she suspected…
043 – When I Looked At Him, I Could See Things About Me
Feb 10, 2018 • 45 min
Paige didn’t even know that searching for her birth family was an option until she learned about it on local tv as an adult. The topic of adoption was closed her whole life, partially because of how her parents understood and portrayed her closed adoption…
042 – This Little Voice Said, “You Gotta Do Something”
Feb 3, 2018 • 48 min
Right before Sharon left for college, her parents sat her down to say she was of age to start looking for her birthparents. She had never contemplated that possibility before, so it took years for her to act on her desire to learn more about herself. In…
041 – I’ve Finally Gotten Myself To A Sense Of Peace
Jan 27, 2018 • 48 min
After two years in foster care, Janet was adopted into the foster family. An interracial woman, she grew up in a white midwestern community in Ohio. Janet recalls the love she felt from her family and the isolation of being one of two people of color in…
040 – I Mattered Throughout The Years
Jan 20, 2018 • 35 min
Jennifer was perfectly comfortable with her adoption until her teen years when her self-awareness was heightened, and her desire to learn more about who she is bloomed. Protecting her parents feelings, she pushed away her desire to search for decades…
038 – Interview w/ One Of My Two Genealogists
Dec 2, 2017 • 27 min
This summer when I met Bill and found out he was a genealogist, I was excited to hear everything he had to say. I wanted to hear more about his own personal history, how he got into genealogy, and the clients he’s helped. My birth mother was also a…
037 – Interview w/ A Search & Reunion Social Worker
Dec 1, 2017 • 42 min
Lee, my search & reunion social worker in Baltimore, MD, unlocked many of the answers about why I was placed for adoption. She worked to locate my biological mother, Ann, and read my birth mother’s introductory letter to me over the phone. For National…
036 – I Found Solace When She Explained The Abuse
Nov 25, 2017 • 45 min
Despite loving and respecting his parents, Chris struggled through family life with an alcoholic father and having almost adopted sister with emotional problems. Chris had a challenging childhood being bullied at school and dropping out of his senior year…
035 – Interview w/ A Search Angel – For Every Answer You Get, There Are More Questions
Nov 18, 2017 • 37 min
November is National Adoption Awareness Month, so I’m bringing you a different perspective from the adoption community. On prior episodes you’ve heard adoptees talk about the amazing work that they’re search angels have done with them. Today I’m…
033 – My Sister Reunited Too, But Didn’t Know About Me
Nov 4, 2017 • 24 min
Jenny journaled about her birth mother from an early age. She grew up in a loving family, but the urge to find her birth family was always there. When Ohio opened it birth records, she obtained some vital information that led her to her birth mother on…
032 – Intervew With The Gift Of Adoption Fund
Oct 28, 2017 • 31 min
Today I’m bringing you something a little different for #NationalAdoptionMonth. There are a lot of people, processes, and policies integral to the adoption of a child, raising a child, and supporting that person’s desire to search for their birth family.…
031 – Finding Hope
Oct 21, 2017 • 42 min
Jamie grew up an only child with her wonderful adoptive parents in the suburbs of Atlanta, GA. She was happy to hear in reunion that her birth parents had already talked about her existence with their families. Living in Tennessee, she found her birth…
030 – Don’t Fall For “I Can’t Talk To You On The Phone”
Oct 14, 2017 • 41 min
Jen had a very nice childhood with her parents and never really wanted to search for her birth parents until her friends started having kids. But the ultimate spark that ignited her desire to search came from a family tragedy. In the aftermath Jen located…
029 – A Lifetime of Interveners Saw Me Through
Oct 7, 2017 • 59 min
Born in the Panama Canal Zone, Stephanie was adopted by a US military family stationed there in 1961. She was never told she was adopted, but she always knew there was a family secret. When she was 43 years old Stephanie discovered the secret was her own…
026 – I’ve Got A Second Mom And I Can Love Them Both
Sep 16, 2017 • 29 min
At 16 years old, Ron decided to satisfy his curiosity about his first family. But his search was challenging. He was born on a South Carolina Air Force Base that had closed, the internet didn’t have the reach that it has now, and AncestryDNA’s connections…
024 – I’m Deeply Hurt, But I Hope You’re Happy
Sep 2, 2017 • 36 min
Louise was one of four a dual heritage children raised by white parents in England. She had a fantastic childhood. So much so that she has adopted twice. But along her impulsive journey into reunification, Louise was exposed to uncomfortable situations…
021- With Every Heart Break, My Heart Gets Bigger
Aug 12, 2017 • 34 min
Marcie finally felt plugged into her biological family after years of divisive behavior from her adopted mother. Her mother never nurtured a bond between Marcie and her adopted siblings and had a hard time overcoming some of her own childhood issues. In…
020 – I Don’t Silence Julie Anymore
Aug 8, 2017 • 36 min
Michelle says growing up she felt very different from her adoptive family because she looked completely different from them. When she was a teen she embarked on a voyage to reunite with her birth mother, traveling back to the UK where she was born.…
019 – Adoption Was Chapter Two Of My Life, I Had To Learn About Chapter One
Jul 29, 2017 • 44 min
Michael grew up in Coney Island, Brooklyn, NY. He led a comfortable life in the Williams loving home when he accidentally discovered, at 12 years old, that he was adopted. The discovery that he actually had another identity created conflict in him,…
017 – He Is My Brother And I Will Find Him
Jul 15, 2017 • 34 min
Renee searched for her mother literally her whole life. But her search predated the internet so she frequented the library and scoured local high school year books. with hopes of finding someone she felt she was related to. When she located her biological…
016 – Shall we Cry? No, Let’s Just Laugh!
Jul 8, 2017 • 24 min
Jennifer had a very happy childhood and always felt special because she was an adoptee; she knew her parents really wanted her. Their family was heavily involved with the Children’s Home Society in Los Angeles where her mother did fund-raising work.…
013 – It Wasn’t That He Didn’t Care, He Cared Too Much
Jun 17, 2017 • 35 min
Jennifer learned that she was adopted when she was six years old. Interestingly, her adopted parents shared a letter with her that was written by her biological mother whose instructions were that Jennifer should have it when they felt she was ready. In…
012 – I Need This For My Sanity
Jun 10, 2017 • 38 min
Tom advocates for adoptee rights and shares his personal experiences about being adopted. He was adopted as an infant and things went so well his parents decided to adopt two older boys when Tom was two years old. Their adoption is where his trouble…
010 – How Can I Meet Her Without Telling Her Who I Am?
May 27, 2017 • 44 min
Steve was raised in Baltimore, MD in a predominantly Jewish suburban neighborhood. But as he looked around at his friends and other families, he truly questioned his own identity, especially as an adoptee. In an era before electronic record keeping, Steve…
007 – I’m Great With My Family, They Love Me For Me
May 6, 2017 • 24 min
As a child Denise’s family blamed her for a tragedy that took the life of her younger brother. They mistreated Denise and her tyrannical stepfather ultimately saw the children as a means to his own financial gain. She took drastic steps to get herself…
006 – I Forgave Her When My Son Was Born
Apr 29, 2017 • 44 min
In adoption, Julie grew up in the Midwest with a family of trans racial adoptees. Her brothers are adopted from Vietnam, and her sister is white. Each of them has a different perspective on searching for their biological families. Julie has always been…
005 – Part of Her Memory That She Lost Was Me
Apr 22, 2017 • 21 min
Terry shared the story of his biological parents’ wartime extra marital affair that brought him to life. He said his adopted parents felt he was “the sun the moon and the stars”, and spoiled him that way. As a teen, Terry wanted to apply for a job and…
004 – Lucky Online, Connecting When You’re Not Even Looking
Apr 15, 2017 • 30 min
Growing up in Leah’s home everyone was comfortable with adoption. Her adopted mom is an adoptee, and her two siblings are adoptees, though they are biologically related to one another. The kids were made to feel special because her parents chose them. But…
003 – When the Search Finds You
Apr 8, 2017 • 26 min
Kathleen grew up with five siblings, and they were all biologically related to her parents–she was the only adoptee! As a child she was told that she was adopted, but it didn’t quite sink in until the topic of adoption came up in conversation and her…
001- The End of Summer Cake
Mar 25, 2017 • 33 min
I’ve shared an adoptee bond with my dear high school friend Andre for years. In this episode, Andre shares the story of his loving adopted family, being the older sibling to his adopted parent’s biological son, and the truth about how he came into this…
000: Welcome to Who Am I Really?
Mar 4, 2017 • 9 min
Welcome to the the "Who Am I Really?" podcast. I’m devoting this program to helping people placed into adoption to explore their own emotions, desires, and questions about reuniting with their biological family by asking others like us to tell their own…