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Awesome Etiquette
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#214: Coffee Favors
Oct 15 • 50 min
We take your questions on offering to grab someone a coffee, living in your childhood home, your holiday guest list and asking for BIG favors. Plus feedback, etiquette salute and postscript from a listener on discussing infertility. The sustaining members…
#213: Mix and Mingle
Oct 8 • 47 min
We take your questions on awkward introductions, the problem with no problem, grandma was upset we opened our wedding gifts early, and how to thank a group at work. Plus your feedback, etiquette salute and postscript where we explore the mix and mingle.…
#212: Chilly Warm Wishes
Oct 1 • 49 min
On today’s show we take your questions on critiquing your roommates cooking, reassuring a bride that yes she can have a 2nd reception, should you call friends before coming to town and what to do when your in-laws well wishes seem cold. Plus your…
#211: Interrupting Who
Sep 23 • 55 min
On today’s show we take your questions on receiving a b-day card, interrupting, posthumous thank you notes, canning jars returns and work relationships. Plus your feedback, etiquette salute and postscript about being better at parties. For sustaining…
#210: They and Them
Sep 17 • 56 min
We take your questions on they/them pronouns, sending married monogrammed thank-yous before you’re married, handling a couple who is asking you to chip in on their wedding, who should go first walking through doors and how to let those you’ve been talking…
#209: Thank You for Your Support
Sep 10 • 39 min
On today’s show Lizzie and Guest host Puja Senning take your etiquette questions on informing a host they made you sick, timing for thanking those giving donations, showing appreciation to your boyfriend’s generous family, how long do you have to give a…
#208: After the “M_”
Sep 3 • 42 min
On today’s show we take your questions on writing on behalf of your daughter, gifts for those who throw a shower, who gets served first in a family, the ‘M’ on a reply card and minimizing Christmas gifts. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette…
#207: At the Pump
Aug 27 • 46 min
We take your questions on gas pump etiquette, separate bedrooms, sending one thank you for all your wedding gifts, hanging out with just one of part a couple, and avoiding the subject of your divorce at your dad’s wedding. Plus your feedback, etiquette…
#206: What Do You Do?
Aug 20 • 47 min
We answer your questions on following up a RSVP decline, being a chronic canceller, the question of what do you do, partners making individual social plans and invitations from familiar strangers. Plus your feedback, etiquette salute and postscript on the…
#205: Two Plates One Check
Aug 13 • 46 min
On today’s show we take your questions on friends and communication, thank you notes for twins, tipping on split meals, a lack of celebration for a college grad and how to handle a moving away gift. Plus your feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript on…
#204: Gossip or Good Story
Aug 6 • 37 min
On today’s show we take your questions on offering additional sympathy, accessible bathroom etiquette, to stand or not during dinner introductions, thanking group donors and gossip or a good story. Plus your feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript on…
#203: A Moving Honesty Crisis
Jul 30 • 56 min
On today’s show we take your questions on no thank-you but requests for gift receipts, handling major offenses at work, a crisis of honesty, food shaming and rude comments about your young age. Plus your feedback, etiquette salute and postscript on…
#202: Bare Naked Hellos
Jul 23 • 49 min
On today’s show we take your questions on accepting ‘people’ compliments, locker room hellos with coworkers, worrying about potential wedding guests’ behavior, and receiving cool congratulations from a close coworker – plus your feedback, etiquette salute…
Episode# 201: Free to Roam
Jul 16 • 46 min
On today’s show we take your questions on asking if your ex is attending a wedding, helping others use your child’s full name, new tipping experiences and asking children not to roam in your home. Plus your feedback, etiquette salute and postscript about…
#200: 200!
Jul 9 • 54 min
Lizzie and Dan take your questions about Wedding etiquette follow ups, when annual parties don’t happen, asking strangers to watch your stuff and leaving a surprise party early. Plus feedback, an etiquette salute and postscript from Emily Post’s…
#199: New Neighbor Niceties
Jul 2 • 50 min
On today’s show Dan and Lizzie take your etiquette questions about accepting compliments about your dog, how to act as the NEW neighbors, wedding guests wanting to bring their own guests and whether or not to give a wedding gift when you contributed your…
#198: Recommendation for the Dogs
Jun 25 • 45 min
On today’s show we take your questions about celebrating Mom’s wedding while keeping it low key, living down a bad recommendation, gifts when you decline a wedding invitation, and daters who offer to pay and then ask for half. Plus your feedback,…
#197: Pool Party
Jun 18 • 52 min
On today’s show we take your questions about tablet tipping, a reflection on a short date, assuming someone has a child when they don’t, and new pool owners wanting to know how to pool host. Plus your feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript segment on…
#196: Essential Oil Invasion
Jun 11 • 49 min
On today’s show we take your questions about Mom’s love for essential oils when visiting, graduation invitations and announcements, ordering for your partner, and learning to navigate the drama at a new job. Plus your feedback, salute, and a postscript on…
#195: On Maple Syrup
Jun 4 • 57 min
On today’s show we take your questions about attending a party when you had a falling out with the hosts, registries for elopements, leaving a living situation and a classic on how to split the check. Plus your feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript…
#194: Let me Tell You How
May 29 • 57 min
On today’s show we take questions on radios in Ubers, talking with friends about your partner, gifts you can’t bring home, a family whose language is instruction and gifts for graduates degrees. Plus your feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript…
#193: Wedding Attire Color Codes?
May 21 • 51 min
On today’s show we take questions on wedding attire color codes, thanking hospice workers, tech rules at the table, when to include sentiment in a wedding ceremony and should shower hosts give gifts? Plus your feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript…
#192: Name Games
May 14 • 48 min
On today’s show we take your questions on how to eat strawberries, helping when you overhear a problem at work, when you almost have the name of someone famous, and receiving other people’s emails. Plus your feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript…
#191: Civility for Servers Please
May 7 • 49 min
On today’s show we take your etiquette questions on being served raw food, getting called Dr., offering condolences when the recipient might not remember you, ordering politely and pet free friend visits.
#190: Bowl Trends
Apr 30 • 60 min
On today’s show, we take your etiquette questions on dining in bowls, being unnamed on a wedding invitation, personal favours and professional requests, generous hosts serving generous guests, and family who make decisions for you. Plus your most…
#189: Stay off my lawn
Apr 23 • 58 min
On today’s show, we take your etiquette questions on bridesmaids and bachelorette parties, children playing on your lawn, potlucks that don’t specify on the invitation, not noisy neighbors being blamed for noise and how to answer repeated questions about…
#188: It’s Two Thirty O’clock!
Apr 16 • 47 min
On today’s show, we take your etiquette questions on two finger food questions, is two thirty o’clock a thing?, zits at the dinner table, party guests not paying attention to invitations and gifts that you don’t really like from someone you really love.…
#187: A Stepmom’s Step One: The Wedding
Apr 9 • 55 min
On today’s show we take your etiquette questions on keeping communications simple, dealing with favors you don’t like, helping kids combat shyness, flying first class when senior business colleagues aren’t, and whether or not to invite your future…
#186: A Shrimpy Situation
Apr 2 • 47 min
On today’s show, we take your etiquette questions on rejecting kind offers, how to handle first and middle names on a wedding invitation, Aafollow up question from episode 182 on belated 2nd receptions, how to handle in lieu of gifts for an 80th birthday,…
#185: Honorifics and Chivalry
Mar 26 • 57 min
On today’s show, we take your etiquette questions on pictures of engagement rings, community dinner displeasures, honoring honorifics, yoga class guests, and elevator and door chivalry at work. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute, and a…
#184: Weekend Woes
Mar 19 • 56 min
On today’s show we take your etiquette questions on knives as pushers, questions about homeschooling, which job am I interviewing for, no wedding reply card and ski weekend woes. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript segment…
#183: Dish Me The Info!
Mar 12 • 55 min
On today’s show, we take your etiquette questions on babies and weddings all at once, a roommate who thinks your kitchen ware is hers, a manager who dumps a problem back on your plate, asking folks for addresses in the digital age, and how to get your…
#182: Slippery Situations
Mar 5 • 58 min
On today’s show we take your etiquette questions on 2nd wedding receptions, soap being swiped from the ladies rest room, offering guests your master bedroom, attending only one of two baby showers, and how much repsonisiblity is on a host to manage ground…
# 181: Is It The Right Response?
Feb 26 • 49 min
On today’s show we take your etiquette questions on keto dietary restrictions, thanking folks when travel makes it hard, declining a boss’s casual lunch invite, a wedding guest who is frustrated by a bride’s response, and how not be an answering service…
#180: Is it Boasting or not?
Feb 19 • 55 min
On today’s show, we take your etiquette questions on not being the office therapist, when you have too many people to invite to your birthday, who pencils who in when scheduling, and is it boasting or not. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette…
# 179: These Gifts, Please!
Feb 12 • 50 min
On today’s show, Dan and Lizzie take your etiquette questions on getting the gifts you want at a shower, saying thanks for a thank you gift, what to do with too many bridal shower offers, and how to handle the age old question about age. Plus your most…
#178: Thanks, But No Thanks!
Feb 5 • 47 min
On today’s show, we take your etiquette questions about tiny tummies and hosts that notice them, condolences and contributions to funerals, a very special question from the hosts of the Home Hour Podcast and how to handle gifts when boundaries have been…
#177: Surprise We’re Married!
Jan 29 • 49 min
On today’s show we take your etiquette questions on wedding announcements, managing messaging apps at work, whether or not to write a thank-you note to your SO’s family, how to handle naming a 6th, wedding regrets and finally a very special question. Plus…
#176: Welcome Puja
Jan 22 • 37 min
On today’s show Dan and Puja take your etiquette questions on managing multiple birthdays, hand delivering cards, hosting guests with allergies and apologizing for the first mistake. Plus your feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript segment on the…
#175: The Party’s Over
Jan 15 • 45 min
Dan and guest host Cindy Post Senning take your questions on wrapping up a party, lending a hand without giving offense, sending condolences during the holidays and how clean to keep a home. Plus your feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript segment on…
#174: RSVP Fails
Jan 8 • 40 min
We take your etiquette questions on groomsmen expenses, reclining seat backs, bringing wine when you’re already bringing wine and electronic RSVP fails. Plus your feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript segment on napkins from Margaret Visser’s The…
Episode#173: Happy New Year
Jan 1 • 45 min
On today’s show Lizzie and Dan take your etiquette questions about not getting together with sick friends, a doozy of social awkwardness, travel for bridesmaids and what to do with serious dietary restrictions and food related work events. Plus your most…
#172: Merry Christmas
Dec 25, 2017 • 47 min
Happy holidays from all of us at The Emily Post Institute. We answer your etiquette questions, hear your most excellent feedback, share an etiquette salute and offer a postscript segment on keeping holidays personal.
#171: Primetime Predicaments
Dec 18, 2017 • 56 min
On today’s show we take your questions about primetime predicaments, commenting on other’s food, Christmas parties with co-workers, “No Boxed Gifts” and how to handle missing a marriage announcement by 8 years. Plus your feedback, etiquette salute and a…
#170: Booing The Refs
Dec 11, 2017 • 42 min
We take your questions about junior vs. Jr., standing up for greetings once you’re an adult, booing the refs, reluctant hosts and how to address holiday cards to families with multiple names. Plus your feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript segment…
#169: Please, Shhhhhhh
Dec 4, 2017 • 45 min
On today’s we take your questions about long hallway hellos, how a caregiver can speak up, what to call a widow, sample language for a college student who wants to meditate and season ticket holders who want others to shhhhhh. Plus your feedback,…
EP #168: The Houseguest & The Hedgehog
Nov 30, 2017 • 51 min
We take your etiquette questions about gifts with the wrong monogram, gifts of gratitude, friends with champagne tastes who complain, and a question about apps - the kind you eat. Your feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript segment where we catch up…
#167: Happy Thanksgiving!
Nov 20, 2017 • 51 min
On today’s show we take your etiquette questions about invitation trepidation, what’s a lemon-hater to do?, changing gift traditions and post wedding blues. Plus your feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript segment on Thanksgiving week etiquette prep!
#166: No Drama
Nov 13, 2017 • 45 min
We take your questions on being an unexpected host via video, honoring wedding co-hosts, handling drama when you’re not dramatic, and “dude, where’s my car?” Plus your feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript on ‘How to Bungle a Dinner’ Party from the…
#165: Breaking Up Is Hard To Do - Stylist Edition
Nov 6, 2017 • 42 min
We take your questions on breaking up with your hair stylist, setting boundaries during the grieving process, ending evenings out with friends, and bringing up your budget when RSVPing. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript…
#164: Take Home Scotch
Oct 30, 2017 • 43 min
We answer your questions on guests inviting extra guests, how to bring good scotch to a party and get to bring some home, baby gender-reveal parties, and a classic about wedding gift obligations. Plus your feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript…
#163: When Favors Become Expected
Oct 23, 2017 • 43 min
Dan and Lizzie answer questions about not eating when others do, invitation woes, extending a favor and dressing up for Grandma. Plus we hear your feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript segment on Emily Post’s birthday.
#162: Happy Birthday, No Gifts Please
Oct 16, 2017 • 50 min
On today’s show Dan and Lizzie take your etiquette questions on neighbors crossing your property, babies in small apartments hoping for “no gifts please”, how to be caring but not intrusive when friend are experiencing hard times, and a doozy of a…
#161: Cruise Conundrum
Oct 9, 2017 • 48 min
We take your questions on exiting a bridal shower, friends encroaching on your cruise, religious inquiries at work and what to expect when lending out your vacation homes. Plus your feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript segment from Visser’s The…
#160: Trail Manners
Oct 2, 2017 • 47 min
We take your questions on social media hijacking, housewarming invitations and replies, confusingly broad wedding invitations and how to teach gregarious children about self-introductions. Plus your feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript on the 6…
#159: Ghosting a Host
Sep 25, 2017 • 42 min
On today’s show we take your etiquette questions on prompt party pick up, balancing grieving and celebration, ‘ghosting’ your host, and hurricane etiquette. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and the second half of our Postscript segment…
#158: Give a Friend a Lift
Sep 18, 2017 • 47 min
Dan and Lizzie take your etiquette questions on compliments at work, stripping a bed, paying your way at a rehearsal dinner, sharing a ride, and how to handle many parties in your honor. Plus your feedback, etiquette salute and part one of a postscript…
#157: Boutonnière Judgment
Sep 11, 2017 • 43 min
Your etiquette questions on a specific shoes-on shoes-off household, handling ex’s on Facebook, the clean plate club (…or not), boutonnière judgment, and being invited to pay for a party. Plus your feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript segment on…
#156: Better Late…
Sep 5, 2017 • 58 min
Etiquette questions on obligations: aisle seat obligations, wedding invitation obligations, online dating obligations, baby shower hosting obligations, and guest clean up obligations. Plus your feedback, etiquette salute and a Postscript segment on…
#155: Because It Is My Name
Aug 28, 2017 • 46 min
Your questions on names and titles for widows and divorcees, breast pumping rooms being used by non-moms, an inclusive bachelor party, and responding to assumptions that you’re pregnant. Plus your feedback about, etiquette salute and a Postscript segment.
#154: New to the Neighborhood
Aug 21, 2017 • 43 min
We take on your questions on what to include in a thank-you note, sending really late thanks yous, daughter in law disputes, and how to introduce yourself to new neighbors. Plus your most feedback, etiquette salute and a Postscript segment on “white tie…
#153: Compliment Conundrum
Aug 14, 2017 • 50 min
We answer questions on why it’s rude to comment on someone being single and pretty, what to do when your team isn’t including you on meetings, and a guest who wont’ leave. Plus your feedback, etiquette salute and a Postscript segment from Emily Post’s…
152: Declining Seconds
Aug 7, 2017 • 54 min
Dan and Lizzie take on your questions about cutting in line, being asked to sing duets, declining seconds and revealing personal changes to friends. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and (spoiler alert) a postscript segment on spoiler…
151: Introducing The Philosophy of Etiquette
Jul 31, 2017 • 48 min
The Posts take your questions about sending late engagement gifts, people who talk too much about themselves, a mother-in-law not respecting names, and another question about ordering pizza. Plus feedback on divvying up the pastries at work, an etiquette…
# 150: Yes 150!
Jul 24, 2017 • 44 min
Lizzie and Dan take your questions about long distance bridal showers, when to un-friend a friend’s ex’s, all the trimmings for encore weddings, and email timing issues. Plus your enthusiastic feedback - Zipper merge -, a handwritten etiquette salute and…
#149: Half Cake
Jul 17, 2017 • 40 min
Lizzie and Dan take your questions about sharing cakes, mic lists at rehearsal dinners, how to both host and participate at a party and announcing an elopement. Plus feedback, a friendship focused etiquette salute for the week and a Postscript segment on…
#148: Invited back?
Jul 10, 2017 • 64 min
On today’s show Lizzie and Dan tackle your etiquette questions about merging traffic lanes, sharing office space, inviting bad guests back again, and sorry but we’re talking about saying sorry. Plus your most excellent feedback on sales emails, an…
#147: The Rainbow of Truth
Jul 3, 2017 • 49 min
Dan and Cindy Post Senning take your questions about dogs on vacation, backing out of a group weekend, sharing costs on the road and plus one wedding gifts. Plus feedback, etiquette salute for the week and a Postscript segment on the beauty of truth by…
#146: Listen please
Jun 26, 2017 • 58 min
Dan and Lizzie answer your questions on in lieu of flowers requests, communicating about Celiac, how to handle food stealing spouses and inviting your stylist to your wedding. Plus your excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript segment on…
#145: Share and Share Alike
Jun 21, 2017 • 47 min
Lizzie and Dan take your questions on Family Only Vacations, The use of MBA in a title, Divvying up the pastry box at work, and how to tell your sister her house smells. Plus feedback, etiquette salute and a Postscript on exiting a party from ‘The Rituals…
144: Gentleman First???
Jun 12, 2017 • 52 min
Dan and Lizzie answer your etiquette questions on whose name comes first, cat sitter thank yous, and dinner guest no shows. Plus feedback, an etiquette salute and a Postscript segment on Family Gatherings.
#143: Good to be home!
Jun 5, 2017 • 48 min
Dan and Lizzie answer your questions on bike shares, skipping a wedding reception, no gifts (but college contributions please) for a first birthday and doggie bag dilemmas.
#142: The Bride’s Week or My Vacation?
May 29, 2017 • 47 min
Reimbursement for season tickets, responding to sales emails, Balancing time with the bride and friends during a wedding week trip, Handling reactions from coworkers about you leaving your job, and traveling with other people.
#141: Yay Dad!
May 22, 2017 • 57 min
Peter Post co-hosts with Lizzie while Dan is away. The father daughter duo talk about reciprocating as a guest, adult only parties & self invitations, sympathy notes, Regular or decaf, and olive pits
#140: Wee Ones At Weddings
May 15, 2017 • 49 min
rehearsal dinner invitations, wee ones at weddings, being a good graduation weekend guest, potluck problems, and a postscript segment on planning a wedding reception seating chart!
#139: Send a Telegram
May 8, 2017 • 40 min
Bill Post co-hosts with Lizzie while Dan is away. Bill and Lizzie cover questions on Community Dinner Contributions, Group Houseguest Gifts, Email Introductions and Retirement Party Gifts.
#138: Welcome To The Show Puja!
May 1, 2017 • 66 min
Dan and Lizzie tackle questions about contractors and quotes, invites for second receptions, sending gifts late, and a primer on roommates plus a postscript segment on managing expectations around a new baby
#137: Fore!
Apr 24, 2017 • 56 min
Questions about doodling at work, The annual “wearing white” to weddings question, how to greet clients in groups, and knowing when a dinner party is done? All that plus your feedback, etiquette salute and a special postscript inspired by The Unwritten…
#136: Your Stationery Wardrobe
Apr 17, 2017 • 53 min
Dan and Lizzie take on your questions on Caller ID, re-allocating the kindness of strangers, your cat is cheating on you, and sopping up all the amazingly tasty sauce at dinner. Plus your feedback on iced-tea spoons and shoes off policies, your etiquette…
#135: Missing the Party
Apr 10, 2017 • 43 min
Your etiquette questions on the device excuse, cc email etiquette, just who is included in an invitation to the whole family, and how long is too long for sending condolences. All that plus your feedback, salute and a surprise postscript pop quiz.
#134: Dear Katherine, I would love to attend your tea…
Apr 3, 2017 • 54 min
Etiquette questions on awkward gift give-backs, how to RSVP, charging for a dinner party, and whether to put practicality above consideration for a wedding shower.
#133: Salon Sanctuary
Mar 27, 2017 • 54 min
Etiquette questions on posting guest lists publicly, how to ascertain if you’re being asked on a date or to go out as friends, asking for silence at the salon and a great question about greeting guests in your home. Plus feedback, an etiquette salute and…
#132: May I offer you an arm?
Mar 20, 2017 • 54 min
What side to walk on when escorting a lady, iced tea spoons, meals at regular group gatherings and feeling over exposed when others post pics of your home.
#131: Here a cough, there a cough
Mar 13, 2017 • 45 min
Coughing fits, group gifts, accountant friends and their services, thanking season staff, tipping pools
#130: Pay it forward
Mar 6, 2017 • 49 min
Thanking strangers, cards for holidays, public thank-yous, entertaining, inviting exes, plus a postscript segment on wedding planning
#129: Save the date details
Feb 27, 2017 • 56 min
On today’s show Dan and Lizzie dive into save the date cards and what location to list when the ceremony, reception, and lodging are all in different towns. Also covered: - multiple tank you notes - somehow we find more to talk about on this subject. -…
#128: Do you want to be my friend?
Feb 21, 2017 • 52 min
Toasting, Social media grammar police, Business relationships turn to friendships, Saying no to sales parties, a postscript segment for job seekers
#127: He’s Here! (Short Questions Show)
Feb 13, 2017 • 53 min
Short questions show tackles etiquette questions with solid answers, from when to begin eating to using commas with suffixes, plus Cindy Post Senning returns to finish discussing how etiquette relates to the developemental stages of childhood.
#126: She’s here!
Feb 6, 2017 • 58 min
Cindy Post Senning joins Lizzie to answer questions on Sweet Sixteens, Birthday gifts, Wedding gifts, and more!
#125: A Poo On Both Your Houses!
Jan 30, 2017 • 51 min
Bill Post joins Lizzie Post to answer your questions on Wedding Budgets, Wandering Dogs, Thanking commitees, and more!
#124: Wishy Washy Guests
Jan 23, 2017 • 47 min
Dan and Lizzie take on a host who was disappointed by wishy washy guests backing out of dinner plans. Also mentioned: Splitting the check, TSA Precheck, A sticky business question about working on teams, Plus your feed back, salute and a post script…
#123: Happy New Year for How Long?
Jan 16, 2017 • 34 min
Dan and Lizzie take on greetings when they help a listener determine how far into the new year do you say “Happy New Year!” Also Covered: Should ladies cross their legs at the knee or the ankle? What is the etiquette in estate divisions? Is a host…
#122: Prof. What Do I Call You?
Jan 9, 2017 • 52 min
On this show, Dan and Lizzie delve into spoons and their roll in the place setting, how to handle boundaries around birth, a question of email familiarity and in person formality.
#121: Regret-Free Money Lending
Jan 2, 2017 • 64 min
A really good friend has emotionally confided that she is in financial difficulty. You decide to lend her some money, expecting she’ll use it to pay some bills. She happily lets you know she’s bought holiday gifts instead. What should your reaction be?
Awesome Etiquette Prequel Show
Dec 30, 2016 • 4 min
Welcome to the new home of the ‘Awesome Etiquette’ podcast. We are so glad you are here. Join hosts Lizzie Post and Dan Post Senning, great-great-grandchildren of manners maven Emily Post, as they begin the next phase of the Awesome Etiquette podcast, an…
#120: Making Amends for Over-Imbibing
Dec 26, 2016 • 59 min
At a recent pre-holiday weekend gathering with friends, you had too much to drink and spoke and behaved in a manner you regret. How do you own up to your mistake? Should you make a blanket apology or apologize individually? And how should you word your…
#119: Lesbian Wedding Guest List Challenges
Dec 19, 2016 • 61 min
You and your partner have decided to tie the knot. How do you handle wedding invitations when some of your relatives have openly disapproved of your relationship? Are there points of etiquette that will allow you to be magnanimous and discerning when…
#118: Family Guest Gluttony
Dec 12, 2016 • 64 min
You love to entertain family and friends and you are generous to a fault. But there’s one family member in particular who always succeeds in eating and drinking you out of house and home and is offended by hints to curb his appetite. When is it time to…
#117: Good First Impression Gifting
Dec 5, 2016 • 65 min
This Christmas, you’re flying halfway across the country to meet your boyfriend’s family for the first time. What gift(s) can you bring to take on the plane or send beforehand that will say “thank you for having me” and make a good first impression? And…
#116: Re-Gifting Dos and Don’ts
Nov 28, 2016 • 59 min
Lizzie and Dan review the rules for re-gifting. One is to proceed with caution, and be aware of the possible repercussions
#115: Kick Out Your Guests
Nov 21, 2016 • 52 min
The holidays are the biggest party season of the year. You and your fiance love to throw them, but lately, there’s been a problem; guests who overstay their welcome. What are some subtle and not-so-subtle hints to let your guests know the party is over?
#114: Vegan Thanksgiving
Nov 14, 2016 • 58 min
Your vocal vegan auntie’s anti-meat attitudes are disrupting your family’s Thanksgiving gathering. How do you ease tensions, respect dietary choices, and still embrace the bird?
#113: Post Election Etiquette
Nov 7, 2016 • 62 min
One of the most bitter, divisive elections in modern history is over. Whether your candidate won or lost, can good etiquette heal a wounded nation?
#112: AWOL at the In-Laws
Oct 31, 2016 • 59 min
Your brother-in-law is hosting a family party. His plan is for everyone to watch a movie you’ve seen, and you’re disappointed you can’t spend the time talking with relatives. You leave to do some chores, but you return. Is anyone in the wrong?
#111: Handshake Anxiety
Oct 24, 2016 • 46 min
Germophobes may be anxious about shaking hands, especially during the cold and flu season. Is there ever a polite way to deny a handshake?
#110: Standing Up For Your Baby Name
Oct 17, 2016 • 44 min
You’ve been open about your quest to find the perfect baby name. A friend hears your tentative choice and sends you another list of names to consider. Is she being helpful, or is something else at play?
#109: Mother/Son Political Polarization
Oct 10, 2016 • 56 min
A mother and son with opposing political views can work it out by agreeing not to discuss them. But what happens when the mother violates that agreement by posting her strident opinions on her son’s Facebook wall?
#108: Dealing with Unwanted Advances
Oct 3, 2016 • 57 min
Let’s say you’re repeatedly hit on at a club or bar. You’re not interested, but you’re also not one to humiliate the prospective suitor. Your friends want you to be more aggressive. What’s the best way to say no?
#107: Cat/Car Quandary
Sep 26, 2016 • 48 min
We need listener input on this one. A woman generously loans one of her parking spots to a neighbor, who then complains about the woman’s cat sitting on a car the neighbor is trying to sell. What to do?
#106: Accidental Overexposure
Sep 19, 2016 • 45 min
An exhausted, multi-tasking mom greets her nice, new neighbors at the door…underdressed, let’s say. Should she apologize, or just let it go?
#105: Birthday Neglect, Family Tension
Sep 12, 2016 • 49 min
Your brother and his wife have a wonderful gift-giving tradition to celebrate your twin daughters’ birthday. But this year they forgot and didn’t even send a card. Should you respond in kind when their kids’ birthdays roll around?
#104: Divorce Drama at the Annual Campout
Sep 5, 2016 • 47 min
Handling divorce drama at your annual campout, resolution on the “too much perfume at the office” issue, and more.
#103: Not Enough Cooks in the Kitchen
Aug 29, 2016 • 51 min
You’re used to dining out with friends, but then they invite you over for a home-cooked meal. You learn pretty early into the appetizers that they aren’t the most skilled in the kitchen. In fact, it’s pretty bad. Do you say anything to them?
#102: Etiquette in Action!
Aug 22, 2016 • 45 min
Ever been floored by someone’s perfume/cologne/scent? What about at work, where you can’t get away? Dan and Lizzie go deep with a demonstration of their 5-step etiquette process when they help out a young woman in the above situation.
#101: Consideration, Respect, and Honesty
Aug 15, 2016 • 49 min
Want to know how Lizzie and Dan come up with the answers to the variety of questions on the show? On this episode, they break down their process of applying consideration, respect, and honesty to situations in the world so you can do it yourself.
#100: Episode 100!
Aug 8, 2016 • 56 min
On the centennial episode, Lizzie and Dan give the definitive answers to some classic etiquette topics – thank you notes, wedding gifts, dining settings and utensils, and dealing with other people’s bad etiquette.
#99: More Like the Friendship Episode Than an Episode of Friends
Aug 1, 2016 • 56 min
Friendship! Lizzie and Dan talk all about it with questions like this: Friends are telling lies about another friend…so what’s an appropriate response?
#98: Thank You Very Little
Jul 25, 2016 • 53 min
Someone has asked you to do them a big, last-minute favor to get them out of a major bind. You do your best, but instead of an enthusiastic thanks, you get criticism of the work you did. What do you say back?
#97: I’ve Got the Next Round
Jul 18, 2016 • 42 min
You’ve got a friend who loves to be a part of the crowd. But you’ve noticed that whenever it’s their turn to buy the next round, they’ve suddenly had enough for the night, or have to go somewhere. Should you call them on it, or butt out?
#96: The Clean Plate Club’s Only Member
Jul 11, 2016 • 48 min
You’re at a restaurant, and you’re the first person to finish your meal. Everyone else is still enjoying theirs and chatting. Should the server come and get your plate immediately, or wait for the rest of your party to finish?
#95: Let’s Never Do This Again Sometime
Jul 4, 2016 • 44 min
You’re out with an acquaintance you don’t see very often. You suddenly hear yourself say “That was fun … we should do it again soon.” But you know you don’t mean it. Are you just following accepted social custom, or are you being rude and disingenuous?
#94: Rent Asunder
Jun 27, 2016 • 51 min
The paint is still fresh on the walls, and some unpacked boxes are still sitting in the corner, but you are already getting the dreaded question: ‘Nice place … how much are you paying?
#93: You Are What You Eat
Jun 20, 2016 • 45 min
Eating with dietary restrictions can be tricky when you aren’t cooking for yourself. On the show this week, Lizzie and Dan tackle a range of questions about food choices.
#92: Forever Hold Your Peace. Please.
Jun 13, 2016 • 45 min
Everyone has an opinion about your wedding. And you’ve tried being nice. So how do you get people to keep their ideas to themselves and let you enjoy your engagement?
#91: Politically Impolite
Jun 6, 2016 • 45 min
A listener feels like they are being respectful when talking politics with a friend who supports the other side. But they feel that that respect isn’t being reciprocated. Can they keep having conversations, or will they blow up before November?
#90: An Affair to Remember (and Boycott)
May 30, 2016 • 41 min
A listener’s brother is recently divorced due to his wife’s infidelity with a local restaurateur. She wants to boycott the man’s establishments when going out with friends, but also keep her brother’s secret. How can she stay true to family but not betray…
#89: It’s Not a Character Flaw, It’s a Math Problem
May 23, 2016 • 44 min
A listener has recently moved to a bigger city, and is wondering how to deal with the people they see on the street who look like they might be experiencing homelessness.
#88: A Prom-Posed Problem
May 16, 2016 • 36 min
A shy girl just prom-posed to a boy she likes. And he said yes! But then he finds out the prom is on the same night as his mother’s 50th birthday. What’s a boy to do?
#87: When ‘Nice to Meet You’ Isn’t So Nice
May 9, 2016 • 44 min
A listener is an attorney whose job requires meeting people during very difficult times in their lives. Dan and Lizzie help with language on how to greet new clients in a way that doesn’t imply: You’re getting divorced. Will you be using cash or credit?
#86: It’s Just How I Was Brought Up
May 2, 2016 • 43 min
A listener feels like she comes across as being judgmental and reprimanding to her friends when discussing the manners with which she was brought up. Lizzie and Dan talk through strategies on how to talk about your upbringing.
#85: The Grumbling Groomsman
Apr 25, 2016 • 39 min
A listener suspects that a groomsman invitation is less about friendship and more about compensating for a less-than-responsible best man. Communication has been spotty. Plus, the costs are starting to pile up. Is it too late to back out?
#84: So … How Did It Turn Out?
Apr 18, 2016 • 51 min
We check in with listeners who’ve had their questions answered to see what happened after the advice was given.
#83: When You Want to Bring Home the B You BYO’d
Apr 11, 2016 • 49 min
A listener loves a liqueur. And loves to spread the love. But do they have to donate an expensive bottle to the party every time they BYOB? Or can they take it back at the end of the evening?
#82: What’s That Smell??!? I’m Working Here!!
Apr 4, 2016 • 49 min
A listener was greeted in the office kitchen by a note dictating what co-workers could and could not heat up in the microwave for lunch. So, who has the authority to say so, and who has the authority to eat what they want?
#81: NBA? Nevermind!
Mar 28, 2016 • 42 min
A listener and her fiancé were gifted some basketball tickets, but the game was on a day she couldn’t attend. After the fiancé invited a mutual friend, he realized that he had the day wrong, and she could go. So, who gets the ticket?
#80: Consulting an Authority
Mar 21, 2016 • 51 min
Lizzie and Dan hear from several listeners who might need to bring in someone with more authority. They tackle roommate issues, talking about people behind their backs, and when you’ve done as much as you can and have to consult someone else.
#79: It’s My Party and I’ll DJ If I Want To
Mar 14, 2016 • 38 min
The audience weighs in when a dinner party host asks how to deal with guests who want to add songs to the evening’s playlist. We also hear from Rico and Brendan from the Dinner Party Download on the subject.
#78: Johnny On the Spot (And He’s Not Leaving)
Mar 7, 2016 • 43 min
When a blizzard consumed Baltimore, a listener became frustrated when neighbors began claiming street parking spots after digging them out. So who has the etiquette right when reserving the parking spot you worked so hard to dig out?
#77: Being Polite On Both Sides of the Mason-Dixon Line
Feb 29, 2016 • 39 min
A southerner and a New Englander ask for suggestions on raising their kids to say “sir” and “ma’am,” understanding that those terms have very different meanings and expectations in each of their home regions.
#76: Destination: Expensive
Feb 22, 2016 • 36 min
A listener has been invited to the destination wedding of a co-worker, and is concerned about the cost. Lizzie and Dan discuss whether it’s rude to force your wedding guests to spend a lot to get to your event.
#75: The Mystery of the Unsent Postcards
Feb 15, 2016 • 33 min
Lizzie and Dan need your help with what to do! A listener bought an item secondhand, and in it has come across some items personal to someone else’s life. What should the listener do with the postcards in the book?
#74: Gifts? Yes, Please!
Feb 8, 2016 • 36 min
A listener thinks that some gifts from guests would be nice at her party celebrating a milestone event in her life. But she’s worried that “no gifts, please” has become de rigueur on modern party invitations for adults.
#73: Spoiler Alerts Spoiler Alert
Feb 1, 2016 • 39 min
It’s a question as old as cinema itself – how long does a movie have to have been out to be OK to talk about openly?
#72: Whose Invitation Is It, Anyway?
Jan 25, 2016 • 36 min
A listener is torn over her invitation to the wedding of her son’s childhood friend. The boys had a fight, so her son isn’t invited, but the invitation came from the friend’s mother, whom the listener has been friends with for years.
#71: Is It Pronounced PWNHAMMER?
Jan 18, 2016 • 37 min
A listener isn’t sure about the etiquette of hosting online friends for a meat space get-together, and whether or not it’s okay to use in-game names instead of real names.
#70: I’ll Have What You’re Having On My Pizza
Jan 11, 2016 • 41 min
Lizzie and Dan debate the complicated issue of a listener who was reprimanded for choosing the “wrong” slice of pizza after clearly saying he didn’t care which toppings were chosen.
#69: Keeping It in the Family
Jan 4, 2016 • 35 min
A listener’s young son was confided in by a friend on some family business. Should the listener now reach out to the family during their hard time, or stay out of it?
#68: It’s Not About You, It’s About My Baby
Dec 28, 2015 • 40 min
After learning of an accidental pregnancy, a listener is worried about the judgment from people who had previously said she’d change her mind about not wanting to have children.
#67: Shoes On or Shoes Off in the House?
Dec 21, 2015 • 38 min
Lizzie and Dan feature some of the extensive feedback they received on the great shoes on or off in the house debate. This one touched a nerve, and people offer some heartfelt perspectives from around the globe.
#66: Awesome Holiday Etiquette
Dec 14, 2015 • 53 min
The holiday season can be a minefield when it comes to good behavior. Lizzie and Dan will talk with friends and special guests about etiquette throughout the season, including John Besh, Judith Hill, and Andrew Walsh.
#65: ‘Tis the Season for Regifting
Dec 7, 2015 • 38 min
A listener writes in with one of the most blatant regifting stories ever told, spurring conversations about how to handle receiving a clearly regifted present, and how to avoid being tactless if you choose to do some regifting of your own.
#64: Blood Is Not Thicker Than Facebook
Nov 30, 2015 • 33 min
A listener has been unfriended by a family member on social media. Lizzie and Dan talk about what that might mean, and what should be done (or not done) in response.
#63: Holiday Party Obligations
Nov 23, 2015 • 35 min
Happy Thanksgiving! On the show this week, an introverted and socially awkward listener has been invited to, but doesn’t want to attend, several office holiday parties. Is she obligated to go? Lizzie and Dan talk about the social obligations of work…
#62: A Handshake Will Do
Nov 16, 2015 • 36 min
Lizzie and Dan field a question from a listener who is new to the professional world and is seeking advice for how to curtail the amount of hugs she gets at work. Especially from older male colleagues.
#61: Sharing Difficult News
Nov 9, 2015 • 37 min
A listener has been diagnosed with aggressive cancer with a very poor prognosis. He wants to share the news with friends and family, but wants to know the best way to balance delivering potentially devastating personal news with compassion for those who…
#60: The Reluctant Host
Nov 2, 2015 • 35 min
Without her knowledge or consent, a listener is been drafted by her family to host a big holiday get-together! What’s the best way to host it this year, and how should she make sure it doesn’t happen again next year? Lizzie and Dan weigh in on the case of…
#59: Is it Eavesdropping When You’re Standing at My Desk?
Oct 26, 2015 • 38 min
A listener in a small shared office wonders who is being rude when her co-worker talks with friends in their workspace. Is it better to ignore, jump in, or ask them to leave? Dan an Lizzie weigh in on social conversations in the workplace.
#58: Dirty Hands, Clean Kitchen
Oct 19, 2015 • 34 min
Lizzie and Dan advise a listener who feels strongly about germs and keeps a very clean kitchen, but is unsure how to politely get her guests to clean up before jumping in to help.
#57: Denying Children the Joys of Giving
Oct 12, 2015 • 42 min
Lizzie and Dan are shocked to learn of a new trend popping up: parents withholding until Christmas their children’s birthday gifts from friends.
#56: When Your Friend Sees Your Selfie From Their Ex’s Wedding
Oct 5, 2015 • 39 min
Your friends have had a bad breakup, but you’re still friends with both. And now one is getting married. Do you share the wonderful day on social media and celebrate one friend? Or protect the other friend and keep your timeline quiet? Lizzie and Dan talk…
#55: Mx Lizzie and Mx Dan
Sep 28, 2015 • 40 min
The Oxford English Dictionary has recently entered a new honorific (think of it as an alternative to Mr, Ms, or Mrs) into the English lexicon, and it has a lot of practical value. Lizzie and Dan unpack all the details behind this newly accepted way to…
#54: Swipe Left to Keep Work at Work
Sep 21, 2015 • 32 min
It’s a crash course on mixing work and pleasure in the digital age when a listener stumbles across a co-worker on a popular dating app. Lizzie and Dan talk them through all of the many ramifications of swiping right, swiping left, or not swiping at all.
#53: The Short Questions Show
Sep 14, 2015 • 29 min
It’s a question-answering bonanza! Lizzie and Dan take on a whole bunch of your short questions and do their best to give short answers. They talk thank you notes, table manners, grooming at the table, AND SO MUCH MORE! Plus, the etiquette implications of…
#52: Let Me Treat You to a Doggie Bag
Sep 7, 2015 • 35 min
Lizzie and Dan help out a frustrated listener who treated a colleague to lunch, then watched that colleague order with abandon and save items to take home for later. Tacky? Or within the bounds of the offer?
#51: You’re Bringing What To My Wedding?
Aug 31, 2015 • 42 min
Lizzie and Dan get a question from a bride-to-be who has received an unprecedented RSVP to her upcoming wedding. Kudos are given to the bride for her flexibility.
#50: Paper Anniversary
Aug 24, 2015 • 52 min
It’s our 50th episode! AND our 1-year anniversary of being a podcast! So, Lizzie and Dan take a moment to reflect on some favorite moments from the past year, take a look ahead at hopes and dreams for the upcoming year, and dive deep into the traditional…
#49: Fantasy Football with Chris Harris
Aug 17, 2015 • 44 min
There’s a new season coming, and six-time Fantasy Sports Writing Association award winner Chris Harris joins Lizzie and Dan to talk all things fantasy football. From not talking too much about your team, to who gets Chris’ salute for good behavior, it’s…
#48: Breastfeeding in Public
Aug 10, 2015 • 45 min
Lizzie and Dan tackle the sensitive subject of breastfeeding in public after a listener describes a rift in her friend group surrounding an incident at a birthday party.
#47: There’s Crying and Yelling in Maine
Aug 3, 2015 • 55 min
A kid was shouted at by the owner of a diner after making a scene in a restaurant. Subsequently, the upset parents took their anger online. Lizzie and Dan do a full etiquette breakdown of this viral news item from Maine.
#46: The Disingenuous Date
Jul 27, 2015 • 42 min
On today’s show: plus ones, disingenuous dates, TA tattling, guests who hate kids, party anxiety, and an etiquette salute to being a good houseguest.
#45: Train, in Pain
Jul 20, 2015 • 34 min
This week, Lizzie and Dan have advice for a 28-year-old woman who looks healthy, but suffers from chronic back pain and gets dirty looks and rude comments from fellow subway passengers who think she should give her seat up.
#44: It’s Important to Remember What’s Behind It
Jul 13, 2015 • 46 min
Lizzie and Dan break down the difference between manners and principles. Because sometimes we can all get too focused on how a particular rule is being broken and miss that the core values of etiquette are still being shown.
#43: Did You Get My Message?
Jul 6, 2015 • 45 min
Dan was late to the recording session because of extenuating circumstances. He talks with Lizzie about how to respectfully handle the inevitability of being late from time to time.
#42: Shame and Weight Gain
Jun 29, 2015 • 51 min
After putting on some weight, a listener is going to return to her home town for a reunion, fully expecting upfront comments about her body. How can she handle fat shamers?
#41: Very Personal Items
Jun 22, 2015 • 41 min
A college professor asks how to give his students dignity and space in a public place when he runs into them at the drugstore buying very personal items.
#40: It’s Their Party
Jun 15, 2015 • 45 min
Breakfast for dinner is an epic level move. Putting together a fun wedding is, too. Does it work to combine the two? What will the family think?
#39: How a Post Gets Married
Jun 8, 2015 • 56 min
Dan got married! And we get to hear all about it. From the clothes to the food, the music to the ceremony, and the sangeet to the chuppah.
#38: Can You Be Too Approachable?
Jun 1, 2015 • 33 min
When the people around you share their unasked-for opinions about politics and religion, or give detailed accounts of medical procedures they’ve undergone, you may ask the same question.
#37: The Long Hallway Greeting
May 25, 2015 • 35 min
You’re walking down that long hallway at work. You see an acquaintance at the other end walking towards you, but it’s far too early to make contact. What to do, where to look, and how to handle the etiquette of the long hallway greeting.
#36: Mrs. [Husband’s Name Goes Here]
May 18, 2015 • 49 min
Some say it’s still proper for a wife to be called by her husband’s name. Others call it painfully outdated. Who is right? The answer is complicated.
#35: Graduation Gifts and the Treadmill Boss
May 11, 2015 • 38 min
You’re invited to a dual grad party, but you only really know one of the graduates. What is the gift-giving protocol?
#34: The Accidental Date
May 4, 2015 • 55 min
You think you’re just going out for a drink. He clearly doesn’t. What is the best way to handle this without being rude?
#33: Cutting The Face Painting Line
Apr 27, 2015 • 42 min
Your family has waited 90 minutes in the face painting line. A 4 year-old is trying to cut the line, and his guardian is nowhere to be seen. What do you do?
#32: The Problem with “Sorry, But…”
Apr 20, 2015 • 38 min
Apologies are fine and good. Apologies that are immediately undercut by a but are not.
#31: The Office Wanderer and Absent Vegans
Apr 13, 2015 • 41 min
A maddening co-worker, vegans who no-show, and habitually late friends are just some of the etiquette dilemmas Lizzie and Dan tackle.
#30: Wearable Tech-iquette
Apr 6, 2015 • 47 min
Lizzie’s getting a new roommate! But she knows that the best living situations are ones where norms are established and boundaries are set. Dan and Lizzie talk about how to respect the people you live with.
#29: The Line Cutter
Mar 30, 2015 • 43 min
You’ve been waiting for that parking spot for a long time, and someone swoops in to take it. How do you handle it? Lizzie and Dan have the answer.
#28: Sportsmanship and Burning Jerseys
Mar 23, 2015 • 47 min
Lizzie and Dan get emotional about free agency and talk about how burning jerseys is not cool.
#27: Indian Weddings
Mar 16, 2015 • 31 min
Dan returns from a friend’s Indian wedding in California – the trial run for his own Indian wedding just two and a half months away – and gushes about his bride-to-be and Indian formalwear.
#26: I’m Just Gonna Be Your Mom Tonight
Mar 9, 2015 • 46 min
Lizzie and Dan talk about the houseguest/host dance done right, and Lizzie commends a flight attendant for taking care of her on the tarmac.
#25: Social Media Shaming
Mar 2, 2015 • 41 min
Is it okay for the Twittersphere to call someone out on social media, or does that create a mob mentality that does more harm than good?
#24: White Lies
Feb 23, 2015 • 42 min
In light of news anchor Brian Williams’s suspension from NBC, Dan talks about his own liberating decision to stop lying.
#23: If I’m Gonna Be Sneaky, I’m Gonna Be Sneaky
Feb 16, 2015 • 45 min
Dan and Lizzie tell you whether it’s ever okay to snoop.
#22: Happy Valentine’s Day!
Feb 9, 2015 • 44 min
Sharon Andrea of Modern Dating Mastery joins Lizzie and Dan to help listeners navigate the often confusing world of dating.
#21: My Husband’s Feet
Feb 2, 2015 • 44 min
How do you tell a loved one that they need to spruce up their personal hygiene without hurting their feelings?
#20: My Friends Tip Too Much
Jan 26, 2015 • 30 min
What do you do when your friends tip two or three times as much as you, and expect you to do the same? Also mentioned: Returning texts, an ode to Omaha, oyster forks, and an etiquette salute to Tom Brady.
#19: Coming Out at Work with Etiquette Expert Steven Petrow
Jan 20, 2015 • 60 min
When people at work assume you’re straight, how do you let them know you’re not? Etiquette expert and Washington Post columnist Steven Petrow helps Lizzie and Dan tackle this question.
#18: Don’t Tell Anyone You’re a Mime
Jan 12, 2015 • 63 min
Former mime and current etiquette expert Dan advises you on dealing with people who discover your profession and ask questions that aren’t always applicable or appropriate.
#17: Bourbon, No Ice
Jan 6, 2015 • 40 min
When someone invites himself to your party, is it okay to insist that he bring bourbon and ice?
#16: Angry Donors, Racist Card Games, and How to Eat Bread
Dec 22, 2014 • 48 min
On this year-end episode: A fundraiser asks how to approach an angry donor, some advice on how to eat bread, and telling your friends their card game is racist.