Terrible, Thanks For Asking

Terrible, Thanks For Asking

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You know how every day someone asks “how are you?” And even if you’re totally dying inside, you just say “fine,” so everyone can go about their day? This show is the opposite of that. Hosted by author and notable widow (her words) Nora McInerny, this is a funny/sad/uncomfortable podcast about talking honestly about our pain, our awkwardness, and our humanness, which is not an actual word. From American Public Media.
52: Heather
Oct 17 • 46 min
It’s winter in Kansas, and Heather is back in her hometown, facing her abuser for the first time. You can catch up with TTFA on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook using @ttfapodcast. Nora’s Instagram is @noraborealis. Check out our sponsors this week:…
Update on Episode 51: Nebach
Oct 17 • 5 min
A quick update and clarification on Episode 51.
51: Nebach
Oct 9 • 50 min
Dating is tough. Especially when there’s strict expectations and rules. And ESPECIALLY when you finally find someone… and they don’t turn out to be who you expected. You can catch up with TTFA on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook using @ttfapodcast. Nora’s…
50: Soooo OCD
Oct 2 • 57 min
OCD is one of those acronyms we use to say, “I’m a little quirky” or “I like my room to be VERY clean.” But what does it mean to actually live with OCD? I have no idea, so we asked people who do. You can catch up with TTFA on Instagram, Twitter and…
49: What Do You Say About Suicide? (Part 2)
Sep 25 • 40 min
We’re *still* not done talking about suicide. And neither are you… If you’re looking for resources on suicide, here are some good places to start: Be The One To - https://www.bethe1to.com National Alliance on Mental Illness - https://www.nami.org National…
48: What Do You Say About Suicide? (Part 1)
Sep 18 • 45 min
You know what people hate talking about? Dreams. Politics. Religion. Your birth story. Also: suicide. Which is why we asked you to talk about it for us. For resources on suicide and mental health, nami.org has a wealth of great mental health resources.…
47: Nathan
Sep 11 • 53 min
Nathan grew up knowing he was different. And what scared him more than who he is, was the idea that who he is was at odds with God, and his family, and the world he belonged to. thetrevorproject.org provides crises intervention for LGBTQ+ youth. Text…
46: Two Letters
Sep 4 • 49 min
Annie’s husband Jim died by suicide. After his death, she got into a bad space of her own. Then came the letters. You can catch up with TTFA on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook using @ttfapodcast. Check out our sponsors this week: Talkspace -…
45: How Are You?
Aug 28 • 31 min
No, like, really. We ask this question of all of our guests, but we asked you, too. And you answered! You’re…all over the place. And that’s okay. PS— please help Nora make #fansofhans happen. You can catch up with TTFA on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook…
44: Ripped From The Headlines
Aug 21 • 49 min
The murder of Nation’s wife was headline news around the country. But the headlines can only tell you so much. You can catch up with TTFA on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook using @ttfapodcast. Check out our sponsors this week: Blue Apron -…
43: So Many Things At Once
Aug 14 • 40 min
Third time’s the charm, except for when it’s the third time your life has been completely upended. Then it’s extremely disruptive. Maybe Tinder could help? Check out today’s sponsors — Talkspace — talkspace.com/ttfa Brooklinen — brooklinen.com The Great…
42: YOLO?
Aug 7 • 45 min
You Only Live Once… unless you’re Leilani. This week - a heart, a transplant, and a mystery. Check out our sponsors: Talkspace - talkspace.com/ttfa with promo code TTFA Committed - committedpodcast.com Ritual - ritual.com/thanks Third Love -…
Listen to This: TBTL — What The Hell Is An Orange Julius?
Aug 1 • 92 min
Nora steps in to guest host the podcast that just might be Too Beautiful To Live — a delightful daily show about life, current events, pop culture, puttering, laser baldness helmets, and tonight pants. While regular co-host Andrew Walsh is out of town,…
Listen to This: Borrowed Interest — Difficult Women
Jul 26 • 76 min
Borrowed Interest is a podcast hosted by three ad-women of color — Leeya Jackson, Shareina Chandler, and Amalia Nicholson - kicking it in the advertising business and working it all out with thoughtful discussions, screams and laughter. They’re your…
Listen to This: Forever35 — Just Say No with Nora McInerny
Jul 18 • 64 min
This week Nora wants you to listen to an amazing podcast called Forever35. Kate Spencer and Doree Shafrir talk about self-care and how to get some in their (and your) lives. On this episode, they also talk to an up-and-comer named Nora McInerny. Nora…
Listen to This: Reply All — An Ad for the Worst Day of Your Life
Jul 10 • 33 min
Matt’s wife died a decade ago. Now, everywhere he goes on the internet, he can’t escape advertisements for clickbait sites with her picture on it. This week, Super Tech Support tries to help out. Further reading: Matt’s non-profit: The Liz Logelin…
41: The Stories We Tell
Jun 26 • 42 min
Stories from our parents and grandparents are a sort of intergenerational game of telephone - even the ones we think we know for sure change as they are told and retold. Check out our sponsors: Talkspace — talkspace.com/ttfa with promo code TTFA Blue…
40: Expect Good Things
Jun 19 • 44 min
Life as a 20-something guy with stage IV lung cancer, including some very important life advice regarding travel. Check out our sponsors: Talkspace - talkspace.com with promo code TTFA FabFitFun - fabfitfun.com with promo code TERRIBLE Children’s Cancer…
39: Natalie
Jun 12 • 43 min
The punishment is supposed to fit the crime. But sometimes, when the sentence is served, the punishment is far from over. Check out our sponsors this week: Children’s Cancer Fund — childrenscancer.org/ttfa Ritual - ritual.com/thanks Molekule —…
38: About Bob
Jun 5 • 51 min
This is a story about a dad who is sometimes a stranger, often a mystery, and always loved anyways. Check out our sponsors this week: Talkspace — talkspace.com/ttfa with promo code TTFA Brooklinen — brooklinen.com with promo code THANKS RXBar —…
37: Fairy Dust
May 29 • 40 min
Lesly is a mother of three and a three-time cancer haver (there may be a more medical term for that) living on borrowed time. When the treatment you need is out of your reach, what the heck do you do? Check out our sponsors this week: Talkspace.com/ttfa…
36: Rose Tulip
May 22 • 44 min
Captain Rosemarie Chapman flies airplanes for the Air Force. She met her boyfriend, a fellow soldier, and fell deeply in love. But a deployment to Afghanistan ends their relationship abruptly. And soon, Rosemarie is faced with meeting his family in an…
35: The Gold And The Broken Bits
May 15 • 37 min
Chris was brought up to be positive. And to get on with it no matter what. But getting on with it isn’t always so easy when others won’t make room for you to be a full person.
34: Karen
May 8 • 48 min
Sometimes a person’s absence can become a presence. A dark, unspoken void that can suck you right in if you don’t address it.
33: Witness
May 1 • 43 min
What’s worse: keeping the people you love at a distance, or showing them your true colors and losing them forever? Patricia doesn’t want to find out.
32: Bryson’s Purpose
Mar 27 • 44 min
Chelsey and Kevin are parents, public servants, and two people just trying to make sense of the absolutely senseless. If this is God’s plan, I have a word or two for God.
31: Transformation
Mar 20 • 44 min
It’s not just a hashtag. Transformation is inevitable (and not always a choice.) But nothing transforms us more than love.
30: Route 91
Mar 13 • 46 min
On the eve of Kelli’s 25th birthday, she found herself running for her life in a dystopian nightmare. It was supposed to be an incredible weekend to celebrate the dawn of a new phase of her life. Instead, it was the deadliest mass shooting (so far) in…
29: If/Then
Mar 6 • 36 min
Charlotte’s career is built on organized chaos. As an Operating Room nurse, she has a protocol for every tragedy, a THEN for every IF. Until one night, when she takes a new route home, and everything changes.
28: Revenge of the Porn
Feb 27 • 44 min
The INTERNET never forgets (dang it).
27: The Use of These Memories
Feb 20 • 35 min
There’s a thin line between life and death. Between what’s here — now — and what was. Between what’s here — now — and what will be. Taz Ahmed knows about that line. In a dark house in Kathmandu, she and her aging grandfather toe up to it to look for her…
26: Perfectly
Feb 13 • 44 min
Sometimes, it all just falls into place. For Megan and Clark, a one-week span showed how things can work out perfectly to create the best days of your life… and the worst.
25: The Broken Places
Feb 6 • 45 min
When the world breaks everything, when everything is The Absolute Worst, you’re lucky if you have people to lean on. You’re even luckier if they’re your siblings. Meet Alex, David and Liza Achilli. Which… I really wanted to call this episode The Achilli’s…
24: Incompatible With Life
Dec 12, 2017 • 35 min
At 32 weeks pregnant, Cat and Jim find themselves planning for their son’s death while hoping for his birth. This is a story of a life and a death, extraordinary in every way.
23: Live with Dessa, Alyssa Limperis and Geoffrey Wilson
Dec 5, 2017 • 52 min
TTFA is live from the historic Fitzgerald Theater in downtown St. Paul, MN! Featuring conversation with writer/rapper/entrepreneur Dessa, who took to science to overcome a bad love. And with comedian Alyssa Limperis, whose father died of glioblastoma. So…
22: Happy(ish) Holidays II
Nov 28, 2017 • 52 min
Lauren’s brother died at Thanksgiving. And her mother at Christmas. So… this time of year it’s not all Ho Ho Ho for her. Or for a lot of other people. Because the Holidays can really and truly suck for some. So we’re back with our second annual Holiday…
21: Introducing Childhood
Nov 21, 2017 • 28 min
Malena is 10 years old, and she worries a lot. About her grades. About her procrastination. About her dad. Especially about her dad. Kids are the best. They’re smart and funny and deeply empathetic. And they - and their thoughts and feelings - deserve to…
20: The Truth We Live
Nov 14, 2017 • 36 min
Amee doesn’t have a dad. But she used to. He was the best. He was the worst. And he claims that he doesn’t remember any of it.
19: What Does All This Loss Mean?
Nov 7, 2017 • 48 min
Dead sister. Dead grandma. Dead grandpa. Dead uncle. Dead mom. Dead dad. Dead brother. The list of loss goes on and on for Jaamil, and so does his list of professional accolades and accomplishments as he moves from trauma to post-traumatic enlightenment.
18: Chapter 2
Oct 31, 2017 • 35 min
Hope and Aaron died on the exact same day. Each leaving behind their spouse, their child, and all the love their small families had created. Nearly three years later, their spouses have remarried. But don’t you dare say they’ve moved on.
7: Unbroken (#metoo)
Oct 24, 2017 • 47 min
Sexual violence thrives in silence, and it’s hard to talk about… so we don’t. But rape survivor Sarah Super refuses to be quiet, and has dedicated her life to helping other survivors Break the Silence. If you or someone you know has experienced sexual…
17: Esther Perel Live at Now Hear This Festival
Oct 17, 2017 • 50 min
If you are or ever plan to be in a relationship, you need to know Esther Perel, The Patron Saint of Relationships. Known for her TED Talks, her brilliant book, Mating in Captivity, and her captivating podcast, Where Should We Begin?, Esther believes that…
16: Forever Alone? (Part 2)
Oct 10, 2017 • 39 min
In our last episode, we met chronically single Chelsea, who was looking for love in all the same places we all look for love… and coming up empty-handed. Now, we meet Chelsea’s new boyfriend (!!!!) and explore what happens when the love we find isn’t what…
15: Forever Alone? (Part 1)
Oct 3, 2017 • 35 min
As the saying goes, “There’s a lid for every pot.” There’s someone for everyone. Chelsea has been looking for her lid — her someone — since high school. Nearly 15 years after her only real relationship ended, she still hasn’t found her person. It’s not…
14: Best Friends Forever
Sep 25, 2017 • 33 min
There are friendships, and there are FRIENDSHIPS of the all-caps variety. The latter ones are harder to forge the older you get. Which is what Janya is struggling with after the loss of her best friend, Michele.
13: Baby Huey
Sep 20, 2017 • 35 min
Courtney and Jay are parents to 9-year-old Bruce, who they affectionately call Baby Huey. Bruce has never had a friend. Never had a playdate. Never been invited to a birthday party. What. The. Heck.
LIVE SHOW ANNOUNCEMENT: The Honeymoon’s Over
Sep 18, 2017 • 6 min
Nora is back from her honeymoon with a special announcement: TTFA is doing a live show! (Plus, this week’s episode will be out on Wednesday - so stay tuned!) TTFA LIVE! In person!! Hear us perform an episode right in front of your face! November 17, 2017…
12: Horrible and Wonderful and Figuring it Out
Sep 11, 2017 • 45 min
Harris Wittels was the executive producer of Parks and Recreation, the coiner of the word “humblebrag,” a Phish enthusiast, and the funniest person in any room he walked into. He died of a heroin overdose in 2015, leaving behind his mother, his sister,…
11: The Ending Matters
Sep 6, 2017 • 43 min
How do you want to die? We’re willing to bet the answer isn’t, “Very painfully, please!” Brittany Maynard was 29 when she died of brain cancer. Aaron Purmort was 35 when he died of the same thing. But their paths to death were very different. Nearly three…
Mini-Season Ep 9: Love Hurts
Jul 19, 2017 • 41 min
When Lea Thau’s fiance left her, she felt all the feelings. Then she had their baby, and decided to start dating again. But, despite going out, nothing seemed to be clicking. Over and over. And eventually, she wanted to know why. Why didn’t men want to…
Mini-Season Ep 8: Dear Grown-ups
Jun 13, 2017 • 37 min
What do you wish your grown-ups had said to you when you were a kid? Especially while dealing with really hard stuff? We wanted to know, so we asked the Terrible Club - listeners who support the show - and they had some thoughts. Geez da wheeze, did they…
Mini-Season Ep 7: Naomi + Khaleel
Jun 7, 2017 • 27 min
Khaleel Thompson is an 18-year-old who loves music, reading, and his cat, Domino. Naomi is his mother, asking why four police officers fired more than 12 rounds at her son in a public park two weeks ago, leaving him in critical condition. The two of them…
Mini-Season Ep 6: 19 Hours Ago
Apr 25, 2017 • 40 min
Grief is always fresh for someone, somewhere. Right now, someone is losing a friend. A partner. A parent. And they are entering a new role, a new relationship to their loved one, and to the world. Holly felt that grief. And she came in to share it with…
Mini-Season Ep 5: To Michael
Apr 17, 2017 • 19 min
When someone dies, you’re supposed to say something. Someone is supposed to say something. Someone is supposed to summarize this person, prove that they existed, that they mattered. But what do you say when a complicated person dies after a complicated…
Mini-Season Ep 4: Is It OK?
Apr 10, 2017 • 21 min
Alysha-Aubrey sent us a story about both her parents falling seriously ill at the same time, and the toll it took on her as a teenager. And she ended her story with a question about whether or not it’s OK that she doesn’t feel OK. Even though her family…
Mini-Season Ep 3: #trypod with The Hilarious World of Depression
Mar 27, 2017 • 45 min
March is #trypod month, where everyone should force their loved ones to listen to podcasts. Not sure which one to subscribe every family member to? Well, we have one for you. It’s called The Hilarious World of Depression, and it features open, honest…
Mini-Season Ep 2: Are You Up?
Mar 14, 2017 • 44 min
It’s 12:00. No, 1:00. No, 4:45 in the morning. You should be sleeping — we all should be — but you’re not. You’re laying there as the minutes tick away, thinking about… what, exactly? One sleepless night, Nora took to Twitter to see what was keeping you…
Mini-Season Ep 1: Not The Bummer Olympics
Mar 6, 2017 • 15 min
So many people start off their stories by saying that it doesn’t compare to what happened to someone else. But this isn’t a game of Who Has It Worse, so why do we act like there is some sort of imaginary yardstick for struggling? This is the first episode…
10: Semper Fi
Jan 30, 2017 • 36 min
When Nora McInerny’s dad died, she lost his stories. The ones that she’s not sure she can can’t quite remember right, and the ones she never knew. Like those from his time as a Recon Marine in Vietnam. So Nora decides to look up some of the men he served…
9: Under a Cloud of Loss
Jan 23, 2017 • 47 min
Damon’s grandparents were murdered 18 months before he was born. And, for the first time in his life, he prepares to see his grandparents’ murderer face to face.
8: The Middle Place
Jan 16, 2017 • 34 min
For most of us, death is scary. And what happens next is just as mysterious. But what if we could see death as something beautiful? Or holy? Sarah Gottfried and Heather Olson share their experiences of being with people who are transitioning from this…
7: Unbroken
Jan 9, 2017 • 45 min
Sexual violence thrives in silence, and it’s hard to talk about…so we don’t. But rape survivor Sarah Super refuses to be quiet, and has dedicated her life to helping other survivors Break the Silence.
6: A Henry Sky
Jan 2, 2017 • 40 min
Colleen Barton is a pediatrician, a wife, and a mother to a beautiful son named Henry. Since Henry’s stillbirth, Colleen and her husband have been working to build their family while dealing with miscarriage and secondary infertility.
5: Help Me Remember
Dec 26, 2016 • 41 min
Dawn Pereda is a nurse who was injured by a patient while working. And this injury resulted in a brain injury that has changed her life completely. Dawn and her family open up about what it can be like living with Traumatic Brain Injury, grieving for the…
4: Me, Too
Dec 19, 2016 • 39 min
Danni Starr had everything she wanted: an enviable career, a husband, and, finally…her first baby. But off the air, motherhood was not what she expected it to be. She had taken all the classes, read all the books, bought all the stuff…but nothing had…
3: Happy(ish) Holidays
Dec 12, 2016 • 53 min
Two days after Nora’s husband Aaron died, she celebrated Thanksgiving with her family. Well…maybe not “celebrated.” Actually, why would you do that? Try to be normal when clearly everything isn’t? But every year millions of people do the same thing during…
2: I’ve Made a Huge Mistake
Dec 5, 2016 • 47 min
The year is 2007. Eva Hagberg is a 20-something writer snagging bylines in the New York Times by day, and partying herself stupid by night. It is all going great, until she gets her big break, and her big breakdown…
1: In Love and Memory
Nov 28, 2016 • 38 min
Toddlers Ralphie and Bronson have lived most of their young lives with dead fathers. Their mothers - Nora and Moe Richardson - struggle to understand how to help their boys remember the dads they won’t know directly. And as they worry about what long-term…
0: Sad Nora and the Secret Baby
Nov 20, 2016 • 20 min
Nora McInerny is in love with two men. With one man, who died two years ago this week, she has a child. And last week she had a child with the other. She didn’t tell many people about the new baby. Or her pregnancy. Because feelings. Falling in love again…
Coming This Fall – Terrible, Thanks For Asking
Jun 17, 2016 • 3 min
Lots of things happen in a life. Some of them are hard. Terrible Thanks For Asking is a funny/sad/uncomfortable podcast about getting through things when life just keeps kicking you in the privates over and over. It launches this fall, but here¬ís a sneak…