Your Confident Self

Your Confident Self

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Career and Life Coaching for Women


5 Ways to Recognize Your Authentic Self
Jan 28 • 8 min
Sometimes it’s hard to tell if you’re being the real you, or a made-up version. Here are five ways you can determine whether or not you’re being your authentic self.
What it Means to Be An Authentic Woman
Jan 21 • 7 min
When we think about the concept of the authentic self, most women focus mainly on being truthful and honest. These are valuable attributes, but really living an authentic life involves a lot more than just telling the truth. So, the bad news is that being…
When Will You be Tired of Living a Lie?
Jan 14 • 7 min
Before you get too upset, know that you are not the only one living a lie. It is an easy trap to fall into and can be a deep and difficult one to climb out of. But once you recognize the lie, it will be well worth the work to start living authentically.…
9 Traits of Super Motivated Women You Need
Jan 7 • 7 min
You know super motivated women when you see them. They seem fearless in the face of any challenge and have more energy than that famous little drummer boy… but what exactly are the character traits that help them stay that way?
Why Women Give Up: The Heartbreaking Truth
Oct 29, 2019 • 6 min
Why do women give up? The truth will break your heart. There are few obstacles that can withstand a woman with enough desire and determination. Just think about how different your life would be if you never gave up on yourself!
How To Harness the Power of Saying No
Oct 1, 2019 • 39 min
Learning how to say no can help you regain control of your life. IT’s a powerful tool that many women are afraid to use.
The Rise of the Powerful Introvert
Sep 17, 2019 • 44 min
Chelsey Brooke stops by the podcast to tell us about the rise of the powerful introvert. Introverts are often misunderstood and mis-labeled by people who don’t understand the personality type. Often people think introverted women are boring or stuck-up…
10 Ways to Stop Your Critics From Stealing Your Dream Life
Sep 10, 2019 • 14 min
Today we will look at 10 ways to stop your critics from stealing your dream. I never wanted to be a cop but I do love those shows. I’m fascinated by the techniques they use to prevent crimes. So I’m going to apply some of that investigative wisdom to…
Unlocking the Magic of Managing Your Manager
Aug 6, 2019 • 14 min
When most of you started your professional journeys you likely thought your most important responsibility was managing yourself and your work tasks. Over time, the most successful among you learned managing your manager had a much bigger impact on career…
10 Things Confident Women Should Refuse to Do
Jul 24, 2019 • 7 min
Confident women should refuse to do certain things. Why? Because their strengths lie in focusing on the right things and ignoring the wrong ones. Confident women do and think certain things, but they also avoid thinking and doing certain things. If you…
You Gave Up on Your Dream Career, Now What?
Jul 9, 2019 • 14 min
Let’s talk about how you gave up on the dream career you want. Once you have given up, what are you supposed to do next? I ended a recent podcast episode by saying one of the most important things about hope is that it prevents you from giving up. (If you…
How to Feel Gratitude When Things Suck
Jun 25, 2019 • 13 min
When things suck it’s hard to feel gratitude but I have 7 ways to feel gratitude that will help you get through it. Gratitude is one of the most powerful emotions that you can experience. It connects you to what is really important in your life. It…
How to Tell If You Really Like Yourself
Jun 11, 2019 • 9 min
How can you tell if you really like yourself? It’s probably something you don’t think about because you just assume that you do. But, according to an American sociologist, at any given moment, 80% of the world doesn’t like themselves. I’m a little scared…
What Hope Is and Why You Should Care
May 29, 2019 • 10 min
In this week’s episode of the podcast I am going to take a look at what hope is and why you should care. The weight of all the mayhem in the world gives me pause, too. However, I actively choose to focus on the things that I can control. That’s not always…
How to Take Control of Your Career and Remove Fear
May 22, 2019 • 73 min
I know you want to take control of your career and remove fear. With all the rapid changes in the workplace it’s natural to experience some fear. Will the company stay profitable? Will you be able to continue to progress and move up the organization? Are…
If You Change The Content You See, Your Life Will Change
May 15, 2019 • 12 min
If you change the content you see, your life will improve. You may not realize it, but you are ‘bathed’ in content every day. And the content you see affects you in many ways. If you expose yourself to a lot of negative content, you will experience…
So, You Suck at LinkedIn, There’s no Need to be Embarrassed
Apr 30, 2019 • 61 min
I thought LinkedIn was a place to post your resume if you were actively looking for a job. And that’s all I did, check in every 4 years or so and make a half-hearted attempt at keeping my resume updated. Usually I would hop on there when I started getting…
The Startling Power of ‘What If’
Apr 16, 2019 • 14 min
What if the things you have always believed aren’t true? What if it’s within your power to do and believe new things? This is your introduction to the startling power of ‘what if’. I know how strongly we hold our beliefs. I’m not necessarily talking about…
How to Get Out of an Abusive Relationship With Yourself
Apr 4, 2019 • 15 min
Many women struggle with what other people think of them. That mis-placed focus is very common even though you know how dangerous it can be to base your self-esteem on the way someone else chooses to treat you. However, the danger is magnified when abuse…
How to Live a Life Aligned With Who You Really Are with Tai Goodwin
Mar 11, 2019 • 63 min
In the last episode of the podcast, I talked about how to increase your self awareness. In this episode, Tai Goodwin visits with me to continue that discussion, but from a slightly different perspective. Tai teaches us how to live a life aligned with who…
Ten Tips to Help You Dramatically Improve Your Self-Awareness and Redefine Your Life
Mar 4, 2019 • 16 min
Why do you live where you live? Why do you love or hate the job you have? What motivates you to get up in the morning? What has led you to this point in your life? These are all questions that many women can’t answer. They don’t have the self-awareness to…
When You’re Ready to Stop Making Excuses and Rescue Your Dreams From the Shelf
Dec 19, 2018 • 9 min
Are you ready to stop making excuses? Many of us had big dreams early in life. I think young women are the best dreamers in the world! When we’re young it’s a time of limitless dreams and possibilities. Want to be a firefighter and a ballerina? Done. Want…
How to Overcome Limiting Beliefs to Grow Your Career
Oct 2, 2018 • 6 min
You can probably think of lots of reasons why your career may be stuck, or not moving as quickly as you’d like. The need to overcome limiting beliefs to grow your career probably isn’t one of them. Here are 4 steps to overcome limiting beliefs and grow…
How to Love Your Body: Accept Your Body Now
Aug 18, 2018 • 7 min
Believe it or not, how you feel about your body is an important ingredient in being confident. How confident can you feel if you’re walking around in a body you hate? Or if you don’t hate it, you spend a lot of time ‘talking smack’ about it. That works…
Are You Missing Some of Your Juicy Breakthroughs?
Jul 31, 2018 • 7 min
Breakthroughs are one of the joys I find in working with my coaching clients. They will tell me things that they’ve been working on, or new skills they have been trying out at work and how it worked really well for them. When they tell me their good…
Finding the Courage to Engage in Radical Self Care
Mar 6, 2018 • 57 min
I can’t wait for you to get into how yoga can lead to radical self care. Today’s guest is fiyah! When Rev. Shelley visited her first yoga studio, she crawled away. While she had been interested in yoga for a long time, the reality of being ‘othered’ in…
The Best Morning Routine to Avoid Feeling Like a Victim All Day
Feb 20, 2018 • 14 min
I am going to give you the best morning routine to avoid feeling like a victim. Lately I’ve been hearing from a number of clients, friends, family who are feeling like victims. They feel helpless in the face of what’s going on in the world, difficult…
Jean Haynes: Lessons from a Recovering Good Girl
Feb 13, 2018 • 34 min
So many women are stuck because they are asking permission to live fully. Is it ok if I shine? If I speak in a meeting? If I leave this bad relationship? We have this yearning for someone to tell us that we’re ok. IN TODAY’S SHOW WE DISCUSSED: What a…
10 Lessons from a 5-Year Old to Punch Fear in the Throat
Feb 6, 2018 • 15 min
Most children know how to punch fear in the throat. When we’re 5, we handle fear like a ninja. As we get older, we forget these skills and start letting fear push us around. Today we’re going to look at 10 lessons from a five-year-old so that you can…
The Trick to Turning Compassion and Kindness Inward
Jan 31, 2018 • 36 min
Lee McDonough stops by the podcast to drop some major clarity insights and heaps of encouragement. Her coaching philosophy fuses the principles of Acceptance & Commitment Therapy, Energy Leadership, and mindfulness in order to help her clients excel at…
Why Self Care is Powerful for Every Woman
Jan 24, 2018 • 13 min
Self care is powerful for every woman because it’s one of the most overlooked means of changing our lives. It’s also one of the most effective tools you can use to improve the lives of the people you love. No, I’m not sleepy, I said self care is something…
How To Know If a Life Coach is Right For You
Apr 20, 2017 • 6 min
So many people (especially celebrities) seem to be working with a life coach, but they don’t usually tell you why they made that decision. Don’t you wish they would? You probably need more information to decide if working with a coach is something you…
It’s Ok To Be Who You Are, Wisdom From Kim Coles
Nov 16, 2016 • 48 min
This episode is a wild ride that you will probably want to take twice. We start our conversation with the one thing Kim Coles would like to pour into women’s heads. In this episode we examine: * Permission to live out loud * Permission to live a good life…
Understanding How ‘I Can’t’ Damages You and How to Punch Self-Doubt
Nov 2, 2016 • 11 min
It’s a lot easier to say I can’t, than it is to say, I’m scared. But that’s precisely what we are really saying when we hide from success and ignore new opportunities. The goal of today’s show is to provide understanding of how ‘I Can’t’ damages you. If…
Changing Your Environment Can Boost Your Self-Esteem
Oct 19, 2016 • 7 min
When you think about improving your self-esteem, it’s natural that you would look inward for areas to improve. But, instead of looking inside for all the reasons you’re not more confident or successful, today let’s look at your environment. Changing your…
Finally Learn How to Reframe Negative Situations
Oct 5, 2016 • 11 min
A lot of people talk about reframing situations, but not a lot of people know how to do it. Today we will look at 7 situations and explore how to reframe negative situations. I have been blogging lately about self talk, to be clear, I am talking about the…
Top 3 Reasons Why Women Get Stuck
Jul 20, 2016 • 12 min
So many of us think that success is hard and failing is easy. Wrong! It’s a lot harder to be unsuccessful. Why? Because getting stuck and STAYING stuck requires you to adopt behaviors (turn them into habits) that take a lot of work to create and maintain.…
A Gigantic Lesson from a Crazy Little Protein Bar
Jun 22, 2016 • 6 min
Today is one of those days in which a gigantic lesson revealed itself when I was least expecting it. It’s funny how often that happens. In the midst of a tough day, full of grief and disappointment, I had a relevation that I just had to share. In This…
How Do You Know When It’s Time to Level Up?
Dec 17, 2015 • 40 min
In this episode you’ll discover: How an unsexy profession led me to helping others see the fabulous within themselves How you know when it’s time to make some sort of leap/change and what boredom has to do with it Why I am so afraid of being bored Steps…
The 5 Biggest Sleep Mistakes You Can Easily Avoid with Tracey Marks
Dec 8, 2015 • 40 min
How any sleep mistakes are there?! Today I’m chatting with a delightful woman who works predominantly offline but is building a fabulous online presence as well. Dr. Tracey Marks shares the biggest sleep mistakes you are making that you could easily…
Lessons on Showing Love from a Christmas Songbird
Dec 1, 2015 • 9 min
The holidays can be lonely for a lot of people. There, I said it. Now we can stop pretending that everybody MUST have the same holiday experience. That’s a holiday lie. A holiday truth is that you can have the holiday you want, IF you’re willing to show…
How to Make All The Right Connections: Sandi Eveleth
Nov 24, 2015 • 50 min
Have you ever wondered how some women make all the right connections? Have you ever wanted to get better at making connections with people and stop simply exchanging business cards that you lose or forget about while they gather dust in the drawer? I’m…
Knowing is Good, but Doing is Always Better
Aug 2, 2015 • 9 min
There is Knowing. And then there is Doing. Why do those two things have to be so far apart?! I don’t know the answer to that, but I do know that you can have all the knowledge in the world but the person with limited knowledge who actually DOES stuff will…
Why Holding Onto Past Mistakes Makes You Fat
Apr 29, 2015 • 11 min
Holding onto past mistakes makes you fat. Huh? I’m always looking for a new reason why I’m ‘fluffy’, so if you’re like me the opening of this podcast just made your day. Hang on, and grab your big girl panties, because I’m probably not headed where you…
There Are No Tents at Audacity Camp: Coach Jennie
Apr 15, 2015 • 34 min
Many of us have yearnings to be more than normal, to live big and have a big impact. However, there are so few of us who are willing to take action on our stories. At some point if you want to make a bigger impact on the world based on who you are and…
How to Tell if You’re a Martyr, a Missionary, or Meaningless
Mar 31, 2015 • 43 min
Nicole Dean’s theory is that we have 3 areas of our lives and if we get out of balance and don’t take care of all three of them, we will have issues and become a martyr, a missionary, or meaningless. My guest on this podcast, Nicole Dean, is launching the…
You Get to Matter in Your Life with Kim Doyal
Mar 25, 2015 • 33 min
Your story can change people’s lives, but you have to tell it. It’s not easy to write a book, I imagine it’s similar to being pregnant. Both endeavors take time, you agonize over doing things the right way, and the final result is painful before there is…
Intention is Not Enough with Kim Doyal
Mar 18, 2015 • 39 min
In this episode of the podcast, Kim Doyal and I discuss: How you can get confident enough to start being your authentic self What will happen when you really show up How she called me on my stuff, so that I would show up more How to begin to show up Why…
Don’t Let Fear Keep You From Success: The Tale of Francis the Fearful Frog
Mar 11, 2015 • 7 min
Please don’t let fear keep you from success. Today we will look at Francis the Fearful Frog. Her story is a cautionary tale about letting fear keep you from being successful. On the podcast we’ve talked quite a bit about fear. We’ve talked about punching…
Why You Should Fly Your Freak Flag Proudly
Mar 3, 2015 • 11 min
I was going to title this podcast, why your goal should be fiery panties, but I changed it to encourage you to fly your freak flag proudly. What does acknowledging your freak status give you? Freedom! Love! Joy! Lower blood pressure. And those are just…
Want to Know Why Your Lack of Boundaries is Killing You?
Nov 25, 2014 • 12 min
IN TODAY’S PODCAST YOU WILL LEARN: Listen to find out what Captain Jean-Luc Picard from Star Trek the Next Generation has to do with setting personal boundaries. You can establish healthy personal boundaries with these tips: Communicate openly about what…
Clarity is the Secret Ingredient for Success
Oct 23, 2014 • 49 min
Many of us search high and low for happiness and success. Today’s guest believes that clarity is the secret ingredient for career success and she makes a compelling case. In this episode of podcast I welcome Tamala Huntley from TamalaHuntley.com. Tamala…
Stop Trying to Be Perfect and Build Your Perfectly Imperfect Life
Oct 15, 2014 • 11 min
Stop trying to be perfect so you can build your perfectly imperfect life. I am not advocating that we aim to be mediocre (you know me better than that), but I want us to stop setting ourselves up for failure. Aiming for perfection can lead you to succeed…
The Ultimate Guide to Overcoming Fear of Failure
Oct 8, 2014 • 13 min
In a previous post, I shared how failure can lead to some of the biggest successes, but what if you never try? If you don’t try, your chances of success are 0%. We can find numerous stories of people throughout history who have failed but refused to give…
Learn How to Overcome Low Self-Esteem
Oct 1, 2014 • 10 min
How can we overcome low self esteem? There are lots of different reasons why our self esteem may suffer. But if we don’t address these issues, low self esteem can damage your confidence and lead to larger issues like anxiety, social withdrawal,…
The Price of Not Being Authentic
Sep 24, 2014 • 10 min
What is the price of not being authentic? Have there been times in your life when you felt you weren’t acting like your true self? Maybe you were unsure of a new situation or you lacked the confidence to reveal who you truly are. When I challenged a…
7 Benefits of Spending Time Alone
Sep 17, 2014 • 10 min
Today on the podcast, I offer 7 benefits of spending time alone. Sometimes we get too caught up in being lonely and choose to spend time with the wrong people. A couple weeks ago I published an affirmation about avoiding toxic people so that you can feel…
How To Be More Confident at Work This Week
Sep 9, 2014 • 9 min
Let’s take a look at how to be more confident at work this week. Feeling confident and demonstrating confidence are two different things. You want to make sure that you are showing the world how confident you are, because confidence is an important…
Reasons You Still Aren’t Where You Want To Be in Life
Aug 14, 2014 • 24 min
As a quick recap, here are the first 5 reasons you aren’t where you want to be that I talked about in last week’s show: You don’t know what you want You don’t have a plan to get from here to there You lack resources The people around you don’t support you…
10 Reasons You Are Not Where You Want To Be
Aug 6, 2014 • 31 min
I want to interrupt my ongoing discussion about toxic people and give you hope and provide some top reasons you aren’t where you want to be. Would it excite you to know there are just 10 reasons you are not where you want to be? YET! Based on emails and…
Declare Your Independence From Everything That Blocks You
Jul 4, 2014 • 9 min
It’s time! Today, declare your independence from everything that hinders you from being fabulous. It will really be a day worth celebrating when we declare our independence from everything that no longer serves us. Imagine how good it will feel and how…
How to Find Your Lane so You Can Get In It
Jun 11, 2014 • 13 min
You want to find your lane (your purpose) so that you can get in your lane and stay there, right? I’ve been thinking a lot over the last few weeks about intention, focus, purpose, fighting fear, etc. Basically I have been thinking about all the things…
We Should Celebrate Thanksgiving All Year
Apr 9, 2014 • 12 min
There is always, always, always something to be thankful for. Why should we only focus on all that we have to be thankful for in November, during traditional Thanksgiving celebrations? I am absolutely all about Thanksgiving in April this year! That’s…
How an Amazing Red Bra Will Change Your Life
Feb 3, 2014 • 9 min
An amazing red bra will change your life. I apologize, I have been holding out on you. Can we talk?! We have already talked about the fact that we can be our own best cheerleader by being careful about what we say to ourselves and recognizing all our…
Comparison is the Thief of Joy
Jan 21, 2014 • 7 min
In this episode of the podcast I look at the insidious influence of comparison. You can be honest, do you sometimes find yourself comparing your life to that of others? If you do, I am betting that does not make you feel all warm and fuzzy, and it…
Butterflies Are Beautiful But Don’t Be One
Jan 13, 2014 • 10 min
My grandmother used to call me Madame Butterfly and I loved it. My 7-year old mind understood that butterflies were pretty and could fly, and that was all I needed to know. Let’s fast forward—later in life, I learned she called me that because she just…
Getting Real: The Day I Didn’t Have it In Me
Nov 18, 2013 • 10 min
There came a time when I didn’t have it in me. Didn’t have what in me? The ability to continue with life as normal when it was anything but. I was pretty quiet on social media and here at my site last week because we were dealing with a family tragedy.…
You Are Not Who Others Say You Are
Nov 5, 2013 • 14 min
You are not who others say you are. That’s good news, right? While last week I focused on not criticizing yourself, today a recent event has inspired me to focus on not allowing others to criticize you either. In fact, I will take it a step further and…
5 Steps to Stop Criticizing Yourself
Oct 29, 2013 • 7 min
Here are 5 steps to stop criticizing yourself. We’ve all heard her — that mean, inner voice that speaks up whenever we’ve made a mistake or something didn’t turn out as we planned it. Sometimes, your critical inner voice (I call her the Confidence…
Mick Jagger Was Wrong, You Can Get Satisfaction
Oct 22, 2013 • 8 min
If you’re at a point where you keep asking yourself, “How did I get here?,” it may be time for you to figure out ways to change the direction of your life. Admitting you are dissatisfied with your life may not be easy, but it’s a necessary first step that…
Fight Cancer Like a Girl, Punch Cancer in the Throat
Oct 15, 2013 • 34 min
For some of life’s biggest battles, we have to fight like a girl. Kelly is many things besides being a breast cancer survivor. She’s a daughter, a mother, a friend, a student, etc. A divorced mother of 2 girls, her first response to her diagnosis was…
Fear. Throat. Punch. Silence your Inner Critic.
Oct 8, 2013 • 9 min
Fear. Throat. Punch. A couple weeks ago I introduced my ‘Punch Fear in the Throat’ concept. Have you recovered yet? Good, because I want to poke that bear some more this week. First, let me make it clear that I AM encouraging world-wide punching of FEAR…
Why Skipping Transition Steps Tastes Nasty
Oct 3, 2013 • 8 min
Transitions usually follow 6 steps. If you attempt to skip any of those steps you will be frustrated and you will delay the point when you will actually reach your goal. The steps of transformation will not be mocked—you must walk through them all to make…
What Allegrativity Is And Why You Should Care
Sep 27, 2013 • 8 min
Don’t look in the dictionary for the definition of Allegrativity. You won’t find it there. In this episode of the podcast, Allegra Sinclair defines Allegrativity and explains why she thought the term was necessary. She also shares her passion for helping…