Relationship Alive!

Relationship Alive!

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Neil Sattin interviews relationship experts such as John Gottman, Harville Hendrix, Sue Johnson, Stan Tatkin, Katherine Woodward Thomas, Diana Richardson, Terry Real and Wendy Maltz to dig deep into what it takes to keep a relationship alive.


225: Overcoming Shame and Getting Real about Relationships
May 15 • 46 min
One of the biggest blocks to lasting intimacy is shame. Shame keeps us from being honest with ourselves, and our partners. And from truly owning what’s real for us - what we actually want. In today’s episode we’re going to cover some of the many ways that…
224: What Romance Novels Teach Us about Real-Life Love and Desire - with Mara Wells
Apr 25 • 65 min
Life doesn’t always lead to Happily Ever After (or Happily For Now) - like a romance novel. However, romance novels tap into something deep in our heart and psyche - keeping us turning the pages to see just how it’s all going to unfold. You can use the…
223: How to Boost Your Oxytocin for a Sense of Wellbeing - Even If You’re Solo - with Jessica Zager
Apr 9 • 62 min
Sometimes you just need simple strategies to give yourself a boost. In today’s episode, we’re going to cover ways that you can increase your sense of wellbeing and connectedness - by harnessing your own biochemistry to foster oxytocin production. This can…
222: Hints to Improve Digital Intimacy and Stay Sane (and Connected) during a Lockdown
Mar 19 • 27 min
Sometimes all it takes is a simple adjustment to create a much deeper connection with another person. Today I’ll offer you some obvious-but-not-so-obvious ways to foster intimacy - whether you’re cooped up with another, or connecting digitally. In this…
221: Love in the Time of Coronavirus - COVID19 and Your Relationships
Mar 13 • 45 min
How is coronavirus (COVID-19) impacting you? What are the implications of “social distancing” on your relationship - especially if you’re cooped up together for weeks at a time? Or if you’re single, how can you still enjoy dating while staying safe? In…
220: Reclaiming (and Enjoying) Your Sexual Self - Taking Sexy Back with Alexandra Solomon
Mar 4 • 66 min
What turns you on, and what turns you off? How do you get past the messages about sex handed to you by others - to discover your own personal sexuality? How do you own your deepest desires - and communicate them to your partner? Today, we’re having a…
219: Your Questions Answered - More on Judgment and Grieving
Feb 22 • 46 min
It can be easy to avoid being judgmental with people that aren’t close to you, but what do you do when you feel yourself getting critical or testing the people with whom you’re the most vulnerable? How do you shift from judging back to connection? How do…
218: Sacred Instructions - Indigenous Wisdom for Your Relationship - with Sherri Mitchell
Feb 13 • 72 min
How do we heal ourselves, our relationships, and the world we live in - all at once? How has our society created rifts within us (and between us) that get in the way of fulfilling relationships? With indigenous wisdom that has been handed down over…
217: How to Heal after a Breakup
Feb 7 • 51 min
How do you heal after a breakup or divorce? Whether you’re going through a breakup now, have been through a breakup and still have some cleanup work to do, or…well…maybe you will be going through a breakup at some point in the future…this episode is for…
216: Steering Clear of Judging Yourself and Others
Jan 23 • 42 min
Do you judge others or yourself harshly? How do you get past the judgment to a place where you can see a situation clearly, set appropriate boundaries, and change things for the better? In this week’s episode, we’re going to cover what to do when your…
215: Your Erotic Blueprint - The Work of Jaiya - with Ian Ferguson
Jan 15 • 90 min
What turns you on - and what turns you off? Once you know your erotic blueprint type, it’s so much easier to have the kind of intimacy that you most deeply desire. And when you hit a snag, it could be that you and your partner haven’t learned each other’s…
214: Do Breakups Have To Be Messy?
Dec 21, 2019 • 44 min
While some kind of issue is going to be at the heart of every breakup, how do you get past the issues and create a breakup that’s kind, generous, and respectful? How do you find compassion and understanding within the pain and grief? When it comes to…
213: How to Handle an Aching Heart - with Guy Finley
Dec 13, 2019 • 90 min
What do you do when you’re suffering? How do you escape patterns of blaming in your relationship, and find the place within you that can turn painful moments into transformation? And how do you know when you’ve experienced too much pain - when it’s time…
212: Something Deeply Personal - with Neil Sattin
Dec 7, 2019 • 49 min
For quite awhile now I’ve been mentioning that there have been some challenges and changes going on in my life. This week, I’m going to share some of that with you. I’ve waited awhile for the timing to be right, so please take a moment and join me for a…
211: Sometimes You Just Have to Stop - with Neil Sattin
Nov 22, 2019 • 43 min
With all the focus on ways to improve your relationship, growth and change can become something of an obsession. However, sometimes all the effort can create even more problems. So…it’s helpful to know when it’s time to just…stop. There are particular…
210: How to Escape the Drama Triangle - with Stephen Karpman
Nov 14, 2019 • 86 min
Ever feel like there’s a little too much drama in your life? Well, if that’s the case, then you probably have been caught in the Drama Triangle. If you’ve never heard of the Drama Triangle then be prepared - you’re going to start seeing it EVERYWHERE.…
209: How to Communicate about Your Emotions - with Neil Sattin
Nov 7, 2019 • 35 min
How do you communicate about your feelings in the most effective way possible? While we’re at it, how do you even *feel* your feelings so that they can move through you - instead of getting stuck or repressed? And, as you learn how to communicate about…
208: Sex and Porn Addiction - Myths and Reality - with Paula Hall
Oct 25, 2019 • 65 min
How do you know if you, or someone you love, is addicted to sex, or porn? What can you do about it? And along with healing patterns of addiction, what is most helpful for the partners of people with addiction? Our guest is Paula Hall, one of the world’s…
207: Getting Truthful about the Ways You Hold Back - with Neil Sattin
Oct 18, 2019 • 33 min
Are you being true to who you are? What are the ways that you’re holding back in your relationship, or compromising yourself? Even if you’re single, there might be ways that you’re not quite being fully yourself! Of course, sometimes being “you” is risky…
206: How to Benefit from Conflict - with Viola Neufeld
Oct 9, 2019 • 57 min
Conflict is often viewed as a bad thing. It’s uncomfortable. It makes us feel bad, and often makes others feel bad too. What if you’re missing out on an opportunity? This is the moment where something new can form within that relationship. And within you.…
205: [Updated] Important Self-Care Basics with Neil Sattin
Sep 14, 2019 • 35 min
It’s easy to talk about “Self Care” - to pay lip service to it - but what does it really mean to take care of yourself? In today’s episode, we’re going to get back to basics to ensure that you’re actually nourishing the most important person in your world…
204: Communication that Grows Your Relationship - with Ellyn Bader and Peter Pearson
Sep 4, 2019 • 46 min
There are ways to communicate that keep you stuck, or that make things worse - and there are ways to communicate that foster the healthy development of your relationship. So how do you avoid the pitfalls, and reconnect with each other in spite of your…
203: How to Stop Controlling Each Other (and Why) - with Neil Sattin
Aug 28, 2019 • 42 min
In what ways are you being controlled by your partner? In what ways are you controlling them? How does it help you? And how does it hurt you? In today’s episode, we’re going to dive deep on this issue of control, and see if we just can’t dismantle the…
202: Grounded Spirituality for Deeper Presence and Connection - with Jeff Brown
Aug 20, 2019 • 65 min
Is it possible to be a spiritual being in a human body? Transcendent, yet grounded? Why do so many “spiritual leaders” tell us to leave our feelings behind? Can you be truly connected to another person - including on the spiritual level? To get to the…
201: Can People Really Change? - with Neil Sattin
Aug 9, 2019 • 32 min
Can people really change? And how do you know if someone *will* change? It’s a good question, especially if you’re dealing with some significant challenges in your relationship. You might be wondering about your partner - or you might be wondering about…
200: Pleasure Activism - Change that Nourishes You - with adrienne maree brown
Jul 24, 2019 • 62 min
When looking to change things in your world, how do you let pleasure be the force that guides you? How do you fulfill desire while you fight for change? How do you take care of yourself while you transform? Today we’re speaking with author, activist, and…
199: What To Do When Things Get Challenging
Jul 18, 2019 • 39 min
When things get challenging in your relationship, what’s the best way to ensure that you and your partner can make it through? How do you avoid the losing strategies that come naturally in a moment of crisis - and, instead, choose ways of dealing that are…
198: Healing Your Earliest Attachment Wounds - with Peter Levine
Jul 10, 2019 • 59 min
How would you know if there were experiences from the earliest moments of your life affecting you here and now? And if you are indeed being impacted by the distant past - what can you do to heal those early traumas so that you’re more free and connected…
197: Sexy Consent - Deeper Intimacy with Neil Sattin
Jul 3, 2019 • 25 min
Do you want one surefire way to know if the way you’re interacting with your partner is something that they’re into? Get their consent! Is there a place for getting consent even in a long-term relationship where you’re pretty sure you know what your…
196: Harnessing the Transformative Power of Your Core Emotions - The Change Triangle with Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Jun 25, 2019 • 78 min
Beneath anxiety, depression, guilt, and shame, are core emotions that are hardwired into our circuitry. When you’re able to tap into the core emotions - and move through them - you’ll feel a new sense of freedom and empowerment. Our guest today is Hilary…
195: How to Turn a Negative View of Your Partner into Something Positive
Jun 4, 2019 • 35 min
As much as we don’t like to admit it, we all hold a vivid image in our minds of our partner at their worst. And the bad news is, your partner also holds a core negative image - of you! Thankfully, we also have a core *positive* image - which is part of…
194: Heart vs. Head: Mismatched Processing Styles with Sue Johnson
May 23, 2019 • 28 min
What do you do if you want to have conversations about emotions with your partner, and all they want to do is talk about how they think about things? Or vice versa? In today’s episode, we chat with Sue Johnson for a few minutes to get her take. Sue…
193: How Mindfulness Can Ignite Passion - Buddha’s Bedroom with Cheryl Fraser
May 15, 2019 • 67 min
Remember that spark you had with your partner when you first met? Well, how do you get that back after you’ve settled into a routine of work, home, dinner, dishes, mouthguard, sleep? Today’s guest is Dr. Cheryl Fraser. Cheryl combines her knowledge of how…
192: When Love Vanishes or Affairs Happen - What To Do? - Your Questions Answered
May 9, 2019 • 48 min
What do you do if your partner tells you that they don’t love you anymore - or, maybe, that they think they never actually loved you? What are your next steps if your partner had an affair? These are all varying degrees of “leaning out” of your…
191: How It All Fits Together with Keith Witt
May 1, 2019 • 117 min
With so many different potential approaches to helping your relationship, how do you choose the one that’s right for you? The Gottmans, Sue Johnson, Esther Perel, David Schnarch, Stan Tatkin, Ellyn Bader & Peter Pearson, Terry Real - all describe…
190: How to Truly Be Yourself in Your Relationship
Apr 23, 2019 • 50 min
Are you worried that your partner might not like you for who you truly are? And if you notice that you’ve been not entirely “you” in your relationship - how do you shift gears to create more authenticity? Sometimes we discover something new about…
189: From Disconnection and Loneliness to Aliveness and Intimacy - AEDP for Couples with David Mars
Apr 16, 2019 • 78 min
How do you actually heal old attachment wounds in partnership - so you can create passionate, secure attachment with your partner? Our guest today is Dr. David Mars, the creator of AEDP for Couples, and he is here to teach you how to connect with your…
188: Don’t Be A Victim of Attachment Theory
Apr 10, 2019 • 40 min
We’re all talking about attachment style now, and how it relates to the way that we show up in relationship. It can be enlightening to learn about your attachment style, and to see how it plays out in your relationship. And…to see your partner’s…
187: More Love Less Conflict - Communication and Mindset Secrets with Jonathan Robinson
Apr 2, 2019 • 71 min
Communication can feel very complex - but today we’re going to show you some very specific and practical exercises you can do with your partner that will improve your communication, mindset, and relationship satisfaction. This week, our guest is Jonathan…
186: Getting to the Truth within You
Mar 27, 2019 • 32 min
How do you figure out your truth? In a loud world full of distraction, chaos, and uncertainty, there’s a simple way to get to the truth within you - that you can do in a mere 15 minutes (or less). In today’s episode, Neil Sattin will go on the journey…
185: 20 Minutes a Week to Relationship Bliss - with Alicia Muñoz
Mar 19, 2019 • 77 min
What if you had a way to improve your relationship in just 20 minutes per week? Working on your relationship doesn’t have to be heavy and time-intensive. This week, our guest is Alicia Muñoz. Alicia is the author of the new book No More Fighting: The…
184: Forget the Love Languages - Let’s Talk about the Four Fear Languages
Mar 13, 2019 • 47 min
The Five Love Languages only tell part of the story. It’s just as important for you to understand the “Four Fear Languages” Just like the Love Languages, the Four Fear Languages are universal - we all share them, but experience them in different ways. In…
183: Real-Life Skills for Getting the Love You Want - with Helen LaKelly Hunt and Harville Hendrix
Mar 5, 2019 • 72 min
What if there were a guide written to help you not only communicate better with your partner, and experience love more deeply - but that would also heal the triggers that keep creating conflict between you and your partner? As it turns out - that guide…
182: Is Variety a Spice or a Vice?
Feb 27, 2019 • 38 min
We all share a need for variety in our lives. Without it, our lives can be tedious and boring. But sometimes, our quest for adventure and novelty can stop feeding us, and instead can actually become detrimental to our well-being. How do you know if you…
181: Depression? What You Can Do with Michael Yapko
Feb 18, 2019 • 86 min
Is depression affecting you or someone you love? What do we know about the best ways to overcome depression? And how can we mitigate the ways that it impacts our relationships? This week, our guest is Michael D. Yapko, Ph.D., clinical psychologist,…
180: Are You Truly Committed?
Feb 12, 2019 • 52 min
Are you truly committed to your relationship, or is it possible that you’re only partly committed? Or, perhaps you know that you have a fear of commitment - but you’re not sure why? In this week’s episode we’re going to tackle the ways that your…
179: Eight Dates: Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love with Julie and John Gottman
Feb 5, 2019 • 61 min
What if you could have eight powerful dates that could totally transform the most important aspects of your relationship with your partner? Today’s conversation will help jump-start your curiosity and lead you into deep connection with your partner. This…
178: The New Monogamy: From Assumptions to Integrity with Tammy Nelson
Jan 28, 2019 • 54 min
What does monogamy mean to you and your partner? Sometimes a couple will have a different definition of what monogamy is and that miscommunication can lead to problems in your relationship and today we’re talking about that and a whole lot more. This…
177: How To Get Past Your Resentment
Jan 21, 2019 • 39 min
How is resentment affecting your relationship? Are you holding onto something from the past, or is there something that occurs again and again in your relationship that you just can’t get over? In this episode, we’re going to talk about how to heal the…
176: Healing Trauma and Attachment Injuries through Intimacy: AEDP with Diana Fosha
Jan 13, 2019 • 71 min
Have you ever felt stuck, within yourself or within your relationship? Have you felt the effects of depression or anxiety? Our guest is Diana Fosha, PhD, the developer of AEDP, a healing-based, transformation-oriented model of psychotherapeutic treatment.…
175: What’s Keeping You From Changing?
Jan 6, 2019 • 24 min
Did you make any New Year’s resolutions? Studies have shown that around 80% of New Year’s resolutions fail by February. What is stopping us from making those changes and why do we hold ourselves back from change? What do you do if your partner isn’t on…
174: She Comes First: More Orgasms For Women with Ian Kerner
Jan 1, 2019 • 50 min
What are some of the keys to helping a woman experience pleasure, and orgasms? This week, our guest is Ian Kerner, New York Times bestselling author of She Comes First: The Thinking Man’s Guide to Pleasuring a Woman. Ian is a licensed psychotherapist who…
173: A Gift For You
Dec 25, 2018 • 12 min
What are some key things you can do to start off the new year in a way the improves your relationships? How can you take action without feeling overwhelmed by all of the things you can work on and improve? To thank you for joining me on this journey to…
172: The Power of The Hold Me Tight Conversation with Sue Johnson
Dec 17, 2018 • 92 min
How can what we know about attachment & the power of our emotions, create deeper intimacy & resolve conflicts with your partner? In today’s episode you’re going to learn about a kind of conversation that you can have with your partner that can change…
171: Does your need to feel special keep you from connecting?
Dec 10, 2018 • 27 min
We all want to be special, right? Being special, or important, the need to feel significant, is universal. But is it possible that your need to be special is getting in the way of your ability to connect, to give and receive love? Or does your partner…
170: Embodying Well-Being and the Lover Within: Zapchen - with Julie Henderson
Dec 3, 2018 • 90 min
How can you bring a new level of presence to your relationship? And what if this new level of presence could also help you find a sense of well-being in any moment? This week, our guest is Julie Henderson, author of The Lover Within and Embodying…
169: Choose Intimacy Over Fear – Core Relationship Principles #4 – with Chloe Urban and Neil Sattin
Nov 27, 2018 • 55 min
How do you prevent fear from getting in the way of your connection? Sometimes your fears are obvious - other times they’re more subtle - but no matter what they can potentially drive a wedge between you and your partner. In the fourth episode of our “Core…
168: Practical Skills for Building Your Emotional Intelligence with Jordan Harbinger
Nov 20, 2018 • 59 min
How does your emotional intelligence help you develop a relationship with someone? Is your emotional intelligence something you can improve? This week, our guest is Jordan Harbinger. Often referred to as “The Larry King of podcasting,” Jordan is a Wall…
167: How to Keep Assumptions from Eroding Your Relationship
Nov 13, 2018 • 38 min
Have you ever found yourself making assumptions about how your partner will take care of you or show up for you? Do you assume they’ll do certain even though they haven’t actually agreed to do that? Have you ever felt resentful toward your partner for not…
166: Are You Addicted to Love and Relationships? - with Sherry Gaba
Nov 6, 2018 • 57 min
Have you ever felt compelled to jump into new a relationship too quickly? Is it possible that you’re addicted to love and relationships? How would you know? This week, our guest is Sherry Gaba, best-selling author of The Marriage and Relationship Junkie.…
165: Should You Start Over with Someone New?
Oct 31, 2018 • 32 min
When is it time to start over with someone new? Isn’t your next relationship going to be better, simply because you’ve learned what to look for in a new partner? If you’re considering ending your current relationship, how do you know you’re making the…
164: How Love Can Dissolve Conflict - Relationship Magic with Guy Finley
Oct 25, 2018 • 77 min
They say that love can conquer all - but how do you really tap into “the power of love” to resolve conflicts in your relationship? On top of that, how do you learn what you need to learn so that you don’t keep repeating the same fights over and over again…
163: A Surprising Way to Create More Generosity in Your Relationship - with Neil Sattin
Oct 18, 2018 • 18 min
One of the hallmarks of a healthy relationship is the level of generosity that’s taking place in it. Today we’re going to uncover one of the biggest obstacles to fostering generosity in your relationships - and…it’s probably not what you think! After…
162: Pleasure, Touch, and The Wheel of Consent - with Betty Martin
Oct 12, 2018 • 77 min
Would you like to open up your ability to experience pleasure? And to not only increase your capacity for pleasure, but to also ensure that everything you do is consensual? This week, Betty Martin, the creator of the Wheel of Consent, explains the four…
161: A Crucial Key for Building Trust in Your Relationship
Oct 5, 2018 • 13 min
How do you build trust in your relationship? There’s a crucial element to creating trust, and it has nothing to do with your partner. It has everything to do with you! Most importantly, there are some ways that you might actually be undermining the trust…
160: The Four Noble Truths of Love and Relationship - with Susan Piver
Sep 26, 2018 • 58 min
How do you apply ancient Buddhist wisdom to your relationship to help you connect with your partner? One day, as Susan Piver was experiencing what felt like an unsolvable problem in her relationship, she heard a voice say “Begin at the beginning - the…
159: What Is a Realistic Expectation for Change in Your Relationship?
Sep 21, 2018 • 14 min
What’s realistic to expect in terms of things improving between you and your partner? When you’re trying to change something in yourself? Or when you’re hoping your partner will change? Once you’ve identified a place where you want things to be different,…
158: Loving Completely - Integrating Science, Heart, and Spirit - with Keith Witt
Sep 12, 2018 • 74 min
Do you ever feel like there’s a barrier between what you know about how to have a good relationship, and what you actually do? How do you take what we know about the science of relationships, combine it with the wisdom of our hearts and our quest for…
157: Celebrating and Taking Stock
Sep 5, 2018 • 29 min
Do you ever feel like you’ll never quite reach your ideal in your relationship? How do you take stock of how things are going in a way that helps you not only improve things, but also identify what your strengths are? On today’s episode, you’ll learn a…
156: Rethinking Narcissism and Its Impact on Your Relationship - with Craig Malkin
Aug 29, 2018 • 78 min
Do you suspect that you someone you love might be a narcissist? Or have you been told that you might be a narcissist? Today we’re talking to Dr. Craig Malkin, author of Rethinking Narcissism: The Secret to Recognizing and Coping with Narcissists. Our…
155: How to Communicate about Something You’ve Been Avoiding
Aug 22, 2018 • 51 min
You know those things in your relationship that you don’t talk about? Over time, they will drain the energy, passion, and vitality from your connection. In today’s episode, I’ll walk you through the process of how (and why) to communicate about the things…
154: What’s Different and What’s Universal - Gay Male Relationships - with Rick Miller
Aug 14, 2018 • 67 min
If you’re in a same-sex relationship, do the rules change? Or are there universal principles of relationship that foster intimacy and passion no matter what kind of relationship you’re in? Today’s guest is Rick Miller, author of Mindfulness Tools for Gay…
153: Turn Blame into Something Positive - with Neil Sattin
Aug 8, 2018 • 48 min
Are you someone who blames yourself when things go wrong? Or do you tend to blame other people? Even though we might think of blame as a negative thing, in today’s episode I’m going to show you how to use your blame (whether it’s self-directed or pointed…
152: Get Unstuck and onto the Same Team - Relationship Development with Ellyn Bader and Peter Pearson
Jul 31, 2018 • 59 min
As your relationship changes, are things getting better and better? Or have you gotten stuck along the way? If you get stuck - how do you get unstuck? And no matter what happens, how do you foster a sense of being on the “same team” with your partner? Our…
151: How to Stop Coping and Start Growing
Jul 25, 2018 • 62 min
You know all those ways that you’ve learned to cope over the years? The little things that you do that distract you from feeling uncomfortable, or bored, or stressed? While some coping strategies are positive for you, others rob you of the chance to…
150: Attachment Styles and Relationship Repair - with Stan Tatkin
Jul 19, 2018 • 78 min
What’s the best way to overcome conflict in your relationship? How does it change based on your attachment style? And can you use what we know about our biology, and our memory, to avoid the point of no return? Today we have a return visit from Stan…
149: Getting Back Together with an Ex - Should You? How to do it right.
Jul 11, 2018 • 36 min
Should you get back together with your ex? How do you know if it’s a good idea? And, once you’ve decided that it’s a good idea, how do you get back together with the best chance of succeeding? Let’s face it - things didn’t work out the first time around.…
148: How to Strengthen the Safety and Resilience of Your Relationship - with Gabrielli LaChiara
Jul 4, 2018 • 78 min
What are some practical ways to build safety in your relationship? To get back to love when you’re in conflict? And to create such a solid background of safety and positive energy in your relationship that you can withstand the inevitable bumps along the…
147: A Simple, Radical Way to Improve Your Ability to Connect
Jun 28, 2018 • 18 min
What’s stopping you from having the kind of connection with others that you want? Whether you’re in a relationship and feeling stuck with your partner, or single and wondering how to connect with someone amazing - today’s episode is for you. You’re going…
146: How and Why to Have a Good Divorce - with Constance Ahrons
Jun 19, 2018 • 53 min
What’s the recipe for a successful divorce? And if you have children, how do you ensure that they are also not traumatized by the process? In this week’s episode, our guest is Dr. Constance Ahrons, one of the world’s leading experts in how to navigate…
145: Core Relationship Principles #3 - Fostering Curiosity and Dismantling Limiting Stories - with Chloe Urban and Neil Sattin
Jun 13, 2018 • 35 min
How do you stay curious in your relationship? And how do you get rid of the stories that you tell yourself, about your partner (or about yourself) - that are holding you back? Chloe Urban and I show you exactly how to know when it’s time to bring your…
144: Extreme Self Care for a Healthy Relationship - with Cheryl Richardson
Jun 6, 2018 • 52 min
Have you ever felt like everyone else’s needs come first? In today’s episode, we cover the art of Extreme Self Care - to learn how to make boundaries and take better care of yourself. Our guest is Cheryl Richardson, professional coach and New York Times…
143: Mismatched Sex Drive? What To Do.
May 29, 2018 • 41 min
What do you do if you want to have sex more than your partner? Or if your partner wants to have sex more than you do? Differences in sexual desire can create so many problems in a relationship, and in today’s episode we tackle this topic head-on. There’s…
142: Loving Bravely - How Self Discovery Can Transform Your Relationship - with Alexandra Solomon
May 18, 2018 • 76 min
What power do you have to change your relationship for the better by working on yourself? If things aren’t going so well, how do you know if you’ve done “all you can do”? Relationships require a balance of learning the skills of relating to others AND…
141: Is Your Relationship Healthy? - with Neil Sattin
May 11, 2018 • 24 min
How do you know if your relationship is healthy? Does having problems mean that your relationship isn’t healthy? And how do you promote the health of your relationship? In this week’s episode, Neil Sattin answers these questions so that you can quickly…
140: Mastering the Art of Inner Transformation - Internal Family Systems with Dick Schwartz
May 3, 2018 • 80 min
How do you do the work of true inner transformation? If there are parts of you that are getting in the way - then you’re going to have a tough time realizing your full potential. However, you have everything you need inside of you! Today’s guest is Dick…
139: Change Your Pattern - How to BE an Invitation
Apr 25, 2018 • 22 min
How do you invite someone into your world, your truth, your desires? When you have a complaint, how do you invite someone to the table about it in a way where they WANT to respond and help make things right? And, most importantly, how do you invite…
138: How Orgasms are Hurting Your Relationship - with Marnia Robinson - from the Archives
Apr 18, 2018 • 66 min
Are your orgasms getting in the way of your close connection with your partner? Conventional wisdom says that more orgasms = better - but the truth might actually be quite the opposite. The good news is that there are ways that you can have sex with your…
137: Calling in The One - No Matter Your Status - with Katherine Woodward Thomas
Apr 11, 2018 • 69 min
How do you align with your vision for love and call it into your life? What’s holding you back from experiencing what you want? Whether you’re single and looking, or in a relationship and wondering what’s keeping you from making it even better, today’s…
136: An Important Action Step for Your Relationship - with Neil Sattin
Apr 4, 2018 • 29 min
What’s one of the most important factors in determining the success of your relationship? I’ll give you a hint: it’s something to do with how you and your partner get your needs met. The good news is - there’s actually a lot of power in your hands, if…
135: Improve Your Communication Skills for Deeper Understanding - with Deborah Tannen
Mar 27, 2018 • 68 min
How does the way that you communicate affect your ability to connect? Can you change your communication style to become more effective? We don’t all use language the same way - today, we see exactly how those differences play out in our interactions with…
134: Snooping, Secrets, and Rebuilding Trust - What to Do - with Neil Sattin
Mar 20, 2018 • 50 min
Is it ever a good idea to snoop? Do you suspect that your partner is keeping secrets from you? Or are you being “snooped upon” and wondering what to do about it? How do you rebuild trust? In today’s episode, we’re going to dive deep on the topic of…
133: Change Your Thoughts, Change Your Life - Cognitive Distortions with Dr. David Burns
Mar 14, 2018 • 92 min
The way that you think creates the way you feel. If you have great thoughts then no problem, but if your thoughts are a little distorted, then…look out! In today’s conversation we are going to show you how to identify the kinds of thoughts that lead to…
132: Core Relationship Principles #2 - Finding Play, Humor, Fun, and Lightness - with Chloe Urban and Neil Sattin
Mar 6, 2018 • 52 min
How do you bring playfulness, laughs, and lightness into your relationship? And why is it so important? This is the second episode of our “Core Relationship Principles” series. Chloe Urban and Neil Sattin cover exactly why it’s so important to foster the…
131: How Love is Evolving You - Evolutionary Relationships with Patricia Albere
Feb 27, 2018 • 69 min
When you start a relationship, something special becomes possible, something unique that the world has never known before. However - how do you figure out what that “something special” is? And how can your love be a vehicle for actually helping us evolve?…
130: On Valentine’s Day and Uncertainty in Your Relationship - with Neil Sattin
Feb 20, 2018 • 40 min
Does Valentine’s Day create pressure, or problems, for you? How do you get past the expectation and celebrate love - in your own way - without falling victim to the cliché? And also - on a separate but equally important note - how do you handle…
129: Unlocking the Secrets of The Smart Couple - with Jayson Gaddis
Feb 14, 2018 • 67 min
How do you build an indestructible relationship? It’s all about how you welcome the challenges, magnify the good times, and build a web of support. Sometimes that’s easier said than done, though - because the way to do those things wasn’t something that…
128: Practical Masculinity: Beyond Stereotypes - with Shana James
Feb 3, 2018 • 52 min
How do you embody masculinity in a way that creates more connection and passion in your relationship? How do you avoid the stereotypes? Is there even a point to talking about “masculine” vs. “feminine” (and if so, what is it?)? Today’s episode is a…
127: Peter Levine - Building Resiliency in Yourself, Your Relationship, and Your Children
Jan 30, 2018 • 66 min
One of the most important things that you can develop in your life, and in your relationship, is your resilience - the way that you bounce back from the challenges that life throws your way. How do you recover in a way that leaves you stronger, more…
126: Core Relationship Principles #1: Mutual Support without Codependence - with Chloe Urban and Neil Sattin
Jan 23, 2018 • 51 min
What makes the difference between a mediocre relationship and an amazing one? Your principles. They help you navigate the tough times, and excel in the easy times. In this 1st episode of the series, Chloe and Neil talk about how to move away from the…
125: Developing the “Yes Brain” in Yourself and Your Kids - with Dan Siegel
Jan 13, 2018 • 51 min
When you’re in a “Yes” brain state, everything seems possible. When you’re in a “No” brain state it’s nearly impossible to learn, grow, or interact in a positive way with others. So how do you cultivate a “Yes” brain state? How do you teach the children…
124: Jealousy - How to Deal and Heal
Jan 9, 2018 • 48 min
Does jealousy affect you in your relationship? Or has it impacted you in the past? One thing is for sure, jealousy has a destructive impact on any relationship, leaving both partners feeling unsafe and under attack. Whether you’re getting jealous, or on…
123: Pleasure is the Measure: The Science of Sex and Desire - with Emily Nagoski
Jan 1, 2018 • 66 min
How do you separate fact from fiction when it comes to creating and sustaining sexual desire? In this episode of Relationship Alive, our special guest is Emily Nagoski, author of the New York Times bestseller “Come As You Are: The Surprising New Science…
122: The Science of Empathy and How to Keep Yourself Clear
Dec 26, 2017 • 35 min
We’re all empathic. What this means is that you can catch emotions and states-of-being like a cold. But if you don’t know that what you’re feeling isn’t actually yours, just something you caught from someone else, then you could be in trouble. Wouldn’t it…
121: Tackling the Fears of Loneliness and Abandonment
Dec 19, 2017 • 25 min
There are some fears that are inherent to being alive. They might be big, they might be small, but they definitely are there, within you. Two of these fears that are closely-related to each other are the fear of loneliness, and the fear of abandonment.…
120: Strengthen Your Connection: Undefended Love with Jett Psaris
Dec 12, 2017 • 68 min
You’ve heard about the importance of courage and vulnerability in taking your relationship to the next level. How do you do that in a way that actually makes you stronger? How do you truly overcome feeling like a victim? How can you become a “yes” to…
119: The Most Important Thing Is What You Bring
Dec 5, 2017 • 25 min
How important is it to find the “right” partner? If you’re inspired by thoughts of how amazing a relationship could be - but wondering what to do next - this episode is for you. Today, we talk about the most important ingredient for having a conscious,…
118: Crafting an Uncommon Bond and Soulshaping - with Jeff Brown
Nov 28, 2017 • 74 min
What do you do when you want to shift your relationship from the mundane towards something more transcendent? Is this something you could experience with just anyone? Also…what happens when the podcast guest starts interviewing the host?! We’re diving…
117: Why Projection Can Be Useful - Neil Sattin
Nov 21, 2017 • 23 min
What are you projecting onto the world around you? How do you figure it out? And how can you use what you discover to grow, to live with MORE integrity? In this week’s episode, I’m sharing with you a simple, powerful practice to get in touch with your…
116: Sex, Love, and Dating: From Addiction to Health with Alex Katehakis
Nov 14, 2017 • 53 min
Can you be addicted to love, or sex, and what does that mean? How does the way that your parents raised you affect your sex life? How do you define your own version of healthy sex? And finally - how do you step away from the dopamine and novelty-seeking…
115: The Courage to Not Be Perfect - with Neil Sattin
Nov 6, 2017 • 33 min
Does perfectionism get in the way in your relationship? How do you navigate the gap between how things are - and how you’d like them to be? What do you do if you find yourself being judgmental of your partner - or if they’re judging you? In this week’s…
114: How to Get the Most Out of Therapy - with Jeff Zeig
Oct 31, 2017 • 64 min
If you’re going to seek help from a therapist (or coach), then how do you set yourself up for success? How do you find the right therapist for you? And how has the process of therapy evolved to achieve better and better results? To answer these questions…
113: How to Find Healing and Connection in a Dark Time - with Neil Sattin
Oct 24, 2017 • 46 min
When things get tough in your relationship, how do you get through it, to the other side - in a way that leaves you better than you were before? Whether it’s an everyday conflict, or a true crisis - there’s a way to find the healing that will keep you…
112: How and Why to Apologize Effectively with Harriet Lerner
Oct 17, 2017 • 66 min
Have you ever received an apology that didn’t quite cut it? Plus, let’s face it - life can be messy. It is nearly impossible to avoid causing harm or hurt every so often. So - when is an apology necessary? How do you apologize effectively? Today our guest…
111: How to Ask for Support - with Neil Sattin
Oct 10, 2017 • 32 min
Do you ever feel alone in challenging times? There’s an art to weaving a web of support for yourself, so that the people in your life know how to show up for you. And so that the people showing up for you actually do it in a way that truly supports you -…
110: Your Tantra Questions Answered - with Diana Richardson
Oct 3, 2017 • 41 min
How can you use the techniques of tantra in your everyday, busy life? How do you get off the “getting off” grid when it comes to sex, and find deeper, more satisfying connection with your partner? What is “relaxed entry” - and how can that revolutionize…
109: Is This Normal?
Sep 26, 2017 • 15 min
Is it normal to have conflict in your relationship? How do you know if what you’re experiencing is OK - or a sign of doom? And, even more importantly - what do you do when conflict occurs to lead to an even deeper connection with your partner? In this…
108: Creating Positive Intensity in Your Connection with Harville Hendrix & Helen LaKelly Hunt
Sep 19, 2017 • 57 min
Does it seem like the only time that things get intense in your relationship is when negative things happen? This kind of experience, repeated over time, can literally train your brain to be in a hyper-vigilant state when your partner is around. So how…
107: A Little Honesty Goes a Long Way
Sep 13, 2017 • 28 min
What’s an amazing source of energy for your relationship? The TRUTH! Are there moments when you’re not telling the full truth? Or does it seem that your partner is holding back? If there’s energy and vitality missing from your connection, it could be that…
106: Stopping The Nice Guy Syndrome with Robert Glover
Sep 6, 2017 • 71 min
Are you a “nice guy” - or are you in a relationship with one? While there’s nothing wrong with being nice, it can create problems - especially when you’re so focused on pleasing others that you move further and further away from your true, authentic self.…
105: One Small Thing That Can Change Everything
Aug 29, 2017 • 25 min
Sometimes, when you’re trying to achieve different results, it does make sense to make BIG changes. However, in today’s episode, we discover how to find the tiny places in your life where you can easily make a shift - the kind of shift that will ripple…
104: How to Get What You Need - Nonviolent Communication with Max Rivers
Aug 22, 2017 • 73 min
Do you feel like there are some things that you just can’t ask for? How do you get what you truly need in relationship? And how do you navigate to true win/win solutions in a relationship where you and your partner feel excited by what you’ve created…
103: Are You Being Codependent or Considerate?
Aug 15, 2017 • 23 min
How do you know if you’re being codependent? What happens if, in the process of trying NOT to be codependent, you stop considering your partner? How do you find the balance? And what is the antidote for resentment in a relationship?
102: How to Evolve Your Relationship with Jeffrey Zeig
Aug 8, 2017 • 47 min
How do you grow into something new and greater with your partner? How do you foster feelings of love, passion and connection - no matter how long you’ve been together? How do you evolve beyond what you even know to be possible for yourself in…
101: A User Manual for You
Aug 2, 2017 • 8 min
How do you know what you *really* want in relationship? And how can you help your partner truly understand what makes you tick - so that they can speak the language of love in ways that are meaningful for you? In this week’s episode, we cover a way for…
100: Attraction - How to Sustain It and How to Revive It - with John Gottman and Sue Johnson
Jul 22, 2017 • 81 min
How do you sustain attraction in your relationship over the long term? What can you do if you no longer feel “the spark” with your partner? And, what can you do if your partner no longer feels attracted to you?
99: The Secrets of Scheduling Sex Successfully
Jul 17, 2017 • 38 min
Are you too busy for sex and connection? What if sex just isn’t happening, or isn’t happening enough in your relationship? While there are many reasons that this could be happening (or not happening, as the case may be) - sometimes all you have to do is…
98: How to Stop Being a Victim - Feeling Good Together with David Burns
Jul 10, 2017 • 82 min
When it comes to the success of your relationship, how much are you standing in your own way? How do you get really clear on your part in the dynamic? And how do you work some magic in the way that you communicate, to connect no matter how challenging the…
A Brief Interlude
Jul 5, 2017 • 4 min
Neil Sattin
97: How to Enlist Your Friends to Support Your Relationship
Jun 27, 2017 • 22 min
There’s nothing quite as powerful to help you on your journey as the community of friends that surround you. However, our friends aren’t always clear on how to do that - particularly when it comes to your relationship. How do you enlist your friends to…
96: How to Transform the Hidden Beliefs that Hold You Back with Katherine Woodward Thomas
Jun 20, 2017 • 62 min
How do you stop repeating the old beliefs and actions that are holding you back? How do you ensure that the core part of your inner guidance is sending you in a positive direction? If you find yourself doing the same old dance again and again - either…
95: Who is Holding You Back?
Jun 13, 2017 • 18 min
How do you clear away the energy of your past to help you be present in your life, and relationship? In today’s episode, we talk about a specific process to tie up loose ends, so that they don’t drain your energy here and now. Why let all of those old…
94: Conscious Weddings and Commitment with Lila Sophia and David Tresemer
Jun 6, 2017 • 70 min
How do you bring magic and consciousness to the way that you commit to your partner? And, if you’re getting married, how do you create a wedding that truly represents YOU - not simply what society expects a wedding to be? Plus - is there a way to imbue…
93: How to Find the Gift in Any Moment
May 31, 2017 • 18 min
When someone gives you a gift, what do you do? Do you stick it in the closet and wait for a rainy day? Or do you open it, and appreciate it, right then and there? Whether things are going well for you right now, or you’re stuck in something…
92: Creating New Possibilities from the Inside Out - Winning from Within - Erica Ariel Fox
May 22, 2017 • 70 min
How do you get better at being you? How do you get past the stuck points - that gap between what you know you could/should do - and what you actually do? We have a vast amount of inner resource available to us to help get unstuck and learn new ways of…
91: The Power of Deep Relating
May 16, 2017 • 26 min
How do you get better at being in relationships? How do you create different experiences than you have had in the past (especially after the honeymoon stage has run its course)? How do you continue to deepen the intimacy and joy in your relationship when…
90: Heal Your Relationship at the Deepest Level With Hedy Schleifer
May 5, 2017 • 96 min
There’s a particularly sticky place that comes up in most relationships. It’s the place where your deep desires meet your partner’s fear and resistance - and vice versa. How do you unravel this dynamic, to experience the magic that lies on the other side?…
89: How to Have a Healthy Long Distance Relationship
May 2, 2017 • 46 min
What’s the recipe for success in a long distance relationship? How do you stay connected when you’re apart? And how do you handle the times when you’re together so that they’re less intense? In today’s episode, I tackle the topic of how to bring balance…
88: Helen Fisher - The Anatomy of Love: What Makes Love Last
Apr 22, 2017 • 58 min
Why do we love? Is it part of human evolution? What in our biology makes us strive for love and intimacy? And how do we make it last? This week we welcome Dr. Helen Fisher, TED talk all-start, and author of Anatomy of Love - A Natural History of Mating,…
87: How to Know If Someone Is Right for You
Apr 19, 2017 • 29 min
How do you know if someone is right for you? Whether you’re dating and trying to figure it out, or finding yourself second-guessing your choice of partner - this episode is for you! My goal is for you to have some new ways of answering this question for…
86: Beyond Mars and Venus - Reducing Stress and Improving Nutrition with John Gray
Apr 9, 2017 • 80 min
What role does your gender play in how you react to stress? And how does it determine the best ways to recover from stress? And what does it mean in terms of your relationship? The more that you understand your biology, the better you’ll be able to help…
85: How and Why to Take Space
Apr 5, 2017 • 25 min
What is the role of “alone time” when you’re in a relationship? How do you take space in a way that helps your relationship grow, and flourish? And what kinds of things should you do with your alone time - if you want it to support your ability to connect…
84: Deepening the Divine in Your Relationship - Andrew Harvey
Mar 28, 2017 • 71 min
If you want to take your relationship to the next level, then you have no choice but to connect at a higher level. And I mean a MUCH higher level. How do you bring your connection to the divine, something greater than you, into your relationship? And how…
83: How to Be OK No Matter What
Mar 22, 2017 • 25 min
Are you making choices based on fear or empowered choices, based on who you truly are? When you come from a place of fear it feels like there is “no other choice.” The funny thing is - you could make the exact SAME choice - but from an empowered place of…
82: How Safety Leads to Better Sex - Sue Johnson
Mar 15, 2017 • 58 min
How do you have better, more passionate, more connected sex with your partner? Today’s episode features Sue Johnson, creator of Emotionally-Focused Therapy, and author of several best-selling books on how to do relationships well, including Hold Me Tight.…
81: Are You Addicted to Distraction?
Mar 8, 2017 • 17 min
What is the impact of distraction on your relationship? Or, for that matter, on your life? And - what can you do about it? There’s only one way to know - and that’s what we’re talking about on today’s episode of Relationship Alive! Also, don’t forget to…
80: Bring Your Shadow Into the Light - Keith Witt
Feb 28, 2017 • 88 min
How do unconscious forces affect what you do in your relationship? Is there a way to get in touch with those things lurking in the shadows of your inner self - so that they can become fuel for positive energy in your life? In today’s episode, we have a…
79: How To Speak Your Truth
Feb 22, 2017 • 20 min
How do you speak your truth (effectively) in your relationship? And what can you find out about yourself from the requests that you make of your partner? In this week’s episode, we talk about powerful ways to communicate what’s really going on with you -…
78: How to Have More Fun in Your Relationship with Cathy Salit
Feb 14, 2017 • 57 min
How do you foster more fun and creativity in your relationship? How do you change things up when they get boring? How do you keep them from getting boring in the first place? How do you bring your authenticity into the “fun”? In today’s episode, we’re…
77: 21 Days to Deeper Intimacy
Feb 9, 2017 • 7 min
Here’s a piece of exciting news!! Chloe and I have created a new course for DailyOM - it’s called 21 Days to Deeper Intimacy! They were looking for a course on relationships that would have the potential to completely transform a relationship in 21 days…
76: Healing from Infidelity with Michele Weiner Davis
Jan 31, 2017 • 83 min
How can you heal your relationship after one of you has had an affair? What does it take to restore trust and come back to a place of mutual love, passion, and understanding? And how do you “affair-proof” your relationship to begin with? In today’s…
75: A Powerful Oxytocin Booster for Your Relationship
Jan 26, 2017 • 12 min
How do you increase the levels of oxytocin, the “love” molecule, in your relationship? And can you do it in a way that also helps with any imbalances in libido/sexual desire? In this episode, I offer you one powerful way to boost the oxytocin and foster…
74: John Gottman - How to Build Trust and Positive Energy in Your Relationship
Jan 18, 2017 • 53 min
What are the keys for building trust, at any stage in your relationship? What can you do to amplify the things that are going right in your relationship? What has research revealed about the secrets that make love last? And what can new parents do to…
73: Neil Sattin - If It Were Easy You Would Already Be Doing It
Jan 11, 2017 • 10 min
Isn’t this supposed to be easier? Sometimes you do get the gift of a new perspective or skill that facilitates change, and everything just falls into place. It’s more common, however, that when you’re trying to make a shift - even one that brings even…
72: Love, Sex, and Awakening with Margot Anand
Jan 4, 2017 • 64 min
How do you take sex to the next level? Make it something that continually enlivens you - without resorting to gimmicks that are unsustainable at best, detrimental at worst? Can it become something that brings you to transcendence and bliss with your…
71: Just One Thing
Dec 29, 2016 • 7 min
With so much information - how do you choose what to do to help your relationship? There’s no possible way that you could do it all, and in this week’s episode, I offer you a tip to reduce the overwhelm and start seeing some results. Plus I know you’re…
70: How to Get Your Partner to Do What You Want
Dec 21, 2016 • 13 min
Whether it’s making love, or doing the laundry - how do you create an environment where your partner wants to fulfill your desires? This week’s brief episode explores exactly that - focusing on how to shift your perspective on getting your needs - and…
69: How to Be Completely Alive in Your Relationship - Hedy Schleifer
Dec 13, 2016 • 85 min
How do you bring the full YOU to your relationship? How do you keep things fresh, and vibrant? How do you breathe that life into the places where you experience conflict with your partner, to unravel the knot that might keep you in an old, unhealthy…
68: Are You Willing?
Dec 7, 2016 • 15 min
If you’re looking for things to change or grow in your relationship, but nothing is happening, you might need to ask yourself this IMPORTANT question. Are you willing? In this week’s podcast, I reveal how to use this question as part of a process to…
67: How to Get Your Ex Back with Chris Seiter
Nov 29, 2016 • 70 min
Breakups happen. With the right frame of mind, any breakup that you go through can become a golden opportunity. It can be the best thing that ever happened to you - and, believe it or not, it can also be the best thing that ever happened…to your…
66: The Impact of Gratitude
Nov 23, 2016 • 11 min
Did you know that amplifying the gratitude in your life can have an enormous impact on shifting you from scarcity to abundance? Today’s episode, short and sweet, offers you several quick practices that can help you get into the habitude of gratitude.…
65: Divorce Busting and Strategies for Relationship Success with Michele Weiner Davis
Nov 15, 2016 • 88 min
What do you do when you feel like your relationship is going in the wrong direction? How do you find new things to try when you feel like you’ve tried everything? And what’s possible for you when you’re going it alone - perhaps when your partner already…
64: How to Amplify the Positive in Your Relationship
Nov 8, 2016 • 13 min
How do you increase the amount of positive energy in your relationship? Since what you focus on grows, in this week’s episode I’m going to give you some thoughts on how to expand your ability to focus on what’s working (both within yourself, and in the…
63: Dan Wile - How Collaboration Creates Intimacy
Nov 2, 2016 • 70 min
How do you foster intimacy, even when you’re fighting? The recipe for a successful relationship involves learning how to collaborate even when things aren’t going well. And once you learn how to do that, you’ll find that opportunities to create intimacy…
62: Neil Sattin: The Secrets of Relationship Repair
Oct 27, 2016 • 34 min
When things go wrong in your relationship, what do you do to make things right? Whether it’s something small, like accidentally hurting your partner’s feelings, or something big (like infidelity), there is a process that you can go through in order to not…
61: Orgasmic Meditation with Aubrey Fuller
Oct 19, 2016 • 69 min
Want to deepen your sense of what’s possible in sex, and experience a completely new kind of sensual connection to your partner? There’s more to sex and sensuality than most of us discover on our own, and on this show, one of my goals is to help you…
60: Neil Sattin on Risk, Vulnerability, and Courage
Oct 12, 2016 • 21 min
Being in relationship is an act of courage. And while it’s easy to see the obvious moments when you’re “feeling your fear and doing it anyway” - what I want you to discover in this week’s episode is just how much the micro-moments of risk-taking and…
59: How to Make Difficult Conversations So Much Easier with Sheila Heen
Oct 5, 2016 • 86 min
What do you do when you and your partner disagree on something truly important? How do you find a way to bridge the divide and come back to a place of collaboration and understanding? And how do you know when to throw in the towel? Today’s guest, Sheila…
58: Self-Care: A Crucial Step with Neil Sattin
Sep 29, 2016 • 23 min
One of the most important skills in relationship is knowing how to actually show up - to be present. And while presence is a skill you can learn, there’s something else that’s almost always required if you’re going to be present for any length of time.…
57: Mastering Mindfulness in Your Relationship - with Dan Siegel
Sep 21, 2016 • 56 min
How do you harness the power of your mind so that it’s working for you, not against you - especially when things get triggering with your partner? We now know that our minds are flexible, and that through neuroplasticity you can continue to develop and…
56 - How to Create Amazing Days with Your Partner
Sep 14, 2016 • 16 min
Every day, with your partner, you have the chance to make things amazing. Or…not. In this episode, we’re going to cover a simple practice that allows you to set a positive, love-filled, growth-oriented tone for your days no matter what is going on in your…
55: Defeating Emotional Blackmail and Manipulation with Susan Forward
Sep 7, 2016 • 55 min
Have you been stuck in a cycle with someone that leaves you feeling like you can never win? Where do you feel like you are always giving in? Not saying what you are really feeling? If so, you may be experiencing emotional blackmail. It’s not pretty, and…
54: A Quick Practice to Change Everything About Your Relationship with Neil Sattin
Aug 31, 2016 • 8 min
How do you spend time with your partner? Do you put energy and attention on the things that you want to GROW in your relationship? Or does your energy and attention go to problems and other things you wish weren’t true? In this week’s episode, I’m going…
53: How to Embrace Your Fear of Intimacy with Ken Page
Aug 18, 2016 • 40 min
Are you afraid of love and intimacy? If you get to know that part of yourself, and embrace it - as we’re going to reveal on today’s episode - then it becomes an amazing source of power, inspiration, and connection for you. And if you don’t think you have…
52: Intimacy and Connection from the Inside Out with Toni Herbine-Blank
Aug 15, 2016 • 71 min
How does your relationship within yourself help you develop a deeper connection with your partner? Today’s guest, Toni Herbine-Blank, has created a practical way for you to do just that. She is the developer of Intimacy from the Inside Out (IFIO) - which…
51: Neil Sattin: How to Get Inspired in Your Relationship
Aug 10, 2016 • 11 min
How do you get inspired in your relationship? Today we know that “novelty” helps keep the spark of your relationship going - and there are MANY different ways to keep things fresh. In today’s episode, I talk about a way that’s fun, collaborative, and easy…
50: Wired for Dating and Love - Psychobiology with Stan Tatkin
Aug 2, 2016 • 63 min
How does your attachment style affect your dating life? When you know your attachment style, and that of your partner, how can you use that knowledge to make your relationship stronger? How do you know when it’s time to commit? In today’s episode, we’re…
49: How to Figure Out What You Really Want with Neil Sattin
Jul 27, 2016 • 19 min
What do you want in your life, and in your relationship? Are you having trouble getting your needs met? In this episode, I walk you through a process that helps you get at not only what you think you want, but deeper into the needs that are at the heart…
48: Get Rid of Limiting Beliefs and Show Up Fully with Kyle Cease
Jul 19, 2016 • 87 min
What’s holding you back when it comes to being in the present? To living into your potential? To follow through on decisions and actions that light you up, and make you feel more alive? Here to answer those questions (and more) is today’s guest, Kyle…
47: The Best Ways to Come Back into Balance When You’re Triggered with Neil Sattin
Jul 11, 2016 • 38 min
When you’re with your partner, whether you’re having a conversation, or making love, or somewhere in between and one of you is triggered then all bets are off, and it’s going to be WAY more difficult for you to arrive at a place that feels good. This…
46: Finding Freedom in Commitment with Chloe Urban and Neil Sattin
Jul 4, 2016 • 57 min
What is the balance between Freedom and Commitment in your relationship? How do you cast off the ways that society has programmed you to be in relationship, in favor of your OWN way, a way that actually supports you and your partner in creating the…
45: Overcoming Jealousy and What About Polyamory with Janet W Hardy
Jun 29, 2016 • 68 min
How do you know if polyamory is right for you? How do you know if your currently monogamous relationship could benefit from opening things up, or if it’s a bad idea? And how do you handle jealousy in your life - no matter what your circumstances? On…
44: How to Know if It’s Worth It with Neil Sattin
Jun 22, 2016 • 42 min
In today’s show, I want to cover a few key questions. How do I identify what “stage” my relationship is at? How can I make that information actually useful for me? How do I know if it’s worth it to keep putting in the time and energy required? We’re going…
43: Recovering from Infidelity: From Chaos to Connected with Terry Real
Jun 15, 2016 • 40 min
How do you repair trust? How do you get your relationship from a place that can feel like total chaos through to the other side - where you have a new sense of possibility and vitality in your connection, and what’s happened is just a distant memory?…
42: How to Invite Intimacy through Deeper Presence with Guy Sengstock
Jun 7, 2016 • 73 min
How do you really see another person? And how do allow yourself to BE seen? How can you deepen into knowing the people around you, especially your partner, more honestly, more fully? Guy Sengstock joins us today, he’s the earliest founder of “circling”…
41: Unlock New Potential in Life and Love with Curiosity and Presence with Chloe Urban and Neil Sattin
May 31, 2016 • 48 min
What is the key to developing your ability to be curious, in life and in relationship? How do you break old patterns and truly discover something new and exciting with your partner? What are some ways to shift your perspective in relationship, to stay…
40: Transform Your Boundaries with Sarri Gilman
May 23, 2016 • 75 min
It’s common these days to hear people talking about having healthy boundaries, what does that mean? How would you know what a healthy boundary looks like? And if you’re experiencing a breakdown - how do you get back on the right track, so that you know…
39: Catching Up With Neil Sattin
May 18, 2016 • 5 min
This week is going to be a little different. We’ve had so many new listeners join the podcast over the past couple months - and maybe you are one of them, that I wanted to give you an opportunity to catch up. So this mini-episode is going to be short and…
38: Successful Stepcoupling for Blended Families with Susan Wisdom
May 10, 2016 • 55 min
Let’s face it, modern relationships can be kinda complex. And if you’re in a relationship with someone who has been divorced, and has children from their previous relationship - or if you have children from a previous relationship, then you’re probably in…
37: Oxytocin: the Molecule of Love with Sue Carter
May 2, 2016 • 59 min
How does your biochemistry affect your relationship? Are there ways to foster the inner chemicals of love to keep things feeling fresh and vibrant? Today’s guest is Sue Carter, Director of the Kinsey Institute, and Rudy Professor of Biology at Indiana…
36: Relationship Repair after an Affair: Infidelity with Janis Abrahms Spring
Apr 25, 2016 • 50 min
What do you do when you’re in a relationship and you or your partner cheats? How do you bring things back into balance and heal your relationship - perhaps even get it to a place that’s better than it ever was?Today’s guest is one of the world’s experts…
35: Happy Kids, Better Relationship: Unconditional Parenting with Alfie Kohn
Apr 19, 2016 • 32 min
Many of you have written in wanting me to address the impact of children and parenting on relationships, and as you might expect - the impact is considerable! How do you take some of the ideas we’ve been talking about here on the podcast and apply them to…
34: The Science of Safety with Stephen Porges
Apr 11, 2016 • 69 min
Have you ever wondered what exactly is happening in your body when you get triggered? Why do we go into rage, or feel like leaving, or completely shut down? Today’s guest is Dr. Steve Porges, creator of The Polyvagal Theory, and a distinguished university…
33: How and Why to Forgive with Fred Luskin
Apr 5, 2016 • 45 min
In today’s episode, we’re going to explore the topic of Forgiveness with one of the world’s experts on the topic, Dr. Fred Luskin, director of the Stanford Forgiveness Project, and author of the books “Forgive For Love: The Missing Ingredient for a…
32: Mastering Communication in Three Dimensions with Marty Babits
Mar 28, 2016 • 68 min
Are you curious to know the most common issue I hear from clients, and from listeners who write in? It’s communication - or, rather problems with communication. Today’s guest is Marty Babits, contributor to Psychology Today, and Co-Director of the Family…
31: Strategic Wisdom to Take Your Relationship to the Next Level with Shannon Waller
Mar 21, 2016 • 66 min
How do you hold a vision for your relationship without being trapped by perfectionism when it doesn’t quite measure up to the ideal? How do you manage time in your relationship so that you have time to nurture and build your connection? What are some…
30: Sparking Attraction Through Inspiration Not Deprivation - Deeper Dating with Ken Page
Mar 15, 2016 • 55 min
Today’s guest is Ken Page, renown psychotherapist, Psychology Today blogger, and author of the book “Deeper Dating: How to Drop the Games of Seduction and Discover the Power of Intimacy”. Ken’s book is one of the few books that I’ve read for the podcast…
29: How to Heal Your Triggers and Trauma with Peter Levine
Mar 8, 2016 • 44 min
On our show, we’ve talked a lot about getting “triggered” - but what does it even mean to get triggered? Why do we hold trauma in our bodies? And how do we move through it so that we can live more freely, be more fully alive - and present for what life is…
28: Healthy Polarity, Energetic Connection, and the Work of David Deida with Michaela Boehm
Mar 1, 2016 • 52 min
Having healthy polarity is an important component of maintaining a spark with your partner. Today’s guest is Michaela Boehm, an experienced counselor and tantric lineage holder who specializes in teaching skills that enhance deep intimacy and lasting…
27: Breaking Free from Your Patterns of Conflict with Sue Johnson
Feb 22, 2016 • 58 min
Have you ever had the feeling that you get into the same kind of conflict, over and over again, in your relationship? Today’s guest is Dr. Sue Johnson, renowned psychologist, researcher, teacher, and author of the book “Hold Me Tight- Seven Conversations…
26: How to Get All the Parts within You to Work Together (and with Your Partner) with Dick Schwartz
Feb 15, 2016 • 69 min
Have you ever heard yourself saying “There’s a part of me that feels one way, and another part of me that feels another?” - or have you ever wondered why you might do things that seem counterproductive to what your actual intentions are? Today’s guest is…
25: Get Your Ego Out of the Way - How to Be an Adult in Love with Dave Richo
Feb 9, 2016 • 70 min
Today’s guest is Dave Richo, a psychotherapist, teacher, workshop leader, and author of the well-known book “How To Be An Adult in Relationships- The 5 Keys to Mindful Loving”. In this conversation we explore topics found in his more recent book “How To…
24: Why We Lie and How to Get Back to the Truth with Ellyn Bader and Peter Pearson
Feb 2, 2016 • 46 min
Today, we’re going to talk about lies. Why do we lie - ever? And while it’s easy to perhaps scapegoat people who aren’t telling the whole truth - as with anything in relationship - it takes TWO to tango - so how does the person who’s being lied TO help…
23: Useful Things You Never Knew about Feminine Sexuality with Sheri Winston
Jan 26, 2016 • 65 min
Today’s guest is Sheri Winston, wholistic sexuality teacher, founder of the center for intimate arts, and author of the award-winning book “Women’s Anatomy of Arousal: Secret Maps to Buried Pleasure”. We’re going to talk about how the sexual energy of a…
22: Essential Skills for Conscious Relationship with Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt
Jan 18, 2016 • 56 min
Today’s guests are none other than Harville Hendrix and Helen Lakelly Hunt, authors of “Getting the Love You Want” - which offers a step-by-step path for you and your partner to attain a more loving, supportive, and satisfying relationship. In this…
21: Healing Pain from Past or Present Breakups through Conscious Uncoupling with Katherine Woodward Thomas
Jan 11, 2016 • 45 min
One of the biggest obstacles to being fully yourself in the present is being held back by the pain of the past. I’m thinking specifically of the endings that we go through. Today’s guest has been on the show once before, back in episode 2. Her name is…
20: Sparking Passion through Generosity and Being Authentically Yourself with Shana James
Jan 4, 2016 • 55 min
We’ve talked a lot on this show about the stages of relationship - I’m thinking in particular of the John Gottman episode, and the Terry Real episode - how almost unavoidably the “honeymoon” ends and then the real relationship begins. Today’s guest is…
19: Recipe for a Secure, Healthy Relationship with Stan Tatkin
Dec 29, 2015 • 86 min
If you’ve listened to some of the other episodes then by now you’ve heard how so much of what happens to us as kids can affect how we are, in relationship, as adults. On today’s show our guest is Stan Tatkin, Doctor of Psychology, one of the world’s…
18: Integration Time with Neil Sattin
Dec 21, 2015 • 5 min
So this week, rather than giving you another interview with another amazing guest, I’m inviting you to spend some time integrating. This is an opportunity to spend time with the important people in your life - your partner, your family, your friends -…
17: Stop Worrying, Start Playing - The Art of Improvisation with Patti Stiles
Dec 15, 2015 • 73 min
Our guest this week is Patti Stiles, and she is one of the world’s foremost experts on the art of improvisational theater. She studied directly with Keith Johnstone, and has been working professionally acting, teaching, directing all over the world. In…
16: Expanding Your View of What’s Possible in Relationship with Gabrielli LaChiara
Dec 8, 2015 • 65 min
That being said, one of my most influential teachers over the past several years is someone that you probably haven’t heard of - at least not until today - but her work has been profound for me in creating both deep inner transformation as well as helping…
15: How to Thrive in Long Term Relationships with Gay Hendricks
Nov 30, 2015 • 47 min
Today’s guest is none other than Gay Hendricks, co-author with his wife Katie of the classic book Conscious Loving, as well as the new book Conscious Loving Ever After: How to Create Thriving Relationships at Midlife and Beyond. Along with his wife, Gay…
14: Heal the Split between Head and Heart: Inner Bonding with Margaret Paul
Nov 23, 2015 • 61 min
Today’s guest is Dr. Margaret Paul, psychologist and co-creator of Inner Bonding - and the author of the book “Inner Bonding”. As you’re about to find out, Inner Bonding is a straightforward practice - which we’re going to teach you how to do on this…
13: Resolve Conflict and Create Intimacy through Attunement with Keith Witt
Nov 17, 2015 • 82 min
How do you get in touch with what you’re feeling in the moment? How do you take that a step further, and tune into your partner? Today, our guest is Dr. Keith Witt, Integral Psychologist, and author of several amazing books, including The Attuned Family:…
12: How to Turn Your Anger into a Force for Good with Harriet Lerner
Nov 10, 2015 • 53 min
When was the last time you got really angry? And…how did that go for you? Was it a positive experience, or…not? Today’s guest is Harriet Lerner, Clinical Psychologist and author of the classic book The Dance of Anger which has sold over 3 MILLION copies…
11: Take Back Your Power from Porn with Gary Wilson
Nov 3, 2015 • 49 min
Today I’d like to have a conversation about a topic that’s a little dicey for some of us. Do you or your partner use pornography? What place, if any, does it have in your relationship? Is it helpful? Is it creating conflict? Is it possible that it’s…
10: How to Get Off the Rollercoaster and Get Back to Love with Diana Richardson
Oct 27, 2015 • 58 min
Today we have part two of our conversation with Diana Richardson. In particular, we are going to focus on how to always “get back to love” in your relationship - a topic in all of her books - and the focus of her book “Tantric Love: Feeling vs. Emotion”.…
09: Deeper Intimacy Through Sexual Healing with Wendy Maltz
Oct 20, 2015 • 63 min
Today’s guest is Wendy Maltz, author of The Sexual Healing Journey. Her book is about how to recover from sexual trauma and deepen your capacity for intimacy and sexual pleasure. In this episode, we’re talking about how you can take on that legacy of pain…
08: How To Tackle The Hard Questions with Susan Piver
Oct 13, 2015 • 38 min
My guest today is Susan Piver, NY Times bestselling author of The Hard Questions: 100 Essential Questions to Ask Before You Say I Do. This book came out of the personal experience of talking to her boyfriend (now her husband) about getting married. She…
07: From Problems to Passion with Katie Hendricks
Oct 5, 2015 • 42 min
My guest today is Katie Hendricks, co-author of the book Conscious Loving: The Journey to Co-Commitment. Having worked with thousands of couples with her partner, Gay Hendricks, Katie is experienced in helping you make the shift towards a relationship in…
06: How to Deepen Intimacy Through Shared Consciousness with Patricia Albere
Sep 29, 2015 • 60 min
Are you curious about ways to build intimacy that aren’t about sex or being sexual? My guest today is Patricia Albere of the Evolutionary Collective, an internationally-known organization devoted to mutual awakening between individuals, and the…
05: How Orgasms Are Hurting Your Relationship (and how to fix it) - Marnia Robinson
Sep 22, 2015 • 61 min
Odds are that the way that you’re having sex is actually causing problems in your relationship. My guest today is Marnia Robinson, author of Cupid’s Poisoned Arrow: From Habit to Harmony in Sexual Relationships. Her book is about how sex and orgasms…
04: Advanced Relationship Jiu Jitsu with Terry Real
Sep 15, 2015 • 62 min
My guest today is Terry Real, and we’re going to cover some advanced strategies for thriving in your relationship. Whether it’s how to recover from a grievous wrong, how to keep your relationship healthy, or how an unconventional way to take a…
03: Katherine Woodward Thomas - Overcoming Your Barriers to Love and Connection
Sep 6, 2015 • 50 min
Welcome! My guest today is Katherine Woodward Thomas, who is the author of the national bestseller Calling in the One: 7 Weeks to Attract the Love of Your Life, and Conscious Uncoupling (in stores 9/22/2015). She is also a licensed psychotherapist and a…
02: Diana Richardson - Discover the Power of Slow Sex
Sep 6, 2015 • 56 min
Welcome to Episode 2! Here is today’s question: How’s your SEX LIFE? Is it giving you the kind of connection with your partner that you want? My guest today is Diana Richardson, a leading sex educator with over 20 years’ experience in teaching about “slow…
01: John Gottman - How to Be a Master of Relationship
Sep 6, 2015 • 60 min
Welcome! My guest today is Dr. John Gottman, one of the world’s leading experts on how to have an amazing relationship. He and his wife Julie currently operate The Gottman Institute in Seattle, offering numerous resources and training. Join us for a deep…