The Love Drive

The Love Drive

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The Love Drive podcast exists to help people develop the emotional intimacy required to have loving and connected relationships with themselves and others.


Relationships Take Work with Brandon G. Alexander
Dec 10 • 65 min
Relationships take work. I’m wary of anyone who claims otherwise. Some of that work happens in a relationship, and some happens before the relationship even gets off the ground. Brandon G. Alexander is the founder of New Age gents, and he’s showing men…
Free Love Advice: I Outgrew My Partner
Dec 3 • 42 min
What happens when the values you hold dear don’t line up with those of your partner? How do you leave a loving relationship, knowing that you deserve more? How do you both honor your relationship, and celebrate it, while honoring yourself and leave it?…
Free Love Advice: Dating After My Ex
Nov 25 • 35 min
Grieving a relationship takes time. And it’s OK to start dating when you’re still thinking about your ex. And you need to be upfront about it. How can you trust that the next relationship will be as good or better than the last? How do you stop comparing…
Welcoming Male Vulnerability with Shana James
Nov 19 • 63 min
What’s so scary about a man being vulnerable? How can we learn to accept, welcome, and celebrate men who show us their sadness, their pain, and their soft side? What can women do to let men know that it’s safe to put their guards down and open up? Shana…
Making Love Last with Dr. Robert Sternberg
Nov 12 • 64 min
Your relationship needs intimacy, passion, and commitment if you want it to stand the test of time. Not only that, you need enough of these three qualities to help you get through the rough or dull parts. And lastly, you need realistic expectations of…
Kindness Matters with Roxan McDonald
Nov 5 • 48 min
Kindness matters when it comes to life, relationships, and how we speak to ourselves. Like Roxan says, ” anything else ain’t shit” and I agree. Roxan McDonald is a writer, teacher, and creator behind the spiritual_af Instagram account and today we talk…
How to Change Your Life with Dr. Jeremy Goldberg
Oct 29 • 74 min
Change is incredibly hard. There’s no doubt about it. And yet, the biggest obstacle to change is often fear. Fear of the unknown, fear of failing, and fear of making the wrong decision. What if that fear didn’t exist? What then? What crazy life could you…
I Received an Erotic Massage from Shaun Galanos
Oct 22 • 38 min
If you haven’t heard part 1, I strongly recommend you start there. One of my former clients shares what prompted her to reach out to me, what the session felt like from beginning to end, and what lasting effects she experienced from receiving loving touch…
I Gave Erotic Massages with Shaun Galanos
Oct 15 • 48 min
I’m a former erotic masseur. I don’t talk about that part of my life very often, but when I do, I record a whole podcast episode on it. Find out what it was like providing erotic massage to women in San Francisco. I answer every question you might have…
Storytime: Heart to Heart with Shaun
Oct 8 • 25 min
Hey, lovebirds. It’s been a while since I’ve shared with you what’s happening for me. There’s been a lot of growth for me in the last two years (and especially in the last 6 weeks) and wanted to take this opportunity to share some of it with you. I’m also…
Free Love Advice: Talk To Your Partner
Oct 1 • 17 min
Communication is the foundation of healthy, fulfilling, and loving relationships. How do you deal with a partner who is uncommunicative? At what point do you accept that you have different needs when it comes to communication? And how much are you willing…
Free Love Advice: High School Sweethearts
Sep 24 • 10 min
How do you navigate moving 3,000 miles away from your high school sweetheart? Do you promise to keep in touch every day? Or do you trust that if you’re meant to be together, nothing can keep you apart? To find out about my upcoming group program and…
Free Love Advice: The Great Fear of Being Alone
Sep 17 • 24 min
Our greatest fear is that we’ll end up alone. Either our partner will leave us, or we’ll never find someone to grow old with. What if we let go of that idea? What if we learned to live in the present moment, with no expectation that the love we have will…
Free Love Advice: Online Dating Sucks
Sep 10 • 36 min
Online dating can suck. Especially when you’re using it to get an ego boost, or because you’re bored. And especially when the folks on the other end of the screen are doing the exact same thing. No wonder it’s hard to connect with people in a meaningful…
Free Love Advice: Staying Present in Your Relationship
Sep 3 • 40 min
How can we stay present when we’re waiting for the other shoe to drop? What about when we’re terrified of losing the partner we love so much? How can we feel gratitude for the present moment and live in the here and now? Welcome to Free Love Advice Get…
Real Love Stories: Dating with Terminal Cancer
Aug 27 • 47 min
How do you tell the new person you’re dating that you’re going to die much sooner than you’d planned? What are the effects of long-term cancer treatment on your sex life? How can one remain grateful and enjoy living life knowing that you might only have a…
How to Receive Love with Janne Robinson
Aug 20 • 59 min
It can be incredibly vulnerable to receive, especially if you’ve been a giver or an over-giver your whole life. To receive means believing yourself to be worthy of attention, respect, care, compassion, and love. Intellectually you might believe this, but…
Cultivating Your Pleasure with Euphemia Russell
Aug 12 • 58 min
Pleasure is fundamental to happiness, productivity, and health. And in this hyper-productive world, we’re likely to put pleasure on the back burner as we strive to get more shit done. Euphemia Russell is a pleasure educator, and they believe that it’s…
The Power of Male Vulnerability with Jayson Gaddis
Aug 6 • 47 min
It’s nearly impossible to have deeply connected relationships without vulnerability. And unfortunately, we weren’t taught how to be vulnerable in school, or why it’s important to stay open in your partnership. And, it’s even harder for men to be…
How To Make Friends 101 with Jillian Richardson
Jul 30 • 73 min
Loneliness is a systemic issue, and a huge problem in the United States (and probably around the world). It’s hard making friends as an adult, and lots of folks are unsatisfied with their adult friendships. So what are we to do? Jillian Richardson is the…
The Love Drive on The How To Human Podcast
Jul 23 • 68 min
If you aren’t listening to the How To Human Podcast with Sam Lamott, here’s your chance. I’m airing the episode we recorded together in November of 2018. Sam interviewed me about my creative process, the origin story of The Love Drive, and how I came to…
Love and Depression with Joëlle Pouliot
Jul 16 • 55 min
Today we’re talking about love and depression. How can we love when we’re struggling with a mental health issue? How can we support those we love when they’re fighting depression? Joelle Pouliot is a journalist, works for a mental health organization in…
Free Love Advice: You Can’t Meet My Needs
Jul 9 • 24 min
Asking for your needs to me bet can be scary because the risk is that your partner will say no. And sometimes, it’s easier to stay in a relationship that sort of meets your needs than to risk not being in one at all because asking for exactly what you…
Free Love Advice: Dating is Hard
Jul 2 • 33 min
Dating is hard. How are we supposed to show interest, but not too much? Is it best to be pursued or to be the pursuer? What if you don’t want to date online? Are you supposed to talk to strangers on the street?! Early-stage dating can be awkward, scary,…
Raising Boys to be Better Men with Rachel Giese
Jun 25 • 60 min
Whether we’re telling boys to “man up” or warned that “crying is for girls” young men are subjected to damaging messages about manliness: they must muzzle their emotions and never show weakness, dominate girls, and compete with one another. And yet we…
Understanding Female Infidelity & Desire with Dr. Wednesday Martin
Jun 18 • 62 min
The data is wrong. Forever we’ve been told that men are more sexually promiscuous and have a need to ‘sow their oats’ while women are more fulfilled in long-term monogamous relationships because they value love, stability, and emotional connection more…
The Over-Sexualization of Women with Lili Boisvert
Jun 11 • 69 min
From clothing to flirting, from our fascination with youth and innocence to the orgasm gap, every aspect of women’s lives is dictated by their status as sex objects, and it’s a problem. Journalist, columnist, actress, and now author Lili Boisvert wrote a…
Polyamory Beyond Jealousy with Marie-Claude L’Archer
Jun 4 • 53 min
Jealousy can be one of the most frustrating emotions that you’ll face in your relationship. It can drive you to insanity. But what if you’d found a way to turn that jealousy upside down; what if you could derive pleasure out of situations that used to…
Storytime: My First Sex Party (Her Side)
May 28 • 38 min
Remember the story of my first sex party? There were two main characters in that story; the woman with the red fishnet dress, and the one with curly hair in the black dress.I thought it might be fun to interview the woman in the little black dress and get…
A Buddhist Perspective on Love with Susan Piver
May 21 • 54 min
Relationships are hard, messy, and confusing, and they will never stabilize. Bummer, but there’s a light at the end of the tunnel. Susan Piver is a meditation instructor, best-selling author and she shows us how to meet that instability with your partner…
Storytime: My First Sex Party
May 14 • 27 min
Welcome to Storytime, a new segment from The Love Drive. Today, the story of both my first and second sex parties: how terrified I was at both, why you should check your lube to make sure it’s not hand sanitizer, and the importance of friends who can…
Free Love Advice: I Want to Get Married
May 7 • 35 min
Julia is in love with a much older man. They met when she was in her early twenties and they never expected it to last this long. Julia has dreamed of getting married since she was a little girl, and she’s highly motivated to because of how successful her…
Free Love Advice: Part 2 of Making Space
May 7 • 25 min
This is part 2 of Making Space For Someone New. If you didn’t listen to last weeks episode, I recommend you do to get the full story. On today’s episode, Samantha and I discuss ways for her to meet new people, to expand her dating pool, and what would…
Free Love Advice: Make Space for Someone New
Apr 30 • 32 min
Samantha is in love with a man who in many ways meets her needs. But in a few very fundamental ways, he does not. Samantha struggles with meeting new people, made more challenging by the fact that she has a visible disability. Her needing to use a…
Real Love Stories: Erica’s Baby Steps to Opening up Your Relationship
Apr 23 • 26 min
Erica met her then boyfriend at the age of 19 years old. She walked into Chemistry 101 and was immediately smitten by the tall, quiet, hunk of a man. She was also drawn to a very specific part of his anatomy that was quite hard to miss. Erica and I talk…
Authentic Seduction Skills with Dr. Alison Ash
Apr 16 • 61 min
We can’t flirt and seduce like we use to. The landscape is changing and what we used to get away with no longer works. It’s time to step up our seduction game, but how are we supposed to know what works when different people react to different approaches.…
Intuitive Eating and Magical Diets with Jenna Hollenstein
Apr 9 • 64 min
What would it look like if we approached food, eating, and how we view our bodies not with restriction, fear, and shame, but rather with love and compassion? Lucky for us, someone can show us how. Jenna Hollenstein, MS, RDN, CDN is a non-diet dietitian,…
Connecting to Female Pleasure with Emilie Guimond Bélanger
Apr 2 • 58 min
Emilie Guimond Bélanger is a sex coach, founder of the Institute of Desire in Montreal, and a teacher of Orgasmic Meditation. She grew up having painful intercourse and got fed up with the lack of pleasurable sensation. At one point, decided to do…
Healing from Sexual Assault with Coco McKenzi
Mar 26 • 58 min
Coco McKenzi is an inspirational speaker, sexual assault survivor, and transformational coach who has helped hundreds of women over the last 3 years live their most radiant lives after sexual abuse. When Coco was assaulted, she desperately tried to find…
Free Love Advice: Communicating Needs in Bed
Mar 19 • 27 min
The woman I’m speaking to today doesn’t like the way her partner touches her, nor does she like to give the kind of touch that he wants. Are they doomed to have a mismatch in what they want, or is there a way to invite curiosity into the bedroom?…
Setting Healthy Boundaries with Silvy Khoucasian
Mar 12 • 70 min
Silvy Khoucasian is a relationship coach with a passion for helping individuals and couples have healthier relationships with themselves and others. She also creates a ton of beautiful content on Instagram, a lot of it centering on boundaries and…
The Dichotomy of Traditional Masculinity with Galen Erickson
Mar 5 • 52 min
Galen Erickson is a men’s relationship coach and facilitates workshops and men’s circles in Seattle, WA. We discuss what it means to be a man in today’s world, how traditional toxic masculinity and a more sensitive, heart-centric version of masculinity…
How to Love Bravely with Dr. Alexandra Solomon
Feb 26 • 54 min
Dr. Alexandra Solomon is a love nerd, there’s no denying it. She’s dedicated her life to the pursuit of learning about love and teaching those around her how to love. She’s a clinical psychologist, a professor who teaches the Marriage 101 class at…
Free Love Advice: Ending a Toxic Relationship
Feb 19 • 33 min
Is the juice worth the squeeze? Are you putting work into a relationship that is no longer serving you? Are you trying to find a way to make something work that perhaps will never work? This episode might be for you. If you’d like some Free Love Advice of…
Love Letters, Read Aloud
Feb 12 • 36 min
This episode is for all the lovebirds who rebel against Valentine’s Day. The single ones, the ones in relationships, the ones coming off massive heartbreaks, and every little love bird in between. We don’t need a day to declare our love for each other, we…
Overcoming Limiting Beliefs and Behaviors with Elise Carr, MA
Feb 5 • 49 min
Elise Carr, MA is the host of the Sacred Guidance with Stella Muse podcast and a mentor and guide who helps people find their true purpose in life. If this sounds too esoteric for you, don’t let this stop you from listening to this episode. If you’re…
Resolving Relationship Conflict with Ashley Miller, MFT
Jan 29 • 46 min
Ashley Miller, MFT is a psychotherapist and addiction specialist practicing in San Francisco, CA. She shares with us client stories, and some of her personal stories when it comes to dealing with conflict in her relationships. When you’re angry at your…
Recovering From Codependency with Ivy Kwong, LMFT
Jan 23 • 46 min
Ivy Kwong is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, and Relationship Coach specializing in self-love and recovering from codependency. Ivy shares with us how growing up in a family with unhealthy boundaries and a limited ability to express emotions led…
The Joy of Giving Massage with Shai Plonski
Jan 15 • 54 min
We often give massage to receive, but Shai is a firm believer that you can get as much joy from giving a massage as you can from receiving one. His new best-selling book, The Joy of Giving Massage, is all about maximizing the pleasure you get from giving…
The Best of 2018: Platonic touch, self-love, and calling in ‘The One’
Jan 8 • 34 min
Are you touched starved? Do you wish you could change something about your body? Are you looking for ‘The One’ at the expense of building intimacy with others, and yourself? Then you’ll want to tune in. Today, I bring you my favorite snippets of…
Free Love Advice: Dating Unavailable People
Dec 4, 2018 • 11 min
Are you dating someone who’s not quite right for you? Do they satisfy your needs in one way but not in the way that’s important to you? Well, I would say, “join the club”. This episode is for everyone who’s dating someone that can’t really give them what…
The Power of Platonic Touch with Solomon Krueger
Nov 6, 2018 • 64 min
Spooning, cuddling, massage, body-stacking, playing like a bunch of kittens, stroking in a non-sexual way, dancing with or without contact, extended eye-gazing. These are just a few of the types of platonic touch that you can experience at Cozy, a…
Free Love Advice: Should I Leave My Husband?
Oct 30, 2018 • 40 min
A woman wants to know if she should leave her husband of 10 years. She also gets painfully vulnerable about hating her body. We talk about knowing when it’s time to leave your partner, why we fall into negative self-talk, how we can best accept the body…
Love and Death (Awareness) with Dr. Jordana Jacobs
Oct 16, 2018 • 78 min
Public speaking may be our number one conscious fear but Dr. Jordana Jacobs, a clinical psychologist in NYC, believes that the fear of dying, or death anxiety, is indeed what we’re most afraid of. What does death awareness mean exactly? Simply put, the…
Loving Your Body with Meghan Tonjes
Oct 9, 2018 • 66 min
Meghan Tonjes is (self-proclaimed)Fat, Blessed, and Thriving. She’s a musician, podcaster, and YouTuber, but she’s also a hilarious, witty, badass, charming, and hard-working woman that has a lot of wisdom to share when it comes to loving one’s own body.…
Free Love Advice: Should I Stop Cheating?
Oct 2, 2018 • 49 min
I spoke with a woman that has been seeing both men for over a year without either of them knowing anything about the other. She wanted help figuring out who she should choose. No pressure. Then I spoke with a man trying to forgive his ex for cheating on…
Living in a sex-positive community with Lila Donnolo
Sep 25, 2018 • 51 min
It can be hard to find out about play parties (sex parties) if you’re not ‘in the know’. Good thing for you, Lila Donnolo is very much ‘in the know’. She lives in a sex-positive intentional community in Brooklyn called Hacienda House. We discuss the ins…
Finding Your Life Partner with Sarrah Rose
Sep 18, 2018 • 41 min
Sarrah Rose is a sexual empowerment coach living in Austin, Texas. We discuss what it means to be sexually empowered, how we can best go about finding our ideal partner, and what it means to communicate honestly. Show notes: Find out more about The Love…
Lovingly Hooking Up with Yana Tallon-Hicks
Sep 11, 2018 • 56 min
Yana Tallon-Hicks is a therapist, consent educator, and columnist living in Western Massachusets. She hosts regular consent workshop and shares with us her recent findings of what it takes to be a more ethical hookup. You’ll learn how to share your STI…
Free Love Advice: Single for 15 Years
Sep 4, 2018 • 44 min
Four stories of people needing free love advice in Washington Square Park. One, a 67-year-old man has been celibate for 15 years and would like some companionship. Two, a pair of high school sweethearts get ready to go off to different universities and…
Make Love Not Porn With NMLP curator Sarah Beall
Aug 28, 2018 • 56 min
Sarah Beall is one of the curators at Makelovenotporn.tv, a user-generated collection of videos of real people having real sex. This is not pornography and the videos are not performances. Make Love Not Porn believes that the sex we have in our everyday…
Asking People Out Safely with Charlie Glickman
Jul 31, 2018 • 77 min
Charlie Glickman, Ph.D. is a sex educator, relationship coach, and co-author of The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure. He shares with us his invitation template for creating a situation for people to say yes rather than cases where they have to say no.…
Free Love Advice: Getting Over Your Ex
Jul 10, 2018 • 20 min
On this episode of Free Love Advice, two shorts conversations with men about how to get over your ex when you’re still in love and how to tell your parents that you love them. Show Notes: To find out more about The Love Drive, find me at…
The Heartbreak Survival Guide with Sam Lamott
Jun 12, 2018 • 40 min
Sam Lamott is an artist, writer, and the founder of Hello Humans, a platform for storytellers who capture the truth of what it means to be human. Sam also happens to be heartbroken and shares with us exactly what he did to get out of the hole and start…
Free Love Advice: Believe Actions, Not Words
Jun 4, 2018 • 32 min
Welcome to Free Love Advice. Today on our show, conversations with women wanting more. More out of their partners, more out of their sex life, and more out of the men they’d like to get to know better. A conversation with a woman about a phone,…
Sex Addiction with Ashley Miller, MFT
May 28, 2018 • 69 min
Ashley Miller is a psychotherapist In San Francisco, California who specializes in treating folks with addiction issues. Together we talk about the many different ways in which sex addiction can show up in your life, how it can negatively affect you and…
Gender and Technology with Julia Dyck
May 21, 2018 • 60 min
How does the gender of the people developing technology affect how we use those technologies? What role does sexuality play in the modern workplace? How can we solve for the gender gap in specific industries? Julia Dyck is an interdisciplinary artist,…
Sexual Dysfunction in Men with Dr. Scott Jacobson
Apr 30, 2018 • 64 min
Dr. Scott Jacobson is board certified Family Medicine doctor. He provides traditional medical care as well as functional medicine, a holistic approach using diet, stress reduction and herbs, including cannabis to manage chronic disease. We apply the…
Women’s Pelvic Health with Laura Schaefer
Apr 23, 2018 • 77 min
Laura Schaefer is a certified pelvic floor physical therapist in Montreal and has been helping women treat pelvic pain and regain their ability to enjoy sex again. We talk about what a pelvic floor therapist does and why you should probably see one at…
Desires, Fears, and Boundaries with Frank Mondeose
Apr 16, 2018 • 77 min
Frank Mondeose is a sacred sexuality coach. Together, we explore the practice of sharing our desires, fears, and boundaries with our partner. It’s an incredibly beautiful practice and promotes sharing, understanding, and loving connection. We also touch…